Episode 31 - Schall We Talk about House Hunting

We accidentally toured a house that may have been haunted. I mean:

creaking 1850s floors, locked mystery sheds, a terrifying broken dollhouse, an old woman appearing from a hidden bedroom, an illegal basement apartment that looked like a crime scene, AND we got rear-ended immediately after leaving.

So naturally… Dr. Piano Man and I are officially house ghost hunters.

In this episode:

The woman who thought I was the plumber

The waterfront house that was somehow already sold while we were touring it

The creepy old woman who opened a bedroom door asking why we were there

The “crime scene apartment” basement situation

Also included in this episode:

A previously recorded advice segment with Regina DeCicco

Advice about relationships, friendships, burnout, careers, and knowing when something no longer serves you

Maa Schall’s motherly advice about what actually makes a home

This episode is chaotic, spooky, and obviously funny!

If you want more behind-the-scenes chaos, head over to Patreon: Schall We Talk. https://www.patreon.com/cw/SchallWeTalk

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Producer shout-outs: Susan Santoro, Veronica and Deanna, Tamar Fix, and Dr. Piano Man

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Transcript

SPEAKER_04 0:00

Shall we talk? Oh, can't you see? This is where you wanna be.

SPEAKER_02 0:06

Hi everyone, welcome back to Shaw We Talk. I uh feel very excited to do this episode. We kind of s we had already filmed this episode, scratched the beginning because I had to come on and talk to you. I was telling you guys we need an emergency podcast episode because I went house hunting on Saturday, today's Monday, and I saw three houses, and just so much happened. We have to discuss it. We have to break it all down. So I'm just gonna dive right into it because I also have that I wanna put in this episode. Back in December, I think, I recorded two episodes with Regina DeCico, my best friend, my maid of honor, the comedian, the warm-up host at The View. We recorded two episodes. One you guys already saw back during season one, and or the beginning of season two. Was it in the beginning of season two?

SPEAKER_04 0:56

Beginning of season two.

SPEAKER_02 0:57

Oh, yeah, because we kept saying we were upping the production value.

SPEAKER_04 1:00

Correct.

SPEAKER_02 1:01

In the interview, we haven't like fully edited, but we may be saying let's up the production value. That's because we filmed it at the very beginning of season two. Okay, anyway.

SPEAKER_04 1:10

Which we're still in.

SPEAKER_02 1:12

We don't know.

SPEAKER_04 1:13

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:13

Like, I don't plan on taking remember in between season one and season two, we took three weeks off. I don't want to take three weeks off again.

SPEAKER_04 1:20

So we're just in season two forever.

SPEAKER_02 1:22

Yes.

SPEAKER_04 1:23

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:25

Unless there's like we like, you know, we have to take a few. But what like I love doing this podcast. I don't want to.

SPEAKER_04 1:31

We're gonna go through we're gonna go through the wedding with it.

SPEAKER_02 1:34

Through our life. We'll be on our deathbed.

SPEAKER_04 1:37

We'll be seniors.

SPEAKER_02 1:39

We'll be in the home. It's not even like real cameras. Okay. Anyway, we got off track. What are we talking about?

SPEAKER_04 1:49

Is that Patreon or is that I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 1:52

Oh, if you want extra content, head over to Patreon. Also for the Shawlettes and Shaleramas, I took you guys with me. We went wedding band shopping, so there's a video of that up. Uh, we're also getting ready to do our monthly live stream. But every Friday for Shaw Alerson Up is behind the scenes, whether it's from the podcast or just my life. So if you want more content, head over to Patreon. But and if you're watching on YouTube, make sure you subscribe. And if you're listening, which most people listen, right? Yeah. Okay, if you're listening, oh, especially on Apple, we're at 92 reviews. Let's get to 100.

SPEAKER_04 2:30

All right, eight more.

