🎙️ Letting Go, Outside Smells, Coach Summitt Wisdom & Family Patterns | Hear Me Out with Elzy & Butts | EP 7

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SPEAKER_00 0:02

Give me up. Turn it up.

SPEAKER_01 0:08

Coach El Coach Butts. We gonna bring it up. Hear me. What's up, good people? Welcome back to Hear Me Out with Aldi and Butts. I am, of course, Butts, and we're ready for another episode.

SPEAKER_00 0:25

Man, it's so good to shoot another episode. Let's just have a little check-in, coach. How's your spirit today? You know what? I feel really good.

SPEAKER_01 0:35

Just came back from a great trip with friends. Went to Miami. I think you were there. Uh, it was a good time. You you just cannot beat quality time with good friends, and that's what it's all about.

SPEAKER_00 0:47

Oh, we had a great trip in Miami friends. A lot of food, a lot of discussion about dressing up to go out to eat. You know, that's always a topic of conversation with our friend group because Coach Butts is going to wear what she wears, even though the restaurant says to wear dress clothes and different dress attire. But you know what? They let you in and it was all good. It's the vibes, you know, it's the vibes, it's all good. Well, my spirit is very high today. Uh, the sun was shining, it was actually 96 degrees in North Carolina. You know, that speaks my language. Well, you can't beat sunshine.

SPEAKER_01 1:37

We we got a little bit of rain uh in the forecast, but it's it's it's all good. It's all good.

SPEAKER_00 1:43

Well, the thing about you and the sun, you're probably one of the few females that I know that's going to be outside watering their grass, making sure it's fertilized, it's seeded, and all of the things. You gotta have a good lawn.

SPEAKER_01 2:00

I I don't understand why people think you can just let your grass just do anything. You can't. It should look a certain way, it should represent you, right?

SPEAKER_00 2:11

Now what am I wrong? Wait, wait, wait, wait. I don't want my grass to look any type of way. However, I'm not gonna be out there. Uh, that's I'll leave that up to my husband Dexter because he has made that clear. He's gonna be outside water. And to me, when I see him outside, I'm thinking about how much is our water bill going to be? See, I'm like old school, you know, when your parents would let you fill up the swimming pool one time or the slip and slide, they would let it get wet.

SPEAKER_01 2:41

And then we had the holes, right? You you you got wet with the water holes and you kind of ran through the water holes, no?

SPEAKER_00 2:51

We ran through the water holes, but now, coach, we did have a little kiddie pool. You know, the plastic one when you jump in, your foot would go through the side. But Baba would only let us fill it up one time. Oh god, the the water would be brown, leaves in it, whatever, but you got one time. And then she bought a slip and slide, which I thought was fantastic, but she would only let us get it wet for like two minutes. The memories. Oh, the memories. Oh, the memories. Finishing our check-in for today. What's something only our women, uh only women our age would understand?

SPEAKER_01 3:32

Hmm. Uh, not being able to go to sleep at 3 a.m. in the morning or 4 a.m.

SPEAKER_00 3:38

Well, you know, that is part of perimenopause, which we can dive into at another time. But staying awake, that's that's part of perimenopause. But I also read something about ADHD, which I have. Um, that people with ADHD do not sleep at night. So maybe you should get checked as well. But people, they don't sleep at night because their brain actually turns on around 8 o'clock p.m. until 3. And that's when you're the most productive because of the dopamine. So I learned something. Maybe that's why I'm the most productive at night.

SPEAKER_01 4:20

I don't know. I mean, a lot of time for me is, you know, I'm hitting this scroll number on Instagram or Facebook, and you just kind of go down a rabbit hole. Well, or watching movies, right? Series, movies, social media.

