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Generational Decoding
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Join us this week as we decode slang from different generations!
Welcome back to Deep Thoughts with Holly and Haley. This week's episode focuses on generational phrases and how to decode them.
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SPEAKER_02Hello. So this week, instead of an email or uh someone sending us a voice memo, we actually have kind of a fun episode. So uh as you know, Haley and I are from different generations. We are. We are uh but not far apart, you know.
SPEAKER_01No.
SPEAKER_02Uh but there are some things like I will reference sometimes, and she's like, what are you talking about? And she'll reference stuff, and I'm like, I don't totally know that, but that sounds cool. Um, so I thought it would be fun to do a little decoding um because there are a lot of phrases that our generations have used. I know my son says bruh all the time. And I'm like, dude, what? No. And so um just trying to figure out what are the children saying? Like, what does this mean? And so what are the what are these children saying? So I thought that it would be fun for Haley and I to talk from our generational perspectives about like what was popular slang and phrases back in our day, and try to figure out what it means, and then expanding on that, we're gonna go back a little in time of what the old folks would say and now what the youth say and try and decode and figure out what the hell does that mean?
SPEAKER_01So I am technically Gen Z. Um, because Gen Z starts in 97 and goes through 2012. Okay. So I was born in 97. Okay. So I'm like the very first group technically considered Gen Z.
SPEAKER_02So I'm technically considered a geriatric millennial. Or um So I was born in the early 80s, but um that's also called Exenial, which is which is from 1980 to 85. So individuals who fall in there are basically a cross between Generation X and a millennial. So millennials end in what 96? Yeah, I guess so. Which I don't know what I have in common with you know, like by 96, you know, yeah. Getting towards high school there. So, but whatever. It's like same with mine.
SPEAKER_01Like I'm weird and Z, which ended in 2012, and I would have been yeah, in ending high school.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, it's it's weird. It doesn't make sense anyway. So, but our generations, which for me was much more the 90s, I have a lot of these catchphrases and slangs and you know that I know that, you know, I'm like, oh gosh, I wonder if Haley would know that. And I'm sure there's a plethora of things that she's gonna throw out that would be like, what does that mean?
SPEAKER_01And I feel like I know a lot of the like more recent ones, even maybe not like the ones now, but like Because you worked with high school. I worked with high schoolers, so whatever they were saying, I kind of picked up on. Like, oh, that's I've heard that before.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, so Haley's going around saying skibbity toilet all the time.
SPEAKER_01That one never made it to me. It did make it to my fiance who works in middle school. Awesome. So he had the skibbity toilet. I don't know I still don't know what that means.
SPEAKER_02My son has been saying ton tun tons of whore, and I was like, Who are you calling a whore? What is that? I So it's part of this like 99 Nights in the forest, and like all yeah, ton tun tons of whore. It's a name, like a person's name. Like you have to say, you know, yeah. And I thought he was saying that someone was a whore.
unknownYeah.
SPEAKER_02But I was like, we do not, you never say that. That is horrible. I never want to hear that again. He's like, mom, mom, mom, I'm calling somebody's name. And I'm like, what does that mean? So trying to and and talk about bridging the gap because I basically, you know, I came from the 80s and 90s, and this kid's growing up nowadays, so there is a huge generational gap between my son and I. So um, okay. Do you want to start?
SPEAKER_01Well, yeah, you start with your phrases here.
SPEAKER_02Alright, are you ready for this? Sure. Okay. Uh, so I'm gonna give you this phrase all that and a bag of chips.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, I've heard that.
SPEAKER_02What does that mean?
SPEAKER_01It's like you're you're all that and a bag of chips. You're you're all that and a little bit more.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, you think that you are everything. Yeah. That's right. Mm-hmm. Good job. Uh this one is uh oh, we used to say like talk to the hand because the face don't understand. What does that mean? I don't know.
