Freedom From MONEY Pressure

There’s a kind of pressure around money that most women quietly carry.

Sometimes the income is good.

The business is working.
The numbers look fine on paper.

But the internal pressure is still there.

The constant sense that you have to keep producing, keep managing, keep making sure everything holds together.

And the strange part is… even when more money comes in, that pressure doesn’t always go away.

Because it’s not actually being created by the number in your bank account.

At 8AM on the podcast, I want to talk about something that doesn’t get discussed very often.

Freedom from money pressure by understanding the nervous system shift that allows your body to finally experience peace with money… regardless of your bank balance.

If you’ve ever felt successful on paper but still internally carrying the weight of it all…

Come join me live at 8AM on YouTube.

Transcript

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If you're an ambitious woman who's done everything right, the career, the family, the responsibilities, but still you feel like there's something missing. There's a sense of not quite being fulfilled. You are in the right place. I'm Tasha, serial seven-figure entrepreneur and founder of Dare Wealthy Me, co-founder of the Science of Getting Rich Academy. After years of overworking and proving people-pleasing, I finally discovered the truth. Real wealth, it does not come from hustle. It comes from identity. Now I show women like you how to combine science and spirit to create wealth with ease, joy, and freedom. Because this is your time, your wealthy era. Welcome to the Wealthy Me Podcast.

