Schall We Talk Episode 22 - Advice, Opinions, and Absolute Chaos

Okay, this one is a little unhinged in the best way. Part of this episode was filmed in the past, part was filmed in the future, and somehow Security and I still ended up doing what we do best: giving advice we may or may not be qualified to give. 

In this episode we talk:

Why this episode is confusing on YouTube: past Robyn is in a baseball cap and long dark hair and future Robyn in a jean jacket and short brown hair.

I give Security advice about a friend group where everyone talks badly about one person and he’s stuck in the middle

Security giving me advice about how to deal with someone who constantly messes up websites, flyers, cameras, and socks with holes in them and happens to be your brother.

The official calendar launch and how my mother bought TEN of them immediately.

Our billion-dollar Shark Tank idea: underwear with my butt painting printed on the butt.

The actual advice segment: Security and I answer relationship and life questions separately to see who gives better advice.

Love bombing vs real connection, bridesmaid budget drama, getting iced out at work after a promotion, and the universal truth that some men simply need to be dumped.

Mama Schall calling in mid-episode, giving producer shout-outs, and reminding us there is enough room for everyone.

Also, very important: in the comments, please let us know who gave better advice this episode. Me or Security? I already know the answer, but go ahead and confirm it. 

If you want more behind-the-scenes content, head over to Patreon: Shall We Talk 

And if you’re watching on YouTube, subscribe, like, and comment - we are still crawling our way to 10,000 subscribers.

Producer shout-outs:

Victoria, Susan Santoro, Thomas Ives, Dr. Piano Man, Toni Hatinger, Veronica, and Deanna 

Calendars - www.etsy.com/RobynsBookShop

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Shaw We Talk, oh, can't you see? This is where you wanna be.

SPEAKER_02 0:06

Hi everyone, welcome back to Shaw We Talk. I'm very excited for today's episode because we've already filmed it. I am Robin from the future. So let me fill you guys in. So a big bulk of today's episode we filmed a while ago, and then today I'm filming the opening and closing. So if you're watching this on YouTube, this is gonna be a very confusing episode because part of the episode I have long black hair and I'm wearing a baseball cap. And then today I have short brown hair and I'm wearing a jean jacket. So just know it's because we've I'm Robin from the future and Robin in the past filmed today's episode. Today's episode, Me and Security Give Advice that was written in, except we each gave separate advice to see who gives better advice. So in the comment section below, let us know today who gave better advice. Um, but also make sure you subscribe, leave a nice comment, review all the things, and if you want extra content, head over to Patreon. Every Friday we do behind the scenes and a live stream, or you can become a producer on the podcast. Hi, security. How are you?

SPEAKER_00 1:16

I'm good. Just don't show me too much. I didn't really dress up nice.

SPEAKER_02 1:19

Yeah, what are you wearing?

SPEAKER_00 1:21

I'm wearing a Dumbo t-shirt.

SPEAKER_03 1:27

Don't show me too much. That was his way of saying, don't talk to me today. Oh my god, it's a great t-shirt. What do you have at?

SPEAKER_00 1:38

Uh it goes back to when I was a teacher.

SPEAKER_02 1:40

Oh, for like a school.

SPEAKER_00 1:42

Yeah, it was uh dress up as a book day. And so is Dumbo a book. I'm sh that was the whole thing. Like, I'm sure it is a book somewhere.

SPEAKER_03 1:51

You don't even know. I love that you were a teacher.

SPEAKER_02 1:58

Oh my gosh, hysterical. Oh, so we started this episode saying we have no clue what we're gonna do for this opening segment.

SPEAKER_00 2:06

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_02 2:08

We have people come to this shelf and like, wow, they didn't put in any work. They didn't even decide what they're gonna talk about.

SPEAKER_00 2:15

But everyone should know that that's this premise. That's the premise. We have no clue what's gonna be gonna happen, and neither do we.

SPEAKER_02 2:21

I just came up with an idea. Since today's episode, we give advice. Do you have something going on that you need advice on? And I will give you advice. Okay, we're gonna take a second.

SPEAKER_01 2:31

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 2:31

We'll cut out the dead air. Okay. But let's each take a second. I'm gonna ask you for advice. You have to ask me for advice.

SPEAKER_00 2:38

When we come back and have a full beard, we waited so long.

SPEAKER_02 2:41

Six years later.

SPEAKER_03 2:43

All right, okay.

SPEAKER_00 2:46

Uh so in my uh friend group, we have there's someone there that nobody likes. Okay. But me, I'm friends with everybody. I don't, you know, disclude anyone. No, that's part that's our family. We don't like to I don't like talking bad about other people. Yeah. But a everybody in the group, when that person isn't around, they all talk bad about this person. And me, I don't involve myself.

SPEAKER_02 3:12

Am I the person?

SPEAKER_00 3:13

No, no, no, it's not you. It's not you.

SPEAKER_02 3:15

You're like, am I a friend group? I mean the family.

SPEAKER_00 3:19

So when they're talking bad about this person and they ask for my opinion, and they see me walking with this person, they see me hanging out with this person, but then they ask me, Well, what what do I say?

SPEAKER_02 3:30

Alright, well, can I ask some follow-up questions? Yes.

SPEAKER_00 3:36

Listen, I know this person is can say the most rudest things in the world, but uh it goes in one ear, goes out the other for me. Like I don't I don't even listen to what he says. For me, I'm just walking.

SPEAKER_02 3:49

But you can understand why other people don't like him.