SPEAKER_01I mean, like I guess like I don't really want to talk to you. Like what you're saying is garbage. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Like I've turned it off. Like um, hold the phone.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. Like, wait, hold on. Wait a second.
SPEAKER_02Yep. Wait, wait, hold the phone. Yep, yeah, exactly. Um, let's see. I wave my magic wand and say poof, be gone. Good goodbye. Goodbye. Yeah, like you out of here. Like, I'm not even dealing with this exactly. What? It was a it was a beautiful time. Um, as if. Yeah that came from Clueless, but what does it mean?
SPEAKER_01As if, like, I don't believe that.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, like disbelief, rejection. Yeah, yeah, like like good luck. Like, you want to get with me? As if. Um, debom.
SPEAKER_01You're great.
SPEAKER_02She is debom, absolutely. Yeah. Um, I love this one. Take a chill pill. Yeah, I like that one. What does it mean? Calm down. Exactly. Mmm.
SPEAKER_01You are a fly. You are good looking, you have good style. Yes. Yes. She is fat. Um, she has a body. Yeah. Hot. Hot body.
SPEAKER_02Haley, you buggin'.
SPEAKER_01You're crazy.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. Like, you're overreacting. Yeah. Like, chill. Yeah. It's fine. We gotta bounce.
SPEAKER_01We gotta go. Absolutely. Exactly.
SPEAKER_02Oh, my bad.
SPEAKER_01Just my bad. Sorry.
SPEAKER_02It means I messed up. Yeah. Oh man, that that's my bad. That's on me. That's okay. I I messed up. Sorry about that. How much do you mess up? Regularly. Well, oh, this is another favorite of mine. You're dipping in the Kool-Aid and you don't even know the flavor.
SPEAKER_01I've never heard that before, but I kind of love it.
unknownReally?
SPEAKER_02You've never heard that? Okay. So you're dipping in the Kool-Aid and you don't even know the flavor.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. Like you're you're getting into this, but you don't really know what's going on.
SPEAKER_02Totally. Yes. Yes. Um, you're involved in this conversation and You shouldn't be. You shouldn't be, and you have no information to contribute. Yeah. So yeah. Yeah. And there's always the drink in the Kool-Aid, which actually comes from a cult. Yeah. From what Jonestown? It's Jonestown.
SPEAKER_01And it wasn't Kool-Aid. It was um It was Kool-Aid. It was um it was an off-brand of Kool-Aid.
SPEAKER_02Well, yes.
SPEAKER_01It was, what was it called? Flavorade.
SPEAKER_02Yes. It was Flavor Aid. It was. But basically, so the idea is you're you're drinking the Kool-Aid. That means that, you know.
SPEAKER_01You're getting on board. You're on the bandwagon.
SPEAKER_02You're on the bandwagon of what somebody's saying, so you're drinking the Kool-Aid.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Alright. Give me your generation.
SPEAKER_01That's so funny.
SPEAKER_02Isn't that fun?
SPEAKER_01Okay. So some of these I feel like I don't even know. Um. And ours is more like Gen Z is much more um like words. More so than phrases. If that makes sense. Yes. You guys are more text. Yeah, it's more texting. It's more um. Yeah. Okay, so the first one is which I've never said, but I know what it means, is Delulu. Crazy. Delusional. Delusional. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Oh, you're Delulu.
SPEAKER_01Um, she's the goat.
SPEAKER_02Greatest of all time.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. Killing it. Um, again, I this I I've heard my like high schoolers say this, but like this was so far beyond me. Yeah. Um Pookie. Like my boo? Yeah, like someone you love deeply. Oh, Pookie. Yeah. Um, some of my kids will call me Pookie.
SPEAKER_02No.
SPEAKER_01Like in an endearing way. Oh. Like my actual kids are like. It was it was cute. Then it was mostly my girls. Yeah. So it was sweet. Um cap. Shoot somebody?
SPEAKER_02Like, I'm gonna put a cap in your ass?
SPEAKER_01No, cap is a lie.
