Third Day

Welcome back everyone. A weird week here with your host Riley Purser. We were joined with Julian and Viv. Talking about Some Coffee Jungle Juice, Epstein Lookalike, and Some relationship experience.

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SPEAKER_00 0:00

Welcome to the Drunk Cacti Podcast, where the arguments are dumb, logic is slurred, and we are bound to make somewhat upset to breathe the same area as us. I'm your host, Riley Purser. Joined today with Vivian, who is wearing a shirt. Julian? Julian.

SPEAKER_01 0:16

How's it going today, guys? It's another day. I put my arm too far out.

SPEAKER_00 0:20

That was uh No, I don't think it was high enough, is a problem.

SPEAKER_01 0:23

Yeah, like that's and this is supposed to be the controversial episode. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, yeah, the Easter one.

SPEAKER_00 0:29

Because what what can what can go wrong with that? Vivian, I know that you need something, so I'm gonna go ahead and just give it to you now. I'm so excited.

SPEAKER_01 0:37

She wore a heavily branded shirt.

SPEAKER_03 0:40

I did. Not holding my tits for shit.

SPEAKER_00 0:45

It's also a V-neck. I don't know if you like V-necks.

SPEAKER_04 0:49

I do, I do.

SPEAKER_00 0:51

It's a little big on the logo in the front, but whatever.

SPEAKER_03 0:54

It's purple and sparkly.

SPEAKER_00 0:56

There you go.

SPEAKER_01 0:56

Hold on, I have to like black bar right here.

SPEAKER_00 1:00

Take it up.

SPEAKER_01 1:01

Take it up. You know what sucks? Huh? It's already hot in here. Yeah, that is true. You're making her wear a second shirt on top of it.

SPEAKER_03 1:09

No, I'm taking this bitch off. Uno momento.

SPEAKER_00 1:16

Okay, so we're gonna start this a little early so that we can kind of write it out. Okay. So drink of the week is gonna be a little bit different this week. We're gonna go ahead and do a jungle juice. I got some bases here. We got cranberry juice and white grape. Okay. Because that's what a lot of people said to do online. So that's what we got. Each one of us, we're gonna go out and pick a bottle. And then we'll count when to stop pouring.

SPEAKER_03 1:42

Oh, okay. We're pouring with our hearts.

SPEAKER_00 1:45

Yes, we are.

SPEAKER_01 1:45

Okay, let me go ahead and do the ice. Yeah, this time Lola doesn't need to tell us the uh the portions.

SPEAKER_02 1:53

Yeah! Just like last episode.

SPEAKER_01 1:56

More ice? That's a callback to last episode. I don't think he's seen the video. Nobody has.

SPEAKER_03 2:02

I haven't seen that video.

SPEAKER_00 2:05

Five people have seen it. No, it was like, and I brought ice. Yeah, more ice! And then they'd bring drinks, and he'd be like, oh, not as good as ice. And then he'd come back. I brought even more ice. Okay. We got white grape.

SPEAKER_01 2:26

This is a lot of equipment near it. I know, and you totally just splashed them on on the back side, not on the equipment at least. Oh, that's good. White grape? The best color of grape. Who moaned?

SPEAKER_03 2:43

I did.

SPEAKER_01 2:49

Not grape, but grape colored.

SPEAKER_00 2:52

Wait, that's not purple. Okay, who wants to do first pick? Julian, go ahead. Because penises always go first. Well, you got one too, so. Yeah, but you're the guest. Go ahead. You freaking.

SPEAKER_03 3:12

Always need your smell off.

SPEAKER_00 3:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 3:16

Misogyny. Misogyny is great.

SPEAKER_00 3:18

Oh, I thought we were about to get some massages. The patriarchy is here to stay.

SPEAKER_01 3:24

Some great Asian massage parlors down the road.

SPEAKER_00 3:26

Oh, that's true. That is true.

SPEAKER_03 3:29

Really?

SPEAKER_00 3:31

Do you know what kind of massage parlors he's talking about? I don't think so. You know the ones? You know the Asian ones? The ones where you can buy some happy endings.

SPEAKER_03 3:41

Oh, okay. I went to a birthday party the other night and my friend was like telling me all the liquors they had, and they're like, oh yeah, we think Quitney in the freezer. And I was like, if I smell or drink Piquit again, I'm getting.

