6. Results Reflect Your Energy

We explore how energy (not hustle or image) drives results, and how to align intention, style, and mindset to become a clear match for the opportunities you want. We share tools to turn desire into direction, embody genuine presence, and measure alignment by how you feel after the room.

• energy as the signal that attracts or repels
• style used to anchor state, not to impress
• clear intention and speaking desires aloud
• growth mindset over fixed rules
• meeting strangers as practice labs
• genuine presence vs people pleasing
• confidence as capacity for emotion
• feelings as invitations to self-knowledge
• reframing your story with agency
• upgrade your self-concept using your style
• discernment between true desire and taught wants 
• simple tests for post-event energy and alignment

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Energy Sets Your Results

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Welcome back to the Magnetic Mindset Podcast, where spirituality, style, and strategy meet to help you be your most magnetic self. If you feel like you have achieved success on paper, but are craving a deeper meaning and a life that feels alive, keep listening. This show is hosted by me, your coach, Holly Pendergast. Let's get into it. It's not you, but it is your energy, which is your responsibility. Your energy is the thing that attracts or repels things. And if you've been getting a lot of rejection lately, just know that it's you. I hate to tell you that. Your therapist won't tell you that, your coaches won't tell you that, your stylist will tell you what to wear. But if your energy isn't right, you're gonna be repelling some shit. You're gonna be showing up weird. You're gonna be showing up in a little bit of um just desperate energy. You are gonna be showing up in this energy that like has people like almost want to opt in to what you are offering your singing or want to invite you, but they're like, I'm a little unsure. Your energy is the thing that people can smell a mile away. And either it is gonna be so attractive and magnetic, or it's gonna be meh, or it's gonna be. And this is something that I have really known about myself is I don't think of myself as any different from anybody else. And I used to be like, why are all these amazing things happening? I don't unworthiness crap, right? And then I realized it's my energy. When I am in a group of people, I come ready feeling good. I am thinking about them, I am thinking how do I help them? And there's so many things that I hear people talk about as a coach where I'm like, or even just in the wild, where I'm like, I just wish I could tell on this, but they didn't pay me to coach them yet. And I'm saying, yeah, your energy is weird. Yeah, the way you approach somebody has everything to do with the result that you get. And it is contradictory because we think about being a go-getter, and we're like, oh my god, if I just don't go and create and manipulate and go get something, it's yucky energy. If you are in the energy of, oh my god, this would be so fun, let's do this, you are in the energy of generosity, it makes it so easy for people to want you and chase you down and come into your world to either buy what you're selling or give you opportunities in a way that feels so like you're so lucky and happy and you get to receive all that juicy, beautiful things in life. So if you are somebody who is like, I don't know why this isn't working, just know it's your energy. And I can help you with that. Personally, I believe it's your attitude, and how do you get into the right attitude? You get in the right spirit, and you have to start with you. How do you wake up in the morning and what do you do with that information? Are you constantly thinking about how do I want to respond to this? Who do I want to be in this situation? Use your style. It is a tool that you use every single day. And yes, we live in a culture where people look at you and they decide where what box to put you in. That is a human brain thing. We are just judging each other all the time. Okay, we evolve this way. So use this to your benefit. Use it to first get your energy right. And then you get to show up in the energy that creates all these amazing things that makes you an alignment and an energetic match to all these things that you desire. Because you do not desire these things by accident. You desire these things because they are destined for you, and it is your opportunity of a lifetime to become that person that you were always meant to be. You should be evolving, you should be feeling into yourself and looking at, you know, have I grown in the past month, two months, three months, year. If you are in the same place as you were last year, it's because of you, boo. It's because of your energy, you get to step into a new version of yourself every day. Manifestation has taught us that you have to set the intention first. You have to know what you want and picture what it feels like first. If you don't do that, the universe doesn't know what to go fetch you out in life. You get to be the person, like you're playing fetch with a golden retriever. You have to tell the universe, hey, universe, go fetch this green tennis ball and it will come and bring it back to you. If you don't know what you are throwing out, she doesn't know what to bring you back. So knowing what you're asking for and telling the universe what to do exactly is gonna be the thing that creates these incredible pinch me results for you. So not only knowing what you want, but speaking them out loud is also casting spells on the universe to conspire for you. First prerequisite to all of this is daring yourself to dream, allowing yourself to admit what you goddamn want. Because so many of us women are told