Make Wealth Feel Natural - Rewiring Your Brain For Wealth With Ease

Make Wealth Feel Natural - Rewiring Your Brain For Wealth With Ease

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What if the reason wealth feels so hard to reach isn't a strategy problem, but a nervous system one? 

In this episode of The Wealthy Me Podcast, filmed from my mom's garden in Jamaica, I'm going to walk you through why your brain might actually be resisting the very wealth you say you want, and why this is the blind spot most high-performing women never see coming.

I'm sharing the 3 hidden blocks I see again and again in the goddesses I work with: the deservingness wound, the exclusion wound, and the fear of change. These are the quiet patterns running underneath your hustle, keeping wealth at arm's length and making it take so much longer to unfold than it should.

If you've ever felt like you're working harder than you should be, doing everything "right" on paper, and still hitting an invisible ceiling, this conversation is for you. Wealth is meant to feel as natural as breathing, and I'll show you exactly how to start rewiring your brain so it does.

Inside this episode:
🌿 Why your nervous system codes wealth as a threat (and what to do about it)
🌿 The 3 hidden blocks keeping high-performing women stuck below their next level
🌿 The simple 3-step practice I've used for 14 years to call out resistance, reframe it, and claim what you actually want
🌿 An invitation to join me for 30 days of Dear Wealthy Me journaling this June

Type EASE in the comments or DM me to register for the 30-day Dear Wealthy Me experience on Substack. We start Monday 1st June.

🌐 Connect with me:
Website: https://tashachen.com

📌 Chapters:
00:00 The Hidden Resistance to Wealth Most Women Never See
01:24 Welcome to The Wealthy Me Podcast: I Deserve Wealth With Ease
02:36 Why Your Nervous System Resists Wealth (Even When You Want It)
04:32 How Your Brain Identifies You and Why It Fights Wealth
05:46 My Chapter 11 Story: When Hard Work Wasn't Enough
07:33 Hidden Block #1: The Deservingness Wound
09:53 Hidden Block #2: The Exclusion Wound and Feeling Like Wealth Isn't For You
13:13 Hidden Block #3: Fear of Change and Losing the People You Love
15:36 Not Everyone Comes On The Journey to Wealth
16:27 Wealth Should Feel Natural: The 3-Step Practice
17:09 Step 1 Call It Out, Step 2 Reframe It, Step 3 Claim It
17:50 The 30-Day Dear Wealthy Me Substack Experience
20:42 What You'll Walk Away With After 30 Days
22:36 Closing Blessing From Jamaica

