Ep 18 - Being grateful and still wanting more

We’re taught to pick a side — Be content OR be ambitious.
But real growth?It lives in the middle. 🌿✨

In this episode of TwoPeas in a Pod, we explore the powerful balance between gratitude and ambition — and why wanting more doesn’t make you ungrateful.
Because maybe…wanting more isn’t greed.It’s evolution.

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Okay. Sorry, yeah. Yeah, okay. Hi. Hi. Do you see the voice shift? Did you guys all see the voice shift? Yes. My podcast voice. I would say I can't like shouting in my home voice, girl. Right before we could dive into today's topic, I was thinking about how this one particular incident like made me really think deep. Which incident is this? Because incidental girl always happening. About this one time when we were with our uh friend and how she was driving in her car and she was going somewhere. Oh, when we were shooting here? Yeah, shooting. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So how she was feeling bad for people who were like, you know, uh, she was in her car comfortable in the AC and it was like obviously sweltering summer, and she saw these people who were outside uh walking and crossing the road and all of that, and she felt bad, you know, like, oh my god, okay, I'm in a car sitting comfortably, still complaining about the weather, but then there are these people who are crossing the road. Yeah, which is definitely it can make you feel a certain way. But you know, the emotion that she felt, right? That she felt bad that they had that life and she had it good. It made me wonder as to how many of us actually are in that frequency, with or without our knowledge, you know, feeling bad and feeling guilty for living like a comfortable life. I wouldn't say this is not, it's very easy for somebody to say, yeah, yeah, easy for you to say sitting in your podcast studio on the couch. But I'm talking about everybody, everyone in some situation or the other has it better than another person. This is exactly why I snapped at her, also that didn't I didn't snap at her like a mean person. I was like, oh come on, you know, just stop it. Like, you know why? I feel honestly, we have been told, uh we have been conditioned in a certain way for years on end, for generations on end, that if you are grateful, you should be satisfied. Right? Like, so why the person crossing the road could be me as well? Like, you know, we do work every day. But we are kind of wired in a way in our head, our conditioning and our upbringing and all has been wired in a way where if you want more out of this life, you're just ungrateful. Yeah. Which has, I think, the biggest lie that we've ever been told ever since we were children was like, if you're grateful, you should be satisfied for what you have. And I think we are grateful for what you have. What you have is I think that's every household's dialogue. Dialogue, right? Like, that's something that we're breaking in our house too. But we kind of like say it in another way right now. We say, you are privileged, so do something with that privilege. I think that's the narrative. But then what if being grateful and still wanting more for yourself is you being aware of what uh you want or like what you deserve, or like a form of self-respect, right? Like, for instance, what I'm trying to tell is I'm so grateful for everything in my life currently. Like the studio we have, right? Now we were literally we were shooting in random places, and our team would not have space to eat. Today, when we shot and like all chilling after the shoot, and then all of us were eating together, it truly felt I'm so grateful for the space. I'm so grateful for how far Dore has come. I'm so grateful for the way I have like uh what do I say, collected myself and been there like a storm pillar for my kids and everything. But what if I want more? Right? Like, what if I want more out of this podcast too? Like, yeah, I have a great space, but where am I heading with it? I want more impact. You can always just want more and more. Exactly. However, that more is, you know, and whatever shape type kind, however it is, you can always. Yeah, he's going to have that scar, but himself and with that kind of blind wanting more, yeah, is what has gotten me this far. Like, you know, so yeah, I guess that brings us to today's topic, which is but first let's say, welcome to two Peace in a Pot. And in today's episode, we are talking about something that we absolutely love, uh, you know, and we practice on a daily basis. It's gratitude. So today's episode is about being grateful and still wanting more. Exactly. And I think it's absolutely legitimate to want more, even though you're grateful. Being grateful and saying, okay, be grateful for the life you have, just be content with what you have. It's almost like, you know, uh just restricting your life and how much you can how much more you can be, the potential that your life