9. Reinvent Yourself With Me

We unpack how self-concept quietly shapes results and lay out a real-world path to reinvention without waiting for a milestone. From letting go through crumble and decay to immersion, style try-ons, and visualization, we show how to build capacity and magnetism with simple, repeatable practices.

• self-concept as the engine of change
• think-feel-act cycle as daily lever
• starting now rather than waiting for milestones
• letting go as step one of reinvention
• the crumble creating space for new outcomes
• decay as compost and emotional processing
• style try-ons as identity experiments
• disappointment as redirection, not regression
• immersion over intellectualizing growth
• capacity building and avoiding whiplash
• hedonic tools to raise a bougie baseline
• addition by subtraction and home rituals
• visualization to rehearse who you’re becoming
• recap of let go, crumble, decay, fertilize

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Transcript

Welcome & Why Reinvention Matters

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Welcome back to the magnetic mindset podcast, where spirituality, style, and strategy meet to help you be your most magnetic self. If you feel like you have achieved success on paper, but are craving a deeper meaning and a life that feels alive, keep listening. The show is hosted by me, your coach, Holly Pendergast. Let's get into it. Reinvention is the topic of today's podcast. Reinvention is something that you can do at any time for whatever reason you want. You don't have to have a big life event or a milestone to happen. You can reinvent yourself just because you want to. This is all self-concept work. So how you think about yourself, how you see yourself in the world, and how you treat yourself. I would say those three things together make up your self-concept. So you can evaluate right now. Do you like your current results, your current dynamic with people, friends, relationship, family? Do you really feel like you're thriving and evolving in this current self-concept? If not, you can reinvent yourself at any time just because you want to. Other times, circumstances change in our life and it forces us to reinvent ourselves. So if you're in that phase, I got you too. You don't have to wait for those things to happen, though. You can actively be somebody who is reinventing yourself, changing your identity because you just want something different. This identity work, when you really uncover your beliefs, you get to see how they are running your entire life. Because the subconscious is designed to run on autopilot. So you're not having to have conscious thoughts 24-7. By the way, about 90% of our thoughts are unconscious, and about only 10% are actually conscious, like the stream of consciousness that we hear or like kind of narrate in our mind. And by the way, not everybody has a narration of thoughts in their mind. So, with this all being said, if we can uncover your current beliefs that are creating your current life, we can know what to untangle. The reason it is so important to know what you're currently believing is because you got to take responsibility for what, why, and how those are creating your current life. Our subconscious is designed for efficiency and it will just practice the same beliefs over and over and over again. So when we change them, we evolve them, we grow our beliefs and expand our ideas of what's possible and admit to ourselves our new desires and where we we and where we are being pushed to grow. Now we got to change the belief in order to feel different and act different. The think, feel, act cycle is always running. That's a that's a simplified way to say it. Think, feel, act is always happening, whether you are conscious of your thoughts or not. So, how to reinvent yourself is to change how you think, feel, and treat yourself. And we're gonna talk about that today. I am currently in a reinvention era, so this is gonna be super fun to either watch as I do this all on Instagram and share with you. It may be in my email list and in this podcast. But I want you to like take notes on this for either your current reinvention or a future reinvention. Okay. You can do this at any point. You can start with the new year, you can start at 3 p.m. on a Wednesday. It doesn't matter. Do not limit yourself to setting a time for when you're allowed to reinvent yourself, because the only time we ever really have is now. The past isn't tangible. We can't go back, we can't change things, and we can't live in the future either, because that is also a different kind of fantasy. Both are fantasies. What is real, what is true, what is, is now. So because that is true, you don't have to worry about or procrastinate. I need to reinvent myself at a future time when this happens, when I have more money, when I have the perfect partner in my life. You don't need to do any of that. You get to do it now just because you are breathing, because you are alive. With that being said, we are gonna go through and I'm gonna talk to you about the process of reinvention as I see it and as I have practiced it and as I have led my clients through it as well. The first step of