Surviving the Silence-3: The Day Everything Changed 🦋🦋

🎙️ SURVIVING THE SILENCE – EPISODE 3

What do you do when life changes in a single day?

When one loss becomes another…
 When disappointment arrives in waves…
 When your world no longer looks the way you imagined it would?

In Episode 3, we journey into one of the most heartbreaking chapters of Job’s story—the day everything changed.

Together, we’ll explore grief, trauma, faith, and what it means to trust God when life falls apart.

Job teaches us a powerful truth:

You can grieve and still believe.
 You can hurt and still hope.
 You can cry and still worship.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by loss, disappointment, heartbreak, or uncertainty, this episode is for you.

🎧 Episode 3: The Day Everything Changed
📖 Job 1:13-22

Remember:
 The chapter may be painful, but the story is not over.

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Transcript

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Good morning, good morning, good morning. This is the day that the Lord hath made. We will rejoice and be glad in it. Hallelujah. Uh, welcome back to surviving the silence, a chapter-by-chapter journey through the book of Job. And today we are at episode three. And the topic for today is the day everything changed. Of course, I am your host, Monique Anderson, and this is Beautiful Me Empowerment Ministry, a space where healing meets hope and broken places become testimonies of God's grace. In episode one, we discovered that before the storm, God established Job's identity. In episode two, we stepped into the heavenly courtroom and uncovered a conversation Job never heard. And today we arrive at one of the most painful passages in the book of Job and possibly in all of scripture. The day everything changed. The day Job's world collapsed. The day one phone call became another. And another. And another. The day Job became acquainted with a grief he never asked for. And perhaps some of you know exactly what that feels like. Let us pray. Hallelujah. Father, you are indeed awesome. We magnify your name this morning, Daddy. Because of who you are, we choose to worship you, honor you, give you all the glory, all the praise. You deserve our worship, and you alone deserve our worship. And so this morning, oh God, we lord you with our praise. We shabbach you, mighty God. Daddy God, we beg you up this morning. Hallelujah. You are an awesome God. Again, you are excellent in all the earth. Hallelujah. Thank you, Jesus. God, I am so grateful. I am so grateful for the privilege, the opportunity to be here in the land of the living. I am grateful, oh God, for your grace and your mercies and your favor, God, that is upon my life, that is upon your daughters and your sons, that is upon this ministry. Abba Father, I thank you. I thank you, oh God, for being our way maker, our miracle worker, promise keeping God. I thank you, oh God, this morning for your faithfulness. I thank you, oh God, that we are truly loved and we are known and we're seen. We're heard by you. Thank you, God, for your unconditional, reckless love. The songwriter says that all the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God, it chases us down, fights till we are found, willing to leave the 99. My God, hallelujah. Thank you, God, for your love. And Father, even in this moment, as we enter this difficult chapter, a chapter that many persons are living in their own ways. Abba Father, I pray for every listener carrying grief, disappointment, heartbreak, trauma, or loss. Meet us in this conversation, Abba Father. Heal the places that still hurt, comfort the places that still ache. And remind us, Daddy, that even in our darkest chapters, you remain present. The songwriter says, You remain. Hallelujah. Thank you, Daddy, in Jesus' name. Amen and amen and amen. Glory be to God. I want to take you on a journey. I want you to just imagine your phone ringing. You answer bad news. Before you can process it, another call comes. More bad news. It might be an email, it might be a WhatsApp message. Then another. Then another. Before you've had time to breathe, your world has changed. The future you imagined disappears. The stability you trusted disappears. The certainty you relied upon disappears. Everything changes. And perhaps for some of us, this has been our season. The book of Job 1, 13 to 19, the Bible tells us that while one messenger was still speaking, another arrived. And while that one was speaking, another arrived. And while that one was speaking, another arrived. The literary structure is very intentional. The writer wants us to feel the overwhelming nature of Job's losses. Like there was no time to recover, no time to process, no time to grieve. The losses simply keep coming. First, we see where Job loses his oxen, then his servants, then his sheep, then more servants, then his camels, then more servants, and finally the unthinkable his children. And we're not talking about two or three, we're talking about ten children gone in a single day. The Bible, what I love is that the Bible does not sanitize suffering, it does not minimize grief, neither does it rush past pain. It allows us to sit in the devastation. One of the most important truths in the book of Job is that God is not intimidated by human sorrow. He does not require us to pretend. I don't remember his last name, but in one of his sermons, he encourages us to stop sanitizing our prayers and be honest with God. And here in the book of Job, I believe that it is reminding us that God is not intimidated by our sorrow, He does not require for us to pretend, He does not demand that we fake strength, He does not ask us to smile while our hearts are breaking. The scriptures give us permission to grieve. I've always loved the book of Job. We love the book of Job because we can identify that