Transcript

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If you're an ambitious woman who's done everything right, the career, the family, the responsibilities, but still you feel like there's something missing. If there's a sense of not quite being fulfilled, you are in the right place. I'm Tosha, serial seven-figure entrepreneur, and founder of dear wealthy me, co-founder of the Science of Getting Rich Academy. After years of working, improving, people pleasing, I finally discovered the truth. Real wealth, it does not come from hustle. It comes from identity. Now I show women like you how to combine science and spirit to create wealth with ease, joy, and freedom. Because this is your time. Your wealthy era. Welcome to the wealthy me podcast. The resistance to wealth is a blind spot for most high-approving women. Sorry? The resistance to wealth is a blind spot for most high-performing women. It's something that we actually never see coming. And I want to talk about that this morning. Um, because this conversation is all about making wealth feel natural. But what happens when you're actually resisting wealth and you don't even realize it? For me, that's been one of the most frustrating things. And I know that for most high-performing women, when we are working really hard trying to get to our next level of success, and we can't identify what might be getting in the way. And then, you know, we have these conversations and we realize, oh, wait a second, it's actually something that's going on within. It causes us to work harder and it causes wealth to be delayed. It causes it to take a lot longer to unfold. And so this morning we're going to talk about why our nervous system would resist wealth. I know it doesn't make any sense, but why? Why would your nervous system resist wealth? We're going to talk about what's actually going on inside that's causing you to feel like wealth is dangerous. And I'm going to give you a simple, practical tip, activity, thing that you can do to start reversing this for yourselves. All right. So welcoming everyone. Good morning, everyone. Ooh, there we go. Good morning, everyone from Jamaica. You all know this place very well. This is my happy place, my mom's garden. And I'm excited to be having this conversation from home, because this is home for me for my heart. This is home, uh, one of my homes, in case my husband's watching, where you are is home too. This is just like, you know, this is paradise. It's a different kind of love. Anyway, so welcome to the Wealthy Me podcast. I'm your host, Tasha. And every week we gather here and we create the space for women to say, I want wealth with ease. In fact, we declare it every Monday morning in the comments. So go ahead, get ready, start typing. I deserve wealth with ease. I deserve wealth with ease. Everybody go ahead, start typing. You know how we do. This is every single morning we prime our brains and our nervous system to start accepting that wealth with ease is what we are claiming, declaring, receiving it is ours. All right. I deserve wealth with ease. Okay, so let's talk about nervous system resistance. Why would your nervous system resist wealth? And I've been talking about this. I know you can't hear it enough. Listen, sometimes I get on here and I'm sharing with you so I can remind myself because on a logical level, it doesn't make sense. Of course, we desire wealth. It is our birthright, it is why we're here. We came to experience all of this beautiful wonder in abundance. There, you know, this is and and hey, it costs money to get here, right? So of course we want to be wealthy. Of course, that's our natural state. Of course it's a natural desire. So why would we then resist it? So, from a nervous system perspective, understanding this is key. Because if you're working hard to achieve wealth, what is also happening, what that really means is that your brand does not accept that you are wealthy. If you are working hard to achieve wealth, then what it really means is that at a nervous system level, right, your brand does not accept that you are wealthy. And so what it means is everything that is associated with wealth is a threat. I I for me, I needed to understand that because I could it it would feel like I want this thing, especially when I say wealth with ease, it would feel like I want wealth with ease, but it feels like there's something inside that's working against me or stopping me or not getting me there, and it just would not make sense to me. And then I realize I have something far more powerful inside that's actually doing its job, which is trying to protect me from this identity that it does not associate me with. And I've been thinking about this, you know, heading to Jamaica, this is where I grew up. And so, really thinking about some of the things around how my brain identifies who I am. And so my brain says, You are Tasha, you were born in Jamaica, you went to this school, you wanted to succeed, you needed to go to regular school, you needed to go to extra lessons after school, you needed to go to school on the weekends, you need to come home from school, you need to work three more hours on your homework, like everything about how I identify or how my brain identifies me with success includes hard work. Then there is how I was raised. I was not raised in a wealthy family. I was not raised with a ton of like, you know, um things that are associated with wealth as normal for me. And so my brain has this like, that is not you, that is not who you are. And every time you try to do that, it's like you're putting on, like you're pretending. You're wanting to be, it really is like you're wanting to be something or someone that you're not, right? That's the way my brain thinks. And