14. Your Inner GENIUS lies in this energetic intelligence center in your BODY.

Ever notice how the smartest plan on paper can still feel wrong in your body? We dig into the limits of head-only decision making and open a door to the intelligence most of us ignore: P*SSY WISDOM. This isn’t theory for theory’s sake. It’s a practical path for breaking plateaus, easing burnout, and choosing what actually fits—even when it doesn’t look “realistic” to anyone else.

We share how to recognize the ego’s hunger for status, why it doesn’t need to be demonized, and how to stop letting it outrank your true north. You’ll hear stories from creative and coaching work that show why business is more experiential than transactional, and how aligned relationships lead to better outcomes than rigid, one-size-fits-all promises. If you’ve ever said yes to the wrong client or clung to a tidy plan that drained you, this conversation will help you spot the signs earlier and choose differently.

You’ll also get simple, repeatable practices to access body-led clarity in minutes: breath, touch, and clean questions that cut through noise. 

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Beyond Logic: Meet Your Body’s Wisdom

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We're going to talk today not only about energy centers, but where your wisdom lives in your body. So, so many of you know your intuition is going to lead you right, but your brain is the thing that you've been using to drive you to all of your success. And in our culture, and especially in patriarchy, we are told that logic is the way to do everything, that you need to remove your emotions and follow the logic. And that works for some things. It actually works fabulously for a lot of things in our world, but it's not the only thing. And I'll never forget when I was in this coaching program and had this brilliant coach, and he was saying, There are different intelligence centers in your body. For example, your heart, your brain, and your gut. And your brain is the dumbest one. And so when I say intelligence centers, what I mean is where your actual connection with source and wisdom and your next step and your next evolution does not lie in your brain. And in yoga, we know that we call it the monkey mind, where your brain is just having thoughts, thoughts, thoughts all day, 24-7, even in your sleep, your brain is processing things, your subconscious is alive and well, doing all kinds of things for you, which is a beautiful thing. But when you are evolving, when you are growing, when you are intentionally transforming to become the next evolution of yourself, you don't want to use your brain and ask questions from your brain to your brain about what's next, because it's going to give you the things that you should do based on your past and based on what you think is possible versus what you know is next for you. Thinking, and even in cognitive behavioral therapy, this is where we really examine the think, feel, act cycle. And yes, that's important to understand what you're thinking because that affects your beliefs, right? And your beliefs affect how you move, the decisions you make, subconscious and consciously. But what we're going to talk today about is more so getting out of your brain and into other intelligence centers in your body. And we call these chakras, right? But specifically, we are going to be talking about not only your gut, but your pussy wisdom. Now, this word pussy holds a lot of power. It has a lot of negative connotation, but it also holds a ton of power. And I'll never forget when I read this book a couple years ago, and I've been integrating all of its wisdom ever since. And I go back to it all the time to get little nuggets of wisdom. This book is called Pussy a Reclamation by Regina Thomas Hower, I think that's how you say it. And it broke my brain open. Okay. It broke my brain open to look at how I have been prioritizing thinking, thinking, thinking and using my brain as the main motivator in my life. And that created a ton of burnout for me. Burnout, stagnation, which led to like strict and body ailments and aching and injuries that I couldn't figure out how to heal because I was just in such overdrive from listening to my brain and following a more logic analytical way of living versus living from the wisdom of my own pussy. So read that book if you haven't. It's kind of gonna inform us into more ideas. So if you want to dive down there, perfect. But I want to give you an example because the reason this is coming up for me is because I heard this guy saying, and you've probably heard this saying too, is like when a guy says, Well, if I'm thinking from my dick, and that is makes so much sense, and we hear this all the time, and it's an expression that we all kind of know. I was thinking, how often do we say, if I think from my pussy? Because your pussy does have a true north. It has clear yeses and no. And what clouds all of that, we doubt what it wants. We tend to use the brain's logic to follow that. Well, I shouldn't want that. Where, well, is that normal to want? Or why do I have to want this thing that nobody else wants? This doesn't make sense, right? Making sense is a very um, it's an expression that is pointing to the logic isn't going to logic here, right? And that's the brilliance is the pussy does know what you want, what is next for you. Your full body, yes and no, comes from this intelligence center. You can also think from your ego, you can also think from your