either don't have needs or have less needs because you are too big, too much, you're wanting too much, you're asking for a lot. That is only true for the people who don't know how to ask for what they want and don't believe that they can get or create what they want. So do not listen to those people. Just like you unsubscribe from somebody's email list, you can unsubscribe from the culture's belief system. We don't have to blame anybody, but I sort of see this as there are people who are kind of, and I say this with so much love, normies, people who are subscribed to the matrix, they love the matrix, they will follow the rules, they will look at what's logical. And then there are people who dare to play in the world of the unknown, in the world of possibility, and test out what they can create for themselves, what they want from themselves. This is the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. Growth mindset is always gonna be asking, how can I grow from this? What is next? What's the next, what is this obstacle teaching me? And a fixed mindset is this is what's possible, and nothing else can come unless you follow these rules and this is how you create X result. Being in a growth mindset is gonna open you up to possibilities beyond what you can currently dream right now. I have definitely been in a state of the unknown. Some circumstances have radically changed in my life, and I have been in a place, and so when I started to open up to some friends and allow them to come into my life in the way that allow them to come into my life where they can nurture me, be there for me, or was essential for me to be in a place where I could be open to meeting new people. Now, I have been going to these dinners where you meet five strangers. And there's also like there's a coffee one where you can meet five strangers at coffee. And I have been having so much fun, not because the actual event is super fun, and yes, it can be, but I'm having fun because I'm seeing this as an experiment for myself, and I'm coming with this open energy, and it's allowing me to be delighted by the people and the opportunities that are coming from these experiences. And of course, I'm coming feeling really good. I'm wearing an outfit that is telling people who I am, and sometimes it's conversation starting, and sometimes it's just for me to be in the energy and in the frequency that I want to be in when I'm meeting somebody new. So here I am able to cultivate this energy and really take care of myself and nourish myself in a way so that I can be in a state of overflow and abundance and curiosity to meet these new people. That alone will take you so far. So our desires are being planted within us for the sake of society approval or needing something to get something, and that's when it's not cool, right? Because then you get into that needy, cringy, graspy, desperate energy. For example, if I had come to either of these dinners where I was meeting these new people and I came across as like, will you please be my friend? Right? That energy is gonna be like, ooh, well, why don't you have friends? There must be a reason because this doesn't feel good. And I would not have had these opportunities to get this invite. But I want you to understand the importance of it's not how you present yourself that is the thing that's going to get you the interview, the job, the opportunity. It is your energy. So although I do use the clothes and the style to help me get in the energy, it is not the clothes and the outfit itself that's going to do that for me. It has to be that I'm in such a state where I bring the party, I bring the fun, and it doesn't have to look any certain way. It just has to be genuine to me. So it doesn't have to be that I'm loud dancing on the bar, and that's the person that's most extroverted gets the invite. It's not that at all. It's are you genuine? Because genuine energy is highly addictive and it's what provokes interest and it shows that you know yourself, which in turn makes you a safe person to be around. Because if you're secure in who you are, it shows that you've done work on yourself and you don't need anything from anybody in a desperation way that makes you, for lack of a better word, unattractive and will repel those opportunities and those people that are all around you. This is why having control of your mindset and managing your mind and knowing how to select your thoughts helps you select what feeling you're gonna be in, which has you vibrating at a certain frequency that is going to create a ripple effect in the universe that brings you these things that you want for yourself. And there's no other way around it. You can't cheat energy. You also can't fake energy. There are some people that will fall for it, but it will be temporary because it's not sustainable for you. And once they find something out that you were faking your extrovertedness or whatever you're pretending to be, whatever you're forcing yourself to be based on who you think you should be, they lose trust because they're like, actually, you're not who you said you were. It's the ultimate energy catfishing because you're pretending to be one way, but in reality, you're another. So don't do that. You don't need to put on that mask, you don't need to be performative with your energy. It's draining. I know because I used to be a mega people pleaser, and they call it like your customer service voice when you're like, oh, I'm just gonna wing you right up. Is there anything I'm gonna ask you? Help me right. That energy comes through with other opportunities to meet people and friends and networking. And actually the patriarchy thrives on it because you're suppressing your own emotions and your own realness to play this part that the system needs us to be to nurture other