SPEAKER_00 3:50

Oh, I understand completely why other people don't like him. Yes, but I don't even like him very much.

SPEAKER_02 3:55

Yes. Oh, okay. But he's your friend or no?

SPEAKER_00 3:59

An acquaintance.

SPEAKER_02 3:59

An acquaintance.

SPEAKER_00 4:00

An acquaintance.

SPEAKER_02 4:01

Okay. Okay. This is one but so your question to me is when they ask you what you feel about him, you still don't want to talk bad about him, even though you understand why they don't like him.

SPEAKER_03 4:12

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 4:13

Okay. I think you stay true to who you are, which is not someone who gossips. Like when I want to gossip, you're not who I call. I call mom.

SPEAKER_00 4:24

Thank you. I don't want to gossip.

SPEAKER_02 4:27

I don't call dad. I'm not gonna lie, you know who's also not great? Dr. Piano Man. Not a good gossiper. Now I'll call Regina. Oh, Belinda's lovely. Adam, my favorite. Mom, 10 out of 10. You there's just some people who are don't like to talk about people. Now, what I'll say is so if someone says, you go, go say, make his name Bob, okay? So say something about Bob. Say, what do you think, Robin?

SPEAKER_00 4:55

Yeah, so Bob did this. What do you think, Robin?

SPEAKER_02 4:58

You know, I understand why you feel that way. You know, and then and then kind of just pivot the conversation to pizza.

SPEAKER_00 5:05

It's good because I've been saying stuff like that, and then I pivot to pizza or movies. Like I I try to just I always steer the direction.

SPEAKER_02 5:13

Oh, wait, I just saw it. I saw a TikTok of someone saying this, being like, you know, the most annoying people is when you like say, so-and-so did this to me, and they go, Well, they've never done anything to me. It's like, yeah, but they did something to me.

SPEAKER_00 5:26

And that's when you say, Oh, I understand why you're upset. Did you see the new scream movie?

SPEAKER_02 5:30

Yeah, I think that's what you could do. If you don't want to talk about them, just say, I oh my gosh, that was so rude. I'm so sorry they did that to you. Oh, anyway, and then pivot. You don't need to bash the person. You could say you could validate someone's feelings and you could say, Wow, that's messed up, and then and then move on. You don't need to stay talking smack.

SPEAKER_00 5:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 5:51

Okay, was that good? Say snack?

SPEAKER_00 5:53

Oh, I would love a snack. Okay, that'd be great.

SPEAKER_02 5:55

I ate a cookie today.

SPEAKER_00 5:57

What type of cookie?

SPEAKER_02 5:58

Chocolate chip.

SPEAKER_00 5:58

See how we steer the conversation?

SPEAKER_02 6:02

Food's the way to do it. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 6:05

All right. Do you have any advice that you need?

SPEAKER_02 6:08

Okay, I got one. So I'm working with someone who sometimes messes up websites, spelling on flyers, tech at shows, socks always have holes, sometimes doesn't press record on all the cameras. How should I approach this person?

SPEAKER_00 6:34

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 6:35

Give him a raise. Oh, is that what you're gonna say? I'm sorry, sorry, sorry. It's a cute joke. Sorry, we we'll rewind, we'll rewind.

SPEAKER_00 6:44

No, no, no, no, no.

SPEAKER_02 6:46

Patreon. That's it. And if you want to get a calendar, they are officially on sale on my Etsy page. I freaking am obsessed with it. It starts with April and it goes till March 2027. It was so funny. I get a text from Regina and she was like, Robin would sell calendars in March. Although everyone's like saying a lot of the old calendars used to be start in April anyway. So I'm just me and the what's squeaking?

SPEAKER_00 7:18

If this chair breaks while we're filming.

SPEAKER_02 7:21

Oh, it is squeaky. It's not doing well.

SPEAKER_00 7:24

No.

SPEAKER_02 7:24

I just wanted to break and then all the books. All the books. All I would do is take your camera and just tilt it down.

SPEAKER_00 7:31

And all you see is a sock with a hole in it.

SPEAKER_02 7:33

Oh my god, that'd be hilarious. So if you want to get a calendar, head over to Etsy. We'll put the link in the description of the episode. They're really cute and they make for great gifts. Mom bought 10.

SPEAKER_00 7:45

Wow. That's a lot.

SPEAKER_02 7:47

I know. She's like, I'm gifting them to everyone. They do make for a good gift. So, anyway, if you'd like, head over. Uh, it's all the artworks you see behind us in one place. Okay. Although everyone when I showed this, then everyone was security, you're so squeaky.

SPEAKER_00 8:06

We we don't hear it.

SPEAKER_02 8:07

Okay. We hear the police, not I did it when I showed this the other day. Then all of a sudden everyone's like, Can you put that on a mug? Can you put that on a t-shirt? So I think after we leave the calendar biz, we should look into other different things. I think would be fun. I just had a great idea.

SPEAKER_00 8:27

What?

SPEAKER_02 8:28

I may have just had our greatest idea.

SPEAKER_00 8:31

Alright, this is an exclusive folks.

SPEAKER_02 8:33

I just guys, I just had a billion-dollar idea. We go into the underwear biz, and hold on, I didn't finish. I didn't finish. And on the butt is the butt painting. So the butt is on the butt. My goodness.

SPEAKER_00 8:55

Oh my goodness.

SPEAKER_03 8:57

Is it a billion-dollar idea? I love it.