SPEAKER_00 4:37

Yeah, you're one of the only few people that I know that will stay up and watch a whole series. Oh, Netflix. You gotta binge it. You got you have to be binge watching though until two and three in the morning. Besides you. Hear me out. Guests and followers, do you binge watch a show to two and three in the morning? Absolutely. If anybody's like coach butts, let us know. I'm not saying once I'm tired of watching, I'm turning it off. All right, we have some deep conversations to dive into today, coach. Okay, we're at that great age of how old, coach?

SPEAKER_01 5:19

48 for me. I'm 48 and I'm a proud 48, right? Because listen, the way I see it, you're either getting older and you're still here with us, or you stop, right? And you know what that means. And so I celebrate my age. I'm not one of the women that don't want to tell their age, I'm 48, I'm proud of it, can't wait to see 49 and 50 and 51, and so on and so forth.

SPEAKER_00 5:51

Okay, so we're that 47, 48. Got it. Boom. Okay, so think about this. This is some really powerful stuff as we're aging. What did your 20-year-old you think life would look like? Oh, wow. Let's jump in right to it. That's getting somewhere right there now.

SPEAKER_01 6:13

Um you know, crazy thing is at 20, I thought I would be coaching or either an FBI agent, to be honest with you. Because at that age, I was still in college. Um, and somewhere in between there, a family therapist or a clinical social worker uh was my was my goal before coaching was. So uh my life is kind of lined up with kind of where I thought I would be, um, so to speak. So I I feel I feel like it's gone the way I thought it would.

SPEAKER_00 6:51

Okay. Well, my 20-year-old self, I mean, that is a long time ago when you think about it. That's almost a lifetime ago. But anyway, um, I thought, well, you know, I was one of those people that had their life all planned out, right? At 25, I thought I was going to be married. At 27, I thought I was gonna have my first kid. 29, I was gonna have my second kid. You know, by 30, I was gonna have the house and the white picket fence. And I ended up getting all of those things. But it did not happen in the fashion or in the time frame that I had set myself up for. So I do think that's uh things that women do, that you're setting yourself up for failure. Because I would tell the my younger self, do not make any plans like that, because they're probably not gonna happen. Okay. One. Uh, but I do think my life looks like what I thought it would. Um, bless beyond what I deserve. So thankful and give God all the glory. But I didn't know that I would be in coaching. I thought I was going to work at the wide world of sports at Disney. Live in Orlando. I still wanted to be around basketball, um, but not playing, uh, not necessarily coaching, but still around it. So why not go to the happiest place on earth at Disney, be in the sunshine. Uh, and then I thought I would spend the rest of my time being a sports psychologist or some type of therapist. But now it's in the 40s, I do all those things in coaching. So it's all worked out.

SPEAKER_01 8:43

That that's that's interesting. Disney. Disney, I'm not sure I knew that um about you. I think everybody pretty much knew about me and the either the therapist or the the cop or or age FBI agent of some sort. But um, I I think that's really interesting. And when you asked the question, you know, what did your 20-year-old self, you know, what do you think you would be doing? I I'm gonna follow that up with in thinking about that, you had a timeline, right? And so you wanted to do all of these things by a certain time. What effect do you think that has played in your life, the fact that it didn't happen the way you planned? We are so opposite in that. We are very not have a timeline. I think that's so much pressure on, you know, got to do things by a certain, I was never that type of person. And I I think it's helped me in my life, but I do know people who have these arbitrary goals and whether they're, you know, pressure from family, friends, or just they want things to appear and to be a certain way because I've written this down, right? I I wrote this out. What effect did you not reaching some of those milestones at the time you wanted to reach them? Have, you know, what effect did it have on your life?

SPEAKER_00 10:18

Well, I don't know that it was for family or friends. I just think I had these a vision of how I thought life was going to play out. And you know, at that age, you think you have it all figured out, which now at 47, I realized I had nothing figured out. Um, but I remember distinctly my 25th birthday. I remember where I was. I was at Western Kentucky. It was my first coaching job after I left Virginia Tech as the administrative assistant. And I remember that was the worst birthday ever. I spent it all day. I remember sobbing all day long. It was like an emotional letdown that I was 25, that I was not engaged. And if I was not engaged, you can't get married. If I was not married, you can't have any kids, because that had been on my list. And I just thought it was going to happen. And then when I didn't, I remember it was like the biggest letdown because 25, I felt like even though I had a job and healthy and all those things, it was like you're not a teenager. It was kind of that in-between of still trying to figure out who I was and letting go of who I thought I should be at that time.

