Que es lo primero que pienso cuando me miro? - Ep. 21 #podcast #reflexiones

Amigas, bienvenidas nuevamente a una entrega más de "Detras de una mujer"!

En el episodio de hoy, nos sentamos a hablar de un tema que vivimos todos los días pero del que poco se habla con honestidad: ¿qué vemos realmente cuando nos paramos frente al espejo? Nos sinceramos sobre nuestra relación con nuestra imagen corporal, cómo lidiamos con la presión estética (especialmente dentro de nuestras comunidades latinas), y cómo nuestros cuerpos cuentan historias diferentes a los 20, a los 30 y después de la maternidad.

Hablamos sobre la famosa "faja universal", los estándares de belleza imposibles, y les compartimos un tip increíble para silenciar esa voz negativa en nuestra cabeza (¡conozcan a Filomena y Sulai!). Es un episodio lleno de risas, confesiones y, sobre todo, un recordatorio de que debemos darnos gracia y amor.

Si te sientes identificada con nuestra charla, ¡escríbenos en los comentarios! ¿Cómo se llama esa voz negativa en tu cabeza?

¡No olvides SUSCRIBIRTE al canal y activar las notificaciones para que no te pierdas de nada! Si buscan un toque un poquito más personal, sígannos en nuestras redes sociales para conocernos un poquito más.

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SPEAKER_00 0:00

Amigos, bienvenidos nuevamente a una entrega más de detrás de una mujer el podcast. Antes de empezar el tema, queremos invitarte a ser parte de esto. Si tú quieres estar aquí sentado, por favor, escríbenos.

SPEAKER_02 0:11

Escríbenos y suscríbete en YouTube, activa esas notificaciones para que no te pierdas nada, and if we are making a token a little bit more personal, for sure in nuestras redes formas a ver.

SPEAKER_04 0:23

Come siempre escribanos, wey dispuestos toer.

SPEAKER_00 0:27

Chicas, the day of hoy we're going to talk of a thing, we're going to hear of alguien that we really, but we're what we're when we feel from an spectrum.

SPEAKER_02 0:40

Not gonna amorcita, how is our relation with the spectrum today a little bit more conscient, no? But this conscience is buying or is bad, it's different, I gotta look at it for what I mean.

SPEAKER_00 1:02

And not necessarily, because when one is jovencita, suele series are more durable. You know that is consciente as you think, but when one is jovencita, much.

SPEAKER_04 1:31

Exactly, emotional. Because you me puedo ver, but if you mean, me veo fea. Si yo me siento espectacular, you me puedo ver como la última anda. Or you are feliz with me. And it's like, okay, we're going to empower the questions because it's the person that I do all the days, and I comment my day.

SPEAKER_00 2:06

You feel for me depends. There are days that I'm saying Jennifer Lopez, literally with my leave, I don't want to go to the mouth, literally the moon, and other days I don't have gas ni of the spectrum because I'm terrible. I think it's more hormonal. I mean I do this. See, a thing hormonal.

SPEAKER_02 2:25

Y ya. Exactly. No, no, I'm gonna get me in the spirit, to castigar me, to see that what I'm doing me gonna, because I'm in this mood, but I levanto in the maiden, meet in the casi that obligatory. Casi siempre aunque no see, and when it's type Ay Dios me, yeah, I'm losing, it's a sana of 10 years of bolas, I have 33, but I send you a little bit like I say what will happen, say that the time in bang, and I'm confirmed with it, no I can castig for the natural, for the order natural of those things, we're embecient, chamber. The thing is that it's super comparative.

SPEAKER_00 3:28

It's comparing. We have in the redesigning the cuerpazes, the cutis, and at the end of this space that you've obviously the telephone, you stay in front of a spell that no needs, and that's audio. And they're in the naturale.

SPEAKER_04 3:53

Yo siempre me comparo, aunque yo no intenta.

