13. Hotter, Badder, Richer

Ready to trade “success on paper” for a life that actually feels alive? Holly invites you into a year-end reflection that’s equal parts tender and audacious, offering a fresh scorecard for 2026: joy as data, sleep as a truth detector, magnetism as feedback, and synchronicity as guidance. Instead of chasing harder, we explore how to ask for more—clearly, playfully, and often—and let the universe flirt back.

We break down self-imposed limits and the quiet rules that taught us to stay small, using a simple restaurant moment—try the wine before you commit—as a metaphor for everyday permission. Living solo becomes a catalyst for freedom: blasting music at 8 a.m., dancing while making coffee, and letting mirrors reflect a self who feels unsupervised and fully expressed. That embodied joy resets your baseline and shifts what you attract: richer friendships, better invitations, unexpected opportunities, and yes, the occasional friction from people who preferred the old you.

Holly shares how boundaries transform sleep and why healing makes self-betrayal impossible to hide in your body. A glowing aura isn’t magic; it’s alignment that draws a spectrum of attention. Your job is discernment. We look at repeating numbers, names, and uncanny overlaps as winks that say, keep going, think bigger, ask again. The message is simple: you’re allowed to want more and to pursue it without shrinking, even when it rattles others’ expectations.

If you’re craving a hotter, badder, richer year—measured in laughter, rest, deep connection, and aligned opportunities—this conversation is your blueprint. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs courage to ask for more, and leave a review to tell us your new measure of success. Want personalized support? Book a consult from the link in the description and let’s build your 2026 together.

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Year-End Reflection And Intention

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Welcome back to the magnetic mindset podcast, where spirituality style and strategy meet to help you be your most magnetic self. If you feel like you have achieved success on paper but are craving a deeper meaning and a life that feels alive, keep listening. The show is hosted by me, your coach, Holly Pendergast. Let's get into it. As I'm recording this, it's the last day of the year. And of course, I've been doing some reflecting, and you might be hearing this like early into January. But I wanted to take a moment just to recognize how much batter I got this year. And what I mean by batter is more daring, hotter, richer, happier. Oh my God. Like there are so many things that I use this year for, the year of shedding, where shit shed like crazy, that I knew needed to shed, but I was not brave enough to let go. But don't worry, the universe released it for me. And I kind of set a little um intention, a little prayer that, like, you know what, universe, you'd you freaking do it. I can't do it, you do it. And she did. She did it ruthlessly, and uh it opened up everything for me. So if you are too scared to do something, remember that you can ask for help. You can ask her, can you do this for me? Because I can't do it. And she will. She'll figure out a way to make that happen for you. Um, but this year is really what it has been time that I've been using to prep for 2026. So mostly through experience, I have been um newly obsessed with Legris, the hardest work I've ever done in my life, being a little traumatic, but it's so hard. And I'm doing it almost every day. And I'm really testing my own self-limits in every sense of the word. So when I say hotter, badder, richer, what I'm saying is I'm seeing what are my self-imposed limits and how can I test them? Like a toddler testing their parent, like a teen testing their parent. Like, are you sure about that? Let me fuck around and find out. Let me mess around and find out myself. And I'm asking this question that I thought was brilliant. I heard it from TikTok. Is coming from the approach of like, let me see what I can get away with. And this phrase has really opened up everything for me. I'm seeing how much can I flirt with the universe and how much will she flirt back? What can I get away with um in terms of asking, asking for support, asking for um delight, asking for more please. Here's another like small example that I don't know why, but I guess I wasn't, I didn't grow up in a big like wine environment. But I forget that you can try wines at a restaurant before you commit to a glass. And so opening that up allows you to taste more things literally. So when you are unsure, I mean, sometimes the waiter like asks you, like, oh, hey, um, do you want to try this before you commit? And I'm like, yes. But I forgot that I could ask for that myself without being offered. So what can I get away with is asking, how many wines can I try? Is it two wines? Is it three wines? I don't know. And even just saying that out loud, I can feel my blood pressure raise a little bit because I'm thinking, you shouldn't be asking for that. That's a lot more glasses, they're gonna have to