She Called Off the Wedding… After the Bach Trip 👀

This week we’re getting into cancelled weddings, chaotic bachelorette trips, and my honest experience going on a girls trip.

I’ll be real .. I went into this trip a little anxious. I’ve never really been a “group trip” girl, and between the planning, personalities, and expectations… it can feel like a lot. But this experience surprised me in the best way and reminded me how powerful the right friendships can be.

We’re also talking about the recent wedding drama making headlines and why I think joint bachelor/bachelorette trips might actually be part of the problem.

From internet stories to real-life moments (including me almost fighting my photographer 😭), this episode is equal parts story time, hot takes, and reflection on what these celebrations should actually be about.

Transcript

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Welcome back to the Group Chat Confessional. I'm your host, Daisha Alexander, and today we're diving into weddings, bachelorette trips, joint bachelor-bachelorette trips, which give me the ick, and we're gonna start with the Prescott's. Well, actually, no longer because they just called off their wedding. If you don't know who this is, this is the quarterback for America's team, the Cowboys. He was getting married next month, you guys. He was getting married next month and just called off his wedding after their joint bachelor-bachelorette trip. Now, I'm not saying that's exactly why, but let's start with their story. Starting with the article, Dak Prescott and his fiance, Sarah Jane Ramos, have called off their wedding, which was set to take place in Lake Como, Italy on April 10th, 2026. The couple who has been engaged since October 2024 announced the cancellation of their wedding just a month before the event was scheduled. The decision was made after a blow-up argument at their joint bachelor and bachelorette parties in the Bahamas, leading Ramos to call off the wedding. The couple will now focus on co-parenting their two daughters. Yeah, they have two young daughters. Insane. Okay, a couple things here. For one, a month before is actually insane. And mind you, it's a destination wedding. Sorry to all those wedding guests who have now booked their flights. I hope they still go because who doesn't want to go to Lake Como, Italy? I mean, for one, I'm sure a lot of these guests are pretty affluent, but I'm sure there's also some regular dagular people there. Like, take the trip. Like, still go, okay? Like, cheers to Mr. Prescott. But no. Okay. Any wedding that is called off is like tea. It is crazy. You're interested in wanting to know more. But I was reading some of the articles on their relationship, and it sounds like their relationship was pretty rocky prior, and it was just the straw that broke the camel's back that happened apparently at their bachelor-bachelorette trip. Now, what we need to know is the fact that they sent out a mass email to all of the wedding guests announcing the cancellation. One of their wedding guests leaked this to TMZ. Now, maybe they just wanted to get their flight credits back and get that paid for, but that is absolutely insane. I don't know. I guess I'm sure this is a massive wedding, but hopefully it was somebody's plus one that did it, which even then, ugh, just ugh, like that actually like makes my skin crawl. Just a gentle, not so gentle reminder of be very careful of who you invite or don't invite to your wedding. I was very, very selective. Like, if I didn't have a close relationship, I did not want them at our wedding. I didn't want to look out into the aisle for like just the whole event with people that I like didn't know. Now, my husband on the other end, he did have a few add-ons that I was actually really happy, like it all turned out perfectly. And he had those relationships with them. So it was totally fine for me, but to not have close relations with people on the biggest day of your life, like why are they there? Why is somebody at your wedding that is gonna leak it to TMC? Make that make sense. Anyways, so here's my stance on joint bachelor and bachelorette trips. They just, for one, give me the ick. And the only times that I've seen them done is okay, maybe not only. The only time I've seen them done in real life, in my real life, not in on Instagram, is when someone in that relationship is like massively insecure. And while I totally have seen and heard of a ton of things that happen on these bachelor-bachelorette trips, it's just to me that would be for the wrong reasons. And my bachelorette trip was one of the most incredible, memorable, amazing trips of my entire life. It was that inner childhood unlocking the slumber party at your best friend's house, like when you have like a birthday and there's just like all of your favorite things and your favorite people, and you're staying up too late, you're talking all night and like saying nothing, but it's just the most like real, authentic, organic, playful fun. And to be honest, going into it was actually really anxious and nervous. And I'm not like an anxious person, but having so many different personalities