Collette Emily: How Fashion Helped Me Heal and Find Purpose

We sit down with global stylist and creative director Colette Emily to trace a remarkable arc from a joyous, technicolour childhood influence to the hardest chapters of grief and recovery and the inner toolkit that turned pain into purpose. 

Colette’s signature framework, seen, noticed, remembered, flips style from trends to truth, helping anyone define the emotions they want to radiate and then translate them into colour, silhouette and texture.

The conversation moves from family legacy to a devastating accident that demanded two years of rehab and a radical mindset shift. Colette shares how meditation, breath work, yoga and visualisation helped her rebuild her world from the inside out and how styling outfits rekindled confidence and opened doors to global fashion work. 

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Transcript

Warm Welcome And Origins

SPEAKER_00 0:12

Welcome to Beyond the Title. I'm your host, Christelle. I'm very excited to welcome global fashion stylists, creative director, interior fashion designer. Please welcome the iconic Colette Emily.

SPEAKER_01 0:26

Welcome. Hello, beautiful. Thank you so much for having me. It's such an honor to be here. You look absolutely gorgeous.

SPEAKER_00 0:32

Well, thank you. I'm styled today by the special the amazing Colette who's done a few of my photo shoots now. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 0:41

So, like such an honor to work with you, and I absolutely have loved helping you highlight and showcase your amazing self with your outfits and seeing your confidence just rise on that camera. It just makes my heart so happy. So I'm so excited to be sitting here with you today and going a little bit deeper.

Mum As Muse And Early Style Lessons

SPEAKER_00 0:58

Well, yeah, I'm going a bit deeper, but I want to thank you as well for making my journey during my photo shoot, making it special and uh inspiring me a little bit more to do another one. So we love that. So let's start with you. Let's go back to the beginning where it all started and uh what was Colette Emily like growing up as a young child? Uh, were you surrounded by fashion? How did what what inspired you?

SPEAKER_01 1:22

Oh, amazing. Well, I would say my biggest inspiration growing up with fashion and style, honestly, would be my mum. My mum is like a ray of sunshine. She is just, I think, the definition of an earth angel. She's so gorgeous, she's so warm, and she always has expressed herself with her outfits and her style. And she has multicolours in her hair, and she always would just wear outfits that every single day, still to this day. My mum's in her 70s now, she will still walk out, and I could never predict exactly what she'll be wearing. She always has different layers of colours and lace and necklaces, and she just loves to express herself through her style. And I always saw that, and I think it really inspired me absolutely, but I also saw the way that mum's style and the way that she would carry herself would impact people in the room. You know, she always has the biggest smile on her face and so much warmth in her nature and her heart, and then the outfits kind of just added to that, you know, impact in the room because people would see her as uh open and confident and approachable. So I think I learnt from a very early age that you can be the most wild and outlandishly dressed in the room, but you can also be the kind, like that kind heart and the person that makes people feel really seen for who they are as well. So I would say my biggest inspiration going up there with style and knowing that it was a really powerful tool to be able to express who you really are and find a way to help other people connect to you and to and to connect to themselves was my fabulous mum.

SPEAKER_00 3:08

It definitely is part of that. I love dressing up as well, as you know, and it's yeah, it makes you it's a bit of your character, it shows a bit of your personality, and you can change on your change your outfit and how you feel that day as well.

The Seen, Noticed, Remembered Formula

SPEAKER_01 3:19

Absolutely. Oh my goodness, absolutely. Style is one of the most powerful tools that we can tap into to express who we really are. And I created my formula over 10 years ago now, which is I love to ask clients how they want to be seen, noticed, and remembered. And I come up with I've asked you that question a few times. And why I do that and why that's the formula is that I've always known that style is such an expression of who we are from within. So I'm not, if I'm going to style you as a client and I I'm not gonna ask you, oh, so Christelle, like what do you do? You know, a mum, a business owner, you know, a friend, you're a family member, you're an active part of your community, that's amazing. And that's such a beautiful gift that you share with the world or multiple gifts. But what I want to know if I'm styling you is like, who is Christelle? So that's why I say, how do you want to be seen? How do you want to be noticed? How do you want to be remembered? And that really comes down to encompassing the emotions that help you express your soul, your spirit, your essence. And that's what we can have fun with with our style to help represent that to the world. So style is that powerful tool where you get to really express who you are within, like, you know, who, like, who is that magic essence at heart and that energy that you want to share with the world?