SPEAKER_02 9:01

Okay. I love it. All right, let me uh Shark Tank. Can we role-play like we're on Shark Tank for a second? Okay, all right. Sharks, today I come to you with a billion-dollar idea. Thus far, we've had a profit of zero. And I'm not sure anyone actually wants this product. But out. I can't promise we'll make a penny on this. Out. Also, my experience of having a successful business was an illegal underground journal ring. But I think we should take my butt painting and put it on underwear.

SPEAKER_00 9:48

Robin, Robin, I do see the potential and where this is going. I am offering you$500,000 investing, except I get 10% of the profit.

SPEAKER_02 9:59

Okay, I'll tell you what. Give me five million dollars, and I'll give you a free pair of underwear.

SPEAKER_00 10:11

Which which one of the four do you think would would uh like uh a custodiant on the third floor that the sharks is the custodian that works there? Who wants a free underwear?

SPEAKER_03 10:24

But not even on that floor, it's on the third floor.

SPEAKER_02 10:27

Yeah, it's on a different floor. Alright, who gave better advice? I'm curious what people will say who people are gonna think gave better advice throughout this episode.

SPEAKER_00 10:36

Well, oh oh, just in general of all the things. Yeah, because I already forgot what they gave advice out. I forgot a lot of it also.

SPEAKER_02 10:42

Yeah. Alright, should we get into the episode?

SPEAKER_00 10:44

Let's jump into it.

SPEAKER_02 10:45

Okay, so this is how this is going to work. First off, because this look was not we didn't pre-plan that we were gonna film today. So I'm just dressed as Robin. Actually, I'm trying out this new lipstick. It's supposed to be. Oh, wait. It's supposed to not come to come off.

SPEAKER_00 11:04

Did it come off?

SPEAKER_02 11:05

Yeah. Oh, alright.

SPEAKER_00 11:07

Well, don't kiss the mic.

SPEAKER_02 11:09

Anyway, because it's red, can you just make sure I don't have any like red on my teeth?

SPEAKER_00 11:13

I'll try.

SPEAKER_02 11:14

Okay. And then second, I can't believe I'm wearing a hat for an episode. So, but the thing is, I bought all this stuff that says bride on it, and I don't know if I'm actually gonna bring it with me to my orca. So I want to just start wearing it now so that this way, in case I don't bring it to my orca, at least I feel like I got my money's worth.

SPEAKER_00 11:31

All right. Well, right now you got your money's worth.

SPEAKER_02 11:34

Because now it's an outfit on Show We Talk. Oh, I wonder if it's a tax write-off.

SPEAKER_00 11:38

It is now. Now it is. Goldad.

SPEAKER_02 11:42

Okay, so anyway, we so yeah, just if I look if I look different, that's why. We're gonna start reading some questions that people need advice on. This is not from you guys, this is from a list we found online, but you've already looked at it and you already came up with your own answers. Correct. Okay, because I have not looked at it, and so I think I should always go first since you already have your answers this way we can't cheat and copy off each other.

SPEAKER_00 12:06

You got it.

SPEAKER_02 12:07

All right, and you guys are going to say who gave the better advice? Leave a comment below if you're listening to the apps and just like DM me and be like, Robin, your advice was so much better. But if you're watching on YouTube, please comment below, Robin, you gave the better advice.

SPEAKER_00 12:27

Well, they're just questions.

SPEAKER_02 12:31

He's uh away on a work trip.

SPEAKER_00 12:34

Did you see that?

SPEAKER_02 12:35

I got the I cut the end of the eye roll. Okay, you ready?

SPEAKER_00 12:40

I'm ready.

SPEAKER_02 12:41

I've been seeing a guy for about a month and he already told me he loves me. He also told his mom about me on date two and sent me a screenshot of their exchange. Is this romantic or am I being love bombed? I've got thoughts. I've got thoughts. It could be either or, and I'm so sorry to tell you this, it's a free-for-all out there. You could be getting love bombed, or you could be meeting the love of your life. I'm gonna give you two examples that I was love bombed and I met the love of my life, and they both led me astray, okay? Bread and peanut butter. After our first date, he sent me all these messages, how he feels about me. Oh my gosh, I he can't wait to see me again. Like all these things. I said, Well, I can't see, I'm leaving for Nashville because I was performing at Leslie Jordan's Celebration of Life show at the Grand Old Opry, like the next day. So I was like, you know, I'll message you when I get back. And and then I get to the hotel and he had sent flowers. And then straight from there, I was going to LA, but he was gonna be in LA for work and we went on a date. And on this date, which was our second date, he told me that he told his mom about me, that his mom follows me, and like all of these things. I was like, oh my god, that's crazy. Then we leave that second date, he gets on the plane and ends it with me. What? Like, talk about like whiplash. I was so freaking confused, right? So again, he didn't say I love you, but I mean flowers and talking about mom and all these feelings. Uh, then breaks up with me hours later. Then you have Dr. Piano Man, who on our first date, after like after the first date, he sent me this whole thing, how he's never felt this way. Two days later, he sent me flowers. By our third date, we were exclusive on date five, which was in a two within the first two weeks, we were saying, I love you. So I I don't know. It could be either one. I will have to say this though. With Dr. Piano Man, the feelings were reciprocated, where with bread and peanut butter, it wasn't. Not only that, I was actually like when bread and peanut butter was doing this, I got all tense because I was like, this is too fast. Like, this is not this is crazy, da-da-da. So, okay, I have my answer for you. It is love bombing if you both aren't on the same page and you both aren't communicating. Like, it wasn't weird for Dr. Piano Man to send me flowers because I had texted my best friend that night that I was gonna marry this man. Like I had given him all the signals that it was okay for us to say I love you at the same time, which it was in the first two weeks. So it's love bomb if it's a one-sided going card. I think it is totally romantic and compatibility if both sides are meeting. This is in the beginning, of course.

