Real Life with RDU Therapy

Love and Control with Dr. Jessica Hayden

Season 1 Episode 4

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In this episode of Real Life with RDU Therapy, Dr. Melanie McCabe sits down with psychologist Dr. Jessica Hayden to unpack one of the most misunderstood dynamics in relationships: control disguised as care.


We explore how love can start to look like possession, why “checking in” can turn into “checking up,” and what real emotional freedom looks like between partners, parents, and even friends. Dr. Hayden brings her trademark humor and heart to the conversation, reminding us that true security doesn’t come from control — it comes from trust, self-awareness, and the willingness to let people be who they are.


You’ll laugh, maybe cringe a little (thinking of your own group texts or relationship habits), and walk away with practical insights on how to build connection without control — whether you’re a parent, a partner, or someone learning to love yourself better.


In this episode, we discuss:


  • The myth that love equals possession or constant reassurance
  • Subtle signs of control in everyday relationships
  • How to tell if your need for “security” is really about fear
  • What freedom in love looks like — and why it’s actually safer
  • Stories and strategies from real therapy and real life



About Our Guest:

Dr. Jessica Hayden is a licensed psychologist, business owner, and triathlete known for her energetic, relatable take on mental health and human connection. She brings equal parts expertise and laughter to every room she’s in — and this episode is no exception.


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9/30/25