SPEAKER_00 4:48

I love it. Absolutely love it. And I wish more people would dress like dress up more and be more outrageous and express themselves through fashion too. So throughout your journey, so let's say your teen years and when you did you start just dressing up at home, how did you start evolving into your career path? How did that what in how what what change happened for you to make the change to go? This is the career path that I want to take.

Creativity, Study Plans, And Loss Of Sister

SPEAKER_01 5:13

I always knew that I loved being creative from a very young age. I always loved being expressive and you know, bubbly, very bubbly disposition, and love to chat and always have a laugh and be dancing and fooling around. But I really loved being creative and really being able to think about how I wanted to express my emotions and my ideas through creativity. So even at school, I love doing design technology, visual arts, visual design. Yeah, oh that's amazing! Yeah, yeah, and it was just such a great way to learn tools at a very young age of how you can continue to express yourself, whether it's with your mind, with your hands, with technology. And so after I finished school, yeah, I couldn't wait to get in uh to studying and you know, to giving it a go. So I did actually start interior design, and it was something I was very passionate about. So I always knew that I wanted to do fashion or interiors, and I was so excited to. I actually started registered for a fashion styling course, and I was really excited for fashion styling and design. And then about two weeks later, we got a phone call that my older sister had melanoma cancer, and she uh had just been married and just had a baby, and it was my beautiful older sister Tess. It was 24 hours after she gave birth to my niece and her daughter Mabel, and we got the call that unfortunately it was terminal, and so at that moment I put everything on pause and went exactly where my heart and my soul knew I needed to be, which was right by her side, and with her family and my family, and we all came together as such an inspiring unit of just love, and it was nine months where we were all side by side and supporting her, and in that journey, that is where I feel I really learnt the definition of grace, the definition of grace, of strength, and of courage, and seeing the way that she held herself, the way that she continued to show love, like unconditional love to others, and the way that we continued to turn up and show her that unconditional love, it was something that I am I feel privileged to actually have experienced that journey beside her and with my family, who are so special, because it just made me realize in that moment, no matter where I go from this point in life, or no matter what it is that I want to try or explore or create or experience, number one, I will always be unconditionally loved by my family, and two, that you can achieve anything if your intention is focused on how you want to make other people feel. And so the huge thing I took away from that experience with my sister Tess is that it was what I still carry in my heart every single day, and that I still feel very connected to her always, is how she made people feel. It wasn't about what she did or how she looked, it was simply how she connected to others and how she let them really be seen, known, and loved by her. So then after that journey, um, you know, moved to a new phase of our lives where Tess was then in heaven. It was really, I was really focused then on knowing, okay, how do I want to create and express myself in this world, but how can I do it by helping other people be seen? How can I do it by helping other people be noticed and valued for who they are? And how can I still have fun with that?

SPEAKER_00 9:03

Oh, I love to create, yeah. That was one of the things that resonated with me so much. And I remember you um, you know, working with you. I didn't know the time, I think we're just coming out of COVID, but I just remember and we had the masks on, so I couldn't really see it. Of course, I remember this. Yes, yes. But I just remember how warm and welcoming you were and accepting. And I think, you know, I've like as women, we have these insecurities, and you know, obviously I had I had those insecurities as well, you know, with my body, and because I've had you know had children that look different, but you definitely you embraced me and you made me feel really good and it just felt I felt I felt beautiful, which is what all women want to feel, right? Of course. But it was a very special uh connection, a human connection that what I had with you um at that moment, and I knew I just I could feel it, and I I loved the fact that you just uh you made women feel beautiful no matter what they looked like and how they felt, and you reminded me of that. And I think you even reminded me that my second one as well. Obviously, I'd come out of a bit of a tough situation, I was coming out of a um separation, and uh the photo shoot meant a lot to me, and I remember um you you know speaking to me and empowering me at that moment. You know, I love empowering women as well, but it's really nice to have someone empower me and remind me of the beauty of you know just being a woman. Yeah, oh thank you. It's honestly it's so it's obviously it's it's it it's something that I felt immediately.

