Episode 33: Schall We Talk about Motherly Advice from Mama Schall

This week, Mama Schall is back!!!

We asked you to send in the things you needed motherly advice on, and Mama Schall came ready. She gave opinions, disclaimers, wisdom, judgment-free guidance… and then somehow became the funniest person in the room without even trying.

In this episode:

Mama Schall gives advice on divorce, toxic relationships, dating again, friendships, parenting teens, and finding balance with kids.

Security celebrates his birthdays and gives everyone a very reasonable gift request: subscribe, like, comment, review, join Patreon, and buy a tote bag

Dr. Piano Man and I continue our house-hunting journey and 

a secret bachelorette comedy show announcement gets teased in the most confusing coded language possible

Mama Schall nearly storms off over a curfew story from 10th grade

This one is warm, chaotic, very funny, and full of mom wisdom.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Shaw We Talk, oh, can't you see? This is where you wanna be.

SPEAKER_04 0:05

Hi everyone, welcome back to Shaw We Talk. Today we have motherly advice for the entire episode. I'm very excited. Mama Shaw is going to be our guest today in full transparency. We already recorded her segment and now we're recording the opening. And I have to say, she's a star. She is a star. She security.

SPEAKER_00 0:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 0:31

I mean, she did great. I don't know if it's just because she's our mother. We find I hope everyone finds her as endearing as we find her.

SPEAKER_00 0:39

And funny.

SPEAKER_04 0:40

But she doesn't even mean to be funny.

SPEAKER_00 0:42

No.

SPEAKER_04 0:43

That's what's so funny. Like, it's just uh okay. So anyway, I asked you guys to write in questions and then that you need advice on, and she is going to answer it and and we'll have some fun with her. I oh also I found some Reddit wedding disaster, embarrassing stories, and me and her talk about it and laugh about it. So we will get to that in a little bit. But I want to tell you guys, oh my gosh, it's Thursday, right?

SPEAKER_00 1:06

Yes, it is.

SPEAKER_04 1:07

Happy birthday. Thank you. I wish you happy birthday at the end of the episode.

SPEAKER_00 1:11

Yes, we do.

SPEAKER_04 1:12

I know what people could get you for your birthday.

SPEAKER_00 1:14

What?

SPEAKER_04 1:15

They can subscribe on YouTube or leave a comment below. You can also what?

SPEAKER_00 1:21

And like it.

SPEAKER_04 1:22

Oh, and like. You gotta do it. I didn't know if you're doing like the Michelle or the Fonz. Something else security wants for his birthday from the listeners on Spotify and Apple is to leave a nice review, right? Yes, yes. Remember you saying that's something you really want. Oh, the thing you really want is Patreons. If you'd like to join Patreon, the link is below. We do behind the scenes every week and we do live streams. And oh, I just put up your apartment on Patreon.

SPEAKER_00 1:50

I saw.

SPEAKER_04 1:51

Did you read all the comments?

SPEAKER_00 1:52

Yes, yes. It's so, so nice and sweet. I'm really excited for you. I'm excited.

SPEAKER_04 1:58

Security signed the lease on a new apartment. He moves in in two weeks, and I'm really happy for you. It's a it's a beautiful apartment.

SPEAKER_00 2:04

And my goal is to make it not a bachelor pad.

SPEAKER_04 2:08

Like actually make it I've seen over the last like actually since you got Oates, like in the last like six months, really, even your apartment now has switched over to more of like a nice home.

SPEAKER_00 2:19

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 2:20

So your goal for the apartment is to make it a nice home.

SPEAKER_00 2:23

Exactly.

SPEAKER_04 2:23

Will you let me help a little? Yes. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 2:26

Yes, 100%.

SPEAKER_04 2:27

So something I always find curtains are like like little things like that make a difference.

SPEAKER_00 2:33

Because I have zero curtains. Okay. The apartment has zero curtains.

SPEAKER_04 2:37

You know, or like I know you have a dog, but like like throw pillows on a couch can make a difference. So like things like that, yeah, great.

SPEAKER_00 2:46

I'm excited.

SPEAKER_04 2:46

Oh, I'm so happy for you.

SPEAKER_00 2:47

But I'm keeping the arcade machine.

SPEAKER_04 2:49

Well, that's not that's not a bachelor pad. To me, that was like personnel. I have a jukebox. Oh yeah, true. Look, I'm all for fun.

SPEAKER_00 2:56

Is it it's a juke box or jute box.

SPEAKER_04 3:00

Or juice.

SPEAKER_00 3:01

Juice box. Maybe a juice box, yes.

SPEAKER_04 3:04

Good old Judy. Okay, and yeah, those are the things you want for oh what you really want for your birthday.

SPEAKER_00 3:10

Tell them, tell them what I want, really want.

