“Boundaries Are Biblical… And You’re Allowed to Have Them”

Boundaries aren’t selfish — they’re biblical. In this episode, Sharon shares how healthy limits protect your peace, purpose, and relationship with God. Through scripture and personal stories, she explains why even Jesus practiced boundaries, how to communicate with love, and why obedience sometimes requires saying no. If you’ve been feeling stretched thin or guilty for wanting peace, this conversation will remind you that boundaries don’t break love — they protect it

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Welcome to Step Out Sis, the podcast where we grow healed and walk confidently in God's calling. I am your host, Sharon. Today I want to have a real conversation with you because life has a way of pulling on us from so many directions: work, family, responsibilities, expectations, and sometimes we're carrying things emotionally that nobody around us even realizes we're carrying. So just know, this space right here, this is for you, a place for growth, healing, and honest conversation. And today, we're talking about something that will truly help protect your peace: boundaries. Because let's be real, some of us aren't tired because we don't love people. We're tired because we keep allowing things that are draining our peace. And I want to say this clearly today: setting boundaries isn't just healthy, it's biblical. A lot of us were raised to believe that saying no is wrong, or that setting limits somehow makes us a bad Christian. But that's not the truth. Even Jesus had boundaries. Scripture tells us in Luke, the fifth chapter, the 16th verse, that he withdrew to pray. He stepped away, he rested, he protected his time with God. And let's be honest, Jesus didn't say yes to every request. So if Jesus had boundaries, why do we feel guilty for having them? And boundaries do something important. They teach people how to treat you, they protect your peace, they protect your heart, and they protect the assignment God gave you. Because Proverbs 4 and 23 tells us to guard our heart because everything flows from it. And you can't guard your heart without boundaries. Now let me pause right here because this part is important. Some situations are not about setting boundaries, they are about getting out. If you are in any kind of an abusive situation, physical, emotional, or otherwise, please hear me clearly. God never intended for you to live in harm. That's not about control, that's about safety. And in those moments, it may look like reaching out for help, seeking therapy, or creating distance so you can be safe. But for many of us, we're dealing with everyday relationship challenges. Family, friends, people we love deeply. And if you've been there, you already know nagging doesn't work, fussing doesn't work, preaching at people doesn't work. Sometimes it even makes it worse. So we have to shift. We pray, we release them to God, we set boundaries. Because prayer and boundaries, they go together. And sometimes boundaries sound like this. I love you, but I can't allow you to speak to me that way. Moving forward, I'm not doing that anymore. I'm choosing to step away when this continues. That's not rejection, that's wisdom. And let's be honest, boundaries get harder with family. And I'll be real with you, sis. This is something I've learned too. There have been times when people I love had opinions about my life. And it didn't come from a bad place. It came from love. But I had to learn something. Just because someone loves you doesn't mean they're the one God gave the assignment to. Sometimes speaking directly to you. And obedience means trusting what he said, even when other people don't understand it. And yes, that can feel uncomfortable, but obedience will sometimes require boundaries. And here's something else I've learned. When we don't set boundaries, that's when frustration builds. We start nagging, we start fussing, and sometimes we explode. But wisdom says, pause, pray, then respond. Instead of saying, you made me feel, we say, I felt hurt when. That's not attack, that's clarity. Now here's the truth. Some people will hear you. They'll grow, they'll adjust, but some people won't. And sometimes it's not even about someone doing something wrong. Sometimes it's about discernment. There are people who love you, who mean well, who want to give advice, and that's okay. But at the end of the day, every decision can't be based on someone else's opinion. Sometimes the boundary sounds like, I hear you, I appreciate you, but this is between me and God. Sometimes the boundary isn't distance, it's discernment. And at some point, you have to decide, am I going to keep trying to force this or am I going to step back, set a boundary, and trust God with the rest? Because not every relationship is meant for every season. And it's okay to protect your peace without feeling guilty. So let me leave you with this, sis. Boundaries are not selfish, they're biblical, they're not about control, they're about clarity. They allow you to love people without losing yourself. Protect your peace, guard your heart, and keep walking in what God has called you to do. Because sometimes protecting your peace is obedience to God. If this blessed you today, share it with another sister who needs it. Make sure you're following Step Out Sis so you never miss an episode. And I will see you next week right here on Step Out Sis.