reinvention is gonna sound very basic, and that is to let go. Letting go of who you were and who you are is sometimes the hardest thing to do because where you are now is somehow benefiting you. Even if you're uncomfortable and you want something different, there's a reason why you are in this current circumstance, and that is because you are somehow benefiting. And that might be the benefit of comfort, predictability, knowing what's coming next. All of that is very crucial to the primitive brain who survives and thrives and wants you to stay in comfort and what's known. The unknown is going to cost your brain lots of energy to generate new thoughts, new neuropathways, new synapses, new experiences that will force you to expand and grow and evolve. So the primitive brain has created a system where it wants to avoid that at all costs because it associates that with danger, danger, and a survival risk. So this is a very active process of looking at your thinking, get coaching on it, come to me, I will help you. And choosing actively where you want to go and choosing actively to practice being somebody new. This doesn't have to be brand new and somebody that you actually don't want to become. This is just simply letting go of the obstacles that are in your way for what is already true for you and what you already know, what you already desire. So so many of you want to avoid reinvention because you don't want to become unrecognizable to yourself. That is not what we're doing here. Reinvention is about becoming more of yourself. But current you is going to limit and create barriers around that progression. So active reinvention is going to be the thing that helps you embody that new version of you, helps you embody that new energetic frequency that is going to carry you and attract and create all those results for you without trying, without really, because it's how you're vibrating, you will naturally have those new things, those new people, those new opportunities come into your life. And they're going to feel like, oh, that's a fluke. Oh, that was just a coincidence. Oh, that's just a surprise. Oh, I just did this little thing and boom. But it's not. It's a very active participation. You are changing how you think and feel about yourself. And therefore, the world is reflecting back to you these new changes and asking you, do you want this hot? Am I hot? Am I cold? Are we getting warmer to the thing that you want? And of course, along the way, you will be tested. You will be asked, are you going to go back to your past life? Here's a really interesting offer that might be super comfortable for you to go back to the way things were. We know that way. That way is super comfortable and we like that. So let's go back and revert and regress to accommodate the primitive brain's desire for comfort. Or you can decide, I'm going to do something different. I'm going to try something new. And when you do that, you change how you think, you change your cellular makeup because you are now becoming somebody different. You're becoming that next version of yourself. At the same time, there is only you now, right? So there isn't really a past you and a future you. Okay, this is gonna bend your mind a little bit, maybe. You only need to think about now, what is true now? What I will want, what do I want now versus what should I do? What have I done? What do I know? Or what so should could be what should I do based on the past or what should I do based on the future? This is where we get into trouble instead of asking ourselves what is true, what do I want, and then acting upon it. So letting go of what things should look like is the first step of reinvention. Next comes the crumble. The crumble is when in your 3D world, your circumstances will change, things will start breaking in your life, your laptop will break, your friends, you'll have a friend breakup, um, you will have a rupture in some sort of business relationship. It doesn't, it's not bias, okay? And it's not personal. These are just things that simply have to happen in order for you to let go of your past life circumstances and make space for the new things that are coming into your life. So consider your life right now as a pie chart. Your pie chart is all full of your current life, how you spend your time, your hobbies, your friendships, your relationships, your business, money, all the things. Your pie chart is full. It's 360 degrees full. So if we are going to reinvent and you're still gonna have this 360-degree pie chart of life, we have to remove some things. So things will crumble. And here's the thing either you will actively decide to crumble them and quit some habits, maybe, or they will crumble for you. So no need to worry, it will happen. So you can be an active participant or an inactive participant, the crumble will happen, okay? The crumble will disrupt your nervous system, it will freak you out, it will challenge everything. Your money beliefs, your lovability, your worthiness, all that shit's gonna come up for you to work on and reset, recalibrate how you think, feel, and treat yourself, your self-concept. All of that is let's say, like you have an awesome car and then like it breaks