Bad Nanny, Big Food Conspiracies & Baby's First Steps

A nanny quit after one week because a toddler threw a tantrum. We have thoughts.

We're back with another episode and things got spicy fast.

This week: a mom who's also an engineer, triathlete, and financial professional is DONE being called "mama" by everyone, and we get into why the title mom deserves more credit than people give it. A first-time dad with zero paternity leave wants to know how to survive the newborn stage, and Luke Combs actually said it best. A nanny quit after a one-week trial because a 15-month-old hit her and threw food on the floor... you know, normal toddler stuff. We also need to talk about Big Food and their "healthy" snack scam because we're onto them.

Plus, Taylee was convinced the flu test touches your brain. She looked it up. She was wrong. And baby took his first steps this week so we're basically emotional wrecks.

As always, this is not real medical or parenting advice. We're just two mid-twenties parents doing our best and dragging you along for the ride.

Got a question for the Parent Helpline? Send it our way! We'd love to feature you next week

Transcript

Late-Night Intro And Helpline Setup

SPEAKER_01 0:02

Well, you ready? You ready to start this thing? I'm ready. I'm ready, I'm ready, I'm ready. It's a song.

SPEAKER_00 0:11

I'm ready by AJR. That is what that song is. Yo, yo, yo, yo, yo! Welcome back! What up? I'm Taylor.

SPEAKER_01 0:23

I'm Braden.

SPEAKER_00 0:24

We're up past our bedtime. Wait. But not really. It's light outside now because of stupid daylight savings, so. True. If the lighting is weird, it's because yeah, it's golden hour. It's golden shining in the light.

SPEAKER_01 0:42

We don't get golden hours through our window. True, that would look so good. I think it would look great.

SPEAKER_00 0:46

Yeah, that's why we don't look as good. Yeah. Well, we've got a great show for you guys tonight. Per usual. We're starting it off with the parent helpline.

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Ring ring ring.

SPEAKER_00 0:57

Yep. Input. Telephone sound.

SPEAKER_01 1:02

Someday we'll have that.

SPEAKER_00 1:03

Yep. This is just our space for the parents, really, to just come and chat and you know share stories. Ask us questions. Share concerns. Get bad answers. Get bad advice. Really, mainly bad advice. But good advice.

SPEAKER_01 1:25

Unqualified advice.

SPEAKER_00 1:28

So let's start it off with the first one.

SPEAKER_01 1:33

Wow.

SPEAKER_00 1:34

All from anonymous. I always want to say a name, but Anon. Yeah, Anon.

SPEAKER_01 1:38

As they say.

SPEAKER_00 1:40

Anon. So wait, what was that word the other day that you literally did not know how to pronounce? Madame.

SPEAKER_01 1:50

Madam.

SPEAKER_00 1:51

Yes, it's madam, and you said madam.

SPEAKER_01 1:54

Madame.

Putting The Baby On The Floor

SPEAKER_00 1:55

Like what? Excuse me, sir. Excuse me, madame wife. Gotta put me. Yeah, that was really funny. Alright, well, I don't think you're ready for this jelly. I don't think you're ready for this legend. Are you ready? I'm ready. Okay. I started putting the baby on the floor. It's really convenient. And I'm not just talking about a crying overwhelming baby. Just I gotta do something, and baby doesn't want to be left alone. Blanked on the floor. Baby between my feet. And if I stay very very close, she's usually happy for quite a while. I have my hands free to do whatever. Been using it mostly for desk work or for cooking, only prep, obviously, not carrying around hot stuff. Started doing this at six months, but probably could have started earlier. Give it a try if you haven't. Am I the only person that does this? Or is or am I on to something here?

SPEAKER_01 2:54

I'm pretty sure I did that only's whole life.

SPEAKER_00 2:57

Uh let me just say, we sold our dog for this exact purpose. So that way I can put my baby down. Um Max and honestly, we kind of live on the floor. Let's be real. Like we're eating on the floor, sitting on the floor.

SPEAKER_01 3:16

We like sat on the floor though, I feel like before Maxon.

SPEAKER_00 3:21

Wait, what? You and me sat on the floor.

SPEAKER_01 3:27

Um I'm not a floor sitter. Like that's what couches are for. It's just normal now. Wait, what? I feel like I sat on the floor a lot pre-Maxxon.

SPEAKER_00 3:36

I've never seen you sit on the floor. When did you sit on the floor?

SPEAKER_01 3:40

I don't know. I feel like I did.