brain, you can think from your heart, you can think from your gut. So, this expression, if I'm thinking from my dick, just opened up for me all of these other connections of why don't we have the expression for us that if I'm thinking from my pussy, I would choose this. And the pussy is very clear. She knows what she wants, what she doesn't want, what is a hell no, what's a hell yes. Our ego is socially motivated. And I, the word ego also gets a bad rap. So the ego wants you to survive, and it's a primal part of us that is really connected to human connection, and human connection is something we need to survive. We are pack animals as humans. So your ego is going to want the highest status, and it can be very loud. The ego is the thing that you use to compare yourself around other people and is wanting to just climb, climb, climb to get that status to know, so your subconscious can know that it's safe. So we don't want to demonize the ego. The ego gets a bad rap. The ego can be fun, even, but we want to just know, ooh, what am I making this decision out of? Does my ego want this thing that I kind of know is bad for me? Does my heart know, that's gonna break your heart? And your ego's like, yeah, but it would be fun. And does your gut say immediately, no, I don't want that? That's not good for us. Um, and do you let your brain, your ego, your status talk you out of what you inherently know is true? Your pussy is a lot more grounded, at least for me. Yours, your pussy might be doing different energy for you, okay? It's gonna be different for everyone. And I want you to just keep tuning into and tapping into what is true for you because we're all gonna want different things, different desires. And the thing with being a pack animal, human that thrives on connection and needs it to live and grow. Otherwise, we get things like depression and we get sick, right? When you are not in tune, you will default to what you've seen in the past and what the collective wants you to do next. So the thing about the collective is it has created social norms of ideas that are attainable for you, right? And we know this because we hear things like, oh, that's not realistic, or oh, that's Dululu. And every time I hear somebody say that, I'm like, for you. And I've really had to train my brain to think this way because I used to believe other people that you know what, you're right. Listen, you have gone before, you are wiser, you are older, you've made more money maybe in this business. So I'm gonna listen to you because it sounds like you know what you're talking about. And they do, but only for themselves. So when you are taking advice from somebody else, when you are learning from somebody else, when you are asking or putting an idea out there, make sure you protect that idea with your pussy and your heart, because your brain will want to, and your ego will want to maybe even share that idea to get solid confirmation or to get the validation or to get somebody else to second it or say yes and give you that sort of approval or permission to move forward. But your pussy doesn't give a fuck. She's like, This is what I want. Okay, let's do it. Okay, why are we not doing it? I'm sorry, what? And so when you tap into this, you are able to honor what you want and let the mystery of life give you even more than what you bargained for, even. So our desires, our true innate desires that live inside each and every one of us, live in our body. They don't live in our brain. And we can say the body is the brain. I heard that too, and I was like, oh, okay. So it's not just how I'm thinking intellectually in my brain, but really from a place of intelligence, of genius, of what I'm here to do, what my personal purpose is, and not even purpose from a place of productivity, so to speak, but really like what you are here to share and to share your unique gifts with the world. Now, these things aren't going to make sense logically all the time. That's why when you are starting to entrust your decisions to your pussy, and you can start small, definitely start with your style, start with where you want to spend your time, where you don't want to spend your time, your hell yeses and your hell no's will always lead you to something that you want or better. She's never gonna betray you. It's always gonna lead you to grow and it's gonna give you that satisfaction of honoring what you want. And that is what builds trust with yourself. That is how you build trust with yourself, is honoring what she wants instead of letting your brain talk you out of it and letting logic be the thing that is taking priority in all of your decisions here. Where we get mixed up is when we listen and put on a pedestal, business advice, such as, oh, it this is transactional. Business is transactional. You got to remove emotion, you got to move on, you got to listen to the rejection, you got to dust yourself off. And yes, you need to do that, but the way that you do it is where you will learn yourself better and you will trust yourself better and allow the universe to co-create with you versus you, what I call manhandling, your manifestation, your journey, what's next? I have always believed that business is not transactional whatsoever. And that's because I've had two businesses where I was very close to the person. So in my past life, I did photography for 10 years and I did boudoir, I did portraits, I did weddings, and I was working with women that I had to help them feel comfortable so that they could be on