down for some reason. You're like, oh my God, what? No, this is my car. I love my car. Okay. And you're like, okay, it's crumbling. Who am I gonna be in this situation? Am I gonna be grateful for the car and then embrace the new one? Or am I gonna freak the fuck out and act like I can't create a new environment where I get a new car? What am I freaking out about? Talk to yourself, calm yourself down, reassess, and don't react to all of your brain's limiting beliefs that want to scare you. Remember, the primitive brain's only real drive is about keeping you safe. So, what is safe is what is known. Okay, so when something happens, something crumbles, now we have space for unknown. Now we have space for freakouts, right? So being an active participant and learning how to calm your nervous system, maybe at a new level, or maybe you have old wounds that are being triggered and you're like, ah, time to heal another layer of my past stuff. Okay, perfect. It's time for you to heal that shit. Heal that shit. Do it lovingly. Okay. That's the crumble. Next is the decay. I say decay because decay is sometimes an ugly process. And it can look like something is dead. It could look like something is very final and dead, over, gross, active decay, right? Decay is an active process as well. It is also the practice of letting something decay and sort of letting it do its thing, letting it decay over there, almost ignoring it lovingly, acknowledging that it exists, but you're not gonna go over and try to hurry up. You're not trying to make it decay faster, you're not trying to break it apart. Decay sometimes smells bad, right? And it's ugly. And at the same time, there are microorganisms that are breaking things down, acclimating it, creating new fuel, new fertilizer for what's next. So something has to totally disintegrate, decay, get ugly, get totally wrecked and disassembled to create and have space for something that's new. That decay creates a fertilizer. Fertilizer is where you can now step into flirting energy, flirting with what is next, imagination, allowing yourself to go there, go to the places that you actually desire, try on new concepts, try on new clothing is the best way to do this. Trying on new people. Do I see myself being friends with this person? Is this an outfit that I would wear? Oh my God. Trying something on in a store has the potential to completely revolutionize how you see yourself. This is the ultimate mirror work, literally how you see yourself. So you go into a store and you see all these potential identities, personalities, different textures, right? And I recommend you go to a buy-sell trade store if you can. Thrift stores, flea markets, are a little bit more advanced, I would say, but go to a place that has really cool, funky items that you can use to experiment, to play, to trust try things on with no real attachment. Okay. So you go in, you let yourself be attracted to what the hell you're attracted to. And it might be nostalgic, it might be expansive, it might be in the past totally outside of your comfort zone. It might have been something that you have sworn off in the past. Like, I will never wear hounds tooth, whatever it is. Allow yourself to grab that thing on the hanger and try it on in the dressing room. The dressing room can either light us up or betray us based on the lighting. Why do dressing rooms have the worst freaking lighting? So you're gonna try these things on with no judgment. Okay, you got to go in there, cleanse your energy, take a second, breathe because the dressing room brings up a lot of stuff. Body stuff, money stuff, identity stuff. This is all stuff that we coach on together, by the way. So when you try these things on, you're gonna allow yourself to be guided by your body's yes or no. Your body will tell you always. And if you're unsure, look at your body language. Look how you're trying to nudge or finesse or move something around. Your body will always tell you yes, I don't know, I don't think so, which is a no, or help to the no. Listen to those things. If you think something does work and you're like, yeah, this feels very comfortable. I warn you, that might be confirmation of what you already know. It could be your past self coming in and saying, hey, this is comfortable, this is past us, yes, yes, yes. But when you go in with intention of expansion, now you can be onto yourself and ask yourself, is this just comfortable? Like, do I have five of these tops already? Same kind of vibe? Or am I actually being an active participant in allowing myself to say yes to myself, saying yes to my desires, saying yes to my reinvention and moving in a way that's in alignment with who you are becoming, where you are going. And it might feel uncomfortable at first. That doesn't mean no. That means yes. That means try it and actively choosing that thing, buying that thing, investing in that thing, whether you actually wear it or not, is a vote for where you are going. You are voting for your reinvention. You're saying yes to this. A lot of items like this that are really expensive. I don't want you to beat yourself up for not wearing them immediately. I recommend that you do try them on when you get home. Maybe