The Easy Button

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Good afternoon, everyone. Welcome, welcome. Thanks so much for tuning in. Uh thanks for stopping by. So happy to have you. Hope everyone's having a great day, a great week so far. Hope all the all the best stuff and things for everyone going on out there. Thanks for tuning in. So I wanted to take the time tonight to chat about um finding the easy button. Remember those commercials with the big red easy button and you hit it and everything suddenly becomes easy? That one, like finding the easy button. And uh it's a little bit of a trick question because this podcast is gonna be about the fact that there is no easy button to hit. There's not an easy button, never gonna be one, you're never gonna find it. Um, and you know, the sooner we kind of accept that and and realize it and start to work with it through that lens, you know, the better off we're gonna be. So that's what I wanted to chat about tonight. And the thing that got me thinking about this is uh I have a I have a friend who her hobby is golf. Um, and she's been expressing to me lately that she wants to play more, she wants to get into doing like not even competitive tournaments, just like fun tournaments, um, kind of doing fun group things, playing with a group, like keeping score, but obviously for fun, like stuff like that. And uh she keeps telling me, like, well, I want to do it, but I'm scared. I'm scared to play in front of people, I'm scared to like let my team down, I'm scared to be embarrassed, I'm nervous to go out there, I don't have the confidence yet, this, that, and the other. And you know, trying to be the supportive person I am, I'm trying to give her advice and and opinion and direction. And you know, personally, I kind of think I know a pretty good bit about this because uh, if you've tuned in here before, you know I have horses, you know I train them, you know I compete um kind of across the country, barrel racing on them, and guess what? It is pretty nerve-wracking and it's pretty scary, and you know, I still get nervous and I still have to manifest confidence, you know, even after all this time, all these runs we've made, it never gets easier, like it never the nervousness never really goes away. Um, what I think does happen is you kind of get better at dealing with it, coping with it, moving forward in spite of it, navigating it, all of that sort of stuff. But the feelings of fear never have gone away from me. And uh, you know, I've I've listened to I've listened to podcasts from barrel racers that are much more successful and much more known in the sport and have much more notoriety and have much more uh awards and um you know accomplishments under their bet under their belts, and they say similar, like it never even for them, with all they've accomplished, all they've done, all the all the stuff they've won, all the all the belt buckles in the in their closet, like it still can be scary for them. And you know, they still they still have to talk themselves into being confident, talk themselves into to performing in spite of nerves, in spite of fear, and in spite of anxiety, in spite of the stress that comes with competing on a high level. So I was talking to my friend about this, and they're just like, yeah, like I'm just I'm just so nervous. I'm nervous I'm gonna embarrass myself, I don't have my confidence up yet, I don't want to let the team down if I play with a team, all this, all this head spiral stuff, right? And you know, my response is yeah, like I understand perfectly because I deal with it competing on my horses, and they were like, Yeah, but that's different, you don't understand. And you know, yes, it is different. Barrel racing is much different than golf, 100%. But the mental game for any of this stuff, and this isn't like like I always put the disclaimer out there, this podcast is not about horses, it's not about training horses, it's not about sports, it's not about golf, it's about life. And regardless of what the thing is barrel racing, golf, doing something else not sport-related in life, no matter what it is, the mental components are always the same. Overcoming fear, overcoming anxiety, building self-confidence, self-assurance, you know, getting over that fear of embarrassment as you're trying to achieve something. The mental game is all the same for all of that. And maybe the way you approach the mental game is different depending on what the specific thing is, but overcoming those obstacles in our head is the exact same for everything, and that's kind of what I got to talking to her about because you know, my friend is like, you don't understand, you don't understand how nerve-wracking it is, this, that, and the other. And I'm like, No, I do understand, you know, I take, I have taken and I still take my horse that I bought for $1,500 and train myself and go around the country and compete against people who, first of all, are a lot more skilled of a rider than I am. They've been doing this for a lot longer, they're a lot better at it, they're better jockeys. Plus, they're on horses that were bred specifically for this. They potentially cost hundreds of thousands of dollars because they're bred, you know, potent you to do this exact thing that they're doing. So the the caliber of competition is really, really far up there. And yeah, it took a lot of, it took a lot for me to overcome the fear of putting myself out there in the same arena as these other competitors. I mean, I have taken my horse literally across the country, and we have competed in fraturities, we've competed in pro rodeos, we've competed at world finals. We have competed all over the place, and some of these venues that we're competing at have over 400 to 500 other people competing. I mean, world finals in itself has close to like a thousand people competing. So, yeah, it's like we're I'm not really a stranger to having to deal with the anxiety of what that feels like. To go out there in front of other people, in front of your peers, in front of a crowd potentially, and