has. And I think that's really unfair because we as humans uh have infinite potential. We have our lives ha have infinite potential to keep getting better on a daily basis. And I think it's absolutely okay to say, hey, my life is great. I'm so grateful for what I have. But I feel like it can be just a little better. And if you're not in that place of saying you want it to be better or wanting something to be better, you are just very complacent, I feel. And settling and stagnant. Yeah, exactly. You settle. So more more often than not, it's not just being content. I feel like it's just settling. Maybe that settling feels really comfortable. You know, maybe it's like a safe zone. Maybe it's not, you know, pushing your boundaries and you're you don't expect too much out of yourself or you know, your life or others that you live with. But I think that is the biggest risk of them all, you know, not wanting more and just saying, okay, I'm grateful. And it's actually not just gratitude, it's just you settling. Calling it that I mean, yeah, you have lying under the blanket of gratitude. Yeah, but I think you should be ambitious. Why can't like you know, gratitude and ambition go hand in hand? That's the thing. So, gratitude is basically uh savoring what you have and grounding force. That's what gratitude is, definitely. It grounds you like every day morning when you wake up and say your gratitude, even on your worst days, it just means you're more grounded. We I remember how grateful we were even two years ago when things were so bleak. I remember waking up and writing down three things I'm grateful for, and that was such a grounding force for me at that point of time because it was so easy to go down a spiral and be like, um, you know, I uh what is happening, and like, you know, why is this happening and all of that? But you wake up and you're right, okay, today I'm breathing, today I pulled myself together, today uh he crossed this hurdle, today we he came off the ventilator. Those concentrating on small things like gratitude grounded me, but ambition was growth. But I didn't stop at that. I was like, I need he is going to come back better, he is going to be the father. Not just as in a relationship man away, even for myself. Like, I have this podcast studio. Anyone would be like, I remember somebody who wanted to do a collab. They were like, Oh, what can there be in a podcast? It's just a set, right? I'm like, we are going all in. And this person approached you? Yeah, this person approached you. Why did they approach you if it was just a podcast? Exactly. Good one. Session checkmate. Are you watching it? I just exactly get it. You know, people just think it's just a podcast, and yeah, you just do this, and they think it's just easy, and we're doing this for fun. Yeah, having fun. We're not doing this for fun. And they all think, okay, the quiet podcast is probably one of the most least rewarding uh things in in way of money when it comes to returns. But the effort that we put in for this, be it our studio, be it our team, be it the way we represent ourselves, the topic that we talk about, is not something that you just look it up and talk about it. We draw uh inspiration from how we have lived our truth and we want more out of this. Why can't there be anybody who's giving awards for podcasts? Like, I want to know. Like, there's only one, there is only one award that happens somewhere in Bombay. It's called it's called the Podmasters. All the N number of awards that's actually there. Like, yeah, like that's the only difference. See, that I'm it's not like, yeah, maybe the awards specifically. The Grammys gave away award for Amy Fuller's good hang. That's representation, that's recognition. So that's where I want to get not at least the Grammys. That'd be amazing. Why not, girl? Why not? You should just definitely know what the secret to life is being radically optimistic, optimistic. Yeah. I mean, that it it truly requires some amount of delusional optimism is a thing, and I think you need that kind of audacity to really get the most out of life. Truly, this is the most miraculous thing that can happen. This world, this life, you, me, all of us coexisting on this planet. So the most reasonable thing or the most logical thing is to be this crazy dreamer who wants the most out of the world. Yeah, 100% that Grammy's award. Exactly. Yes. And then we'll get on and we'll thank all our team members. That's what we're talking about, right? Nobody wants to settle down, be it in a profession or be it in a relationship. Nobody should be settling down. I hate it when people say, walk up to me and say, How think about how bad it could have been. You've gotten so far. Think about all the things that other people are going through. But I am not willing to think about others. This is not somebody else's story. This is my story. And then also it's not fair. Yeah, it is your story. And also, it's not fair to come and tell. Try to make another person feel better. Try like, for example, if I'm a stranger and I come to come up to you, it's not fair for me to tell you and make you try to make you feel better by comparing it with somebody else's journey. But this has been the manuscript, right, for a long time. It's not just me or you. It's not about that. It's okay to want more and be more and do more, achieve more, impact more. Like, you know what I what I'm saying? 