Don't Listen To Them

Jonathan is doing one solo. He talks about the difficulties from the past few weeks and reminds people of time. He also reminds people that you can do it by yourself. Don't let someone fool you into thinking you can't do it without them. YOU CAN and YOU WILL!

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All I can say is that my life is pretty plain.

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I like watching the bottles gathering And all I can do is just pose a cheaper too It's meet my point of view But it's not same It's not safe I just want someone to save me Hey guys I'm back Sorry for uh bailing last week and not putting one out there This stuff is is uh it's not it's not easy like timing and if you have stuff going on it's hard to like commit um to time and that's just what it was and there was a lot going on I'll go I'll go through some of that but we're here I'm I'm by myself you know A Ava wanted to to join me um on this one but I was like no I got a lot to talk about uh I'm gonna throw this one down by myself and just have a conversation um and just talk a bit because I've been so just torn up a bit uh emotionally physically you know still I went to the gym today had a great great gym day you know that stuff's not stopping but um you know I I I last weekend I I sat down with Amy I set up the podcast equipment and I just I maybe we recorded maybe like 10 10 minutes and I looked at her and I was like I can't do this and um she's like don't do it if you can't do it and the the reason why I I just I I couldn't do it my my head wasn't right was that I we had just come back from my parents for Mother's Day it was a great mother's day my dad barbecued and I was just trying to spend some time with the family my you know my brothers and my sister were there and Amy and the kids and we were just having a a relaxing Sunday and I just wanted to spend time with my dad and that that was it uh and the the reason and I say dad on on Mother's Day because my my dad had uh a surgery this week and I think a lot of us were a little nervous about about the the surgery and and uh it's always scary right you you get older and um you you worry about things and I was I was worried last week um I was worried into the weekend and then of course uh you know with his surgery being you know this past week on uh Wednesday I would just was not feeling it at all um I didn't want to talk to anyone I I definitely didn't want to do this as you can imagine but you know uh it just is what it is so yeah uh Tuesday drove down with my parents and you know stayed down where where the the hospital was to kind of prepare my dad for surgery on Wednesday morning and um you know he goes in for surgery on Wednesday morning and um it just it didn't go well and um it was an unsuccessful surgery um you know doctors you know can do what they what they can do and and uh it was it was definitely scary I think for a lot of us because um you know you don't know what's what's gonna happen and look it I I'm a big proponent of the Davy genes I have Davy being my last name um we're strong people and but you know seeing seeing your dad in pain and and not doing well because of a complication uh with surgery just just ate at me just emotionally and really physically I I don't think I've been so tired in my life um and I think it's um you know it's just part of getting older and um just I I I guess I say all this stuff because don't take the time for granted with your loved ones um don't don't take your time for granted especially with your parents I mean if they took care of you you know at some point in time it's it's your time to give back and take care of them and you know I really wanted to be there for for my mom you know for my dads and my my siblings which which also were you know they were down there and we tried to keep it just like really just us you know and I appreciate everyone texting calling whatever but you know I we we didn't want anyone else down there um not because we don't like or don't love anyone it's just because it's just us it's a family thing I mean Amy stayed home with the kids uh luckily my uh her parents helped um you know while she had to work uh on one of the days that that we needed help that I was down there I was down there for three days um and um yeah it just makes you it really puts things into perspective about just time and the time that you have and you know you sit back and you're just like fuck I hate for me personally I hate California I want to move out I'm everything California hates yada yada taxes gas prices everything else but you know if I if I wasn't around you know I wouldn't be able to have spent the time to go do that now fortunately and unfortunately um so he's he's back home but there's gonna have to be another one so another surgery so when that time comes I'll take the time to you know to go do that and do it all over again and not because I have to it's because I want to and like I said I mean just spend the time with your family um you know hug hug everyone and you know um that's what I'm gonna be doing. I'm gonna try to spend as much time as I have and uh be around. So that was it. Uh I don't want to start with a sad story but that's really just kind of why there was no show last week and and um kind of where my head was at so you know I I came back Friday and I just slept just slept. Maybe I don't know what day it was was it Friday or Thursday? See I don't even remember uh but I you know last night I slept 14 hours and I was tired and I even took a nap yesterday I don't take naps but my body needed it I needed to just have a little bit of a reset and that's what I did and you know sometimes we we need that for ourselves and you know shout out to Amy for taking care of the house and the kids and while I was out doing my thing she was you know a ton of support you know again thank you for everyone that reached out um just asking about him asking about me how I was doing um through it all I I appreciate it um for those that you know wanted to talk to talk you know I I didn't have time I you know I still right now don't have time to just sit and talk to someone on the phone and go through it. This is you know I just wanted to put that out here here because you know maybe some of you guys