SPEAKER_01 11:49

Okay, and to follow that up, because there are people who are going to be watching this podcast, there are people who are going to be listening to this podcast, knowing what you know now, and you've had tons of life experience, right? And by no means uh am I framing this that this is some type of self-help or anything like that, but it sounds like that's what you might be doing to the young people or person, male or female, who views life through that type of a lens. Um what kind of advice, if you will, uh, would you give them knowing what you know now, when you have goals like that outlined, what would you tell? I'll just say it like this, what would you tell your younger self now?

SPEAKER_00 12:43

That's a great question. I think what I would tell my younger self, it's okay to have goals uh and be ambitious and follow your dreams, uh, but I wouldn't necessarily put a timeline on it. Um I think that leads to unrealistic expectations, and you never know how life is going to play out. And now that I'm older, you just kind of learn what's for you is for you. And the time that you're supposed to be there and the time that you're supposed to have it and or achieve it, it will happen at that time. And however God wants to shape it. Um, you know, and now that I look back and I'm a mom now, I'm so glad that I'm not a mother at 25. And not saying that there's anything wrong with it, but the life where I was emotionally every in every aspect of my life, I wasn't ready to be a mother at 25. So maybe that was God showing me, you know, wait a little longer. I just waited a lot longer than what I thought, but it all worked out.

SPEAKER_01 13:50

That's awesome. I I uh that's interesting. I I always thought that was interesting. People who kind of view things through that lens because I was so different. I was so opposite of that. Um, and it's a real issue for a lot of people.

SPEAKER_00 14:04

It is. So hear me out, viewers, who had kind of already planned out their life, male, female, and now uh if you are in the 40 and over club, what would you tell uh your younger self? Yeah, that this is very fascinating, you know, as we continue to to live and learn, as my grandma would say, live a little bit. Keep a living, keep a living, all right. So now that we're on this age thing, because this is a big thing, you just think so differently. And we are approaching that 50. Whew! It's coming, it's it's not even like in the distance. We are kicking the door out. We are kicking the door down, but you know, I just feel so much more empowered now. Yeah. Um, what do you think at this age is the most important thing to you now? Time.

SPEAKER_01 15:01

I I've been on that kick for quite some time, and it is the time that we get. I mean, let's face it, I I've had this conversation with with plenty of people, friends, family, and the like. But at 48, I mean, to be honest, most a lot of us at this age have lived longer than we have left to live. And I know that's kind of morbid, but that's the that's the truth. That's the truth. And so the time that you get now is so important. What you do with your family, what you do with your friends, um, how you spend it, right? Who you spend it with. Um that's important to me. And I love, I like people. I know you we we kind of see differently on this. I think you like people. I love people. I I engage people a little bit more than you do uh from a you know stranger point of view. That's true. Let's just say I am always gonna be socially interacting with people and trying to engage because I feel like that's what gives me kind of that that that enriches my my it brightens my spirit. It it's it's good for your soul. I just think every interaction positive that we can have with human beings, I think shapes our life and makes our world better. And I'm I'm always constantly trying to do that to feed into other people, but also feed into me. Um because I think it's important and I want the time that I have left to be fulfilling.

SPEAKER_00 16:52

Absolutely. I know it's hard to think because when you were younger, think about it. I was watching a reel on social media and they were asking, um, they might have been college age or high school, like, what do they think is old? And they were like 25 or 30. And when I think about it, growing up, I thought 30 was like ancient. Right. And now that we are knocking on 50, I'm like, we're still young. I still feel vibrant, I still have a lot to offer and to live in this life. Uh, but we are getting older. You know, I I would agree with you on time. I think I know you hate when I use the word intentional.