camera in a way that would show the best expression or truest expression of them. And that can't be transactional. If I went in there like a robot and was like, hey, pose like this, do this, it that session would not have gone well because I wouldn't have been able to help that person in front of my camera feel comfortable so that they can feel comfortable in their skin and be the most beautiful expression of themselves, which is their calm, natural state. Some people do operate from a place of transactionalism. And I've seen it when I've assisted other photographers where I was like, wow, they just really want to get the shot and they see this human in front of them as a way to model, but not just model like to serve a purpose and move on with the day. And I've always just really rejected that in my soul, and I don't, I can't operate that way. Seeing people as an ends to a mean or disposable or just another client that's gonna pay their bills, or you know, I just have never been able to do that. And there's a reason for that is because me as a highly sensitive person, I've always been very in tune with what's gonna serve them the best, what's gonna serve me the best from our highest calling for both of us. There's a reason why our paths have crossed. Let's find it out. And there are times when I have had to take on clients where it was not an aligned client. I needed to do it so that I could pay my bills and I could eat, right? And there's no shame in that. There's not gonna be 100% alignment all the time, but there is also saying no to things that you don't absolutely need because it's sort of a challenge from the universe. Are you gonna choose misalignment or are you gonna choose alignment? I can't even tell you how many times where I've said no to something that I probably should have said yes to if I were thinking from my brain and logic. And what came was an even better opportunity that was more prosperous for me. That if I would have had said yes to that thing that was not lighting me up, I wouldn't have not been able to accept the new job that was even better for everyone and paid more. Do you see what I'm saying here? I see business as trading experiences. So, as humans, what we're here to do is have experiences, experience our senses, experience being human, experience being human next to another human in collaboration with other humans. And this isn't something that you can make transactional. And the thing that's sort of hard with business is when you try to outline a specific exact result that a client is going to get, yes, it does paint the picture. Yes, it shows them what's possible and it teaches them how to think bigger. I absolutely think that is in of service to the client and humans in general. But the experience isn't something that I can promise you because the experience is up to you. The experience is up to where you want to take our adventure and what you are willing and needing to experience at that point in time where our paths cross. So your all of your past experiences have led you to the point to even listen to this podcast. So, what's next for you is gonna be an amazing thing that your pussy already knows and is taking you on an adventure towards. Do you know exactly what it's gonna look like? No, that's why it's called an experience, right? Even when you book an experience, let's say to a massage, you really don't know. Am I gonna get a masseuse or a massage therapist that is gonna have the right touch that I need to relax into my body? Or are they going to be rushed? Or is their hand gonna be too skinny for the knots that I have and I need somebody with thicker hand? You know what I'm saying? There's different kinds of experiences that you can't know the outcome until you experience it. And there's no way to fully control it into being the perfect thing that your brain is imagining. So, how we change lives comes through trading experiences and guiding other people through experiences. And this is exactly what I do in my coaching programs. That's why I have three month and six-month programs, is because I can't tell you how fast your transformation is going to come. I can't tell you exactly what it's gonna look like because it hasn't happened yet. And I haven't been able to be in front of you to ask you the questions to open up a totally different avenue that maybe you haven't considered yet because your brain was fixated on this idea that you were taught to dream about. When we work together, I am the kind of person that rips you up intellectually, helps you let go of the things that aren't working because your brain keeps telling you you should be chasing and you haven't created the results yet. And I help you tap into what do you actually really fucking want, and help you tap into your pussy wisdom because your full body yeses and no's are always going to direct you closer and they're gonna take you on the journey of warmer, warmer, warmer, hot. That's what I do with my clients. There is no perfect six-step ways to get you to this result. And the people that sell you that are thinking from their brain. And again, yes, the brain is powerful. Yes, sometimes you need the structure, but when you've gotten to a point of success and you haven't been able, you're maybe at a plateau, you haven't been able to see what's next for you. This is why, because you've maxed out the power of the brain and you're ready to step into a different intelligence center, which is your pussy. How you can tap in and tune in just right now, today, is