Grace, Courage, And Making People Feel

SPEAKER_01 10:26

Thank you so much for sharing. Well, honestly, it's it's a gift and a privilege, as I said, to connect with women like yourself all around the world and help people express themselves who they really are. And style, as I said, it's a tool to do that, but what we're really doing is expressing who's within. And so that's to me, really what I think my career has been is finding a way to empower people from within. And so that's why my formula has always been styling from the inside out. It's like I want you to feel any you can walk in a room and be wearing, you know, the latest thing off the runway, but it really is about how you wear it and who it is that's wearing it that makes it a vibe. Like that's what makes it rememberable, that's what makes it iconic, is about how that person feels in it. So, first and foremost, my focus is always how does anyone in my presence, but especially clients when I'm on set, how do you feel? Are you what's you know that what's the conversation happening in your inner world? And I do my best to help you style that as well as the outside because I love to be able to style women from and anyone I connect with, whether they're on set or in the real, like in the real world, offset, I love to be able to help them and impact them from the inside out. So really I understand and make them feel seen, safe, and valued for exactly who they are and where they're at. And like you said, that it's true, like it really doesn't matter where you're at, if you're at your fittest or if you're coming out of a really challenging you know, experience in life, whether you're stepping into a new chapter in career, in personal life, in relationship. It's like life, we get one life, and we're here to celebrate who we are now. And our style can evolve just as much as our own identity can, and your own self-beliefs, and your own that self-trust and that relationship and confidence that you build with yourself. It gets to forever evolve. That's what we're here for, is just to continue to understand who we are and fall more in love with the gift of life that we have, and then fall more in love with how I feel anyway, how we can continue to spread that energy and those vibes and connect with more people. Like that's what I think we're here for. It's to connect, it's to evolve, it's to learn, it's to transition, and it's just to continue to grow.

SPEAKER_00 12:54

And it is a gift, it's a gift of life that we get. We get to have these human connections and you know, we get to express ourselves. It's actually a gift, it's a gift of life.

Inside-Out Styling And Client Confidence

SPEAKER_01 13:02

Absolutely, and I think life itself is the gift, and I think growing older is also a gift. I think it's a privilege. It's a blessing. And absolutely, and yeah, the older you become or the more life experience you gain, the more challenges come. And you know, the more, the more situations you get faced with where you get to just continue to learn how you want to respond versus react to things and to people. How do you, how can you more, how can you more confidently influence a situation in a room versus being influenced? How can you share more light and love versus being impacted with darkness? And I I just think we all have that gift and that choice every morning when we wake up. What is our intention and what are we going to do to really make that impact? And style became a way for me to do that. So after my sister, I uh for a few years stayed very close to her husband, Victor, and my niece Mabel, and helped being in my favourite role ever, which is Auntie Role. Yeah. Um, and helped, and I feel so honoured again and privileged to have been a part of her life from the very beginning until now. Mabel is 14 years old, and I do consider her one of my best friends. We are it's just so special to have built that bond. It is such a privilege to continue to teach her about her mum through life and through being my most authentic self because I know that Tessa's blood runs through me. Tessa's heart is connected to my heart, and so I find it a real honour to continue to dig deeper and find out who I am, the more who is the most authentic version of myself, and how can I show and connect that to Mabel? Because I feel that through my authenticity and realness, she's going to be able to explore and find out how authentic and real her mum was. So it's just been this real blessing to walk beside her and build that friendship and connection. And I remember when she used to get into my styling studio when she was only like four, and she'd put on like silver metallic jackets and these big shiny boots.

SPEAKER_00 15:10

Kind of similar to these boots, yeah. I was a kid to dress up a lot when I was a kid as well.

SPEAKER_01 15:14

Oh, it's amazing! It's just such a fun thing, yeah. And just like always reminding her just to be free and do it her way, and that's something that Tess would always say to me. Tess would always say, just do it your way, baby. You just have to do it your way. And I've carried that in my heart ever since, and I continue to do that now, and I hope I can continue to do that for Mabel as well.