SPEAKER_02That's a lie. Oh, oh. Because if you bust a cap on somebody like that's you bust in some kneecap, and yeah, no cap.
SPEAKER_01If somebody says no cap, no lie.
unknownRight?
SPEAKER_01Yeah, like I'm serious. Yeah. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Okay.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. Um, a vibe.
SPEAKER_02A feeling you get, like that kind of energy. Yeah, I love vibe. That's a vibe. Hey, Haley has a vibe.
SPEAKER_01I use vibe a lot. I say vibe a lot.
SPEAKER_02I do too. I say vibe sometimes too. Like getting some weird vibes here.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. Um, Riz. He's got Riz. He's got swagger. He's got charming flirty. Yeah. Yeah. I don't use that one.
SPEAKER_02I don't either. Um, to flex. To like show off. Like, look at my money. Look at my flexin'. Um, drip. Um faucet.
SPEAKER_01It's apparently um that your fashion is impressive. Like you've got a nice drip.
SPEAKER_02At my age. Your look. If you get a nice drip, you better get some panty liners. That means that when you cough, things are happening. Things are happening. And you better get to the puppy. It's so funny. She's got drip.
SPEAKER_01Oh god. I'm gonna be an adult diaper soon. Yeah. Um no, I don't I don't use that one. That's funny. Um, sus.
SPEAKER_02Oh, suspect. You're questionable.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, shady. Um, bet. Bet!
SPEAKER_02Like, yes. Yeah, like let's do it. Yeah. Like, mm-hmm. It's on.
SPEAKER_01I really hate that one. Like when kids say it like to me, I'm like, okay.
SPEAKER_02You know what? I'm glad to know that. And I promise you, from this point on, I will use it all the time.
SPEAKER_01Bet very well. Oh gosh. Okay, um, mid.
unknownEh.
SPEAKER_01Okay. Yeah. Basic. I don't use that one either.
SPEAKER_02Slay. Yes, girl. Like, you got this. Like, look at you, Queen.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, you did amazing. Um, saying something is fire.
SPEAKER_02Hot. It's fuego. Like, yes, it looks amazing.
SPEAKER_01Love it. Yeah. Hot. Um, saying something is busin'. Busin'? Bussin'.
SPEAKER_02I've heard this one. I don't use that. Why Dagnabit, that is just another mode of transportation. Uh because it's not bicycling. It's you're busin'.
SPEAKER_01That means you don't have a car? No. You're busin' a table? Though uh it means very tasty or awesome. Like this sandwich is busin'.
SPEAKER_02I don't know a lot of sandwiches that need transportation, but I mean, y'all, y okay, kids.
SPEAKER_01That's what it is. Sure. It's a business. Um, this one I don't I think I've ever heard anybody say Sigma.
SPEAKER_02Is it like you are Sigma? Like you are um like high in the hierarchy? This says it means lone wolf confidence. Oh, like the Sigma Alpha, like I guess so. Sure. Okay. Um, ghosted. Oh, we know that one.
SPEAKER_01We are notorious for that.
SPEAKER_02We're ghosters. Yeah. Um, low-key. Like, like, we're gonna keep this low-key, like on the down low. People don't need to know about this. That's what Haley and I do all the time.
SPEAKER_01But sorry, can't help it. Sorry. I use I say low-key a lot. Yeah, hikey.
SPEAKER_02I want everybody to know. I'm gonna go on social media and post about this. Yeah, I don't use that one as much.
SPEAKER_01Um, main character. The focus, the center of attention. Yeah. Um, touch grass. You like smoking doobies? Uh it means to come back to reality. Like if someone says go touch grass. Okay.
SPEAKER_02So my grandma used to say go to grass, which means get out of here.
SPEAKER_01Like, go to grass. Okay. Interesting.
SPEAKER_02Okay.
SPEAKER_01Um, and then you have a W and an L. What a life. Well, I'm not going to be able to do it. No, like a no, like a d they got that W. They got that Weight Watchers. They got the win.
unknownWhat?