walk, like all these ways in which I shrink to accommodate other people's feelings that I'm imagining, versus why not expand into discomfort, into this realm where I get exactly what I freaking want that's beyond what I think is possible now. So if you were raised in a household that like demanded you to humble yourself all the time, and you were always meant, and even a society, right? Growing up as a woman, you're like meant to be humble and don't ask for too much and don't be the loudest one in the room and don't take up too much space, but make sure you take up space, right? It's all suffocating, right? So when you expand even more than you think is possible, okay? And listen, this happens with every person, every client I've ever worked with along the way is very grateful for their success, right? They made it in this in like every sense of the phrase, they earned their success, and still there is more. I remember I was at this really interesting um brunch with a bunch of really successful people in my field. And um I was sharing something because there was kind of like a QA QA, and I shared my experience of being in this really beautiful place and how I actually did another event in that space years before. And I was kind of just like sharing and reflecting that, like, no matter how successful you are and how grateful you are, don't be afraid to ask for more, to want more, to allow yourself to want even more than you thought was possible, because we can get to this plateau where we tell ourselves, okay, that's good. Okay, I did that. Okay, now what's next? And we can get understimulated by being bored by our own success. And yes, this may be a first world problem, but it doesn't really matter. It just means that you have more to do, you have more to strive for, you have more that's out there for you that is exciting you, that is maybe your passion that you were telling yourself that you can't right now. So moving towards that is what we're gonna be talking about today. And at the same time, I want to reflect on measures of success that I'm using in my life to feel the gratitude. Because we know when we're in gratitude, we are in the energy of having an abundance rather than a place of like yearning and desire, because that shows us where our lack is. And if we're feeling lack, we're gonna step into that desperation energy, we're gonna chase it and we're gonna try to action it into reality, right? So here are some measures of success that I'm gonna offer you that I'm taking time to like celebrate with you, but also um, you can use as a measure of success, and you can also use as assignments to give yourself to start feeling more success so that you can open yourself up to these new ideas that the universe is offering you to grow into, to step into. It might be like a totally different avenue in your business or adding on a hobby that you've been telling yourself doesn't matter. Okay, whatever it is for you. So after this year of shedding, I have found myself so much freer. And the actions that come from that have actually kind of surprised me, where I'm like, oh, this is new for me. I haven't like felt this maybe ever in my life, or I've never felt um like I could do it. And even though, yes, adulthood tells you, like, hey, you can do what you want now, make your own decisions, I subconsciously had all of these narratives in my head that's like, you can't just like have that much fun on an everyday basis. Like you have to work, you have to be serious, you cannot be enjoying your time this way. And something about now living by myself, which I had never done before, it leaves me feeling totally and completely unsupervised at all times. Because when you have, when you're in a relationship, you're living with somebody, or you have a roommate, you are in the presence of somebody else, even if you're in a different room with the door closed. You energetically know that person is there and you behave as if that person is there, right? And you try to do your best and you try to like respect each other's space, but even when they're not there, you know that it's a shared space. So now that I have my own space, I am working in the kitchen at 8 a.m. to whatever the fuck mute to whatever music I want. And I have two Alexa's now that I have that are like small speakers. I don't know why. I've always loved music, but I've always had it in my headphones or in my ear pods. And now that I am living alone, I am using the freedom to exercise the ability to command Alexa to play whatever song I want whenever I want. And I could tell her, okay, and this is this sounds like technology that's been around for a while. I have not utilized this technology, okay? I don't like the fact that it's listening to me and I've been very against it, but I digress. Okay, so I've been using my Alexa, and I feel so much more empowered to choose a super fun hip-hop song. And then I like rotate to a singer-songwriter song that's super sad and depressing. And then I'm like over to Bob Dylan, and then I'm back at Megan the Stallion, and I get to really step into and ride the wave of the frequency that I'm craving at that moment. And