SPEAKER_00 15:39

Yes, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 15:40

Then it was an opportunity for me to think about my career and how I wanted to continue to evolve and grow and learn. And so again, I was thinking, okay, am I going to do fashion or interiors? I'm not too sure. So I leaned in and started an interior course. And three months after I absolutely loved it. Uh, three months later, I unfortunately was in a car accident. And so someone under the influence um hit me, and I'm very blessed to still be alive. It was a very long two-year journey of recovery where I was in full, full-time rehab and I was bedridden for most of that time.

SPEAKER_00 16:20

I had significant impact on your body as well.

Niece Mabel, Legacy, And Authenticity

The Car Accident And Long Recovery

SPEAKER_01 16:23

Significant impact, yes, on my body. I didn't couldn't move this arm, I think, for 18 months. Um, I had lots of different broken ribs and disbulgers and a lot of things, um, really heavy impact to the body, and so it took a long time to recover, and it was constant pain every single day. And I chose in that moment when I realized the severity of my injuries, I chose that I wanted to walk the path of healing in a similar way that my sister did with grace and strength and courage, and I also decided to not move with bitterness or anger towards anyone or anything, and just to know that I could dig deep, heal, and keep focusing on healing, and how loved and how blessed I was to have family that unconditionally loved me and supported me and to continue that journey. So I, as I was in full-time rehab and doing workouts with 80-year-olds, getting hip replacements, and it was quite a quite a different experience. I also learned, you know, just how important it was just to be humble and grateful. And also I chose to not continue on pain medications. I just wanted to be able to really connect to my body myself. So I that is where I learned the art of meditation and breath work, and I used yoga also as a the tool to help me really heal and rebuild my world from the inside out. It really was difficult, of course, waking up every single day with constant pain, physical pain. Yet I knew that I would heal and that I was still alive and I was loved and that I was determined, you know, I was told I would never, I would never be able to run again, I would never be able to wear heels again. I wouldn't. There was lots lots of limitations because of the intensity of the injuries. And, you know, with love and respect, I was like, that's great, that's an opinion. But I actually choose, yeah, I actually choose uh to believe that I will heal. And yes, I can, you know, you have to learn a lot of patience uh to ride a journey like that because you're just not too sure. But I kept visualizing, and that's why I also use the art of visualization, where you know, I would lay in a hammock and do my breath work and listen to meditation music and just visualize all of the cells in my body healing and repairing and beautiful golden light just like shining through. And from that experience, I was able to really see that one light can outweigh the dark, and that two, we have such a deep and infinite power to heal ourselves and to really create anything, depending on where we put our focus and our intention. Yes, absolutely. And whether it is a physical pain or trauma, whether it's an emotional trauma, whether it's a psychological trauma and experience that we go through, we really do have the power to style our inner world. We have the power to style our thoughts, our beliefs, our vision for ourselves. And with love and compassion and patience, you know, you will get there. We can we can all get there. And so I and that also was a journey that taught me then how did I want to, how could I still express who I was? So I was um just I think I was in my early 20s at the time when I had the car accident, so I was doing, as I said, full-time rehab with you know, lovely like women in their 80s with hip replacements and different things and was bedridden most of the time, and I had my walk-in wardrobe that I would look over at. And on some days I'm like, oh, and I'd just be like, Oh, I wish I was, you know, at the races or at this event. And if I was, oh, I'd wear that and I'd wear this. And I'd start to look, and then I remember I was having a conversation with one of my other sisters one day, and she said, You should get on, you should get onto the on Instagram. Like, why don't you just have a look around, like, check out the style, check out the fashion? And I was like, okay, so I did, and then I started to be really inspired by you know, people expressing themselves, you know, across the globe. I was coming across people from all around the world and their style, and I loved it. It's a whole new world. It's a whole new world. And so on my better days, I would kind of like hobble into the wardrobe and I'd pull out