Algorithms of The Heart-2: Tell Your Heart to Beat Again🦋

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Algorithms of the Heart – Episode 2
💗 Tell Your Heart to Beat Again 💗

Have you ever felt emotionally exhausted from disappointment?

Have you ever wondered if your heart could survive one more heartbreak, one more delay, one more unanswered prayer?

In this episode, we explore how God meets us in our broken places and reminds us that our story is not over.

The same God who called Lazarus from the grave is still speaking life to weary hearts today.

✨ Your disappointment is not your destiny.
 ✨ Your heartbreak is not your identity.
 ✨ Your healing is already in motion.

No matter what you’ve lost, God is still able to restore, rebuild, and resurrect.

So today, take a deep breath and remind yourself:

💗 Hope again.
 💗 Trust again.
 💗 Believe again.
 💗 Tell your heart to beat again.

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Transcript

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Good morning, good morning, good morning, and welcome back to the Beautiful Me Empowerment Ministry Podcast. Of course, I'm your host, Monique Anderson, and today we are diving into chapter one of algorithms of the heart. Tell your heart to beat again. Let us pray. Father, you are so amazing, and I am so grateful this morning for the privilege. Because it is indeed a privilege to be in the land of the living. I want to thank you, God, for sparing my life, for sparing our lives, the lives of every listener this morning, and their families, their loved ones, their friends. God, thank you for sparing our lives to see another day, God. Thank you, oh God, that we are indeed experiencing your goodness right here in the land of the living. You are indeed a faithful God. You are awesome. You are an you are amazing. You are a good, good father. Thank you this morning, God, for your never-ending, reckless love that chases us down, fights till we are found. Leaves the 99. Oh, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless of love of God. And I'm so grateful this morning that I can experience your reckless love, Abba Father, that we can experience your reckless love, mighty God. Thank you, God, for loving us. Loving us, oh God, even when sometimes we did not love ourselves. You love us, oh God. The Bible tells us that you first love us. You love us so much, God, that you gave your only begotten Son, so that whosoever believeth in him shall have eternal life. And we thank you this morning for the hope of eternal life, mighty God. And Father, even in this moment, God, we ask you for forgiveness. We ask, oh God, that you will wrap us and cleanse us this morning, oh God, that you will wash us and remove everything from us, Father, that does not represent you, that does not reflect you, mighty God. Father, we confess this morning that we have indeed sinned. And against you and you only have we sinned. So God, we repent this morning of all our sins and we ask you, oh God, to turn heaven's searchlight on us, Abba Father. The songwriter says, Search me, oh God, know my heart, know my thoughts, see if there be some wicked ways in me. Cleanse me from every sin and set us free this morning, Abba Father. Thank you, oh God. We're believing this morning, oh God, that you have thoroughly washed us and that you have cleansed us and that you have made us whole, Abba Father. And we are grateful, Father. Once again, I want to thank you for every listener, you know, every broken place, every disappointment, and every unanswered prayer. And we ask you this morning, Daddy, that you will speak to every weary heart. Mighty God, we ask you, Father, that you will meet every single person right where they are this morning, our Father, that you will meet our needs. Your word said that you supply every need, all our need according to your riches in glory. So, Father, we invite you in this space, even now, to just take control and run things in our lives, God, as only you know how to. In Jesus' name I pray, amen and amen. So, last episode, uh, I introduced you to my new book. It is called Algorithms of the Heart, and it will be released soon in a matter of days. And I'm excited, you know. This book should have been released on the 27th of March of this year, which was my birthday. But hey, delay does not mean denial, amen. Glory to God. And so, algorithms of the heart will be released um next week, and in the interim, while you wait, I still have Beautiful Me Journal series on Amazon. Please support your girl, it's Beautiful Me and Beautiful Me uh by Monique Anderson. So just go on Amazon and support your girl. I really appreciate it. So I introduced the book just the other day on Sunday, actually. Um, and we began exploring the idea that our hearts develop patterns called algorithms, right? And that influences how we love, trust, hope, and heal. And so today we're going to take a look at tell chapter number one, which is episode two today. Tell your heart to beat again, and this chapter, it was written from a very vulnerable place, right? Uh, I was sitting at table, you know, having my time with God, and I was breaking once again. So life has broken me so many times, or maybe I've broken myself, I don't know. But what I know is that God is in the midst of it all, and even if it was me, even though I faltered along the way, truth be told, I know that you know God is never far. And so, uh, this chapter, I don't know about you, uh, but I was at that place where I was just so emotionally exhausted, like I I cried, right? Uh, I was tired, and I I don't believe I was angry. If I was even angry, I was probably just mad at myself because I felt like I caused this to happen to me again. So I was at that