100%, 100%. And I feel like, yeah, everyone is blessed in different ways. And knowing that and operating from a place of, hey, okay, I am blessed in this manner. Maybe others are not so blessed, and I do pray and I will do my bit and part to make sure they have a more blessed life, but that doesn't stop me from say wanting a better life for myself. This I think is just awareness. And everyone should operate from a place of awareness. Yeah, it's not called greedy, it's not being greedy at all. When more most of the times, when you really just, you know, dream big. One one one way to call it is just dreaming big. Another way is to say you're so greedy. Why can't you just be happy with what you have? And it can be anything, right? Like even a job. Because I recently read this, you know, be content with whatever you have, be happy where your feet are planted. Because now, yeah, you want this one certain thing. But then the second you get that thing, you are definitely going to want another thing. And then by before you know it, you're just constantly chasing one thing or another. So when are you really taking the time to appreciate the life that you have? I read that, and I at first I was like, oh yeah, so true. But then the next second I caught myself thinking, so what? Okay, I am appreciating where my feet are, and I I am very grateful for the job I have and everything else I have. But I can always keep like another goal to achieve, right? Exactly. So this is what we've been conditioned to think, don't you think so? Because what if I reached there, I stood there, I was present, I was grounded, I know what I have achieved. So I am going to level up, I'm gonna elevate myself, be it however materialistically, or like you know, be it through intelligence or knowledge or anything for that matter, this is exactly what we are trying to break right now, is what I feel. Like, you know, that's the narrative that we are changing right now, or we should be changing right now. It for instance, even when I started this podcast, when we spoke about it in Women's Day thing, and I remember somebody leaving a comment saying, So what you need to have backup to start something like that. That's not what I was trying to tell. Did you see my I saw that in that heart because what I was trying to tell was even when I'm shooting this podcast, I hear people tell me, Inna Sotilea, Kasilea, Pano Leah, why does she need to go do this? You know, I always hear that the kids are sorted, Dora is sorted, you're not you don't need to, but what about me? Where is my financial autonomy? Yeah, where is my financial independence? Yeah, what if I want to spend where is my recognition? Right? Like for so long, I was the perfect wife or like you know, everything was hunky dory. I was living in my own beautiful world. We would go socialize and all of that. Oh, yeah, Dhar and Anusha, that's so great. They are like this, they have beautiful kids. Look at the way they're raising kids. But now I'm doing it for everybody else. But so when am I going to catch myself to do something for myself? Yeah. Where am I going to create an identity for myself? Where then my kids turn around when they grow up. This is literally like a journal, like a vlog that we both are doing, talking about not some frivolous things. Although our topics were frivolous back when we wanted to start. Remember the topics? Yeah. It's crazy. We don't want to talk about it. Mendamari. No, no, we don't want to talk about it. We can actually look at it and then talk about it in a reel or something like that. Let's not do that. But uh, yeah. Now the things that we talk about are deep, and like the messages that we get after every me every episode as how even if it connects with that one person. Yeah. Like when that one person listens to it and like, oh my god, this is me. These people are talking. This is hitting home. This feels better. Do you remember the one time somebody sent a very heavy message when we were traveling? Yeah. And I told Ray, take your time and reply to this because this is a very serious message, right? And identify, and now the person's okay. Right. These are things that matter to me. This is why I want more. I don't want to just even when that person asks me why you should have a back, it's not about backup. It's really not about backup. It's about, yes, this is my life, but this is a life I'm creating for myself. This is what I want for myself. Yeah, for sure. Okay. Because nobody can find fault with the way I run a home or be a mom for those two