Releasing Control- Trusting God With What You Cannot Fix🦋🤍

Sometimes the hardest part of healing is letting go of control. But peace begins where trust begins.

Day 26— Releasing Control 🤍

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Father, today we come before your presence with thanksgiving in our hearts. We thank you for how far you have brought us in this journey. We thank you for every layer of healing you have revealed. Thank you for every moment of growth, every moment of clarity, every moment where you met us in our weakness. Your word says in Proverbs 3, 5 to 6, trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, submit to Him, and He will make your path straight. Father, today we surrender. We surrender the things we have been trying to control, the outcomes we have been trying to force, the answers we have been trying to figure out on our own. And we declare today that God, you are in control of our story, you are guiding our steps, and you are working even when we cannot see it. Father, please teach us to trust you deeper. In Jesus' name, I pray. Amen and amen. Good morning, good morning, and happy Monday, and welcome back to the Beautiful Me Empowerment Ministry Podcast. Of course, I am your host, Monique Anderson, and today our topic is releasing control, trusting God with what you cannot fix. First, I want to just say a big thank you to all those persons who wished me happy birthday. Thank you so much. And for those persons who continue to tune in to listen and to share the podcast, I want you to also know that Beautiful Me, the first episode is available on YouTube. That is the Beautiful Me Empowerment Ministry uh channel on YouTube. The first episode is live. Um, teething pains, so it is a little bit choppy, but we're calling it teething pains, and as a woman of God reminded me, she said, Let it stay a couple years or a couple weeks or even a couple months from now, you will look back at it and you will listen it again and you will see how far you've come. I want to encourage somebody today uh to move, move when God says move, and whatever it is that He has instructed you to do, do it, do it scared, you know, but do it anyways, whatever the resources are that you have, work with it. He can make something beautiful out of your little. Remember that the assignment is not about you, but it is about God, He gets the honor, He gets the glory out of it. And I was reminded on Saturday when I was doing a presentation for the woman without blemish teens chapter, and the prophet uh she reminded us not to despise small beginnings. So if it is even one person whose life is changed by your obedience, then heaven rejoices. The Bible even gives us a perfect example where it says that Jesus was willing or God is willing to leave the 99 and to go for one, and when he goes for one, he doesn't even allow that one to walk back home, he carries the one. So if God is willing to risk it for the one, just the one, and heaven rejoices for the one, and maybe your obedience to move when he says move is for the one. So I'm encouraging you to move when God says to move, you don't need the full picture, just move. One of the most difficult parts of healing is realizing how much we try to control, we try to control outcomes, we try to control other people's behavior, we try to control how situations unfold, and sometimes we even try to control our healing timeline, but control often grows from fear, fear that things will fall apart, fear that if we do not manage everything, something will go wrong. Yet the journey toward wholeness often requires something that a lot of us are very uncomfortable doing, and that is letting go, letting go of the need to control every outcome, letting go of the pressure to have everything figured out, letting go of the belief that everything depends on us, and I am I woke up this morning. I'm kind of in panic mode, of course. I am hosting that conference in Jamaica. The conference is on Saturday, that's this weekend, and I guess because I'm not there, you know, to make sure that everything is going smoothly and everything is in order, uh, because I I like I like perfection, and when I don't when I don't feel like I'm in control, I get into worry mode, and that is when fear and doubt creeps in and anxiety. So at this point, the Holy Spirit is speaking to me to just let it go, and I'm being reminded even in this moment that everything is going to be alright. Ha, thank you, Holy Spirit. We talked about Abraham last Friday and the promise that God gave him, but Abraham's story also teaches us something powerful about control. When God promised Abraham a son, Abraham and Sarah struggled with waiting, and eventually they tried to help the promise happen on their own timeline, and the result was Ishmael, but Ishmael was not the fulfillment of God's promise, Isaac was, and this part of the story teaches us something important. I'm sorry. Sometimes when we try to force outcomes, we create complications that God never intended. God's promises do not need our manipulation, they require our trust. Oh my god. And even though I'm sharing to bless other persons and to help other persons, I always say to you that he is helping me in the process, and I'm just gonna say that even in this moment, I'm grateful. I'm grateful for the Holy Spirit, I am grateful for God, and the fact that He is interested in every single thing that concerns us, and He is working it out for our good. We struggle to let go because psychologically, control provides a sense of safety, and when life feels uncertain, controlling situations can temporarily reduce anxiety, but excessive control often leads to exhaustion because the truth is, many things in life they are out of our control, other people's decisions, unexpected circumstances, the timing of certain events, trying to control what cannot be controlled creates emotional strain. Learning to release control helps to restore peace. And you know, when my students come to me from time to time, you know, just to talk about even things that are happening at home with their parents, how their parents respond to certain things, how even their friends respond, and how their friends behave or risk are or or react. And I always bring their attention to a wheel that I have in my office, it is called the emotional wheel, and outside of the wheel, it is things that we cannot control, so we cannot. I say to them, we cannot control people, places, and things, we cannot control a person's behavior, their response, their play, their attitude, the words that they say, their thoughts. Like we cannot control other people, but what is within the circle, that is us, that is what we can control, so we can control how we choose to respond, how we choose to what what thoughts we allow, you know, to rule over our minds. We can control the actions that we are going to take. We only have control as it relates to us. Anything outside of that, we have no control, and when we release control, it is that's how we display faith, and faith requires trusting that God is working even when we can't see the outcome, and Romans 8, verse 28 reminds us that God works all things together for good. This does not mean everything that happens is easy, but means God is able to redeem every part of our story, and when we release control, we are not abandoning responsibility, but we are acknowledging that God's wisdom is greater than our own, and we can bring this to real life. What areas of your life feel difficult to release right now? Is it a relationship? Is it a decision? Is it a future outcome? Instead of carrying the pressure alone, bring that area before God and say, Lord, I trust you with this. Trust does not always remove uncertainty immediately, but it does remove the burden of carrying everything by yourself. And wholeness, wholeness requires peace. And when we are trying to control everything, there is no peace. Peace grows when we release the things we cannot control, when we trust God with the process, our hearts become lighter, we no longer carry pressure that was never meant to be ours, and that space allows healing to deepen. So today, I want you to ask yourself where in my life am I trying to control something God is asking me to trust Him with? What would it look like to release that pressure today? How my peace grow if I allowed God to lead, Father, teach us God, to trust you with what we cannot control. Help us to release the pressure of trying to manage everything on our own and give us peace in the middle of uncertainty and continue leading us towards wholeness in Jesus' name. Amen. Healing often begins when control ends, and when we trust God with the outcome, we create space for peace. Tomorrow we will continue the journey toward deeper freedom. God bless you. Remember to share the podcast, remember to follow on YouTube, like and share with somebody else, and God bless you. I appreciate you. Have an amazing day and an amazing week in the Lord.