SPEAKER_02 3:58

O sea, pero yo pienso que la cuestión es darle la vuelta, que no sea una comparación negativa. Como dicen, o sea, si yo me pongo a compararme con Isabel Aladera, no hubo nada. No. ¿Me entiendes? Ella es, no sé, 10 años more than yo, lo que sea, es espectacular, pero yo la veo a ella spectacular, pero también me veo yo spectacular, my amor, ok, que no te quepas la menor duda. I have my days in which I'm esperolada, you know? But then this comparison of alguien that you are, you know, that's loxal. Entonces comparate with one person that you say, Well, you're my idea, it's incredible. I mean me.

SPEAKER_00 4:42

And the skincare de ellas, el tratamiento corporal, okay, no meeting.

SPEAKER_02 4:51

Pero te vas a comparar con ellos. No, no, no, absolutamente.

SPEAKER_00 4:53

No, 20 years more than you. Es más, con las who you have my idea, because you mean no, because we are distinct. You had other history, my life had definitively other stories.

SPEAKER_04 5:07

My life has other stories, because that's the one. When you say comparing is for example, I'm embarrassed, and it's a little difficult to hear me and accept the campaigns of my life, yeah. It's like a desperate. And then I'm the much on Instagram who had 38 semanas of embarrassing, and chiquitita, and you know. But no pues competition toxically. It's inconscient, and you have to say what I was saying, I encourage my life has your history, and my life has the history that you do, the way that you have.

SPEAKER_02 6:03

But it depends on me, it's like you're gonna entrench it embarrassed if you don't have those habits. Probably a person who has 38 semanas and entrenched, but it's a style of life of the embarrassment. So this is the comparison toxic. I think the comparison toxic is the inspiration. If I wanted to call this person, and probably this person is recommending, you use that crema, you have told me, you do that, you do the skincare, I do my molach, my question, the other, inspires. No compares, inspires because you can see that.

SPEAKER_00 6:40

But there are things that we say and inculcate. It doesn't matter about credentials, because who creates no gordao, sienta, rectita, and start line, for me. Imagine, but you have a cabin super, okay, I have after the day of it. And I responded, I think that I'm desperate, but it's a creation that I pushed.

SPEAKER_04 7:20

But I think the same, because I had my pillow lacious, and you had the pellet. And so I suddenly a little bit and said, I was great. But it's part of the 15 years after the 30 years, I maltted the creatine, I put it in blah, blah, blah, for you more eating, the standard, or like the universal that I was saying, put those punts in the water because I don't come back. I know. Yes, and so those things get on one, like, if you're seeing, and you reckon that my friend or my thousand or this or the other in part of our culture. And now I'm summing like conscient of it. And I have to do that of a certain way, and I have to take 90, 60, 90, and blah blah blah. Obviously, no.

SPEAKER_02 8:09

But those anecdotes that we have, because you know that in a major or more we have passed, it's more cultural. I'm venezolana in Venezuela, I send the pressure that there's bonita, it's the standard of Miss Venezuela, because it's Venezuela, there's bonita because it's perfilada, but not very delegate, because they're demacrata, there's sufficiently delgaday, complacently delgaday. And there's a point in which it's in.

SPEAKER_00 8:59

But these are the voces that always are in the spectrum, and when you have the segue to say, Well, this is you. And you will be able to get saludable.

SPEAKER_04 9:11

But apart from the autoestima that you have your family or your criancia or your culture, there are the things that are in the life. No teaching the space, Bonnie, in this moment, because the ignorance siempre trae the felicity, 100%. But when uno es consciente of esas cosas que tú te sientes, que te hace sentir mal, es que tú tienes que regresar al espejo y decir, OK, ¿cómo voy a hacer mejor?

SPEAKER_00 9:56

Yo por lo general veo el espejo y es solamente lo que veo. Sí, yo lo manejo de esa manera for a moment, pero es super emocional. Claro.