SPEAKER_01Like, like if a team won, they'll say, oh, they got the W.
SPEAKER_02Oh, so they got the they won something. Okay. Or they lost.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, so they they took an L.
SPEAKER_02Y'all, kids, use words. Stop this. I've heard that. They seem suspect. They won the game. Oh, they lost the game. Like, this is text talk. Yeah, it pretty much is.
SPEAKER_01Jeez. Yeah. Um. The other ones that I find myself saying. Um it's giving. Giving what? That is the question. It's giving. Like your decorations it's giving fall. It's giving cozy. Okay. That's the vibe.
SPEAKER_02So you're oh so you're gonna come into my house and go like, oh my god, it's giving. And I'm like, who's giving what?
SPEAKER_01What's giving who? What is happening? It's giving fall. It's giving cozy. Okay. It's giving clean.
SPEAKER_02It's giving old. Yes, okay. Yeah. Huh. My house is giving clutter. So can I just go somewhere and go, oh, it's giving.
SPEAKER_01And just You can. People might be like, it's giving what? Okay, well. Like you need the vibe. You gotta add the vibe. It's giving vibe. Like Riz? Whatever the vibe is. So giving a Riz vibe. So Travis got my brother got really pissed off me one day because he came in in this when he was still working for the Chick-fil-A. Um, he came in their like trainer shirts or whatever, and they're like this red and white like pinstripe. And I went, It's giving candy striper. Uh huh. And he was like, it don't ever say it's giving again. That's like, why would you say that? So then do you say it all the time? I say it all the time.
SPEAKER_02That's amazing to know. I'm gonna file that in my brain.
SPEAKER_01I say it all the time.
SPEAKER_02I'm gonna do it.
SPEAKER_01I still I think he's over it now.
SPEAKER_02Um and then I'm shook. Like, oh my gosh, like blown away, like overwhelmed by what you're saying. Yeah. Um, the tea, sipping the tea. Girl, I wanna know everything. Tell me the dirt. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, that's I mean, that's kind of the main ones I feel like. I'm sure there's so many other ones that I don't know, but those are the ones that I like to know.
SPEAKER_02So yours is like a lot more tech speak because it's like cut off, it's short, it's yeah, you know, and and almost like a code that you have to decode in a way. Yes. Ours is so damn long. Can you imagine me trying to text out, you know, which is why I do a lot of talk to text because mine are usually longer with periods and that kind of thing. But um, because again, I'm old. But I do think about like, could you imagine trying to type into text, you know, dipping in the Kool-Aid and don't even know the flavor? Like, that would take a hot minute. You know? Yeah.
SPEAKER_01So, but it's okay. But um, but have you seen the things where like the videos where you they'll have somebody from like even like my generation and like a high schooler or middle school kid now, and they'll be like, Okay, if you're gonna gesture to somebody to pick up the phone, what would you do? And like I do the same the thumb and the pinky, like I'm on the phone, and a kid that's never had a like flip phone or a wall phone or you know, landline or whatever, they like hold like an iPhone and like tap on it.
SPEAKER_02I typically will either do the tin can uh or the one, you know, on the wall that bring where you have to um turn it. The um rotary. Yeah, well, and you you put the little piece to your piece and then you speak into it. Uh yeah, into the little horn. Yeah, and you're like, hello, operator. It's me. Did y'all have a rot did you have a rotary phone at home?
SPEAKER_01Hush.
SPEAKER_02Yes.
SPEAKER_01Well, you had one at my grandmother's house. I did.
SPEAKER_02I had a I did. Early on, we had a rotary phone when I was little, and then as I got older, we had what was called a princess phone. So a princess phone um was one that wasn't on the wall, but it was it obviously had a cord, but it had sort of a curvature to it, and it was called a princess phone. So we had one of those, and then when I was in junior high, I got one that lit up. Like you could see the wires through it, and when it rang, it would light up. I remember these. And we used to do three ways all the time. Yeah. Calls three ways. Calls. Me and my friends on my parents, so someone would call your house, my parents would answer. I just did that same phone. Yeah. Pick up the phone.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, yep.