SPEAKER_02 2:32

So anyway, we're gonna have Regina on. But just know we recorded this, we recorded this like six months ago. So if you're like, what it that's one, but it's it's time. Let's do it. Okay, but now let's get into this weekend. So as I told you guys last week, Dr. Piano and I, we just signed a year lease. So we have till May 2027. And in May 2027, now when we signed this apartment, we on like the lease, it said our rent was X amount, but the actual price was this amount, which was like $5,000 or more than what we pay. And we kind of didn't question it. We didn't know what that really meant. And then we spoke to one of our neighbors, and apparently in 2006, there was some tax break for certain apartments, and so the apartment like didn't raise as much as like the asking price. So that ends in 2027. So they're gonna be jumping up the like $5,000 more than we already pay now, which is a lot of money. So, regardless, in a year, we would be moving out of this apartment. And then Dr. Pianiman, who had recently sold his house, said, Robin, I really wanna buy a house, like I don't want to rent anymore. And we spoke about buying in Manhattan, but the truth is what you could get for your money in Manhattan versus outside of Manhattan is just night and day. And you know, I love Manhattan. I love New York City. I can't express it enough. I think it has so much culture and personality and life, but I also know that I I think that it's gonna be a lot of pluses about moving. One, we'll have more space. Two, I think like financially for me, it'll take a lot of stress off me not living in Manhattan. It's just so expensive living in Manhattan. And then three, I think, and maybe this is me wishful thinking, who the heck knows? I think without the stress of finances, I think I could spend more time on the comedy, on the podcast, on making videos, on touring. Like I just I think that there's a lot of pluses. Okay. With that said, so we went to the first house, which if you follow me on Insta Stories, you know a lot of this. But the first house was on City Island, which is like this little island off the Bronx. It's considered the Bronx, but it's like a real beach town. There's like a couple of seafood restaurants that are amazing. Otherwise, there's nothing. The only reason to ever move there, I think, is if you get like a waterfront home and you plan on ever leaving your home, which I would happily never leave my home. This is the house I was most excited for. So we get there and we're waiting for a realtor, and all of a sudden, a woman comes up who I assume is the realtor, and she goes, Are you guys the realtor? And then I said no, thinking, wait, isn't she the realtor? But maybe she meant for our realtor. And then she goes, and then she looks at me, not Dr. Piano Man. She goes, Oh, are you the plumber? And then I was like, No, I'm not the plumber. And then she looks incredibly confused and goes, Oh, I've got my glasses in my car. By the way, this house has only one, it doesn't have a garage, it just has one car spot driveway. And Dr. Piano Man and I parked in it because we thought we were the ones looking at the house today. And we thought it was open for us. Little did we know this lady was already under contract for this house. Like she has already started the process. So much so, this is Saturday. By Sunday, the listing was taken down. Like they were done. It had been approved. So she was towards the end of it, so much so she was there that day meeting the plumber because none of the plumbing was working, so that they could move in in the next couple of weeks. Like it's it was it's closed. Like they closed within 24 hours of using. So we're looking at the house while she's in the house with the plumber. Like she's looking at us like, why are these people here? Like she thought they were closing the next day. And here, I was like, Oh, we could put the piano over here. My dad will sleep on the sand here. I'm making videos for you guys. I'm the only thing, not realizing till halfway through this tour that she's closing on the house this weekend.

SPEAKER_04 6:48

What were you wearing? That made it made her think you're the plumber. That's what I think.

SPEAKER_02 6:53

I'm not Dr. Piano Man.

SPEAKER_04 6:55

What were you wearing?

SPEAKER_02 6:56

It's a good question. I don't remember. Overalls. I had a wrench in my hand. I don't know why. Although Dr. Pianoman went to like flush and the plumbing wasn't working, so there would have been a lot of negatives.

SPEAKER_04 7:09

It was also already bought.

SPEAKER_02 7:12

This poor lady was like, what the hell are these people doing in my house? Like, I just bought it. Then we went to house number two, which was fine. But it was a nice home, but no. Although it was really funny, he had a pee so bad, and he was like, Go distract the realtor so I could pee. And I was like, Okay. But he said he was so nervous because the last house, the plumbing didn't work, and this was a brand new condo. No one had lived there yet, so he didn't know if the plumbing worked.

SPEAKER_04 7:38

So he said he was Did you offer your services with a plumbing?

unknown 7:42

Oh.

SPEAKER_02 7:46

Oh, jeez. Okay, so then what you guys are all wanting to hear about was house number three. And again, this isn't the realtor's fault. I asked her to send it to us. I also want to say something that's happening on Zillow, which we've realized now that we've looked at a bunch of houses, they are AIing the pictures. So what they'll do is they take a picture of a room and they remove all furniture, they paint the walls, they put in a hardwood floor. So what you're seeing on Zillow is AI versions of the house. So I saw this house and it looked like a fairy tale on the on the outside, and the lawn looked huge with this gigantic pool, and the house looked like so antique and beautiful and clean and amazing. So I was and in our budget, and we saw that it went down $300,000, and it's been on the market for a year. So I was like, oh, if it's already gone down $300,000 and been on the market for a year, we could ask for another hundred thousand dollars. Like this is it, this is gonna be the house. Okay, so we show up and it's an open house. There was two other women there, plus us, plus our realtor, and the realtor of the house was not there yet, but our realtor was messaging with her and she said, Well, you can't go in yet, but you can walk around the back. So we go in the back, and it was spooky. Okay, there was about six sheds that looked that were locked up and looked like murder scenes. Then the pool looked like it was built about 50, 60 years ago, never updated. Like the wood to the pool deck was like all like warped, and the w there was water in the pool, but not from this summer. So then all of a sudden, the owner of the house comes out and he's an older man and he's like, Are you guys here to see the house? We're like, Yeah, we're waiting for the realtor, and he goes, I can show you around, and we're like, Okay. And then he goes, Well, let's start with that tree. That tree is 500 years old. So then we go in, and the house is nothing like the pictures. The house was built in 1850. Definitely has not been updated since 1850. Like the bathroom looked like it was built in 1850. You're walking the like creek, like the floors were creek, creek, and there was just stuff everywhere. So then the realtor comes, and she was a character, like, oh Herbert, I'll show them around now. You know? So she shows us the downstairs, and me and our realtor and Dr. Bionman are like making like eyes, like, are we in danger? Like, what the heck is happening? Okay. Then we go upstairs.