SPEAKER_04 3:12

Is for people to buy my tote bags. You can head over to Etsy. We have the we do hard things, the no thinking, and kids around the world. These are great bags. They're great for the beach, they're great for grocery shopping, whatever you need a bat, a tote bag for, and it would really mean a lot for security's birthday.

SPEAKER_00 3:30

It really, really would.

SPEAKER_04 3:34

Okay. So uh this past Saturday, Dr. Piano Man and I looked at two more houses. We are really just like learning about different areas, and we're learning about like monthly expensive. Like, this is really a learning process. We again we signed a year lease, so we're not looking to move today. We really after the wedding is when we're gonna go hard right now, is more learning. But we saw a house that uh not only did I love Dr. Piano Man loved. When you first pull up, it looks like a castle. It looks huge, but it's really misleading because it they built the house upwards, not like backwards. So every floor is just one room deep. Like it's not an overly big house. Actually, it's all it's a three-bedroom, so it's not like huge, but it's just like each floor has something, you know? But when you first walk up, you're like, oh my God. But it's like up in the mountains, it's like, you know, 30 minutes from Manhattan, it's really close, but like it's just high up, and the view is of the Hudson River, of every it's just amazing. The problem is when you come off the driveway, it's right onto a main street, like a highway, there's no sidewalk, nothing. And it just since we're so in the beginning of our journey of looking, we're not ready to like settle yet, but it really gave me excitement and hope of like we're gonna find something we loved. I just like it's not ideal, like the location of it. So we want to keep looking, but it really made me so happy to like the when we went the other day, I hated all the houses, and it was really discouraging where this kind of did the opposite. And you know, I've been getting so many messages like, I can't believe you're leaving New York City. You love New York City, I can't believe you're leaving New York City. And here's the thing, we're also looking in New York City. It's just for the price that we can spend on buying what we can get in New York City versus right outside New York City is like night and day. And we want this to be a home that we want to stay in for many years. So that's why we're looking outside the city. We're just we're we're just super open. Also, and here's the thing about me I welcome change and life and excitement. And I never believe you should be stuck. Like, I should never believe whether it's your job, your marriage, your friends, your anything. No one is stuck. Life is free and open and exciting. And for me to say I can only stay in New York City, I love New York City, I'm never leaving New York City, I could be missing out. So, you know, we're looking at houses outside of the city. I mean, I definitely need to be a short distance from the city because I've I film here, you know, I work here, I all my friends and family are here, so I don't want to move too far. Uh no more than 30, 40 minutes out, but I'm just open and I'm excited to see what we could see. Although, this week we're looking at an apartment in the city, so you can maybe be ignoring all of this, but we're just we're really excited. And um, I'm gonna be a wife and I'm gonna own property. Two things I never thought I'd say.

SPEAKER_00 6:34

And soon to be a mom. Dog mom.

SPEAKER_04 6:37

We're cutting that.

SPEAKER_00 6:43

I loved last week's episode that there were so many things that didn't end up in the episode.

SPEAKER_04 6:50

So last week's episode was the secrets episode, and I wanted to share a secret, which we end up sharing about with Mario Lopez. But to get there, we shared in Security threw out like 10 different secrets, and each time we shared the secret, I go, nah, I can't put that on, or he goes, No, okay. But instead of there, we go, Patreon, Patreon. But the thing is, none of them ended up on Patreon. Oh no, because it was all not even for Patreon.

SPEAKER_00 7:14

Yeah, exactly. So even Patreon's got like you need to like burn that footage.

SPEAKER_04 7:19

Oh, it's oh no. It's already deleted.

SPEAKER_00 7:20

It's deleted, it's gone. I uh I even took the computer and threw it out.

SPEAKER_04 7:25

Like our secrets were like, we have dead clowns in the basement. And I was like, yeah, maybe not share that. Alright, so yeah, so very excited. We're both moving. I mean, you're moving in two weeks, I'm moving in a year, and it's nothing's gonna change. And you know why I'm also like I am excited? Why? Because okay. I I'm not saying I'm unsuccessful. Well, we could actually argue I'm I'm very successful. Not rich, but I'm depends what you qualify as successful, but I would argue I I'm doing okay, you know? I feel stuck in my career. I feel very redundant, I feel like everything's kind of the same. I feel like I'm not moving forward, and I'm excited to change things up and see the different content, to see who I meet, to see what happens next. I'm just excited for something to change. So I think this is great.

SPEAKER_00 8:20

Well, look, you're engaged. That's you're you're you're no longer stuck in the dating world.