SPEAKER_00 3:43

Braden, whenever we were sitting, it was on the couch.

SPEAKER_01 3:47

Pulled together, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 3:48

Yeah. When you're saying when I was gone, you would sit on the floor. Sometimes? What? That was so weird.

SPEAKER_01 3:58

So it was just very natural to put bags on the ground.

SPEAKER_00 4:02

Because you're one with the ground?

SPEAKER_01 4:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 4:04

Well, I do think. Wait, what was that whole grounded thing?

SPEAKER_01 4:08

I was gonna say about that too, but it didn't really apply because that's like it applies.

SPEAKER_00 4:16

They're making grounding beds. It's important to be grounded.

SPEAKER_01 4:20

It is important to be grounded.

SPEAKER_00 4:22

And I think that literally means being on the ground. Zero sets.

SPEAKER_01 4:28

Plug.

SPEAKER_00 4:30

That's like the biggest loadable I've ever heard.

SPEAKER_01 4:33

I kind of want to try it though. What if it does feel good?

SPEAKER_00 4:38

Well, explain to the crowd what you're even talking about.

SPEAKER_01 4:42

I don't really fully understand it or know how to explain it. But their bed sheets.

SPEAKER_00 4:47

And how did you happen upon this?

SPEAKER_01 4:49

I don't remember. It was forever ago. Yeah. But their bedsheets that they plug into the ground section of your plug.

SPEAKER_00 4:59

Because they did a bunch of studies that show that it's important to be grounded, like connected to the ground outside, right? Like it's better for you.

SPEAKER_01 5:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:09

Like my mom's a big believer in like sticking your feet in the sand.

SPEAKER_01 5:13

Yeah. Well, there's a lot of science behind that stuff.

SPEAKER_00 5:16

Yeah, it helps you see the thing.

SPEAKER_01 5:17

This is like a different kind of grounding.

SPEAKER_00 5:19

Oh.

SPEAKER_01 5:20

Like electrical grounding.

SPEAKER_00 5:22

Yeah, that feels like honestly just a safety hazard. Like, what if you went to bed? Are you legitimated? No, it's not.

SPEAKER_01 5:29

You plug it in, because you know how your plug has two on top and one on the bottom.

SPEAKER_00 5:33

I don't know how electricity works.

SPEAKER_01 5:35

Well, the one on the bottom, you know there's three holes.

SPEAKER_00 5:38

Well, yeah, I know what it looks like. It looks like the little face.

SPEAKER_01 5:42

Yeah, the two on top give you electricity. The one on the bottom is called the ground, and I don't fully understand why, but it doesn't give electricity.

SPEAKER_00 5:52

But yeah, stay grounded. Like babies should be on the ground. I mean, safely.

SPEAKER_01 5:56

Yeah, definitely.

SPEAKER_00 5:58

I feel like you're valid, girl. Live your dream.

SPEAKER_01 6:00

You're just six months late.

SPEAKER_00 6:01

That's just why I got rid of my psycho dog. Because if I put my baby down on the ground, the dog would have been on top of the baby. Yeah. Justice for postpartum pet trauma. I feel like that's just not talked about at all. Yep. Well, I think we beat that one to a horse. Wait. Beat to a pulp? Pulp?

unknown 6:29

Pulp?

SPEAKER_00 6:30

I don't get that phrase. It's kind of dark. Beat to a pulp?

SPEAKER_01 6:40

Well, not necessarily, but you know, like when you squeeze an orange, there's pulp and orange juice.

SPEAKER_00 6:46

Okay, so why would that be dark?

SPEAKER_01 6:48

Well, yeah, I mean it is like usually in reference to beating somebody like that.

Being Called Mama And Identity

SPEAKER_00 6:53

Oh gosh. Well, we will not be using that around here. Alright, well, let's move on to the next one. I okay, this one's kind of actually sad. So put your sad cap on. Jeez. You put your sensitive side on. I hate being called mama. At the pediatrician, at the baby store, at the restaurant, and group chats. My geez. This is hard. There are a few bad words in here, but we're a clean podcast. So I have a name and identity besides being a mom. Just hate it, really. I'm a mama, yes. I'm also an engineer and financial progressional. Whatever that is. Good for you, girl. I'm also a triathlete and a friend and a wife and a daughter. I feel society just kind of forgets you as are a person besides being a mom. Or maybe it's just me and I'm projecting. I found out this simple thing is not helping me with PPD recovery. That's postpartum question. Really now.

SPEAKER_01 8:01

I understood.