SPEAKER_02 10:05

About therapeutic is eres increíble, eres richísimo, mira, and it's positive, positive. No me voy a parar el espejo de decirme negative.

SPEAKER_04 10:16

No, aunque it's negative is I'm don't stay, I'm the person that I can be, the person. The person that you are reflecting is the person that you're not. Well, you can manage.

SPEAKER_00 10:33

I feel like the reflexion are managing. I don't know. I'm still in the car, the music, and I'm recapitular. So I think that my only sessions are super funny are when I'm still in the vehicle, in the car.

SPEAKER_02 10:48

You a little bit use the spectrum, I don't know. So I'm saying all the time, but when I dedicate, I know you're very relaxed. You know that a pension invasive is aturd and you say, I know. I need to concentrate me in other things, I will get space to me.

SPEAKER_00 11:04

There's a tip super fun that when you have these pensions super negative, you put a number to your mentee. A number. No, me lo inventé. Completely, comment, and what's happening in Ecuador and it's such a Philomena. So it's meant super effective. Of course, there's tough and say, Yeah, but I'm gonna put a number. My number is super folkloric, no?

SPEAKER_02 11:44

And then subite. Ay, Zulai, calmate. Vamos a calmarlo, déjalo ahí, sí, lo tengo.

SPEAKER_00 11:49

Sí, por eso le puse también Filomena como un nombre así como que ya Filomena, ya para.

SPEAKER_04 11:53

Yo tengo que poner los nombres aquí odiosos para que me caigan mal. No, yo no quiero dar con esta tip de que nunca te lo quiero. Pero ¿sabes qué? Te lo prometo. Tú sabes lo que me dice.

SPEAKER_00 12:02

Exacto, te funciona. Y esto me lo dio una amiga mía, me dijo, mira, léetelo aquí. Y dije, wow, y lo comencé a aplicar y me funciona. Entonces cuando Filomena aparece, ay no, mijita, ¿qué parece contigo? No hablo hoy. Dale, dale, dale. No hablo hoy contigo en lo absoluto.

SPEAKER_01 12:15

Me encantó, excelente tip. Contenido de alto valor.

SPEAKER_04 12:21

Y también cuéntenos ustedes si tienen alguna forma de poder como que lidiar con estas cosas. Cuando te llegan el pensamiento, ¿tú también tienes tu filomena?

SPEAKER_02 12:28

Sí.

SPEAKER_04 12:29

Será. ¿Y cómo se llama?

SPEAKER_02 12:31

Cuéntanos los nombres. Exactamente. ¿Y qué son esas cositas que nos han achacado? Sabes, porque yo creo que a todos nos pasa. Por lo menos in my casa era mucho de acuerdo, San Luis, San Luis, afílame la nariz, chama. Y dale, y esa pellizcadera de nariz para respingar de la nariz. Perdón, perdón, le di el micrófono a los jetdogs. Sabes esto, no se lo hicieron nunca. De afilarles la nariz, sabes, así, de hacerles esto. En serio. Ustedes son latinos. No, sí. Sí.

SPEAKER_04 13:02

No, nosotros lo que nos hacían era la faja. La faja universal colombiana. No, niña, es que tú tienes que 90, 60, 90. Entonces de chiquita nosotros nos acostumbramos a fajas. Porque entonces así es que se te.

SPEAKER_00 13:12

No, yo no crecí como que con esa presión. Yo más bien cuando fui ya jovencita y comencé a trabajar como modelo, ya venía el comparativo de joven inmadura. Ejemplo, yo súper alta, había otra chica más adita, pero con unas curvas espectacular y yo todas flaquitas y decía, entonces vienen estas inseguridades. Pero en casa nunca tuve como que la nariz. No, realmente no, pero sí cuando crecí sí me comparaba mucho. Y seamos súper sinceras. Uno quiere verse al espejo y quiere verse bien. Y quiere verte muñeca. Entonces, como que sí empiezas como que no. Y te matas de hambre. Y tienes unas dietas totalmente extremas cuando uno ya es jovencita, quieres, o sea, como que tienes un estándar súper alto que realmente no vas a llegar nunca.