SPEAKER_04 8:26

Exactly. You know, I uh dating was such a big part of my content. Like it was a huge part of my content. And I fell in love with Dr. Piano Man. I was like, damn it, all my good stories are gonna be gone. Well, guess what? Like, I've gained probably 60,000 followers in the last two years, you know? And so I just feel like I don't know, no one's being mean about me moving. I'm just like talking out loud that like change can always be good. Mm-hmm. Anyway. Oh, okay. What's today's date? June 4th, right? A big announcement's coming in four days. Really? Okay, I'm doing a bachelorette comedy show. For my bachelorette party, I didn't want to party. I put on the goals list. I wanted a bachelorette comedy show with the kids, okay? And my agent emailed me last week. This this was not on the radar. Like we were thinking maybe a casino, maybe something here or here. Okay, how do I do I just I can't tell them. I'm not supposed to announce it till the 8th, like on my contract. So what do I do? Should we talk in code?

SPEAKER_00 9:28

Talk in code.

SPEAKER_04 9:28

Okay. If you would like to come to my Bachelorette comedy show, which is going to be the event of the century, I would save a date in August. Maybe after August 22nd, but before the 24th.

SPEAKER_05 9:43

Oh.

SPEAKER_04 9:44

On a Sunday. Like leave Sundays open around that time for matinee a brunch bachelorette comedy show.

SPEAKER_00 9:53

Okay, you're not seeing that bigger. That was vague enough, right?

SPEAKER_04 9:56

Yeah. And I cannot say where, but I'll say this city, tea getting dumped in water has like a potential of in the past happening.

SPEAKER_00 10:11

Okay, I know where it is, and I don't understand what you just said.

SPEAKER_04 10:16

T, like tea getting dumped in a body of water in the past. Wait, do you really not?

SPEAKER_00 10:24

I am so confused.

SPEAKER_04 10:26

Take the name of the city. T. Okay, bleep out the city. Am I wrong? No.

SPEAKER_00 10:36

Can I tell you something? What? I totally forgot where we were doing the show. Where did you think we were doing the show?

SPEAKER_05 10:45

I thought we were doing the show over there.

SPEAKER_03 10:50

Okay, well, they get it.

SPEAKER_00 10:52

Oh my god. Oh my god. I am a moron. I'm the stupid one.

SPEAKER_04 11:01

Yeah. Stupid. Stupid. Okay, so again, we're not saying the city.

SPEAKER_00 11:05

No. Okay, start over.

SPEAKER_04 11:06

Okay. I can't say the city. I'm not saying the date. I'm just saying sometime after August 22nd and before August 24th, if there's like a Sunday in that time for a matinee brunch bachelorette comedy show, I and you want to come, the city, again, I can't say the city, but back in the day, potentially, a bunch of people took tea bags and dumped it in water because they did not like the country we were associated with.

SPEAKER_00 11:33

Correct.

SPEAKER_04 11:34

Yeah. But I will not say the city.

unknown 11:36

No.

SPEAKER_04 11:37

I also will say that I started crying because the venue is like it's a very prestigious venue. I performed there once before and they had asked me back to do the show. And as a comedian, it's a really big deal, and I'm like really honored and I'm really excited. I feel like this is corny. I don't know if this is called cocky, but like I'm proud of myself because I feel like not a lot of comics get to perform there, and not a lot of comics get to get asked back. And especially because it's like a special type of show to get to do it like at this theater where tea may have been dumped. I'm really proud of myself. I'm really excited for, I mean, it's a it I'm gonna get to do my bachelorette show with the kids. This is so huge. So, and we're also doing a matinee so that if people are coming from surrounding areas and you've worked the next day, you will still be able to get back that night. Like we really thought this out. And uh, Regina and Belinda are gonna be part of the show. Security, Dr. Piama, it's gonna, it's an event. I can't it's all I can say. We're actually trying to add a second show in New York off the record. We don't know if that's gonna happen, but anyway, I'm just really excited. So keep your eyes out. On Monday, uh Monday, the 8th, I'm gonna announce where and when the show is. So stay tuned for that. All right, should we jump into the episode? Let's get to mom. Okay, guys, uh, we're gonna be sitting down with Mama Shaw and get some motherly advice. And we are here with Mama Shaw. Mama Shaw, welcome back to the podcast. Hello, everybody. No, you they hear you every episode, but they don't get to see you every episode. That's true. Thank you for coming on today. So, are you excited? I so this morning I set on Insta stories for people if they needed motherly advice, and they could be as specific as they want, because usually your motherly advice is very broad for everyone. Here we're gonna tackle specific people's problems. How do you feel about this?

SPEAKER_02 13:31

I'm just giving you a disclaimer that was it. Advice is just that advice. It's my opinion, it's what I think will be could work out very well for you, but I am not a trained psychologist, I'm not a trained psychiatrist, I'm not a trained therapist, I'm a mother. And I what what I've seen over the years is my opinion, and it's usually pretty good. Okay, I'm usually right.