SPEAKER_00 8:02

Well, I'm sorry that you're going through that, girl.

SPEAKER_01 8:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:06

You or all of those other financial financial progressional.

SPEAKER_01 8:12

Slash stray up slash wife slash friend.

SPEAKER_00 8:16

I will say, I don't. I don't know. I feel like this is probably hard to say because you're like dealing with mental stuff, but you should be proud to be a mom. Like that is one of the hardest roles you could take on in one of the best roles, but I mean you're literally raising a human. Like you're raising the future of humanity, you're keeping our species going, and you're hopefully raising them to be a good person, like a sane person, which we need a lot more of. And honestly, people, a lot of people aren't having kids anymore simply because it's too hard and they don't want to do it. So just know, like, you're doing something hard, and the title mom is like a symbol of that. So I feel like you should wear it with pride. Yeah. One. Second, unless you're like a doctor, like you have a doctorate in something, most people are a lot of things. If this just gives you perspective. No, like most people like people don't call you salesmen.

SPEAKER_01 9:29

No.

SPEAKER_00 9:30

They just call you your name.

SPEAKER_01 10:10

I mean, most people hate salesmen though, so probably a good reason for that.

SPEAKER_00 10:15

I'm saying no one really goes by their profession. No, except for doctors and moms, because those are equally on the same level. Wow. Good conclusion. That was cool what I did there. But also, I don't know. Just do what makes you happy, and if that ain't making you happy, I feel like you should just tell people.

SPEAKER_01 10:42

Yeah. Tell them anyone's gonna care if you like.

SPEAKER_00 10:45

Tell them that you'd like to be called triathlete.

SPEAKER_01 10:50

Yeah. I wonder if she does Iron Man, that's crazy.

SPEAKER_00 10:53

Yeah, like you seem like a pretty bomb person, you're killing it at life.

SPEAKER_01 10:57

Very top one percent, probably.

SPEAKER_00 11:00

Screw the haters.

SPEAKER_01 11:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 11:01

And you're a great mom.

SPEAKER_01 11:03

Yeah, you are. Keep it up.

SPEAKER_00 11:06

Anything else you'd like to add? Thank you. I spoke from my heart. Moms and doctors are on the same level. Yep. Moms are. I okay, actually, today. When I was coming up with my I'm having a PowerPoint night. When I was coming up with one of my PowerPoint ideas, I thought I was about to do professions moms should be able to do without getting a degree. And one of them was doctor.

SPEAKER_02 11:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 11:45

Well, maybe not doctor, but definitely like pharmacist. Like we know everything about the meds.

SPEAKER_02 11:52

You do?

SPEAKER_00 11:53

Yeah, you know, I know exactly what medicine to give you when you're sick, to give the baby. My mom taught me all I know. She knows a lot. I could be a lawyer, I could be a detective. We could all the moms? I guess. Yeah, the moms?

SPEAKER_01 12:08

Trying to persuade your kids all day.

SPEAKER_00 12:09

No, because moms are always right.

SPEAKER_01 12:13

Oh.

SPEAKER_00 12:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 12:15

Our lawyers always right.

SPEAKER_00 12:16

Yeah. Well, to be a good lawyer, yeah. You need to always be right.

unknown 12:21

Interesting.

SPEAKER_00 12:22

Yeah, and moms are always right. I see. So yeah, we can be lawyers or politicians, truly. Detectives, any woman. You can use any woman to be able to do that. Yeah, I just don't think we need degrees. I think we're disqualified.

SPEAKER_01 12:41

Get on, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 12:42

Math teachers, because girl math.

New Dad Support After Work

SPEAKER_01 12:44

Oh yeah. Definitely.

SPEAKER_00 12:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 12:49

Teach calculus with your girl math skills. I think that's a great plan.

SPEAKER_00 12:53

I agree.

SPEAKER_01 12:54

Can't go wrong.

SPEAKER_00 12:56

Wow. You're so supportive. Thank you. I usually live your mom agree. I usually live my dreams. Just live in the dream. So this one is all you, bro. Oh. You ready?

SPEAKER_01 13:16

Why is it all me?

SPEAKER_00 13:17

Because it's for the dads.

SPEAKER_01 13:18

Oh, there's one from the dads this week.

SPEAKER_00 13:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:20

Wow.

SPEAKER_00 13:21

Yeah, are you even ready? Okay. I will become a dad in less than a month. My wife's student is less than a month. She will be on maternity leave for nine months, and me on the other hand will continue to go to work. How can I support her after working hours?