SPEAKER_01 17:42

I think it's a little overused, but I get it. It makes it makes complete sense.

SPEAKER_00 17:47

Yes, it might be overused, but I I try to focus on the word intentional. Um, you know, spending time with friends, spending time with family. Um, and you would be so proud. I forgot to actually tell you this. I was flying a couple weeks ago. I sat down next to a young uh gentleman at the airport and I struck up a conversation, which I am capable of doing. I don't do all the time, but I am capable of doing. And he had on a Krispy Kreme shirt. That's what caught my attention. Interesting. And so I said, asked him. I was like, uh, you work at Krispy Kreme. I love to go to Krispy Kreme when the hot signs on. And he was from North Carolina and he was flying back um from a professional development. He was gonna open up his own store. Okay. And he taught me something interesting. We started talking about businesses and franchising, and he wants to uh franchise his own. Um, but he was like, different Krispy Kreams turn on the hot sign at different times and different amounts depending on the location. Did you know that, Coach?

SPEAKER_01 19:07

I did not know that because I have not been to Krispy Kreme since high school. That was when Krispy Kreme used to be the deal. Used to be a part of the fundraiser, and you have to pay for them in advance. I'm from a small high school, guys, and you you only got them like delivered on a Friday or something. That's when they were like the size was really good. Now they're a little bit thinner, I think, way sweeter. And so I Krispy Kreme is your thing. There's nothing wrong with Krispy Kreme. So if if we have any fans of Krispy Kreme that are listening or watching, I I don't have anything against you.

SPEAKER_00 19:50

Or you just don't like too sweet. That that's the bottom line. But I love Krispy Kreme. Who enjoys Krispy Kreme? Uh, hear me out, listeners, when the hot sign is on. Or does that matter? Because I go both, but I enjoy it more when the hot sign's on. So as we continue our last question about age, what do you think m matters less to you now? Oh, wow. Wow.

SPEAKER_01 20:17

What matters? What people think? Oh, that's a good one, Coach. What people think. I I think in general, we we've talked about this on this podcast before, but I think as a matter of just being a human being, I think we all, even if people say, I don't really care about what people think. I think on a surface level, I think we all care about what people think of them because no one wants to be viewed in a negative way. However, I think I think far less about it beyond the surface level point anymore. Yeah. And I think that's important to for people in general, but definitely for me, because I'm only speaking about me, to live the most freeing life I can possibly live with the time I have left to live. I cannot be consumed by what other folks are thinking about what I have on, what I'm doing, how I'm doing it, you know, all of those things that we as people consume ourselves with at night. And to be honest with you, most people are not spending their time thinking about you or us. They're they're worried about a lot of different things, but I think we we can kind of get wrapped up in our own heads that way and and start to do that. So I think a whole lot less about what people think of me.

SPEAKER_00 21:48

That's a good one, Coach. I I can I I can resonate with that. I think for me is I think my younger self was like, I want to prove something. To everybody. I want to prove this that I can do this or I can do that. And now I'm at a juncture in my life, it's like I want to do things because not to prove it to other people, but to prove it to myself. So there are still goals that I have that I write in my journal, but it's not to prove it to anyone else but me. Like I want to feel good with the goals that I want to achieve. So I think that matters so much less to me now. And then I would also say I've never been like a materialistic type of person. There's certain things that I like. Right. But I would say, you know, an image that you're trying to uphold to make people feel like you are successful or that you have everything uh aligned or going great for you. Well, I just I am here to say half the time I might be running around in sweats. If I have a chance to wet my hair, do my hair great. Um, and I'm just gonna be who I am. And it's okay. I still like to dress up, but I think it's okay for people to be not okay.