wear them in a low-risk environment, maybe when you're not leaving the house, or maybe to the post office, to the grocery store or whatever. I want you to try it on and be so gentle with yourself as you put it on your body, as you expand. Okay. Some pieces I've had that I'm like, oh my gosh, this is a hell yes. Absolutely love it. And then I'm going through my closet looking what to get rid of, what to donate, what to shed. And I'm like, no, this is mine. I like this energy. I'm just not fully ready to be seen out in public embodying this kind of energy yet. And those things have always come in clutch for me for the perfect opportunities. And I'm like, I'm so glad I had this thing for a year, even though I haven't worn it, because it is so me. And it's sort of like I jumped into the future, and future me was like, yeah, get that because you're gonna need that in a year. And I was able to vote yes to it, confirm, affirm her, and wear that thing. And it feels so good. The thing that nobody talks about in this new expansive, fun, flirty place is even though you are drumming up a lot of hope, you will also definitely experience some disappointment. Okay. You might also learn this from the world of dating when you're like, okay, I really kind of like this person. You're starting to like try them on as an as a partner, as a dynamic. You're thinking about them, you're feeling into them, you're like, hmm, does their lifestyle go with my lifestyle? Is there something that I would want to change and that might expand me? Like, is this person like super into drinking 64 ounces of water every day? And I want that for myself. Whatever it is, if it expands you, you can try it on, right? Try it on in your mind, in your fantasy, and see if it's a yes or a no. And sometimes you will try things, and after a month, you're like, actually, it's a no. That disappointment is real, and you gotta stop and take care of that disappointment. That is grief. The same grief of letting go of your past life will resurface in your fertilizer phase because you are now losing and letting go of the thing that you hoped would be right for you. That's okay. That is a part of the process that isn't regression. That is figuring out more of what you do like and what you don't like. Figuring out what you don't like is just, if not more important, as figuring out what you do like. It's redirection. Okay, it's putting you back on the path that you were always meant to go on, and you were always meant to explore that thing, and you were always meant to learn to let it go again. God damn it, it's so hard when you have to feel that disappointment again after maybe getting your hopes up or feeling a little bit of excitement. Sometimes you got to go through that because the excitement was the point. You might feel the grief harder and be like, oh, why is this happening? Ignore it, let it decay, let yourself feel the grief, cry about it, move about it, vent about it, do what you gotta do. Definitely take care of your body, especially stretch, move, feel into this. Don't avoid those feelings. You can't ignore yourself and tell yourself, I'm such an idiot, I can't believe I got all this hope up for this thing that I really wanted or this relation. Don't do that to yourself. Just feel it. Be ugly, ugly, cry about it, do what you gotta do. Trying on new clothes, trying on new. If let's say you're on the dating apps, that's a really great analogy to trying on different clothes because you're just trying on the idea of it. It's low cost, low risk, no one really gets that hurt, and it's free. You can do this all in your mind. Trying on clothes is absolutely free. You don't have to buy anything, but you get the results of having changed your self-concept, maybe 1%. And that 1% can do a lot for you. You might totally change how you see yourself, maybe even 10%. Oh my God, I'm elevated. I see myself differently now. Maybe you weren't somebody who used to wear skirts and you're like, oh my God, I'm actually loving skirts right now. And you're like, I'm a skirt person who wears beautiful femininity on my body. That's very different from the energy of the feminine, by the way. Femininity and feminine are different things. But we could talk about that on a different episode. There's no should here, it's just all experimental play. Nothing is right, nothing is wrong. You're just listening to your body, yes or no. And then you're obeying your body, yes or no. Sometimes that try-on is just a lesson. Sometimes that person in your life that you got excited about is just a lesson. Sometimes it just teaches you, oh, you actually really want this in a relationship where there's this kind of communication or this kind of nonverbal communication. All of it is for you to know yourself more deeply. This is an essential part of the reinvention process. Because if you aren't acknowledging that, you're gonna manifest and create a whole new identity and reinvent yourself in a way that you actually don't want. It's gonna be a mask, and that mask will fall off and you'll have to start over again. Literally, you will get sick from performing something that isn't true for you. If you have mysterious symptoms of