SPEAKER_01 13:36

Damn, he has no paternity leave? Yeah, that sucks. That does sucks.

SPEAKER_00 13:40

What is the most important thing for a dad to for a dad to a newborn? Any tips slash tricks on how to manage in this life-changing event? Alright.

SPEAKER_01 13:51

It's tough that he has no paternity leave.

SPEAKER_00 13:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:54

Because normally I'd say like the first couple weeks after birth, like you got nine times, bro.

SPEAKER_02 14:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 14:00

But if you're going to work your wife's thought, like, I don't know if that's the right rule intuition. I guess it depends on what his job is, maybe.

SPEAKER_00 14:15

In what case would it not make sense for him to do at least the first couple nights after she just grew the child and then I'm just saying hopefully he can get a few days off and do that. Well, yeah, I'm sure like that's brutal. At least like a long weekend.

unknown 14:33

Right?

SPEAKER_01 14:34

I don't know. That's what I'm saying. Like, usually, okay, let's just rule it.

SPEAKER_00 14:39

In this scenario, let's just say he has a week off.

SPEAKER_01 14:43

Then, homie, you're like doing everything for that whole week. Yeah. Cooking, cleaning, you got the baby all night. Basically, your wife just lays in bed and you hand him the baby when the baby's hungry, or the baby.

SPEAKER_00 14:57

Spoken like a true man.

SPEAKER_01 14:59

And you do pretty much everything else. Change the diapers. It helped, because do you remember when Max was first born, we made a competition of who would change more diapers.

SPEAKER_00 15:11

Yeah, I don't know why we did that.

SPEAKER_01 15:13

It wasn't a very good competition, but from the very first beginning, how I was gonna put you in the like way down, how it's gonna bury you.

SPEAKER_00 15:20

I'm really proud because I never even saw the black tar. I have no idea what that looks like.

SPEAKER_01 15:28

That's impressive.

SPEAKER_00 15:29

To be fair though, I was changing my own deck. Well, no, you were changing those, but I had my own decorations.

SPEAKER_01 15:34

Like I did the most of that too.

SPEAKER_00 15:36

Yeah, you might be changing the women's diversity. I will say, Who knew? It was the most helpful thing in the world that you were a CNA. Like.

SPEAKER_01 15:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 15:48

Yeah. I married well for that reason. That's very helpful. Yeah. You've seen all the gross things, so like, I just wasn't stressed.

SPEAKER_01 16:01

There was one thing I had never done before.

SPEAKER_00 16:03

You don't need to bring that up. That is not being brought up on this podcast. Okay, well, what's the most important thing for a dad to a newborn?

SPEAKER_01 16:19

I think just holding them.

SPEAKER_00 16:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 16:22

Talking to him. At the beginning, they're kind of boring because they don't really they just sleep. But just holding them all the time.

SPEAKER_00 16:32

They're so sweet though. They're tiny.

SPEAKER_01 16:35

Yeah, they are tiny. You feel like you're gonna break them, but yeah. They're pretty strong.

SPEAKER_00 16:42

Yeah. What are the tips and tricks to manage this life-changing event?

SPEAKER_01 16:48

I bought 40 packets of fast twitch. I forgot about to put in my water bottles because there wasn't a lot of sleep happening.

SPEAKER_02 17:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 17:02

And I I mean I had three weeks off of work, so I can only imagine having zero time off of work. You should probably do that yourself. Sleep as much as you can before. Maybe make some mills for yourself.

SPEAKER_00 17:17

Yeah.

Snack Marketing And Food Trust

SPEAKER_01 17:18

Depending on your circumstances. Yeah. True. Or get DoorDash Dash pass. DoorDash a lot. Yeah. That's a good time. Yeah. You just gotta survive.

SPEAKER_00 17:35

Yeah, you just gotta survive, but you'll make it, bro.

SPEAKER_01 17:38

It's not hard. Like Ben there done that.

SPEAKER_00 17:41

Luke Combs said on the Jay Shetty podcast that those first few months, like, don't worry. Your kid will eventually need you, but they don't really need you those first few weeks. Who needs you is your wife. That was so cute that he said that.

SPEAKER_01 17:57

That is cute.

SPEAKER_00 17:58

I know. I was like Luke Combs. Like, just be in a be in a total like thing. Yeah. That's crushes.

SPEAKER_01 18:06

That's precious.

SPEAKER_00 18:07

So yeah, there's the advice.