have gone through something and you know maybe you've lost uh someone and didn't get the time to spend with them that you had hoped. And so those of us that still have our our families around go go go spend time with them. Go to dinner whatever to go do something with them don't don't be a lazy asshole. But yeah so that was that was my week um you know um didn't go to the gym a couple days and um went yesterday um felt felt felt fine felt good today tired even though I got 14 hours sleep uh and hit the gym and I'll probably hit it again tomorrow to make up for another day that I lost um but I'm just trying to do my thing you know for me I'm always like oh you know don't go skip skip skip gym gym's my like mental therapy um besides physical and just by myself just going in and doing my thing um I you know that this whole thing made me you know really put it together and in why I'm doing what I'm doing because I want to be around as long as he has been for my kids um and so you know you know don't don't take your family for granted uh if they're around and don't take your health for granted because you know we only get one chance on this on this planet earth and after that who knows you know what what what will happen um well after that is we all know what happens but you know um yeah so that's that and then we'll just go into it so you know I'm I'm I'm at the hospital with my family and I get this message from from this influencer. I won't say who it is uh fitness influencer these guys are all over the internet YouTube whatever and um or not YouTube Instagram and you know shout out to them whatever but not really shout out and I'll tell you why so I got hit up by this guy again I won't say who it is and was just like hey man uh and this isn't the first person that's hit me up but this one really struck a nerve uh like I literally just I want to punch this guy and uh he's like hey man I came across your profile uh I know you follow me you like some of my stuff the dude posts funny things right it's it's gym related it's health it's whatever related around what I like and he's like I saw your your pictures of your transformation you're doing great and I'm gonna have to go through this real quick I'm gonna open my Instagram because I gotta I gotta go back and read some of the message uh messages that he he sent me and um he just said um what's the biggest thing you're worried about messing up if you did this on your own okay and uh I'm not an idiot and I was immediately triggered because I was like you know I I'm doing this on my own right now and I'm not messing up and you know my response was is I'm really dialed in right now uh consistent and disciplined it's hard for me to even think negatively like that to be honest and he responded well even though you aren't thinking of the negatives it's always there whether you want to think it out or not the possibility of it happening doesn't increase decrease um and he said I get hundreds of DMs on a daily people asking me to help with their sides they're a lot more common than you may imagine do you want to risk the the uh run the risk of messing up without using me okay so I was immediately pissed off okay and my you know my response was is there's a risk walking on the you know risk walking on the street possibly getting hit by a car but like any person with common sense you keep aware of your surroundings um I said look it I like the content but not the fear mongering bullshit um to get someone to sign up with you I'm not the guy that tells I'm the guy that tells people to not waste their money on an influencer trainer and that they can do it themselves. Okay uh he didn't like that and he went at me and I won't say the rest um but I just stopped responding this is a constant fucking thing out there and I I say this you know not well I guess kind of as an attack but just really attack those certain individuals on there that think that you can't do it without them and let me just tell you I'm the first to tell you that you you can do it without them and look it I had signed up for a program in December I think I mentioned it on the first episode the last one and um it's with a buddy of mine that that put this together and he does well already as it as it is so it's not like he was breaking the bank with anyone right he was genuinely just trying to help people get healthy. He's 47 you know he's in great shape uh I'm envious of him because of the shape but that's a goal for me right I'm gonna turn 40 in a couple weeks you know my goal is to look like him when I'm 47 you know um and you know so my I did this whole series of like stories on my Instagram of just like talking about this shit because it just annoys me um you don't need to pay thousands of dollars to get healthy you don't need someone telling you that you can't do it without them my response immediately is to suck my dick okay pardon my language but suck it from the back okay um fuck off um but but this is a trend right now I I've had multiple messages of people coming at me saying that I can't do it without them and you know here's my sign up thing you know sign up and I'll help you get to where you want to do be hey can you perform skin surgery on me because that's where I'm at buddy right no you can't um I you know I did my last scan it was like 15% body fat um and I'm very happy with where I'm at right now it's a lot of work but I'm telling you right now those that are listening that want information on calories and maintenance calories and what your macros should be put together like a sample meal plan if you if you want to you know tell them how much you know ai you could tell them all this information put in put everything you could possibly think of and put it in there and it'll literally put it all together like all together for you uh it'll tell you you know what your your maintenance calories are here's what you need to to to to eat to have a deficit of 500 calories 750 calories however aggressive you want to be right and you could tweak things you can ask for a workout plan it'll literally put it together you can say okay I want to do push pull legs twice a week I want to do arms chest back whatever and split it up and it'll tell you what to use what to you know whatever um so I have my plan and I track it using the