SPEAKER_00 15:39

Okay. I was on I'm on the very similar on what you were saying. Yeah. It's about you can't put your own thoughts in another person's head. You can't do that. So that when this person's doing, you know, the romantic stuff, the flowers, all these or the girl does it to the guy, you know, it or the guy does it to the guy. The girl, it's you have to say, how do I feel?

SPEAKER_02 16:04

But her question is if someone's saying I love you, and she's talking about her mom in the first week, is it love bombing?

SPEAKER_00 16:12

You can't ask the question, is he love bombing me or is he in love with me? It's he this is who he is. How do I feel?

SPEAKER_02 16:19

Can I play devil's advocate for the for the sake of entertainment? Sure, sure.

SPEAKER_00 16:24

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 16:25

Sure. Okay, but I think the reason why she's asking, because if someone's love bombing you, you may want to have your guard up so you don't get hurt. Because kind of like, let's say with bread and peanut butter, I was like, oh my god, this is so romantic. He's treating me great, and then he leaves a date and breaks up with me. That was like false advertising. So it's like, if a guy's coming on strong, should you be weary or no?

SPEAKER_00 16:47

But it wouldn't be strong if you felt that way. Because with Dr. Piano Man. What did you do? You said you called.

SPEAKER_02 16:55

Yeah, but what happens if with bread and peanut butter I did feel like that?

SPEAKER_00 16:59

You were in love with him?

SPEAKER_02 17:00

Let no, I'm saying, what if the girl is in love?

SPEAKER_00 17:03

I think he would have picked up on that.

SPEAKER_02 17:05

I know bread and peanut butter. I know why bread and peanut butter you didn't like me.

SPEAKER_03 17:14

It didn't have to do with me not liking him enough. I'm pretty sure with my personality. Pretty sure it's my love's personality.

SPEAKER_02 17:23

I don't think me liking him enough wasn't the problem. With that said, I to your point, like I think the chemistry was just never like we this was like so not a romantic relationship, so maybe you're on. But I do think there's some love bombers. Would you call yourself a little bit of a love bomber?

SPEAKER_00 17:42

I used to be a love bomber.

SPEAKER_02 17:44

I think you sorry to cut you off. I think you enjoy romance. You enjoy the you know making people feel good before you you felt those feelings, correct? Correct. You just enjoyed dating and romance. And I still do. I love romance. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:01

It wasn't until like I watched your Insta stories and uh, you know, all and all the stories that you're telling, and even our old podcast. I and I hear about the love bombing, and I go, oh my goodness, that that's me. I've done it. I gotta stop.

SPEAKER_02 18:17

You know what? I think we're all guilty of it, so don't beat yourself up on it. It's just good to know, because I could I could be a love bomber too. Like I would definitely get in the past, like maybe make guys feel more special than they actually were to me because I enjoyed making people feel good. I maybe, maybe we aren't love bombers. Maybe the word is like people pleaser.

SPEAKER_00 18:40

But no, no, people pleaser is someone who always says yeah.

SPEAKER_02 18:43

Yeah, no, that's not us. We just love, but like I love bomb my friends, I love bomb like strangers. Like, I just love people and I just want to like buy them things and like so what are so we're just love bomber. Wait, hold on. Maybe a love bomber is not what we're describing. Because a love bomber is what I think bread and peanut butter does, which then it's a quick shut off, right?

SPEAKER_00 19:02

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 19:03

What is can I look up a definition of love bomber? Watch, it's like a narcissist, horrible human, and we're calling ourselves that. What is a love bomber? A love bomber is someone who overwhelms another person with excessive affection, attention, and grand gestures very early in a relationship in order to quickly gain emotional control or dependency. The term is most commonly used in psychology and dating discussions, especially around manipulate. I take it back. You're not because you're both of our love bombing doesn't have to do with controlling people or manipulating people. It's wanting to make them feel good.

SPEAKER_00 19:41

But the problem is somebody can take what we do and see it as love bombing.

SPEAKER_02 19:47

Love bombing. If you text or call constantly, see we do that. Say I love you very quickly. Oh my god, I love all of you. Wait, I do wait, I say I love you so fast. Talk about marriage. No, neither one of us. Uh give lots of gifts. Yeah, we love gift giving. Tell you things like I've never felt this way before. No. You're my soulmate. No. Want to spend all their time with you? No. Okay, let me tell you why I don't think we're love bombers. One, because again, it's nothing to do with manipulation.

SPEAKER_03 20:21

No.

SPEAKER_02 20:21

And especially for I mean, I before I said you, but you I know you. You don't like to control people. You're the opposite. Like, you're like, be you, go, you want everyone to shine to do the thing. I guys, write in. What is our problem? We love saying I love you, and we love gift giving, and we love making like we text a lot.

SPEAKER_00 20:41

But we don't want to manipulate anyone.

SPEAKER_02 20:43

That's not Yeah, so what are we? Annoying? Guys, security's not a love bomber. He's just really annoying. But I'm an over I love you. I say I love you to everyone, but it's not fake. Like, you know what? I'll say to like an on Instagram, I'll be like, I love you guys. Like, but I do love them. And like when I meet them in person and I see them at shows and I give you guys hugs, like I have these feelings in my heart.