place where I experienced a kind of tired that just settled deep in my soul, right? The kind of tired that I would describe it came after prayer, after believing, after trusting, after hoping, and somehow I still found myself in that place of disappointment. And like I've been there, I know the place, I've sat there, I've cried there, I've questioned God there, I've wondered if my heart could survive one more disappointment, one more loss, one more betrayal, one more deferred dream. And maybe today that is where you are at. Perhaps someone you loved walk away, perhaps someone you trusted broke that trust. Perhaps you received a diagnosis, perhaps you've been waiting for something so long that hope itself has become painful, and the Bible has a name for it. Everything is in the Bible, all right? It is our sword, never leave it. So the Bible calls it hope deferred, and in the book of Proverbs, it says, Hope deferred makes the heart sick. It doesn't say it makes the heart weak, neither does it say it makes the heart uncomfortable. It says hope deferred makes the heart sick. Because unresolved disappointment affects us, it affects us spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and even physically. And as it relates to physically, we talk about psychomatic symptoms, so the symptoms move from the mind and you start feeling pain in your body. So by this time, I was so exhausted that I was feeling pain in my body. So uh, first of all, it started with anxiety. So I was experiencing sleepless nights. Uh there was my my heart was beating out of control. Um, I was having tummy cramps, I was nauseous, uh, loss of appetite. I was, I could not even go through with my workout each day. And so I went to the doctor when it just started because I'm like, I don't know what is wrong, and I wasn't attributing my symptoms to the emotional exhaustion that I was experiencing, to the brokenness, and they couldn't find anything that was wrong. And I sat with the Holy Spirit and I said, Um, what is happening? I I just don't know, and so of course, the counselor in me kicks in, and as a counselor, I've learned something that at that point in my life, uh, the brain often processes emotional pain in the same regions where it processes physical pain, and I believe it was pastor um oh my god, no, I think it was Bishop T D Jakes. I was listening to an episode that he did with another pastor, I think it was Pastor Stephen, and he mentioned that mental pain is the same thing as physical pain, heartbreak when your heart breaks, when somebody breaks your heart, the same pain that you would feel physically if you got a cut or um, say a headache or a toothache. Let us say a toothache, because toothaches are so painful, is the same pain mentally, so the brain processes emotional pain in the same regions where it processes physical pain. In other words, I'm saying that the heartbreak hurts, not metaphorically, but literally, and research shows that rejection, betrayal, abandonment, grief they activate the same pain pathways that physical injuries activate, and this is why I was feeling sick. This is why my chest was hurting, this is why there were moments when I couldn't breathe, when I felt numb. This is why you may feel sick after a heartbreak, even whilst grieving, when the rejection took place, when the betrayal, the abandonment, this is why you feel sick, this is why your chest hurts, this is why you feel like you can't breathe. This is why you feel numb, because your heart may be emotional, but your body experiences the impact because the wound is real, and that is why healing must also be intentional. I cannot stress this stress it enough. The importance of healing. Yes, healing is messy, yes, healing may be hard, yes, healing go and dig up some things, and you're gonna may have you may have to relive some painful experiences, but take it from me, it will be worth it. I have had seasons where I re when I've been broken and it hurts so bad, and I lay there in my bed, and I say to God, I'm grateful for my relationship with God. I say to God, I say, God, I have to go through this healing process again, and I say, God, it hurts. I've gotten to the place where I said, God, if you could just speed this up this time. Because it is messy, it hurts, it hurts really bad. But I can tell you this and take it from me, a girl who's lived it so many times, that it is worth it. You're going to have days when you are, you feel like you're on top of the world, where you feel like you know the Bible tells us that we are more than a conqueror. You're gonna have those days when you feel you really believe the scripture and you're walking out the scripture, you're going through your days and you're feeling like, yes, I am more than a conqueror in and through Christ. Jesus are like, I wish a devil would, and then of course, there are going to be the days when you can't even get yourself out of bed, and that's okay, because you can be healed and healing at the same time, but it is worth it, it is worth meeting a version of you, a healed version of you. It is worth it, and if we go to scripture, Lazarus. When we look at Lazarus, uh, and Lazarus, like the woman with the issue of blood and the woman um at the well, because I've had my woman with the issue of blood um experience, I've had my uh woman at the well experience. Uh, Lazarus story is also one of my favorite um stories in scripture. So we see here where Lazarus was dead, right? Um, for four days, his family had already accepted the outcome, right? The mourners had gathered, the funeral was over, hope was gone. Then Jesus arrived, and he spoke four words. Lazarus come forth. Actually, he spoke three. He spoke three words. Lazarus come forth. The same voice that