there's something so satisfying about that that I feel empowered. I am letting loose, I am allowing myself to be who I am, which is a lot of things, and it's ever fluctuating. So allowing myself to, and not even just allowing myself, finding myself dancing as I'm brushing my teeth, finding myself taking a long time to finish pouring my coffee because my chemics is taking a minute, and then I'm like getting distracted by like dancing um and using the mirror work. Okay, I have a fascination with mirrors. So there's mirrors like all over my apartment. I put some on my kitchen, on my um my refrigerator. So like witnessing myself having fun as well is giving me an opportunity to see myself in a whole different light as I shed 2025 and really step into 2026. Like I'm only getting better, healthier, happier. And even though the conditions of the world and the unpredictable future, and even though conditions of my life are never certain, like the circumstances in our life are never fully promised, right? This is every human in the world, and the world is in a wild state, I'll just say, I still get to practice joy and find myself delighted by how much joy I get to experience. So that is a measure of success for me. Another measure, pissing people off, meeting people, they have a new idea of you. They, as a human, are categorizing you and putting you in certain boxes of which they think you belong. And then you tell them something, and it's not exactly what they thought you were gonna say or what you chose to do, and it rattles their perception of you. So this has been happening with me, like as a theme of this year of like throughout time, several people have shown to me their reactions to my decisions, and they are rattled. Some of them pissed off, confused, and I know it has nothing to do with me. Here's the other part is that I'm able to really almost shield myself, not from a protective or defensive place, but like tell myself and mentally in the moment of when they're sharing, like, oh, that's not a good idea or whatever. I'm able to be like, I unsubscribe to that belief system that they are operating from, that they are trying to put onto me because they think that that's the best, safest place to live. And they are coming from a place of love and protectiveness, but I am finding out in my life experiences and who I choose to share them with that not everybody is going, especially in the new people and the old, old friends too, old relationships. Not everybody is going to come with you, right? So sharing small pieces of my life is pissing people off. And that just shows that I have grown and outgrown myself even a month ago, even two months ago, okay? Definitely this past year. But when you outgrow your old self, your old identity, your old self-concept, and people are hearing about it and they are confused by it, it is pointing out their own insecurities, their own limits, their own, hey, she's not allowed to do that because I'm not allowed to do that, because I've never allowed myself to do that. Those are the things that are coming up for them, and that is totally okay. And I've had a friend remind me too, um, like not to shrink myself just because somebody gets pissed off. They either need to remove themselves from the friendship, or they get to step into their own curiosity or be mature about it and in the moment be like, hey, this is my shit. This is not her shit. So I'm gonna be holding space for myself as I get triggered a little bit and witness her expansion and use that to inspire me instead. That is their job. And somebody who doesn't know how to do that um is not going into my future. So that's where I get to learn. And yes, there is more grief with letting go of friendships that you think are gonna come with you. So pissing people off via either the internet when you're posting about your business or your life or marketing or your experiences, and in your everyday in-person life too. I'm also finding as a measure of success for me, is like I have gotten a little bit of the ick with social media. And I don't, I maybe come back to it in a big way in 2026. I don't know, but I have really gotten like almost an aversion to hosting. And again, I'm not saying I won't go back to it, but I'm really just enjoying in-person connections way more. They are making me richer physically, emotionally, financially. It's enriching my soul with like connection, and that to me is rich. So when I say bad or hotter, richer, I'm talking about rich in deep love and connection for new people in my life. And I'm talking about having amazing memories, being rich in memories and experiences and laughter and hugs and that deep sense of emotional connection to me is rich, is having relationships that do fit me, having relationships that I can share big things. And they're also telling me, hey, you can even dream bigger than that, or hey, that is right on par for you, or I see this for you, or yes, that caliber of experience is exactly who the like you know the phrase, um, you are exactly who the fuck you think you are. I love that phrase because it's saying yes to you thinking in a big broad energy and matching