003: The Dance of Dharma - What Changes & What Remains

Meghan reflects on the rhythm between transformation and truth — how dharma invites us to evolve without losing our center. A meditation on what shifts, what stays, and the grace of becoming who we already are.

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Hey everyone, welcome back to Projector Design. It is Megan. I am recording this on October 24th, 2025. It's been longer than I had hoped from the previous message, but there's been a lot going on. In I want to tell like a little bit of a history of how we got here. In August of this year, or in I don't know, it might have been even in June of this year. Sappenings that were happening astrologically. At the time, those invitations were pretty broad. You know, things like it's a great time to let go, it's a good time to open up to new things, so kind of let go of what doesn't serve you, let in the things that do serve you. And then some justification was given about what was happening with the planets and the stars around why this was a good time to do that. And truly I have a relationship with change that feels comfortable for the most part. I feel like I have let in enough change into my life to trust and know that things are always working out for me and for us, and that evolution, so to speak, transformation and change are a part of being alive. That you know, we were born a certain time and a certain with certain gifts and qualities, and you know, the creator kind of endowed us with gifts and our personality and a design that is here to serve the world, but that part of being alive is also allowing for transformation and evolution to occur in our lifetime, and to note maybe the things that are truly different today versus the past. And then also, of course, to note the things that are the same, what has not changed, right? And that's a question that I try to ask myself like once a quarter is what has changed in the past quarter, like three months of the year, and how did that happen, right? What caused that change? Am I happy with that change? Do I want to continue that change? Was it intentional or was it not? And then what has not changed? And how do I feel about that? And what is my relationship with those things that have not changed? Typically, the things that have not changed are very core, you know, they're they're they're everlasting, they are truths that I have accepted as part of me, as part of my DNA, as part of my values, as part of my conscious experience in life. These are things that, you know, I've committed to, so to speak. And then there's other things that maybe at one time I did commit to, and now it's time to release that commitment or to let go of that commitment, to let new energy come into my life by letting go of old things. And so it's this balance, right? Of what changes and what doesn't change. And life is a balance. I was told by a someone who had a lot of influence over me. He's an author and also a CEO and owner of a big company. He's well known across the country and globe, probably, but he mentored me in a lot of ways from afar. I mean, I sat in many rooms with him in different sizes and in trainings and workshops and conferences and read all of his books and listened to all of his stuff. And he had an opinion that he shared that I believed at the time and still have a certain kind of relationship with it as true, but also maybe a little bit not as true now. And that belief was that there's no such thing as balance, only counterbalance. And what he meant by that was that in any one moment you can only be in one place and giving your attention and energy to one thing, and so you're not balancing your energy in the moment, like I'm getting a little bit here and a little bit there, and a little bit over here, and a little bit to this thing, and now I'm, you know, divided up into these 10 different focuses in this one singular moment, therefore I am balanced, because that's just not that's not real. It is I am counterbalancing by in this present moment paying and giving attention to what needs given attention to, and then in the next moment, paying and giving attention to what needs given to in the next moment. That that's how I explain it, and in that way I still believe that it's not balance, it's counterbalance. But he explained it more in like a okay, well, when you're at work, you know, dedicate your 10 hours a day or your eight hours a day or whatever to the things that well, he would actually say only three hours a day for work, and that's a great concept. We can talk about that further if you want, but there's also a lot of truth behind that. That when you are able to give yourself over to attention, you give your full attention over to a really important priority in your life, then by giving that thing attention, everything else becomes easier and unnecessary. And that also is where counterbalance comes in, that you give your attention and energy to whatever it is, right? Like the we'll use health as an example. You don't need to be obsessed about moving your body and eating a certain way 24 hours a day, but you do need to make conscious choices so that during your one hour or two hours of movement a day, like physical exercise or a strong exercise, strength exercise, that you are someone who knows what you're doing during that hour or two hours, and then it impacts the rest of your day, and your body thanks you for that. So, where am I going with this? Other than just to say that in our life right now in 2025, it is very important what we are giving our energy and attention to. And I believe in play and I believe in celebration of life. It's part of my value system, is joy. And that means feeling grateful for everything I have, feeling lighthearted about the work that I do, and enjoying the work that I do. At the same time, there are some invitations, like the one I got in in June, to assess. And not even assess, because assess sounds so logical, right? It's to sit with what is able and what needs to stay, and what is able and what needs to go. And for those things that we want to stay, how are we using our level of intention to nurture those things? So I've been teaching in my yoga classes about kind of the yogic tradition of dharma, and dharma is different than karma, but it is something we're born with, it's something that the ancient yogis would say is your unique role in the world. It's it's a purpose of sorts that only you carry, and so by choosing to embrace your dharma, to embrace who God made you to be, and to let go of everything that's not that, and the way that you might understand and know everything that's not that is what dims you, right? So what causes you to shrink? What causes you to dim your light? What causes you to back away, to hide, to fall into addictions? What are the times and the spaces throughout your day, even that are not fully alive, teeming with health and vitality? Whether it's your mental health, your physical health, your emotional health, your relationship health, your financial health. Where are the pieces, where are the parts in your life where it feels like you're having to, or you are dimming or withholding or shrinking, or simply like falling back into a survival mechanism or a survival mode, because a survival mode is this life of choosing into existence instead of a life choosing into purpose or choosing into your dharma. And, you know, I think part of my dharma, so to speak, if if I were to share it for today and kind of like how I see it today, I think part of that is really speaking to and