Episode 31: The Audacity to Change Your World

Why do some people stay stuck… while others completely transform their lives?

In this episode, Amanda and Ashton get real about burnout, routines, relationships, mindset shifts, people-pleasing, self-awareness, fitness, emotional growth, and the habits that quietly shape your future. From changing your thoughts to changing your environment, they dive into the small daily decisions that can completely alter your world over time.

They talk about learned helplessness, protecting your energy, building confidence through discipline, healing old patterns, and why your inner world creates your outer world. Plus: puppies, wedding planning, beauty treatments, sciatica, emotional reactions, and the chaos of life in your 30s.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, exhausted, disconnected from yourself, or ready for a reset… this episode is your reminder that you are not trapped. One habit, one thought, one decision at a time can change everything.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:00

This podcast is for the woman who refuses to settle. The one who knows she was made for more. It's for the audacious woman who's ready to burn the chip, own her story, and create a life built on radical self-belief.

SPEAKER_00 0:12

I'm Amanda Galloway. I'm Ashton Greer. We are your podcast hosts. And we welcome you to the Audacity Podcast.

SPEAKER_03 0:21

Hello.

SPEAKER_02 0:22

Hello. The gang is back together. Amanda's back and we are back on our routine. We kinda skipped, we skipped there perimeter.

SPEAKER_00 0:33

Yeah, sorry. We had someone tell us, okay, I looked to see if you had a new episode today, and we did not. So I did upload this was my fault. I was on vacation. Um, I uploaded the most recent episode just like yesterday.

SPEAKER_02 0:49

It's okay. No, it was Monday. Yeah. Anyway. Sometimes the hamster wheel of like doing the things you have to do every week at the certain time you have to do them. Yes. Sometimes you just gotta get off the hamster wheel first.

SPEAKER_00 1:01

Yes, I did. But I love routine. Like I will always try to have this episode out at midnight on Monday.

SPEAKER_02 1:10

I'm so glad it's you and not me. I despise routine. I like it's actually I have like a love-hate relationship with it. Like I'm actually very organized and very like accountable to my responsibilities. But when it gets to be like I feel like my schedule is controlling my life, I start to get resentful of my schedule.

SPEAKER_00 1:29

Oh yeah.

unknown 1:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:31

And like that's fair.

SPEAKER_02 1:32

And I also feel like you want freedom. Well, I also feel like this is like the good and bad thing, but it's like most things that I go to or rooms that I'm in, I'm in a leadership role. And so then that becomes like exhausting too.

SPEAKER_00 1:47

Yeah. You have to put a lot of energy into it.

SPEAKER_02 1:49

Yeah, like I have to, yeah. So sometimes I'm just like, this this hamster wheel is making me resentful of my own life. And then that's not good. That could be a whole nother episode or kind of this one.

SPEAKER_00 2:00

I will say I'm really proud of you because this morning you let someone else take a lead in a meeting.

SPEAKER_02 2:07

Mm-hmm. And it went fine. I'm glad. I'm so glad to hear that. I got a text last night at like 10 30 from my kid's dad, and he was like, I can't take the kids to school this morning. I can't do it. I have I got called into work, whatever. So then I had to rearrange everything and um yeah, I let somebody else take control. Amanda stepped in and Josh and I I didn't really do anything, to be quite honest with you. It was great too for me because I did build in like 45 extra minutes of time for me this morning, so I actually got to exercise, which I haven't done in a long time. And then you hurt yourself. Yeah, I pulled a muscle in my neck.

unknown 2:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 2:40

Getting old. But that wasn't exercising, that was just rolling over in bed the wrong.

SPEAKER_00 2:45

Now that is when you know you're getting old.

SPEAKER_02 2:47

I just like moved my hair out from my my neck because I don't like my hair on my neck when I'm sleeping, so I like flipped it up, and the way I twisted my neck, I pulled this m muscle. It hurts really bad, but it's getting better the more I massage it.

SPEAKER_00 2:59

You know what? In your 30s, things just start happening that you're like, What? I have sciatica. Oh my gosh, no. And my mom, it the thing, it will not go away. It will not go away. And my mom has it too. My mom has it too. Yeah, she has some condition and she was like, you might have da-da-da-da-da. And I'm just like refusing. So I have a a so sciatica is when a nerve is being pressed down on from a muscle, probably in this case. And it is shooting pain from my buttocks to the back of my my knee. Wow. And just like a sharp pain that goes all the way down all the time, or sporadically. It is more sporadic. It happens when I am sitting too much. So I have a treadmill in my office. Like it just it was like a$70 treadmill. So I have been making sure that I'm walking more. But my mom was like giving me all this advice on getting um cushions to sit on.

SPEAKER_02 3:58

It's like an under-desk treadmill. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 4:00

You can like walk and work. Oh gosh, I'm getting old. That's awesome. I'm gonna be 40 in two, almost two years, and it's just crazy to me. Well, you look 20. Thanks.

SPEAKER_02 4:09

You're wearing it well. I the thing that's happened to me in the last year that I can tell my age is my eyes, like I can't wear contacts for more than like 10 hours. They are really dry. They're starting to get really dry as I get older. Bobby has something for that. Bobby has something for everything.

SPEAKER_00 4:29

She really does.

SPEAKER_02 4:32

I have dry eyes, so I gotta figure that one out. Maybe I'll maybe I'll call it a couple of things.

SPEAKER_00 4:36

Yeah, talk to her about it.

SPEAKER_02 4:37

It's been really, really frustrating. Yeah. Like by eight o'clock, my eyes are like hurt. It feels like something's in them and they hurt. And I'm like wearing these giant dorky glasses all the time.

SPEAKER_00 4:46

Have you considered LASIK?

SPEAKER_02 4:48

Yes. But yes. But my dad got LASIK and then like a year later his retinas. His retinas attached. Maybe. I'm sorry. And I don't think the LASIK caused his retinas to detach. But it was like the timing of it. Did his eyes go like different directions? Uh, I don't know, but he went blind. Both retinas attached. So then he got he got LASIK and then like a year or two later, his retinas attached. And so like to me the two are correlated in my brain, and I just don't want my retinas to ta detached.

SPEAKER_00 5:16

I don't know anyone who's had issues.

SPEAKER_02 5:18

Scientifically, that's not a thing. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:20

But in my brain, it's I'm sure there is people that yeah, there are people who have.