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Alright, so hello again. Welcome to episode 23 of the Wealthy Me podcast. This morning we're talking about money pressure and how to end it. And I was saying that this is very much a topic I know high-achieving women can relate to. It's very much a lived experience that we, you know, we walk through every single day. So I wanted to share with y'all, you know, when I created the Wealth in Me podcast, it was it was really just this idea, this experiment. I wanted to see if I could create a safe space where high-performing women could honestly just come and have honest conversations and really a confessional. You know, it's a it's a space where we could say, I actually want, yes, I want wealth and I want it with ease. I want wealth with ease and feel safe to do so. Because out there in the in the world, especially those of us that have businesses and very high-performing, high-demanding careers, we are expected to embrace hustle and grinding and performing and proving. And there's really no space that we can go, I just I actually want to be wealthy, I want to be successful, and I want it to be with ease. So this is your space. This morning I want to talk about um money pressure. And I want to start with a story from one of my clients. A few years ago, I remember she wanted to join one of my high-level programs, and she also it was it was interesting timing because at the same time she had already planned a big birthday trip. She was gonna travel across the world and give herself this time, and it was beautiful. And so she had this dilemma of, oh my gosh, I really want to do this program and I'm about to go on my birthday. And so one of the things that I realized in that conversation was she had in she had normalized incredible money pressure. Like she was already very successful, she was thriving in business, she had, you know, all kinds of assets, and yet the money pressure was just there. And it was very much, it was showing up in that moment in an either-or. But as we continued to talk, what I realized was oh my goodness, even with all this, even with the assets, even with the thriving business, even with the money in the bank account, there's just like this incredible weight and incredible pressure. If you're watching and you can relay it, let me know. And so it was, it was really cool because recently she sent me a message to say, you know, Tasha, when I look at my bank accounts today and I see all the zeros, I am in absolute awe that this is my now my reality. And so what I want to break down is at least the first step of what we did together. And this is, you know, also, I never ever come on on and do this like talking from the soapbox kind of conversation. Like I said, I want it to be honest and real. And so this is work that I continuously have to do on myself because let's talk about money pressure, especially for high-performing, high-achievant women. One of the things that we have normalized, and this is from we were little kids, right? A B is never good enough. A B plus is never good enough. A, okay, but was it an A with a 98% and not a hundred percent? Like nothing is ever good enough. And we're always striving for perfection. And then when you reach perfection, you want like the bonus points, you want the brownie thing, you want like teacher's pet. Like the goal is just constantly moving. And what happens is we normalize pressure even when we are successful. And maybe this is especially for those of us that you know you you work so hard to get here, to get to this point, but you can put down the pressure. The pressure for you has become for us, I'll speak for myself too, like it has become a normal part of success, but eventually it's going to burn us out. It is going to get exhausting. It is going to, you're going to look one day at what it's costing you, and it's not going to be worth it. So I want to have this conversation this morning because I want to talk about why do we feel this pressure even when we're actually okay financially? Why are we still feeling this intense money pressure always, it never goes away? And one of the things that I realize personally, and especially with you know coaching clients, is that I realize that women um have we've placed our attention on fear and we've given our power away to fear. We've started to give our attention to lack and scarcity, and let's just keep it real. It's almost like, okay, I have this money, but how long am I going to have it for? Or I've reached this level of success, but can I sustain it? Or I did really well this year, but I need to do better next year, right? It's always a goalpost just constantly moves, and then we use that to pressure ourselves. But it's because our attention is on lack. It's because our attention is on the fear that the money won't be there. We won't make more money next year, we won't be able to sustain it. And what I've realized is when I'm feeling that pressure, I really tune in and I ask myself, where is my attention right now? But this is the bottom, bottom line of why we feel the pressure. It is because we have put a hundred percent of our, how is this gonna work? We've put a hundred percent of where's money gonna come from? How am I gonna make the money? How am I gonna get more on ourselves and zero percent on spirit? We've resorted to a hundred percent self-reliance and zero percent on spirit, God, universe source. And that right there is the number one culprit of the pressure that you feel, and it is intense because listen, no matter what, as amazing as you are, high performing as you are, high achieving, all your accolades, you're still a human being with limited resources, limited like ability to keep creating. And so, so long as you put the burden on yourself to continue to do this, which was never the way it was intended to be, you are going to get to this point where you cannot sustain that level of pressure for an extended period of time. Right? So when I find myself feeling that pressure, I literally have a little thing, I just go, okay, am I putting this all on Tasha's shoulders? And I've excluded God, spirit, source, universe, whatever, you know, you however you language that greater power that's actually here to support us. So think about that for a second. Why am I feeling this pressure? And especially when it's constant, just start to pay attention and to ask yourself the deeper questions. Why is this always here? It's almost like it's become like breathing for us. Without the pressure, we like when we don't feel pressure, we actually start worrying. Like, oh my gosh, something's gonna go wrong. I'm not worried, I'm not under pressure, you know? And that's actually the way it should be. That is more normal than anything else. Hang on, I'm gonna jump quickly so I can see the comments. So here's what I want. Um I want you to just recognize when you are feeling this pressure, it's it's because you've really gone to it's all up to me. And that's what makes it feel so heavy, it makes it feel hard, it makes it feel exhausting. Think about as a human being, you were never meant to carry a ton on your back, like a big boulder that weighs a ton. As a human being, you you're not built to do that, right? It's going to feel even if you can move it an inch, it's gonna get exhausting in the next minute for the next inch. So you're doing something that you're not meant to do, and it is going to get to the point where it starts to feel heavy, it starts to feel hard, it starts to feel exhausting. And that is why you feel that pressure. Now, let's talk about the neuroscience angle to this. What's actually want you to understand what's actually happening inside of your brain? That I think one of the things I like to say is when you understand and you're aware, you get your power back and you can choose differently. So every time you allow yourself to normalize the pressure, you allow yourself to sit in it, you allow yourself to have it just be, you know, your constant partner, like always pressured for money. What happens is your brain has created an identity of who you are. And the part of the brain called the default mode network and the singular cortex, I've taught a lot about this in prior videos, so you can go watch them. Just look for neuroscience topics in my in my feed. But this part of the brain protects your identity, it protects actually the identity that the brain says this is who you are. And so, for most of us high performers, when it comes to money, we're in survival mode. Even when we actually are financially okay, we actually have assets, we actually have money in the bank, we actually have businesses that are doing well, but the brand says you always have to be in survival mode. Wait for the other foot to drop. Actually, prepare for it, prepare for the other foot to drop, you know, the other shoe to drop. And so that it keeps you in this pressure mode. And every time