boys, or it could have gone whichever way. And I know I can say without a doubt, nobody could have handled it the way I did. And that's something when you can back it up, it's not called bragging. So when you pull up like that, so how are you pulling up for yourself? And I think just the reason why I did it because I want to, that's good enough. You don't owe anybody an explanation. If someone's like, oh, why do you have to do that? You have everything. And you know, even if even for people who just comment on what you're doing or whatever it is, I feel like it really doesn't matter because you're doing this because you decided to, and you want to. And it's about also creating that impact, right? Yeah, for sure. No. Because we are the kind of people who would stop and then we make that time for someone, even if it is for five minutes, we make sure we've given them all our attention. 100%. It's beat you or me. We've always spoken to someone like as though we I know their kids, which class they go to, even if they're talking about something, we are people like that, right? Yeah, and if I we are going to curate and create something from what we have lived, we would want it to hit home with everyone. Even if it's just that's what you say. If you by listening to us, if you feel one person better by the end of the day, that's a very-still what I that's still the core of the podcast. Exactly. That's the heart of this podcast, I feel. Yeah, that is. Yeah. So all this conditioning, all these other ways that people ask, I think it all comes down to that level of thinking, you know, like be grateful, be satisfied, why are you not settled? You're settled, right? It's not that. It's complacency, and it's like you do not want to push boundaries and know what you're capable of because our potential is just unlimited. That is so true. I like how you said it's complacency because yeah, I think more you you just get confused between being content and being complacent, I think. Yes, you know? Yeah. So but just now when you were talking about all of this, I was thinking this is how we humans have been, whether people agree with it or not. I feel like this is this has been the evolution of man from monkey. Yeah, right? Imagine if a monkey just said, Hey, I'm alive, I'm a monkey, I'm in this whole okay, great. But no, the monkey wanted to like be better, right? And punch evolved. Punch found a partner. I know, I know, and broke up also. I don't know that about the breakup. Okay, yeah, yeah. But I'm talking about like the evolution of man, right? We are constantly evolving and becoming a better version of ourselves. And if we haven't been feeling this way, right? Being grateful and still wanting more, and that being absolutely okay, I don't think you and I could be sitting on this couch wearing these clothes and just being the most civilized form of human beings, right? Of course. Of course. So I think this has been like a phenomenon that's been going on for a while now. But when was the last time, Anisha, you ever felt deeply grateful? Because every morning, I mean, this was a bit challenging for me, right? Like on a few days when I have some bad days, right? It's very difficult for me to wake up in the morning and really just okay. So the first thing I do is open out the curtain and look at the greenery and you know, set a mood, set a mood and tone and everything goal for the day. But on bad days, uh, on hard days, it it's extra difficult to find gratitude. It's extra difficult to s really sit down at your desk and think of three things that makes this life beautiful. But on those days, the first day I skipped it, and then I realized that by the end of the day, I felt much worse. Like my bad day hadn't gotten any better just because I skipped my gratitude journaling. Just the first day, I said, okay, you know, this is something I'm not gonna do. If I'm not able to really hear my inner voice on days when it feels cloudy, I'm gonna wake up in the morning and just write three things, the bare minimum, that I'm really grateful for. And every once in a while, when I fall off the bandwagon, this is something that has really angered me. Because the more you find, uh, the more you're gr grateful for certain things, I feel like your day gets better. The way you see your life gets better. And if that is not like, you know, um what to say, if that small act of gratitude is not going to um have a redirection in your day, then I don't know what will. If anything can change the way you feel, if anybody can change the way you feel, it's you. When was the last time you felt grateful and felt guilty? And you still wanted more? No, no, absolutely do you feel guilty? Never. Yeah, I don't think anybody should feel guilty for things that they have or things that they're grateful about or for. Yeah. I don't think I ever do feel guilty because every time, even on days that I don't feel I'm not ever guilty for feeling grateful, but then I always feel