SPEAKER_02And Holly, it's Philip or you know, it's Melissa or whoever's calling, you know, okay. And so then I would say, Hang up, and they would hang up and I would pick up, hey, oh, we should totally do a three-way with Jessica. And so it'd be like, Okay, hold on. And then they would hold on, and then I would click out, you know, and then call up so and so, and then we'd click back, and then we were all three on, and we had a three-way, and we'd be talking. It was so cool. Yeah. And we didn't have caller ID until about the mid-90s. We got a caller ID, like it was separate from the phone, it wasn't on the phone. And so when somebody'd call, and I'll never forget it was Bell South, and it would go ring, and then it would come up, and you could have it talk. So then it would be like, call from Johnny Smith, you know, and I was like, whoa! And we had answering machines when I was a kid, so something major would happen and they would leave it on your answering machine.
SPEAKER_01We did not have an answering machine in the house. Oh my god, you had one outside. Yeah, it was outside. Um no, I remember we had the we had a wall phone that was literally on the wall and it was corded. Yep. Um, and it was white. I remember that. And then we had one that it was huge. I mean, it was like a big old phone, um, and it would had a base. Oh, yeah, the cordless phone. It was cordless. And then we upgraded to the Like slim, like they were smaller cordless phones. VTEX. I think they were VTEX. Yeah. We had one downstairs and one upstairs. Yep. Um, and then I think after that was cell phones.
SPEAKER_02So um I had a calling card in college to be able to call. I had a dorm phone and uh a number for my dorm phone. I had um a voicemail on the dorm phone. It was actually an answering machine with the phone and you would just press it back. Um yeah, golly, you we had star 69. Yeah, I remember 69 call somebody back.
SPEAKER_01Um Yeah, we had um I mean our the cell phones were the like little flip phones. I mean, we had the little, I mean they didn't do anything but call. Right. Um, and then like texting kind of started. But you had the limited text per month. I think when I got my first cell phone, I was in middle school because my middle school was about driving, it's about 30 minutes from where I lived on the bus. It was like a long time. Yeah. Um, so I had a little cell phone. Tiny little because I was bus and a tiny little was gray. Um, didn't have like a front screen or anything, and I had I think 250 texts a month I could send.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. Yeah. So there were no such thing as text. Um had an early cell phone. Um, but we did have 250 minutes and it was free on nights and weekends, so after seven. Um, and I went over it all the time. It charged my parents a lot of extra money. They were pissed at me. So yeah, but I think it was free if someone called you. So it could have been that thing of where you're like, okay, quick, call me back. Click and you know, try it the other way. But um, I also remember my dad had a car phone.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, the my grandfather had a car phone.
SPEAKER_02It was on a s like a stick.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. Yeah. And then um the you couldn't call after nine. Or you could, it was free after nine.
SPEAKER_02I thought it was seven, but maybe it was nine. I don't know. I don't remember. Who knows?
SPEAKER_01But um like I remember my mom waiting to call people until after I feel like it was nine.
SPEAKER_02Maybe that's sound. That feels ungodly to me. At this point in my life, if someone called me after nine, I'm like, you better be dying. There better be an emergency, you better be dying.
unknownYeah.
SPEAKER_02That's probably how I would have had that. Um gosh, it's funny how quickly technology changes because I remember just very well, you know, we didn't have the internet, we didn't have social media, none of that existed when I was a kid. I think that I was the we were the last generation that didn't grow up with any of that. Yeah. Because I didn't have a cell phone until I was, I mean, well into the end of high school.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_02And again, it was only for emergencies because it didn't have minutes on it, didn't have time, you know, you didn't you couldn't do anything on it, didn't even have games. Like there was nothing to do on it. Yeah. Um, it had an antenna. Yeah. It did. And so there was just I don't know. Um maybe it was a much more simpler time.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, the social media, my like my age group was we were at the very end of MySpace.
