Reprogram Your Mind with Alix Hembery Break Subconscious Chains and Take Back Control Now

From Trauma to Transformation Alix Hembery on Reprogramming Your Mind and Breaking Subconscious Patterns

Welcome back to W.A.R. We’re All Recovering. In this powerful conversation, we sit down with Alix Hembery, Certified Hypnotherapist trained in Rapid Transformational Therapy, to break down the truth about subconscious programming, limiting beliefs, trauma, and why so many people stay stuck despite trying to change.

If you’ve ever felt like you know what to do but still repeat the same patterns, this episode is for you. We go deep into how the subconscious mind controls behavior, how trauma can exist without being obvious, and why willpower alone is not enough to create real change.

Alix shares how early life experiences shape identity, how emotional wounds live beyond logic, and how true healing happens when you address the root cause instead of just the surface. This is not motivation. This is real transformation work.

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Topics covered include subconscious reprogramming, trauma healing, limiting beliefs, hypnotherapy, rapid transformational therapy, self sabotage, emotional healing, mindset transformation, nervous system patterns, and breaking cycles that hold you back.

This conversation will challenge the way you think about healing and give you a new perspective on what it actually takes to change your life.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Welcome home. Welcome to war. We're all recovering. This is where we talk about the wars people don't see, the battles inside the mind, the things that look like discipline problems, but are really wounds. I hope y'all feel that. And today we're going deeper than surface level healing. We're talking about the subconscious people. We're talking about trauma that doesn't look like trauma. And we're talking about why so many people are trying to change, but nothing in their life is actually changing. Today we're sitting down with Alex Hember Hembury. Did I say that right?

SPEAKER_01 0:35

You did, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 0:36

Okay, thank you. Thank you. Certified hypnotherapist. I love that. Trained directly under Marissa Pearr, specializing in rapid transformational therapy. Yes. She's helped hundreds of people identify the root cause of their limiting beliefs, remove them, and replace them with something stronger. Alex, it's a pleasure. Welcome to war.

SPEAKER_01 0:59

Thank you so much. The pleasure is all mine. Thank you for having me.

SPEAKER_00 1:02

Yes, ma'am. It's been a long time coming. It's been a long time. How many times did uh we reschedule?

SPEAKER_01 1:09

Life. Life.

SPEAKER_00 1:11

Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's been since last year or sometime, or I think. But I'm glad you're you could make it. I'm glad you're here.

SPEAKER_01 1:18

Me too. Me too. Even the eye surgery couldn't hold me back. I had to do this.

SPEAKER_00 1:22

Yes, ma'am. I love it. I love it. So let's start here, Alex. You said something powerful that stuck out to me. A lot of people think they lack willpower, but the real issue is deeper than that. Break that down for us. Why are so, you know, why are people trying so hard but still stuck in the same cycle?

SPEAKER_01 1:42

Absolutely. Absolutely. And this is really and truly, when we think about it, we all know this, right? We all have the New Year's Eve resolutions, or we're all gonna start our diet on Monday. And these never stick. And unfortunately, never, and unfortunately, in today's society, it's made to feel like there's something wrong with you, that you just weren't strong enough. But the fact of the matter is, scientists have looked at it. 95% of our day is run by our subconscious mind. And what do I mean by that? So when you talk, walk, when you're making active decisions, that's your conscious mind. Like right now that I'm speaking to you, we plan to do this, we're executing this, we're here for it. But almost everything in our world is run by a part of our brain that we're not even conscious of. And it's down to even little things like buttoning your shirt. That's run by the subconscious. So when we have things that trigger us, when we reach out for that food that we said we weren't gonna eat, that all comes from a place that is so deep and far down that it's not willpower. And so that's why when I work with people, there's so much change that people want, but it's not gonna happen until you try to understand where those triggers are coming from, where are those underlying kind of actions rooting from, and then we change it from there.

SPEAKER_00 3:03

And Alex, most of it could be like habits too, though, right? It's hard to get rid of habits, like Yeah. I mean, I tried New Year's resolutions uh a few times in my life, and I'm just you know, it'll stick for like two days. And then old habits would just come back. It's just easier to just, you know, it's like you gotta train your body to to get into these new habits if you're gonna do New Year's resolutions.

SPEAKER_01 3:30

I mean, definitely, but ultimately every single day we are living a pattern, right? So the point of growth and healing is to, if you're able, to recognize the pattern that you are living and understand the pattern has to serve you. That's why you're doing it. Somewhere deep down, it's working for you, even though on the surface you might say the anxiety doesn't work for me, the eating disorder doesn't work for me. And obviously that's true, but there's something happening deep down where your mind is sticking to it. So recognize the pattern, understand the pattern, which when I work with clients, we dive deep to understand where it's come from, and then from there you change the pattern.

SPEAKER_00 4:13

That's real, that's real. I like that. I like that. It's like, you know, I know better, but I still do it. For sure. Yeah. Yeah, for sure. For sure. Like self-sabotage.