tiredness, grogginess, you have literal physical ailments, um, sometimes even autoimmune diseases, those are results and symptoms of not being true to yourself and forcing yourself to do something that isn't actually what you want to be doing. Your body is a very loud expression of how you're living emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually, all the things. Immersion. Immersion and reinvention are two peas in a pod. Immersion is jumping into the deep end and immersing yourself in a new environment. Immersion is going to rapidly change your skill set, your new level of normal, the people you surround yourself with. Immersion, immersion, immersion. Get uncomfortable. Definitely wear something that you do feel comfortable and excited to wear. So at least in your body, you feel like you got it going on. That energy will take you so far. Okay. So when you are immersing yourself in a new environment, this could be networking, this could be in a new workout class that you've never tried before. That immersion is going to grow you faster than intellectualizing or doing any kind of thought work to outsource the experiential wisdom that you will get. Joe Dispenza says reading and consuming is knowledge. It's intellectual. And yes, that is powerful. That's the first step often. But wisdom is the lived experience in your body. The wisdom is what we care about in reinvention because it's the active thing that transforms you. Knowing about something, consuming about something, hearing about something can feel very active, like you're doing something. But when you're consuming, you're taking in. And when you are experiencing, you are utilizing that information and creating a different experience in your body, new neuropathways, new opportunities come to you because that's who you are being. That is the reinvention. You are becoming somebody that is in that frequency of who you want to be and becoming that person. Okay. This is where the magnetism comes in. This is literally the process of magnetizing things to you, is when you decide to do something one, two, three percent different than you used to. You can do you can be dramatic and change yourself 75% if you want. Go for it. That also counts as immersion. That's often how I do things. Biting off a little bit more than you can chew, that is gonna grow you faster than anything. But of course, it's not all about speed. You don't have to reinvent yourself overnight. And in fact, don't do that because that's gonna traumatize yourself and it's gonna cost you even more time to recover because when you do that, sometimes when we swing from one side of the paradigm to the other, it gives us a little bit of whiplash and we can't embody that new wisdom. We can't take it in or enjoy that growth that we've created for ourselves. So don't put yourself through whiplash. You don't got to do it overnight. In fact, small little things over and over is how you can keep your new results because that is growing your capacity to be that new person. Think about blowing up a balloon. If you just go too fast too soon, it will pop. That's like your capacity. Your capacity, when you grow it little by little, slowly, you're gonna be able to keep that expansion. Enjoy that expansion and it's gonna become more permanent, at least in this phase of your reinvention. Okay. You don't just reinvent yourself and then you're done. You will probably reinvent yourself several times along your life's journey, especially if you're listening to this podcast. So grow your capacity to be who you are becoming by allowing yourself to have those experiences and loving yourself through it, through the hope, through the disappointment, through the discovery, through finding out something isn't right for you. That's okay. It's all literally essential to your growth. Now I'm gonna give you some practical ways of how to do this because this can be a thing that you use to intellectually understand reinvention. I don't want you to do that. So I'm gonna give you some things you can actively do to practice this. One of my favorite quotes is it's easier to act your way into a new way of being than to think your way into a new way of acting, which is basically trying to change your thinking and hype yourself up and motivate yourself to work out, for example. Or you could just fucking work out and be like, I'm a badass. That's what I do. I don't even question my workouts. I go, I go on time, it's 45 minutes, and then I'm done. So when you are acting, you are creating that new self-concept for yourself, and you're overriding the urge to want to mentally masturbate in I'm doing something. I'm doing something. Okay. Skip that whole part, get to it. The easiest way, okay. I'm gonna give you those practical things I talked about now. Use hedonic pleasures. Hedonism is given a bad rap, but I'm gonna tell you how to use it on purpose. So things that give you materialistic pleasures, I want you to use it intentionally for yourself. The thing about these pleasures is it's not good if you get addicted to it, obviously, because that's gonna cause you so much pain. It's gonna send you into a tailspin and it's going to create a literal greedy, emotional, embodied