The High-Value Woman’s Guide to Having It All (Without Burnout) | She’s BEYOND Elevated Podcast

Beautiful, let’s get one thing straight: “having it all” was never supposed to mean doing it all.
In this episode of She’s BEYOND Elevated, Dr. Kimberly Dunlap unpacks the mindset, boundaries, and systems that separate women who are simply successful from women who are sustainably elevated.

You’ll learn what it really means to operate like a high-value woman—one who earns abundantly, loves deeply, and leads gracefully without running herself into the ground.
 Because burnout isn’t a badge of honor—it’s a by-product of broken boundaries.

💎 3 Takeaways + 1 Bonus from this Episode:

1. They protect their energy like it’s currency. Every “yes” is an investment. Every “no” is protection.
2. They build systems that support their softness. Whether it’s team, tech, therapy, or time off—ease is non-negotiable.
3. They monetize their brilliance, not their burnout. You weren’t called to be drained. You were called to be dynamic.
   ✨ Bonus: They don’t hustle for access—they create their own rooms. A high-value woman doesn’t beg to be seen. She builds her own spotlight.

This episode is your permission to stop proving, start prospering, and live like the asset you already are.

🎧 Listen, share, and remember: ease is not earned—it’s engineered.

✨ Connect & Elevate with Dr. Kimberly Dunlap

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🔥 Ready to go from boxed-in to BEYOND? Your elevation starts here.

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Transcript

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Burnout is not a badge of

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honor, it's a blockage to abundance.

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Let's get intoYeah.

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Hello beautiful you tuned in to

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She's Beyond Elevated with Doctor

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Kimberly Dunlap. The space where purpose

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meets power and faith meets execution

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here. We don't play small, we rise,

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we heal, and we elevate on every

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level. So get ready to shift your

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mindset, reclaim your brilliance, and

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step into the version of you that's

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been waiting to emerge. Let's get into

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it.

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it. Welcome back, beautiful. You're

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listening to She's Beyond Elevated,

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the podcast for brilliant women

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of color who are done

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being overworked, underpaid and

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underestimated. So today's episode is

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for the powerful woman. Who's

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just tired of being tired? I

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remember my great grandmother used to

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say you'll get sick and tired

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of just being sick and tired.

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So it's called the High Value

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Woman's Guide to having it all

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without burnout, right? So because

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success shouldn't cost you. Your softness

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and and and ambition should never

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require you to abandon who you

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truly are. OK, so let me

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let me just start with this.

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You can have it all.

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Contrary to what the middle-aged

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white man in corporate America

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has said to you, you

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can have it all, but

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only if you first define

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what all means to you.

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And I use air quotes

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because.

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It's not truly defined

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by definition, it's defined

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by personal desire. Having

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it all isn't about

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doing everything you you,

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you can't and and

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as a high value

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woman, the sooner.

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You learn that your

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time is your checkbook.

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You'll go a long way, right? So

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having it all and being able to

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define what all means to you looks

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different for each one of us. So

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for me, having it all is location

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freedom and time freedom, right? So I

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get to live and go and. And

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visit and do all of the

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things wherever I want and I

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get to decide what my time

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or usage of my time looks

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like. For other people, it is

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having the title associated with their

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years of study. Some of it

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is. Some people's having it all

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is all of the monetary assets that

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they're able to to acquire in their

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lifetime or or however, so it all

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looks different for all of us. Now

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don't get me wrong, right money is

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a good thing. It is not a

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bad thing. Money is a good

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thing, but that is just not my

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#1 motivating factor. Being able to work

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from anywhere I desire to be able

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to live wherever I want you to

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be able to visit and see the

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paces and all of the things that's

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more valuable to me.

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to have money in order to be

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able to do that as well so

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again, we never fought we never stray

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too far away from wealth management over

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here we because wealth is the difference

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between.

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having it all, right, So.

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again, about doing everything. It's

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about curating the life.

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things that mean the most to you

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are the things that you focus on,

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right? It's about designing a lifestyle

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that honors your values, your energy, and

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your calling the way that you want

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your life to look somewhere along the

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way. We started equating

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success with exhaustion, right? And the

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truth is, burnout is not your

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birthright. If you think about the

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first book of the Bible, even

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even even God rested on the

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7th day, He wasn't going at

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it. Seven days in a

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week, you know, So rest is

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good, like it's a good thing.

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miss equate rest with sleep, OK?

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Because while sleep is important, sleep

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is different than rest, right?

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Burnout is not your birthright. You

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were not created to be here

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to work 16 hours a day,

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8 hours off. And to do

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that seven days a week. That

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that's what the kids say. That's not

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the like that, you know, we not

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doing that. The world celebrates women

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who carry everything, OK? The women who

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say yes to everyone, the women who

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show up all the time, even when

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they're breaking apart. And it almost is

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a stigma. Attached to.