we have lived through our own Job seasons where everything fell apart, one after the next, after the next, after the next. That God would look at all of the pretense and everything, and he would take the pain away, and he would show up for me, and he would bless me, and he would love me, and I'm not saying that he isn't blessing me or loving on me and everything, but I thought that if I pretended, if I faked it and everything, then he would it's kind of like I what it was transactional then, right? If I did all of that, then God would give me all of this, and the Holy Spirit spoke to me and said, Stop it. You cannot buy my love, you cannot earn by faking strength or by pretending that what you're experiencing isn't hurting, and that morning on the basketball court, I said, God, why? Why is it that you allowed my father to pray me back to life? Why is it that I didn't die when my brother and my sister died? Why? Because I was falling apart. I was falling apart, and I was honest with him as the Holy Spirit had me speak that morning, and I said, God, I am mad at you. I am angry. Like you have ripped my whole world apart. I don't know if I can trust you. I don't know if I can believe you. I don't have any faith left. I have nothing left. It is almost as if I'm in that space this morning, that that that day where I was like, I know that your words said that I should not be anxious about anything, and that you know, you have not given me a spirit of fear, but a spirit of love and of and power and of a sound mind. But I said, God, I am losing my mind. I am going mad. I said, God, at this moment, I am fearful, I am anxious, I am worried because with the chain of events that was taking place, I felt like there was no hope. And so I woke up in the mornings, and uh, it's like I was bracing for the next bad news, and I had to be honest with God, hallelujah, and that is where God wants us, and that is why I was just pulled to the book of Job even that morning, and God reminded me that Mo, I am not requiring of you to pretend I love you with an everlasting love. You don't have to fake strength to earn my love, you don't have to fake or pretend for me to show up for you. My mercies are still new every morning. The fact that you wake up in the morning and my rock is in your lungs, that means that I am still blessing you. It means that you are still covered, it means that you are still favored, it means that you are still blessed. Hallelujah. So the scripture gives us permission to grieve. And I like that morning, listen, hallelujah. I can live to tell the story where I felt like Job. As Job, he, and and I said to God that morning, I said, You know what? But I'm gonna worship you nonetheless. Hallelujah. I'm gonna worship you nonetheless, and that's where Job was. Hallelujah, hallelujah, and maybe that is where you are this morning, and God wants to know, wants you to know that you have permission to grieve. As a counselor, one of the things, too, that I love about the book of Job is that it is psychologically honest. In psychology, we use a term called cumulative trauma, and cumulative trauma occurs when multiple losses or stressors happen simultaneously or in rapid succession, so the nervous system becomes overwhelmed, and the mind struggles to process. People often report feeling numb, feeling disoriented or exhausted, detached, confused. And I'm telling you, listen, I was emotionally exhausted, and I felt so numb. Like I got to the point where I was like, you know what, God, I'm not even gonna cry anymore, I'm not gonna shed anymore. Tears are nothing, and so even the following day, when I got some more news, tears welled up in my eyes, and I said, I'm not going to cry. I got to the place where I said, God, I know there's a song that says tears are a language that you understand. I don't think you understand my tears anymore, so I am not going to cry. And I sat there that day when I heard another bad news. I was just confused, exhausted, and perhaps the most common question we ask as we go through this season is why? Why did this happen? Why now? Why me? Job's story validates what so many of us experience. Trauma is not merely pain. Trauma is the collapse of what we believed to be certain, the collapse of expectations, the collapse of safety, the collapse of predictability, the collapse of normal. And this is where Job stopped being a Bible character for me. Because I was living it. I could relate. I was living in my own season where there were just disappointments that happened or arrived in waves. Before I could process one thing, another thing happened. I mean, in the space of six to eight weeks, I had experienced over ten different things that came at me. Before I could process one thing, another thing happened. Before I could recover emotionally, another challenge emerged. Before I could find stability, another area of my life was shaken. And if I'm completely honest with you this morning, there were moments when I felt emotionally exhausted. I felt weary. And I spoke to my sister, and I said to my sister, I said, Jules, a couple years ago, something had happened. And I remember her saying that, Mo, this is your biggest storm yet. But I messaged her the morning and I said to her, I said, Jules, this by far is my biggest storm. Like, yes, the one that I experienced a couple of years ago, it was massive, but this one, oh my god, this one, it hit different, and it was huge. And I questioned, like, God, what more? I was like, I cannot carry another thing. I wondered, like, I was like, God, what are you doing? I I got to a place where persons asked me, Mo, what is wrong? I shut down the ministry. And persons were messaging more, what is wrong? And I said to them, I'm tired of telling the story. And I believe that persons that have told the story to are tired of hearing it too. So I'm not