SPEAKER_00 21:12

Yeah, I'm the same. We're annoying. But we don't say I love you to each other. You know that.

SPEAKER_02 21:17

I don't say I love you to uh CIA either.

SPEAKER_00 21:19

Oh gosh, no.

SPEAKER_02 21:20

So we concluded. So our advice to you is it could go who knows, but what we do know is Robin and security are annoying.

SPEAKER_00 21:30

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 21:30

Next advice. My best friend asked me to be in her wedding. Oh, this is gonna be good. The bachelorette trip is in Hawaii. The bridesmaid's dress is$400, and she just recently mentioned we're all pitching in for a big surprise for her that sounds expensive. I love her. I do not love my credit card bill. How do I set a boundary without looking cheap? I've been there. I've been in a few bridal parties where I had no money at the time. And And there's not much you can do. I will say this be honest with the bride. Okay, there's my advice. I got it. I got it. Okay, my advice to you. Then I have to burp. That's a whole other site, actually. You can make a lot of money on that. Remember for a while there was like a girl selling farts in a jar? Yeah. Is she still around?

SPEAKER_00 22:25

Well, I have a subscription. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 22:37

Okay. All right. What are we talking about? Oh yeah. So here's my advice to you. You gotta talk to the bride. You gotta talk to the bride and say, look, I love you so much. I'm I need to speak to you. Like my finances right now are super tight. I can not be in the wedding party if you'd like, just because I can't keep up with the, you know, the trips and the clothes and all the things. Or I could just have a smaller role. You tell me as the bride what you want. I love you. I want to be here for you. I could not be in the party, but just be like an honorary bridesmaid where I'm just here for support. You tell me what you want, but I just can't afford it. And I think just be honest, because it like I'll tell you, this is me personally. I did not do those things. Like I I just ran up my credit card bill. And in hindsight, I should have spoken to my friends. First off, because I'm having a destination wedding, I when I told my friends I was getting married, I made it very clear I didn't expect anyone to come. I was like, no need to come. This is so freaking expensive. Like, don't even worry about it. Like, I just want you to know, like, I'm getting married in Mallorca. It's where Dr. Piano Man's family lives, so that's why we're doing it there. If you can come, great, but like, no pressure. I did not ask anyone to be a bridesmaid till I knew they were coming because I was so nervous that anyone would feel obligated to travel. With that said, I personally am letting everyone pick whatever dress they want. I'm covering their hair and makeup. If I do a bachelorette party, which I'm not sure if we are, we're not flying anywhere. It'll be a car drive and not an expensive night. No, but honestly, at any point, one of my girlfriends can call me and say, Look, I can no longer afford a trip to Mallorca. And you know what? As their friend, I would say, Oh my gosh, I totally get it. Like, don't even worry about it. We're gonna do something in New York down the road and you'll be a part of that. Talk to the bride. Yeah, talk to the bride. That's my advice. If the bride is your friend, she's gonna understand. You're not, you're not saying you're not saying to the bride, I don't want to be in your wedding party. You're saying, I can't afford this. What role do you want me to play? All right, what was yours?

SPEAKER_00 24:44

I had one word.

SPEAKER_02 24:45

What?

SPEAKER_00 24:45

Oh, sorry, two words.

SPEAKER_02 24:46

What?

SPEAKER_00 24:47

Be honest.

SPEAKER_02 24:47

Be honest.

SPEAKER_00 24:48

That was it. I was just be honest.

SPEAKER_02 24:50

Yeah. And do it sooner than later. Don't wait till afterwards and blow up at each other. Don't wait till the week of the wedding when the bride's already so stressed. Like months before, before the shower, the before the Bachelorette party. That's when you speak to the bride. Talk as early as possible. I was in a wedding that I just remember the dress was so expensive, and then I had to pay for my own hair and makeup that day. Like we she wanted us all to do hair and makeup together, but she wasn't paying for it. And I just remember like, oh my god, oh my god. And then the Bachelorette party and it was just like this, this, this, and it was ending up, and I was like, I can't afford this. And I remember being so stressed out. And I didn't say anything because I loved her and I wanted to, you know, I've been in a lot of bridal parties. Now, I will tell you this. There have been really close friends of mine who didn't ask me in their bridal party because they knew I didn't have the time to commit. I think if you're the bride, make sure when you're asking your bridesmaids, give them the option to say no. I like really sell my bridesmaids like, one, you don't need to come, my orca. You don't need to do this. Like, I, you know, you want anyone who's being in your party for them to want to do it. And like, it is such a financial burden to put on people to be in a wedding party.

SPEAKER_00 26:07

I didn't have a choice.

SPEAKER_02 26:09

You're right. Do you want to not be in the wedding party?

SPEAKER_03 26:13

You know what? You're right. It was rude of me.

SPEAKER_02 26:15

I'm like, I'll have you ready? Mm-hmm. Oh, mom's calling. Should I pick up? For Patreon. Producer shout-outs. Hey, hey, we're recording the podcast.

SPEAKER_01 26:32

What, now?

SPEAKER_02 26:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 26:35

So what am I gonna be speaking later?

SPEAKER_02 26:37

No, because we're gonna record the beginning and the end, like the week this episode airs.

SPEAKER_01 26:43

Oh. Well, why don't you give me the topic so I could prepare it?

SPEAKER_02 26:48

Well Okay, well, we don't know yet.

SPEAKER_00 26:52

Just general advice.

SPEAKER_02 26:53

Just just advice. We're answering advice questions.