SPEAKER_01 4:26

You hit the nail on the head. The number of people I talk to that come to me with, you know, I have these life dreams, but I procrastinate. Well, procrastination is just in if you flip it over, it's just a fear of success. Because if I just keep putting it off, I'll never put myself out there. And so even though when you talk to someone, they say, Oh, I hate the fact that I'm procrastinating or that I'm lazy, you're not lazy at all. It's about understanding why are you doing what you're doing. There's something outside of the scope of maybe conscious understanding. It's not laziness, it's not any of that. So yeah, no, I'm I am totally with you. I I feel like my mission is to change and better people's lives just one person at a time, because these are things that are not in the realm of what we talk about. And hypnosis, most certainly, there's so much stereotype and misunderstanding around hypnosis. So that's my biggest kind of um, my biggest reason for coming onto these podcasts is to dispel those myths and let people know that it's a it's outlet for healing and change and it's a really effective one.

SPEAKER_00 5:32

Oh my gosh. Alex, I've been watching this show, I don't remember what show it was. Have you ever seen Billions?

SPEAKER_01 5:40

Well, yeah, a long time ago. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 5:43

With the they they deal with like uh insider trade in and stuff like that. This rich dude, Bobby Axelrod, and all that. Yes, yeah, yeah. Uh-huh. But I'm watching all these shows and they have these therapists, but with him, he had this therapist that actually worked in the office. She was really good. But they had this one episode where they did hypnotherapy, and I was like, man, I gotta get into that. I mean, that seems like it really works. It does. Like I've done everything. Like I've done PTSD treatment for like an inpatient for six months. Done, you know, Alex, I was in treatment for PTSD for like over a year. Like I went from program to program. So I've done everything but the hypnotherapy, and it just seems like it's something there, like it's something in my mind that needs to be tapped.

SPEAKER_01 6:39

Yeah, yeah. Out of curiosity, what was in the programs that you did? Do you feel like there was momentum forward that it helped you?

SPEAKER_00 6:48

I I believe it helped me a lot, but then you know, like they had things like um in vivo's where in vivo's are basically when you know they put you in uncomfortable situations, situations that that you know hit like triggers your PTSD. Like one for me is is sitting in traffic because in Iraq and traffic, that's where things go bang, that's where things blow up. Yeah, trucks and everything like that. So they will put you in, they will want you to go in on these in vivo missions and put yourself in these positions to kind of like get your levels, your they call them to get them high and see if they could come down over time. You did I did prolong exposure therapy, I did um moral injury, I did, you know, written exposure therapy. Yeah, I did all these things and they worked for a while, but while I was in the program they was working, you know, I try to incorporate everything that they taught me, but it's like all of that stuff comes back. You know, I can't see traffic still, you know. I can't, you know, I can't um, you know, the communication skills that they taught me is better. I'm more open. Like before, Alex, I didn't like to speak. I didn't like people. Now, now I'm on a podcast, you know. Wow so that worked, but you know, there's still things that I don't, you know, that I haven't that they taught me that I don't, you know, incorporate in everyday life. But I think it's like a I need something that taps me. Yes, you know, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 8:28

And you bring up a really good point in that I think healing is a journey. You know, can anyone ever say I'm a hundred percent healed? I don't know. I don't know that I have that answer. Do I think that you take massive strides forward and these healing modalities help? A thousand percent. But I can tell you that I mean, so I experienced rapid transformational therapy back in 2018. At that time, what I used it for was I felt a disconnect between my self-confidence and my self-worth. And kind of similar to your situation, if you had said to me back then that I would be on podcasts or I would be speaking in public or that I would be on panels, never in a million years. I used to get so nervous that it's not that I would stutter, but I I just wanted to get through it faster so my words would slur. And so when I had that hypnotherapy session and I was able to understand this is why I don't feel self-confident. These are the things that have happened in my life, and I've really taken those as being part of who I am. You know, if I were to say that I was a thousand percent healed the next day, that's a lie. I've obviously had wobbles, but in RTT, you get you get a recording at the end of the session, and the recording is meant to be listened to at minimum for 21 days. And I actually asked my clients to do it 21 days consecutively. So if you don't listen for a day, kind of start all the way back at square one. But this is how the mind learns. It's through repetition. Yeah, I'm with you as well. I feel like I've made massive strides forwards. Have there been wobbles? Sure, but it's really lovely because I go back to that recording, I go back to that self-hypnosis and I remind myself of who I am, the power I have, the power you have. You know, we both know that horrific things have happened to you, but that you actually, your mind is more than capable and powerful enough of sitting through that traffic. And I'd be incredibly honored to work with you on this. It is truly amazing.

SPEAKER_00 10:32

I would love that. I would love that. You know, give me some recommendations. I don't know if you know anybody out here in San Diego or you know.

SPEAKER_01 10:42

Well, I do at Striker, I do everything on Zoom. So I have clients all over the world. So it's yeah, we're gonna do it.