people's feelings. And when you stop doing that, you stop being good and you start being a little threatening, you start being a little scary because you are actually being real and grounded. And that is what the right opportunities respond to. That's how you activate those opportunities and those people that are also genuine in their own energy. So basically, instead of two people faking it, there's nobody faking it, and you get to be yourself, you're way more relaxed, you're being honest, and you get to make connections that also bring you those incredible opportunities. Now, if your egoic brain, which we want to have compassion for for a second, is like, oh my God, now I know the secret how to get what I want. Because once we understand how to use our energy, sometimes that ego will flare up and it'll be like, now I know the secret of how all I have to do is be in the right energy. Now, how do I get myself in the right energy? And it's still in a place of extractive energy. It's still in a kind of facade where you don't know how to be at peace and okay with who you are in general. So you could be somebody who is very quiet, but also so intriguing and mysterious. It's not what it appears to be on the outside that creates the energy that attracts opportunities, it's who you are being in that moment. Can you be comfortable with being the one that asks the question first? Can you be comfortable in the silence that sometimes happens in groups of new people? Are you gonna be the one that's fidgety and deeply uncomfortable or has to distract the group in order to stop the silence and move on to something so that nobody feels uncomfortable? The key is checking in with how do I feel and how can I help myself to be more comfortable in this little awkward moment? What if it's not a problem to be awkward? What if it's not your job to fix it, to rush in and fill the silence, to take away other people's feeling of awkwardness by providing the gap within the silence? What if you don't take responsibility for any of that and you allow yourself to be comfortable with discomfort? That is how I know you have actual true confidence. Self-confidence is how you think about yourself in your body and the position that you play and feeling secure in it, trusting that you can handle any emotion. That's like how the Life Coach School frames it, which is how I learned this idea. Because if you are somebody who can be with any emotion and not try to rip it away or distract or react super quickly to it, you are in charge of your emotions. And being in charge of your own feelings, of your emotions, is how you have not only control of yourself and not in a stifling way, but you are not at the living at the effect of the world or living at the effect of what you believe you should be doing based on the role that you've been assigned by society, which is deeply uncomfortable. So it will drain your energy, even though it might feel comfortable to maybe step into the the role of I got it, let me handle it, let me close the silence. That might feel comfortable for you and it might make you feel needed, actually. And it might make you feel like I am just being the greatest person right now because I'm the one who kept the conversation flowing. But the way you'll know is ask yourself, do I feel drained? Did I drain all of my energy and then some so that now I'm in energy debt from that experience? Because I gave, gave, gave, overgave, and controlled the situation, which is what people pleasing is, is trying to control the situation and manipulate others to have a positive experience. Oh my God, I'm exhausted just thinking about it because I I have lived this for so many years, I can feel it in my nervous system. Or are you somebody who can be with your feelings, be with discomfort, and regulate your nervous system in a way that your inner child feels safe because they know that you got it. It's inner child work for sure. When you release your inner child from that job of making the group feel comfortable, you get to calm her down and be like, listen, baby, I'm the adult. I got you. Feelings are not a problem. They're okay. You can bring all the feelings, we can remove ourselves from a situation if the feelings are dangerous to us. But awkwardness is not a dangerous situation. It's temporary discomfort. And it's probably a lot shorter than you're anticipating it to be, because our brains will have us believe that we're gonna be awkward in this stage forever. So let's fix it immediately, or they're gonna have a bad opinion of us if we don't. So went off on a tangent there. But being with yourself, being with those feelings and not avoiding emotions, but rather being with them and allowing yourself to be a little uncomfortable and not making it a problem is the ultimate hack to self-confidence. And it's something that you practice, it's something that you be. It's not something that you can repeat and tell yourself a new thought. It's a lot harder to do it that way rather than feel into your most vulnerable feelings, wherever it is, your heart, your center, wherever you feel that vulnerable feeling, maybe it's your gut, and you know how to be with it without making it have to go away. You can invite it, welcome it, and she just wants attention. She just wants acknowledgement. And then the feeling passes, and you move on to the next part of the conversation. Every feeling you have is an invitation. It's an invitation to meet that feeling. It's an invitation to know what that feeling is trying to tell you. It is an invitation to meet yourself at a deeper level. Maybe it's something you need to heal. Maybe it's something you need to tell, hey, I don't need you anymore. You don't, you don't serve a purpose here. You may need to put your foot down with some emotions that are