together, having to make sure everyone's having fun, like all of those things stressed me out. And I always say this, but I am like a husband's girly. Like, I want to go everywhere with my husband. I want to go on all the trips, I want to experience and see things with him. It's really hard for me to sometimes say yes to like girls' trips where I'm like, oh, I haven't been there with my husband. Like, I want to do that with him. And now, after my bachelorette last year, it's totally made me rethink this. I have never had more fun in my life. And I think it's that you can just be truly silly and all of that with your girls, with women. And it's like, I'm not gonna cuss, I'm not gonna fart or like be inappropriate or say things, or honestly, even dress a certain way around men. And I I'm pretty traditional in my ways, so I I probably get canceled for that nowadays. But like, there's gonna be certain things I'm not gonna wear because there's gonna be other men there. Like, I was wearing anything and everything that I wanted, didn't care how cheeky my swimsuits were because I didn't have to worry about the male gaze because I was dressing for me and I was dressing for my girls, and that was it. So, anyways, a lot of my opinion as well is not just on the like the jealousy side. Honestly, those people that had joint bachelor and bachelorettes minus the Prescots probably was for the best because no shit happened, but I just know that we were able to have like core memories just with the girls, that the dynamic just completely shifts when men are in the room. And it's not to say that in a bad way, it's kind of like when you go out to dinner with your girlfriends and you're talking about love is blind and all these random skincare products and makeup products, and oh, I just tried this recipe. Like the conversation is night and day. My husband will probably be like, Yeah, that recipe was fire, like you made it a couple weeks ago, but he doesn't have value to add to my skincare routine. Like, hello? So, anyway, that is my rant on joint bachelor-bachelorette trips. Let me rewind. Let me tell you about how I almost had to beat up my photographer at my bachelorette party. Okay, hear me out. Obviously, every single day we're drinking, yeah, yeah, our livers barely survived. We were drinking from sunup to sundown, and we were at this resort, and I overhear my photographer talking to my sister-in-law, and she was like, Oh yeah, your brother's like so hot, blah blah blah blah blah. And I was like, I'm sorry, hot? Excuse me. Mind you, my sister-in-law does have two brothers. My husband is the middle child, and then he has a younger brother. However, my sister-in-law is the FaceTime queen. She FaceTimes everybody, and she was FaceTiming some guy that she ended up calling her brother that is not her brother. It is not her bloodline. Never don't know him, still don't know him to this day. And she redacted her statement so quick, she saw my face and was like, oh shit, fuck, oh my god. Did I just no, I didn't, uh and it was actually so funny because we all like realized very quickly what was happening because I was like, hmm? I was like, you've never met his younger brother, so yeah, I thought I was gonna have to beat her up. I thought I was gonna have to just send her packing on the next flight home immediately, but no, everything's fine, everything's fine. Let's get into my favorite segment of this entire show, Confessional Core. Okay, starting off strong with Am I the SL for having high expectations for my bachelorette party. I, 25 female, am getting married to my wonderful fiance, 31 male, this fall. A week ago, I had a bachelorette party. While most girls dream of their weddings, I dreamt about my bachelorette weekend. I put a lot of planning into this weekend, made a lot of phone calls, reservations, everything basically. For Thursday night through Sunday morning, me and 25 of my closest girlfriends rented a house. From the start, it was a disaster. I told my girls to get to the house early on Thursday so they could decorate and set up before I got there. Well, I got to the house at 3 and they weren't done decorating. So that bummed me out because I wanted that wow moment when I came in and saw the setup. I felt robbed, but we still had a decent first night. Friday I woke everyone up at 7 a.m. to make breakfast and get ready because we had a packed day. Vineyards, boat, lunch, happy hour, drinks, then dinner in the clubs. I was getting shaded on all afternoon because people said they were being rushed from place to place and had to carry changes of clothes all day, but we only had limited time in the city, and I wanted to make the most of it. Saturday was worse. We had brunch at 9 a.m. and no one was awake in time, so it only ended up being me and a few loyal bridesmaids. We went shopping after for a few hours, and when we got back to the house, no one was even apologetic, even though I was close to tears all day. The last straw for me was later that night when we were going to dinner and nobody was wearing the matching shirts we got for the weekend. People wanted to wear their own stuff, but that's not what we agreed on, even