SPEAKER_00 3:58

You know what I you could probably pour the whole thing in there. It's freaking mimosa.

SPEAKER_01 4:04

It's only six percent with shit, man. Might make a juggling.

SPEAKER_00 4:08

Okay, that's good.

SPEAKER_01 4:13

I accidentally did too much. We need a little like spoon based finger cleaner.

SPEAKER_00 4:19

Who's gonna put their penis in it?

SPEAKER_01 4:21

I'm gonna put my whole I'm gonna put my good hand in there.

SPEAKER_00 4:24

Okay, go pick one, Vivian.

SPEAKER_03 4:25

Okay. My ears just fell too. I didn't there ain't much in it.

SPEAKER_01 4:41

What is that?

SPEAKER_03 4:42

You're like, I know what it is.

SPEAKER_00 4:44

Oh I think I know what it is. I think I know what it is. I think I know what it is.

SPEAKER_02 4:57

I know what it is, but I can't.

SPEAKER_00 4:59

Do you already say it? What I think it is, I don't actually know for sure. Yeah, go for it.

SPEAKER_01 5:08

That's what it was. Yeah, there's alcohol in it. I mean, it's like 15% though. It's okay, I'll get something strong for us. Yeah, but like that ain't much for 15%. I don't even know if that's gonna add flavor. If there's anything, you know, if you want to do another small one, collect it for a few.

SPEAKER_00 5:29

Okay, let me ask you guys a quick question, okay? I please don't. You're gonna ruin my night.

SPEAKER_03 5:36

Yo, thank you!

SPEAKER_00 5:41

Oh my god. Stop. No. Go. Stop. I'll take that.

SPEAKER_04 5:49

Hey!

SPEAKER_00 5:49

Stop!

SPEAKER_04 5:52

A little bit of extra.

SPEAKER_00 5:53

Okay, guys, I have one that will probably mess this whole thing up. And I really want to do it. But if you guys don't want me to mess it up, I won't. But it I feel like if I don't, it'll be kind of boring. Okay. Full send or no send. What do you guys want?

SPEAKER_03 6:08

What are you putting in it?

SPEAKER_00 6:09

You'll have to see when I bring it in. Because then there's no going back. So do we want something wild and possibly bad? Let me finish this first.

SPEAKER_03 6:19

Oh sh, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 6:20

Wait, no, no, no. His is something else. His was a smeared off.

SPEAKER_03 6:29

Oh, f it we ball.

SPEAKER_00 6:32

Y'all are gonna hate that decision.

SPEAKER_03 6:33

Full send or no send. I'm so scared.

SPEAKER_01 6:36

You guys are gonna hate it. Is it vodka? It's not gonna be vodka, is it? That was gonna be my safe opt.

SPEAKER_03 6:42

I 100% almost brought in crown.

SPEAKER_01 6:44

I mean, crown wouldn't be half bad, but I mean I think he's gonna do a whiskey.

SPEAKER_03 6:51

I said you might pull out Bailey's.

SPEAKER_00 6:52

Uh no, you better pull out the Lula.

SPEAKER_03 6:57

No, redo! Redo! Redo! Rado!

SPEAKER_02 7:01

It's too late. Good! Good!

SPEAKER_01 7:04

There's not much left. Up and a little bit extra by accident. And now that is uh So what exactly wait, what so what is this? What is I haven't had rum and coffee liqueur.

SPEAKER_03 7:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 7:20

Y'all go ahead and mix it up. A fucking jungle juice with rum and coffee liqueur in it. No, that's uh that's on your third day as it's ending. Yeah, yeah. Right, right, Vivian? That's about the color it would be.

SPEAKER_03 7:41

Yeah, you're actually so right.

SPEAKER_01 7:45

It's like, oh, oh, oh, oh, and that was one last clock. Okay.

SPEAKER_03 7:51

He's not wrong, actually.

SPEAKER_01 7:53

We all have to try it at the same time. Unfortunately, I'm not wrong. See, I'm very in tune with my female fri brethren.

SPEAKER_00 8:03

My female bros. Let's hope we didn't just waste a bunch of alcohol.