SPEAKER_00 10:50

We're gonna do it. Thank you, thank you. So you said something that hit, you know, everything you know that I've read about you was hitting, you know, from way back when I wanted you on. Trying to change behavior without removing the belief is healing from a superficial space. That's deep, Alex. That's really deep. So walk us through that. What is a limiting belief? Where does it come from, and how early does this program start?

SPEAKER_01 11:22

I will tell you as early as birth, though I have clients that have memories from when they're in the womb. So you take from that what you will. Is it true that they had these limiting beliefs starting from the womb? I don't think that matters. I think what matters is how the person perceives it. But essentially a limiting belief is exactly what it sounds like. It's any idea that you have about yourself or the world or how you fit into the world that keeps you from living your best and truest potential. So when we talk about, you know, your higher self, well, what is that higher self? The higher self is the version of you that is whole. So the limiting belief happens mostly throughout childhood, up until about the age of eight. And these are obviously big things, make a massive impact. So if you have trauma, if you have parents that are abusive or um, you know, they themselves are substance abusers, all of that brings obvious limiting beliefs. But in addition, it could be something very little. It could be little T trauma. So something that I have witnessed that every single parent says, and this is not something that I'm putting on parents, it's more that I'm trying to say something as small as when a parent gets frustrated and they turn around to their child and they go, What's wrong with you? That ingrained perception from the child is there's something wrong with me that mom got mad. And so we're listening I'm a parent to two littles, I lose it, but you know, no one is perfect. But um, but those limiting beliefs, they are just basically what happen in and around you, because really children are like sponges. When you look at their brain waves, they're actually in a hypnotic state all the way through the age of eight. Um and hypnosis, yeah. Hypnosis essentially, by true definition, is just a heightened state of focus. So when I work with clients, able to, when we say tap into the subconscious, you're able to take everything in and around you and put it outside of conscious awareness so that you can really dive deep into whatever intention you have. Children are in that state constantly. It's why when you call your kid to dinner and you have to say it 17 times, their work and play is no different for them. They're just in something. So that's where the limiting beliefs come from. It's things that you absorb and you believe to be a part of you. And some of the things you absorb are wonderful, you know. Parents, especially, I hear it now more than ever, parents are really good about telling kids like how strong they are, how smart they are, how you know, those are fantastic. And so a lot of your beliefs are great, and it's about as you grow up, going, well, what beliefs do I have that aren't serving me? And if I want to get from here to there, and the obstacle that I'm trying to face is this. Well, how how do I get rid of this limiting belief so that I can get there?

SPEAKER_00 14:20

Have you ever uh worked with autistic uh patients?

SPEAKER_01 14:24

You know what? I have not, but I do know that there are hypno uh hypnotherapists who specialize in both kind of child treatment and those who are on the spectrum. So I know it's out there.

SPEAKER_00 14:36

My son is autistic, and you uh were saying some when you said you know they're in that hypnotic state, it just reminds, you know, I'm wondering what kind of state he he's in because you know, we're we're trying everything. Yeah. And and it just seems like, you know, he's just in this one area.

SPEAKER_01 14:57

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:59

That's where he's he's a beautiful, beautiful soul, beautiful heart, not a mean, you know, bone in him. Yeah. And I'm just trying to, you know, understand more. You know, I understand what he wants, his needs, and everything, but I'm just trying to understand like where he's at. Yeah. Is he verbal? He's verbal when he wants to be. Okay. When he he doesn't like speaking, he probably got that from me. Um, because I told you before I didn't like speaking. So he probably probably got that from me. Um when he really wants something, like his iPad, for instance. He knew he knew how to use an iPad since he was the age of one. Wow. Knows how to navigate it perfectly and everything. Yeah. Um, if we take it from him, he'll say, I want my iPad, please. And then stop. He's 13. Yeah. And and then stop. He won't speak at all unless he really wants something.

SPEAKER_01 15:57

Want something, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 15:58

Right.

SPEAKER_01 15:58

I will, you know what? I will reach out to the network that I have. Like I said, I know that there are specialists who deal hypnotherapists who deal with just children, and I'm sure there must be those that do children on the spectrum. So I'll definitely reach out to the network that I have and see and send you some names.

SPEAKER_00 16:16

Okay, excellent. Thank you for that. Of course. So I want to go here because your story matters. You know, so I wanted to ask you this about what you call little T trauma. Growing up, single mom, immigrating, being alone at a young age, and then something serious happening with your stepbrother, you know, from the outside. Yeah. Yeah, from the outside, someone might say, You're fine, you know, but internally something else was happening. Talk to us about that disconnect.

SPEAKER_01 16:48

Yeah, of course. So, what I mean by little T trauma is that most of us associate trauma to very big things: sexual abuse, physical abuse, drug abuse. But the fact of the matter is that one can experience trauma even in very small stages. It's more about the perception than it is the actual physical activity. So, my own background, for example, we immigrated to the US when I was five. My mom was a single mom. And there's two parts to the story that I really realized made me who I am.