outfits and I'd go out to the veranda and I'd actually set up the camera on a ladder. I didn't have a tripod on a ladder, and I'd put the timer on and like slowly move my body up to the wall. And that's where I started like expressing myself through these outfits, and I would start to visualize of experiences that I would be having or where I would love to be instead of where I was in that moment. And I would use style as the tool and the portal to take me there and help me to feel those emotions, feel that excitement, feel that joy, feel that, you know, sassin, the vibes, all the vibes that we want to feel. And as women, especially, like, why do we love to dress up? And, you know, what does it do? It actually, you know, increases our confidence. It increases our endorphins. It makes us feel alive, makes us feel empowered. Empowered, yes. It makes like oh, I just love it. It's so good. But that was the moment where I was like, oh my goodness, this is really, this is actually helping me heal. Like style is actually helping me heal. It's making me feel more connected to my authentic self, who I really am. You know, I'm this soul and this spirit having this human experience, and my human body is, you know, lagging as to where I'd love it to be. But my mind and my heart, you know, they're on point. They know what they're after, they know what they want to do. And so it was in those first early, you know, years where I would style up outfits and share them, and it very organically grew. Um, and I started to be contact from people in Australia, but also in overseas, in other countries, and would start, you know, giving them mood boards and different ideas. And then a lovely designer from Sydney actually reached out and said, I absolutely love the way that you put your outfits together. I've got this new collection. Would you come to Sydney and style like my collection for me for my website? And we're going to put on billboards. And I was like, Oh my goodness, absolutely, I'd love to. So it took about, I was probably about uh yeah, two years after my accident that I was able to then fly to Sydney. And I think I had like four suitcases and full of everything, all accessories I could think of. Oh, total suitcases. Absolutely. You can never be too overdressed and you can never be too overpacked. Um, and so then I came and I yeah, I just trusted my instinct. I was like, I had been obviously in full-time rehab, so I hadn't been able to go back to studying interiors or fashion. So I was like, you know what? I know how I want to make people feel, and I trust that I'm gonna listen to my intuition and my heart on what outfits. I'm not gonna second guess anything. It's almost just feels like it's an instinct I've been born with and a blessed with, I suppose, is that I read the world through colour and fabric and texture and tone, and so it really just takes over. It's like something I've never really had to overthink when it comes to style because I've always come from that place of what do I want to express here? How do I want this brand and this model or this client to be seen, noticed, and remembered? How do we want, how do I want them to feel, and how do I want others to feel when they see these outfits? And so I think when you move from a pure intention like that, where it's about something so much deeper, there is no room for doubt. There is no room for second-guessing yourself because it's your purpose. That's what I'm here for, is to be able to express that message and that feeling and have that impact. So, yeah, it was so much fun being able to dress uh the model and do it. And from there, you know, the photographer and I really bonded and she recommended me word of mouth to other brands that she worked for and clients. And within a few months, I had moved uh back to Sydney and was full-time fashion styling. And so it's just evolved from there again that formula and approach that I used for styling. I've then been able to transfer that across to creative direction, so take and project management of you know, huge projects and teams up to 40, up to 80 people and big visions with big budgets and big and big missions on the line. And I'm so grateful for every opportunity I've had and the people I've been able to work with that have trusted my vision through that as well. And I've loved traveling all around the world. I've been, you know, to lots of different countries and worked on runway shows and film clips and TV shows and personally shopping, you know, for clients on Rodeo Drive in Beverly Hills and all of the fun dreams. And every time I'm there, like I just I pinch myself and I'm like, oh my gosh, this is like this really is what I envisage when I was lying in bed. Like when I was bedridden, this is honestly what I would visualize and see myself, and that's where I would dress up in these outfits and be like, I'm gonna get there, you know, and I just have to keep following my heart.