SPEAKER_01 10:45

Kreek, creek.

SPEAKER_02 10:49

You know what, Rich? Just so people know I'm not exaggerating. Can we insert me going up the stairs? I have it filmed so you could hear the creak. I don't want I don't want people to think this was an exaggeration. I have video footage of me going up the stairs, and you hear creek, creek. Oh, as we're going up, she goes, and you know, you can't see all the bedrooms. We can only show you two of the bedrooms. And we're like, but we're looking to buy that if we can't see the whole house. So we go into the first room. It was just like, oh, hoarders, like, but it was trash. It wasn't like like there's bottles and wrappers and garbage, and but it was like you couldn't see the floor. I went in like, oh, there's a there's a problem. We didn't we couldn't even go into the bedroom because there was so much garbage. So we closed that door. We go to the second bedroom, which was still chaotic, but you could at least like walk in. And there was a full-size fridge in the bedrooms. He said he lives there alone. But like, why are there fridges in all the bedrooms? So then one of the two bedrooms that you weren't allowed to see were now walking down the hallway, which by the way had the scariest dollhouse, and things were like broken in it, and things were like oh it was so scary, and I started getting the wheelies, and then all of a sudden, a 110-year-old woman opens the door to one of the bedrooms, and she's like, What are you guys doing here? And then the realtor that works with Herbert, I'm making the name up, was like, Oh, we're Herbert's friends. And then she goes, What are you guys doing here? And she's like, We're friends with Herbert. She then goes, So what are you guys doing here? And I see Antonio, who doesn't get scared, was like, Time to wrap it up! Let's go! So then uh she was like, Oh, we have another room to show you. It was this like really spooky room off the rooms that had stairs going down. I'll again, can you insert a picture here? If you're watching on YouTube, you could say, I have I no way in hell was I going down those steps. So then they took us outside and they said, Well, we also have an apartment. It's illegal to rent it, but like if you have family, and I was like, Great, we have a brother.

SPEAKER_04 13:29

Oh thanks, they're gonna put me in the murder apartment.

SPEAKER_02 13:32

Like it was a murder apartment? I'm telling you, murders went down there. And as soon as we walk in, the lights go out.

SPEAKER_04 13:39

Oh gosh.

SPEAKER_02 13:40

Thank god I don't have heart issues because it was so scary. And then the kitchen was ripped apart, the toilet was just it was out of the bathroom, right in the middle of the room. And then they were like, Oh, and then here's the shed. And I was like, you know what? We're like, we gotta go.

unknown 13:58

I don't know.

SPEAKER_04 13:59

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_02 14:00

Yeah, so then we get in the car, and I have the worst bad vibes. Like, one, I really think it was haunted, and like this was bad energy. So we're laughing about it, and then we get quiet, and I'm editing, and he's just driving. We're like very quiet. And I'm in the process of editing like the dollhouse, like we're one of the spookier times, and we're on the Henry Hudson Parkway, and there's traffic, so Dr. Peanut Man starts slowing down not to hit the car in front of us. The car behind us rams us in the back.

SPEAKER_04 14:34

Oh gosh.

SPEAKER_02 14:36

And it I felt it was the spirit trying to kill us. So, anyway, health hunting day one went great. Okay, are we ready to do the interview with Regina?

SPEAKER_04 14:49

That was filmed months ago.

SPEAKER_02 14:51

Months ago. I don't remember it. I don't know what we talked about. We gave advice.

SPEAKER_04 14:54

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 14:54

Okay, and you read you picked the questions?

SPEAKER_04 14:57

I picked the questions and read the questions.