heavy app H E V Y on uh you know the app store and so I plug in everything keeps track of your how much you're lifting uh it tells you what to do on the next round I try to do a little bit of a progressive overload um and just try to increase the weights um and I can mess with it and see what works for me right but but no one's no one's gonna teach you consistency and discipline at the end of the day it really is just you right how bad do you want it how fat have you gotten to the point where you need to make a change like I needed to make a change like that I had no choice um but I did at the same time right so um fuck me but I just I got to a point where I was big I I've lost this weight uh I'm losing more weight I'm down even more uh even since the last time I did you know I talked to you guys um and look at I've been slacking on the walking I know that I gotta hold myself accountable for that and I do uh but I'm showing up at the gym um I'm trying to grow some muscle I mean that's that's the goal right and um you know I I guess I you just gotta stay off social media because those people are gonna just chase after you to make a quick dollar and at the end of the day don't give a fuck about you they don't care about you i i don't care you know uh what they say and look at like i said uh in my stories if you watch my stories on instagram there's a lot of good people out there people that care i i know some of them uh i recommend some of them but these guys that have 50 hundred two hundred thousand followers and people are just sucking on their nuts because you know just to work with them or or whatever fuck off because you know if you want to help people help people for the greater good of of health and the world I you know I don't know but don't don't go chasing down people thinking that you're the savior and that you're gonna save these people right you you can't teach like I said consistency and discipline you know no matter what plan you give them whatever plan you sell them at the end of the day it's you your mindset that will tell you whether or not you're gonna do it and for those that are out there struggling just go fucking do it there's no excuses like there's so many people that come to me and look at I'm always willing to help someone always always always help them with what I've learned from things that haven't worked things that do work I'm not charging anyone I don't want to charge anyone um and you know just help people you know um you gotta have some empathy with with a lot of this stuff I'd been there I struggled with a lot of it and whether it's depression which I talked about before or just fucking people that just don't care like I said in the beginning like you you got one life you know you if you if you're fat and you have kids I was there I didn't want to be fat anymore. Um and I'm sure my kids love it and I'm watching a damn Padre game and they just gave up a home run right now stupid mariners uh if you're from Seattle I'm sorry um I you know get healthy for the people around you they the last thing I think anyone wants to do is bury a love loved one um and especially if you you caused your own demise which again I've been there um I'm not a saint by any means and I think you can't forget where you came from and I and I think that you know for me helps me a lot because you know I'll be at dinner and then all of a sudden Matthew will send me a a picture of an old picture of me fat and it's probably because I'm eating like a salad or something like I'm I'm pretty good when I go out. I don't I don't like to eat out I don't feel good after I eat out but uh he's just like I just want to remind you of how you used to be and I I think you know the kids are always jumping on me and wrestling with me and I love all that stuff right you know go for a walk uh I was actually looking at skateboards today because I was like damn I used a skateboard that'd be cool if I just got skateboard to to roll around in and I don't know maybe I can do a kickflip again I you know I don't know but I it's cool to think that I feel good enough to do something like that right and um it was it was really cool the other night on on Tuesday night before before we went to the the hospital for the surgery we we had a nice day out my my my brother um and my mom and my dad we went out to a nice dinner um then we we walked around uh the mall down there and just kind of hanging out and uh people watched a bit and then we ended up at Dave and Buster's and we were I was playing Mario Kart against my dad we were shooting um you know basketball and I I could shoot the hell out of a ball and I I could sit there for fuck for hours now just shooting um and uh playing all these games and whatever um man it was so much fun it's just so much fun and you know you look back at like you know I think he's told stories about like going to um like theme parks and not being able to ride roller coasters and thinking about all that stuff and all the the things that I wasn't able to do because Because of the situation I put myself into. And I can do all this stuff now. And I'm I'm telling you, if you're listening and you can't do that stuff with your kids, get healthy. Go go you know, go for a walk right now. Seriously, go for a walk right now. Start, start. And don't wait for Monday. Don't wait for some fucking fad thing. Just go start it. Go do it. For yourself and for your family. Um and you know, again, don't don't let someone tell you that you can't do it without them. Because how ridiculous is that? Like, just think about it. And I'm a sarcastic prick, so then I I wanted to keep going, but I've learned over the years that it's just not worth getting into an argument and starting whatever with stupid people. And there's a lot of stupid people out there. And you know, and it just even goes, and I'll bring this up once because it just so annoys me. It's like, you know, I was down there and I got a call from a friend, and she's like, Oh, did you see this picture? All these people out, you know, you weren't there. And I was like, I don't give a fuck if I'm not there or not, dude. Like, you know, at some point, you needed to tell someone to fuck off so that way you yourself you can level up yourself. Um, uh you know, being around people that drag you down, being