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Motivated or highly high achieving women

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taking rest. I am so glad

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that we're in a space nowadays

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where people celebrate you resting,

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people celebrate you taking vacations and

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all of this. And I'm not

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talking about the Instagram trips that

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you see where you know. Everybody's

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floating on the same, um, um, board

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and taking the same photo. I'm not

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talking about that. I'm talking about.

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Corporations and women's groups and

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things that are actually focused on

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women, women resting and relaxing and

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enjoying the life that they've created

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for themselves and also their mental

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health, which we'll talk about that

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on a whole another show but.

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What no one really tells you

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is you don't earn your value

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by doing the most. You really

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earn your value by knowing it's

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already built in for knowing you.

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Your value is a direct correlation

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of how valuable you know you

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are. And that you believe that

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you are. Because if

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we, if we, if we want to be

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completely transparent and I am not, I

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know sometimes it sounds like I am not

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a proponent of education, but if you

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think about it, you go to school, right?

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And and, and I'll speak for myself. OK,

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I went to school skipped. Vacations

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skipped, time off, skipped sleep

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sometimes eating right healthy, you know,

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gym, the whole thing. I got

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a degree and. After

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I received this piece of

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paper, right?

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I really was the same person

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as I was prior to right?

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Because that that paper doesn't truly

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define who you are. You go,

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you take classes, right? Most times

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the goal is to get a

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good grade in the class, so

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you try to absorb. All

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of the information you're only going to,

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you only really retain maybe about 10

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to 15% of what you learned in

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a four year degree, 10 to 15%

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because most of it is absorption,

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absorption regurgitation. And once you've

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regurgitated it for the purpose, you know

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whether it's that exam, that paper.

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presentation or project or

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whatever. Only about 10%

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of it actually sticks around.

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Being high value isn't about hustling

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more so we we've been taught,

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you know, ohh, I'm a hustler.

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be a compliment for you, OK.

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Being high value is about

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boundaries, it's about setting standards,

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it's about intentionality and even

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just your own internal peace.

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That's that's really truly what

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it's all about. So here's

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how high value women.

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Think differently than than other women.

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I'm going to give you these four

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things, right? So number one, they

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protect their energy like its currency.

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Every yes is an investment.

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And every no is protection. So every

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yes that you give for your time,

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your energy and the things that you

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are going to focus on should be.

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In some way built to enhance

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the life that you truly want

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to live and investment into your

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future, into all of the things

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that you desire or the life

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that you are curating for yourself

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and every know that you give.

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Number one is the complete

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sentence and #2 it is

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protecting that time, that space,

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that energy for something that

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could be.

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A better transition into the

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life that you're creating, that

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you're curating for yourself #2

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um. High

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value women build systems that support

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their softness. So whether that's a

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team, you know, your virtual assistants,

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your stylists, your nail tech, whatever,

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whatever, whether that's technology,

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having AI answer some of your

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emails for you, whether that's. Therapy,

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talking about, um, the, the things that,

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that kept you blocked as a, as a

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young girl and, and dealing with past

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traumas and generational issues and

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things such as that. Or just taking time

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off, taking a week, a weekend every year

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to hang out with your girls or, you

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know, meet up with people who feed into

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your spirit. That, um, give

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you joy that you

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cannot otherwise find in

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other arenas in your

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life. Those things.

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That high value women invest

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in and they create.

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And those things.

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Are non negotiable, right. So when I

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say when I think of non negotiable

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for me, the first hour of my

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day is non negotiable when I wake

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up, even if I'm not out of

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bed, most times I'm not. But I

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am visualizing my future in five years

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I'm visualizing. Umm, what I

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needed, I need to get accomplished for

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the day. I am laying in a

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place of gratitude and being ever so

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grateful for being on this side of

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of of life that day. I don't

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answer emails, I don't answer text

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messages. I don't pick up my phone

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to be. Completely honest with you, I have

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eliminated my phone being in the bed with

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me. I do not. My phone is away

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from me on a charger.

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Next to near my bed, but it's not in

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the bed with me, right? And then another

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time that's non negotiable for me is the

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last 15 minutes of my day. I don't care

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how tired I am. I don't care what my

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day looked like. I take those last 15

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minutes. They're non-negotiable. I

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breathe right? I pray.

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Can I sit in another place of

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gratitude?And before I

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drift off into dreamland, I visualize

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what my life is going to look

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like when I finally give it a

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chef's kiss and say, well, it's done.

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This is this is what I've been

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creating all these years. So that's that.

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Number three, they monetize their

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brilliance. Not. Your burnout so you

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aren't called to be drained. You

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were truly called to be dynamic,

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so being drained is not a

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badge of honor. You don't look

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good just because you have neglected

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your skin care in neglected your

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hair and and neglected. Your friends

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and you're working 16 hour

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days, seven days a week

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and if your two year

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old. Um, didn't scream.

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You probably would. He would forget

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they were sitting there. That is

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not what you were created to

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do, right?

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The value Women monetize

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their brilliance, so.