Breath Work, Meditation, And Visualisation

SPEAKER_00 26:22

So such a powerful thing though. Like I think a lot of young younger people that need advice or are inspired about success successful people, actually having a almost a vision board, whether you have that in your mind, but to actually write it down or to actually feel it and breathe it and have that um that that idea in your mind that that's what you want, if you don't actually visualize it or uh believe in it, it may never happen for you. And absolutely a lot of people actually don't, young people don't actually understand that.

SPEAKER_01 26:53

Yeah, absolutely. You have we get one laugh. You need to have the biggest, boldest ideas for yourself, and you need to believe in yourself and know that you can absolutely experience it and achieve it. You just have to be on your team. I think that's what comes down to it as well. It's like knowing you're worthy of experiencing anything that you want to, and it could be everyone has different dreams. Everyone, not everyone wants to dress up in a fairy dress and sparkly boots or a fabulous sparkly gown. And that's not everyone's vision, and that's so okay. Oh my goodness. That's why I've never styled anyone, you know, with trends or what and never dressed someone. I think dressing someone and styling someone are two totally different things, and people are really gifted and talented at both. But when you dress someone, it's almost like you're you're dressing them for what you think they should wear, yeah. Whether it's around what their body shape and type is so or they should wear.

SPEAKER_00 27:53

Or they were attend with where they're attending as well. They don't actually style them based as you do. Yeah, it's about their personality, who they are.

Styling As Healing And Instagram Beginnings

SPEAKER_01 28:00

Yeah, and so it's like you can get it's the same thing I think when you're styling your dreams, you're styling your you know, your goals and your vision and your life for yourself, it's like you get to do it for you. It's never about styling honestly your life, your outfits, your world, your emotions, your beliefs in yourself, the story, the identity that you create. It's like you get to style that for yourself. And if I could recommend or live, you know, if I could recommend anything to anyone listening to this podcast, is ask yourself, how do you want to be seen, noticed, and remembered? And really start to feel into those emotions. Like, what would they be? How do you want to be seen? Like, how do you want people to see and feel your presence? How do you want to be noticed? What is it that you would like, what is it that you would like people to really connect to you on or about? And when you're being remembered, it's like, how do you want to leave people feeling? That is the most important thing. I agree with that. Yeah, most important thing is to ask yourself and have a clear intention, how do you want to be remembered and how do you want to leave other people feeling when you walk out of the room? And if you can identify those three key emotions, that will help you unlock whether you're styling then your own identity, styling your vision and your beliefs, styling your outfits. It's like then you keep coming back to those three emotions. And so it's like, okay, like how does that look in color? How does that look? Where do I want to take myself? Where do I want, how do I want to connect with people that way? And it's just a great starting, a great starting point is how do you want to be seen, noticed, and remembered? And the most amazing thing is you can't get it wrong. There's no right or wrong answer. It's you, it's your soul. How you want to be seen, noticed, and remembered, those three emotions, it's expressing how you and your soul and your essence wants to be seen, noticed, and remembered. So they're not meant to be necessarily the same words or the same combination of emotions that someone else would use. I honestly think out of probably the hundreds, if not thousands, of clients that I have worked with over the last 10 years, no one has ever had the same three emotions. There's a lot of common, like words and emotions people tap into, absolutely, but they also then can mean something different to every single person. Yes. And so I think for your life, you find out, you know, what is those three core values and what's your three core intentions? And you can style and create your life, your emotions, and your outfits in the most iconic way from that place. Love it, love it.

SPEAKER_00 30:46

Um, and it's such an incredible journey. I love listening to your journey, it's amazing. Uh, along the way, did you have anyone that doubted you or yeah, gave you any negative feedback and said anything that made you self-doubt yourself along this journey? Because people tend to have their own opinions and you know, when people are succeeding and doing well, and even at the current point now, has anyone you don't have to mention the names, but has anyone um yeah, have anyone have doubted you?

SPEAKER_01 31:16

So I think doubt, belief, trust, confidence, it all is something that is built within. And so I think if someone else doesn't necessarily have confidence or full belief in you, that is so okay. Because I believe that it's a projection of where they're actually at within themselves. To a degree, am I is my style and my vibe and my personality and my perspective on life aligned with everyone else? Absolutely not, but that's okay because my perspective and my approach to life and to style is something that is aligned to me and it is truly authentic to me and my soul and how I perceive the world. And I think everyone also carries perceptions and perspectives of life from their own journey, and so as I've just shared with you, little insights as to some of the major events in my life that have really allowed me the opportunity to see life from a very particular perspective, which is one to be so grateful for. And I have witnessed how much impact you can have on other people, and I choose to want to leave light on other people, I choose to want to empower people because it actually empowers me and it makes me feel more alive. So I think if I have cross paths, of course everyone does, with people that don't necessarily agree or maybe believe in you or feel aligned to you or your vision. And you know, in moments, of course, I'm human. I may be a soul having a human experience, but I'm still human.

SPEAKER_00 32:54

So we're all human.