SPEAKER_00 17:21

I'm sorry, Alex. Where did you immigrate from?

SPEAKER_01 17:24

Iran.

SPEAKER_00 17:25

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 17:25

Yeah. So, you know, we we came here when I was five, and my mom was learning, she was going to school to learn to speak English. She was working, as I said, she was a single parent. And I was, what are they called? The latch key kids. Like you had a key around your neck and you knew to come home after school and you knew to let yourself in, and she'd left me, you know, a sandwich on the counter, and I was to behave until she got back, which was very normal back in the 80s. So, you know, at the time, like the the conscious part of me, the adult part of me, there's I understand that with logic. She was doing the best she could. What I realized in hypnotherapy is that the subconscious, the thing that became a part of who I am, understood that I wasn't safe and that I wasn't loved enough to be protected and to be cared for. Because at five, you don't understand logic, you just know this is the way life is. So that was one of the blueprints that made me who I am. The second, in reference to my stepbrother, is that unfortunately, as we were growing up and we were teenagers, he started having really, really odd behavior of trying to watch me undress and putting like mirrors under the door. And my family didn't know how to deal with this. You know, there were dynamics. My mom was married to my stepdad, and how does this all fit together? You know, was she going to put her entire marriage on, you know, was she going to, what am I trying to say, risk divorce? And so, and everybody, and I think that's another thing as well, is to understand that what you make to be a part of your story is actually not your story. There's so many people's stories in that. And so at the time, what we thought was best was that I just move and live with my grandmother, and who I loved my grandma so much. She was my my first, if not my second mom. And so at that time, that put out the fire, and you know, they dealt with my stepbrother. I now had distance. I was never physically touched by him. When you talk about it, you kind of think like, well, nothing went wrong. But again, in hypnotherapy, when I really dived in, and actually I didn't even know that it was something that bothered me. I really didn't. It was only in hypnotherapy when I went back to a memory that would create feelings of insecurity, feelings of low self-worth. That's when it rose to the surface. And again, it was like, why was I not protected? Why was I not placed at a primary stage to say this is unacceptable by my mother, for example, to say this is unacceptable, and actually it's not my daughter that needs to move out. You got to figure out what to do with your son because this is, you know, these are big, big issues, and this is the tip of the mountain type of thing.

unknown 20:15

Right.

SPEAKER_01 20:15

And so this is what I mean is like on paper, I didn't really have any trauma. But when you dove deep and you realized that I had these massive holes of self-worth and you kind of understood where they came from, then I was able to work on them because another wonderful thing that is possible in hypnotherapy is called cognitive flexibility. So you're able to take on how it would feel if you saw something differently. And I was able to understand that actually the actions that happened in the house during that time had nothing to do with me. You know, my mom had her own baggage and her own trauma that she was working with. My stepdad was trying to figure out how to, you know, how to acknowledge that there's something wrong with his son and how to move forward. It actually had nothing to do with my self-worth. And I only saw that in hypnosis. It's almost like it goes onto a screen and you're able to see it as a movie and understand it.

SPEAKER_00 21:12

So how old were you when you first um did the whole encounter hypnosis?

SPEAKER_01 21:18

So I was, I must have been 37. I must have been 37. And um, yeah, and it was again, like I said, it's it seems like something so small, right? Like I wanted my self-confidence, I wanted the woman that comes into the room to match what I felt on the inside. And um, it has been a journey. I started with that as my first hypnotherapy session, and once I realized the power of hypnotherapy, how much your mind is able not only to control your mental state, but also the physical. My second round of hypnotherapy had to do with um with birth. You know, I was having women have something called secondary. Oh my goodness, the word is escaping me now. But when you're not able to get pregnant, you have the first time, but the second time, I think six out of ten women struggle with getting pregnant the second time. And I used, I mean, I know this sounds crazy, but I used hypnotherapy in order to understand why my body was fighting getting pregnant. Again, from the conscious mind, all I wanted to do was get pregnant. It sounded crazy to me that my body would be fighting it. But once you got into the subconscious, once I allowed my brain to really tap in, and I started realizing, oh, actually, I'm fighting getting pregnant because this, this, and this, it totally changed everything. And I think I got pregnant within two months.

SPEAKER_00 22:43

I'm hypnotized right now. Like for real, like you're pulling me into like I had to just snap out of it. Like I I visioned everything that just is it's crazy right now. You're powerful, you're powerful, you're powerful.

SPEAKER_01 22:59

Thank you, thank you.

SPEAKER_00 23:00

Good stuff. So explain this. Why doesn't logic fix emotional wounds? And why can't someone know something logically but still feel broke?