SPEAKER_02 5:25

Yeah. But LASIK is it definitely is on my list of things I'd really like to do.

SPEAKER_00 5:29

Yeah. Highly recommend it. Although I had it done when I was 20, and now my eyesight is kind of starting to go back just slowly. So again, another fun part of aging.

SPEAKER_02 5:40

Do you have like a a beauty procedure wish wish list? Like LASIK is on mine. I'd like to get um my like skin on my face like kind of like resurface, kind of because I have a lot of um like red spots or age spots coming up.

SPEAKER_00 5:56

I wouldn't yeah, I would love to find a cure to oily skin because mine literally looks like you can fry an egg on it by the end of the day. I always have like those blotting pads. Oh blotted. Oh gosh. I'm really good at keeping it. Umce again, this is a beauty podcast. Oh, but what I'd get done, I'd get BBL.

SPEAKER_02 6:20

Oh, a BBL. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 6:22

Although I hear it hurts, so I'll never get it. I've heard it's really Country Club BBL, not like a Kardashian BBL.

SPEAKER_02 6:29

That Kardashian BBL though.

SPEAKER_00 6:31

Uh no, it's too too much for me. Country club BBL would be just fine.

SPEAKER_02 6:36

Um I have like hooded eyelids, you know? And I've thought about like that eyelid surgery. But honestly, for real though, I'm actually very happy with my appearance. And I don't like I don't like obsess over these things. But like sometimes I'm like, oh, like I'll see like something on Facebook of somebody that did it. And I'm like, oh, that looks really good, you know? Yeah. Or like um, as far as like the um LASIK, obviously, it's just I don't have to buy contacts anymore and I have to buy glasses.

SPEAKER_00 7:01

It's so convenient.

SPEAKER_02 7:02

Um clearly I'm I am somewhat into beauty. I I'm into fitness, I have hair extensions, you know, all the things, but um, I get Botox, you know, uh every now and then. And I love my Botox.

SPEAKER_00 7:12

Yeah, me too. I switched Disport. I switched to Daxify. Or Daxify. Daxify. That's what I got done. And um, I still can't talk properly because I had a lip flip and I was like, this is so intense. I literally should never do that again. Um today is sponsored by Seven Brew.

SPEAKER_02 7:36

My drink went down the wrong pipe. Oh my gosh. I'm drinking this delicious energy drink. Maybe that's why we're so bubbly right now.

SPEAKER_00 7:43

Yeah, I know. They're like, shut up and get to the topic.

SPEAKER_02 7:47

We're drinking extra large energy drinks.

SPEAKER_00 7:50

Yeah, I got extra large. I've not been sleeping well. I've been a walking zombie. And um, the seven brew has brought me back to life. I haven't even eaten anything today. It's probably a terrible thing. Um it's like, I don't know why I'm tired and exhausted all the time.

SPEAKER_02 8:04

Oh, I don't eat. Yeah. I should probably eat. So I want to transition to the fact that I have nine puppies.

SPEAKER_00 8:10

Oh. Yeah, we do need to do a quick little life update because there's a lot going on.

SPEAKER_02 8:15

I took a drink of this and it literally went down the wrong windpipe. It's okay. And it was like burning. Oh my gosh. Okay. So I have a dog named Charlotte. She is so cute. She's only like one year old, and I was gonna get her fixed. I guys, I was going to. But I was waiting until she was a little bit older, and I don't ever like take her anywhere where she could get pregnant. Um, but I let her out in my backyard to s go to the bathroom at night, let her out for a couple hours. And a male dog jumped the fence and impregnated her with my poor baby. Um my kids were like, Do you think that she wanted to do it? And I was like, I don't know, guys. And they were like, Do you think she liked it? I was like, I don't know Oh my gosh. No, I don't know. I was like, Well, she is an animal. I don't, I don't know. Um the things inquiring little boys ask about she got pregnant and I was like, certainly she's young, like it'll be a small litter, like maybe just like a few puppies. Yeah. No, she had nine. I have nine puppies, they're four days old at my house right now. They are so cute. Yeah, and I love having puppies. I'm not upset about it at all. Other than like, I don't I was really nervous, like I didn't know how to take care of puppies, but she's a great mom and she knows exactly what to do. So thank goodness. Sometimes like young first-time puppy moms are like not good. No, she's like a pro. She's made for this. Good. I am so impressed with her. So all nine puppies are thriving. They're so cute. They all have like different coats, and um the only thing I'm really nervous about now, now that I know she's a good mom, well, and the birth process is done. I had to like help with that. It was an all-day thing, guys. All day. It was like 10 a.m. to 8 p.m. She had puppies all day. Uh, and she did amazing. It was so cool to watch. The whole thing was amazing. I like like that stuff though.

unknown 10:10

Ugh.

SPEAKER_02 10:11

My kids were like, what is happening? There's another one coming out of her butt. I was like, okay. Okay, guys. So these puppies, um, the thing I'm nervous about now, two things. One is like once they're bigger and there's just shit everywhere. Like they're not gonna be potty drained. At some point, I'm just gonna put them out in the yard and hope that a hawk does not swoop down and eat them. I don't know. I don't know. With your luck. With my luck, it probably would happen. Um, but also finding homes for them. Yeah. Because I can't. I can't keep nine puppies. We have already found homes for two. Good.

SPEAKER_00 10:49

So if you want a puppy, reach out to Ashton.

SPEAKER_02 10:51

Please. Uh if I know you, they're free. Oh, cool. I'm gonna give them away. But if I don't know you, I'm gonna charge you. Okay. Because I don't want you to.

SPEAKER_00 10:58

But if you listen to the podcast, she'll give them to you for free.

SPEAKER_02 11:01

Yeah, probably. Yeah. But I'm gonna like, you know, background check. Like, do you do you fight dogs? Are you gonna eat my dog? Like, you know, there's things I gotta know. Yeah, like for meat. Or like sometimes people take puppies for bait dogs and they use them for bait and hunting and stuff. What is wrong with people? It's disgusting and sad.