like um when I wake up and I can't feel a sense of gratitude when I think about how life just took a complete U-turn, looked like took a 360 spin car crash on the highway. And then I tell myself before I open my eyes, like right, to be in a place where how far he's come, you when you live, when you share your life with a partner like that, you will actually be grateful for everything, I feel like every single thing, and still want more because you just want the best out of your life because this is not how your story's ending. Like so I should want more. I I have I can't say there hasn't been a day I have not been grateful, but there has been days I've been exhausted from not achieving what I want more out on this particular day. I've never ever been the kind of person who's woken up and felt, oh, I'm not grateful for where I am. Even when things were great two years ago, I think I was a happy, grateful person. Complacent, grateful person. I'm not going to lie. You know, that's the kind of person I was. I was like, I'm so happy, life is so perfect, this is enough. I never searched, I never pushed problems, I never had a podcast at that time. Yeah. I never, like, you know, went and uh created an opportunity or an experience for myself, where I I I it opened doors for me, where I got to speak in big places, got invited to powerful tables. I never created that opportunity for myself. I think I was complacent at that time. I think that wanting more also comes with different kinds of like being pushed down and stamped on and like being told that no, you're not it. No, you don't fit, no, you cannot do it. The more people say no, you cannot do it, you're like, let me show you how it's done. Even with the way uh it's even with the way Doris rehab has gone for me. I think nobody could have handled it better than me. Like, you know, this is really starting to sound very narcissistic, but then that's the truth. Let's reel it in and let's talk about. Have you ever felt like, you know, uh, would you ever settle down in being professionally unsatisfied? Like, you know, if you were like, okay, you were in the movie industry, you enjoy movies. I cannot tell you how obnoxious it is when Rave and my husband and um her boyfriend, all of them sit together and talk about movies. Like, I just want to choke myself and die because they are such industry people. Yeah, you've literally threatened to get out of the car. Get out of the car. I have done it, I've done it. I've literally opened the door and I'd be like Because we are movie lovers. I love movies too, but you guys are like, oh like I want to scratch my hair out, like I want to pull it out, kind of annoying people. But then, yeah, so um you were in the movie industry and You loved going to work, or else you wouldn't have pulled up like that, right? Like and been the only girl in the team and all of that, working about like I want to say twenty hours, but eighteen, nineteen hours for sure. 1819 hours and like doing all of that. And wow, you made a script too, but you never wanted to go back. So I'm so glad that you brought this because more I think it's very uh usual for people to think wanting more just means like wanting bigger, better. That's why I brought this. That's exactly why I brought this. Because it's not bigger, better, it's a future. I'm not sure. Right? Yeah. So you can have the best thing in the world and still say, hey, I'm very grateful for it. Align with your future hope. Yeah. But I'm going to choose this because that's the kind of luxury I'm looking for. So of course, being uh in Athletes' team, being his AD is like the dream for so many people. And when we when I was in office itself, like I've had some. No, you actually had somebody else also compete for the same role and the same position, and you got the uh after the interview. He had a set of interviews also, right? He had a set of interviews, yeah. But yeah, definitely it's it's very, very difficult to like land assist any director, any big director, and it's very difficult to get into a team and you know be a part of a really big film, also. So I am very grateful. I'd never for once say, hey, yeah, okay, I take that lightly because it did not come lightly. I did not take that lightly at all. I'm very, very grateful for that opportunity because that was very life-altering for me. It was a journey of self-discovery for me more than anything else. But when I decided to say, okay, you know, this is where I quit and probably like, you know, choose a different path, which was me wanting to write my own script. Yeah. When I decided to do that, so many people thought that I was being really uh ungrateful. Ungrateful. So many people were like, Are you crazy? Like you have this one opportunity that so many people would die for. They really uh, you know, would give anything in their give up anything in their lives to just be his AD or be in his team, and which I agree with 100%. I deeply loved my job. But then when