SPEAKER_01 23:11

I know, I know. Listen, if I had the key to that, as a collective, as a whole, we would be in such a better place. Because all of us logically understand things, but we just can't seem to get our heart and our brain to be one. But these are Marissa Pierre, who I studied under. She has something called rules of the mind. And this is one of the rules of the mind. The mind does not work in logic, it just doesn't. And our job is to try in this lifetime to bridge that gap. You know, those of us who are into self-awareness that are into our healing, and I think most of the world is waking up to that. I think we are very lucky in that the more kind of generations that I'm seeing now, there is like a collective awareness of coming out of survival mode and being a part of humanity. And so, in being a part of humanity, that that self-awareness says, okay, wait, I want this, but my brain isn't following, or my heart isn't following. And so whether it's, I mean, I believe in hypnotherapy, but that isn't the answer for everybody. I think the lovely thing is that people are going, what modality works for me to get my heart, my brain, and my purpose all on the same line.

SPEAKER_00 24:25

So is it? I'm just so like interested in this. So is it like what you see on the movies and the TV shows where you go under some kind of trance and then just start spilling everything? And is it like that? Yes and no.

SPEAKER_01 24:41

Okay, so let's go backwards here. Hypnotherapy has been highly, highly studied. It's actually about 250 years ago, hypnotherapy is the first recorded psychotherapy that existed in the West, right? So for two people to talk and for there to be a growth in a psychoanalytical form, hypnotherapy was the way, right? Now, the stereotypes out in the world are that you're in some type of trance and that you are controlled. It's not true. You are actually more in control of your body than ever before or of your mind. What is happening in hypnosis is it's threefold. One of the things that happens is that when they look at like MRI scans, there's a part of your brain in the back called the anterior cingulate cortex. Basically, this part of the brain has your alarm system. So it's pattern recognition, it's what helps you, like if you hear like a loud sound, you kind of look that way. So this part of the brain gets turned down in hypnosis. You're able to just fall into yourself. That's why they say you're falling deeper, you're going deeper. Every breath. Yeah. You're not in a trance, you're just understanding that you're somewhere safe and you're able to fall into yourself. So that's one of the things that happens. The second thing that happens is that there's an increase in connectivity between two parts of the brain that has to do with how the brain and the body connect. So actually, you're like hyper connected to your body in hypnosis. And this is one of the reasons why hypnosis is so wonderful, not only as an analgesic, but also for pain perception. So, yes, it's used in surgery, but it's also just used every day for people who want to feel less pain without taking an opioid, for example. And oh yeah, it's huge. It's so wonderful for pain perception. One of the things that I heard that really stuck with me is that it helps you filter the hurt out of the pain. So your brain and your body are still understanding that this input is coming in that hurts, but your brain is able to take it from like an eight down to a two where it's not that annoying, where it's not that painful. Because the mind is truly powerful.

SPEAKER_00 26:54

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 26:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:55

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 26:55

And then the third thing that happens in hypnosis is that there is kind of an inverse connectivity between, again, the conscious brain, and then another part of your brain called the default mode network. And basically, this is the part of your brain that's on when you've got nothing else happening, and it's just you going, Who am I? What am I? You know, for example, have I have I done everything that would make my mother proud? It's uh it's the part that runs through what did someone call it the other day that I thought was very funny, the my fault mode network. So when this gets turned down, you're able to really think in terms of who do I want to be? Not who am I expected to be, but who do I want to be? And interestingly, it's the same part of the brain that gets worked on with patients that have psilocybin. So hypnotherapy is a really wonderful way to get healing, to get, you know, if you want to lower your pain, if you want to lower your anxiety, if you want to sleep better, it has fabulous, you know, possible healing effects for you without any of the side effects because psilocybin has side effects. Opioids obviously kill. Like there's so much dangerous ways out there that people are so happy to try and do. And I just wish they would go one step earlier because hypnotherapy has no terrible side effects. You know, it's never killed anybody. Worst case, you try it and go, I it didn't really work for me.

SPEAKER_00 28:18

So many questions. So I would imagine that it's hard for somebody to kind of like tap into themselves if they if if if it's hard for them to like follow instructions, for instance, like listening to you say fall deep, if their mind is just wandering and you know, whatever, you know, can can it still happen? Yeah with individuals like that?

SPEAKER_01 28:42

Yeah. So okay, a little bit of background. Hypnotizability is a trait similar to IQ. We either kind of have it or we don't have it. And it actually is not related to IQ at all. Some people think, you know, I'm highly intelligent, I could never be hypnotized. Those two traits are not one and the same. So 60% of the population is about moderately hypnotizable. 20% are not at all, 20% are deeply hypnotizable. Those are the people that you see kind of um, I hate the hypnotist kind of entertainment shows, but those are the people they prey on, right?

SPEAKER_00 29:19

Right.

SPEAKER_01 29:20

So you have a huge portion of the population who's only moderately hypnotizable, but that's okay. I think the wonderful thing when I work with someone is before the hypnotherapy session, I really get to know them. I really try to understand what it is it that they're trying to gain from the session, where they want to see themselves. And there's a level of trust that we build together so that when we do get to the session, and I'm telling them that, you know, you're falling deeper, you're going deeper into an awareness of yourself, they're okay with it. They trust me. They're in a situation or a circumstance where they trust their environment, which is a really actually lovely thing about doing it on Zoom. You're at home, you know, you know you're safe there.