so my brain does its job, which is it goes into protection mode, right? It goes into protection mode. That's what it's meant to do. And so, yes, I will, you know, I remember the first time I um, the first time, the only time I filed chapter 11 bankruptcy. I remember calling my mom and just crying my eyes out, feeling like such a failure because I was like, wait a second, I did the rule book. I worked really hard, I put all my life savings on the line for this business. I did everything the franchiser told me to do. Like I literally did. And then I got to the seven-figure mark and bam, I just got knocked off my little perch because I could see how my brain was like, wait, what are you doing? You're going into the seven-figure mark. This is not who you are, right? Also, my parents had a business, but their entire thing for me was to get a job for security. And so in my brain, I was always like, Yes, I'm rebelling and I'm building this business. But in my brain, it was like, Well, you know, this isn't the safe route, right? So hopefully telling you the story will get you to see how I was doing all the right things on paper, but my brain had another plan. It was literally resisting everything in its attempt to keep me safe. So I want us to just think about that for a moment. And this morning is really a thinking conversation, right? I want you to start to think about what might your blocks be. I've identified three that I notice the most common in the women that I serve. Let me know if this is true for you. Someone's saying they think I'm pro frozen. I don't seem frozen. So I don't know, but let me know if you are seeing that I'm frozen. Um, hang on a second. No, looks like I'm here. I'm not sure. Anyway, I'm gonna keep going. So the number one, the first thing is somebody says, I can hear you, but you're frozen. Welcome to Island Time. The first one is the deservingness wound, right? So it's where and PS Instagram, people on Instagram are saying I'm not frozen. So if you want to hop over to Instagram, that's working. But um it's a deservingness wound, right? It's I was talking to one of my clients last week and we were talking about one of my goddesses, we were talking about where she needs to go next with her business. And, you know, she was sharing with me, I'm exhausted, I can't keep going on, I've got to stop. And so I mirrored back to her that she has another business, right? That she not only has another business that would be easier, she has another business she feel called, she feels called to this business, she's passionate about it. She also has an opportunity in that other business where she could connect with someone that could help her like take like this business just take off practically overnight. And as we were having a prior conversation, she shared with me, but you know, I don't want to connect with that person. I want to do it one by one. And I was so grateful that we had the opportunity to have the conversation because I pointed out to her, do you see how you're choosing hard? Like you're choosing the harder way. And what I know usually causes that to show up is that we have this wound around, do I really deserve to be wealthy? And it will cause us to do things that make no logical sense, like when she chose that, but even deeper, we have a wound around do I deserve wealth with ease? And that's a whole other level. Like, do I deserve wealth? And then there's, but do I deserve wealth with ease? And so this deserving this wound is one of the things that it is just it's a blind spot. It's hidden in plain sight. Uh it's running the show, it's driving the car to our wealth. We practically will never see it. It's one of the reasons why we we have a mentor, we have these conversations, right? I want you to just think, I want you to sit and think. Do I truly believe I deserve to be wealthy? Could that be a hidden block for me? Do I truly believe that I deserve to be wealthy? Right. So sit with that for a moment. The other one is the exclusion wound. It's what I what I what I talked about when I said I don't, you know, I was raised feeling like wealth and abundance and um just luxury. It's for other people, not me. We are we're humble, we are very simple, we're just enough. We that's kind of how we roll. And all of that extra lots of money, you know, travel the world, live in luxury, live in uh have a seven-figure, multiple seven-figure business, you know, for everybody else. And I see this, and the resistance that it creates is so powerful. I was talking to another one of my goddesses last week, and we got to the point in the conversation where I said, Where in your life are you wealthy? She literally turned practically red and purple in defense, like defiance. Like, no, I am not wealthy. And she was like, No, no, no, no, no, I'm not, right? And I was like, Whoa, wait a second. Like you, you literally are gonna die on the sword. You're not wealthy, like you need to prove it so much. Like, if you say you're wealthy, it's gonna be a bad thing, right? And it was interesting to watch her resistance real time. And we had this conversation, and she was like, No, I don't, there's no way I don't see how I'm wealthy. And because I've been working with her for a while, I started to say, literally, it was just her in the in the um in the camera on Zoom. And for example, I like if I this were right, like this, if I were her in that moment and I looked at what was behind her, and I just said, Are those French doors? Because when I was growing up in Jamaica, having French doors in your house was a sign of like you, we knew where you lived. If you had wide French doors, we knew. We knew your economic status, we knew where you lived, we knew the type of house, right? You were