SPEAKER_01 23:30

Absolutely. Absolutely. I think the social media, internet, I don't want to be, you know, down social media. Many people are gonna be watching or viewing clips of this podcast on social media, right? So it's a good, it's for good, but it's also a big facade. And I think it's making people think one thing, and it's absolutely not like that. And AI is is as much as it'll be good for us, it it's certainly going to have some downsides, um, because it's even becoming even harder to uh determine what's real and what's not real. And sometimes we because our the way we think, we can see things and have a completely different view of what how they really are, and people put that out there because they care about what people think about them so much, and they want to present a certain way, they want to have a certain image. And when you're doing that, I think it can be harmful in a lot of ways.

SPEAKER_00 24:41

Absolutely. Well, I feel I'm more compelled to um the women or young men that I see on social media uh that is using true transparency. Because because, like in a day, if you are a parent, I probably forgot a lunch. I was probably racing out the house, uh, and my son and I had on one shoe. I forgot a water bottle. Uh, I had a total meltdown in the morning before I got to work, had a great day at work. Um, you know, I might have had a meltdown about something else. So I think real life. Absolutely. I I think people can appreciate that. That I wanted to clean my house like I wanted it to be clean before I left, but baby, that didn't happen. And that's okay too. And I think showing people that you can struggle, I think that's real. 100% agree with you. All right. So, for all of our listeners, as you are aging, tell us something that you have learned. Um, give us something inspirational, or what's something that has set you back? Um, but now you're more resilient and it shaped you into the person that you want to be. As we transition into one of our favorite uh segments, 94 feet. If you know, you know. Uh, we're gonna bring that heat uh with our questions for our 94 feet. I'm gonna put Coach Butts on the hot seat for a couple of questions. Um, who were some of your funniest teammates and why?

SPEAKER_01 26:31

Oh my goodness. Some stories I can absolutely not share, and I can't even tell you why they were funny, but Shamikal Hoesclaw was funny, but was not trying to be funny at all. Unintentional. So Hoesclaw was pretty funny. Uh, there were some things that happened uh during my time at Tennessee that made these people funny, but I I don't know how much I can really share about that. But Samika Randall, Lee, Samika Randall, Leigh, was pretty funny. Um, Gwen Jackson might be one of the funniest people.

SPEAKER_00 27:12

That's okay, viewers. For all you all that do not know, these are former Tennessee Lady Balls. Uh, we definitely will have to get uh Shemika Host Claw on the show so we can uh give you all of the details with her consent on the line. But Shemiko is uh really funny. Um, what was one of the best locker room speeches um that Coach Summit gave? Oh wow. And for you guys that do not know, Coach Summit, uh the GOAT, one of the winniest coaches of all time, uh former coach at the University of Tennessee.

SPEAKER_01 27:51

One of the best speeches. Oh my goodness. There were so many good speeches. I think probably one of the best ones from a locker room perspective was not even for me, wasn't even after or during a game. It was during our season, our freshman year, where we were we had the locker room meeting, the big meeting, and just talking about how it was in the program, how what the expectations were. It was just a a really, a really good, good meeting. Um, it was highly productive. And also, there was another one that was not in the locker room, but it was during that year, we were getting ready to play Yukon. And she talked about our team being this big bowl of soup, big pot of soup. And, you know, everybody had to bring something to make that soup good. And we went out, I mean, man, we played, we we played after that game. Uh, and so after that speech. So anyway, I don't know if it was like I said, it wasn't in the locker room necessarily in terms of after or during a game moment, but those were the two most memorable ones for me.

SPEAKER_00 29:14

Those are good. I I I remember both of those. I think uh for me, I know we're both going back to our freshman year. Maybe um that was the year that defined us um at Tennessee for so many reasons. Uh, but I remember the speech, it wasn't before the game, but after the game when we lost at Old Dominion. And everybody was crying, crying. We were at our lowest point. I don't know how many games at that juncture that we had lost. And I remember looking at Coach Summit, I thought this woman is about to lose it in this locker room. Um, but she was like, if that's the number one team in the country, we will be there in March when it counts. If that is the best, there's improvement. We're going to be there, we're going to see them again, we will be ready. And everybody was so broken at that moment. Uh, but everything that she said actually came to fruition. And we were able to play them again, and we were big, we were there in the moment when it counted. And yes, ma'am, we were ready. But I that's one that will always stick with me.