SPEAKER_02 14:59

Oh. Yeah. Okay. Let's sit down with Regina DeCico. I am so full. A little behind the scenes. We just ate pizza, bad pizza, the incorrect pizza.

SPEAKER_03 15:14

It was not the right order.

SPEAKER_02 15:16

We ordered pizza, 17-inch, half pepperoni, half double cheese, and then ginger ale and a soda. You know what came? A 13-inch, old pepperoni, no soda, no ginger ale. You know what you just want, Ty and Coke. Wait, I didn't even offer you water. Are you so thirsty?

SPEAKER_03 15:33

Well, I got Guys, Robin hasn't offered me anything in. I didn't realize that you had two slices of pizza and you'd need to. Oh, probably I should get water. Maybe not now. Should I get water? Should we get water?

SPEAKER_02 15:43

I feel like neither of us drank while eating pizza. Do I just leave this rolling while everybody gets? Should we get water? My water is. I'll get it. Because I'm not gonna find my water.

SPEAKER_03 15:52

What what do you mean your your specific water?

SPEAKER_04 15:55

It's not that big of a point.

SPEAKER_03 15:57

You don't even know what water looks like.

SPEAKER_02 16:03

Now we have to tell that story. Now we have to tell that story. Remember I had a bedding?

SPEAKER_03 16:06

Oh, I remember.

SPEAKER_02 16:07

That was brown.

SPEAKER_03 16:08

It was really that really got bad before it got better.

SPEAKER_02 16:10

That was so bad.

SPEAKER_03 16:11

That was the worst.

SPEAKER_02 16:12

I had like a little dot on my forehead, the tiniest bit of a bottle of.

SPEAKER_03 16:15

But like I wouldn't even have known it. And I see Robin all the time. We literally do challenges where I'm like interfacing on top of each other. I'd never seen it.

SPEAKER_02 16:21

But it was bothering me. And that's enough. And it got a little bigger. And I was like, so I went to the, I said, Security find me a dermatologist, because I don't have a dermatologist. Security finds me a dermatologist.

SPEAKER_03 16:31

I felt like that was not a real dermatologist. Like you went to a back alley somewhere, and someone's like, I got it.

SPEAKER_02 16:35

I think security found that dermatologist on Groupon Craigslist. And the woman's like, All right, I'm gonna freeze it off. And so I say, okay. So she freezes it. And over the next 48 hours, it turned. I feel like people are gonna think I'm exaggerating because I wore a band-aid for about two weeks because people thought I was ex like, oh, don't be so big. It wasn't. It was so big.

SPEAKER_03 17:00

Because I remember you sent it to me and I was like, oh.

SPEAKER_02 17:02

It was so it was like a bull.

SPEAKER_03 17:04

And I remember like Robin, I saw nothing. I saw nothing there. And then it got so big.

SPEAKER_02 17:09

It was the size of a dime.

SPEAKER_03 17:10

Yeah, no, it got it got yeah.

SPEAKER_02 17:12

I can't believe there's no scar. There's the tiniest scar, but it could have been so much worse. Oh, what we were laughing about before is during COVID, like at the height of COVID, when things were so like you want to wear a mask, you couldn't be within six feet of people. Right. At the time I was dating my ex, who lived on the other side of the country, I had not touched a human in months. Like, because remember, you couldn't hug your parents. And I was had an ear infection. And Regina walks me to urgent care with our little masks.

SPEAKER_03 17:40

Right, with our masks on.

SPEAKER_02 17:42

And I go in and the doctor starts examining me. And I said, Do you think it's COVID? This is before there was COVID type. I mean, you couldn't get your hand on the city. You know, you couldn't get your hand on COVID. Right, yes. Only Tom Hanks was able to go.

SPEAKER_03 17:56

We couldn't lose them.

SPEAKER_02 17:58

Um so I was like, Do you think it's COVID? He's like, I really think it's just an ear infection. I said, Okay. And then he was like, Look, the fear of COVID is actually worse than COVID itself. And I was like, tell that to my two grandmas. Right. Um at this point. I mean, yeah. But I was like, uh, I don't know about that. And then he like takes off his gloves, comes like what is that, six inches for me? Pulls down his mask, then pulls down my mask, grabs my hands, and he goes, See, I'm not scared. I was like, Oh my god, put on your fucking mask like this. It's terrifying. So anyway, also he was like covered in tattoos. He had like neck tattoos. He was young. He was like, I don't know, probably I would say 40, right? So anyway, he's like, What do you do? I said, I'm a comedian. He's like, Oh, you on Instagram? He asked for my Instagram. This is before going viral, by the way. This was like still 2020. Like, and so anyway, I then call Regina when I left, and I was like, Oh my god, you're knocking me. What happened? I told the story. She was like, Robin, was this even a doctor? Like, this is crazy. Where did you go after I dropped you off? So I'm like, he can't be real. I can't be real. So, like, a couple days later, Regina makes an appointment. She goes undercover.