I decided to say, okay, this is where I quit and probably like have a redirection, write my own script and everything. It's not because writing my own script just was bigger or better or more glamorous or luxurious or anything, you know, compared to that job. There was no comparison at all. That was a life of hustle. This was a life of, you know, okay, let me see if I'm capable of doing this by myself. Let me see if I can um, you know, write a movie strip by myself. But more than anything else, I think it was after those, you know, strenuous days and days and days of just hustling. I just wanted some calm, some peace. And I just wanted to, you know, spend some time with my people, my family, and you know, just have a life of calm, quiet, and ease, I think. And that's what I was looking for. And I really just wanted that. But just because I wanted that, people mistook that to be you know me being arrogant and frivolous about giving up that job. It wasn't the case at all. You wanting better can also mean that you just want different, yeah. Different doesn't mean wrong. Yeah, sometimes different is the better or the level up that you're looking for. Yes, yeah. And I think that's what gets you excited about life. Yeah, you know, saying, hey, okay, this is the journey, but I want a different journey. And that excitement, I think that should be your driving force. And I was so happy, and never once have I regretted that decision in my life because when I decided when I chose to do that, uh, COVID also happened. And then you know, we all were just locked up at home and we were literally going back in time. So that was so nice for me. I feel like everything just aligned. And then I I found myself everything just aligned for me in the universe, you know. When I just said, Okay, this is the direction I want this kind of life. I had so many new job opportunities that came my way. In fact, even Madhu. I started writing for Madhu in COVID, and that's how you know I landed into an agency. Like, you know. Oh my god, yeah. Yeah, that's when you started your entire career shift happened. That was the first time I started freelancing. It's crazy that she has to be here on the day that we are recording this. It's insane. Look at how things aligned, right? Yeah, exactly. And right when I was looking at her earlier, I was thinking like how much she has also healed, and it got me into thinking personal growth, right? It also means, like, you know, yeah, okay, things are good. I am happy, it might all look great. But what if I want some deeper healing? And my deeper healing is going to look like this for me, right? Like, it might not make sense to anybody else. Like, yeah, like anybody could have come and told uh me, I cannot talk for her journey, like, but she's obviously in a better place with her healing and everything. Like, you know, she's in a better space. Yeah, right. Like her healing has also been a journey for her, and it was not easy for her as well. And yeah, like even for us, like when our life went topsy turvy and like all of that, we were people who uh got in touch with our emotions and wanted to heal, and we figured out who we were in this phase, which is crazy because everything was around uh around us was felt like a tornado or like a twister or uh something completely unstable. But I think we found our grounding and healing at that time. It was like even when it was beat the kids or me going to therapy, it was like even no, I'm not gonna be able to get a hospital poem. No, but I want deeper healing out of this. I know this is going to mess me up for good. This is not something normal that happens. People have it worse. It could have been worse, things could have gotten worse, but it hasn't, but it is worse for us. This is not normal, right? So I want deeper healing out of this experience. I'm not willing to go with the flow, forget everything, and just concentrate on what's there in front of me because life is not what's there in front of you. Life is an entire spectrum when it comes to a person. So that's another thing, right? Like wanting more and the vision. We all write gratitude, but we also talk about creating this vision board. Yeah, exactly. For ourselves. Yeah, exactly. Like I'm a person who creates a vision board every month. Starting this year, I've started doing it. Before this, I used to put it on just my print rest. But starting from this year, I actually print out whatever I need and then make a little uh even your uh, like you know, you have friends who have manifested a life into reality through vision board, like a couple of sisters who did it for themselves. But think about it. One side you're taught to write gratitude, be it your teachers or anybody have this vision, have the vision board is ambition. Yeah, exactly. So they it's like it's like years on end of contemplation without any clarity and like you know, generational stuff that's been passed off without being mindful. Yeah. But in today's