though my maid of honor notified everyone. At that point, I said, fuck it, this weekend was ruined and locked myself in my room to cry. It was even worse when I came out a few hours later and half the girls had gone out anyway, without me, aka the actual bride. I ended up driving home early on Sunday and left the house a mess for the girls to pick up because I was so upset. Now it's been almost a week, no one has really texted me except some bridesmaids and maid of honor. I know I sound bridezilla-ish, but these are supposed to be my friends, and we were supposed to celebrate me all weekend, and I felt neglected, and I'm just really upset. I understand these expectations may seem like a lot, but I made my expectations clear to the group chat and they just let me down so bad. So tell me, am I the asshole? Top comment, you're the asshole for all the control and the running off crying. No, you can't control 25 other women, your expectations were too high. Okay, so a few things to unpack here. Good god. Okay, for one, who has 25 closest girlfriends? Please. This wedding has to be at least uh 200 people because 25 plus their plus ones, that's 50 people. I'm sorry. But if you're a friend to everyone, I feel like you're a friend to like no one. I think that's not a saying, but I just don't see how anyone can maintain that many like close friendships. And she does comment and is like, yes, I do have 25 of my closest friends. They're people from high school, college, uh, work, family, like all of these people from all of these groups. So she does double down on that 25. Her expectations, I feel like, were definitely unreasonable, and there just wasn't like logic also involved, in my opinion. So let's start with the decorations and her expectations there. So she expected to have this wow moment and like the decorations weren't done. Well, why didn't you communicate and say, hey, is it good? Can I come in? Like, are you guys done? And yeah, like that's strange. Instead, you just like thought you were gonna be like surprised, and then they're like still taping shit on the wall. Weird, but okay, kinda get it. Like, you know, you're the star. Okay, next. Right when I saw that there was a packed day, immediately no. Get me the hell out of there. That is way too many activities to be doing all in one day. And I bet they were probably like at an there's only so many hours in the day. Like, good lord. I guess when you wake up at 7 a.m. on a bachelorette, you have several more hours, but you're like constantly bouncing from place to place. How can you even like settle and enjoy lunch, for example? You would need like at least two hours, you have 25 people. It takes so long to service that many people. So by the time you do all that, then you're jumping to a vineyard, then you're jumping to this, like that is insane with that many people. I will say to give her a little bit of uh credit on one of the things that she said here was like the fact that they didn't wear the shirts. I do feel like when you are planning a bachelorette trip, you have certain things that you want to do as the bride. And if that shirt, regardless of what it looked like, because I can only imagine what type of shirt you're wearing to dinner um on a Saturday night, like I probably wouldn't want to wear it, but I would for the bride because this is her trip. So I get that part because like it's not about them, it's not about them wanting to wear a cute outfit. You can do that literally for 364 other days, other than my wedding, but not that day. So that was rude and not like supportive. Um, but also like where's the maid of honor like running shit? Kind of crazy. So no, I do think she's the asshole. I think her expectations were just a bit unreasonable. And with group trips, you have to communicate so much. When we were starting our like, what should we do for a bachelorette trip? We were throwing out some different locations, we started with budget, and we were all getting on the same page of what we were able to do and what we wanted to do. And I actually was gonna do like Miami for my bachelorette trip, and then Miami was gonna be just as much as going to Mexico, and so one of the girls actually had suggested that of like we could probably find all inclusive packages for less than what we're gonna pay for Miami for a weekend that we ended up going to Mexico for a week and paid about the same. So I think having clear expectations, and also no wonder no one's able to get up at 9 a.m. with all the activities you did the night before. How are you ever supposed to get up at essentially 8 a.m. to get ready and to be ready to leave by nine or even earlier to get to brunch at nine? I think her expectations were just a bit much, but and then the whole tantrum, like we're too old for that, like you're getting married. It it's a no for me, dog. Like, no, just immediately no. I have nothing else to say to that. So, anyway, seems a little bit childish and a little bit weird, but also it probably would have been a lot easier if she had like six to ten friends, if that, that were on the trip, not 25. So, yeah. And honestly, I bet those girls that didn't wear