like, hey, this is an indulgent emotion. This is something that doesn't serve me anymore. And I have processed this. This is actually just a habit thought and a habit feeling that I tend to feel in these situations. So I'm not going to practice that feeling anymore. For example, the feeling of anxiety or awkwardness. If you feel those things frequently, which I used to, you have to stop practicing them because every time you have a feeling and you're noticing it, you're practicing it. Once you've understood it and you have enough awareness around it, it's something that you can start to see as no longer needed. So you can quit it as you would a habit and become somebody who doesn't practice that religion anymore. If we for a moment think about being anxious as a religion, you are committed and devoted to being worried and anticipating something negative in the future. We got to quit that religion. We got to let it go. We got to leave that cult because we know that leader is telling us lies. This is what you can do with yourself at any time. Looking at your positive emotions is going to be a different kind of invitation. An invitation to look at what sparked joy there, what sparked bliss there? Why did I think that was so funny? Why did I love that connection so much? Or what intrigued me about that person's energy, that excited, intrigued energy, it might point out, hey, you actually want to take up that hobby that that other person is already doing, like extreme knitting or something. Like whatever it is, if you start to see your feelings as an invitation to look within, you will know yourself so deeply, you will start to stand out naturally because most people do not look within. Most people do not see things as an invitation to know themselves more deeply. Most people will not question it. And this is your opportunity to start seeing things that way because now you've been introduced to this concept. Deep disappointment is another invitation. Although we it's one of those feelings that we try to avoid at all costs, or really uncomfortable feelings like humiliation. Those are the most important ones because they show you where you have an unmet need. Here is where I sort of have some beef with the manifestation world and non-attachment, because there's definitely discernment that has to be done between what do you need and what do you want. So many non-attachment teachers teach needs in a way that teach you, well, just don't need it. And then you'll have it, and then you'll attract it because you don't need it. And when you don't need it, you have it. And it's like, okay, yeah. But it's more, there's more nuance than that. We have certain needs and desires that are coming from our soul that are a part of our journey that it's our job to go follow. And those are the things that are gonna feel a little challenging sometimes. They're gonna feel a little bit edgy because they're might they might be new, but they might be intriguing you in a way that lights all of your cells up and you're super excited to be thinking about it. Those are the things I want you to start seeing as needs, not just wants or desires. Those are needs that when you fulfill them, and it might be you that fulfills them, it might be in collaboration. We don't have to be hyper-individuated to create our own needs or meet our own needs. We can use the community to collaboratively meet the need. So, for example, let's say the Soho House example. I've always been curious. I've never been, I never actually physically checked it out or went to become a member or anything. And I didn't go out seeking to find a member to get a guest pass and do I didn't do any of that. But rather, when I was invited, I noticed how excited I was that, oh my God, I want to go. That sounds fun. I want to explore that, I want to experience that kind of environment. I want to see who's there, I want to enjoy the architecture, I want to see the art, I want to see what people wear, I want to see what kind of food is there. Just like I were traveling somewhere. If you have a desire to go to Italy, instead of seeing it as, oh, that's a wish on my wish list, start seeing it as a need that is unmet. Okay. When you start seeing it as a need that is unmet, that my soul is being called to go to Italy. And I don't know how or when this is going to happen because I have responsibilities or I don't know when would be a good time. I want you to stop because that's your ego brain trying to logistic its way into this irrational desire to randomly go to Italy. Instead, use this as an invitation. Use it as an invitation to know yourself better. What is it about Italy? What part of Italy? Is there something that you need to learn before you go? Is there maybe you're wanting to learn the language? Maybe there is an artist residency that you're going to apply to. Maybe you have a long-lost cousin that lives there, right? I don't know. But open yourself up to knowing the desire and start considering it as a need for you to fulfill. And how you get there is not up to you. It is up to the universe to conspire to bring you these opportunities, but you have to be clear on what you want. And you do need to move towards it. You can't just put on your vision board, forget about it. You do need to go out into the world, meet people, be non-attached, don't come with weird, creepy get energy or extractive energy. Be open, be yourself, be your delightful self. And that doesn't mean by any means putting on a happy face when you don't feel good. It's how do I bring the version of me that's true right now and love myself even if it's imperfect, even if I'm a little grumpy? Can I see this as an opportunity to love myself harder and trust that when I get there, that I'm gonna be able to vibrate in general with these new people and this