First Big Break And Sydney Move

SPEAKER_01 32:56

Yeah, that's right. Sometimes it's okay if it you know, it's okay if it's uncomfortable when you, you know, you misalign with people, but I do very much hold the belief I believe that everyone is entitled to have their own perception of the world and of their life and the gift of life. And if you don't align with everyone or people don't align with you, that's okay. If anything, I think that's great. Like I actually go, Oh, I think it's curious. Like I get curious. I'm like, oh, that's interesting. Yeah. But okay, that's amazing. They must find another way to want to express themselves, or they obviously have a different priority as to what they're focused on. So that has taken a long time to f build up the resilience to not take things personally, but I I really know that from my own experience, I am styling my personal reality. I am styling my emotions every single day. I am styling how I choose to respond or react to people and situations when challenges appear and obstacles. It's also my opportunity to then style how I want to view it. Am I seeing it as an opportunity or am I seeing it, you know, as a target or something that's going to take me down? And I'm like, it's it's just not, I've it's not how I'm built anymore. I have designed and created my inner world to reflect the outer world that I want to see, feel, and experience and attract people and opportunities that are aligned to that, just like your magical self and how we met back in COVID. And as you said, on set, you know, we all had to have masks on. And it, I love that it actually didn't create a barrier, I don't feel between you and I. We still connected on that day. I know that you still left feeling, and I, you know, I've never actually asked you that, but I love to know now that you do still hold that memory where you left feeling really seen and valued and supported just the same as if we didn't have masks on. I did. And so I think my mask actually had crystals all over it.

SPEAKER_00 35:01

So that's why I remember you were quite iconic. Even with the mask. The energy connected, there was definitely a beautiful connection, and I felt that. I felt it immediately. Oh, that is the reason why we're sitting here. Yeah. I'm a very strong believer in the law of attraction. Yes, you know, it's very it's a very powerful thing, and you do attract people in your life that you know the energy you're putting out comes back.

SPEAKER_01 35:26

Absolutely. I think the power of the universe. The power of the universe. Oh my goodness, and it's your choice as to choose, then okay, what vibe or wave, or if however you visualize it, am I on? And we have a choice to choose again. And I think that's one of the greatest gifts of being human in this experience of life is that we can choose again in every single moment. So whether you know someone says something and it doesn't land the way that you know it makes you feel uncomfortable or upset, that's okay. You get to choose again. Do I want to take that personally? Is that actually my truth? Is that actually about me, or is it probably more about them?

SPEAKER_00 36:04

And it comes with a it comes with time and building up that confidence and the resilience. And I think sometimes when you go through that, I've gone through that now, I've learned when someone is negative or you know, they're pointing the finger at you, it's really a pointing back to them. Yes, and I think it's it's absolutely.

Purpose-Led Creative Direction And Global Work

SPEAKER_01 36:33

And that it's you also don't need to judge them for projecting that either. I think that's as you said, it's an evolution and it comes with wisdom. But I feel like when you can also get to a point when one, you don't take it personally, and two, you don't judge or one, you don't take it personally, and two, you don't judge the other person for it. You just hold more compassion. When people act erratic or blame or yeah, harsh or you know, to anyone, especially even to myself, now I'm just wired where I just hold more compassion. I think, oh yes, their inner world really mustn't be full of peace today. Yeah. So I'm just gonna hold more compassion. So I feel that when again you empower yourself to know that you can actually choose to style your inner world to see and style your outer world, you can find a way to really harmoniously move through life. And it doesn't mean that you are not gonna be hit with challenges. Oh my goodness. They keep, I feel like they you attract them all because it's like you're being the angels of the universe want you to keep flexing that resilience muscle. And they're like, oh, you've mastered it now. We want you to keep going, keep getting better. But it's about knowing that's okay, and that's a part of the journey, is holding space again for everyone just to be seen, valued, and noticed for where they're at in their journey. And if you can hold a bit more compassion, it means that you're holding more light. And I think that whoever is more kind of at peace within themselves, or whoever is more certain, certain within themselves in a dynamic or in the room, that's actually who holds the most influence. Yes. It's really not about being the loudest or necessarily the most outlandishly dressed, even though you can't be. You can't be an exception. Uh it's that it's not, it's actually who holds the most certainty within. And I think there is nothing more attractive and more oh my goodness, just enlightening when you're around someone who has an aura about them where they are just at peace. I think the biggest luxury in life now, with where I'm at, is peace. It's peace within, it's peace within yourself, it's peace within your journey where you've been. It's peace knowing that you are supported and you are worthy of having what else you want to continue to experience. And I think we all live so many different chapters in our life. And it's just so exciting to be able to look forward to those chapters, no matter where you're at, no matter how much discomfort you're in, or if you feel uncertain, sorry, how much discomfort you feel in the uncomfortable wherever you're at right now, you just need to keep holding the vision of the healed you, of the achieved you, of you just feeling more warmth, more light, more smiling more. It's like in the simplest things, that's what you keep holding a vision on, and eventually you will get there.