SPEAKER_01 30:32

That's okay, you just jumped, you just jumped my two for sure. That that was a really good one because Pinchero at that point was my goodness, just an absolute beast. And they also had Ma Shangwana. I uh I'm hopefully I'm not butchering her name, but we called her the Monster Match because she was so freaking good. And their team just played so incredibly well together, but it was all lead. This the head of the snake was Pinachero 100%. And uh, you know, we made that our business to when we ran into them again, we would not allow her to control the game the way she did our first time we played them.

SPEAKER_00 31:25

But let's rewind, let's rewind, coach, for the people. So Tisha Pinachero, who was one of the all-time greats, we were freshmen. And let's just say what it is, coach. She absolutely destroyed us. Oh my goodness. Uh, like we didn't know what hit us. She, I mean, she took us by our ankles and druggers all around the floor and welcome to college basketball, right? But you know, it's funny. I actually ran in to teach Pinashero at um one of our other teammates' weddings. And she said to me when I walked up to her at the reception, she said, I still have nightmares uh when I see you all. And I just gave her the biggest hug and I told her, Well, don't worry, we still have nightmares to what you for what you did to us uh the first time. But but I think that's something that Coach Summit did so well. Like, even though things were going astray, she was tough on us, which we needed, but she also gave us a boost of confidence, like we will get there, we will continue uh to grow. And I thought out of all the things uh that she did so well, I thought that was one of them. I would agree. All right, that's our uh 94 feet of questions. Um I guess we'll just close it out with some fun things. Um when you think about hairstyles, uh-oh. Because I was thinking about us in college as I actually found some college pictures um last week as I was cleaning out the attic. What was the worst hairstyle era that you can think of? Oh my goodness.

SPEAKER_01 33:24

I don't know if it was the worst, because listen, we thought we were hot stuff. Hey, I had that asymmetrical, the high right, low left, or whatever thing going on. It was angled. It was, man, listen, I thought it was bad to the bone. Oh, and you had the little crinkles that had the little crinkles in it, right? You know what? I think for me, I never did this. I want to point that out. Okay. Finger waves. I was never a really big fan of the finger waves where people would, and I think it was because not the new, the fresh finger waves. It was the old when they would get old and people still had them, they were kind of mad and they looked crunchy and crispy. It was it was bad. So finger waves, um, and I never had a curl, but I wait, let's get to it.

SPEAKER_00 34:22

Let's get to it. Now, hear me out. This is to the fault of Cheryl Elsie. I don't know why she thought it would be a great idea when I was maybe seven-ish to give me a jerry curl.

SPEAKER_01 34:46

Yeah, that curl. I remember those.

SPEAKER_00 34:48

I had a curl, and she would put the activator on it. It would be dripping down my neck when I went to when I went to school. And she and I were not, we were talking about this not too long ago. I was like, why would you give me a curl? And she was like, Oh, they were in style, and it was so much easier to keep up with. You just had to put the plastic bag over your head and spray it. And the funny thing is, my mom just bought activator. I kid you not. For who? Who is your mother buying activator for? She bought she bought activator, she told me to spray it in Jackson. For you guys that do not know, Jackson is my nine-year-old son. He has curly hair. And she said, because when he sweats outside, when she picked him up from karate, she thought that the jerry curl activator would give him more shine and juice. And that's where I draw the line. As you should.

SPEAKER_01 36:02

No, no, and no. So if you had a jerry curl, hear me out. Who had a jerry curl? To put activator in that child's hair.