world, yeah, it is like, but where do you think that conditioning came from, Reev? I have no idea. For one, just for myself, I have never really like given in to this conditioning, or I have never really, you know, let that affect me. But I do know that therapy is. But you have been told that we have been told that when happens. Yeah, but I honestly don't care. Because I honestly don't, because see, the gratitude journal coexists with the vision. I honestly don't care, it came out a little too organically. Yeah. Because in introspection, I really don't. I mean, you can be really nice, you can be good, you can be kind and just and still say, I don't care. I mean, I want to say something else, but I can't in front of the camera. You still can't. You can be. I mean, you can be kind and still be a but I took everything out of your body to say that in front of camera. Generally, because if you're kind, it doesn't mean that you can uh get taken for a ride, right? Not by anyone, even by the society, I feel. And yeah, of course, we all as humans, we all as a society, we have had a certain way of life, we have had a certain way of living, but is that the only way? It's not. My journal, for example, has a gratitude journal site, and then there's a vision board in the beginning of every month. I fill out both. If I did just one and not the other, then I'm not being loyal to myself. Yeah. So that on a journal is fine because it's aesthetic purpose and everything and all, but then in life, when you say, hey, yeah, this is my life, but this is where I want to be, that ambition can sometimes be uh mistaken for cockiness, or that ambition can be mistaken for gratefulness. Rebellion. That ambition can be mistaken for ungrateful and all of that. But why is that so? No. But you know, I feel like all of that is just the opinion of society or people who are who probably want to be you, but they are scared of being you because they probably cannot be you. They are restricting themselves. Yeah. So that kind of sense. Yeah, that kind of conditioning, I feel, comes from people who are just afraid to be their authentic self. So you know, I read I read this very recently, I don't even remember what. That one thing that people hate in you is the one thing they're scared of being themselves. Yeah, and also the one thing they judge about you is how they think. Exactly. So hate is actually love gift wrap differently. Ew, so toxic. Yeah, when they say, Oh, I hate that. Someone really does not like something about you, and if they really matter, they'd come and have a conversation about it with you. But these people who just, you know, sit outside and say, Yeah, I hate that, they're the ones first who don't matter. Second of all, their opinions don't matter. Third of all, what they hate is just something they don't understand. Yeah, yeah. That is very true. Something that they're scared of, something they don't understand, comes also down to like hate. But also, I feel hate is uh too strong a term, more like uh do not approve. Like, you know, that's the word. I think do not approve is uh the everybody is just flawed, everybody wants better for themselves. Nobody in today I can I I don't think anybody can, unless and until you're a sannyasi or like one somebody who's given up all kinds of things in like seven things. Nobody is perfect. First of all, I don't understand what perfect is. Yeah, yeah. I don't think anyone is human, yeah, right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, so this whole concept of telling somebody uh you cannot want more, you cannot. I mean, are we really put on this earth to settle down or limit ourselves? We are not, no, we're definitely not put on this earth to limit ourselves or settle down or play by the rule book or anything like that. It is okay to be grateful and to still want more and have a vision board. And I think this life, we're not meant to just live it, we are meant to expand and push and live expansively expansively, exactly, because there is no more glass ceiling. Yeah, we're literally in a whole studio set recording and podcast, and there's just one man here on a phone, yeah. There's a room full of women running the show. Would you have ever thought about it? Searching for the best song for your next studio. Yeah, post. Uh, okay, all right. For my next post, he is like, you know. But yeah, like, you know, we have actually wanted more. We did just not just settle down, right? Like being grateful, that does that doesn't mean you need to be complacent or settle down about it. For this, for example, this studio, right? Yeah, it was on our mission. We were so grateful that we started our podcast last year. It was on our vision board, guys. It was on our vision board, and this was one of the things that we both wanted to do. By end of 20, yeah, because we were shooting in our mom's home. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. We don't, you know. By 2026, we wanted to have our own studio space, but in my mind, I was thinking by end of 2026, yeah, but although I do have loans and I'm paying them, we feel like an adult doing it. That's okay. Yeah, that's okay. I think that's when you become an adult. Yeah, just because you have loans doesn't mean you can still live. You can't live this long time. No, I think that's a flex, right? Like when people leave comments like, oh, do you need backup to do something like this? Girl, no backup. But then I told her I said, this is not about having a backup or not, it's just about you wanting to do something for yourself. That means you're living. Yeah, that's so wow. Yeah, I'd have been scared of you. I'm not an algae, you know, to just be like, I know, I know. I'm a human. That's right. That's right. Yeah. So yeah, then again, you know, coming back to what we were talking about. Yeah. We were so grateful that we started this podcast last year, but that didn't stop us from wanting our own separate studio space. We never thought of how it was gonna happen. Well, I did think of where. I wanted this nice cute little small thought of it. Lots of garden around so that tea time and all we can sit outside and have coffee. And no, we all have to be jolly. I had we I have a feeling we'll still have that like someday, like just for fun, maybe. Ah, the company, they'll definitely say, yeah, greedy, greedy. Mama, so now greedy now, that's greedy for you. But this is like we are expanding. We are living in the world. Like we're setting standards for ourselves, our team, and where we are heading together as a team. So I never really thought of okay, how are we gonna get this studio? Where is this studio gonna be? When is it gonna happen? None of that. I just said, okay, next year we should have our own space. We shouldn't just be shooting out of mommy's house. And then push came to shove, and life pushed us into this corner, literally cornered us. And we have cornered. So we yeah, truly. And then this has kind of opened up a different kind of door. Yeah, we have this beautiful space, which is home, which is our studio, which feels amazing. Yeah, and we come for work over again. Yeah, this is us having wanted more, yeah. And I'm still sitting on this couch and saying, I still want that garden around where I can have. I want to get that Podmaster's award. That's what I want. I want to make an impact. I want to have more experiences, I want to have more opportunity for me, my team, my co-host, and for my kids to look back and say, hey, mom did so phenomenally great along with her aunt. Yeah, so I feel like everyone's doing this with a purpose. Nobody's, although people might think that this is for fun, this is not for fun. This is truly to like create a ripple effect of uh impacting people in ways, big, big and small, while this might not while still staying grounded. Yeah, every every episode I feel like we get new listeners. Every episode, yeah, as long as it like resonates, even this topic, as long as it resonates with one person. Yeah, like even if one person sitting somewhere, sitting in their car, sitting on a train, sitting, you know, trying to go to bed in the night, listening to it, if it resonated with them, like if they had a thought, oh, and am I being ungrateful by wanting more? Am I settling down? Let me settle down. Don't settle down, want more. You can be grateful, you can want more. Wanting more and still being grateful, there's nothing wrong with it. If we resonated with even one of you, I think that's a great, great win for us. Today we've been styled uh by Atra uh styling by Pavitra Pavitra, and she has gone in for this brand called It's 530 Somewhere by Mahima, and they do comfortable silk linen clothes outfits. We're really, really comfortable in. These outfits are honestly super comfortable and readable in nature, and it's so easy for me to just stay in them. I really love how um Pavitra and from Atra actually went for a full linen look this time. Yeah, which feels very summery and nice. So yeah. So yeah, 5 30 somewhere by Mahima. And our jewelry partners today are our earrings, are from uh Sri Vasuvis, Diana stove. They have uh silver fine jewelry and they have a variety of jewelry. Probably you're just seeing these traditional jewelry that uh they are so good at, but they also have some modern chic, everyday uh elements like these that we both are wearing. Yeah, I love it actually. I didn't expect it. So I'd totally be like wearing this all day long, all day, every day. So yeah, this is these are our outfit details from today. And if you like any of these, please be sure to shop them on either 535. Or call our stylist. If you like this episode, please like, share, share, and subscribe, comment, and tell us which part of this episode you really like. Tell us probably one thing you're really grateful for, and tell us one thing that you really want to make happen in your life. This was two piece in a pod on being grateful and still wanting more.