SPEAKER_00 11:20

Well, I my dog is also currently being bred. And intentionally. Intentionally. I she's a golden doodle. I don't know how she's doing. It's been over two weeks at this point. They're probably like, we're never giving her back. She's been there for two weeks? Yeah. They have to wait until her progesterone's a certain level. So we got her from Do they use like a baster or do they actually I literally have no idea. They have not been very community on this whole process. I've been a little disappointed because the the point is we foster her until she's done being bred and then we get to keep her because otherwise she's a$3,000 dog and I'm not paying that much for a dog. Yeah. So anyway, she the the lady who we got her from has been incredibly difficult to work with, very demanding. She'll message me like the day of a doctor coming or a bet coming and be like, and she's an hour and a half away. And she'll be like, Can you bring Lana? So if I was closer, it'd be a different story. But um, long story short, she's she's there, my kids are in Switzerland, my fiance's in Singapore, and I am by myself. I think that's probably why I've been so fatigued, is I'm just so You're catching up. Yeah. On sleep. I guess.

SPEAKER_02 12:40

Or maybe you're understimulated.

SPEAKER_00 12:42

I think that. Yeah. Like I'm very stimulated at work, but at home I get there and I'm just like, ugh, I don't want to do anything. Yeah. So anyway, I've been I've been talking too much. Let should we get to our topic? I don't know. I'm enjoying this. Yeah, me too. Asha and I have not caught up. We haven't hung out in a while, so we aren't friends anymore. Use me. I'll fight for you.

SPEAKER_02 13:04

Yeah, I'm gonna need you to buy me a gift.

SPEAKER_00 13:06

Yeah. Oh, I bought a wedding dress. That's a big deal. That happened.

SPEAKER_02 13:10

We went dress shopping. She got the dress that she didn't think she would get.

SPEAKER_00 13:14

Yeah, I had I did not expect it at all.

SPEAKER_02 13:17

I saw the dress on the mannequin right when I walked in. So pretty. And I was and I was like, I love that dress. I was like, but Amanda won't try it on, it's eight-line. I was just like, she's not gonna want it. I was like, but I I'm obsessed with that dress. Oh, so pretty. And then she did try it on and it was a clear, the clear winner.

SPEAKER_00 13:34

Yeah, it was beautiful.

SPEAKER_02 13:35

But I think I like manifested it.

SPEAKER_00 13:38

Did well thank you. Uh-huh. Yeah. It's beautiful. It's already in, so I have to go get it. I don't even think I need a size. Has Antonio seen it? No, he won't. Okay, good. Uh do not show him the dress. No, he won't. So I got the veil, the whole I did everything I did not think I would do because I'm like, I am too old for a this wedding. You're not too old.

SPEAKER_02 14:01

I love it. She got the veil is no, you're not too old for a wedding. Not at all. Like a I I don't know. I think when you're young and you're getting married, it's like you're very naive about marriage. So like it's very like fairy tale exciting. And then once you've lived a little, had a divorce, been through relationships, you know how challenging it is. It's much more sobering. Yes. Going into a wedding. I think that's it. Because you know like we're gonna face challenges, this is gonna be hard, this is lifelong, like I'm not getting divorced again. And so then you have this like it's not nearly as romantic or fairy tale. It's very, it's much more serious. Right. And I mean, that's a whole episode that we could do. So as soon as she got her dress, I booked her bachelorette party. And it's the most uh middle-aged woman thing that we can possibly do.

SPEAKER_00 14:46

I texted Ashton and and Alex and I said, I don't want anything crazy, no strippers, no costumes.

SPEAKER_02 14:53

And then I mean my helium balloon was deflated immediately because Alex's. All that I could imagine for Amanda's Bachelorette party was like, what are we wearing? Are there wigs? And can we have a Santa Claus stripper? We'll save that for Ashton's.

unknown 15:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 15:09

But I just don't. I've have always been a person, and tell me if anyone else is like this too, where I just don't like making a big deal of things because when I have in the past, I think I felt very disappointed. So I have conditioned myself. Yes. So I've kept my experiences through life as like even for vacations, I don't get excited until it's actually happening.

SPEAKER_02 15:40

How upset would you be if a stripper did show up?

SPEAKER_00 15:44

I have no desire.

SPEAKER_02 15:46

I I don't have a desire either, but just for the fun of it, like and it maybe it was like 15 minutes and it was just funny. And what if the stripper like was Antonio? Wouldn't that be funny? That would be funny. It'd be funny, right? Okay, just checking. I'm just checking hypothetical.

SPEAKER_00 16:01

We'll save that for just me and him.

SPEAKER_02 16:04

I don't know. Uh we'll see. We'll see. Good luck.

SPEAKER_00 16:06

Good luck convincing him. Maybe it's Brock. Another friend's husband. Oh my gosh. So yeah, that's the update in our lives. Things are going very well. Yeah, we're both happy. And we were guest speakers last week at the Ladies Luncheon. Ladies luncheon.

SPEAKER_02 16:25

Crosspoint. Yeah. Benefited a local um nonprofit that offers mental health services in our community.

SPEAKER_00 16:31

Very cool. It was good. It was really, really cool to see the women who spoke. It was great to see a lot of women in our community coming together. And I was very impressed. And we had a great time. It was a really nice event. And they fed us, which I didn't expect to be fed. The food was so sweet. Yeah. Shout out to the local. Stephanie's amazing. She is. She is in many ways. Yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 16:52

Should we do it the episode? Like the actual like meet.

SPEAKER_00 16:55

Yeah, I'm excited about this episode.

SPEAKER_02 16:56

Me too. So we decided, we actually changed it. We were gonna do something completely different and then decided instead to do the topic of how do you change your world? So like you are living a life that maybe you aren't thrilled about. Maybe it's exhausting. Maybe you're mundane. Yeah, or maybe like some of your needs aren't met, or you don't feel healthy, or maybe you don't like how you feel, how you look, uh, what you're doing every day. Maybe you hate your job, maybe you don't have good friends. So, like, how do you change your world? And Amanda and I have both completely changed our worlds in like a midlife crisis, I guess you would call it, but in a positive way, like a a midlife transformation of like who our circle is, who um we interact with, how we live, habits that we have.

SPEAKER_00 17:42

The energy we put out.

SPEAKER_02 17:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 17:44

I this is right up my alley. Yeah. You know, like as someone who has done some life coaching with people, it is totally up my alley. So when she brought this up, I was like, I know exactly what I'm going to talk about. So I wrote down a list for myself um to keep me on point because I will go off on a tangent on this topic.