SPEAKER_00 36:14

That's where I draw the line. But hear me out. The jerry curls were in. And what about uh for Easter? Oh, when you had to get that hot cone and they would burn your ear and the side of your uh forehead and say it was the grease that was burning. Let's get to this. We're gonna end it here. Um, you know, what are some culture things that just growing up that now you look back and be like, was what was that?

SPEAKER_01 36:46

Listen, the moment you mentioned hot comb, I could smell it. I could smell the grease and the hair burning at the same time you're saying it. So it's like uh it's etched in my memory. One time I was hold, I'm I'm holding my ear, folding it down, holding my ear. I'm not even close to your ear. You can let your hand go or your ear go. I let my ear go. And I'm jumping around like mom, you burn me. It is so bad. That whole hot comb blue magic era, right? That whole blue magic.

SPEAKER_00 37:32

If you still use blue magic here, listeners, hear me out. If you use blue magic, pink oil, or any other product from back in the day, please let us know what you use.

SPEAKER_01 37:45

Listen, I actually think I have some blue magic. I don't know why I have it, but I think I have blue magic in my bathroom right now. Why? It is just something culturally, black folks, African American folks, if you mention blue magic, most of us know exactly what that is.

SPEAKER_00 38:09

Exactly. So I was just having this conversation uh with my mother after I sent you all the reel. If you all have not seen it, check it out. Hear me out, viewers. Um, there's a little African-American girl that's probably five-ish, and she has a little container of lotion, and her mom has Vaseline. And I think this is just a culture thing. And this little girl was just crying, saying that she did not want her face to be shiny because her face was the only shiny one, and it was not fair, and that resonated with my soul because my mother literally would scoop her whole hand and shine it across my face every morning in the winter because she said she did not want my face to be chapped. Okay, hear me out. Whose mother put Vaseline on their face? So I sent the video to my mom and I said, I feel this little girl's pain. And she said, What's wrong with it? I was just at the Dollar Tree collecting Vaseline because that is all I use on my skin, and I will be 70 and I don't have a wrinkle. And I said, Is it because of the Vaseline? And she said, Yes, and the Noxema.

SPEAKER_01 39:47

Oh my goodness. I have not heard Noxema in a whole lot of years. I I haven't heard that word even. I haven't seen any Noxema on the shelves. They sell it, they still have it, they still have it. Oh my gosh. Another cultural thing, I think, I don't maybe it is, maybe it isn't, but is it universal to wake up on Saturday morning and the music's playing and you automatically think you should be cleaning up?

SPEAKER_00 40:15

And you're going to clean. Okay. You're gonna get out of bed and clean. So hear me out. What are some universal things from your culture or that you did growing up? Um, that your parents had you do, and do you still do them with your kids or um just for yourself now that you're older? I would love to hear along with uh Coach Butts, um, because there's some things that I still shake my head. Um, and I know you don't you won't know anything about this um because I grew up in the country as you did too, but we would be running outside, and I just saw a reel on this as well. And you would come in, and your grandparents or your aunties would be like, you smell like outside. Outside, that's and I I would say growing up, what does that smell like? And my auntie would be like, you and outside, it's so funny because now that I'm a mother, and when it comes in, I was like, ooh, get in the tub, you smell like outside. So there are some things that you still keep. Oh my goodness. That's what you think about your childhood, how you were raised does shape in a lot of facets who you become when you're older.

SPEAKER_01 41:51

You know what? No matter how much and how hard we try, sometimes the the characteristics and the traits that our parents had that the ones that we may not have liked, right? And you're like, I'm never gonna do this, and I don't do this, I won't do my you find yourself doing the exact same things. And if you are not careful, you will continue to repeat them. It if you cannot see that it's the same, you know. Some people are in denial, they're like, I'm not like this, and I don't do this.

SPEAKER_00 42:24

I'm like, Yeah, you do. Well, it's I hate to say it, in a lot of areas, I am like my mother. Um, so we would be running late, and I was smelling like the outside along with my cousins, and she would line us up. I kid you not, she would line us up and febbreze us down. She literally would forbreeze us down.