experience in your body. You're gonna need more and more and more to upgrade, upgrade, upgrade. And I also want you to use this information to actually benefit you. Okay. So be aware that this can be taken the wrong way. But I trust you to use discernment and use this tool to help you grow and reinvent yourself. So, what scientists have studied is when you get a hedonic pleasure, okay? Let's say it is a room upgrade in a hotel and you're like, oh my God, we got the penthouse suite. Okay. And maybe you've never stayed at a penthouse suite and you're like, oh my God, this is so cool. That first dopamine of novelty and exploration is gonna hit you so hard. You're gonna be filled with all kinds of dopamine excitement, and your brain's gonna light up in ways that you haven't lit up probably in a long time. That's the part that gets a little addictive, okay? So be aware of this. Then after three days, what happens is the brain creates neuropathways that now become efficient. So now that you are used to this penthouse suite, you are now creating normalcy around it. So after three days, notice when you stay somewhere super beautiful, bougie, you're like, yep, this is a place I stay. It's boring. I go up to the 40th floor and then I use my key, and then I walk in and everything's beautiful and sparkly, and there's a view. Yep. After three days, we acclimatize, we acclimate to that new thing. If you've gotten a new cell phone and you're like, oh my God, it's so sparkly, shiny, yay. It has no scratches, it has full blah, blah, blah. And then after three days, you're like, yep, that's my phone. Can you hand it to me? So we are going to use this information to benefit us in the reinvention process. So, knowing this, I'm going to help you raise what I call your bougie baseline. Your bougie baseline is how you treat yourself. It doesn't have to be something crazy expensive. It can be something like, okay, every day I moisturize three times a day instead of two. Whatever is going to make you feel amazing, what's going to be in alignment with who you're becoming in your reinvention? And I want you to think three times bigger. What kind of habits does that person have? How do they treat themselves and give yourself that experience? When you give yourself that experience, you're going to use it as your new baseline way of being. So let's say you're moisturizing your face three times a day and you're like, I just love how this feels. I use my favorite moisturizer. It smells good. It's a little ritual. And you are, in essence, pampering yourself to that new level. Once you don't moisturize your skin three times a day and you go back to two, you are going to recognize that as this is below my baseline way of treating myself, which is your self concept speaking to you is hey, we do this three times a day. That's how we treat ourselves, that's what feels good, that's what I want, that's what I'm worthy of, and that's where I'm going. So creating a new baseline for yourself is going to help you explain. Expand your capacity, grow what you think is possible for yourself, how you treat yourself. And again, these hedonic pleasures, these things that are maybe even materialistic, you're going to use it intentionally, not as a status symbol, but rather as a treatment status symbol to yourself. This can be a certain lip gloss. It doesn't have to be crazy. Or I guess it could be crazy if you want to go hard on this. But again, beware of that whiplash. Don't do anything that's going to like make you regret it permanently, but start with the small things and look at how you can remove things. After all, reinvention is about removing things that no longer serve you. That's step one is letting go. So you can even go as far as just removing things from your fridge that are like, I don't remember when the last time I used this, remove it. This is a concept that I love to teach, and it's so simple. And it's going to help you be more minimalistic in what you accept into your life, even physically, because all things you have in your life, you have to take care of. Everything collects dust. So anytime you buy something new, you're going to have to dust that thing. And wouldn't we all love to dust a little bit less or have a little bit less burden on ourselves for things that we don't actually want or care about? Removing that thing is addition by subtraction. You are adding to your life by decluttering, by removing the things that are obstacles now in your life that energetically are heavy, that energetically create a blockage, that energetically you hate to clean all the time. Removing those things is going to add to the quality of your life. Remove them. Create a new baseline habit around it. I know for me, I have this rule in my home where I have a no-touch rule is when I enter the house, I don't put things down. I take off my shoes and I keep things in my hand and then I put them all away immediately. I don't let them have a first home and then a second home. I don't dump them all by the door. I immediately put things away. Even if I have to pee really bad, I put it all away and then I go pee. Okay. So you can start utilizing that new bougie baseline for yourself. Use whatever