SPEAKER_02I never had a MySpace.
SPEAKER_01In the very beginning of Facebook. Okay. So I never had a MySpace. Me neither. But I had a Facebook when it first really started.
SPEAKER_02So when I was in college, there was AIM, which was our instant messenger, and we would instant message people. Um, so that was like, whoa, so cool. Um, and I had had dial up internet forever. So when I went off to college and they had DSL, we were like, oh, whoa, which was like way faster. Um, but now it would be laughable. Um, but yeah, it was pretty cool. Um and and you know, we didn't know any different. But I do remember logging on to the internet, which was based on your phone. So if somebody called your house, it would knock you off the internet. Oh, I would get so pissed. Mom, I was downloading a picture from Boymate's World. What are you doing? You know? Yeah. So it was like I said, it was a simpler, simpler time.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, I think that's what like freaks me out about. And I'm sure, you know, you with a you know, first grader now, but like He's not on the internet. He's not on the internet, but nor does he have a phone. No. Um, but like thinking about like, you know, I'm hoping to have kids in the future, and that's so like it's so scary. Yes. And like Marquise and I were talking about it actually at dinner the other night, about like we we want to be really intentional about you know, not doing the whole iPad thing and not doing like I don't know. I mean, we're not like against screens, right? Because like I grew up with TV and I think we're fine. Um depends. But I don't know, I just I'd like to not introduce the iPad. I don't know.
SPEAKER_02I don't know. I didn't for a long time. I really, really didn't. I had a secret iPad that I didn't even use. Um, but I had it for a long time. And over like this January, actually. Yeah. So, you know, he goes back and forth, but for the most part, he's with me. And we had a ma massive snowstorm, and literally he was out of school for three weeks. I this is no joke, and I was working from home and it was extremely hard. He's an only child. It's freezing outside, there are no other other kids. We had an ice storm, it was just hotness. So he was FaceTiming with his little friend, um, whom he calls his girlfriend. And she was saying to him, Oh, oh, you need to get um, you need to play Minecraft with me. And he's like, Well, I can. I don't yeah. And so um he kept bugging me about it, bugging me about it, and I was like, I don't know. And and her mother was like, Well, she has it on her iPad, so maybe you can just like show him how to do it. And I was so like kind of to my point of like, I'm gonna lose my mind, I have to work, this is so hard. Okay, here. Yeah. And I think that it was kind of that, and and I wish now that I had been like, no, sorry, you know.
SPEAKER_01I mean let's do what you gotta do. I mean, there's like I have no judgment for parents that do it.
SPEAKER_02But here's what I will say, because I too was the person who was like, I'm not, they're not watching on this TV, they're not doing that, they're not doing this or that. When you're a parent and you are like, Oh, we're just trying to get by in this moment. We are struggling. Is he on it in 24-7? He is not. He is not. Um, he goes outside, he plays with his friends.
SPEAKER_01I feel like I rarely ever s see him on it.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, I mean, he really isn't on it a ton.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_02He really isn't. And here lately he's done a lot of, he loves what's called letterland, which is um your phonics and your letters and things they do at school. And so I have that on the iPad. He has iReady Math, which is what they do at school. So he's doing his math on the tab. So a lot of times when he is on the tablet, it's not like he's, you know, just playing, it's actual educational things.
SPEAKER_01Well, and the thing is now, like, even at schools, like they they do.
SPEAKER_02I have to find a thing that says he can be on a Chromebook.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, they like have to have some sort of tech savviness. And he is at a young age, which freaks me out a little bit. It freaks me out too.
SPEAKER_02But but at the same time, I think that you know, there are benefits to technology, like in those ways. But yeah, I mean it's so hard. But I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt, he is not going to have a cell phone anytime soon.