SPEAKER_01 18:10

True. Shout out Luke Combs.

SPEAKER_00 18:12

You're gonna crush it.

SPEAKER_01 18:13

Like our podcast.

SPEAKER_00 18:14

Yeah, like and subscribe. This would be a perfect time for an ad. But we don't have one yet. But just saying, just soak it in. If anyone wants to give a just like picture it, imagine it. Right here.

SPEAKER_01 18:29

If anyone wants to be an ad.

SPEAKER_00 18:31

If anyone wants an ad, like I would love, yes, like any beauty product, clothing brand, Olipop, Poppy. Hunting brands. Um maybe not. Diaper brands. We would love some free diapers. We'd be all over those free diapers.

SPEAKER_01 18:49

Unless you like the cloth diapers, we don't want you.

SPEAKER_00 18:52

Oh yeah, we're not green. We're not crunchy.

unknown 18:55

No.

SPEAKER_00 18:56

I cannot, I'm getting so sick of these new, like, quote unquote healthy snack companies that are coming out with literally, they act like they're reinventing the wheel by making quote unquote like healthier versions of chips, but they're literally just chips. Like, they still can't be that good for you, even if they have better ingredients. Like, you're still putting not like if something is pizza flavored, even if it's naturally flavored that way, there's no way that is good for you. Right?

SPEAKER_01 19:33

I don't know where you see naturally flavored pizza chips.

SPEAKER_00 19:36

Those people on the plane, they had those cheese balls, but they were like the the pizza flavored. Yeah, they were. They were, yeah. Like yes, and they're like way overly priced. And I'm just saying, if you're gonna eat a pizza flavored cheese ball, just buy the real thing. It's half the price, it's probably doing the same thing to your body, and it does not make sense to me.

SPEAKER_02 20:07

Yeah, that's the same thing.

SPEAKER_00 20:08

Every snack brand, even Oreo out here, like every snack brand is trying to like shorten their ingredient list because now, like, they've been teaching in schools and in nutrition classes and everything for years and years, like the shorter amount of ingredients, like the less ingredients in something means it's healthier for you. Like, that's how they've been teaching it, or like if you can pronounce this, like pronounce the ingredient, it's better for you. They've been teaching that for a while. I agree, and I've agreed with that back in the day, but now every single company is trying to do that to try to trick you into thinking it's healthier for you. But when the four ingredients are oil, sugar, sodium, and wheat, that ain't bed for you. That's all I gotta say.

SPEAKER_01 21:05

I don't even know how to do it.

SPEAKER_00 21:06

I'm getting this up. I'm getting fed up with it. The food system really is corrupt. Like, big food is out here just manipulating left and right.

SPEAKER_01 21:17

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:17

Who knows what's true anymore?

SPEAKER_01 21:19

True.

SPEAKER_00 21:20

It's like, what is that term? You gotta be media literate. You have to be food literate.

SPEAKER_01 21:27

Just eat it if it comes from the ground or an animal. And you're good.

SPEAKER_00 21:34

You should start that diet. I feel like that would get like a colt fault. It's already a thing. What is it called?

SPEAKER_01 21:39

I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 21:40

Well, you should slap a fancy name on that, like keto, and call it a day.

SPEAKER_01 21:45

That's all they coin money.

SPEAKER_00 21:47

Yeah, then then we won't be doing this podcast, that's for sure.

SPEAKER_01 21:51

Ground in animal pod the grounded animal diet.

SPEAKER_00 21:54

You should just call it something like I'm pretty sure it's already a diet. Well, it could already be a diet, but it's not like a popular diet we all know about. Yeah, you gotta call it something.

SPEAKER_01 22:09

Yeah. I'll brainstorm that.

SPEAKER_00 22:11

Okay, no yawning, bro. Like you're making this boring. Alright, well, I'll ask you next week what your name and ideas are. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 22:23

Should we follow it?

SPEAKER_00 22:25

Yeah, sure. Wait, what is that? What are we doing?

SPEAKER_01 22:32

You can't eat any food that doesn't come directly from the ground or from an animal.

SPEAKER_00 22:37

Okay, but what kind of food? From the ground.

SPEAKER_01 22:40

What does it come from the ground? Anything processed.

SPEAKER_00 22:45

Well, actually, technically though, those are all from the ground.

SPEAKER_01 22:49

One step from the ground.

SPEAKER_00 22:51

Okay. So you can still make cookies.

SPEAKER_01 22:55

Stick it up or pick it up. No, that's not from the ground.