SPEAKER_00 30:04

Right.

SPEAKER_01 30:04

And as I said, when I first experienced this back in 2018, my baby was less than a year old. She was actually in her crib sleeping while I had the session, just to say and prove how much if she had woken up and cried, I would have absolutely been able to say, Hey, I have to open my eyes and go tend to my baby. So it's not like you're in a trance, it's not, you know, no one's dangling a watch.

SPEAKER_00 30:28

Right, right, right. That's how they make it seem like you have to follow these instructions. I'm like, okay, so they just focusing on the therapist's voice right now, and that's the only way they could come out of this state, is when the therapists say, No, you know, okay, no, no, wake up.

SPEAKER_01 30:48

I think that what happens is people that come to me want to see change. That's why they're there. And so when we're doing the session, they're allowing for this to happen. And sometimes I do have to say, patients with PTSD are harder to get into that zone just because they're so aware. You know, that alarm system that I was talking about is hyperactive.

SPEAKER_00 31:09

Hyper focused too late. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 31:12

Yeah. So again, it really is dependent on every single client. That's why I I really love the fact that I've worked with so many people all this time, is that you know, and I am able to recognize patterns when I work with people. But we work towards the best outcome for you. But I promise you, as we're in the session, one, you want to be there. So you're allowed, you're the one allowing yourself to go deeper. I have no control over it. And then if at any point you're uncomfortable or you don't want to, I've had patients in session where we've been trying to go through different things and they'll say, I don't want to do that. And that's okay. So, so yeah, it is, I guess my biggest thing that I would love for your listeners to understand is that hypnotherapy is not a loss of control. It's actually a uh it's you getting more control of yourself and of your mind. Because what a beautiful thing to be able to come out of the session and know how much power you truly have.

SPEAKER_00 32:09

Sounds wonderful.

SPEAKER_01 32:11

We're gonna do it, Stryker.

SPEAKER_00 32:12

I can't wait to book you. I'm so excited right now. I can't stay. Yeah, let me just so like what's like okay, let me get it together. They are like people understand the story, right? This is this is you know what I'm dealing with, right? You know, where I got lost. You know, I went to talk therapy for years. Yeah, you know, so did a lot of other people. We understand our story, we explain our trauma, you know, but like we still feel stuck. Yeah. You know, what's missing? Like, why isn't awareness enough?

SPEAKER_01 32:51

I really wish it was. I really wish it was. I mean, look, I myself spent years in talk therapy. Years, the amount of money and time that I put into it, and I feel that, and again, I'm not trying to not talk therapy. I think it has its benefits, and I most certainly learned a lot over the course of the years. But the problem was that for me anyway, I was just talking myself in circles. It was like I was coming in, I was releasing my weeks' frustrations, and maybe there was a little bit of change, but I basically was who I was, venting by using hypnotherapy, both in session and then post-session, because all of us have the power to use self-hypnosis. You're able to, as I said, to push away that conscious state of mind, to push away the talk, the chatter, the constant noise, and really go inwards. This is the change that I want to see. And not only do I want to see it, I know I am it. I really believe that when people have you heard that saying before that, like when you look at someone and you admire certain traits about them, it's actually because you have those traits. It's you're it's almost like you're seeing the reflection of it in a mirror, and that's why you admire it so much.

SPEAKER_00 34:03

Right, right, right. I've heard that.

SPEAKER_01 34:05

And I think that it's the same when someone comes to me for a hypnotherapy session and says, I want to have more calm, or I want to have more peace or more confidence or whatever. They already have it. It is inside them. It's just about unlocking it.

SPEAKER_00 34:22

So let's get this, let's make this real for the people. Yeah. Give me some examples. What are some of the most common common limiting beliefs you see in your clients?

SPEAKER_01 34:34

By and large, it is self-confidence. For me, I see it over and over again, but it branches into different things. I want to be able to speak during work meetings and I can't. I want to be able to be a good mother that doesn't has it together and I can't. A lot of the issues that I see people come to me with boil down to a self-confidence kind of base. But it really uh, and I also have to say, I do I work with everyone. I think just because of my background, I call in a lot of mothers. And so that's another thing as well, where it's not so much self-confidence as a mom, but it's more self-identity, life purpose, kind of working with the, I mean, you know, this as having an autistic child or just children anyway, the challenges that all of a sudden come to you and you didn't expect them or see them. And so you're trying to weather the storm, still live within yourself and your purpose, but also be a good parent. These are all things that people come to talk to me about, and kind of to circle back to the beginning of our talk, it's about seeing patterns, recognizing patterns. So you might just come to me and say, I feel burnout, or I wish I was more confident, or I wish I wasn't um I wish I wasn't emotionally eating. And that's okay. You come to me with whatever it is that bothers you, and we'll work together to recognize the pattern.

SPEAKER_00 36:07

And how long does that usually take? Like, is it over a few sessions, or is that all in one session?