SPEAKER_03 19:17

But she gets this old guy. Nothing. I got none of it. None of this. Nobody tried to have a moment with me. Nobody held my hand. They were like, you're not gonna make it.

SPEAKER_02 19:28

That is so. That was so inappropriate. I remember when she told me I was like, wait, what? Like, even if it wasn't COVID times, like, like that was so inappropriate. But then you're at the peak of COVID, a dungeon. And he was a drummer, I remember. Drummer, and then I went to his profile, married with two kids. There was so much inappropriate.

SPEAKER_03 19:48

I remember like this part. This is not, it's awful. Yeah. So then when I went in checking out, nope.

SPEAKER_02 19:53

Alright, so I asked the kids to send in just questions, some nice stuff for us to give a little security. You said you put stuff that's all over the map. I didn't I don't know. Okay, we don't know. I don't know. He picked them.

SPEAKER_01 20:05

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 20:06

Okay, all over the map. All right. All over the map. So if you want to, if you need advice, you can always head over to shawwetalk.com. There's a section at the bottom for advice.

SPEAKER_04 20:17

If you love someone, but your life is objectively easier when they're not around. Is that a red flag or is that adulthood?

SPEAKER_02 20:24

This is not our situation, what I'm gonna say. Okay. Because we have uh fiance and husbands that are like good cooks who clean and take care of us who like do majority of the heavy lifting. Like we're actually the bad example for this.

SPEAKER_03 20:39

We're like weird like husbands.

SPEAKER_02 20:40

Yeah, yeah. Like I feel like we're the stereotypes. The stereotypes. They're like the stereotypes. Stereotypes are reverse. But I there's so many times like I feel bad for my girlfriends because they're dating guys or married to guys where it's like having another kid. Yes. And I think that that's the situation. If you're like always doing like all the chores for your significant other, it's a lot of work. It's saying another kid.

SPEAKER_03 21:03

Yeah, if it's making your life harder, but I think in taking care of somebody else, sometimes it's like, oh, like I will do laundry and I'm like, ugh. And like John usually works from home and he's been like working lesser home, so he's been out, and now he has like a lot more dirty clothes. And then sometimes I'm like, wait, am I supposed to wash them? Because he's like out a lot. And then I'm like, wait, I'm doing more laundry than I used to.

SPEAKER_02 21:24

No, but so that's what I'm saying. Like, that's not that's what I'm saying. Like, I don't think that's a red flag. Right. That's not making your life harder.

SPEAKER_03 21:31

It's not stopping me from doing anything because I'm doing one lot of laundry.

SPEAKER_02 21:35

It's like when your significant other is like having a third or fourth child. Right, where you're like really doing everything for them. Everything for them, and it just makes your life harder. Yeah, that's a red flag.

SPEAKER_03 21:44

You need like you need a compromise. You both need to like.

SPEAKER_02 21:46

Your situation you just said is adulthood. Like where you have to do more laundry.

SPEAKER_03 21:50

You're like, oh, this husband with his pants. He does my laundry. No, that's great. But John used to do laundry, but now he's not home a lot. So like I feel like I'm picking up his things. Or being his wife.

SPEAKER_02 22:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 22:03

Gross nope.

SPEAKER_02 22:05

What I have to do those activities. I hit the jackpot. He cooks, really, does the dishes and does the laundry. Yeah. Like those are three things I can't do. Right. I could do the dishes. He doesn't want me to do dishes because he likes them clean desserts.

SPEAKER_03 22:18

No, it's funny. John also likes stuff. So it's like if I clean the bathroom and John watches me do it, he does not like the way it's done. And then I'm like, then you do it. So like I would have to close the door sometimes, clean it, and then open the door and be like, ta-da!

SPEAKER_02 22:31

Like But overall, I would say, look, if it's like some annoyances, that's adulthood. If it feels like a burden, it's a flag. Yeah. Next.

SPEAKER_04 22:41

I'm good at my job, but I don't care about it at all. It's not my passion.

SPEAKER_02 22:45

Isn't that normal? I think there's different some people like their our jobs is our passion. Sure. But then there are some people, like my brother Michael would always say, some people live to work. Right. Like my because he would say, d my dad, who's an accountant, lives to work. He loves to work. And my brother would always go, I work to live. Like he likes this job because it gives him a paycheck to live life.