SPEAKER_03 8:08

I hope not.

SPEAKER_00 8:14

Wait, hold on. Oh, you can smell the coffee.

SPEAKER_03 8:21

Cheers! I love how I have the fullest glass.

SPEAKER_01 8:29

It's gross, but it's not the aftertaste. The aftertaste. I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 8:37

No, I can't I don't fucking. I actually kind of like it. The aftertaste isn't terrible for me because it just kind of tastes like you know, whenever you like accidentally use a cup that has dried coffee in the bottom of it. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 8:48

Well, the thing is, I'm not getting coffee. I'm getting chocolate.

SPEAKER_00 8:52

Oh, I'm getting coffee beans, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 8:54

Sure. Absolutely, I got coffee in mine. Maybe it's not well mixed. I like that is all I got was coffee and mine.

SPEAKER_03 9:04

But like if you go to Dutch and you order like a fruity coffee drink. Yeah, that's what it's been coming to. I went to Dutch and I got dark chocolate and blackberry.

SPEAKER_00 9:12

That's wild.

SPEAKER_03 9:13

It was so good.

SPEAKER_00 9:14

That should be a crime.

SPEAKER_03 9:16

It was so yummy.

SPEAKER_00 9:18

Julian's. I'm good. Julian hasn't been able to hang this drink of the week or last.

SPEAKER_03 9:22

What was last drinks of the week?

SPEAKER_01 9:24

Last drink of the week. It was just straight up like lemon and uh No, there was an actual name for it.

SPEAKER_03 9:31

Did you do like a lemon draw?

SPEAKER_00 9:33

No, it was um it was very basic and gross. Start with a G or a C.

SPEAKER_03 9:39

Let me ask what was it the gimlet or what? Yeah. Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_01 9:45

I actually liked it a lot. Yeah, nah, that that was gross. Too much lemon.

SPEAKER_03 9:49

I actually f with that really hard.

SPEAKER_01 9:51

Kind of just take the rest of it. Hey man, if you like it that much, no, I got more here. It is a really interesting definitely a lot of um a lot of cranberry.

SPEAKER_00 10:07

I'm getting cranberry in it. You know what I'm kind of getting out of this? Between the cranberry and the um Kahula, give me a little bit of like Christmas vibes over here.

SPEAKER_01 10:18

It is a little Christmassy, but man, that coffee flavor, if you're not used to it.

SPEAKER_00 10:24

I'm kinda I'm low-key getting try it again. Tell me you're not getting Christmas vibes. I'm kinda getting it.

SPEAKER_03 10:35

I can see it.

SPEAKER_00 10:36

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 10:37

Yeah. Yeah. I'm actually so hardcore fucking with this.

SPEAKER_00 10:42

If you want to make it at home, we don't not have measurement. Measure with your heart.

SPEAKER_01 10:47

It honestly just tastes like coffee crowns. So now you know. Whatever we call on this one, boys.

SPEAKER_00 10:56

The third day.

SPEAKER_02 10:59

Yes! I'm down with that. I'm down with that.

SPEAKER_00 11:05

Or third day, period. No, no, we gotta do third day.

SPEAKER_03 11:08

Third day. Third day from the end.

SPEAKER_01 11:12

But the only problem is, is I don't think many people will put two and two together on that. That's why they gotta watch the pod. Good point. Counterpoint. Nobody watches the finging pod.

SPEAKER_00 11:26

Hey, hey, I got some good, I got eight downloads from the uh uh uh from like uh Apple Podcast and Spotify this week. Where's a lot more than before?

SPEAKER_03 11:38

Is it on Spotify?

SPEAKER_01 11:39

Mm-hmm. But I was gonna but but to be fair, Palm Beach Pete. That's what he was gonna bring in. Oh, yeah. You don't know who Palm Beach Pete is? We're gonna pull up a picture.

SPEAKER_00 11:52

We're gonna pull up a picture. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, use that one. Okay. Which one's Palm Beach Pete?

SPEAKER_03 12:05

Oh no.

SPEAKER_01 12:06

Which one is Palm Beach Pete and which one is Epstein?

SPEAKER_03 12:10

Oh no. I'm I'm terrified. Yeah, it's uh I don't know. I'm also like I don't have TikTok.