SPEAKER_02 18:04

Oh, that's okay. Yeah. Um it's it's one of those things for me where I unintentionally kind of changed my world, but like it's been really good. You were forced. Were you forced? Kind of like the the universe was like, okay, Ashton, you gotta pivot here. Yeah. But um two things, two two sayings that people have said to me that have really stood out that kind of go along with this. One is um, Ashton, you could do anything, but you can't do everything. And like I've had multiple people kind of say that to me in a roundabout way, like what's your aim? Like, you can't do all of this. And then the other thing is if you have a large width of relationships, you won't have depth in your relationships. And so like you can either be wide or you can be deep. And I used to be very wide and now I feel deep. Yeah, I can see that with you.

SPEAKER_00 19:01

Yeah. I chose to, I think, expand my I I don't know. I think after my breakup, I went through something. And then when I got into this new relationship with Antonio, I started having things come up that I didn't know were still there, and it was causing some tension in our relationship. So I reached out to what is now who is now my mentor and talked to them, and they were like, This is this is easy. We can help you with this. And through that, it has dramatically changed the way that I think about things. And my life is significantly better because of it. And my life has gotten has expanded in ways that I did not even think possible. And I'll I'll just say, even to for my business, I remember a few years ago, uh few years ago, I was like, oh, my dream is to have a team of people, have an office in Indiana, and that has come to fruition. And she's like moving leaps and bounds. Yeah, this isn't esoteric stuff. Um, it is merely the things that you have control over. We oftentimes live based on our external environment, and we think that everything else controls the way things play out, but truly it's you that controls the way that your life plays out.

SPEAKER_02 20:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 20:26

It's no one else.

SPEAKER_02 20:27

What you're saying reminds me of this excerpt. Is that the right word? Excerpt? Yeah. In this book called Essentialism. Amanda bought me this book and I've been reading through it, but I want to read this. So um, as poet Mary Oliver wrote, Tell me what is it that you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? And that's really what we're talking about today. I challenge you to pause and ask yourself that question. I challenge you here and now to make a commitment to make room to enjoy the essential. Do you think for one second you will regret such a decision? Is it at all likely that you will wake up one day and say, I wish I had been less true to myself and had done all the non-essential things that other people expected of me? No. So this this book is really just a challenge to create a system that um that tips the skills for you to have a life that is true to you in in your your expectations of your life and not what everyone else wants for you. And um anyway, I used to be really bad at this, and so this book is really in line with kind of where I'm going in my life.

SPEAKER_00 21:38

I think that something that's brought up for me on this, and my mentor's wife actually recommended that book. So I'm slowly getting you into my cult. This is how it works. That's essentially what it's all about, though. Um I know, joking. Um but my mentor is it is about living the life that you truly. Truly want to live with true freedom. And um one of the practices that I do every morning, obviously I've talked about my morning study group where we study like Napoleon Hill and Neville Goddard, and we really, really get into the depths of what it's like to live a lifestyle or a life that you truly, genuinely want to live. Because we always think, oh, we can't do that because of this, that, this, that kids, you know. But we really can. So one of the practices that I do every morning to make sure that I'm really living the life that I want to live is I ask myself these four questions. Who do I want to be today? How do I want to feel today? What do I want to give today? And what do I want to receive today? And that really puts it into my mind of my expectations for the day and allows me to live authentically to how I want my day to be.

SPEAKER_03 22:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:57

Otherwise, we're constantly living in an ex from the external environment.

SPEAKER_02 23:02

So what are like some tangible or like really easy to put your finger on changes that you have made to change your world? My thoughts. Your thoughts. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 23:13

I I don't know if I shared this, but I got off my anxiety medication, which was the worst idea ever. Don't do that. Just like stay on it. I'm just kidding. Forever. Um, but it was a very, very eye-opening experience to how my thoughts were taking me back to a place of the person that I was a while ago and did not want to go back there. Now, one day I will be off them. I'm just not there yet because my I was just my thoughts just aren't there quite yet. Yeah. It's been a huge experience in being mindful of how I talk to myself. Yeah. The words that I say. I'm very intentional with the words that I choose to say now because an example of this is there was someone speaking at the women's event the other day. Jeanette. Yeah. It was about like if something bad happens or you say, Oh, that's just my luck. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 24:12

No, that was Jeanette.

SPEAKER_00 24:13

Yeah, it was amazing. And she was just like, why don't you reframe that? Instead of, you know, if you get cut off in traffic and I'm late, blah, blah, blah. Oh, that's just my luck, instead of saying that, be like, Yeah, like it's fine. It's okay. And when something good happens, you're like, that is my luck. So I think that just being mindful of the words that I choose and what I even say to myself, and just being live well, living from the perspective of who I want to become, making decisions based on the woman that I want to become.

SPEAKER_02 24:48

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I love that. Jeanette really, what she said really stuck out to me too, because we can like reinforce negative things upon ourselves by saying, like, by saying that to ourselves, like, you know, oh yeah, that's my life. Like this is just how it goes. Instead of like something positive happens and and you see it that way. Like you win the lottery or something. Oh yeah, of course I did. You know? Like, of course I did. Or you get a raise at your job. Well, of course I did. Like, this is my life. It's great. It's fabulous.

SPEAKER_00 25:21

It's it's good. Well, think about the people. And and when I say this, an audience member will think of the person. Okay. When there is something, there is literally something going on in their life all the time. There's drama all the time. There's the bad things are happening to them all the time. Yeah. There's a reason for that.

SPEAKER_03 25:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 25:43

They are bringing that into their lives because they're attracting that with a constant negative energy. And if they change their thoughts, that's going to that will change their external environment. Yeah. And it sounds so esoteric, but it's really, really not.

SPEAKER_02 26:00

Yeah, no, you're right. Yeah. The the mind is so powerful. And if we believe something, we really can, we can typically achieve it.

SPEAKER_00 26:08

Yeah. It's a reticular activation system. If you are constantly seeing the bad in the world, you absolutely will. But if it yeah, you will find it. You will get on social media and see all the bad, and that will reiterate that in your narrative. But if you choose to see the good, those good things will pop up.

SPEAKER_02 26:26

Yep. So like you've changed your thoughts, but like what actions have you changed?

SPEAKER_00 26:32

Um I think here's a really good example. I was talking to my mentor and he was like, Amanda, you live based on your emotions.