SPEAKER_01 42:59

For all of the folks who are watching, you can see my reaction for the listeners. For a second, it took my breath away. And um I I still don't have much because your mother actually took Fabrize spray. She would and sprayed you down, yes.

SPEAKER_00 43:30

Okay, it is so funny, but she would line us up and Fabrize us down, and she'll be like, that's good enough. She would wipe our face, but she would line us up and Febreze us down. So it's so funny. Now, even to this day, you know I love smell goods. Anyway, I I'm going to have all body sprays. But even to this day, in my toiletry backpack, I have a bottle of Febrize. And if I feel like I am smelling like outside before I go into any venue, I'm going to spray the Febreze, because at least I'm going to smell fresh. So hear me out. I know I'm not the only one. If your parents have ever Febreezed you, let us know.

SPEAKER_01 44:19

I don't think there are many of you guys out there, but I mean, to Febreze yourself while you're actually still in the clothing. I don't think people are doing that. Well, maybe it only happens in LaGrange, Kentucky. I I think it is coming from Lagrange on the other side of the track.

SPEAKER_00 44:41

On the other side of the track. I like it. As we're ending this episode, Coach Butts, three things. Give me one thing you're learning right now. How to take care of my lawn.

SPEAKER_01 44:59

Okay. I know that's that's kind of like base level, right? It's not like something super important. But because I've never had this much time on my hands, I always loved a green yard, but now I'm just kind of learning what it takes and you know what the right mixture of fertilizers and different things are. So uh that's what I'm learning right now.

SPEAKER_00 45:26

I'm actually learning how to play the piano. And I have now figured out how to play. I know for the listeners, the people that play the piano, this might sound elementary, it probably is, but I am thrilled that I can now play both parts to heart and soul. Did you ever watch the show Big? I've seen Big, but I don't really remember the movie like that. Disappointing. So, viewers and listeners, if you know Big and they play heart and soul on the big keyboard, I finally learned how to play it. I'm so proud of myself. So I've learned how to do that. What's one thing you're releasing?

SPEAKER_01 46:18

Oh wow, my releasing. That's an interesting question. I've released so much stuff. I don't have much left left to release. Um so many things. Um probably I'm trying to release any negative thoughts that creep up. Uh whether that's about health, whether it's about wealth, everything that can be kind of uh negative, uh that that we can kind of generate in our minds, I am trying to release all of those things.

SPEAKER_00 47:07

Oh, so you're not uh looking up Webmed.

SPEAKER_01 47:10

Yeah, I have gotten off of WebMDs and the different things like that. I'm trying to release that. Okay, the the irrational, okay. To sum it up, I am trying to release irrational fears that creep up about all things in life.

SPEAKER_00 47:33

Okay, that's a good one. I think I'm releasing the things that I cannot control. I'm only trying to control the things that I can control and let the other ones go. I think that has really freed my mind. That's awesome. Uh less stress, less headaches, and more energy. Okay. Last, what's one thing that you're grateful for? Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_01 48:05

I'm grateful for you. Um I know that's one thing, uh, but I'm I'm just grateful for my my community, my my network, uh, the people that are in my life. I am uh they hold me down, they fuel me, uh, all of those things. So I'm just I I'm I'm grateful to still be around. I'm grateful for my life, for the air we breathe, for the people that enter my life each and every day.

SPEAKER_00 48:36

I would say the same. I'm grateful for life, friends, family, uh just trying to cherish every moment. Um, you know, because tomorrow's not promised. People are going away from here left and right. So just blessed uh to still be here, still be uh healthy and able to live the life that God has ordained for me. So uh I'm grateful for it all. But thank you all for joining it, joining us for another episode of Hear Me Out. Please show us some love. Um, subscribe, listen, like all of the things. Um, and we want to know those comments. Let us know. Hit us up. We don't talk, we don't play all right. Come on, okay, don't get don't bad.