wealthy. And so it was just a symbol of wealth for me. Kind of like being here in my mom's garden, like the fact that I can be here, this is a symbol of being wealthy, right? But if you don't even want to see how you're wealthy right now, like you're in such resistance to it, because for you, everybody else is wealthy, but not you. It's the exclusion wound, right? So start thinking about start thinking about that for yourselves. Do you feel like you have to have one second? Do you feel like you have to have um an exclusion? Do you feel like you don't belong where wealth is gathered? Do you feel like it it just doesn't feel natural for you to you? I love that all these people are jumping on on Instagram. Um because here is what happens you'll be building a business, and because this resistance is so powerful, it is going to keep you stuck and it's going to keep you seeing that you're not advancing. It's actually going to get in the way of you advancing. And that to me is heartbreaking. I want to be working hard to get to be wealthy and successful, only to realize like there's something inside of me saying, I don't belong there. That's why, that's why it's not unfolding. Like my brain is actually trying to protect me. So sit and just think about that for a while. Okay. Uh, the other thing is fear of change. This is the other hidden block. Morning, Mr. Johnson, is fear of change. And this is where you want to be wealthy, right? We all high-performing women, we want to be successful, we want to be wealthy, but we actually fear the change that it is going to create in our lives. I remember I've watched so many women literally say, if I get everything that I want, I don't know what's going to happen to my friendships. I don't know what's going to happen in my family. I don't know what's going to happen, right, with the people that have normalized me at this level. They they want me to stay here because it makes them comfortable, because this is who we are. The change, I'm gonna have to, I'm gonna live somewhere different, right? If I become wealthy, I'm not gonna want to live here. Like I've moved houses two times already in a in a very short period of time. And I just think about, you know, for example, my parents have lived in this house for 25 years, you know? And so one of the things that I think about too is oh my goodness, like I am changing, I'm moving, I'm traveling, I'm doing all these different things. And if I were to be concerned about what people think about it and who's gonna say, I'm I'm too uppity, or whatever people say, some people genuinely, that fear is so real. I remember one of my clients. Oh my gosh, this is such a good story. I remember one of my clients, she was crushing it in real estate in Miami. She was a beautiful girl from Columbia. Her family was very humble, and she they lived in one part of Florida and she lived in Miami, and she was crushing it. You know, her greatest fear was if her family and her friends found out just how successful she was. So when she went to visit them, she like toned it down. When she was on social media, she wanted to have like one persona, you know, and her biggest, the biggest thing she wanted in coaching was how could she like resolve this so she could become one person? Because basically she was being one way with her family and her girlfriends, and then being like a boss babe in business and crushing it. And it was, she was so afraid. It was mind-blowing to me. Anyway, I'm grateful she resolved it and she is just like, I've just watched her over the years just take off. But I want you to just become aware, maybe that's happening for you too, right? And hey, it's real, you're gonna lose friends. Not everybody can come on the journey, you know, it's a it's a small airplane, not everybody can fit, but you meet you better make sure you're on a plane. That's the way I look at it. So long as me and Tony are on here, right? Everybody else will take the plane, come visit you every once in a while, but like we're going where we're going, we're going to our destination. So start thinking about that because again, I know that this might be playing out for you in a way that you don't recognize and it's causing more harm than good. Wealth should be natural, it should be easy, it should be like breathing. And if it's not, there's something going on. And it's usually that your brain is causing you to stay protected, it's causing you to resist wealth, it's causing you to resist it to be easy. And that is something you want to be aware of. So I'm gonna help you. I'm gonna give you a simple, practical way that I have used 14 years, still works today. Started working 14 years ago, still works today. And in fact, I'm gonna support you in doing it with me for 30 days. So, first one is you have to call it out, right? It's like, yes, I'm gonna give you an example. You have to call it out. You have to make yourself see the way that you resist well, that you're afraid of it, that you feel like it's for other people, but not you. Those are three examples that I see all the time. You need to kind of look at what is the thing for you, right? That's the most important thing is call out the resistance. The second thing is reframe it. I'm gonna teach you how to do that too. And then the last thing is to claim what you really want. You know, the second hardest thing for women number one is getting clear on what do you want, like answering the question, what do you want? That is the number one hardest thing for women. The second hardest thing is asking for it. Okay, now I know what I want. The second hardest thing is to actually ask for what you want. So you have to see how you're resisting it by saying, Oh, I'm not clear. I don't really know, right? What I