SPEAKER_03 23:07

He can do what he wants. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 23:08

I would say for you and me, we uh have a job that we're passionate about. But I think it's totally fine to not be passionate about your job and it's a paycheck so that you could do things outside.

SPEAKER_03 23:19

Right, but then I think you have to find the things you're passionate about. I think that's a difference. Yes, yes. Because I think we're lucky that it's both. And I think for some people, there's nothing wrong with having a job that pays your bills and also being good at it, but you definitely want to have something that like gets you excited. That's not work.

SPEAKER_02 23:34

It's funny that you said like we're lucky to have that. I think it's a curse, also. Probably. You know why? If we didn't love it, we would get the hell out of this business.

SPEAKER_03 23:43

If somebody I was with people last night and stand-ups were basically all talking about when they would quit. If they could, and then someone was saying, the thing about it is we could always No one can ever stop us from performing, no matter how old we are. And then someone's like, Yeah, but I don't want to do it. And it's like you sort of say that, but like, yeah, there is something nice to being like, we could be a hundred and be like, you know what, we're gonna do it. And most comics die being comics.

SPEAKER_02 24:05

Like, because there's no they die because of comedy. That's why it's like for us, it's a and a blessing, but for you, it's totally okay. I think enjoy that. Enjoy that you just show up, get your paycheck, and go live your best time.

SPEAKER_03 24:18

You're good at that, but then find other stuff you want to do that makes you happy. Make sure you're happy.

SPEAKER_02 24:22

Next.

SPEAKER_04 24:26

What would you do when a friend opens up?

SPEAKER_02 24:28

Isn't there a theme song? What do you do? When you fall in love?

SPEAKER_04 24:34

For a conduct.

SPEAKER_03 24:40

What would you do?

SPEAKER_01 24:42

For a conduct. I love that that's where you had to the fattest thing possible. You know that famous song? What would you do for a conduct bar? For a Klondike bar. Are those still a thing? Yeah. I'm sure the still the freezer can in the supermarket.

SPEAKER_02 25:05

You know, you keep promising me you'll lock me up. Oh, yeah. Regina's family owns a grocery market. We owned it. And I said my dream since I was a little kid was to be locked in a grocery store and thinking like I'm locked in. Right. And that I get to eat whatever I want. And she says I could do it. And your parents agreed too. Right.

SPEAKER_03 25:25

She did. Yeah, they would do it.

SPEAKER_02 25:27

But well, we gotta make that happen. We'll make it happen. That could be my wedding gift, just so you know.

unknown 25:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 25:31

Like, just that.

SPEAKER_01 25:35

You're welcome.

SPEAKER_02 25:36

Not even Antonio, though. Just me.

SPEAKER_03 25:38

Okay, sorry. What would you do? He's gonna be outside. He wants it more than you. He's gonna be outside the store, like, no, because he loves the store outside. That would be the worst thing to not include it.

SPEAKER_02 25:51

You're right. On our first date, when Dr. Piano was telling me he lived in Westchester, I was like, oh, actually, my best friend's family owned supermarkets there. And he goes, which which one? I said, De Chico? He's like, wait. And he like pulls out his phone. He's like, Oh, this is my favorite place to go. And he's like getting pictures on his phone because they have like a bar there. So funny. So he was like, so excited to me, Regina. Okay, next.

SPEAKER_04 26:14

So what would you do? What would you do when a friend only calls when they're in a crisis but disappears when their life improves?

SPEAKER_02 26:22

Oh, dump the friends. Yeah, I don't like that one bad. No, mw. Yeah. Too much friends. You do too much work. And what do you get? What's your reward? Yeah, no, no, no. You need a friend that's you guys are both there for the hard times and for the good times and everything in between. You don't need, you don't need the friends that are calling you up when they're only down the dumps.

SPEAKER_03 26:40

Right, because I feel like as we get older, you realize it's like harder to not harder to find. You really start to you value the people that are rooting for you. Yes. Yeah. Not just the people that are there for your crisis. I feel like we we like think that all the time.

SPEAKER_02 26:52

We we have we've had this conversation multiple times. Because both of us, when we have our wins, we're like the first person we call because we know the other one's gonna be sincerely happy. And then it's so nice to have that because it's like there's always bad stuff happening. Yeah, but also when bad stuff happens, I call you. Like we're there for both. You a real friend is there for both. Yeah. And for the boring, like when there's nothing happening. But you know what I mean? Like, you need those in between. Yes. Yeah. That's our advice. Dump the friend.

SPEAKER_03 27:20

Yep, we're done. Yeah. Next.

SPEAKER_04 27:24

How long is the dating before you're allowed to say, This is who I am, I'm not improving.

SPEAKER_02 27:29

Okay, I feel like it could be both. Like, you should always want to keep improving.