get quiet with yourself, maybe set a timer, five minutes, three minutes even, okay, just to tap in. You don't have to do a full-on exposure therapy to what you need to know, but even just placing your hands on your pussy, just one even, and just holding it just like you would put your hand on your heart and like let that energy center expand. And listen, if you're a little too nervous, that's fine. Okay, social conditioning is strong. It's gonna it has told you all kinds of things about your pussy. Okay, I understand that. Okay, place your hand on your heart and see what comes to the forefront. What message do you need to know? What have you been ignoring? What have you been neglecting? And your hand on your pussy does the same thing. When you were quiet, maybe put on some meditation music, close your eyes, and give yourself a moment just to touch that energy point and say, I'm listening. What do I need to know? What have you been needing to say that I've been quieting? Okay. And you don't have to rush it. She will come to you sometimes. It's like when you've been dying to say something and somebody asks you a question, you're like, oh my God, you blurt out something. Something sometimes it's like that. And sometimes it's a much more mellow, slow opening up. And sometimes you need to build trust with her, right? Give her time, encourage her, like a cat that you're trying to pet that's like hissing at you and is like mad and is like doesn't trust you. That you know what? Meet yourself where you're at and take time to go slow, approach softly, approach with openness, not judgment, and let her speak. What does she want today? And the more you connect with this, this intelligence center, the louder and clearer messages you will get. So lead with your pussy. Okay. Stop thinking from your brain, ego, heart, and just give your pussy some air time because if you've created a ton of success, yes, your brain is very loud, and it's the most go-to, and it's the tool that you've utilized the most. So it's the sharpest tool, maybe in your tool shed right now, because you've practiced using it's like a muscle, right? So now we are just looking at other, so to speak, muscle groups of intelligence, and we are going to shift the focus and ask different questions at different energy centers in our body. So ask your pussy what's next? Is this what we want still? Do we want this moving forward? Is this moving me closer or is this giving me comfort based on what I know in the past? I've noticed the hardest thing for my clients to do is not reflect, is not look at what isn't working. It's not avoiding. My clients have no problem looking at what's going on in their businesses and in their life. It's harder to conceptualize a new, better, more beautiful way of living than it is for y'all to try to change your thoughts on what's happening so that you can like it better and be less miserable being miserable. I don't want to help you be less miserable being miserable. What my Job is as your coach is help you imagine a new way of living and move towards it. Because you can try to make yourself less less miserable while being miserable. And sometimes you have to do that out of survival, but that's not what your work is. Your work is how do I imagine a new way and start to collect evidence on how that is possible for me? How can I practice the new way of imagining what's out there for me? Maybe that's a better schedule, more deeper sleep, more satisfying sex with your partner, more satisfying meals for your belly, for your nourishment, enjoying working out, whatever you are working on right now. Imagining a new body composition where you are strong and feeling energized. I know so many of you have body stuff like this because I did too. And this was something I have worked so diligently on in an obsessive way sometimes, and then a way where I've had to let it all go and I've come back to it. And I really feel like my body stuff this year, or in the past maybe like four months, I've really come around to a really healthy way, even healthier, because I've done so much work on this of eating, moving my body, and I feel so powerful in my body. I feel leaner in my body, I feel strong in my body, even in my 20s or in my teens when I was doing a ton of ballet, tap jazz, all the things, and I was even doing yoga too. Like I feel the best I've ever felt in my body because I number one, I'm not overworking it. I don't have injuries, I feel very correct and good in my body. And what I mean by correct, because that word can trigger some of us, right? Is like, yes, when I looked at myself, I recognized yes, this is what I feel like when I'm at my natural weight and my the strength that feels good for my body. I don't want to build more muscle, I don't want to lose muscle. This feels like right on par with how I feel most comfortable in my body. That is something I've had to learn over and over and over and over and over again. And yes, you can change what you're eating and feel good in your like intestines and in your organs. But when you feel good in your body, your organs and your outer body starts to reflect that, it's a whole other level of satisfaction because you know the care and the love and the mindset of speaking to yourself well, honoring your word, developing beautiful self-discipline that has you committed to your routine, your workout, what you're eating. And that is a level of deep respect that you cannot pay for. You cannot, you cannot rush. You have to do that