want. Second thing, reframe it. Third thing, claim it, ask for it. Over the course of the coming 30 days, I've been kind of teasing you all for weeks now. I'm gonna show you how to do this. In fact, I'm gonna show you how I do it. And we're gonna have what I want to call 30 real, dear, wealthy me conversations. This is candid, raw. We're gonna call out all the things that we are thinking in our brains. And actually, when you think these thoughts, they repel wealth. If you are ready for wealth to be easy, if you're ready to stop making it so hard, I want you to type the word ease and register to come do this 30 day with me. Go ahead, type the word ease. I'm afraid that if I put it in uh this little thing, it's gonna take me off camera. So you all know how to spell ease, right? E-A-S-E. Go ahead, type the word ease, check your DMs, get yourself registered. Here is what we're gonna do for 30 days. We are going to call out the thoughts that you think. Number one. So, for example, this is gonna be day one. Dear wealthy me, I'm tired of waiting for my millions and I'm done being humble about it. You know you're thinking it. I know you're thinking it. I know I think it. Like, what the heck? Where's the millions? I'm tired of waiting for this, right? So call it out. That is what you're thinking. And if you don't call out what you're thinking, it is staying inside of your thoughts and it is creating more resistance than you want. That's the stuff that's your blind spot. That's the stuff that makes it take long. What you resist persists. So we're gonna call it out. So, for example, I'm tired of waiting on my millions. We're gonna call it out. Then I'm gonna teach you how to reframe it. I'm actually going to type what I journal when I realize I'm having these thoughts. I'm sick and tired of working this hard for money. I'm just calling it out. Then I'm gonna teach you how to reframe it. I'm gonna model it. So I'm gonna share with you what I would journal, and then I'm gonna give you a chance in the comments to do the same thing, right? Here's what's gonna happen. After 30 days, you are going to prime your brain to A, get out of resistance and fear around wealth. You're gonna call it into the ring and say, I know these thoughts are circulating inside of me, and I'm calling them out and I'm going to reframe them. I'm going to use this opportunity to actually say what I want. Because here's the thing: when you're thinking those thoughts, like, I'm sick and tired of waiting for my millions, the truth is what you really want to be saying is, I'm ready for it to be easy. I'm ready for it to show up. I'm ready for multiple streams of seven-figure income. I'm ready to make money while I'm asleep. I'm ready for it to be easier than I could have ever imagined. I'm ready practically for money to fall out of the sky. Like that's really what you want, right? But so long as you are caught in the gosh, I'm exhausted of waiting for it. And you're not addressing that thought, that is more powerful than anything else that you could be doing. So we're gonna take 30 days, we're gonna reframe all of these thoughts. Every single day I'm gonna give you a prompt. I'm gonna give you one of these that I know you're thinking because I've thought it and sometimes am thinking it and have to do this work, right? Let's go. I'm ready for that. This is gonna be so fun. Look, I'm not serious. The team is like, what are you doing? And I am saying, and I keep my answer is I'm gonna have fun for 30 days in June. I'm going to have fun. I'm gonna show you how to do this. I'm gonna keep it real, candid, raw, and we're gonna have a blast. You want in, type the word ease. Get yourself registered. And here's the thing well, I think a lot of you know about Substack. This is where I'm going to be doing it. This is how like committed I am to just making it be easy and relaxed and fun. I don't even have Substack set up yet. Literally, my team, you're going to register and you're going to get the confirmation email tomorrow because my business manager is on vacation today. So the registration page is ready. Put your name and email in. You will be registered. But then you're going to get the confirmation email tomorrow. And come Monday morning, you're going to get day one, and we're going to hang out on Substack and we're going to have a blast. We're going to laugh and we're going to just be in it together. But here's what's going to happen at the end of 30 days. You are going to have a brain and a nervous system that is now reprimed for wealth, reprimed for wealth with ease. You are going to know how to handle these situations in your journal. You ready? Let me know if you're ready. You all excited? I'm excited. I cannot wait. I love having fun and I'm committed to having fun with this. So nothing, nothing. If you need real serious, that's not what this is going to be. It's going to be truthful, though. That much I can tell you. All right. Let me see. Are you ready? I'm ready for all of that. I love it. Me too. I'm ready for all of it. Okay. So with that, have an amazing day. I will be. I'm in paradise. Wish you could all be here with me. Uh, I'm kicking off. This week is actually, you know, I've been doing the Awakened the Wealthy Woman Within, and I'm in Jamaica for that leg of the tour. So we've got Jamaica this week, and then next next couple of months, we'll be completing the tour-ish in France. I'm so excited. Um I want this live for you. And I know you want it too. I know you want it too. So let's just go have it. Let's go claim it. Let's receive it. Let's be open. We want wealth with ease, and we should have it. We deserve it. We deserve it. Okay, ladies. I love you all. Have a great Monday. Have a great rest of the week. Bye bye.