going to tell the story anymore. But one day, hallelujah. One day, I am going to tell a new story of how I overcame. Hallelujah. And maybe some of you know exactly what that feels like because you're living that season right now. You are fighting multiple battles, you are trying to heal while hurting, trying to trust while questioning, trying to stand while feeling weak. And if that's you this morning, I want you to know that God sees you and your struggle is not invisible to him. A matter of fact, you may feel like you're alone right now, but I can tell you this morning that God is sitting right there beside you. And I love Victoria Orenzi's song. I always quote it, You have backing. She said, I walk with God the Father, walk with God the Son, walk with host of angels, all of them join. You have backing. Listen, I got to the point up until now. I took down my beautiful me sign. I took down my vision board. Because at this point I had no vision. I took down my sign that I've had up for years that says every little thing is going to be alright because it never feels like every little thing is going to be alright. I took it down. But but God. And so we see in Job, Job 1, verse 20, where it says, then Job arose, tore his robe, and shaved his head, and fell to the ground and worshipped. If we notice, Job, he grieves, he mourns, he expresses sorrow, and then he worships. It's not because he understood what was happening. It is not because he agreed with it. It's not because he was not hurting. But it was because his pain did not erase his faith. Hallelujah. And this is so important because many people think worship is the absence of pain. But Job teaches us that worship can exist in the middle of pain. Faith does not mean you don't cry. Faith does not mean you don't grieve. And one of the hardest truths in life is accepting that we do not always know why. Job does not know about the heavenly conversation. He does not know why these events happened. He does not know what God knows. And neither do we. Much of human suffering comes from our desperate need for answers. Like we want explanations, we want reasons, timelines, certainty. Yet faith often requires trust in God while living with unanswered questions. The reality is that Job's greatest battle wasn't just loss, it was uncertainty. And many of us are fighting that same battle. Because I was and I still am. But I've invited the Holy Spirit in the space, and I asked the Holy Spirit, I said, Holy Spirit, teach me how to trust in the Lord with all my heart. Teach me how to believe again, teach me how to hope again, teach me how to have faith again, teach me. Job says, The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away. Blessed be the name of the Lord. But let me bring some clarity as led by the Holy Spirit. So Job is not saying God enjoys suffering, don't get that wrong. He is not celebrating the loss either. But rather, what he's doing is Job is acknowledging God's sovereignty. He is declaring that even though everything around him has changed, God has not changed. His circumstances change, but God didn't. Your circumstance may change, God hasn't changed. Your finances change, God hasn't. Your future, Job's future change, but God didn't. His emotions change, but God didn't. And sometimes faith is simply holding on to the one who never changes. Hallelujah. And so maybe today you are standing in the rubble of something: a dream, a relationship, a plan, a season, a hope. And perhaps you're asking, what now? We see here where Job teaches us that grief is not weakness, tears are not failure. Questions are not unbelief. You can hurt and still trust. You can cry and still worship. You can grieve and still believe. Hallelujah. And so I want you to sit with some questions today. What loss? Ask yourself, what loss am I still carrying? Have I given myself permission to grieve? Am I expecting myself to heal too quickly? And this one, may I remind you that healing happens in layers? So you can be healed and healing at the same time. And healing is messy, but God is right there in the mess with you. Give yourself permission to slow down and to heal. Healing is not going to happen overnight. We would love for it to do that, like I would love that. But it doesn't happen overnight. But allow yourself that permission to heal. Ask yourself, what would it look like to worship God even in my uncertainty? Job's world collapsed, but Job's faith remained. His circumstances changed, but God's character did not. His chapter became painful, but his story was not over. And neither, hallelujah, is yours. I want to thank you for joining me for episode three of surviving the silence. In our next episode, we enter an even deeper level of suffering as Job's health is attacked, and his wife asks one of the most heartbreaking questions: Do you still hold fast to your integrity? We'll explore suffering, identity, despair, and what happens when pain reaches your body. Until next time, remember, you can still hurt and still hope. You can grieve and still grow. You can carry, you can cry sorry and still believe. The chapter may be painful, but the story is not over. This is Monique Anderson from Beautiful Me Empowerment Ministry, encouraging you this morning. Keep trusting, keep believing, keep healing, and remember, God is still writing your story. Hallelujah. Father, thank you. Thank you for meeting us in our grief. Thank you for seeing every loss, every tear, every disappointment, and every heartbreak. Help us, Daddy, to trust you even when we don't understand. Give us strength for today and hope for tomorrow. And remind us that you are close to the brokenhearted and that no chapter of our lives is beyond your reach. In Jesus' name. Amen. Amen and amen. God bless you. Just remember that I love you and God loves you even more. Have an amazing day in the Lord.