SPEAKER_03 27:35

Yeah, you should always want to be better. But you can't be a different person.

SPEAKER_02 27:38

Yeah. I think she's saying, like, if someone's like, if you're s how I'm reading that question is that she's saying my significant other wants me to, you know, get in better shape or wants me to be on social media less. Like, I'm trying, but this is as good as it's gonna be. That's how I'm reading it. Right. Like she just doesn't want to keep improving. Not that she's faking who she is.

SPEAKER_03 27:57

This is as good as I'm gonna be. I don't get any better than this.

SPEAKER_02 28:01

I mean, I think you should always try to keep improving. Right. But like I think it's fine very early on to let them know, like, not too much.

SPEAKER_03 28:09

Right, because you don't want to get in a situation where then you can't deal, like, you created it where you can't be the person that person thinks that you are. Yeah. Then you're gonna get in trouble. And that's like, this is who I am. And I'll like try to do better at this, but like I can't you can't we can't be someone we're not.

SPEAKER_02 28:21

Yeah. I remember when Dr. Pian and I were getting ready to move in with each other, like a couple of when we were we were looking at places and I had a complete freak out. And he's like, What? And I said, I'm just like, I I'm nervous living together because like there's some things like I don't want to change. And he's like, Okay, what? I was like, I order in all the time. Like, I don't cook. I like ordering in dinner. He's like, Okay, so you'll continue that. He's like, if I cook, can I ask you like if I you want some? I said, Yeah, but like even if you're cooking, I may want to just eat what I want to eat. And he's like, Okay, you know, so I think you have to say that early on. Like, I'm not gonna change. And you should want to be better.

SPEAKER_03 28:58

Right.

unknown 28:59

Right.

SPEAKER_03 28:59

And then you compromise sometimes. Yeah, but that's that's so funny. I need to order delivery.

SPEAKER_02 29:05

Next! Wait, did we answer the question?

SPEAKER_03 29:10

I think so. I forgot the question.

SPEAKER_01 29:13

Next. I hope everybody's appreciating this advice.

SPEAKER_03 29:17

You're really on your own.

SPEAKER_04 29:19

How do you tell the difference between being burnt out and just being done with that phase of your life?

SPEAKER_02 29:24

I am so fine when I'm done with something, I'm done. Yeah, right? Especially people. Yeah. Like if someone is not bringing me joy, I'm like, all right, we're done. Yeah, same thing with like jobs, with apartments, like everything. Like, I am really fine saying, all right, let's wrap this up.

SPEAKER_03 29:41

And I feel like you're getting better at I'm getting better, but like I was like, uh, we'll see. Maybe uh one more chance. I let stuff like go probably for a little too long. I'm like, I have to see for myself. And a lot of times I'm like, Robin, you're right.

SPEAKER_02 29:56

Then I'll call to be like you've gotten better though, of like saying no to like no, not even just people. I'm saying like certain stand-up jobs, you've got certain.

SPEAKER_03 30:06

Like, okay, why why do you why why are you doing this show? Is it like because it's gonna be good like fulfilling professionally? Is it because the money's good, or do you like really want to do it? So now I'll ask myself those three questions. I'd be like, is there something about the show that I should be doing? Because like I was telling Rob one time, I was I'd be like driving to a show and I'd be mad about doing it. And then she was kind of like, why are you doing it? I was like, wait, what?

SPEAKER_02 30:26

Because she'd be driving alone, she'd be getting paid way underpaid, and it wasn't helping her career. So I'm like, why it's fine. You just need one of the three. You can take a game because oh, there's comics on it that you that are your friends and you want to hang out with. There may be one where it's gonna further your career even though you're losing money.

SPEAKER_03 30:45

Or like sometimes it's like, oh, I need to run a really long set. Yeah, like it's a lot of things. And I want it to be lower stakes. Yeah. And so it's not a lot of money, but I'm gonna get a lot of time. Right. That's okay.

SPEAKER_02 30:54

You know? Or like, all right, it's stupid money. We want to take this job and just take the paycheck. But if it's none of it, you gotta say, if it's not serving you, cut it out.

SPEAKER_03 31:03

I feel like especially after the pandemic, I could hear Robin differently when she gave that advice. Because then it was like your taller talent is lower after that for like crap. And then it was like, oh, wait, you know what? I don't want to waste my time. But I feel like comics don't follow those three. No, and that's why it's hard. Like, I have to stop my I have to stop like the comic part of my brain and be like, no, be the the person part of your brain and like split the stuff up. So to this person's what was the question? Oh, is burnt out? No.