new energy? And I don't have to be worried or anxious about it at all because it is a vulnerable thing to go meet new people, whether you're networking or you are socializing or you've been invited to a party, you don't know anybody except for the host. It is a little vulnerable. But know that it's a choice to feel anxious once you notice it. Now, this anxious energy, if it's practiced within you, it will show up at your door. It will be on cue, it will be there, it will, because it's well practiced, it will show up without you asking it to be there with you. Okay, so instead of letting it just tag along, you get to decide as if you were bringing it in your purse. Am I bringing my anxiety into this purse with me as I enter this party? Or am I gonna practice loving it and choose a different feeling that's accessible to you and practice that new feeling? This is my favorite thing about meeting a group of strangers is because they don't know you, they don't know your past, they don't even know your name before you introduce yourself. So you get to be practicing the embodiment of that new frequency. You get to practice being non-anxious, you, you get to practice being non-nervous you. So your homework today and for the rest of your life is to see every feeling as an invitation. Are you going to practice that feeling, that repetitive feeling, that habit? Or are you gonna practice a new feeling? Are you gonna practice saying yes? Are you gonna meet actual invitations to opportunities as a yes? Start to see things as opportunities to meet yourself and watch the actual invitations come in to you and know that you don't have to chase them. Know that you don't have to use all of your actions and all of your strategy to manhandle the universe into giving you what you want. Don't misunderstand me. You do need to show up, but being in the vibration and frequency of openness and being your delightful self, however that looks to you, is going to bring you the exact opportunities and the exact people into your world, your timeline, your matrix to give you those opportunities because things don't happen unless you're speaking to people. Now, with the algorithm and things like that, you might get invites to things. And yes, those targeted ads might be something great for you, but they're gonna lead you to more people. So even if you are creating ads, let's say for your business, you are reaching people that are going to eventually come into your world and decide if they want to work with you or not. We live in a world where we depend on people, and that's a beautiful thing. So don't take all of this information and be hyper-individualistic about it. That's not the point. The point is meet yourself as an individual so that you can bring the best to the collective, bring the best to the group of people that you're currently around, and be delighted. Allow yourself to be open and slightly vulnerable, where you can make connections. This isn't about oversharing, it's not about being overly generous or putting on your people pleaser customer service voice. That's not even needed. And if you want to measure if you were practicing being that new version of you, or if you were being the old version of you, how you'll know is you can ask yourself this question and it will tell you everything. How is my energy after the event? Because you can go into an event at 7 p.m., feel super tired, leave at 9:30 p.m. and be like, that was such a fun night. I'm so invigorated now. I need actually a cup of tea to calm down before I can go to bed. That connection riles us up because that's the primal need that we have is to connect to other people. If you feel exhausted and tired and dreading, oh my God, now I had to do my night routine and oh my god, I have to wake up tomorrow. You know that you were playing a role that doesn't serve you or anybody else, and you were probably being in the energy that is most practiced, which is not necessarily bad. It's just creating your current results. So if you want to change your results or evolve or grow or expand, it's gonna require you to access new energy and a new frequency in your body. Your frequency is the thing that vibrates out of you, but you do need to do the first initial work of knowing what you want, allowing yourself to want more, vocalizing it and going places and meeting people where you can practice this new open, delightful energy that is your truest self. This doesn't have to look any certain type of way. You don't need to be the trendiest person. You do need to be the truest person. So don't force yourself to be an image of somebody you admire, like somebody who's overly talkative or wearing bright colors. You can go feeling, looking so goth vibes and be the person that creates the most meaningful connection. And maybe it's just with one person. That's amazing. It's usually just with one person that you can make big impact with. Um, or if you are somebody who is sort of a social butterfly and you connect with 10 people, that is great too. I always give myself the challenge to just connect deeply with one person because I love one-to-one connections and I love people deeply. So if I find somebody, I'd rather spend more time having a longer conversation than meet 10 people and they just know my first name barely and I don't remember their name. So do what works for you. Do what your energy requires, what your needs are asking you to do. Do that. But again, meeting new people helps you practice and is an invitation that you can create for yourself to become, to evolve, to open yourself up to these opportunities that you wouldn't have known existed had you not had seen the world in this way. Remember that your feelings are also your own invitation from the The universe because you are vibrating at a certain frequency