Episode 21: How to Not Give a F*ck (In a Healthy Way)

This week, Amanda and Ashton unpack a Gary Vee graphic that hit them right in the nervous system: “How to Not Give a F*ck.” And honestly? It’s less about being cold or careless—and more about protecting your peace, owning your choices, and refusing to waste your life performing for other people.

They walk through the framework point-by-point and get real about what it actually looks like in everyday life:

• Stop valuing other people’s opinions (especially when they don’t have the life, experience, or integrity you respect)
• Create opportunities instead of chasing the perfect decision (because perfectionism is just fear in a cute outfit)
• Realize nobody gives a f*ck—people are consumed with their own stuff, and you don’t need to rent space in their heads
• Surround yourself with optimistic people who challenge you, steady you, and help you grow (not the gossip-and-doom crowd)
• Be your own biggest fan, not your harshest critic—hold yourself accountable without emotionally body-slamming yourself
• Get quiet in your own head—not by having a magical “nothing box,” but by learning to pause, regulate, drop the ego, and respond with compassion instead of reactivity

Along the way, they get into why criticism is often projection, how confidence is built through self-trust, and why “not giving a f*ck” doesn’t mean you don’t care—it means you care about the right things.

If you’ve been exhausted, overthinking, people-pleasing, or replaying every little thing you said in your head at 2 a.m… this one’s for you.

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