SPEAKER_04 14:08

Thank you. Okay, that's a great, you know what? I say the same thing a lot of time on his stories. When I'm giving advice, I go, by the way, I know nothing. Like my life is a mess. Like, take everything with a grain of salt. So I'm actually I'm glad you said that because yeah, like we'll give advice, I'll chime in too. But just know, like, there's so many different roads and paths. Like, take whatever either of us say with a grain of salt.

SPEAKER_02 14:28

Well, that's why sometimes it all depends on who you go to for advice. Oh, true. A lot of times, people who are very, say, confrontational. You don't know if you're not not in the mood to be very, you know, to confront what your every your problem is, that's not the person you should go to for advice. Something that you know will help you. That you know who the people you trust and what they have over the years said to you, and that's who you usually go to advice.

SPEAKER_04 14:59

You know, it's funny, depending on to that exact point, depending on who and what I need in the moment is who and what I would ask. So, like Absolutely. If I just want someone to like if I'm pissed at someone and I need some backup, I mess I call you. Like, what do I do here? And then I'd say, and then she'll go, Well, you know, that person's so stinky, you're correct. But like, if I need some like really solid grounded advice, I'll probably call dad. Especially if it's financial. Yeah, if it's like financial, I'd call him. I think like overall for life advice, I'd probably call security. You know, like it depends. If it's like comedy work stuff, I'll call Regina. Like it's you you really do have to do that. But that's right. I try to go through and pick stuff that I would like as a mom come to you about.

SPEAKER_02 15:44

Let's hear it.

SPEAKER_04 15:45

All right. Coming up on a year since divorce, and my ex-husband has been in a relationship pretty much right after, and the person just moved in. I don't love him anymore, but I hate that he is happy since he cheated during our marriage. How do I get over this? And I want him to be miserable.

unknown 16:06

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 16:08

I understand exactly what it means to be angry at somebody and you want them to be miserable. Amen. And they hurt you, you want them to hurt. Yeah. So that that is a separate answer.

SPEAKER_04 16:23

That's yeah. That's don't think you're a bad person for having feelings of like, hey, you screwed me over.

SPEAKER_02 16:30

That's it. Yeah. But the next thing you have to do is say, your failure, which is the failure of your marriage, should not define you. Move on. And that's where you have to get to this point where you let it go. And it it's very hard. No one's gonna say that's easy, but you have to now come to terms with what had happened, and now yes, you should start dating, you should go out, move on. Can I can I uh chime in here? Yeah, absolutely.

SPEAKER_04 17:07

Do you know the best way to make an ex miserable is to move on, is to be the hottest, best, most successful, most wonderful, happiest version of yourself. Happy this is not an ex, but so this guy who is just awful, right? And uh since my career kind of taken off, he has reached out several times. First off, he's in the industry-ish, adjacent to what I do. He's not a comic or anything, but he's reached out and like I don't respond, and he's seeing like me be successful, he's seeing me happy, he's seeing me thriving, he's seeing me engaged, and I'm just sitting here like hee hee hee hee. I know my mom's saying move on, and yeah, it's easy to move, like not easy to move on, you will move on. But the best revenge is being happy. So I would say, my mom, my mom started it. Focus on yourself, forget about him, but just know the happier you are, the more it stings to the other person. That was good. See, mom? And see, mom, I I'll always chime in. So if we're wrong, people will blame me, not you. I got out of a very toxic, think the worst possible relationship seven months ago, and I'm 35. I was going to wait until I'm like a year out before dating again because I'm healing, doing therapy, getting back in shape, all the things. But now I'm wondering how long I should wait to date because I want babies and the clock is ticking.

SPEAKER_02 18:31

But you're putting so much pressure on yourself because you one, you put the time limit on because you want children. So you putting a time limit on because you want to improve yourself physically. You want to put your a time limit on because you want to improve yourself mentally. I mean, you're putting so much pressure on yourself. I think that's putting too much pressure on yourself, and the time to move on is becoming too pressure, like a pressure cooker. I would say relax, ease up on all of that, and not worry so much as when's what date do you have to go, you know, now I could start dating again. It'll come. It'll come. You'll feel good about what's happening. Stop. Don't put these time limits on. I think that is probably more detrimental to you than the vote.

SPEAKER_04 19:31

If you start pressing yourself with time limits, first off, you're not gonna meet the right person because you're stressed out. I also think getting pregnant is not easy. So the more stressed you are about it, it doesn't even matter if you have the right person.

SPEAKER_02 19:44

If you put a time limit on yourself, and if that time comes and now you didn't achieve what you want, then oh my god, yeah. You failed again, you know. So now you're depressed or upset about that. The last thing you need is another And could I say something?