SPEAKER_01Um what what's the age you think? Because we had said mm like for us it's gonna be would we hope, I mean, again, this could all change, but I would think like a very basic uh cell phone type situation probably middle school. Just because they would be so far away from us. I agree. And we anticipate, you know, we want our kid to be involved in extracurricular activities, and so with practices and hey, can you come pick me up at this time, or hey, the bus is gonna be back at this time from this game, and can you pick me up, or hey, we're gonna get food, or whatever.
SPEAKER_02Very true, very true. I yeah, I think middle school, because right now, all the activities he does, obviously, I drive him to. Right. And, you know, I could foresee that for a long time. And I think that's another piece of it. I am very much in the know of what he is doing, and he, you know, bless him, for as hard as it is, mom, look, mom, mom, watch, mom, are you watching? Mom, mom, mom. He is that kid. I want you to be involved, I want you to see what I'm doing. Yeah, and uh, you know what? I appreciate that. Yeah, because I am involved in what he's doing, I am a part of his life, and that's the thing that I do say to parents, like too, like be involved with what your kids are doing. Yeah, like be in the know. Yeah. Um, so there's no secrets in our house. Like, we know you know, I know what he's up to.
SPEAKER_01Um I think even when I got a cell phone, I remember as a kid, like, because I had the little flip phone in middle school, and I think I got a smartphone. They had just started coming out. Probably they probably started coming out when I was in middle school, but I think I got one maybe ninth or tenth grade here. So I was in high school. And even I feel like through high school maybe not through high school, I don't remember, but my phone was never in my room. Like my phone was downstairs, and my parents I knew not that they really ever did much. I mean, they did every once in a while, but they you had full access to my phone. Like at any point they could go through it, they could see what I was doing. Um so that was just kind of instilled in me.
SPEAKER_02I you know, and I think it's a part of a broader subject, but I think, you know, a lot of parents are like, ooh, you know, I I don't I want them to have privacy and I don't want to, you know, impose. And I, you know, your kid will have no privacy. Exactly. They don't need privacy because privacy creates, you know, a lot of secrets. Now I'm not saying that, you know, you need to walk in when your kids are dressing, like not that kind of privacy, but I'm talking about um on the internet or what they're doing or who they're hanging out with.
SPEAKER_01The internet is a scary place for me as an adult. It is. Um yeah, it's scary she's on the internet. Yeah, it is. She's out there, folks. Yeah, I'm out there. Um, no, if if my if I have a kid that I'm responsible for, you better believe that I will be all up in their internet business. Absolutely. Absolutely. Um, and if you're gonna be a ding-dong, ding dong you will have no internet.
SPEAKER_02There is um no child that comes with a manual. Um, you have to figure it out, and it's really hard. And every stage is hard, I think. Something I was telling my mother is that you know you think like you're in the newborn stage, and you're like, God, this is so hard. I can't wait until we're in the next stage. And the next stage comes, and there's something hard with that. Um, oh gosh, there's regression, or now, oh, what kind of solids should I start them out on? And oh, they're tummy issues, and you know, now like I've gone through all this, and I my son is six. We're kind of at this point now where he's a little more independent. Um, he's sort of branching out into things that he likes and he's interested in, and it's really cool, and he's so fun.
SPEAKER_03Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Um, but you know, it's also hard too because I want to protect him and he wants some freedom, and it's it's challenging, it really is. So every stage of parenthood is hella hard. Um, so thank your mothers and fathers because it's a hard job. Um, so speaking of this, I think that next week we will um try to maybe decode some phrases from the other generations to maybe help folks out there. So if your grandparents say something, you'll know what they mean. And if our young folks say something, you'll know what it means. Yeah. All right. Catch you next time. Bye. Bye. Deep Thoughts is a production by Holly and Haley. Social media brought to you by Holly, podcast editing by Haley, visual design by Marquez. For sponsorship opportunities, please reach out to us via email, Deep Thoughts with H at gmail.com.