SPEAKER_03 26:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:40

And I was like, dang it. He's right. Like if I didn't want to go to the gym, I just didn't feel like it. I have now started changing what I say. I'm like, I get to go to the gym. Yeah. I get to. And Yeah, I'm healthy enough to do this. Yes. Yeah. They like gratitude for the body you have. Yes. And, you know, even going to work. Like I get to go to work. And instead of living based off the emotion, because it is so easy. Like last night, I really just did not feel like going on a walk.

SPEAKER_01 27:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 27:13

And I didn't. But if I actually did go on that walk, imagine how much better I would have felt after that walk.

SPEAKER_01 27:18

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 27:18

It's things like that that I'm conditioning myself. So other tangible things that I think are really, really helpful in the morning when you wake up, write down your affirmation for your life. What you just like, I am so happy and grateful now that I earn X amount of money by doing dot dot dot. And make sure that doing is something that is giving. Yeah. Like it is a, you know, having a servant heart because I think that's incredibly important. Just, you know, having a purpose in life. The other thing that I do is I write down 10 things I am grateful for. Every morning. Every morning.

SPEAKER_01 27:55

Oh.

SPEAKER_00 27:56

It's life-changing. Yeah. And then and I notice when I get off of it and when I get off that routine.

SPEAKER_02 28:02

You start seeing the back.

SPEAKER_00 28:03

Yeah. And then the last thing that I do is those four questions. How I want my day to go. I love that.

SPEAKER_02 28:09

Like that routine just puts you, like starts your day in like the best mindset. I am And it's like 15 minutes. I was thinking about some of the things that like you were saying, like working out, you like you know you should do it, like how help make you feel whatever. But like if you do something long enough that is good for you and you recognize this is making me feel good, my brain now has completely just skipped that. My brain is working out is not an option. I don't negotiate with myself about it. Like it's like I have some free time. Oh, I'm gonna go for a walk or I'm gonna go to the gym. And the moment my brain starts to be like, oh, I'm tired, I don't want to do that. Like, why don't you just eat potato chips? Um, because you know, we want to do the easy thing. I mean, literally, it's like something in me, like my willpower is like, nope, nope, we've made our decision. This is a lifestyle. Like, you know, and it's just there. Yeah. It's just there.

SPEAKER_00 28:59

Yeah, Antonio has that too. I will say that um that's it is that's not easy to do. So I'm proud of you for getting to that point because even someone who's in fitness, like I have been in the fitness world for a while. I still operate out of like I don't feel like dot dot dot.

SPEAKER_02 29:18

Um Yeah, but there are there are days where like like I went um to the gym a couple days ago in the morning with my son and I was so tired. It was early in the morning, and I hate working out in the morning, like I want to do it in the evening. But I went with him and I literally was like, I don't really have it in me to do like a lot of hard stuff. So I I walked on the treadmill three miles. Perfect. And I was like, okay, like I could do that, you know? So like even if it's not I don't know. What I'm trying to say is like you don't have to exhaust yourself every time that you do fitness. Like you can just make just do your best for just showing up is the most important thing.

SPEAKER_00 29:54

Yeah, just doing your best for that day, the energy that you have that day. And that's what we talked about the other day at the women's event is doing the best that you can that day, knowing that it will change day to day.

SPEAKER_02 30:04

Yeah, every day is different. Yeah. Sometimes for me, it's just like I'm gonna watch TV, but I'm gonna watch TV and I'm gonna do a plank, you know, for 60 seconds five times while I watch TV. Yeah, and that's enough. I'm like, oh, I got in a little bit of fitness. I strengthened my core while I was watching television. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 30:20

Simple. We talked about this before the podcast, but the environment in which you're in, yeah, is a huge component of how you are going to take in the world. Yeah. So we've talked about this before, but I think it's very, very important to be mindful of who your friends are, who you spend your time with, where your energy is going. If you're constantly on social media, you know, talk and smack, you know, spending time with people who are just always gossiping, negative energy, like you will become part of that.

SPEAKER_02 30:53

Yeah, you will. Or, or like for for me, like it's kind of like working out. There's something about that sort of like behavior that's like junk food. Like it is kind of tempting in a weird way to act that way.

SPEAKER_00 31:06

Well, gossip does have a purpose. It's got like a bonding element and yet it's also like ego. It's ego-driven. It's in our in our it's a way people build community, it's not a healthy way though.

SPEAKER_02 31:18

Yeah. So anyway, but like it's kind of the same for me. Like every now and then I'll eat too much ice cream, and then I'm like, oh, I shouldn't have eaten all that ice cream. And every now and then I'll engage in a conversation that after the fact I'm like, oh, that did not make me feel good. Right. And the more that you have that reaction, you can, you know, and if you're in touch with yourself, you don't want to keep doing things that don't make you feel good.

unknown 31:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 31:40

And so you slowly pull back from it.

SPEAKER_00 31:42

Be self-aware. How do you feel after you speak to people? There was one su one person I just told Ashton about, and I was like, I've I just like have this feeling. And every time I have talked to that person, I leave being like, oof, I don't know that I can trust them. Yeah. And that's okay. I can still coexist with that person. Mm-hmm. And I will, but I will just be aware of what I talk to them about.

SPEAKER_02 32:11

Yeah. Yeah. It's about like having the energetic boundaries with people, like an energetic field that you control and you decide who gets in and who you keep, you know, at bay a little bit and how you let that down and up. It's kind of like an in my brain, like an imaginary force field. Sometimes I walk into a room and it's up. And then I like can assess who's there with me and it can come down. Like I have certain groups, even professionally, where I feel that way.

SPEAKER_00 32:36

Yeah. And it can be your work environment too. Yeah. I think for people to truly change, you really have to choose a different environment.

SPEAKER_02 32:44

Well, I was I saw this thing on Instagram, a reel. And it was this woman who had just gotten divorced, and she was like, Yeah, like it's really hard doing it alone. And then it was like a reel of her with like playing with her kids, like all these different shots. And she was like, But it was way harder doing it with somebody who was constantly killing the vibe. And I was like, It's true though. I could not relate to anything more because in my marriage, it was like he was always grumpy or mad at me or mad at the kids. And if he was having a bad day, everyone was having a bad day. And if he wanted to eat this certain place to eat, everybody had to eat there. And like he was just constantly selfish and constantly killing the vibe. And I just was like, I cannot send my days this way. Like you gotta be with somebody that doesn't constantly kill the vibe.