compete against people who are literally known as the best in the world. They're literally world champions, and to compete against them when you know I feel I feel like I don't have the same skill level, I don't have the same amount of money invested in my horse, I haven't been doing it as long. You know, all these demons and doubts that like creep into your mind. So, yeah, I I would say I'm very much not a stranger to dealing with those emotions and having to overcome them. And that's kind of what I try to relay to my friend because the bottom line is there is no easy button, there is no button you can push to sidestep or get around any of that. It doesn't matter how much money you have, it doesn't matter how much resources you have. Look, I could be a multimillionaire and I could buy literally the best horse in the world at barrel racing for whatever that price tag is, and I could buy the best truck and the best trailer, and I could hire the best trainers, and I could have all the resources at my fingertips, like the best tack, the best feed, the best everything. And guess what? It doesn't bypass exactly what I'm talking about. I still have to summon the courage to go out there and and do the thing, you know, go out there and do the thing and risk risk failing, risk embarrassment, risk messing up, risk getting hurt, risk falling off. None of that stuff goes away. Like no matter how I could have all the money in the world, and I still have to go, I still have to go through that passage. And that's kind of what I was explaining to my friend. It's like it doesn't, because she, you know, she kept saying, Well, I'm just gonna keep practicing, I'm gonna keep practicing, and and then that'll build my confidence. And once I feel like I have a better, a better golf swing, then I'll then I'll be confident to go out there and and do it. And and I'm thinking, like, no, that's not gonna get you there. I mean, yes, being better at something is going to make you perform better when you do get out there. So, like, obviously, do your practice, you know, build up your skill and skill level, like obviously that's going to help you perform better. But it's not gonna buy, I don't care how good you hit that that ball in practice, I don't care how good you run those barrels in practice, I don't care how well you do anything in practice, transitioning to the real deal, transitioning to the real thing, like the the confidence doesn't come from what you know you can perform. The confidence has to come from within. And no matter how good you are in practice, like that it doesn't matter. Like you have to still face the fears, you have to still face the nerves, you have to still face the uncertainty, you have to still face the risk of embarrassment because that's the only way you're going to get to the other to the other side. And there is no easy button, there is no way to bypass it. You have to work through those feelings, you have to work through those emotions, and you have to be okay being very, very, very uncomfortable, and you have to push forward anyway until you come out better on the other side. And that's what I was trying to express to my friend. It's never going to get easier until you push yourself outside your comfort zone. You have to, you gotta, you have to feel the emotions, you have to deal with the emotions, and you have to push through to the other side. You have to potentially fail, you have to potentially be embarrassed, you have to potentially come back the next week and want to do better. All of that is part of it, and that is that is how you build yourself to accomplishing or achieving something that you want to accomplish or achieve. And the reality is a lot of times people just give up too early. And and you hear this from you hear this from people that are really, really amazing at whatever it is that they do. I mean, sports, life, business, career, whatever. People who are super, super duper successful and like super skilled and super talented and the best at what they do is is pretty common. The it's a pretty common thing that you hear from every single one of them is that to be them, you have to be willing to fail, you have to be willing to struggle, you have to be willing to be uncomfortable, you have to be willing to deal with all these emotional demons of anxiety and stress and and and fear of of embarrassment and failure and all these things. You have to push through all of that numerous times over and over again until you finally build yourself up to what you're trying to be. And what most of these people say is that the reason most people don't make it is because they just give up too early. They hit a point where they just are too scared, they're too fearful, they're too anxious, you know, they're not confident enough, and they think that those mental demons are because they're incapable, but it's not because they're incapable. Those mental demons is something that every single one of us struggles with. The difference is that some of us push through and get to the other side, and those are the people that don't, those the people that don't give up, the people that keep going through all of that, through failure, through struggle, those are the people that end up on top one day. And a lot more people could make it further if they just realized that, hey, you have to push through too. There is no easy button, there is no easy escape hatch, you have to be uncomfortable, you have to push through these feelings of fear and self-doubt and imposter syndrome and and all the things. And if you can do that, you can potentially come out on the other side and actually achieve these great things in your life that you that you want to achieve. I say it all the time on here, nothing nothing profound happens in the comfort zone. If you want something different, if you want something bigger, if you want something better, if you want to achieve something, accomplish something, you have to, if you want to change your life, you have to push through the uncomfortable. You have to push through these mental, emotional