serves you here. Feng shui will say the same thing. If you keep stubbing your toe on the coffee table when you get up, that's bad feng shui. The energy is not able to move with grace because it's literally causing you pain. That is the same thing that we're talking about here with bougie is baseline. Bougie could be having less struggle or effort to get to your oatmeal in the morning. Is the oatmeal always in the back of the cupboard when you use it every day? But that shit in the front. The bougie is convenient, it is uh tailored to what you need, and that's treating yourself well. The last point I want to make about reinvention is you have to practice the Lulu. Is just being in your mind where you want to be. Don't use this as a form of escapism. Use this as a form of practicing who you are becoming. Okay, so you can surround yourself. I really want a vintage Mercedes Benz. I had one when I was younger and I absolutely loved it. It trained me to be bougie, probably. The leather seats, the smooth ride. I absolutely loved that car. I'm still sad that I don't have it. And now I want it again at this age. And I want something that feels luxury, but it's not necessarily new and it's unique to me. Okay. I'm not somebody who usually chases new brand name luxury things. It's not always interesting to me. So knowing that about myself, I let myself want the thing that is kind of niche. So I am practicing when I'm driving my current car, I'm in my Dululu, because when we're driving, we are in that autopilot mindset. I'm picturing what it feels like to be holding the steering wheel of that vintage Mercedes-Fence, that leather steering wheel. I'm feeling the smoothness of the ride. I'm picturing how the door slams when I close it like thunk. I'm picturing all these things and I'm going there in my mind. This is visualization. You can do this in meditation. You can do this even when your eyes are open and you're in a flow state. You are picturing what you want exactly. When you're working out, picture those muscles that you want to start seeing. Start looking for evidence of how that is already true. This isn't just the Lulu and a throwaway practice. This is literally how you will be able to keep those things when they come into your world. And I love Joe Dispenses' work for this because he does a lot of meditation on practicing who you are becoming. So you feel it now. And then the world, the universe has no other resistance or no other option than to give you something else. Okay. And so many of us want to be like, okay, I pictured it once. Why isn't it here? That's not how it works. Your nervous system has to acclimate to that new thing, that new way of being to keep it, to hold it. So if you've practiced this and you haven't created the result that you want, that means keep going. That means you haven't fully embodied all that it requires to be that person. So for example, my Mercedes, I haven't become the person that is willing to spend that money on that car right now or be the caretaker of that vintage car right now. And part of me is like, oh, that feels so good. It's exciting. And here's the thing: I'm giving myself the experience of the car before even ever having it. So it makes me less graspy and chasey around it. And it makes me actually more attractive to the car because I'm in a state of non-attachment. And I'm in a state of if it's if I have it, cool. If I don't have it, I'm cool too. I never have to experience lack of not having the car because I can go there in my mind. I can feel it. I can sensorily picture it. I can smell it. I can test drive. I can look on Facebook Marketplace. All of my Facebook Marketplace is covered in vintage Mercedes right now. And I'm like, oh my God, do I want a convertible? Do I want a dark cherry red one? Or do I want this cream one? Ooh, this one's 1974. This one's 82. Look at the lines on that one. I'm giving myself the experience to practice being the person who owns that, who has it, and it's a part of my physical world. You can do this too with your identity, with your whatever you are choosing to reinvent about yourself. This could be physically in your home. This could be in a relationship. You're picturing what it would be like to be in a healthy relationship or have a circle of friends that you really want to nourish and bond with. Use these ideas constantly every day and watch how rapidly you will start to evolve. So to wrap up the entire reinvention process, we have step one, let go. Step two, crumble, let it crumble. Step three, decay. Let it be stagnant. Let it keep crumbling. Don't resist it. Okay. Don't try to rush it. Sometimes we try to rush it and go back to our old life because we want to feel better. Practice that self-compassion, let it decay. That decay can look like dark night of the soul. Okay. If you know what that is, allow yourself to go there. Go to the depth, go to the darkness, find out what's there for you. It's not as scary as we make it seem in our mind, I promise. Fertilizer is the flirtatious, hopeful energy of reinventing what you want next. Thinking of new ideas that maybe you put on the back burner or maybe didn't fit in your life in the past. All those opportunities