SPEAKER_01 26:58

That's my whole topic.

SPEAKER_03 27:00

We stole your assignment.

SPEAKER_01 27:07

No, you're showing me to the unemployment line.

SPEAKER_03 27:10

The the motherly advice segment has been doing so well, we decided to take it over.

SPEAKER_01 27:15

You're doing the whole show.

SPEAKER_02 27:17

Yeah, I don't know. Okay, that's what that's could be your motherly advice. When people try to steal your thunder, what to do? What about how oh wait, is dad next to you?

SPEAKER_01 27:30

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 27:31

I have a question.

SPEAKER_01 27:32

Wait, wait, here we go.

SPEAKER_02 27:34

Okay, so I bought this hat for the wedding. It says bride, right? Well, now I'm wearing it for an episode of the podcast. Is this hat now a tax write-off?

SPEAKER_01 27:49

It's a uniform. Yes. Yes.

SPEAKER_02 27:53

Thank you. This call this call saved me 30 cents. That was a dollar.

SPEAKER_01 28:02

How much money?

SPEAKER_02 28:03

A dollar. Okay. All right, we gotta we gotta get back to work.

SPEAKER_01 28:10

Wait, I have a question.

SPEAKER_02 28:11

What?

SPEAKER_01 28:16

Like, do I order it through you or through the You'll order the calendar through Etsy. I do.

SPEAKER_02 28:24

Security will order it for you.

SPEAKER_01 28:27

I want ten copies. Yeah. Daddy and I have a list already of who we're giving it to.

SPEAKER_02 28:37

Okay. Alright, well we'll talk about it.

SPEAKER_01 28:40

Why? What's the difference? Aren't you making any money on it?

SPEAKER_02 28:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 28:43

She is what? No, she she's a Patreon. Yeah, she's a Patreon.

SPEAKER_02 28:48

Oh, wait, wait till wait till the uh Patrons get a promo code, so then you get a discount.

SPEAKER_01 28:53

Oh, oh, very good.

SPEAKER_02 28:56

Patreons get Patreons get a promo code, so you'll get a discount.

SPEAKER_01 29:01

Oh, that's me.

SPEAKER_02 29:06

All right, we gotta go. Bye.

SPEAKER_01 29:08

Okay, call me soon. All right, love.

SPEAKER_02 29:11

Oh, okay, love you. Bye.

unknown 29:13

Bye.

SPEAKER_02 29:15

I got promoted over a coworker who has been at the company longer than me. Now she won't make eye contact and accidentally leaves me off important email. So do I confront her or just let her simmer in silent rage? I I I think you actually need to confront her. Every part of me that hates confrontation wants to say, whatever, you do you, you uh keep rising above, you keep being the best you you ca possibly can be, and you'll just keep going up, up, up. Here's why I think you need to confront her because if you don't bite this in the tushy, then you actually could be getting sabotaged. If you're being left off important emails, you need to talk to her to make sure that you aren't screwing yourself over.

SPEAKER_00 30:00

My advice?

SPEAKER_02 30:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 30:02

Yes, you do have to confront them. And you have but not in I don't even think you need to bench in that you got on the cold shoulder. I think just say, hey, I got left off the emails. And then go that's the first step. Say, and if it happens again, then you have to bring in, I know, HR, like and have a mediator. Just say, hey, I'm getting left off the emails. And just having somebody there might be the best thing, having a mediator.

SPEAKER_02 30:28

Are you guys ready for a juicy story?

SPEAKER_00 30:31

You know the story? Oh.