SPEAKER_02 13:51

Yo de joven, al revés, pero yo de joven era, aunque no lo parezca, pero sí era bien inocente. Yo estaba bien inocente de muchas cosas. Mira, yo trabajaba como promotora con un grupo que éramos muchas mujeres, o sea, éramos, qué sé yo, de repente éramos 50, 60 mujeres, que todas eran chicas del oso, espectaculares, tal, y yo por ignorancia, por inocencia, por no sé, chama, pero yo nunca tuve complejo de que si la otra era super alta, ya estaban operadas, tal. But in ignorance, okay, no me acomplejaba because you then i think. I was like, Yeah, it's so fascinating as it was. I was in three years.

SPEAKER_00 14:45

You my 44 that I'm completely, which I think because I am how I really, and more than the physical is how I send it, emotionally, because it's a conjunction, it's like lucky, it's the paquete, okay, physical notes, it's how you send. I see a diet, I had a matrimony seven years ago, at the melon, piña, I pegamos with my among the ombligo and the espinaz. Okay, this peg and but complicated have a diet and see the results so rapid. I reckon I saw these children in a pasarella, because you said pasarella, an abdomen quadritos, I know, but you agree in the big manner, because I said, No, if she has quadritos, you will have to. I met the gymnasium, I motivate this child, and you said, Oh my god, exactly. Exactly.

SPEAKER_02 15:36

Te inspiraste, no fashion. So you can have a flojill, but nothing, but you said you're clarity.

SPEAKER_00 15:46

And they're pending a corriday.

SPEAKER_04 15:58

But I'm dead with you, I think that's the madurez. Porque, por ejemplo, yo me miraba el espejo different in my venture. You decided, well, no means if I'm a little bit more, because in three days I have and other. It's jeans, talk and that. But yeah, no. Now I mix the spirit and I think okay, why do you maintain me? Now the cremas, the hyaluronic acid, the blah blah blah, all these things, my facial. Because my hand is the same. Because if I do now, it's more difficult, and I want to be many times, I'm gonna stay here with my life, and now it's like this I have to get different in the face, because it's the same thing that I'm at the event. Now I import my life, I'm sorry, I'm gonna be, I don't have the more attitude.

SPEAKER_00 16:55

But I have to learn, you appreciate me, because you don't receive a critical feel of alguien that you can see. If you can, I'll be low. You know? Okay, you have to learn, if it's you have. And yeah, I'm in the process of the gymnasium and I'm gonna go ahead and go and exige me, because it's other exiges and you have to do this and obsession. And we have to do it.

SPEAKER_04 17:24

If I'm a Jimmy and I'm flack at the same time. What the hell?

SPEAKER_02 17:27

Why is it that I'm not gonna say 100 sentadillas? But appends in the process, okay, you know that it's a question, this I was at a much who I wanted to do, accompanying me, that it is incredible, Dory Bebe. She is incredible, and she has a chip, has much accompanied spiritual and emotional, and all the time repeating, suel the expectatives. Swelta the expectatives that you're still gonna do the convi in an habit. Swelta those false expectatives of it. I don't know, a moment that I was very, very, very delgadita, super delgadita. I'm gonna put a photo super flack.

SPEAKER_00 18:36

Oh, you're flaquísima.

SPEAKER_02 18:38

And it was the party, it's been my baby cumple three years pronto. So después del parto quedé super delgada, the teta, the cosa. Sorte la teta one and a year, and now I'm at the principal, obviously the peso of a year for the other. But yeah, no meeting. Okay, so I'm gonna be gorday buena, amiga. I'm gonna get it. Exactly. Okay, those cachetitos rellenitos están yo, yo tengo que ir a ver. Me quedo así bajo, vamos a ver qué es lo que quiero hacer, porque de verdad ya me veo en el amigo, no te quiero, ¿vale? Claro. But then it depends de amor.