SPEAKER_00 39:27

So, speaking of the next chapter, what is next for Colin Emily?

Vision, Self-Belief, And Styling Your Life

SPEAKER_01 39:32

I am so excited. Over the last 10 years, I've been so blessed to work with so many people and spread my wings, my creative wings across so many different avenues. So I touched on that before, but I have actually done fashion styling, wardrobe styling, um, event styling, project management. I have done interiors, I've done commercial interiors, home interiors, and it's such an honor to work with people. I've educated at one of the biggest colleges in Sydney, taught thousands of students around all of those same avenues as well. And I just have loved the opportunity to step into so many different lanes and see that the same formula and this approach that I have talked about, how it can really impact and connect with so many people across so many different places and stages of life and different points in their career. So the next step is I'm evolving into more of a lifestylist. And so that is where I will be providing the opportunity to work with people to really style themselves from their inner world as well as their outer world. Oh, I love that. So I have, I'm a now a certified yoga teacher, breath work teacher, and meditation teacher. Thank you so much. It's been such a fun journey over the last year to really evolve my skill set and understanding just of how powerful our minds are and how powerful we can be if we choose to style ourselves with intention. So I'm really excited to be evolving into a lifestyling, and I have been developing my own app. So it's called Styler, S-T-W-A-L-E-R, and it is your style, your way. And so this app is going to be a wonderful space where people can step into and learn exactly how to style themselves from the inside out. There are tools that are going to help them access from mind work, breath work, physical body work, as well as to everything you need to know around style, colours, makeup, your wardrobe. And I'm just really excited to go on that journey and to keep evolving. That is incredible.

SPEAKER_00 41:44

Amazing. I'm so happy. I'm so glad that you put everything into one like almost like this. This chapter is going to be what a what an amazing chapter. Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 41:53

Congratulations. Thank you so much. I just want to thank you. I just want to continue to, as I said, spread light to make other people feel seen, noticed, and remembered, and to help them, whether it's, you know, in their own minds and how they choose to start each day with their intention, how they choose to style the exercise and the movement and how they connect to their own physical body, whether it's how they style their outfits, their wardrobe, but their home. You know, I've got experience across all these different avenues, and it's just going to be really fun to make it available for people around the world. Um, no matter your age or your personality or what type of identity or style that you love and connect to. You know, it's a it's a place for everyone. So I'm very excited to be sharing that today with you for the first time. I love it. And to be able to see where it can go and how many people's hearts and you know, homes and lives it can help.

SPEAKER_00 42:48

Yeah. I think you're gonna impact the world. Positive when you're sharing your gift with the world. So thank you. It's gonna be a positive. All right, for the next and last final question. If you could be any movie character, sorry, cartoon or movie character, who would you be?

SPEAKER_01 43:05

Oh, I love this question. So I thought about it, and I honestly think the only person that I would love to probably, you know, swap lives with or step into their world is probably someone like Tinkerbell, where I think she honestly she lives in a world full of magic, which I love. She always flies around, she has such a beautiful intention. She's always wanting to look at how she can help people and what she can do. She seems to always be having so much fun with her beautiful dresses and flying around with all her friends. Yeah, she's got really beautiful friendships and she values that and she's full of community and she just smiles, but she gets to live life. She lives on purpose, she lives with intention, she looks good doing it, and she she has fun with it. And so I think if I yeah, got to step into anyone's shoes for a day, it would be Tinkerbell.

Handling Doubt, Resilience, And Compassion

SPEAKER_00 43:59

Oh, great. Great answer. I love it. Excellent. Well, thank you for being here today. It's been an absolute honor to have you here. Thank you so much. Thank you for sharing your light and your beautiful energy with us today. Thank you so much for having me. Until next time. Until next time. Thank you.