SPEAKER_01 36:15

That's such a good question. So everyone is different. It depends on what it is that we're working on. The really wonderful thing about RTT is that it's not something that you would do once a week for an eternity. It's really meant. It's I mean, it's in the name, it's rapid transformational therapy. So most people are able to see the transformation that they want within one session. And a session lasts honestly, and a session lasts between 90 minutes to two hours. And like I said, I do get to know patients, but we have a good hour before that on a different day just to talk, just so I understand from a conscious standpoint what's happening. But the session itself is 90 minutes to two hours. Most people are able to see the transformation they want after. But if we're talking some really big things, you know, like for example, PTSD is a really big thing. Eating disorders, some of those can take up to three sessions to really dive deep and and change those seeds from the inside out.

SPEAKER_00 37:15

All right, all right. I like that. Okay. So you said something else that stood out. Everything you like I said, everything you say stand out, but you know, I tapped into, you know, I pulled certain things that I wanted to that stood out the most for me. That a lot of different, you know, that a lot of different struggles actually come back to a few core beliefs. What are those core beliefs?

SPEAKER_01 37:39

By far and away, I'm not enough. I'm not enough. Another core belief is I'm different, so I can't connect. And we're social beings, we need connection. Another one that I see out in the world is whatever abundance you're wanting, there is a core belief that I can't get it. It's not meant for me. Someone else can have it, and I'm really happy that they have it, but that kind of wonderful things doesn't happen to me. It's true though, right? And listen, this mind that we have is so powerful. And you know this from all the other conversations you've had. If you believe you're not gonna get it, you're not gonna get it. If you believe it's not meant for you, you are going to create that reality to make sure it's not meant for you. So those are the things I work on. Those are really the main platforms. Like, yes, you are absolutely good enough. Two, you really are no different than other people. That I mean, we're all different. That's actually what we have in common. And three, let's figure out like what happened to you that you think it's not meant for you. Why wouldn't it be meant for you?

SPEAKER_00 38:42

Right. That's so sad to hear you say that. You know, people are so broke. It just makes it, you know, what you said just so real for me, you know. I don't know if I ever felt that way at one time. I probably did, you know, because it's hitting me right now what you're saying. But I never actually, you know, probably subconsciously I felt like that. I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 39:04

Yeah. Well, and I really appreciate you for saying that because this life is so fast-paced. I mean, we're just trying, especially as parents, you know, j just one goal after the next. We're on this hamster wheel. Many of us don't have the time to go, okay, if I'm not feeling well, what is it? And how could I do anything differently?

SPEAKER_00 39:26

Exactly, exactly. And you said something else, strong. Yeah. I love it. Yes, yes. This work helps people take their power back. What does that actually mean?

SPEAKER_01 39:39

When I was telling you that the limiting beliefs that we take on most times had nothing to do with us, and that's the really beautiful thing, right? In these hypnotherapy sessions, let's dive in to where you got that belief. What were the circumstances that were happening around you when you were five or six, and someone said something over you, and you took that in to be a part of who you are. The wonderful thing in this process is understanding that actually what was said over you has nothing to do with you. Maybe that person was having a bad day, or maybe they're not a really kind person, or you know, so many things. Kind of the story that I shared with you. What happened actually had nothing to do with me. And trust me, my parents and I went, my mom and I went to therapy for it afterwards. And my mom will say today, I cannot believe I acted how I acted. But that's like that's her story. It actually had nothing to do with me. I was just a minor and kind of going with it.

SPEAKER_00 40:38

Right.

SPEAKER_01 40:39

So that's what I mean by realizing the power that you have because we really all have this power. It's just taking that, like if your life is a canvas, it's just wiping off the mud that other people put on so that you could really live the life that you're here to live, that you could be your authentic self. And that authentic self is that higher self. It's that self that does not think you can't do it. The the self that loves you, like you that love you, and just want to be in this world to shine and do good and be good and feel good.

SPEAKER_00 41:16

I can't wait to put this on YouTube. Yeah, yeah. People need to uh yeah, people's gonna love this.

SPEAKER_01 41:22

Oh good, I'm glad. I'm glad.

SPEAKER_00 41:24

So I want to go ahead too, Alex, you know, because this ties heavy into war. We're all recovering. Heavy. You mentioned using alcohol and drugs as a way to connect. A lot of people listening are still there. Yeah. What's really happening underneath that? Why do people need something external to feel connected?

SPEAKER_01 41:46

I think what's, I mean, there's a lot biochemistry-wise that's happening with the drugs and the alcohol, but what's going on underneath the surface is a belief that I can't cope on my own, right? Some people say I'm social drinkers because I need to have that drink to sit at the table and be, you know, talkative. Not really. It's helping you put your guard down, but you could do that on your own. So I think what happens when we talked about like little T trauma or not knowing our power is when you're not in a state of self-awareness, you're falling deep into those drugs and into the alcohol to help you cope. And I don't think you even realize it. Like I most certainly did not. But as you heal and grow and start to recognize and see patterns, it's like, wait, am I reaching for that bottle because it's the end of the day? And somewhere in my brain, I started creating a belief that I need that glass of wine in order to relax. So this is the beautiful thing about hypnotherapy. It's just all patterns. It's all understanding, you know, what beliefs did you create because you didn't come out of the womb needing a glass of wine. So but you know, when where did these beliefs happen for you? And like I said, some of the beliefs we have are fantastic and some aren't. So let's just figure out what doesn't work and you know, let's tweak it so that we so that we're living to our best self.