SPEAKER_04 20:05

There is no correct time ever. You know what? It's just like no, there's no time. Everyone's made everything's made up, nothing's real. Just work on yourself, put yourself out there, do all the things. If you meet someone you want to go on a date with, great. You could keep working on yourself while dating. You can say, you know what, I'm giving myself just some time for me, but don't put it, don't put a date on it. When you feel ready to go on a date, go on a date. If you don't feel ready to go on a date, don't go listen to yourself.

SPEAKER_02 20:34

It makes me think of every time you buy like a container of milk or you buy some food and it has the expiration date. You don't want to, you know, oh, I gotta eat it before it expires, or I can't use it after it expires.

SPEAKER_04 20:47

I will say, if the the weight of of having children is on your brain, though, you could see a doctor and just look into the options of freezing eggs. Like I have a lot of girlfriends who have done that because a lot of my girlfriends when we started hitting late 30s felt the same way. And I do it's expensive though, so I'm not just like saying just go do it. Like, definitely look into the option of it though. All right, you ready? Yes. For mama S. Any advice on teaching an older teen boy to be a functioning adult without doing everything for them? You had two sons and a daughter. So when you're with the sons, how did you get them, especially when they were teens, to like do stuff?

SPEAKER_02 21:27

We had discussions. We talked about it. Talk it out. Tell them what's expected of them. Set the limits. They have to know what is expected of them. And if they don't do it, then there are consequences. They usually want something to stay outlaid, or they wanna go to a party, or they wanna have a was it their computer, was it something pop a shawl? Was it was in in sync with me. I really like your nail color, by the way. Sorry.

SPEAKER_04 21:59

Thank you.

SPEAKER_02 22:00

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_04 22:00

Did you think you were strict parents, lenient parents? Like where do you think you fell you and Daddy?

SPEAKER_02 22:06

I think because right from the beginning was it was we were strict. I didn't believe in hitting, but I believed in standing in the corner.

SPEAKER_00 22:22

Well, I always say that fair. You've always were fair parents. Okay, that's they were fair.

SPEAKER_04 22:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:30

I messed up. There were consequences. If I did something like that. This is what you were saying. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 22:34

Yeah, just fair. Tell them what's expected. And if they don't do it, you get punished or you get held back. But you weren't like overly like unreasonable. One time you were unreasonable. Security and CIA's curfew was midnight. But I was the third child, so my curfew was 2 a.m. Okay? Except for one random night, one random night, it was like 11 45 and I wasn't home yet. I remember this before cell phones. And I wasn't home yet, and you called Alana's mom, like Robin's breaking curfew. It's like 12, or maybe it was 12, a little after 12. And you're like, Robin's breaking curfew. You start calling like Alana's mom and Dana's mom. And I came home at like one, and you were standing on the lawn and you went, get in the house.

SPEAKER_02 23:19

And I'm like, that's on my curfew. So all I can say is I don't remember the incident, but I will say this something must have happened. Something must have gone on that evening that dad and I needed you to be home. And we were looking for you. We would have to get you home. Whatever it is. It just wasn't out of random that all of a sudden something happened.

SPEAKER_04 23:49

Deborah, Deborah, nothing happened. That night Deborah. Security what?

SPEAKER_00 23:57

What happened was mom and dad forgot what your curfew was. That is what happened.

SPEAKER_04 24:05

It was the most unreal. And the fact that you like so Ma I I was in time. I disagree. Deborah? Deborah, I was in 10th grade, and Alana and Dad were in were seniors, and I was so embarrassed.

SPEAKER_02 24:16

There's some no, there's a piece. When something doesn't make sense, it means that there's a piece that's missing.

SPEAKER_05 24:23

Your memory.

SPEAKER_02 24:25

Yes. Okay. I admit to that. Deborah. I don't remember what had happened or why, but I am sure that dad and I, something must have why are you jerking dad into this? Because I wouldn't have just started randomly calling all your girlfriends' parents. We needed to get in touch with you. I don't know what happened. So there must have maybe somebody in the family became ill. Well, we had to leave. I I would add that part of the story. That's not what happened. There's something that did. I I'm standing by it. I will not. Okay, so let's take it. Let's take it to the jury.

SPEAKER_04 25:05

Who was right? Who was wrong?

SPEAKER_00 25:08

Oh, you're looking at me?

SPEAKER_04 25:12

Have you calmed down? She was ready to walk offset. Like, can you imagine that would have been good for ratings? Like she storms off. Um, you ready? Yes. I need advice. I moved into a new neighborhood two years ago. 55 plus. Another lady and I became fast friends. We were known as inseparable. She decided to go back to work full time. And at the time, I joined different events in the community. As a result, I brought into my friend group and loved meeting so many great people. As a result, she got upset and completely abandoned our friendship. I have since moved away and I still miss her so much. Do I reach out or just count her as one happy chapter in my book of life? I would never hurt anyone and feel she was hurt, but didn't want to sacrifice my own happiness either.