those experiences to you is like an absolute yes. It's just alignment. Another measure of success, sleeping deeply throughout the night. When, and this is for me, people have lots of sleeping issues, it's due to many different things, but I know that when my subconscious is at peace, I sleep through the night. When I am wrestling with something, I'm waking up throughout the night, I'm waking up in the middle. Or if my physical body is not at peace, I will wake up throughout the night. When I, for some reason, don't have enough water, which I drink a lot of water, my calves Charlie horse, and I wake up in the middle of the night and I'm like, my body is not at peace. I need to make sure I drink more water tomorrow. Whatever. The inner world is always going to reflect into the body and show you physical uh results, right? Like in your physical body, but it's also energetically in your sensory being, you will have ailments when you are not at peace on the inside. Okay. Sometimes we get injured from the outside, like we injure, you know, our skin or something. Like we get, you know, uh, we trip and fall and we like scrape our knee, right? Sometimes that is an external pain that we get to internally manage. And most of the time, what I'm talking about here is being at peace internally so that your body can rest externally. So in your mind, in your energy, in your soul, knowing and trusting your life and your experiences and liking who you are, naming boundaries and being at peace with them, even though your ego might be like, no, we really want that thing. But my actual inner self, my most pure sense of myself is like, no, I'm so glad you made that boundary because it doesn't align. And even though it may upset somebody, you are at peace, baby. Go to bed, sleep through the night. Because when I abandon myself or I people please or do something I don't want to, I literally lose sleep over it. I my subconscious will not let me live it down. And here's the thing that nobody talks about when you are healing is that the more you heal, the more your body will not allow you to people please, to self-betray, to do something you don't want to fucking do. And it's something that I can't perform anymore. I can't poker face anymore when my body's saying no. Because my ego that wants to be in good standing with people might say, Oh, it's fine. You should just like tolerate this just a little bit, or like, oh, be nice. They're being nice to you. You should absolutely like say yes to their invitation, but my whole body's like, that doesn't sound like a great idea, or even just like that doesn't sound fun, or I know I'm gonna have more fun hanging out with this other person. This person isn't quite what I would enjoy. Like, I even just saying this and like hypothetically imagining this, my jaws tight, my muscles are tightening, my I'm like having sort of a like repellent energy go out, even as I talk about this hypothetical situation. So the more you heal, the less you can betray your own intuition, your own knowing, your own body, the decisions that you make for yourself. Sleeping through the night for me has been a measure of success, even when I'm in tumultuous experiences or experiences of the unknown, but I know it's what's right, right? Because the journey's not gonna always be happy alignment, like, yeah, that feels great. It's not gonna be like the shoes fit perfectly. It's not gonna be like, oh, perfect pair of jeans fit perfectly, sleep through the night. It's gonna be like, hey girl, you didn't like how you did this, and you are going to understand it in your subconscious tonight, in your sleep, because your subconscious is trying to figure out and solve problems as you sleep. That's what it does. And lots of times when it's bothering you, it will wake you up in the middle of the night. And then that's when your conscious brain that's aware and awake, um, wants to ruminate on it. And fix it too. So the better you protect your own boundaries, the more you speak what's true for you, the better sleep you're gonna get. Okay, that's a measure of success. Another measure of success, glowing aura when your energy is bright and it's magnetizing good things. Now, when you are healing, when you are feeling all good, you are gonna attract everything. You're gonna attract negative, positive, and neutral. Okay, it's your job to discern, discern, discern, discern. And in that discernment makes you honor what's true for you, which makes you a badder bitch, makes you hotter because you are saying yes to what you want and no to what you don't want. And it's making you richer, either financially or emotionally. I have gotten more attention. This is an everyday life, okay? And it's not all like it's never that I'm doing this for attention, but now that I am in this energy of like freedom and expansion, I am now attracting people to me. Okay. This is people that randomly pop up and talk to me at the grocery store, which never happened before. My energy used to be so closed off, so hyper-focused on my business and my personal life. And it was just an energy of like closed-offness. And I'm not even looking for this attention. Okay. I'm