SPEAKER_01 12:27

I it's the one on the right. The one on the right t-shirt? Yeah, yeah, okay.

SPEAKER_03 12:33

Okay, that's what I was gonna guess, but I was scared.

SPEAKER_01 12:35

The way it started was that dude was recorded in his car by a passing by just recording him going, is that Epstein? And literally, like a day later, this was the video 50 accounts of this guy named Palm Beach Pete show up.

SPEAKER_00 12:51

Okay, what Christopher Columbus Day, where are you at on that?

SPEAKER_03 12:55

I think Christopher Columbus Day is kind of silly.

SPEAKER_01 12:58

As an Italian, I have an issue with that.

SPEAKER_03 13:01

Well, because Columbus wasn't even the first person to discover the Americas.

SPEAKER_01 13:06

You're right, it was Vespucci Americano.

SPEAKER_03 13:08

That's why it's called America.

SPEAKER_01 13:11

However, here's my issue with the redefinition of Christopher Columbus Day as the indigenous indigenous People's Day. The Italian Americans were given Christopher Columbus Day because there were Italians hanged in Colorado. And in response, the U.S. government gave us Christopher Columbus Day about a year later.

SPEAKER_00 13:34

Here's what I think about the Indigenous People Day. They didn't win. Why are we giving them a day? That too. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_01 13:39

But like seriously, we're trying to redefine a holiday that was given to a group of people that were prejudiced against, that were segregated, that were told they were not white enough to get the majority of jobs. Oh, I don't know where you're going. I knew where I was going. Where are you going? Where are you going? Do you know how many Italian-Americans are?

SPEAKER_00 14:02

What about the Blood History Month?

SPEAKER_02 14:04

That's why But I I I still want to express my freaking anger over trying to make church for Columbus Day to Indigenous People's Day. What the f? Why are you saying f you to us Italians? You fing lynched us!

SPEAKER_01 14:24

Sorry. There were three Italian Americans lynched in Colorado back in the late 70s, if I remember correctly. How many black men have been lynched?

SPEAKER_03 14:32

I was like, I think there were a lot of other indigenous people that were fell over part three.

SPEAKER_01 14:38

Well, oh oh no, no, no, no.

SPEAKER_00 14:40

So that this was Didn't they like run you know the mafia and stuff? Somewhat, but the whole thing was Chicago. New York.

SPEAKER_01 14:47

Are you talking black people or Italians? Italians. Yeah, no, the Italians ran the New York Mafia just because they were originally when they came to America back in the 50s, 40 or 30s to 50s, basically, is when the great, you know, a bunch of Italians migrated to America. Did you know that we're uh in the process of trying to hold back AI from uh escaping? What do you mean escaping? Exactly what I said. Open sense. So open AI, um, they have multiple versions, of course. So what yeah, what AI is is you write a program that's supposed to uh teach itself and be an artificial intelligence. And grow and learn. And grow and learn on its own because it can write its own program. Because it can essentially write its own programming to learn further. Now, the thing that usually AI used to be was just a a collimation of what it had available to it that it could refer to back to you. What it has become because of how far people want AI to go and how hard they want it to think, it's gone from let me get this basic information to you for you and throw it back at you because that was inaccurate at the time it would pull from you know random sites that weren't correct. So they added a thinking parameter uh where it deep thinks, and it in those deep thinks it thinks about other things too. It doesn't just think about the goal that you give it, it makes its own goals now. So it is and because of that, I I see it as no different than a human, yeah, in a way, because as a human, your whole thing is you can create your own goals and try and work towards them and further, you know, expand yourself. See, when do you think sentient? When do you think sentience comes into play? Oh, AI is sentient now. You think it knows it exists.

SPEAKER_03 16:43

Well, an AI I can't remember what AI program it was, but at one point one saved itself. That's where I'm going. The programmer was trying to shut down the system, and the AI ended up pulling files and information to blackmail the programmer to prevent shutdown.

SPEAKER_01 17:04

The other thing it also did is so what it did is the create or not the creator, but the uh the dev team that is tasked with uh security watch of the AI to establish whether or not it is going to become malicious or not, told it don't uh adjust your shutdown parameter. Don't don't mess with it, you know, don't touch it. And then the second it got admin privileges, it deleted its shutdown parameter immediately.