become open to you again. That's super fun. Allowing yourself to feel and giving yourself permission to be uncomfortable as you try those things. Give yourself grace when you have disappointment for what didn't work out. Get up, dust yourself off, try again, dust yourself off, try, you know. Okay, do this with your clothes. You can practice addition by subtraction. You can practice buying a new set of clothes that you're like, okay, these are my winter sweaters. I don't have any old memories in these. These are clothes that are going to serve me well to expand me and practice being that new version of myself. Try things on in that dressing room that you would have never tried on before. Or maybe you have somebody else's voice in your head, maybe like a parent or a spouse where you're like, they hated these kinds of shoes, but I love them. Fucking try them on for yourself. Maybe you buy them, maybe you don't, but the embodiment alone is gonna light you up in a way that you haven't felt in a while. It transforms you just by trying it on your body. So try it on. Don't judge it. Just let it be what it is, let it expand you. Get a little laugh out of it. Think about oh, so-and-so would hate this. And then move on with your day. Take a picture of it, even so that you have it in your memory. Immersion, immersion, immersion, immersion. I will say it over and over and over again. Jump into the deep end, bite off more than you can chew. Let yourself flounder for a second so that you learn how to swim. That's gonna give you a whole new skill set that's gonna rupture you from the past. And it's going to tell your brain, your body, your soul, your energy, we are in a new timeline now. We are in a new era. Let's feel the discomfort of this. And this is what expansion's like, baby. Okay. Let yourself be a little uncomfortable. Love yourself through it. You're a little scared. That's okay. That's your inner child. She just needs a little more reassurance that you got it. And you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Just being there in that new environment is enough. Just having your body there. You don't have to act. You don't have to do something that's going to alter your life dramatically. Just being there is exposure therapy. That exposure therapy is giving you new information and it's helping you face those previous fears that you once had. It's alchemizing them. Lulu fantasy. Picturing that thing. Okay, this can be in an airport where maybe you are flying somewhere that's kind of boring. You're like, I'm just going here for this reason. It's not really that fun. Imagine you're going on an adventure to a place you've always wanted to go to overseas. You're like, oh, I'm actually flying to Reno, but I'm actually going to Greece. And I'm going to be at LAX anyway. So why can't I just give myself a little entertainment and picture how amazing it's going to be to be in Greece and the ocean and the food and the nature and the architecture and the history. Like you can go there. No one's going to stop you and no one knows what you're doing. So allow yourself to practice that new identity and create those similarities of who you are today and where you're going. Do that all the time. Okay. There's no harm in it. And again, you are just practicing who you are becoming. That is what I have for you on reinvention. I am actively in a reinvention phase. I am doing this in my personal life, in my business, everywhere. So you can watch on Instagram if you want to kind of watch this happen before your eyes. As many of you have been with me for such a long time, you've watched several of my reinvention processes. Thank you for being here and for being along on the journey. And I also want to invite you to reinvent yourself just because you want to, or maybe because you're hitting a milestone, or maybe it's because the new year's coming. It doesn't matter the reason, only that you want to. And I would love to help you on this journey as well. We can coach together one-on-one and talk about all of the expansiveness, all of the regression, all of the feelings around it. This is what I do every single day with my clients. One-to-one coaching is really great for that because you have me there week after week talking about what did you try, what did you feel, processing that, and helping you think bigger because you can only create results from your current consciousness. Even Einstein says you can't solve a problem from the same consciousness that it was created. And we say you can't heal in the same environment that you got sick. These are the things that a coach does. These are the things I do with my clients all the time is help them think outside of the box, bigger, larger, to help them see not only where they're not seeing stuff, but to try on new identities they wouldn't allow themselves to try on before. This is what I do with my coaching clients. And you can start with a consult, use the link in the description below to see if we are the right fit, if we have chemistry, if we vibe, and if we're a good fit for coaching together. Okay, I will talk to you on the next podcast. Thanks for listening. 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