SPEAKER_02 31:29

Yeah, burnt out or oh, did we not answer that at all? Did we answer a different question? Read the whole question as a whole.

SPEAKER_04 31:37

How do you tell the difference between being burnt out and just being done with that phase of your life?

SPEAKER_02 31:42

Oh, okay. This is a different question.

SPEAKER_03 31:45

But please enjoy the other answer.

SPEAKER_02 31:46

Alright, is that it? That's it. Okay. Regina, thank you so much. Thanks for having me. Do you have a question? Do you need advice on anything? Alright, guys, thanks for listening. Regina, thank you so much for coming around. I love you. I love my best friend. And when this airs, we are like a couple of months away from the wedding. It's crazy. So crazy. It's crazy. All right. Thank you. Thank you. Bye. I love Regina so much. Oh, you know what? When we do the wedding, because we're gonna record an episode in Mallorca, she could we could just interview everyone.

SPEAKER_04 32:28

Regina, Belinda.

SPEAKER_02 32:29

Yeah, literally everyone. Sammy. Sammy, mom, dad, the beyond man. I could do like a two-minute interview with everyone. We should do it the day after the wedding. Oh, we should. Oh my gosh, you know it'd be a great episode. All the people we just listed do a two-minute interview before and a two-minute interview after.

SPEAKER_04 32:46

Yes. Yes. I love it.

SPEAKER_02 32:48

And so I want to remind us wedding week to do that. All right, let's call Mama Shaw for producer shout-outs and motherly advice. Hi, did you already leave?

unknown 33:01

No.

SPEAKER_02 33:01

Okay, did you have enough time to do your segment? Yes. She had a doctor's appointment, so she said we were on a time crunch. Alright, so, Mom, you want to do your producer shout-outs?

SPEAKER_00 33:16

Wait, wait, wait, wait. I got my glasses on.

SPEAKER_02 33:22

It's so hot in here.

SPEAKER_04 33:25

Mom's calling me.

SPEAKER_02 33:27

Mom, are you calling Richie? Oh my gosh. Why is she calling you?

SPEAKER_04 33:30

I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 33:31

She hung up on you.

SPEAKER_04 33:31

She hung up on you and called me.

SPEAKER_00 33:40

Did I hang up on you?

SPEAKER_02 33:41

You not only hung up on me, but then you were calling Richie.

SPEAKER_00 33:46

Sorry.

SPEAKER_02 33:48

All right, let's do your producer shout-outs.

SPEAKER_00 33:51

Okay. We want to thank all the Patreon. And I want to give a shout out to those in the producer. We have Susan Santoro, Veronica and Deanna, Tomoth, and Dr. Piano Man. And I want to give a shout out to all the Patreon and their support for Robin and the art.

SPEAKER_02 34:16

Also, for our producer Patreons, we're going to be doing a live stream sit-in on a rehearsal for the play that Dr. Piano Man and I are working on. So that's really exciting. Okay, give us your motherly advice.

SPEAKER_00 34:32

Okay, I was thinking now that you and Dr. Piano Man are looking at homes and houses and everything. Remember a few things. First of all, that moving is one of the most dreadful things that come up in a person's life. So remember to keep your anxiety in check. And lastly, remember that it's you and your family. You and Dr. Piana Man is the home. That's just the house.

SPEAKER_02 35:07

Oh, Deborah, that was good.

SPEAKER_00 35:11

You and your family are the home.

SPEAKER_02 35:13

And the walls are just the house.

SPEAKER_00 35:16

Yeah. And the ceiling. Don't look at the ceiling. You don't want to rain on you.

SPEAKER_02 35:21

All right. Thanks, Mom. This was this was good motherly advice. I actually personally really needed it. So thank you.

SPEAKER_00 35:28

Definitely. Thank you. For giving your mother a job.

SPEAKER_02 35:35

All right. Love you.

SPEAKER_00 35:37

Love you guys.

SPEAKER_02 35:38

Bye. Bye. I love that. You make the home. The walls are just the house.

SPEAKER_04 35:45

And the ceiling.

SPEAKER_02 35:48

Alright, guys. Thank you for watching. Oh, also, if you like a tote bag, we have the we do hard things, we have the no thinking, and we have the kids around the world. You can get it on my Etsy page. I will put that in the link below. I will see you next week when we have no clue what's gonna happen. No, really, we don't know what next. We have nothing planned for next week, right? Really, we have nothing planned for next week, right?

SPEAKER_04 36:14

We have nothing planned.

SPEAKER_02 36:15

Okay, well, we have no clue what's gonna happen, especially not me.

unknown 36:21

Shall we talk okay?

SPEAKER_04 36:24

This is where you wanna be.