SPEAKER_00 33:27

Yeah, we're not saying go get divorced, but oh no. It can be as simple as going to an event. It can be as simple as like every morning I have a study group with these women, and it's a different environment than I experience throughout my day. But today, I'll go to my mentorship events and I leave feeling on a totally different vibrational level. I know Tony Robbins and those kind of people have these events too. Um, they're more motivational rather than like creating discipline in your life. But yeah, it can be anything. It could be changing jobs, your friend group, but you kind of have to interrupt your norm to be able to find a new way to live.

SPEAKER_02 34:09

Well, I think that the more like subtle changes we make in our life, like our friend group and our habits and whatever the more that you refine yourself in creating the environment that you want, for me at least, there was this huge fear of being alone. Yeah. Like, is this gonna be really lonely? Because I I'm gonna start making choices for me now, my one wild and precious life. I'm gonna start making these choices for me. And that means that all the people that I was living for before and all the people pleasing I was doing, it means that people are gonna start becoming mad at me because I'm gonna start resting more and I'm gonna start being with my kids more, and I'm gonna start getting adequate sleep, and I'm gonna stop saying yes when I want to say no, and I'm gonna be all in on my career because I love what I do. And so that means that like, no, I don't want to party. I just really just want to write this grant tonight, you know, whatever. It's lame. Uh no, I love it. But like I started making all these changes, and I honestly had this like huge fear in in the back of all of it that was like, if I make these choices for me that people don't approve of or they don't understand, or they feel like Ashton's not the same anymore, am I gonna be like really alone and lonely? And um what I found is that the people that like truly love you, like and it's not about like what you give them, but they love you. Like it, you know, it may be hard, but there's understanding there because they can see like, oh, she was exhausted, you know, or like she seems happier now, or this is a season in her life and there's ebbs and flows of social energy and whatever. But um, yeah, I was really afraid of being alone. And what I have found though, on the flip side is I wasn't comfortable being with myself. So I was afraid to be alone. Yeah. But now I spend more time alone and I don't spend a lot of time at social outings and I focus really on the things that I like to do. Like I started reading fiction fantasy again. I just bought a duplex. I'm in the process of buying a duplex and moving. I'm so proud of you. Um, I am making sure I have time to work out. I'm making sure that I can keep, you know, my home environment in a tidy way that I like. I'm not so busy that it's always a disaster. Just like little things like that that have started to create and curate this little world of mine in a way that I want it to be.

SPEAKER_00 36:37

Yeah, we oftentimes live for other people, or we live for we live out of our paradigm, is truly what it is. We think about, or we don't even think. They're subconscious thoughts that direct our lives. So sometimes you just need to take a moment, be like, why do I do this? Or why do I not do this? And really am I just on autopilot? Yeah. One of the things I brought up before is that a lot of people appear to live in on a like a um hamster wheel. Hamster wheel. Yeah. And what the reality of it is is groundhog day.

SPEAKER_02 37:16

Yeah. I mean, it's the same.

SPEAKER_00 37:18

What the reality is, is that that person wakes up, they have the same thoughts that morning. They have the same thoughts throughout the day. And therefore, it's not going to activate change in their lives. So if you change your thoughts, you're going to change your life. And that is even to how you feel, like, not even feel, like the will that you have as a human to make changes in your life, whether it's your environment, whether it's your habits, whatever it might be, or how you think about your life, that's truly essential for being able to move forward with the life that you really want to live.

SPEAKER_02 37:54

So this, what you're saying, is reminding me of in the same book, Essentialism, they do a study on these dogs. Okay. So they put these dogs in cages, different dogs, in one test group of dogs, it doesn't matter what side of the cage they're on, they still get shocked. Okay. The next test group, if the dog moves over to the right side of the cage, the shock stops. And if they move to the left side of the cage, the the dog gets shocked. So the dogs that learn that they can move over and they won't get shocked, obviously they start moving over. Yeah. Then there's another cage where the dogs don't get shocked at all. Okay. But then they they try all the dogs in the one with the choice, like the box with a choice. And um the dogs that have learned that they can step over and it won't hurt anymore, they do that. The dogs that were never exposed to it all, they eventually learn that they can step over. But the dogs that were in the box where it didn't matter where they went, they don't even try. They don't even try in that box. Like they're just like, this didn't, you know, I get shocked no matter what, I'm not even gonna try. And so it like correlates into human behavior because if we've learned that life is hard, nothing goes in my favor, there's no point in fighting, I never win. If that's your learned, you know, life experience, you're not even gonna try. And it's it's called uh learned helplessness. And as people, we can learn helplessness. And I think that it's obviously subconscious, we don't know. Like a victim mentality. It's it is, but it's different. A victim mentality, the person is like aware of what happened to them, and you know, like they're like, this happened and I'm the victim, etc. But with learned helplessness, you just kind of learn like it's you're not even like calling yourself a victim. It's more just like defeat. Like, I'm not even gonna try. I'm not gonna try to change it. I'm not gonna try to here's I'm poor. That's the situation. I'm poor, I'm gonna be poor my whole life. My mom was poor, her mom was poor, we're poor. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 39:52

And you can't break that cycle with the the same thoughts.

SPEAKER_02 39:56

Yes. So if you have that learned helplessness, you have to unlearn it. And this can be different for me. And there is a strategy, and I can shape my world and I can change my world. Do you know how to do that?

SPEAKER_00 40:08

No. It's called auto suggestion. Okay. So the brain has two levels there's a conscious and there's a subconscious. The subconscious is like your autopilot, you're constantly living from your feelings, and you know, you do things from your life that you've learned that society has taught us. It's just ingrained in us. Yeah. Your conscious is taking external situations from your five senses, and it is at a conscious level. But you st we still react and create actions based on your subconscious. So what you do is you auto-suggest what you want to your subconscious. To your subconscious. So if you're constantly saying I'm poor, you switch that to I'm so happy and grateful that I am abundant and wealth comes to me easily, freely, and from everywhere. I don't know. That's a Bob Proctor thing. So if you constantly impress that onto your subconscious, it's going to change the way you show up in the world. Your actions are going to change.