experientially, day by day, decision by decision, meal by meal. Your pussy will also have wisdom on what you should eat, how you should move your body. Your brain might have different ideas based on what you intellectually know, based on what you think you should be eating. And sometimes if you don't have nutrition information, yeah, you gotta learn a couple things. But after that, you have to know what does my body want? What is here for me? Why am I wanting to choose something that I know is junk and is gonna make me feel bad? Okay, there must be some emotional avoidance going on. Let me hold that part of my body. Maybe you are understimulated and bored, maybe you're anxious, maybe you're stressed and you're wanting to eat or avoid something, right? Feeling into your body is how you will start to make the best decisions for yourself. It takes you to the new thing. Like I'm saying, when you are using your brain, it can only get you so far. Imagining that new way and honoring it, that is the hardest part. I would have never thought if you would have told me five years ago, hey, you're gonna be in the best shape of your life in 2026. I would have been like, What? Why? Or you're gonna have these muscles, you're gonna be able to see your six packs a little bit. Your, which I've never had a six pack of abs ever in my entire life. And I would have been like, no, what are you talking about? I've never been able to see that part of my body. I would have been like, what do you mean I'm gonna be at this weight and strong and healthy and not low-key having an eating disorder, right? I would have been like, what do you know? That's not that's not a thing for me. I can only achieve that by doing these things that betray my body, and I don't do that anymore. And I had to imagine by seeing other people do it in a healthy way, and then starting to apply those habits from the intellect of what my pussy wants, not my brain, not my ego, not my heart, even. Because sometimes the heart can baby myself, I could baby myself too much to where I go into avoidance. So honoring this will create a new reality for you in whatever department you want: your schedule, your body, your relationships, your work, your scheduling, all of it, your client relationships. You have to imagine a new way. And that's sometimes the hardest part. And that's the work that we do together when we're coaching, especially for those things that you think are not possible, that you've just been like dealing with. Maybe it's like, I want to be public speaking more, or I want to actually start this new hobby, right? Imagine not having nerves around that. Imagine you being fully confident on stage giving a speech to thousands of people where you aren't sweating profusely, where you aren't feeling so much imposter syndrome. That is possible for you. I've done so much work on public speaking as well, because I used to be so shy that in school people thought I was low-key mute, like especially my teachers, right? They were like, I don't wonder she doesn't raise her hand. She's super quiet. Even when she comes talk to me, one-to-one, she's doing great in school, but I can't get her to talk. And I used to be painfully shy, painfully socially anxious. I would be invited to things, I would cancel them, not for any reason, other than I was just so anxious about connecting with other people, being seen, being perceived, wearing the right thing. And now people are saying and think I'm extroverted. They're like, Are you a Leo? You must be a Leo. And I'm like, No, I'm Aquarius. And they're like, Oh, okay, that's strange. Like, this is something I have radically worked on since I started my coaching journey in 2018. So I've had time to really understand myself and learn how to lead. And teaching has done that for me. And I was you I used to be terrified of being in front of a group of people, teaching yoga to adults, teaching dance to kids, even way back when, and showing up on the internet, right? Is a whole other way of public speaking, but you are by yourself on your phone. Leading in person, being on panels and speaking to women in groups, all of these things are things that I do not get nervous about, like whatsoever. I make sure that I have my plan of what I want to say, and then I'm so ready and I'm excited to meet with people. I'm not thinking about what are they gonna think, or is this good enough, or should I wear this, or should I wear that? It's really so simple and easy for me to walk into a room and start speaking on something. Meeting strangers in networking, or I've been going to these time left dinners and meeting five strangers. And these women, a lot of times they're so delightful, and some of them are nervous and some of them are not, you know, meeting new people for the first time. And it feels so easy and comfortable for me every time because I feel so secure in who I am and my body and what I do and what I'm wearing. Like all of it feels so comfortable for me and exciting to go meet people. And these women would never know that I was painfully shy not too long ago. So this is just an example of how I've overcome that stuff. But mostly what I wanted to point to is not the social anxiety, but more so the imagining of a new way of being, imagining of a new way of living where you are blowing your mind around what's possible. This is the work that I do with my clients. I would love to work with you this year. Use the link in my description below to book a consult so we could talk about working together.