SPEAKER_02 30:33

I was like already. So a handful of you were following me during the time, so you'll know this story. I was hired to headline a tour in Australia. This is before going viral or anything. It was my first international tour. The guy saw me performing at K in Times Square, and then he came up to me at the show and he's like, hey, I'm a music producer in Australia. I produce like tours for bands. I would love to bring you over and set up a whole comedy tour. And at first I was like, Yeah, okay. But then it ended up all panning out, and he got me a visa, and he set up, what was it, a Six City tour? I think it was. And so I flew over and he was having an opener for me, Bedwetter is what we used to call them, right? And the day I get there, okay, just to give you the characters. So it's me, my opener, who's Bedwetter, and then the two producers, Peter and we'll call him Tony, I think his name was, but I'm not sure of their names. But I just want to go on record that Peter and Tony, amazing, like amazing, amazing men and and producers. Okay, but so first I get there. Now, Bedwetter is one of these older comics who've been doing it for 40 years. He's like a real, you know, been they call him road comics that just been around forever. So we check into the first hotel and I'm meeting these guys for the first time. Peter and Tony are so lovely, and I'm very big on Periscope at this time, which is a live streaming app. Because remember, this is really before Instagram and well, well, there was no TikTok, but Instagram didn't have Instagram live or videos, so I'd always go live on Periscope. And so I'm live and he like starts making fun of me for doing it. And I'm like, this is how I make a living, and also this is how I'm building a fan base. Uh, but okay, make fun of me, whatever. So then the first night he blows the light, and then I do my 45 minutes. I end up killing. Like, I'm being honest, like I did really, really well. I felt good. But the next day, he starts putting my comedy down, saying, like, this was not funny, or this was not funny, and like making me really self-conscious. And then again, because I always was live streaming, he would like make fun of me live streaming. And also for this tour, we were all four of us driving together in the same car. So then we do the next show, and again he blows the light. And the second show I don't do as well. I do like okay. Not a bomb, but just like not okay. We get into the car and he goes, So, Robin, do you want me to tell you why your jokes didn't work tonight? And I was like, No, it's okay. He's like, No, I think it could be helpful for you to learn how come your jokes aren't landing. Uh, I'm in a car with three guys feeling unsecured. So I was like, okay. And he starts telling me, again, he knows nothing about my jokes. I just had an off night. And I get back to my room and I go live on Periscope, and I'm crying on Periscope. And I at this point had never cried on the internet. And I just was like, guys, I don't know what to do. Like, this guy's putting me down and like I'm not doing well at the shows because I think I'm like in my head and he's setting me up for failure. He's blowing the light, he's introducing me poorly. Like, it's just I'm I don't know. I just want to go home. I think tomorrow I'm gonna just tell them I want to go home. Like, and I'm crying, and it's like the worst here. I thought my first international tour as a headline would have been amazing, and I'm just like devastated. And so I I don't know what to do. And like, I mean, every well, everyone in that chat was like, I'll kill them. Because like, and no, everyone has only seen me happy on the internet. So I sign off Periscope and I call my dad, and I'm like, I want to go home. I don't know what to do. And he's like, What you have to do, kind of like to your advice, he's like, You need to call Peter, who is the producer, right now, and tell him if things do not change, you're taking the first flight home, that this is not what you signed up for. Tell him either he takes bedweater off the tour or you're walking and that's it, that this is not what you signed up for. Remember that it's nighttime now. So in the morning, I call Peter, even though we're all in the same hotel, and I said, Peter, since I've arrived, bedwetter has done nothing but put me down and make me feel insecure. Not only that, at the first three shows, he has blown the light. And last night, he blew the light like he by a long shot. I I'm not gonna stay on this tour if this is how it continues. And he said, Well, please calm down. Let me talk to him. He's known for not getting along with people. This is not you. I'm so sorry that you have been feeling like this. This I take full responsibility. Please don't leave. Let me talk to him. And I said, Okay, but just so you know, I'm not like dealing with this anymore. He said, Okay. So now we get to that night. Peter says to me, I spoke to Bedwetter. If he says one more thing to you, he's off the tour. I said, you know what? Tell him actually not to say a word to me. Like, I want no contact from now to the end. Uh the show's about to start, and Bedwetter comes up to me and he goes, Robin, can I talk to you? And I said, I don't want to talk. He's like, I just want to apologize. I say, okay, but let's not talk. Anyway, that night, first off, I killed because he did his 15 minutes, and then he brought me up with like, are you guys ready for your headliner? All the way for like the way he was supp what you're supposed to do. You're supposed to like the what a headline? Okay. Then the next day was Bedwetter's birthday, and it was our only day off, and we were driving back to his hometown so he could be with his family, and the car broke down, and we sat on the side of the road for six hours, and he didn't get to see his family.

SPEAKER_03 36:19

Anyway, I went live on Periscope. You remember that? We have pictures. I know. I pictured it in my head. Playing the ukulele. All our luggages are on the side of the road. Oh my gosh. You were in heaven.

SPEAKER_02 36:32

Yes. And then the next night, I kill again, and there were four Orthodox Jewish people in the audience, and they came up. They're like, Oh, when we saw there was a Jewish woman coming from America, we knew we had to form. And they said, She said, How long are you in for? I said, Oh, well, we have tomorrow off, and then we have one more show. And she's like, Okay, I have a question. She goes, You're so funny, blah, blah. She goes, if we pull a private event together with this was in Melbourne, she was like, There's a lot, a big Jewish community here. Can we hire you to do a private event? I said, Well, my visa I'm under Peter, so you'd have to like go through him. Like he, you know. So he said, Okay. So last minute, this woman pulls together a private event of I think like 75 Jews in Melbourne, paid me more than I was getting paid for the entire tour. And not only that, she said, and this was not a request from me, she said to Peter, you know, we want to hire Robin. Oh, but please don't have that opener guy come. He really wasn't very funny. Anyway. Yeah, and then I had my last show and it went great. And so now, like the memory of action of Australia actually is such a great memory because I gotta do that at private events. I made double the amount of money. Point is I did have to speak to HR, quote unquote, and it did solve the problem. So talk to security. I'm giving you the credit. Thank you. You won that one. Talk to HR. But I agree with you in that. First talk to them first. First talk to them first. Yes. And see, maybe there's a misunderstanding. And and worse comes to worse. Cut the brakes of the car so they can't see their family on their birthday. Wee wee way. Do I sound evil?

SPEAKER_00 38:25

No.

SPEAKER_02 38:26

I didn't cut the brakes. I know. The universe did. The universe was like, you're a jerk. Then, oh, fast forward like six months later, I think it was Bluebird. Uh, she was a follower who just became a Patreon. Yeah, she just became a Patreon. Yes. I love that so many people back from 2015 are still with us, but now as kids. Anyway, I think it was her, but it may have been Mrs. Carlos. But one of them sent me an article about how an interview from Bedwetter. Like he someone interviewed him, and he he said that he does not get along with people, and that he's not shocked that his wife and kids don't talk, his ex-wife and kids don't talk to him anymore, which by the way, he wasn't divorced when I was on the tour, and that he he loses lots of jobs because he can't get along with people. So it did make me feel better knowing like this was a him thing. But all right, should you keep going?

SPEAKER_00 39:17

All right, let's do another one.