called Lazarus from the grave is still speaking today. Maybe as you tune in to this podcast episode, maybe your dream feels dead. Maybe your faith feels dead, maybe your trust feels dead, maybe your heart feels dead. But I want you to know that Jesus specializes in resurrection. The places we call impossible are simply opportunities for him to display his power. And yes, I have been in those places where I felt like my dream of a relationship and you know, covenant partner, marriage, I felt like that was dead. Like with every heartbreak, there was deferred hope. Every heartbreak carried deferred hope, and I got to the place of hopelessness. And as I sat that morning, and I was just literally crying out to God, and I was asking God, like, how much more hurt can my heart take? And immediately I heard the song, Tell Your Heart to Beat Again. I listened, I sat and I listened to the song, and then the Lord said, Start writing. And it's funny because I had spoken to my spiritual father uh maybe days before, and at the end of the conversation, he said to me, Have you started the other book? And I said to him, I'm not writing any more book, and I was speaking from a place of hurt, and then that Sunday morning, as I sat at the table, my prayer time with God, and I was just asking God, how much more? Like my heart can't take any more. I was by this time, I was feeling physical pain in my body from all of the heartbreak, and I learned something, and we will talk about that some more as we go through the book. And you also, I'm going to encourage you, even right now, that you need to look out and you need to purchase the book. There is so much in that book. But as I sat that morning, you know, and the Holy Spirit um brought me to the song and said, Tell your heart to beat again. And I started writing, and he just began to pour into me and pour into me and pour into me and pour into me. And I'm just so grateful. A woman of God said to me one time that Mo, you know, when you write, when you do the podcast, this is how this is how God, um, this is God actually taking you into counseling. This is your therapy, and it really is my therapy. Not saying that I don't go to a therapy because I I do have my therapies that I see from time to time, because the journey is hard, and you need an accountability person, you need people. I'm saying this over and over: no man is an island, no man stands alone. You cannot do it by yourself. I was the girl after I was broken, and let me tell you something: pain can put you in that place where a place where you withdraw from everybody, and you get into this space, pain pain starts becoming your narrator, pain starts speaking, pain starts defining you, pain starts telling your story, and so I withdrew from people, and I was in this space where I felt like I was an island and I could stand alone. I was like me, myself, and I. And listen, when when when when the pain became real, I had to crawl out and I had to seek help. So find you a safe person. Yes, Jesus is my therapy, therapist, but I still have a therapist, and I still have a community, a community of amazing persons that God has blessed me with, who pour into me when I get to those places and spaces where I'm empty. Pray about it. Ask God to show you those people that you can turn to. I know that it is hard to trust, especially when your heart has been broken so many times. Social relationships and intimate relationships, and otherwise, some of us were walking up and down, and our heart is barely beating. But I want to say to you this morning that in the same way that God spoke into my heart and gave me a new rhythm and gave me a new heart, He can do the same thing for you. One thing I've learned is that hearts don't usually stop beating overnight, they stop believing first, you stop expecting, you stop hoping, you stop dreaming, you stop trusting, and eventually you get to the space where you convince yourself that it is safer not to care, it is safer not to hope, it is safer not to love, but that's not here. Healing that is survival, and I've lived in survival mode for a very long time. There is a difference. Survival keeps you alive, but healing makes you whole. And God did not create you merely to survive, He created you to live. The fact that He said to Lazarus, He said, Comfort. He he is saying to you this morning, daughter, son, comfort, live again. When Ezekiel was brought to that place with the dry bones, and God asked the question, um, can these dry bones live? Um, for Ezekiel, he was like, Um, boss, I don't know. But Jesus spoke, God spoke to him, and God said, Speak to the dry bones and tell them to live again. And God is saying to you this morning, daughter, son, live again, live again. Because the Bible tells us that He has come to give us life and life more abundantly. The devil would want us to stay in that space of hopelessness and deferred hope. But God has come and there is hope in the Lord this morning. The beautiful thing about God is that God never asks us to heal ourselves, He never says, fix yourself and then come. He says, Come, come broken, come bleeding, come disappointed, come confused, come angry, come afraid, come. Psalm 147, verse 3, which is one of the scriptures that forms the basis of beautiful me empowerment ministry. He says he heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. I believe that God is drawn to brokenness. It is in the brokenness that I believe that he does some of his best work. It says, Come. It says he heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. It doesn't say he condemns the brokenhearted, it doesn't say he shames the brokenhearted, it doesn't say he avoids the brokenhearted, he says he heals them. God is not intimidated by your