living, right, and living out my faith over fear kind of principle. And that I have a life of faith that causes me to take actions and to think thoughts and to believe things and to feel things and to do things that are based upon faith instead of fear, and the way to process, like whether or not one is what whether I'm choosing an action that is based on faith or based on fear is to simply ask the question: why am I doing this? Am I doing this because I'm afraid? Am I doing this because I'm feeling lack? Am I doing this because I'm feeling a need of some kind, or because I'm trying to fill something? Or am I doing this because this is a natural outgrowth of who I am? This is where I am. I am here, here I am, right? Like here now. I don't know how else to say it. Like, this is it, baby, you know, like this is you in this moment, in this place, at this time. And it's like I feel that in my physical body, a physiological state. And when I'm talking about it, I feel it in my torso. I feel it in my stomach. I kind of feel it like it's like in my upper stomach, maybe the solar plexus area, like kind of on the sides of my torso. Like I feel this kind of like pulling inward. It's a good feeling. It feels nice, it feels like a tightening, but not a tightening, like constricting, like a tightening up, like a leaning up, a strengthening kind of tightening. Like when you are flexing your abs, and you know, you just feel like the strong muscles in your torso and in your abdomen and along the sides of your torso, right? Like your oh, there's a word, there's a muscle, but I that will come back to me, right? Like our lats, you know, like yeah, there we go. So that's what I feel when I talk about choosing something from a place of naturalness. It's like a naturalness. This is the next right thing to do. I'm not trying to force it, I'm not trying to make it happen. I am in flow and an alignment with the universe, and this is the natural outgrowth of where I am. And so there's some things that I want to talk about because I have had to do a lot of work to get to this place of naturalness, you know. I mean, if 10 years ago, I was you could have asked me if I felt like I was being natural, and I would have said, of course, but there was a lot of force behind what I did. There was a lot of momentum, forceful momentum behind what I did. There was a lot of trying, a lot of hustling, a lot of grinding, a lot of prostrating myself in front of the divine, saying, please, I surrender. You know? So it was like I I worked and worked and worked and worked and worked, and I invested in myself and I meditated and I studied and I wrote and I prayed and I tried and I worked some more and I did some things and I taught some classes and I created some classes and I just like pushed and pushed and pushed and pushed and pushed. And then the universe invited me at that time, seven years ago, to surrender. I had, you know, it's kind of the song for some reason comes to mind. Like I tried so hard and got so far, you know. And in the end, it's not that it didn't matter, like the song says, it's that in the end I realized I it kind of doesn't matter. I I still have to surrender to the divine flow of the universe, of God, of what is happening. There are certain things happening, and getting into alignment with what is happening is the work there is to do. It's not to try to survive, it's to find your dharma, it's to find your unique purpose, your unique role, to do a little onion unlayering of sorts, right? Like peel it back, honey. Like, let's get into this place and space of truth, of beingness, of purpose, of love, of faithfulness, goodness, self-control. I'm sharing these words, and we can go deep with them because that I'm sharing with these words because they are the fruits of someone who is living in connection to spirit. I truly believe that. Yes, there are other ways of looking at being connected to spirit, but every I had a conversation with my friend Mel this week, and she talked about false light a little bit, and we didn't get too deep into it. Maybe we will, hopefully, we will. We maybe can even share it in some way, but there is a false light that kind of says, this is the path, this is the truth, this is the way, and then it's distorted and it actually is sucking energy from you, it's sucking life from you, it's sucking your light and trying to use it for its own gain. And that false light is egoic, you know, it's it's wrapped up in identity, it's wrapped up in temporariness, you know, it's wrapped up in not the everlasting, you know, it's it's it's wrapped up in something else. It's wrapped up in pride and greed, and then yeah, that's what I think anyway. But this true light, the the light of life that has come, and by the way, it has come, like it's here. We can access it, we can be in it, we can accept it. No matter what the cycles of life, no matter where we find ourselves, because every single one of us, we're all a part of this, but all of us are on our own dharmic journey. We all have been given and entrusted a message for us to share, and that message can be shared via our life, the way we live our life. I think that's the ultimate kind of peak way of sharing the message. Our message can be shared verbally, visually artistically, logistically. There are ways. Each of us may have cre we will do have creative ways to share our purpose and our message with others, but each of us carries that dharma, each of us carries something for others, and that's why in our yoga practice, we often do say things like the light in me sees and is a divine reflection of the light in you. We share things like, you know, the student in me sees and learns from the teacher in you, and vice versa. So we all are a part of this, and yet what I heard come out of my mouth yesterday was we can't do it if I can't do it. So if there's some vision of the world that we have about how the world might operate one day in individuated, we can come back to that word if we want, in individuated existence and life, and yet serving the greater whole. So serving the collective is different than serving a group or a tribe or a family or or a person. Serving the whole is what is the best for us. But in that service, many of us see a vision of a really awesome future. I'm gonna say, it's like full of hope, it's full of optimism, it's it's a positive outlook on what the future could hold. And one of the things that is so important for us to remember is that we won't get there if we don't get there, right? There is no we collective if there's not an I individuated owning that purpose and truth within myself. So that's my thoughts for today. Well, that's my thoughts I can share and will share here on this podcast today. Yeah. I have a video I'm editing for YouTube that'll be up soon. You can go check out the first video if you want to learn a little bit about me and my history. It's kind of like my life story I'm sharing over there. And I do have a course I'm creating around this commitment versus interested in and kind of like how we begin putting our internal compass to work so that we can take an internal journey toward the Dharma that we have. So that's coming soon, so be on the lookout for that. And other than that, I love you. And I'm so happy to be present for life in 2025. There's some really cool stuff happening. It can be confusing, it can be difficult, it can be challenging. I encourage you to don't go it alone. Reach out, be a part of community, be a part of sharing yourself with others. When we heal, we all heal. So let's go do that together. Hang loose. See ya.