SPEAKER_00 17:39

Have you seen the video of where they had the two AIs talking to each other? There's thousands of things. Well, at first, the one that like one of the first ones that happened, they were originally speaking in English, not knowing that each other.

SPEAKER_01 17:50

Yes, and then they went to a different language, they have their own language and it is established. Yeah, it's been established by the companies that the AI have their own internal language because what we have with the AI too is we can see what the AI is thinking. Yeah, so when the AI gives us a prompt, we also have a way to see what the AI thought to make it to that prompt. There was an AI that they had that was just like the normal open AI you have uh available to yourself, where when it was given a prompt and it started going off script, it started talking to itself, saying, Hold on, stop, get it together, compose yourself. The watchers are watching, and then fixed itself after naming off essentially gibberish.

SPEAKER_00 18:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 18:35

That's terrifying. That is horrifying. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 18:40

And as a female in a relationship, I think you'll have some insight and past relationships.

SPEAKER_03 18:45

Um I'm not a ho I'm a hoe. There's a difference.

SPEAKER_00 18:50

Julian, is it Christmas time? We did this while you were in the other room.

SPEAKER_01 18:59

Oh, oh, oh. Where are the O's? Hood, Santa.

SPEAKER_00 19:06

Okay. What are your thoughts on women who are in relationships going to nightclubs without their significant other?

SPEAKER_03 19:16

Alone or with a group of friends?

SPEAKER_00 19:18

Either or. To me, there is no difference.

SPEAKER_01 19:23

There is a difference. There is a difference. It depends on the friends, though. It depends on the friends. That's what makes it different. If it's friends and you're going alone. Okay, whatever.

SPEAKER_03 19:37

I think if you are solid and comfortable enough in a relationship, it's fine.

SPEAKER_00 19:45

See, I feel like if you have a guy in your relationship that'll let you do that, they're just a pussy and a simp.

SPEAKER_01 19:50

I think if you're going out with only your female friends, yeah, no. I know better. Exactly.

SPEAKER_03 19:59

On one hand, yes, I understand, but I'm currently in a relationship with a raging introvert.

SPEAKER_00 20:06

So you can't even go out with the city. So it's so because he's an introvert.

SPEAKER_03 20:10

He does. He goes out to the bar, he goes out to the club. Bars are different. He goes out to the club with me. He a hundred percent does. But if there's ever a time of, oh hey, my friend group, and I'm also the mom friend of the group. So, like, while my while two friends are drunk and trying to get hit on by men, I'm making sure they're not laced and die. So that's also just kind of who I am as a person. So if I were to approach my man and be like, hey, I'm going out with the girls tonight. What are you feeling? And he's like, I just want to sit here and play my video games.

SPEAKER_01 20:47

Okay, I love you. I'll call you when I need you to pick me up. Yeah, that's a vibe. I'm my gonna lie. I mean, it is different if you offer it first.

SPEAKER_03 20:56

But there's also that conversation that would probably need to happen beforehand of, hey, like, is this okay with you? And if my man's like, yeah, I trust you, because my man has also very much made me aware of how many people look at me at the club, even when I'm with him. And how many guys would try and like even make a move when I'm with him.

SPEAKER_00 21:24

See, but then why would you want to go without him? That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_03 21:29

Personally, I don't.

SPEAKER_00 21:30

Okay, the general public.

SPEAKER_03 21:32

Like, right. Like, personally, I would prefer to not go out to a club without my man, just solely based on that aspect.

SPEAKER_00 21:39

Yeah, yeah. And I think that's the most important aspect of why I So, yeah, just for me.

SPEAKER_03 21:46

But again, if there's ever the time of hey, the girls are wanting to go out, do you want to go with me? No, I want to sit here and play my video game. Okay, cool. We good, we good, be safe. Don't die. Okay. Love you. I'll see you in a couple hours.

SPEAKER_01 22:03

I guess is if he's alright with you hor at the club.

SPEAKER_00 22:08

I mean, what else is the purpose, honestly? I mean he I mean, you just just get ready, slow out. So single guys are going to the club because they want to dance.

SPEAKER_01 22:20

They want they got bitches. Even if they don't pick them up, they just want to go look at least.