SPEAKER_02 26:06

I think she should talk to the friend and say, look, was it while you're at work and I'm doing all these other social activities and making friends, it should be okay. You're at work. Doesn't mean I have to sit at home. And the same thing. If, you know, was it you don't have to feel that, you know, doing something behind your back was it because you're at work.

SPEAKER_04 26:28

Yeah. You definitely need to talk. You're 100% right. You just need to talk to her. I had a friend in college who was more of an introvert, and you know, I we'd go to a lot of the college parties together. And once I got to parties, I would talk to this person, this person. And she actually like sat me down and she was like, Hey, I always feel like when we go to parties, like, well, as soon as we walk in, you're off talking to other people, and I, you know, I feel a little left in dust. And I s we spoke about it. And I said, okay, well, you know, I have other friends, like, you know, but I mean, granted, you're in the industry where you would need to talk to my my point is my mom is right, you need to talk to her because without communication, she may be upset and you may just need to like explain to her. I'm repeating what you said, hey, this is the situation. But I will say this if she's still not okay with it, then yes, it's just a chapter of life. Your friends should be wanting you happy and wanting you to be at your best self. But first give her a chance, first talk to her. Also, you don't always have to be glued together. Yeah. All right, let's do one more question. I'm struggling to finding a balance with my husband of together time versus alone time, where the other person is home with our five-year-old and three-year-old twins.

SPEAKER_02 27:39

That's four children.

SPEAKER_04 27:43

A three-year-old with our five-year-old and three-year-old twins. That's three children.

SPEAKER_02 27:49

Oh, the five-year-old is just a child.

SPEAKER_00 27:50

I thought the same thing. I thought I thought also. I was like, wait, there are two sets. Yeah, a five-year-old and three-year-old, three-year-old.

SPEAKER_04 27:57

Yeah. Oh no, maybe it is five-year-old twins and three-year-old twins.

SPEAKER_00 28:02

Wow.

SPEAKER_04 28:03

Where the other person is home with our five-year-old and three-year-old twins. No, no.

SPEAKER_02 28:08

No, no, I think it's it's three children, like you said.

SPEAKER_04 28:12

Okay. When I first read, I thought three, but now Anyway, the point is she wants to know how much time she spends with her husband and how much time they should spend alone.

SPEAKER_00 28:19

Not how many kids.

SPEAKER_04 28:21

She's not asking how many kids do I have? I can count. One, two. That'd be so many if that's what we took away from her. Like, okay, so you have four kids. All right, thank you. She only has three.

SPEAKER_00 28:35

Three.

SPEAKER_04 28:36

Guys, please comment on the YouTube below, okay? I'm gonna read it verbatim.

SPEAKER_02 28:42

I don't think we should talk about that part. What? How many children she has. What?

SPEAKER_00 28:47

No, that now that's that's that's the funny part. Yes.

SPEAKER_02 28:51

Oh no, now that's the funny part.

SPEAKER_04 28:55

You're telling us to cut it. It's the funny part. Guys, I don't think it's appropriate. She could be really offended. Maybe she doesn't know. What if she's confused? All right, please comment on the YouTube. Does this lady have four kids or three kids? I am struggling to finding a balance with my husband of Together Time versus Alone Time, where the other person is home with our five-year-old and three-year-old twins. You say three? Three. You say three? I originally saw three and I'm now jumping to four. I think she has twins that are five-year-old and twins that are three-year-olds. I didn't originally. But then you guys said that. I'm like, oh yeah. Our five-year-old and three. Oh, yeah, I don't know. Comment below. All right. Thanks for writing it. Okay, so what do you think? How does she that they're struggling to find the balance?

SPEAKER_02 29:50

Well, what is it? I don't know about their work schedule or the children's, you know, are they in nursery school? Or is the five-year-old in kindergarten? Was it? I think it could be worked out. Was it when they have together time and when they should could be, you know, one is taking care of the kids or the other.

SPEAKER_04 30:11

I mean, there's all different ways that you could So us growing up, I mean, I don't know if you and Daddy did this on purpose, but Friday nights, right? Papa Shaw would take me security and CIA out for dinner and then to the batting cage, a blockbuster, and then to get frozen yogurt. So there were several hours that we were out of the house and you were alone. And then Saturdays, you would take me, security, and CIA during the day. And then my whole life, I remember Saturday nights, you and Daddy like going to a Broadway show, we're going out to dinner. Like I remember Saturday nights, you guys, and we always had babysitters or or CIA once he got older. So I think to my my mom's point is depending at what ages your kids are and how many you have. Yeah. Um you divide.