wounds, he already knows where they are, he knows where they hurt. There's this song I was playing it yesterday by a cappella. It's um I love a cappella, it says, Lay down the burdens of your heart. I know you'll never miss it. Show your daddy where it hurts, and let your father lift it. And there's another um part of it that said, and let your father fix it. And you don't even have to show him where it hurts, you don't even have to tell him where it hurts. He already knows where it hurts. I've had moments in my life when I genuinely wondered if my heart could ever recover. Moments when disappointment felt so overwhelming, moments when betrayal left scars, moments when I questioned myself, moments when I questioned God, yet every time I thought I was finished, God whispered, daughter, live. And he's saying to you this morning, son, live, daughter, live. And everything didn't change overnight, but because he was teaching me that healing is not the absence of pain, healing is learning to trust God while you heal. And little by little, he taught my heart to beat again. And yes, I've had nights when I curled up in my bed, surrounded by my pillows, and I asked the Holy Spirit to meet me right there in that space of brokenness and loneliness and confusion and disappointment and tears. I asked him to just hold me because I wanted to feel a loving, comforting arms that would ease the pain for a moment, and he did, he curled up with me in that little ball in my bed, and I felt the tangible presence of the Holy Spirit right there. He met me right in those wounds, and I am still healing because there are things that have happened in my life lately, and that is happening that has left me scarred and disappointed. I feel betrayed, I feel hurt, and I go back to God again. I don't know, maybe this is why God has given me this ministry and this mantra for this ministry of healing. Maybe this is why I go through all of this brokenness because it gives this ministry authenticity. So I'm not speaking to you this morning from a place where uh of complete healing, I am still healing because life keeps breaking me, or God has given life permission, let us say that, and sometimes our choices because you know disobedience has consequences. Hello? However, the pain is real, the disappointment is real, but your story is not over. This chapter is not the conclusion, the tears are real, but I want you to know that God's healing power is also real, and the same God who brought Lazarus out of the tomb can bring hope back into your life. He's done it for me several times from I was a baby. The same God who healed yesterday still heals today, and I am believing him for my healing right now. And just yesterday I was thinking about it, and I'm like, God, going back down this road, it is it is it it is hard, it is hard, but it can be done. Healing is possible because you have healed me before, and don't get me wrong, it's not that I I'm ending up in you know the same kind of relationships over and over again. Life can break you in so many different ways. Heartbreak can come from finances, it can come from your children, it can come, yes, from your spouses, it can come from friends, heartbreak can come from the church. There are so many places that you can experience heartbreak. Heartbreak can come from uh dreams that you had that you know God just rip up the manuscript and say this is not the route that you should go. So, my healing journey, it isn't only about heartbreak as it relates to um relationship and intimate relationship in particular, it's about so many other things because life does come at you, yeah. But the book though, it is about intimate relationship, actually, it's about all those moments that I've been broken in uh relationships. Uh, one of them ended in a divorce, and we'll talk about all of that. But I am in the process of healing today, and I am believing God for my healing, and I am believing God and trusting him for your healing. The same God who restores others can restore you, he is restoring me. Uh, and maybe today you stop is the day you stop speaking death over your future. Uh, there's a song that I love, and it says, and there's a scripture, it is from a scripture. It says, Death and life is in the power of the tongue. So maybe today is the day you tell your heart, beat again, trust again, hope again, live again. And I am going to do the same thing. As we close, I want to leave you with a few questions. Where has my heart grown weary? And I hope you have your journals because we're going to be journaling. What disappointment am I carrying? What am I afraid to trust God with again? What would happen if I allowed him access to the broken places? I want you to take some time this week, today, and journal your answers and be honest because God can handle our honesty. I always say that God is a big boy, He can handle it, okay? Father, I want to thank you for you. Thank you that you are close to the brokenhearted. Thank you for seeing every wound. Thank you for every listener who feels weary today. Breathe life into dead dreams, restore hope, restore peace, restore joy, restore faith, and teach every heart listening today how to beat again, not through our strength, but through your resurrection power in Jesus' name. Amen and amen and amen. If this episode blessed you, share it with someone whose heart needs encouragement today. And remember, you are beautiful, you are chosen, you are loved, and your heart will beat again. Of course, I'm your girl, Monique. I love you, but God loves you even more. Please run on over to Amazon and purchase my title, Beautiful Me by Monique Anderson. And look out because algorithms of the heart will be released soon. God bless you and have a good day.