the shirts probably weren't her bridesmaids. They probably weren't her besties, her actual besties. They were probably the ones that like shouldn't have been invited in the first place, clearly. All right, okay. Next one. This is my blind reaction. I have not read this one yet, and it seems interesting. Am I the asshole for leaving my bachelorette party and telling my maid of honor to stop living vicariously through me? I, 27 female, got engaged to my fiance in December 2019, around the same time as my BFF Chelsea, 27 female. We decided that we'd be each other's maid of honor. Chelsea and her ex split up shortly after the engagement because he cheated. My fiance and I started planning a laid-back fall wedding a couple months ago. I asked Chelsea if she was still up to being my maid of honor. She excitedly said yes. A few days later, she sent me a list of dates for a wedding shower at the place hers was originally scheduled at. I told her we weren't planning on a shower because of because a lot of our friends slash family were hit hard by the pandemic. She was upset, but I let it go. Something similar happened with the dress shopping. She had a list of places ready to go. I told her I wanted my friend who is a seamstress to make the dress. She convinced me to go shopping anyway. Then ended up trying a lot of the dresses her huh? Sorry. Then ended up trying a lot of the dresses herself. I was weary when she mentioned a bachelorette party, but she presented plans that seemed perfect. A hike, a nice dinner, then a drive-in movie with my dog. I agreed. She picked me up on Saturday, but instead of driving to the park we were supposed to hike in, she took me to a lake house. My heart dropped because I knew she'd planned a house party. Lo and behold, I walked in and my bridesmaids were there as well as the women who I suspect Chelsea would have picked as bridesmaids. There was also a lot of liquor. I don't drink. My mother is an alcoholic and I want to avoid the same fate. While I don't mind being around people who are drinking, it's uncomfortable and depending on the situation, triggering. When I walked in, half the people there were already drunk. To make matters worse, Chelsea neglected to tell me until 9 p.m. that she planned to stay the night. My fiance was out of town and I had no one to watch my dog. Chelsea said he'll probably be okay. It's only one night. Long story short, my future brother-in-law came and picked me up and took me home. I didn't tell Chelsea myself she was trash at that point, and I asked one of the bridesmaids too. Yesterday I woke up with 20 plus texts and calls from Chelsea and a few others asking where I was and if I was okay. I texted Chelsea back, who told me she was headed to my place to talk. As soon as she walked through the door, she started berating me, telling me she put so much effort into the party and I was so ungrateful. She told me that she wished I were a normal bride. Admittedly, I thought she was coming to apologize and I lost my shit. I told her I'd been walking on eggshells and compromising so I didn't hurt her feelings, but I wouldn't anymore. And she and that she needed to stop living vicariously through me and planning what she'd want for her own wedding. She called me a bitch and bad and a bad friend and left. We haven't spoken since. So Reddit. Am I the asshole? Top comment, not the asshole. I can forgive the dress shopping. That's not that big of a deal and understandable. But the fact that she lied about the bachelorette party is not okay. She knew you didn't drink yet, made that a main focus, and then didn't let you know that she wasn't going to give you a ride home, which would harm your dog and inconvenience your brother-in-law. Okay, wow, that is quite crazy. And I definitely don't think she's the asshole. I think her friend honestly was trying to live vicariously through her. I don't I think she nailed it with that comment because everything she's doing was for what her friend wanted, not what she wanted. And it's weird that she lied to her and said that they were gonna go on a hike and do this, that, and the other, and then has a house party when she doesn't drink. That couldn't have been more clear. And I agree with the top comment. Like the dress shopping, okay. Like, actually, wait, hold on. When she said that she tried on dresses, absolutely fucking insane. Like, you're actually not okay. Because in what world does anyone with common sense do that? This is my day, and you're gonna just go try on some dresses. It's giving she's wearing a white dress to her daughter's wedding. That's what it's giving. Like, even on her own daughter's wedding day, she would still need to be the main focus. And I honestly think it's probably because everything she's going through, because she doesn't reference anything happening previously or that being like her personality type. But yeah. And again, it's a no-for-me dog. I just can't. I just can't. And this is why I am very selective on my girlfriends. I am not for everyone, and everyone is certainly not for me. Okay, possibly the last one. Yeah. All right, am I the asshole for having an expensive bachelorette party?