SPEAKER_02 39:19

My boyfriend forgets to like my Instagram posts, but somehow likes every single bikini photo of women. Cut him. I don't even know if you said Robert. When I mentioned it, he said I was being insecure. Good, all right, great. Now it's your he's your ex-boyfriend. I don't even what are you talking about? He's liking he's not liking yours, but he's liking uh bikini p no cut him. I I don't even what are we talking about? What are we talking about?

SPEAKER_00 39:42

Give him a second chance.

SPEAKER_02 39:44

Security?

SPEAKER_00 39:44

Well, no, I I had to say something different.

SPEAKER_02 39:48

I'm mad on your behalf. First off, even if he's liking your photos, what is he doing liking uh bikini photos? As I'm the one who's constantly duetting half naked men on my my explorer page, because all of you guys are always sending me half-naked men to duet, my explorer page is just all half-naked men. And then if it's a video that I think would be good to duet or like make a funny video, I save it. So if you go to my saved photos, it's all half naked men.

SPEAKER_00 40:19

Your algorithm is amazing.

SPEAKER_02 40:21

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 40:24

This girl just loves half-naked muscular men.

SPEAKER_02 40:31

Oh my god. Yeah, but here's the thing, mine is work.

SPEAKER_00 40:36

Can you get a tax write off?

SPEAKER_02 40:37

Mine's a tax ride off. I'm not doing this for pleasure. Anyway, dump them.

SPEAKER_00 40:41

Your advice to I'm I'm with dump.

SPEAKER_02 40:44

Okay. All right, so guys, we had the same advice for everything.

SPEAKER_00 40:48

No, we had some, but mine, I I would I no speak to HR. Maybe in this one, maybe he maybe it's work related that he's liking these women.

SPEAKER_02 40:57

Oh, so oh yeah, yeah. Take it, take the opposite.

SPEAKER_00 40:59

I'll take the opposite of that.

SPEAKER_02 41:01

Good. All right, guys, right below. Who's right or wrong?

SPEAKER_03 41:05

The love bomber over here. Never getting another date again. Never getting a date. Dying alone. The love bomber over here who likes bikini pics when he's with a girlfriend.

SPEAKER_02 41:21

Or me, who never looks at half-naked men on Instagram. All right, this is fun.

SPEAKER_00 41:28

This is great.

SPEAKER_02 41:30

I'm so curious to watch this video back and see who gives better advice.

SPEAKER_00 41:34

I want to read the comments and see. Me too.

SPEAKER_02 41:36

All right, guys, so let us know who gave better advice. And thank you everyone for watching. Make sure you're joining Patreon, leaving nice comments, all the things. Head over to my Etsy page, get a calendar. Let's call Mama Shaw and get some motherly advice and our producer shout outs. Hi. Hi, mom. How's everything? Good. How are you?

SPEAKER_01 42:05

Very good.

SPEAKER_02 42:06

All right, take it.

SPEAKER_01 42:08

We want to thank all the Patreons, and I want to give a shout out to those in the producer tier. We have Tony Hattenger, Veronica and Deanna, Susan Santoro, Thomas Heis, and Dr. Piano Man. And I just want to thank all our Patreons for supporting Robin and the arts.

SPEAKER_02 42:32

You know, you're getting really good at this, Mom.

SPEAKER_01 42:35

Well, I saying it enough times.

SPEAKER_02 42:39

Um, all right, you ready for your motherly advice?

SPEAKER_01 42:44

Well, you know, I was told that Robin and Richie are gonna give some advice. Now that's my segment. So that's my kind of, you know, my pose. But on the other hand, I feel that there's enough room for all of us, that there's plenty of advice to go around. And I think that that we shouldn't even compare what our advice is, and that what each one of us is saying has its own merit, its own validity. And I think that just hearing it even several times sounds good. So what's what exactly is the advice? What is it? You not to get upset about if somebody else is doing a similar activity or giving doing something that's what you know that you were planning on doing. It's enough you know, both of everything. Right. And not only that, what is it you can't control what other people do. You just have to have to be able to control what you do. Your actions, what you say, and just do the best that you can.

SPEAKER_02 44:06

Yes, I love that. That's great. And it's not just like it could be anything. Like, let's say you were planning on, you know, wearing a blue dress to your birthday, and then you find out that one of your girlfriends is wearing a blue dress to her birthday. That's fine. Everyone can look good in blue. You don't worry about that. You just look your best and let whoever don't worry about people copying you. You focus on you and be the best version of you, and you'll be happy.

SPEAKER_01 44:34

Well, that's what I mean. I don't know I know.

SPEAKER_02 44:36

I'm I'm I'm elaborating on your advice, Debbie.

SPEAKER_01 44:39

Oh, thank you.

SPEAKER_02 44:41

She's real pissed at me in security for doing an advice episode.

SPEAKER_01 44:49

No, because it just for me, it reflects on me that how brilliant my children are.

SPEAKER_02 44:57

Okay. And there's room for everyone. That's right. Yes. There is. All right. Thanks, Mom. This was great. Motherly advice. Thank you for listening. All right, love you. Love you guys. Bye. All right, that was good advice.

SPEAKER_00 45:17

Very good advice.

SPEAKER_02 45:19

She said, don't compare literally the whole episode. We're comparing. But we're siblings. You're supposed to do that with siblings. All right, guys. Thank you so much for watching. Head over if you want a calendar to Etsy. Head over to Patreon if you need more content. Make sure you're subscribing on YouTube, leaving nice comments, and reviewing on Apple and Spotify and all things. They all really help me. Guys, have a great day. I'll see you next week when we have no clue what's gonna happen. Not even me.