SPEAKER_00 22:59

Well, if I get wheat or flour directly from the ground.

SPEAKER_01 23:04

Okay. So you just get like flour cookies.

SPEAKER_00 23:07

And no, and cane sugar comes directly from the cane. Does it? No. Wait, does that mean you can't like use butter?

SPEAKER_01 23:24

That would be gray area in my diet because I'm a big baby cookie.

SPEAKER_00 23:27

And what about chocolate?

SPEAKER_01 23:29

That's a no-go.

SPEAKER_00 23:30

But cacao.

SPEAKER_01 23:31

Yeah, I guess if you're just eating straight dark cacao.

SPEAKER_00 23:36

I don't think I could live without cookies.

SPEAKER_01 23:41

You just gotta eat nature's candy.

SPEAKER_00 23:44

What is nature's candy? Fruit. Well, yeah, fruit is delish.

SPEAKER_01 23:49

Do you have kiwis still, by the way?

SPEAKER_00 23:51

You put our last kiwi in the egg garden. Like a weirdo. I saw that. And I double ticked. I was like, is that a furry egg? I was like, wait, what? It's a kiwi. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 24:03

There you go.

SPEAKER_00 24:04

Anyways. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 24:06

Eat better.

SPEAKER_00 24:06

Well, new diet coming soon. Maybe it'll sponsor this podcast. Okay. This one is a long mama, so get ready. It's actually our last one for the day. Okay. Looking for some perspective on a situation with a nanny during the trial week. They do trial weekends. Well, yeah, like what if you don't like the nanny? Yeah. Anyways.

SPEAKER_01 24:36

I mean, if you have to ask a question about her, you probably shouldn't hire her right off the bottom.

SPEAKER_00 24:41

They're looking for some perspective.

SPEAKER_01 24:42

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 24:43

We recently had a nanny come for a one-week paid trial to help care for our 15-month-old. By the end of the week, she said she would not continue because of our toddler's behavior and suggested it was something we quote needed to address as a family. Some of the things that happened during the week, she said she would leave if our toddler threw chantrums or pushed food away during meals or hit people. My daughter, since last week, started swinging or failing her hands, which could end up hitting the other person. We are addressing this with timeouts. From the monitor on the first day after two rounds of indoor car ride by the nanny. Indoor car ride? Wait, what? After two rounds of indoor car ride. My daughter wanted a few more, but the nanny was assertive that she get out and no more car rides. During the altercation, my daughter started crying, and the nanny claimed my daughter hit her on the face. But when I came out, my daughter was a bit shaky and didn't want me to leave. She was hugging my leg. The nanny, she does not have a child, said if my daughter repeats this behavior that she's going to leave, and not even her own niece, 23-month-old, ever hit her, so she definitely wouldn't let an outside hit her. I found the reaction and comparison a bit odd and alarming. Our toddler did throw food on the floor during one meal and refused to eat. Which I thought was normal for this age. She said she would help the baby-related tasks, but mostly only changed diapers. She took our daughter to a morning walk the first two days and claimed she had weird looks from our neighbors. On day three, my daughter refused to go on a walk with her, though the nanny claimed nothing bad happened the day before. When asked to file our daughter's nails, she said she would do it, but later she never agreed to it and doesn't like said she never agreed to it and doesn't like doing that. Overall, she seemed very firm and she said she would not tolerate being hit by a toddler. At the end of the trial week, she told us she wouldn't return and implied the behavior was a problem that needed to be addressed. I'm trying to understand if this is normal feedback from a professional nanny for a 15-month old, or if this suggests she may not have experience with toddlers. For those who have hired nannies or work in childcare, is threatening to leave over toddler tantrums or food typical?

SPEAKER_01 27:13

Maybe we're just like raising our kid wrong, but I don't think this nanny's ever seen a toddler.

SPEAKER_00 27:20

I'm taking this one back to the whole I don't like being called mama thing. See, people aren't built these days tough enough to be moms. Like you should be proud because yeah, toddlers be crazy, okay?

SPEAKER_01 27:37

Especially when they can't talk.

SPEAKER_00 27:39

Yeah, toddlers be uncontrollable. And this girl clearly has never dadied anyone. Not one time, not a single child. I think she's fully pulling her leg. Honestly, I feel like she's just a scam artist who does these weak trials to get paid and then just leaves. Yeah. You should actually like that's it like that. Well, I bet you did a background check on her and stuff, but I don't know. Honestly, something's wrong with her. Yeah, I don't know why she chose this line of work.