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I, 26 female, am getting married in about a month. My bachelorette weekend is in two days and was planned six months ago. I've been in two weddings and to three bachelorette parties, and I know how much of a financial burden being a bridesmaid can be. So I tried really hard to keep everything budget-friendly and inclusive, down to letting everyone choose their own dress from any retailer in their budget. One girl found an amazing dress on Amazon for$40. Before looking anything, before booking anything, I sat down and estimated the total cost of each part of the weekend and sent everyone an estimate. The total came out to about$4.50 to$480. I made sure to overestimate just in case anything came out to be more expensive than I thought, which did happen. So the$450 to$480 price range was accurate.$178 per person for the Airbnb, three day stay,$178, the total for all three per person,$167 per person for the wine, for the wine tour,$30 per person for groceries and alcohol. Two meals eaten out and one night of bar hopping. Everyone agreed to come and was happy with the price range, with the exception of one person who said she didn't have the money. Totally fine with me. I'm just glad she told me ahead of time. Yesterday I got a text from one of my bridesmaids saying that she wasn't going to be able to afford the wine tour. She also said, I don't know if all your friends are loaded or what. And love you, Bestie, but this bachelor party is expensive. This obviously hurt my feelings because I tried so hard to keep the costs down. And the last thing I want is to cause anyone financial burden. I'm feeling very conscious about the cost, and I worry that she's not the only one who's feeling this way. Should I have been more inclusive? Was the wine tour too expensive of an excursion? Am I the asshole? Alright. A top comment I missed the days when a bachelorette party was renting a limo and treating the bride to a night out on town. I do think anyone who expects their friends to pay for a vacation just because they are getting married is an asshole. You can plan a fun day out in an activity that doesn't cost people hundreds of dollars. Okay, Reddit would absolutely eat me up because yeah, no. Yeah, we definitely spent a week in Mexico. Sorry, babes, but no one never mind. Rewind. So she gave the budget 450 to 480 and even gave room for it being a little bit more expensive. Everyone agreed, no one pushed back at that point. I don't think she's the asshole. If she would have said from that point, hey, I actually only have like$350 or$300 for that weekend, like I'm really trying to stretch it, this, that, and the other. Like maybe I don't have to go on everything or whatever. But after everyone's agreed to it and she starts planning with the budget that everyone approved, then what are we talking about here? Okay, for me, it's a little bit unclear as far as like the timeline. So I guess that does play a pretty big role, I guess, to me, because if she approved the budget that was sent out like several weeks or months prior, which I think may have been the case, and then all of a sudden, like the trip's about to happen, and then she's just like, Yeah, I can't afford it, then that's puts you in a tough position. But if If from the beginning she was saying that, then it's like okay. But she made a comment towards the end saying, like, oh, like I'm worried that everyone else is thinking that. Well, they have to speak up. You're not a mind reader, you can't read people's minds. And if they couldn't, then they shouldn't. And that is not on you. That is definitely on them for not communicating that with you. So I don't think that's fair. And also that communication, I feel like should be like to the maid of honor. Let her take on her maid of honor responsibilities in like handling and navigating that situation. Now you've stressed out the bride. Now she's spiraling. Now she's like, what if everyone else thinks that way? Like, let the maid of honor come up with a different solution. Hell, you could do a wine tasting tour at the Airbnb. I've seen some really cute homemade, like you get the paper out and you get the different cheeses and the all of it. Like, there's just too many ways to get creative, but it's all just communication. And so yeah, but I would definitely get eaten up by Reddit because they would say I'm very inconsiderate apparently and too expensive. But you know, I do think it's Instagram. I do think that it didn't even like cross my mind to not have a trip. Like nowadays, bachelorettes are trips, they're not like just a single day type of party. So, and honestly, I've been on multiple bachelorette trips and they've always been in different states. Every single one that I've gone to. All right, well, thank you so much for listening to yet another episode of the Grip Chat Confessional. If you like this episode, please subscribe. Give the video not a video, give the podcast a thumbs up. And anyways, you know the deal. I'll see you next Thursday. Bye.