SPEAKER_02 31:00

You divide and then and make time together. You know, speaking to the fact that the uh dad was, you know, took you out Friday night, because he wanted to spend time with you. He worked all week. Yeah. And this way he was it got to spend time. It was a fun evening for him also. Yeah. You went for what is it for pizza or you went to what you know the local.

SPEAKER_04 31:22

I was just telling Dr. Piano Man about that because I said Friday nights is why I eat so fast. Because we'd go out to dinner, and if I didn't eat fast, either my brothers or my dad would start just like taking the food off my plate and eating it. He's like, Your dad? I said, Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_02 31:36

Like I said, it was and it gave me because at the you gotta remember, was it when you were young growing up, being having the problem and you know, being ill, was it I I wasn't out working, so I was home all the time. So this was my time alone time that I needed, yeah, which was good for me, and Dad knew that.

SPEAKER_04 32:01

All right, so mom, I found some Reddit disaster funny stories about weddings. And since the wedding is less than four months away, it's like we're getting close to three and a half. That's so insane. There's so much to do. All right, so here's some funny stories. My grandmother's hearing aid connected to the Bluetooth during the vows. Everyone suddenly heard a voice loudly say, battery level 20%. Then her phone started reading text messages out loud. One message was from my aunt complaining about food. The entire wedding heard it. That's funny.

SPEAKER_02 32:41

That's now just hope that sitting next to grandma is either her grandchild, uh No, it connected to the Bluetooth of at the wedding, like uh during the ceremony.

SPEAKER_04 32:55

Right?

SPEAKER_00 32:55

Oh, I mean the I guess the speakers, yeah. Yeah, it connected to the Blue. Everybody heard. Everyone heard.

SPEAKER_02 33:01

Now, is there any way that you could have how do you disconnect that?

SPEAKER_00 33:05

Okay, she's nervous it's gonna hurt.

SPEAKER_04 33:11

She's like, I can't have my You're nervous that's gonna happen to you at my wedding.

SPEAKER_02 33:19

My hearing aid? Maybe. Okay. Oh, I went to a wait, can I just tell you how I went to? They didn't tell the grandmother who was granddaughter was marrying. The grandmother was sitting, we and we were sitting right behind her at the wedding. Now, in the interim, was it this her granddaughter had broken up with the ex and was now marrying somebody new. Yeah. And in the middle of when they walked down the aisle, and then was it all of a sudden the grandmother goes, Who's that guy? And everybody looked. And they some everybody, like the mother of the bride and everybody rushed over and said, Mama, shh, shh, shh, shh. And she goes, No, I don't understand what happened here. And we were sitting, and dad and I, we were like laughing so hard.

SPEAKER_03 34:17

Oh my gosh, that's real, that is funny. Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_00 34:21

That is great. That is a funny story. Yeah. That's like that's like sitcom material. And that happened in real life.

SPEAKER_02 34:28

And the thing is, they they on purpose didn't tell the grandmother because she was kind of like losing it. Yeah, and they were saying is that she wouldn't be she wouldn't be easy to handle, so they said, just keep her out of everything.

SPEAKER_04 34:42

Well, you know, it's really funny. Uncle Jay, when I broke up with Hercules, was devastated because he like loved Hercules. And then I started dating Frank. And I remember Jay said, you know, I didn't think you'd get better than Hercules, but oh my god, Frank's the best. And then when I we broke up, I mean Frank broke up, Jay was Uncle Jay was devastated. And he's like, I don't know why you do this to me. You introduce me to these amazing men, and then you remove them. And then he's like, I mean, I like he, I mean, you know, like he a lot of people didn't understand when Frank and I broke up because he's a wonderful guy, you know. And then I started dating Dr. Piano Man, and Jay's like, I don't know how you did it, you doctor again. But Jay's like, but that's it. Like, if you break up with Dr. I my heart can't handle it. It's just so funny because if the if we got to the wedding and it was another man, I think Uncle Jay would do what that grandma did. Like, what are you doing? Except he doesn't talk like that.

SPEAKER_00 35:41

But he'll say it in Spanish.

SPEAKER_04 35:43

Yeah. Um, all right, I think this was enough of an episode. Yeah. We this was great. We gave advice, we fought, we laughed.

SPEAKER_01 35:57

Right.

SPEAKER_04 35:57

We had it all. All right, so let's um, I guess we'll just go right into the end segment. Crash! All right, Mama Shaw. Let's call mom. Do do do do do do do. Okay, so Mama Shaw, would you like to do our producer shout outs?

SPEAKER_02 36:15

Yes. Before I say anything, I want to give a special shout out to our new producer, Melissa Kirsch. Welcome, and I'm happy to that you are joining us, um, the producer tier. And our other producers, I want to give a shout-out is to Susan Santoro, Veronica and Deanna, Tamar Fix, and Dr. Piano Man.