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Most often, high value women do not

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put a an appropriate price tag on

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their gifts and talents. And the reason

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that they don't put an appropriate price

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tag on their gifts and talents is

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because it comes so easy.

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To you. That

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you almost feel like robbery asking

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someone to pay for something that

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took you no time to do.

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But here's the clincher. That same

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item thing gift talent would have

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taken someone else days if not

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weeks to do. And

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when you think about charging for

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those things, think about how much

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time you could save them.

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By just doing it for them.

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At a premium price. And

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it would save them time, energy, and

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effort, and it would get them from point

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A to point B faster, right? So I

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want you to think about those types of

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things when you think about charging for

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your brilliance. What comes easy to you

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is a chore and a task for someone

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else, right? My #4. High

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value women don't hustle for access,

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they truly create their own rooms.

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A high value woman doesn't beg

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to be seen. She doesn't beg

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to get invited. She gets So

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she becomes OK without the invitation.

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She gets to. She becomes OK

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with not being invited. Because that

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gives her the opportunity to curate

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the event that she wants to

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have control over the room that

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she wants to build for her

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and others coming behind her, right?

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So. She's not so

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much concerned about having a seat at

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your table, she just builds her own

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table. Brings in some other.

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Exceptional women to sit around it with

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them, with her and she gets to

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build the room, the space and the

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energy that she's that she desires. OK,

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so. You

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may may have been raised on

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the struggle, but we getting off

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the struggle bus because being

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conditioned to think that ease is

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laziness is absurd. We were taught

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that if you were taught that

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being tired right means that you've

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been working hard. Enough.

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I want you to dispel that today. You

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do not have to be tired in order

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to have accomplished things. Because when

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you operate in your gifts and your

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geniuses, I'm going to be the first to

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tell you. And here's a secret, it doesn't

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even feel like work. You can do it

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for hours and hours. An hours on

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end and never be tired. Someone has

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to stop you from doing it. That's

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how you know it's your gift.

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Right, it's your zone of genius because

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you can do it for hours and

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not even and get so in encapsulated

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in the task that you don't. It

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doesn't even feel like work. You're not

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tired anymore. Survival

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may have served you

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before, OK, but beautiful

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ease is holy, right?

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Resting is wealth and and, and

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your softness is a strategy. I

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am so glad that we're in

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a place now to where there

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is really truly been a light

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shine shone upon mental health and

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taking care of ourselves because that

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wasn't always so. And I

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and it, it saddens me to

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think about how many women burned

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out under that pressure so.

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You don't have to be in survival mode

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any longer, right? The survival season,

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riding the struggle bus, you know, we

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shall overcome all of that. It's gone. We

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are in the era of overflow.

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We are in the

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era of operating in

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our geniuses, our gifts.

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Moving in our mantels, we are

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in that era. All right, so

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here's your PowerPoint for today. Where

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in your life?

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Are you over functioning?

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Work, motherhood, wifehood, friendship,

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sisterhood, wherever. And what

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would it actually look

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like to let ease

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lead the way?

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Alright, so let me give you an example.

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Often as mothers, we want our children to

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be so prim and so proper and so forth.

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And I'm speaking, I'm guilty, you know,

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I, I wanted them to pick up the toys as

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soon as I didn't want them to leave a

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mess. I want them to pick up the toys as

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soon as they got finished with them. But

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you know what I'm learning.

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If it saves me.

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Right, some energy to

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think about.

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Them picking up the toys in 20 minutes

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versus leaving them there and making them

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pick them up in an hour.

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What's the difference in 40 minutes?

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So everything is about making your

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life easier, operating in that ease.

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Now say I want you to

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say this with me, I get

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to be powerful and protected. I

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get to earn without exhaustion.

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And I get to have

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it all on my terms.

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If you're ready to trade burnout

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for boundaries or build a soft

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strategic life, download my.

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Career confidence blueprint OK, I'm going

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to put all of the descriptions in

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the show notes OK and if you

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want support just stepping into your

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elevated identity, your elevated income,

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please go ahead and reach out all

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right, let's see how we can work

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together even if. I am not a

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good fit for you. I will make sure

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through my resources that you get to the

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place that you need to be because this

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isn't about. Just working

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for me. This is about

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a movement. This is I

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want you to step into

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the version of you that

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looks like wealth, that looks

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like ease, looks like rest,

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looks like the life. That

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you have curated in your

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dreams. So until next time.

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Remember, you weren't born

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to blend in. You

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were built to break

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ceilings, break out of

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boxes, and break generational

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curses. Stay bold, stay

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brilliant, and stay beyond

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elevated. Until next time.

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Bye bye.

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Well, beautiful, thank you for tuning in

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to She's Beyond Elevated with Doctor

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Kimberly Dunlap. If this episode spoke to

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your soul, share it with another woman

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ready to rise. Remember, elevation isn't

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a destination, it's a decision. Keep

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shining, keep walking in purpose, and

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I'll see you in the next episode.

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No.