SPEAKER_01 28:13

She should maybe wait until they're like eight-year-olds or not be a nanny.

SPEAKER_00 28:19

I don't think this is the right job for you, girl. As for you, I mean I think you clearly have your answer. You should not use this woman. No. And I don't think you're crazy. I don't think you're crazy. I feel like you shouldn't have had her come back if your kid was like holding on to your leg crying. That was a little concerning. I probably I don't know. I don't know how I feel about that. Yeah. I don't feel great.

SPEAKER_01 28:47

Yeah, I probably would have said no after that.

SPEAKER_00 28:50

Yeah. And I probably like, is there a way you could unpay her? She sounds terrible. Did a reason. Yeah. Overall, yeah, I'm sorry you experienced that. That's crazy. I think every kid. There's not a single kid that doesn't have a tantrum. Also, the hitting, I'm like, they're a tenth of your body weight, and they can't really move fully.

SPEAKER_02 29:16

So, like, how are you gonna get by the tossers like do you just need to move out of the way?

SPEAKER_00 29:22

Like, take a step. Like, that's what I'm more confused about. If you're being hit by a baby and complaining about it, honey, like you need to take a cell at bed's glass. Yeah, but yeah, mom and ate for the week, so be proud of that title.

SPEAKER_01 29:43

Yeah. You got it. You earned your title.

SPEAKER_00 29:49

If you would I was gonna say, if you would interview as a male nanny, what would be your like selling point as the nanny? As a nanny. As a nanny.

SPEAKER_01 30:07

Of any person I've ever met.

SPEAKER_00 30:09

That's really intense. I feel like I wouldn't hire you because I wouldn't want my kid to have more fun with you than me.

SPEAKER_01 30:17

Really? Yeah. That's fair. That's just a risky not to live with. Oh gosh.

SPEAKER_00 30:24

Wow.

SPEAKER_01 30:25

Or I'll teach them how to like live life with adrenaline.

SPEAKER_00 30:29

Oh, I see. That's great.

SPEAKER_01 30:32

To be confident in crazy situations.

SPEAKER_00 30:35

That's terrible. I hate that so much. You would never be my nanny. My nanny. I already am.

SPEAKER_01 30:45

Sure. I guess. I was gonna say dad, nanny, daddy.

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SPEAKER_00 30:50

Danny, you're you're not a manny, you're a Danny. Oh.

SPEAKER_01 30:57

So that was like, oh, it's just daddy, probably. You are daddy.

SPEAKER_00 31:09

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SPEAKER_02 31:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 31:24

Give us all your questions. We would love to answer and feature you on next week. Now, with that, let's get into our bicker of the week.

SPEAKER_01 31:33

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 31:34

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SPEAKER_01 31:37

Well, backstory for our bigger book. All of us got sick.

SPEAKER_00 31:42

Oh.

SPEAKER_01 31:42

It started with Max and Maxim got sick. Okay, this is gave it to Taylor. This is funny because Taylor gave it to me because literally last week we talked about how I was.

SPEAKER_00 31:52

And that's why we all got sick. I knew that if we started talking about it, we were gonna get sick.

SPEAKER_01 31:57

Well, it wasn't.

SPEAKER_00 31:58

To be fair, it was not you.

SPEAKER_01 32:00

To be fair, I was the last thing.

SPEAKER_00 32:01

To be fair though, you were sick before all of us. Before Hawaii?

SPEAKER_01 32:07

I had runny bills before.

SPEAKER_00 32:09

You had the same symptoms again last time.

SPEAKER_01 32:13

But no one else had those symptoms.

SPEAKER_00 32:14

Yes, we all did. We all just got it worse. So I'm like, maybe it was you. You're just like building immunity to it.

SPEAKER_01 32:21

It was not me.

SPEAKER_00 32:23

Anyways.

SPEAKER_01 32:24

It was way after that. But anyways, so Maxon got really sick at the beginning. Got a fever. I took him to the pediatrician. They gave him a flute test. And I told Taylor about it after. And I was like, yeah, he screamed. He didn't really like it. He was like, well, yeah, they touch his brain. And I was like, what? The flute test touches your brain? There's no way. And Taylor just doubled down. And was like, yeah, they do. I'm looking it up. They definitely touch your brain. So she goes, looks it up, and it's silent for like five minutes. Like, well, did you get your answer? They do not touch your brain in a flute test. Or go even close to doing that.