demons that all of us have to deal with. And I've said it on here before, just because somebody makes something look easy does not mean it's easy. I mean, I don't know what I don't know what people think of me when they when they see me about to make a barrel run. I have no idea what they think of me. But if they look at me and they think that I've got it all together and I'm calm, cool, and collected, they are way wrong. Absolutely way out of line because I am nervous as all get out. You know, I'm I'm nervous that some I'm nervous the run won't go well, I'm nervous we could get hurt, I'm nervous I'm gonna embarrass myself, nervous about like a thousand things, and the only way I can move forward is to deal with those emotions and try to deal with them in the best way possible and still execute, go out there and execute and perform what I'm trying to do. And again, I've heard I've heard people that are the best in the world at what they do say that they still have to do the same thing. Like, yeah, they look like they got it all together, they look like they know what they're doing, they've won all these awards, they have all this notoriety. It's like they're the best at what they do, but they still have to deal with those same emotions. It doesn't get easier just because you've you've got all these titles under your belt, or you've got all this recognition under your belt, or you're you've got all this success under your belt. It's still there, all the stuff is still there. Now, it may be less, of course. I mean, the more you do something, the more you you push through those emotions, you are gonna build more self-assurance, of course, you are gonna build more self-confidence. So the so the emotional demons get a little less, but they're still very much there, and they still very much have to be dealt with and pushed through in order for those people to perform and execute on the level that they do. I you know, failure. I you gotta embrace the failure. I I mean, I know I've touched on this on this podcast many times. You have to embrace the failure. You're gonna fail, you're gonna mess up, you're gonna make mistakes, it's not gonna be perfect. You gotta know that going in, and you gotta be completely okay with that because guess what, too, to get anything, you're gonna have to fail over and over and over and over. And I remember so you know, back to back to my horses and back to barrel racing, I remember so vividly, so vividly, just like being at a barrel race, and you know, just it's not clicking, and I don't know why, and I don't know what's going on, and you know, you just get you're just so frustrated. And I remember going back to the trailer and literally just being in tears because I was just so frustrated with failing over and over again, and I could have given up right then because that was a big breaking point for me. Like, I you know, I was so upset that particular day, and I really I it while I was in tears at my trailer, I really was like, you know what, I'm selling the horses, I'm getting out of this, I can't do it, you know, I'm not good enough, I don't know what I'm doing. Like that was that was really where my head went. And I was I was feeling serious about it. And that was the moment right then that could have changed everything for me. I could have, I could have given in to that, to those emotions, I could have given in to that failure and just said, I'm done, I'm done, I'm done trying. But I didn't. I woke up the next morning, I had a refreshed mindset, and I decided to push forward. And I mean, like, look at what we've accomplished now, look at all the stuff that we have done now. And I never would have experienced any of it if I would have given in to that to that failure. So don't be afraid to fail. Failure is your friend. Let it teach you what it needs to teach you, and like just don't be afraid to mess up because the fear of not doing it good enough, the fear of embarrassment, the fear of messing up, the you know, the fear of not feeling confident, that stuff will rob you of so many life experiences if you let it. So next time something comes up in your life and and you you want to do it, but there's that little angst inside of you, like the fear, the fear. You know, I'm scared, I'm nervous. What if I don't do well? What if what if it's not good? What if, what if this, what if that? Think about this podcast. I'm hoping you'll think about this podcast, and I'm hoping you'll hear me in your ear saying, You have to you have to push through the uncomfortable, you have to push through those feelings, you have to push through potentially messing up or failing. Push through it, and then on the other side, like imagine, imagine potentially what could be on the other side waiting for you if you just push through these emotions and you push through these feelings and you push through the uncomfortableness and you push through the hard and and you push through the difficult and you push through the failures, what potentially could be waiting on you for you on the other side? Like what could life look like for you on the other side if only you did that? So I think about that, hopefully think about that next time you cross a fork in the road. Life is life is short and life is meant to be lived, and too many of us are too scared to get out of the comfort zone, and too many of us miss out on potentially amazing experiences because we just cannot push through, push through those feelings and push through that that uncomfortable. Uncomfortableness and push through that fear. So don't let yourself be one of them because there's potentially really amazing experiences waiting for you on the other side. And I hope you get to experience them. Alright, thanks so much for tuning in. Please, please, please share this with anyone that you think might like it. That would be really amazing. It does take resources to run these these podcast episodes. Um, so growing the channel would just make it make it all all worth a while. And you know, that would be amazing. 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