you allow it, you actually reinforce this is who I am. I am a woman who is not safe financially, I am a woman who is not provided for financially. I am a woman who has to stay in the wait for watch for the other shoe to drop financially, always be on guard. And you reinforce your brain. This is who I am, this is who I am, this is who I am. And we know identity creates reality. So every time you reinforce that, you build this stronger database in your brain about, yeah, this is who I am. This who this who's this is who I am, this is who I am, this is who I am. And your brain just goes out into your future and constantly predicts circumstances and situations to reinforce you're right, this is who you are. So hopefully that makes sense because once I realize, wait a second, by sitting and allowing and normalizing this pressure, I'm actually reinforcing to my brain this is who I am. And my brain is only going to do one thing, it's going to keep me the same. That's its job. Not making my brain the bad guy here. I'm taking responsibility, sovereignty over my life. And so when I understand what's happening, right, from a neuroscience perspective, I have to become responsible and say, I don't want to normalize this. I don't want my brain to think it's right, that this is who I am. So I'm going to talk this morning now, next, about how to fix this. And this is, it's actually an entire process. I'm only going to start with the first, like, you know, like the low-hanging fruit that you can do today. The big picture is how do you fix this? You have to change the identity that the brand projects and predicts the future from, especially financially. So think about this. You've been this girl academically your whole life. Pressure, pressure, pressure, pressure. Then you go to college, you go to, you get at your job, you do like your entire life as I'm the person who I have to perform, I have to be under pressure, I have to, every area of my life, I have to be perfect, right? I have to, it's all up to me. I have to figure it all out. And so your brain has more years of this is who you are than anything else. And so, in order to change who your brain thinks you are, you have to create an entirely new identity. So think of it as your brain has seen you as survivor girl, and you want to go, no, I'm actually wealthy me. This, my identity is not I'm a survivor, my identity is I am wealthy. And that bridge, how do you do that? It's an entire process. But there is something that you can start today, and that is the first smallest step. It's becoming safe and feeling safe with whatever your financial reality is right now. Is it where you want it to be? Maybe not. Is it, you know, um, all the zeros that you have created in your mind when I have all these zeros, then I'm gonna feel safe? It might not be. Um, are your numbers better than last year so far? Maybe not. It doesn't matter. Whatever it is right now, whatever the reality is right now, you have to get yourself to feel safe with what is versus feeling fear, feeling scarcity, feeling pressure. The more you look at what is and you reinforce those emotions, you are again telling your brain, you're right, this is who I am, this is who I am. So here is a simple practice. It's I've I've taught this in a lot of my high-level programs. It really is just looking at the things that usually trigger you and put you in pressure mode. So things like your bank balances, your credit card balances, your sales numbers, your revenue numbers, your projections, anything that gets you triggered, right? Um and you want to practice looking at those things while saying, I'm safe. Remember, every time you do that right now, every time you see your bank balance, every time your credit card comes in the mail, every time you think about your sales, your projections, your revenue, you go into fear, lack, scriosity, pressure. So again, I told you about that story of my client at the start of this. One of the things that, you know, I let's break down what she did is she created a totally different relationship, identity-wise, with money. She went from I'm the girl that's survivor always waiting for the next shoe to drop, to I know I'm safe and money will always be provided. And that shift created that reality. So we want to regulate the nervous system with what is. We want to regulate the nervous system to become familiar with feeling safe, to get out of fight or flight. Every time you look at your bank balance, you go into fight or flight. Every time you your credit card, you know, uh comes in the mail or you make a charge or whatever the situation, something gets withdrawn out of your bank account, you go into fight or flight. And so every time you allow that to happen, you you you normalize for your nervous system, this is the relationship that I have with money, right? Your attention goes on. I need to be scared, I need to be vigilant, I need to um go into protection mode versus look at whatever it is right now and allow yourself to just pause for a moment and say, I'm safe. I am safe, I'm going to be provided for, I am safe. And just allow yourself to breathe. And so I don't want to even talk about visualizing when you have millions of dollars and then you're gonna be safe, right? The ideal scenario, the NC. Actually, that's amazing. But what if you can't even get there because you're so in angst and tight over your current reality? The best way to start this process is to regulate your nervous system to feel safe with what is. So when I ask you, drop in the comments, just type it right now. Start this process. I am safe with where I am financially. Everybody watching live, watching the replay, I am safe with where I am financially. Just this small act allows something beyond your understanding to happen in your brain, in your nervous system. It's actually new information because remember, your brain has not normalized that you're safe, right? I am safe with where I am financially. Everyone jump in, everyone jump in, everyone watching, watching, whether it's YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, I am safe with where I am financially. And just allow, just maybe take a breath as you say that. Just repeat it and and just breathe. And literally just start to observe how your body begins to just come out of fight or flight about money. And so I want you to get off here, go check your bank balances, go look at your credit card bills, whatever, whatever usually triggers you, and actually just practice saying this for two minutes. And what I want you to watch is your body's physical response. And this is the simplest, easiest, quickest. How can I get out of fight or flight and into safety? And when your nervous system feels safe, now we can begin to do the rest of the identity work to take you out of survival mode and into the wealthy identity, the wealthy version of you. Okay, so there you go. That is simple, quick step number one. I also wanted, I've been talking a lot about um going on tour because I love having these conversations and online is amazing, but I want to sit in a room with women where we can touch each other with our hands, feel the energy of our heart, and have these wealthy conversations, feel safe to be in an environment with other high-level women while saying I want to talk about wealth, and I want permission to be safe to say I want it to be easy, and I want to understand how to get out of the way my nervous system has normalized this pressure, this proving, this angst, this constant worry. I want to know how to bridge, how to walk across or create a bridge to become the version of me that is calm and at peace and trusting and knowing and certain financially. And so last week I talked about this tour, and I think I asked you all to type the word tour, and I'm not sure it worked everywhere. So this morning, if you if it didn't work, try again, type the word tour. But I'm gonna give you the actual website. It's my name, TashaChen.com forward slash tour. I'm heading out to California, DC, Maryland area, New York City, Austin, Texas, Jamaica, like that's that is for April and May, and then we're gonna continue the tour. But I want all of you that live anywhere in those areas to go ahead, get yourself registered, come join us for this evening. This is gonna be one of those conversations that I know could change your life, right? So either type the word tour, type the word tour, or go ahead, Tashachen.com forward slash tour. Let us start to have conversations where we stand for what we want. Yes, we're high achieving, yes, we perform at the highest level, but it doesn't mean that we need to do so with this constant pressure. We're too enlightened now. That's my that's my take, anyway. All right, everyone, have a great Monday. I'm looking forward to seeing so many of you out there in all of these cities and giving you a hug and having this amazing high level conversation. Have a great week. Bye, everyone.