and you get to check in with yourself and ask yourself questions about it and see hey, is this an opportunity to love myself more deeply? Is this an opportunity to check myself before I wreck myself? Is this an opportunity to take this to my therapist or my coach? Is this an opportunity to choose to hype myself up instead? Whatever you practice, ask yourself, is it useful? Does it serve me? Those two questions and how you're feeling after the event. That practice is not to grade you and say, hey, I did an A plus job. It's to check in with yourself to see, hmm, where did I surrender and where did I kind of succumb to my old identity and what was practice? Versus what do I want for next time? Next time, maybe I won't bring this up. Or like, for some reason, somebody asks me this question. I tend to tell this story that's a little bit more negative. How do I actually like rebrand that idea in my head? Because I want to show up healed and I want to show up, I want to show up in a way that tells people that I don't need to go to this easy, negative, gossipy place and instead tell people, hey, I like to tell my story like this. And I see myself as powerful because I went through this and here's how I came out the other side. And again, you don't have to fake any of this, but you do need to practice that new story. And with strangers, it's a really great opportunity because you get to be the person that you want to be, and they will reflect that back to you because that's how they know you, because that's who you're being in that moment. Once you have practiced that identity, it's so much easier to do it again. The first time is probably the hardest time. And let's say you're telling a story about your past, or like maybe you're like, oh, um, I lived in my hometown for 40 years and then I finally escaped when blah, blah, blah. And you can notice, like, oh, I don't like the word escaped. Why do I always say escaped? Let's rebrand this whole idea and say something that feels true, but is also not in this victim-y place of like, oh, I lived in my hometown for 40 years. I love that I got to serve my community for that long. And then I decided to move on because I found a more exciting thing that I went and created for myself. How much better is that story? Right? So anytime you get to meet somebody, evaluate what did you say? How did you say it? Did you like the way you said it? Does it paint you in the light that you want to see yourself? Because how you see yourself is gonna be what you say. And what you say tells other people how to think about you, especially in the first meeting. You can do this starting with your style too, right? Like, what am I gonna wear? Am I gonna wear what I always wear to these kinds of meetups? And am I gonna go super casual and like not give a fuck and then just like wear whatever and like have weird, greasy hair? Or am I gonna start with me and ask myself, who do I want to be in this situation of new people? How do I want to think about myself and how do I match what I'm wearing to that self-concept? When you do that, you're gonna feel so good. You're gonna feel like hot shit. You're gonna feel so happy. Your body's gonna be relaxed because you're wearing clothes that you know fit you well. You're gonna walk in there, you're gonna be able to talk to people without being distracted by what you're wearing, how you're feeling, comparing yourself of, oh, I should have washed my hair, I shouldn't have. You get to be at peace with yourself because you feel good. And then other people start to see you in this positive, beautiful way, where your self-concept is somebody who deeply respects themselves and cares about themselves. And it's also communicating, hey, this girl takes care of herself. I should take care of her too. I should respect her because she respects herself. She is high maintenance. So therefore, I can't give her shitty treatment because she won't accept it. When they say you teach people how to treat you, this is what they mean. What you wear teaches people how to treat you. How you treat yourself teaches people how to treat you. It is how it works. And then the opportunities come because you are being in that frequency that matches the opportunities that are trying to come to you. Use this podcast as an opportunity, as an invitation today to take one small action that's going to help you practice being the version of you that matches the opportunities that you want, because they're already there for you. They already belong to you. Your desires and those unmet needs, they are there for you for a reason, because that's a part of your journey. That's a part of your path that is trying to get to you. Otherwise, you wouldn't have that desire. And remember, there's also discerning around is this a desire that was taught to me? Am I being taught that I should want to buy a house? Or do I actually want to buy a house? For example, discern, discern, discern. What lights you up and has you have that jump out of bed feeling and excitement? That's going to be the kind of test that I use with myself. That is this my need? Is this my desire? Is this my want? Or is this something that was taught to me that not all my sales light up when I think about it? That's my discernment test. You can borrow it. Use it as an invitation to get to know yourself more deeply. Thanks for listening. And if you've enjoyed today's episode, hit the plus sign at the top of this podcast to follow the show and share an episode with a friend. For a daily touch point, follow me on Instagram at coach.with.holly or TikTok at coach with Holly. For more resources and offers, visit coachwithholly.com. And if you want to get coached by me, book a consult so we could talk about working together. Use a link in my podcast description below. Talk soon.