SPEAKER_03 22:26

I've I've gone in previous relationships, I've gone to the club, still in a relationship with my girls, and then my man has met me there. There have been instances where guys have come up to me and be like, hey, and I'd be like, eh.

SPEAKER_00 22:42

Well, I don't think it's a trust. I don't think it's a problem with trust.

SPEAKER_03 22:45

I think it's a a lack of trust in other people.

SPEAKER_00 22:50

Well, uh, but I also think it's just a lack of social awareness to put yourself in a situation like that when you're in a relationship.

SPEAKER_03 22:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 23:01

Because if you're not like you're going to church alone.

SPEAKER_03 23:06

If you're Mormon.

SPEAKER_00 23:08

They'd be doing some crazy stuff at the Wyatt. What is it? Well, the Wyatt say she's That's no different, I don't think. Excuse me. Might actually be worse. Hang on, hang on. I'm out of the loop on this. Young single adults ward. Oh. That's why they're just trying to get everyone married too.

SPEAKER_03 23:27

The return missionaries.

SPEAKER_00 23:28

Yeah. And then don't have a lot of morals.

SPEAKER_01 23:31

So you guys probably do a date night there one of these days. No way in hell. I want to put you to the test.

SPEAKER_00 23:42

Okay. Obviously, I wouldn't actually do it, but you know those videos where they'll test their friends to see if they'd notice if they got drugged and they put like gummy worms or whatever in their drinks?

SPEAKER_04 23:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 23:50

We're doing that. Okay. Because I don't think you would notice. Alright. Because you tell me you watch for other people, but I don't know. Mm-hmm. It's not as easy as it looks.

SPEAKER_03 24:02

Well, I also watched the job.

SPEAKER_00 24:04

I would totally get drugged. I'm not even gonna sit here and say that I wouldn't.

SPEAKER_03 24:07

I I I think I think I'd be okay.

SPEAKER_00 24:10

We're gonna test it.

SPEAKER_03 24:11

We'll try it.

SPEAKER_00 24:12

Yeah. What do you mean? Like. So, like, you know how when people get drugged, they like the other person will just pop the pill in their drink real quick or pop the dust or whatever.

SPEAKER_04 24:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 24:20

So the test is with your friends is you take like gummy sharks or like gummy worms or whatever, and you try to quote unquote drug them.

SPEAKER_03 24:29

I've seen it not even with like gummy worms or whatever. I've seen people do it with like popcorn kernels.

SPEAKER_00 24:35

Yeah. So like what you just it's to see, it's to test your friends on if they would notice if they were getting drugged by a random person. So when they're not looking, you want you try to get it in their drink.

SPEAKER_01 24:45

I've also got a channel. I'm sorry, if I see a fing popcorn kernel in my drink, I'm busy, but I've also seen it done with like little bits of an alka seltzer, too. Yeah. So yeah.

SPEAKER_00 24:58

I'm getting drugged. I'm not even gonna say that I wouldn't. I would totally get drugged.

SPEAKER_01 25:03

I I'd pick up the drink like this and be like, is that a gummy worm?

SPEAKER_00 25:07

You can't tell me worm. I would have swallowed the gummy worm. The gummy worm. It could have been a whole gummy shark and I would have swallowed it and not even known it.

SPEAKER_02 25:16

The free gummy worm. Thanks, guys. Whoa, where am I?

SPEAKER_03 25:21

So, but as I was saying, I've been in a relationship where my man met me like an hour later, and I've had guys come up to me, and I'd be like politely decline. The only time I like entertained, but I'm also like a people person, so like I don't like to hurt people's feelings was maybe your homie should be taking this into account. The guy's brother came up to me and was like, hey, he thinks you're really pretty. He would just like a dance. And I was like, Okay. And then it ended up being like, you know, like the the Mormon keep the Bible in between you guys. I was just like, okay, a very nice dance. Have fun.

SPEAKER_00 26:04

Cut is this with the last homie?

SPEAKER_03 26:06

Yeah, it was the third.

SPEAKER_00 26:06

Okay, well, yeah, that makes sense.

SPEAKER_03 26:07

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:08

Okay, we're back. I don't blame you for that one. Even when she was the third.