around people that drink and constant party. What good is that for you? It's not good for me. I'm so glad I got away from all that stuff. And not to say that you know, some of those people aren't good people, but for myself and where I needed to be, it was like perfect timing, right? And if you're in the same situation, just tell someone to fuck off. And it'll literally just put you in a better spot for reels. Don't be afraid um to tell someone the fuck off. Um and yeah, I just I don't know. Life, life is life is what you make of it, and I'm here and I probably sound like I'm just exhausted and tired, but I gotta tell you, I'm like the happiest I've ever been. And even though situations could be better, I guess. Um, you know, you have to make the most of it. Like today, I you know Amy works, so I took the kids out. We went for uh for lunch, took them to Teppanyaki, had fun, and then went to the store and bought them some clothes because they're growing. And it was fun. I I love spending time with my kids. I think it's I think it's awesome. And shout out to those dads that are doing that too. Um, Mother's Day was also for me, too. Uh, I take a lot I like to take a lot of pride in being a good dad. Um, I take a lot of pride in being a good husband, too. Um, and a good son, and a good brother, um, and a good friend. Um, and you know, that's one of the reasons why I wanted to put this podcast together to begin with. And you know, it was so awesome getting the feedback from the first episode because we did it, and I was like, all right, cool, we did it. Let's see how it goes. But I instantly like all the downloads, like it was crazy. We got you know over a hundred listens. I don't know. If you're listening and this is your second episode, dude, shout out. That's so awesome. Um, you know, I wanted to do this to just relate with people, to talk to people, have a conversation, and be vulnerable and just talk about something. Maybe it maybe it doesn't relate to you, maybe it does. Maybe you've been in the same situation as me. Maybe, like I said, you have a family member that's not doing well, and you want to spend more time with them, go spend more time with them. Um, you know, that's really what it comes down to is just being happy, being healthy, and living the best life that you can as a human being. Um, you know, and I I joke a lot. I joke fucking probably too much than a lot of people. I also have a bad mouth, but I'm gonna fucking stop. Okay, that's just part of who I am. But sometimes, you know, having conversations, just talking, and even if it's to no one uh you know, with a microphone in front of you, sometimes it feels good just to get things off your chest. And you know, I guess I say that because you know, the people that are listening on the other side, you're not alone either. You know, uh doesn't matter what it is, don't internalize things. You know, no one needs stress. Just figure it out. Everyone's going through something, you're not the only one. Um be be open, uh be vulnerable, and you know, a simple conversation is would be worth everything. Um so yeah, like I said, I'm just sitting sitting in front of my TV with a mic, uh, talking to you guys while watching a baseball game. So, and then you're probably hearing my dog walking because he's a big monster. Um But yeah, I just wanted to put something out there. This is not wasn't gonna be a long episode. I hate that Amy's not doing it with me, but I figured it would just be good for me to just come on here and and talk about just kind of what the last week or so has been. Um but we're you know, I'm here. Uh my dad's here. My brothers and my sister and my mom are here. Um, you know, and like I said, if you have those people around, man, go give them a hug, go spend time with them, have them over for a barbecue. Um but but saying that, let me just say that I think it's really important to not wait until things uh are bad to reach out to someone. I think it's really important to reach out to someone, you know, it's it the it goes both ways. I think that people that only reach out when things are bad. Uh I'm not a fan. I'm not a fan at all. Reach out when things are good, you know. Reach out when just to say hi. Call someone and say hi. Shoot a text over, just be around. Don't don't not talk to someone for months and then find out someone's not doing well, and then be like, oh, I should probably text to see how things are going. Fuck off. And look at that's just me saying it. Someone might get mad that I said it, but just is what it is. I don't care if you're blood or whatever. Uh reach out to your family, see how they're doing. Um, don't like I said, don't wait until something's something's bad. I just hate that so much because by that time it's too late, right? Go see them before you can't see them again. Talk to them before they can't talk to you again. Um to me, that's all common sense stuff. Um, but again, you know, those that reached out to me this week that knew I you know, I didn't say anything. Um, you know, I'd it's not something that I wanted to just like air out there, but you know, thank you to those that that had reached out that had known. Um and hopefully the next time, you know, the this happens, then it'll go well, and then we'll be all in the clear. That's that's my hope, that's my prayer. Um, and you know, that's it. So anyway, I just want to throw this out there as a quick one, 30 minutes or so. Um, love you guys. Um the next episode will probably be better. You know, Ava wants to do it with me, so maybe I'll get Ava on with me and I'll do a double one this week. Uh, she wants an e-bike. She can try to persuade me on a podcast about why I should get her an e-bike, even though everyone around me is telling me no. Uh, it might be for, you know, it might be a fun time. So um, you know, those that have kids in school, you got we got a couple weeks left of freedom before the kids are out of school and they're home terrorizing us, eating us out of house and home. I wish that there was an option for summer school because I would just send them every fucking year. Um, I'm just joking, but kind of not really. Anyway, guys, um, thanks for listening. What a stupid thing this whole thing is, but uh, I really appreciate it. Uh and then we'll be back. Have a great weekend.