SPEAKER_02 41:12

Well, and then that reticular activation system is then looking for ways to make that subconscious thing come true. Oh, like here's an opportunity for me. I'm gonna go for it. Versus like, I don't know, like say you're somebody that you don't feel confident going to into a job interview. You're like, I never get the job, I'm not gonna get the job, but I'll go to the job interview. Well, then you keep not getting the job because you're showing up with that energy of like, I know you're not gonna be able to do that. Oh, they can feel it.

SPEAKER_00 41:35

Yeah. So that confidence, that lock thereof, I should say, shows up.

SPEAKER_02 41:39

But if you go into it like maybe with a different story around it of, you know, this is it's been hard finding a job, but it's not me. Um, maybe I can work on my interview skills and maybe I can work on my presentation skills or just do it.

SPEAKER_00 41:52

Just like maybe my resume needs to feel like I'm great at interviews.

SPEAKER_02 41:56

Yes. And yeah, I mean, you if you are great at interviews but you wear the wrong clothes or you're great at interviews, but your resume sucks. Like, so it's both. Like you can you have to convince yourself that you are great and then you have to figure out how to reflect that too. But if you just don't believe that you're great and you're never gonna get picked, you're not gonna search for those ways, that motivation to change your world.

SPEAKER_00 42:16

Yeah. And if you think life is hard, you're always going to have a hard life. Yeah. It is as simple and difficult as that. It is.

SPEAKER_02 42:27

I woke up, I actually woke up today and I was like, I'm gonna have a good day. Yeah. And I don't know like why, but I like grabbed a puppy, snuggled it. Oh, you know, like took my kids to school, spent some extra time with them today. Um I don't know. I just feel like it's gonna be a good day.

SPEAKER_00 42:41

Yeah. I believe that. I think that your again, your thoughts, how you choose is going to show up. So some of the other things that I um, you know, obviously your inner world creates your outer world. We already touched on that in your environment. Also changing your standards. So the standards that you have in relationships, in business, um, how you speak to people, how you view your health, what you normalize becomes your life, essentially. So that's another thing to really ponder on. And one of the activities that I've done in order to change the standards in my life is to create a visual, a written visual of who I want to become. And I write down everything from the car that I drive to what I wear to what I'll be doing every single day. I think of my ideal day and that where I live, you know, everything. And I write that down. And then I make choices in my life based on that ideal version of who I want to become, how I want to feel every day. I want to feel peaceful, I want to have freedom. So, one of the things that I think is the biggest part of this is that the more that you do this, the more free you actually are. I agree.

SPEAKER_02 44:01

Because the more that you focus on the essential things or the things in your life that are really dear to you, such as for you, like your health, your future self, your family, your close friends, Antonio, like the things that truly matter to you, and you cut away the rest, you really can go into depth in those areas and improve your world. And I think I don't think you should do everything all at once, but for somebody who's like, I don't know where to start, I think just starting with like changing one habit at a time, because it it does have a waterfall effect where you change one habit, it builds your self-confidence because you've proven to yourself that you can follow through. So now you have more confidence in yourself. You see the positive outcomes of that habit change, and then you're ready to take on the next one. So, like in my life, this has evolved through the years. It's it started with some habits, some habits that I've changed in my life. So I would say my diet, it was a hard habit at first to change. And now, like my brain knows what foods make me feel good, what foods make me feel bad, what foods give me inflammation. It just knows. It's just there. I've created a habit of eating a limited amount of crappy food. Then, like, I was like, okay, like exercise. So I added on exercise. Well, now that's a habit that I have. Um, I have habits with like my hair care. I oil the ends of my hair every day. I do that because I don't want split-ins. And so, like, that habit has created healthy hair. So I think it's just adding like routine and habit into your life. And obviously, you don't want your whole life to be controlled by routine. But if you can establish those things one at a time, that like a healthy skincare routine, or maybe it's every day I'm gonna make one 15-minute call to somebody I love.

SPEAKER_00 45:50

Yeah. That always feels good. Yeah. One of the things that I would recommend doing is taking one thing that you're struggling with and and rephrase it and write it down an affirmation, stick it on your your mirror if you want. One of the things that Antonio did that I find really endearing is that he tells himself every day that he's an athlete. Oh, that's cute. And he's like, I go to the gym because I'm an athlete. And he's like, even if he doesn't feel like one right now, he tells himself that he is one. Yeah, because you will operate based on who you think you are. I like that.

SPEAKER_02 46:27

Yeah. Yeah. Like for me with work, if I'm like super overwhelmed by work, I have so much my plate, I just like want to break down and like not do everything or like quit something. I will literally tell myself, Ashton, you are not an unreliable person. You're a reliable person, which means you're gonna get this done.

SPEAKER_00 46:44

It also builds confidence. The more that you keep promises to yourself, the more confidence you'll have in yourself. The people who are most the most flakiest usually have the lowest self-esteem.

SPEAKER_02 46:56

Yeah. Because if you can't keep your word to others and yourself, like how are you gonna feel about yourself? Yeah. So make a promise to yourself and just start small. And I mean, breaking the habit of people pleasing or overcommitting, that one's really hard. That's been the newest one for me. But yeah. And I think another like clear and obvious area of growth for me that is like right in my face right now. And I'm you know, like you get to a point where you become like super like self-aware about something that you have been like unwilling to see for a long time. Yeah. But I have something like that in my life right now that just keeps smacking me in the face. And I'm like, this is my opportunity to like mature and to become more emotionally intelligent. And to so like now when I have this situation arise and I want to like emotionally react like a toddler or like like I used to in the past before I had when I had lower self-esteem, less love, less self-awareness, whatever. Now when something occurs, I can kind of like catch myself and like step back and observe it and not spiral into this place and like the universe keeps giving me these opportunities so that it becomes a habit. My habit in the past was to emotionally react. I am creating a new habit of pausing, holding a mirror up to myself, and then addressing the other person as compassionately and like humanly as possible. Yeah. I've been doing the same.

SPEAKER_00 48:26

It's hard. It is so hard. Yeah. Because our inner child really wants to be validated and there's something there. So we emotionally react based off that thing that we struggled with when we were a child. Yeah. So it will come up and not saying that you're wrong in the the fight or whatever, you may not be wrong, but allowing the other person to have feelings.

SPEAKER_02 48:52

Yeah. And like is is the fight worth it? Like, is it more important to win? True. Or is it more important to like come away wiser with a relationship intact? Like, I don't know. I just keep bumping up against this. And I think it's because it's something I need to learn. Yes. And so I've been really working on mastering my emotions in conflict. I'm proud of you. I can see that.