SPEAKER_00 33:16

Who knew? I swear my mom told me that they touch, they have to reach the brim of your brain for these tests. For it to be accurate and to get the mucus. But I never thought too hard about it. But yeah, then when I looked it up, I was trying to figure out how I could like word it in some roundabout way to where I would be somewhat sort of right. There's literally no. There's no way. Because you actually would probably die, like you said.

SPEAKER_01 34:09

They're sticking a non-sterile Q-tip and touching your brain. You would get meningitis every time.

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SPEAKER_00 34:17

Oh, what's meningitis? Wait, meningitis has to do with your brain? Yeah. Really? Bacteria? In your brain? What is meningitis? Because I always just like sometimes I freak out about it because I know it's super serious, and so I always like touch my chin to my chest to make sure that I don't have meningitis. No, I think it is. My mom told me people with meningitis can't do that. They can't like bend their necks all the way.

SPEAKER_01 34:51

I mean, supposedly your mom told you that they touch your brain with men. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 35:00

But what is it? I thought it was in your spine.

SPEAKER_01 35:02

It's like a bacterial infection in your spinal cord and brain.

SPEAKER_00 35:06

Oh, okay. Well, that may be more right. I don't know. Anyways, it was a rough week around here. We were all sick.

SPEAKER_01 35:17

Yeah, sad.

SPEAKER_00 35:19

But homie took his first step tonight. Yes! It was so cute. I couldn't believe that he was like laughing and screaming the whole time. Yeah, that was freaking adorable.

SPEAKER_01 35:32

Crazy stuff.

SPEAKER_00 35:33

Yeah, so that was definitely a high.

SPEAKER_01 35:36

How long do you think he'll be just walking all the way around by himself?

SPEAKER_00 35:40

How long until? How long will he be? And I'm like, well, probably his whole life.

SPEAKER_02 35:47

Hopefully. Until.

SPEAKER_00 35:49

Um I give it like two weeks.

SPEAKER_02 35:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 35:56

Yeah. I think he'll start like maybe standing by like I don't know. Maybe balancing on his own. Yeah. More. And then I think he'll go for it. Yeah. I think tonight he really realized that he could actually. What he could do? Yeah, I don't think he knew what he was capable of. I'm scared.

SPEAKER_01 36:18

I don't think he did either. Yeah. He was like kind of shocked, I think.

SPEAKER_00 36:21

It was so cute. Aww. Yeah. In other news. I want to start a new um. What's the word? Less word. A new segment on this pod called Is This a Phase? Or Is This Just My Kid?

SPEAKER_01 36:41

Your new segment?

SPEAKER_00 36:43

Oh, is this a Phase or is this just my child forever?

SPEAKER_01 36:49

Wait, I feel like we had one.

SPEAKER_00 36:51

Yeah, we did.

SPEAKER_01 36:53

What was it?

SPEAKER_00 36:53

You don't remember?

SPEAKER_01 36:55

No.

SPEAKER_00 36:56

You seem tired tonight.

SPEAKER_01 36:58

I'm a little tired. I don't remember. I remember talking about we should have a segment at our box.

SPEAKER_00 37:03

Him spitting him chewing food and then just spitting it out. Or not even spitting it out, but taking it out of his mouth and putting it in my hand.

SPEAKER_01 37:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 37:13

Yeah. Like what, homie? The other day, I made him a blueberry bagel with cream cheese for lunch. Thought I would love it because who wouldn't like a blueberry bagel?

SPEAKER_01 37:24

Well, his two favorite foods are blueberries. And bread.

SPEAKER_00 37:27

So I bought blueberry bread. He hates it. He only ate the cream cheese off the bagel, but he kept putting the bagel in his mouth, chewing it for one second, making his disgusting face, and then taking it and reaching it out to put it in my hand.

SPEAKER_02 37:44

That's a good stuff.

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SPEAKER_00 37:46

Then when I was eating my salad, I like gave him a piece of my chicken and he put it in his mouth and he chewed it. And so I thought he had swallowed it because it was like five minutes later. He took it out of his mouth and put it in my hand again.

unknown 37:59

And I was like, what the heck?

SPEAKER_00 38:02

So I do need to know like, is this a phase? And when does it end? Because it's not my phase. It's been a few weeks. Yeah, it's been a minute.

SPEAKER_01 38:14

Some good stuff.

SPEAKER_00 38:15

So hopefully it ends soon. Hopefully. And hopefully it's just a phase. Hopefully. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 38:20

One could hope. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 38:25

Well, that's our show for ya.

SPEAKER_01 38:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 38:29

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