SPEAKER_00 43:18

I'm gonna I'm gonna be thinking about that all day. That was a good one, that was a good one. So for the person listening right now who knows they're stuck, you know, what's the first step? Where do they even begin?

SPEAKER_01 43:31

All right. Well, obviously I'm I'm on this podcast or various podcasts because I'm trying to bring awareness about hypnotherapy. You're very welcome to reach out to me. I'd be more than happy. But let's say that it's something that you just want to do on your own and you just want to do baby steps. There's a lot of hypnosis videos free on YouTube. Um, so yes, they're generic, but they're helpful. You you can kind of put Your toe into the water in terms of being able to use self-hypnosis to sleep better or to lower your anxiety. And if you feel like wow, I think that helped me even 10%, then by all means, you know, work towards having a personalized session and a personalized recording. Because I have to tell you, hearing your own name and hearing the words that really resonate with you are on a different level.

SPEAKER_00 44:26

And for someone who's scared, you know, scared to look inward, scared of what they might find, what would you say to them?

SPEAKER_01 44:33

Embrace it. Embrace all of it. You know, everything that's happened to us is a part of who we are. And we have to bring those things that we're scared of out of the shadows. And it's gonna sound corny, but love them because it was part of our journey. And I've had patients, patients, I've had clients that relive really, really traumatic experiences. And the really wonderful thing with hypnotherapy is that yes, you're reliving an awful scene, but you know that you are actually not in that scene, that you're watching it from afar. So you may experience those same emotions. And of course, I think it's very brave for people to put themselves in that position, but there's healing around it once you're able to be on the outside and see it and make it a part of your story where again, like you bring the power to it. It's not something that happened to you.

SPEAKER_00 45:27

And I was thinking, I I mentioned earlier patients. I said patients earlier too.

SPEAKER_01 45:33

They are patients, yeah. I mean, I personally am not a psychotherapist, and so my they're they're my clients, they're not my patients, but yeah, I think that's why it interchanges. And you know, in a different lifetime, I was a dental hygienist, so people were my patients. So, you know, the the words kind of flow, but yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 45:52

Okay, before we close, I want to give you the floor. Ooh, you know, what's one truth about the subconscious that you believe every person needs to understand?

SPEAKER_01 46:03

You know, one of the things that I learned and I go back to day after day after day is we've all heard the saying that like life doesn't happen to you, it happens for you. And we know that, you know, like we're here to to turn these things into lessons. But one of the things, the tweak that I heard on this was it's not just happening for you, that life is happening from you. And this really hit me. Like, what is the state of your nervous system? Are you calm? Are you anxious? Just at any God-given moment of the day, just check in with yourself. What feeling do you have? You know, if it's not joy, if it's not calm, if it's not peace, if it's not excitement, like if it's anything that falls into the negatives, even something as simple as like, I have no emotion, I'm just bumbling along. I think that is, you know, we underestimate how much that creates your life because it's what you feel, it's what you're expecting to see, so you create more of it. So I think that's the biggest thing is like I wish people understood that taking stock of how they feel on the regular is actually really, really important.

SPEAKER_00 47:14

Definitely. I agree with you on that one. Alex, I appreciate you. It was an honor having you on here.

SPEAKER_01 47:21

Likewise, I have loved talking to you.

SPEAKER_00 47:24

Yes, ma'am. And this conversation, this is what war is about. Understanding the war so you can actually win it. Yes. And to everybody watching, if this hits you, if you saw yourself in this, you know, reach out to Alex. Yes. And remember, you're not broken. Your program, and you can rewrite that. A thousand percent. A thousand percent. Yes, ma'am. And don't forget to download the War Network app and the postcards at P-O-S-T-S-C-A-R-S on the War on Apple and Google Play Store. Available now. If you want something different from IG, Instagram, TikTok, and all that, this is for you. Alex, thanks again, ma'am. It was such an honor having you here.

SPEAKER_01 48:12

Likewise, likewise. Thank you, thank you. And yes, to your listeners, if any of this resonated, I think the easiest thing is Instagram. I'm on there as a line with Alex with dots in the middle.

SPEAKER_00 48:24

So please I have that under there in the description.

SPEAKER_01 48:27

Yeah, yeah. Please reach out. I I love I love this work. It's that work that gives you fire.

SPEAKER_00 48:33

So I can't wait to book you. I can't wait. I'm doing this.

SPEAKER_01 48:36

I can't wait either.

SPEAKER_00 48:37

It's war. Each one reach one, we're all recovering. Till next time.