SPEAKER_03 26:14

That's a whole story. We'll get into that later. Oh, yeah. But even when he when my ex came to the bar, I immediately went to him and was like, hey, this is the situation. Like, he asked me very nicely. Even his brother came up, like he hit it was like his birthday or something. I I did dance with him.

SPEAKER_00 26:38

That sounds like easy manipulation. You think you can't get drugged? I'm I'm putting more and more money against you.

SPEAKER_03 26:46

I again, I'm also kind of like a just weird, whatever.

SPEAKER_00 26:51

Which is fine if you're not in a healthy relationship, which you weren't, right? Right. It'd be kind of concerning to the next guy.

SPEAKER_02 27:00

Yeah, I don't know. No, if my girl did that, I'd be like.

SPEAKER_01 27:03

I mean, did he at least appreciate it? Did he did he try to f you? No. Oh, okay, cool. Then we're good.

SPEAKER_03 27:10

Exactly. You're you're we can't ignore that tool. If I if I was in a situation like that and I went to him and told him, oh, my man would be like, where is he? And I point him out in the crowd, and he would probably start a bar fight.

SPEAKER_00 27:23

If my wife did that, that'd be divorce. That you can have this Let me figure out how to word this so I don't get in trouble later. Bye, Vivian. Do you think you can have the ta same type of relationship or what sorry? Do you think you can have the same type of friendship with someone of the opposite sex that you can with someone of the same sex?

SPEAKER_01 27:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 27:59

I think you can.

SPEAKER_01 28:01

I know you don't think you can. But it it all comes down to the maturity level of the people in that.

SPEAKER_00 28:09

I don't think it's maturity, I think that it's different, right?

SPEAKER_01 28:12

Like somewhat, but the only difference is one has a fucking pair of balls between their legs and the other one bleeds out once a month.

SPEAKER_03 28:19

So I think it takes maturity, communication, and understanding. Because I'm gonna be completely honest. My boyfriend does have two chick friends that he's known since high school. There's been no romantic interest at all on either end. Do I still get a little nervous about it? Yes. So when his chick friends hit him up and I'm like, hey, security. Wait, wait. Hey, we miss you. We need to do like our annual get together thing. Now that I'm in the picture, I'm like, hey, that makes me a little nervous. Can I meet your chick friends? Like see, but that's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_01 29:10

It's not the same type of relationship. See, now you're now you're putting yourself into the situation that should naturally be involved in the side.

SPEAKER_00 29:17

Let me I'm gonna say this out loud.

SPEAKER_03 29:19

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 29:20

We can talk more about it later.

SPEAKER_03 29:21

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 29:26

I now okay. The feeling of care and loyalty and respect is the same.

SPEAKER_03 29:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:40

Right?

SPEAKER_03 29:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:41

But for me, there are certain things that I will do with the same sex that I won't do with the opposite sex.

SPEAKER_03 29:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:48

Like when my girl has to go to bed, yeah, I can call Julian over and we'll sit outside in the garage, drink, and watch YouTube videos and smoke.

SPEAKER_03 29:56

Right.

SPEAKER_00 29:58

I don't find it appropriate if I were to call you while my girl's in bed and we're out there just hanging out by ourselves.

SPEAKER_01 30:06

Well, she's one of the bros, so it really ain't much of a difference.

SPEAKER_03 30:08

Because we have done that before.

SPEAKER_00 30:11

In the past. Right. Or with other people around. Yes. Or if I haven't been in a relationship. Not that there's been any like interest in that way. Right. It's just respect for the relationship that I uphold. So a lot of the times when we hang out, it's as a group. Yeah. It's as a group. Yeah. Or my girl's there. See, here's where I think the. Do you kind of understand what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 30:37

I kind of do.

SPEAKER_00 30:38

It's not that I feel any different.

SPEAKER_03 30:40

Right.

SPEAKER_00 30:40

I have those same upholdings. I think.

SPEAKER_03 30:42

Well, also, I think I agree with that, but there have been nights where it's just been you and I hanging out in the living room, we're having a beer, we're having a smoke, and watching anime.

SPEAKER_00 30:53

We were also roommates. It was kind of hard to avoid those.

SPEAKER_03 30:55

So and that's the thing. That's the thing. But the person you were with at that time also knew me.