SPEAKER_04 19:44

No es porque tu te ves así orden, ya no le estás parando, sino ahora estás enfocada in quién soy yo, estoy bien.

SPEAKER_02 19:59

Yo por salud exactly.

SPEAKER_00 20:05

Yo tengo un papá diabético anda y mamá hipertensa. Entonces, como que eso sí me resuena, digo, no, yo quiero estar saludable. And the thing that is al gimnasio and crear músculo es para estar bien después de unos años, pararme recta, anda amarrar los zapatos. Subir las escaleras, ir a ver a mis nietos, exacto.

SPEAKER_02 20:22

Eso quiero, de verdad, verdadera. Yo bailé mucho tiempo, chamba. O sea, quiero seguir teniendo esas destrezas. Y el ejercicio de fuerza es. Yo siento que si no me ejercito, me oxido. Eso es lo que siento in my relation with the ejercicio. No es tanto que quiero estar super física, sino que sento que if I move, I oxido. For the reason for the presentation.

SPEAKER_04 20:52

During the intelligence emotional, has been that you have a cirurgia.

SPEAKER_00 21:03

You had circumstances, my life has been completely. I put Botox, I'm in what I'm saying, if I do this pass, and I disfruted the pass of the years in the house. So I don't have the same, I have to do it. But nothing, and I disfrute because I meet and I think I'm viva. At my 44 years, I'm viva. And I've been divina, and I cost just because I was abandoned, I sent these. I have depression, I can take me on the pijama. It were 7 pm and I shouldn't have literally, because this is the part sincere. There are days that I could take the pijama after years, not ultimately, that I was in the pyjama all the time, I couldn't refrigerat and I could go back to the spectrum and I was. Levanta, you can see that I admire at the moment that I was. And I've had a process super fun and I'm going to have what I've been here. There are days and days, no? But there are days that I think more.

SPEAKER_02 22:38

It's a process to get to this autoestima solution, yeah. It's a process, a lot of you accept, with the acceptable or is inconforme, there's the possibility of it. And it's a process.

SPEAKER_04 22:55

Exactly. And I think that the space is to enter what the process we need to. For me, I have therapy, I do a lot of gym, I would have simply a very good conversation with amistades. And those things are forces of what you said, sanity. And this sanation is what we have to do, we can draw positives, and we can see the form of the world. In the way that we know. And you're the best version of me in this moment.

SPEAKER_02 23:54

This is your consequence, or a consequence that you received that. It's like the tip of Elizabeth, a concept that you have to stop.

SPEAKER_04 24:06

The consequence is compassion. Give yourself grace.

SPEAKER_02 24:39

Si subiste de peso, entonces es porque te descuidaste. Si te pones el pelo rizado, ay, porque no te sacaste el cabello. Entonces, si te dejas los risos, o te lo alisas, entonces, ay, ¿por qué no te aceptas? Chamo, siempre van a criticar y es imposible complacer a todos. No puedes. Sé feliz tú para ti, mi amor. Ese es el consejo que yo puedo dar. Sé feliz. ¿Te gusta tu pelo rizo? Usa los rizos. Pero si un día te dio la gana de alisártelo, pues así te lo alisaste y ya. Es imposible complacer a todos y siempre van a criticar. Aléjate de esos ambientes tóxicos que todo lo que hacen es criticar.

SPEAKER_00 25:14

No se peleen con el espejo. Disfruten el proceso, disfruten los cambios. Tu cuerpo tiene otra historia y disfruta y celebra que estás vivo. Cada mañana que te dejan el espejo, definitivamente es un día más de vida. O sea, ya eso es ganancia. Eso es ganancia.

SPEAKER_04 25:28

Obvio. Muchísimas gracias por estar con nosotros en otro episodio de Detrás de una mujer. Chachito, suscríbete.