SPEAKER_04 36:42

Can we do it all again? You're staring like this because you're listening. Just act a little more natural. You ready? There, and now here are other producers.

SPEAKER_02 36:52

I hate with this five. I like it when I'm on the camera.

SPEAKER_04 36:56

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 36:59

And our other producers. Okay. I'm proud to say that we have a new producer, Melissa Kirsch. And I want to give a shout out to our other producer.

SPEAKER_03 37:12

You're not blinking.

SPEAKER_00 37:13

We're smiling.

SPEAKER_03 37:15

I can't. So let me just read it. Okay, we'll let her read it. Can we keep all of this?

SPEAKER_00 37:21

Oh, 100%. Just for also people that are explain to people that are listening.

SPEAKER_04 37:26

Oh, if you're listening, you have no clue what's happening. So my mom was doing the producer shout-outs and she was trying to do it from memory, but she was thinking so hard that she was not blinking, not smiling, staring straight at the camera as if like we were holding a gun to her head, being like, say it or else. You know, you know, when people are kidnapped and they're like, you know, uh, that's what it was like. Maybe it feels like I was kidnapped. That's fine, but everything's gonna rise.

SPEAKER_03 37:52

Oh my god. Guys, we can't do this segment live in studio. You have to leave all of this in, really.

SPEAKER_02 38:06

That's fine.

SPEAKER_00 38:09

Okay, I'm gonna text you what's over here.

SPEAKER_02 38:10

And give me my glasses. Stop feast over there on top of the ukulele book.

SPEAKER_01 38:17

Keep all of this in. Oh, yeah. Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_04 38:20

This is the gold of the episode, just so you know. This is my impression of my mother. You're gonna get oh look, this is my impression of you doing producer shout-outs.

SPEAKER_03 38:40

You're gonna be I'm gonna hurt you. Okay, I have it. Okay, hold on. I'm trying, guys, hold on.

SPEAKER_04 38:55

Okay, okay, this is my impression of you. I wanna thank all the Veronica and Susan. Come on. I wanna thank. All right, here we go. You got this, Deborah. Are you gonna read it?

unknown 39:22

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 39:35

We want to thank all the Patreons. And I wanna say that we have a new Patreon, Melissa Kirsch. And I shout out to the others in the producer tier, Susan Santoro, Veronica and Deanna, Tamar Fix, and Dr. Piano Man. Oh, thank you. You can stop laughing now. You can stop laughing now. Can you imagine if I was on like on stage or something and I had to say my line and I went, I don't know.

SPEAKER_04 40:24

My manager was like, would you ever want to do live podcast shows and you know your mom could be on stage? I'm like, no, I don't think. Okay. All right, thank. Well, I guess we don't do are we doing motherly advice because we did it the whole episode.

SPEAKER_00 40:37

Well, can you, Mom, do you think you can do one mu one last motherly advice?

SPEAKER_02 40:42

All right, motherly advice. What I say, what the motherly advice that I gave at the very beginning. Whatever you have done in the past, forget it and move on. Look to the future, and you'll be a happier person.

SPEAKER_03 41:02

Susan Santoro, Veronica, and Deanna, Tremorphics.

SPEAKER_04 41:10

You did great. Okay, mom, anytime you're on an episode, people are so happy. They love the episodes with you. Really. Thank you. So thank you for coming on. I enjoy being on it. And now I just want to say today's Thursday. Oh, today's, I was gonna say today's mom's birthday, but it's securities. Yes, securities. So today is security's birthday if you're listening on Thursday, and if you're listening on Saturday, is Mama Shaw's birthday. So probably as the person that you two love the most, I just want to say security, happy birthday. You are the best business partner, the best brother that anyone with low expectations could have.

SPEAKER_00 41:53

I'll take it. I'll take that.

SPEAKER_04 41:55

No, really, you you are the all the kids' brother, and happy birthday. We love you. Thank you, thank you. And there, you have become the mama shawl to hundreds of thousands of people. I get messages all the time being like, I'm older than your mom, and she's my mama shawl, and everyone loves you. You are such a good and I love all of them. I know, but you make us- I love meeting them. Okay, what's about you, mom? Okay, we love you. You're you're a really good mom. Thank you. To all of us. Thank you. All right, happy birthday to security and mama shawl. Happy birthday to security and mama shawl. Happy birthday to security and mama shawl. You can stop singing. That'll be the gift.

SPEAKER_05 42:36

That'll be our gift.

SPEAKER_04 42:38

Happy birthday. Oh, we all three of us suck. No, you're good at singing. I can sing. All right, guys, we will see you next week when we have no clue what's gonna happen. Not even big.

SPEAKER_01 42:56

This is where you wanna be.