not going out being like, how many people are gonna ask me for my number today? Never is that my idea, but it's what happens when my energy is at such a high frequency of peace and magnetism and feeling good in my body and in what I'm wearing and how I've taken care of myself for the day. This is what happens is I get delighted all the time. Now, this could be attention like actual humans looking at you. It can be opportunities of people coming to you. It comes in the um, it comes in the form of invitations to really amazing um events and free stuff. People love to give me free things and I get the best parking spots. Um, people reach out to me now and are saying, hey, this post really changed my life. Thank you for saying this. And those are the things that are coming to me because I am feeling so good. And when you get to tap into this energy too, number one, it will be refreshing for you. Your magnetism and stepping into it is always for you first. But secondly, it spreads so wide that people come to you and they thank you for being who you are, or making the first initiation in the conversation, or just delighting them and commenting on somebody's shoes at the grocery store. Like it's not always a big thing, and sometimes it is big things, but it's the little things that help you stay in your magnetism and operate from your magnetism and spread it to the world. And the last thing that I want to mention to you that I want you to start looking out for and stop ignoring, because lots of you successful women, yes, you own your success and you recognize how hard it was and you kind of put blinders on to the other synchronicities and signs that your intuition and source are trying to show you. So another measure of success that I have been really looking at and honoring are synchronicities. Signs become very clear and frequent for me. This is sometimes catching the clock words like one, one, one, two, two, two, three, three, three, five, five, five. Those are the ones that I catch a lot. Um, but it can also be like, hey, this person has the same name, or this person also grew up in your hometown and you never knew them, or all of these kinds of synchronicities that come together are here to say and confirm yes, yes to this, or look out for that, or this was absolutely not a mistake. Whether it's a lesson or a blessing, it doesn't matter. The synchronicities are the patterns revealing themselves to you and showing you, hey, universe is working in your favor. It's kind of a wink and a nod to yes, you're right to believe that things are working out for you. Yes, this is a nod to say you can think bigger, you can want more. This person is here to show you something, and it's going to be either delightful and fun and happy, or it's going to show you something about yourself that might feel negative in the moment, but you're going to learn for it from it and it's going to take you to the next place because you need this little lesson, baby. You need this little muscle that's going to take you into your next level of success. So measures of success from 2025 that I'm honoring are throwing ass in the kitchen at 8 a.m., pissing people off, sleeping through the night, having a glowing aura. This is also like amazing skin for me, too. I notice when I'm feeling really good, my skin feels brighter. Um, delighting in invitations, opportunities that come for you, things that are sliding into my inbox, my email, text messages of people saying, Hey, I want to give you this. Hey, do you want this? Hey, I know you mentioned this. Here's an amazing opportunity. Uh, getting an extra croissant, getting extra, it's it can be big, it can be small, doesn't really matter. Those are my measures of success. Feel free to honor the same ones. Feel free to steal whichever ones you want and put them into intention and activate them this year, even starting with today, whatever day it is for you. And allow yourself all that permission to create a better, hotter, richer life, full of even more of what you do want. And honoring the stuff that is hard too. Giving yourself the grace, giving yourself the space, allowing yourself to have more pleasure. And we just talked about this in my previous podcast episode called Pleasure Intolerance. Maybe that is gonna come into 2026 for you. Okay. That is what I have for you. Be better, be richer, be hotter, let me know how it goes. And of course, having a coach, accountability, and somebody to tell you the truth is gonna be a really great way to boost all of this for you. I would love to coach you in the year of 2026. And you can do that by scheduling a consult to work with me. The link is in the description below. Talk soon. Thanks for listening. And if you've enjoyed today's episode, hit the plus sign at the top of this podcast to follow the show and share an episode with a friend. For a daily touch point, follow me on Instagram at coach.with.holly or TikTok at coachwithholly. For more resources and offers, visit coachwithholly.com. And if you want to get coached by me, book a consult so we could talk about working together. Use a link in my podcast description below. Talk soon.