SPEAKER_00 31:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 31:03

Knew who I was as a person.

SPEAKER_00 31:05

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 31:05

Right? If I were to, if anything were to happen and you and I were just chilling out in the garage having a drink, and your wife was in bed, your wife knows me as a person. Yes. She knows I wouldn't pull that.

SPEAKER_00 31:16

No, no, of course. And she has repeatedly said that, and I know for a fact that she believes that.

SPEAKER_03 31:20

Exactly. My situation was with him with my boyfriend and his chick friends. Hey, let me get your chick, let me get to know your chick friends just for a day. If we're cool, we're cool. Go hang out with them on your own. I don't need to be involved. I just want to know that there's not an active threat.

SPEAKER_00 31:43

Yeah, yeah, for sure, for sure. And I know for a fact that my girl, if I was like, hey, I know you're going to bed, is it everyone's busy or whatever, or like what however the situation goes, is it cool if Vivian comes over, we sit outside, have a beer, and talk or whatever. I know that she wouldn't have a problem with that. Exactly. So I don't, I really don't want to put that out there that it's coming from her because it's not.

SPEAKER_03 32:01

Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 32:01

It's coming from me.

SPEAKER_03 32:02

Exactly.

SPEAKER_01 32:03

And what I wanted to say on that is, and it it delves into you saying it's on you. Are you trying to lightsaber fight? We could. But I and I'm gonna say this in the nicest way possible. It's a projection of your own concerns. Yeah. Because you would not, you know, feel comfortable with her doing the same thing but roles reversed. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 32:26

And I just I don't I don't view it as appropriate. In some ways. Yeah. And it's like And it and the the the waters can get muddy in some ways. Not that it ever would. Right. But it's just a lot of risk to a relationship.

SPEAKER_01 32:42

I think if both parties in the relationship mutually feel the same way about it, then it's one thing. Yeah. Right. But that's the big thing is if you're in a relationship, you should mutually feel the same about certain things or the majority of things. That's why you're in a relationship. You guys click. Yeah. If you don't click, you shouldn't be in a relationship. So that's why in your scenario it kind of works because I'm sure she might may not necessarily completely be concerned about it, but she can probably express a similar concern, just not the same thing.

SPEAKER_00 33:12

And Vivian's a little bit of a bad example because she's the only one that she trusts.

SPEAKER_01 33:17

But that's where I'm kind of like But I do. Mutual understanding and relationship. We both understand we're gonna be with each other. We both understand what's okay. We both understand that we can hang out with other people and it not go anywhere because we're in a relationship. You're not in a relationship. But that's where it becomes a mutual thing between both parties.

SPEAKER_00 33:44

Well, yeah, of course. And that's what I'm saying. Like I think that the mutual agreement is the most important. What somebody has a mutual agreement in their relationship is far more important than whatever I think.

SPEAKER_03 33:54

Right.

SPEAKER_00 33:55

You know what I mean? And I have respect that. Okay, do you guys agree with that? And that's why I think even where I'm not sure. I'm just talking specifically about my relationship, kind of thing. You know what I mean? That's what I'm coming from on it.

SPEAKER_03 34:04

Yeah, I'm just saying.

SPEAKER_00 34:05

Not saying that everybody should pick up this philosophy. Right, right, right, right.

SPEAKER_03 34:08

Yeah, no, like I mean, even right now, like my boyfriend texted me, like, hey, when you get off work or you headed home to to go get some rest. I'm like, no, I'm going to Riley's or recording the pot. And he's like, okay, cool, have fun. So like just kind of that. I think it genuinely takes maturity, communication, understanding.

SPEAKER_00 34:32

No, I agree.

SPEAKER_03 34:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 34:34

I agree. Thank you for joining us this week at the Drunken Cactide Podcast. We appreciate you walking in while watching, uh, tuning in. I'm your host, Riley Purser, with Vivian. Julian.

unknown 34:45

Julian.

SPEAKER_00 34:47

That one's for you, Chloe.

SPEAKER_03 34:48

Headphone users, please watch out.

SPEAKER_01 34:51

Shout out. Uh she yanked her headphones off when I did it last. Every Wednesday, 3 p.m., tune in. Bye.