SPEAKER_00 49:18

Thank you.

SPEAKER_02 49:18

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 49:19

It's hard to do. Oh, yeah. Something I'm learning at the ripe age at 37.

SPEAKER_02 49:22

Oh, and if I'm on my period, I mean it's out the window. I don't know. I mean, it's if it's the wrong time in my hormonal cycle, it might not go so hot. But most of the time, especially being in leadership roles, it's something that I've really had to master. And also like real talk. I am the worst grudge holder in the world. And I never thought of myself that way because I've always been like, oh, like I'm I'm so nice to people and whatever. But then like I had to get real with myself about it. I have like a list in my brain of anyone that's ever dropped the ball, disappointed me, done something that was questionable. Like there's a list of Virgo thing. It's a Virgo thing. And it's not about like I don't want to interact with you. It's a cancer thing too. But it's not like I won't interact with you, I won't be your friend, whatever. But it's just like a note in my brain that's like there. I have like, I have files on everyone. And I think what's really important is for me just to like, and I'm learning this to rose-colored glasses, all those files.

SPEAKER_00 50:24

Yeah, but also see people in the back. You just never forget how someone makes you feel. It's true. And I think that on the flip side of that is being mindful of how we make people feel, which we talked about also from the four agreements.

SPEAKER_02 50:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 50:38

Because it shows. And I don't, I mean, I hold grudges too, but mainly to the people that have really, really, really hurt me. Other people I it's usually close people that I will hold a grudge with. But other people I'm I can kind of detach myself and not take it personally.

SPEAKER_02 50:57

I also think like in in that person's file, it's a say like in your file, I might file something away, right? Yeah. Don't don't worry.

SPEAKER_00 51:05

I she has reason to file.

SPEAKER_02 51:08

But if but if Amanda also corrects the thing, that also gets filed.

unknown 51:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 51:13

So it's like, oh yeah, she makes sense that she's human. Oh, but she also like has accountability for herself and you know is good at repairing or whatever. So like with anybody, it's kind of like if I have a file of a person and they never like owned it, clocked it, cleaned it up, they never took accountability. They like let me try to, you know, feel like the bad person when I know what they did was bad or whatever. Like my brain just kind of like catalogs that. Like, oh yeah, they never took accountability, which means they might possibly do it again, which means like my energetic feel's gotta be up.

SPEAKER_00 51:45

Interesting.

SPEAKER_02 51:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 51:46

Yeah. I I don't know. I think that we just live in a world where we're so, especially when it comes to politics or just people's opinions about things, we emotionalize things so much. Yeah. Instead of just seeing people for who they are. And and maybe like I had a conflict with somebody, and then it I just really tried to see it as their life, their previous life was just so difficult growing up. And that in that I can show compassion for their reaction towards me. And then I don't take it as personal, and then I am more gentle with the situation.

SPEAKER_02 52:30

Well, I think the best teacher of that is when people take things that you did personally, but they weren't personal. And then like you learn how it feels. Yeah. Like I like an example of that for me would be I'm I help people hire and I'm always like hiring or like whatever. And if I interview a bunch of people and then the people that don't get the job, most people are very reasonable about that or whatever. But every now and then you'll get someone who like takes it really personally and they make it about like you don't like them and like you are bad because you didn't hire them. And they take it super personally instead of being like, oh, I wasn't the best fit for the job, there's another opportunity for me. Instead, like they villainize you just because you were the person that had to make the decision.

SPEAKER_01 53:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 53:13

And like once you've had that happen enough to you, you realize like this is really unfair to do to people. They're just people making decisions.

SPEAKER_00 53:21

It's just becoming self-aware. It is. It's a challenging thing for some people. And I think we could live in a more self-aware world, but you know, you know, just being a people. We're just two girls doing our best. This was awesome.

SPEAKER_02 53:35

Anything else you can think of? Um, more of the story though, is you can change your world. It's just one step at a time. Mindset at a time. If you have learned helplessness, you've got to figure out how to reprogram that. You have to, because you do have control to some degree. We all have control over our circumstances. It just unfortunately, like I saw this graph once about leadership and um about like people with privilege and you know, like in politics, some people anyway, but the point the point of what I'm trying to say is some people do start at an advantage. And so the people that don't have to do have to work harder. They have to be scrappy, they gotta be more tenacious, they gotta be grittier. But like if you start at the bottom and you work and you create a plan and you do change your world, you have gained so much internal strength. That person that started ahead never got the chance to to um to develop. So I think you end up ahead in a way if you put in the work to change your world and that, you know, cutting out relationships or making new friends or working out or feeling better, sleeping better, going back to college, building your career, like there's so many ways that you do have control over your life.

SPEAKER_00 54:51

Yeah, I think you have absolute control. You can do it. You literally can do anything. Yeah. We were built as humans to have free will. Yeah. And we have that. Yeah, it's the only thing.

SPEAKER_02 55:03

Well, it's like the only thing they can't take away from you. Yeah. Like options get taken away. And maybe, maybe the college that you wanted to go to closes down. The option's gone. But your free will is never gone. You can find another option. You can find another route. Maybe, maybe the gym is closed, but you can still go for a walk. You can there's always options, and really the only thing there is like your willpower and your free will. And if you can harness your willpower, you can make the change you want.

SPEAKER_00 55:30

Absolutely. Yeah, yeah. Mic drop. Hey, we're taking suggestions for podcast um episodes, so please shoot us a DM. I will put the Facebook and Instagram link below in the caption and leave us a review. And we're gonna get a YouTube channel soon. I that's my goal this weekend. I keep talking about it, but listen, guys, I have no excuses this weekend. I have no children. I have no fiance here.

SPEAKER_02 55:59

Just Amanda. Amanda and her laptop this weekend.

SPEAKER_00 56:02

Just cozying up. It'll be all good. It'll be fun. I've actually started enjoying watching things on YouTube. Yeah. And uh comedians and just podcasts. So it just brings a whole different vibe.

SPEAKER_01 56:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 56:15

I really encourage you to try it out. So bear with me as I try to figure this out.

SPEAKER_02 56:20

And then I'm gonna have to start dressing cuter and like doing makeup, and I can't show up like this. Oh, please do it. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 56:34

All righty. Bye guys. Bye.