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I’m back! 💕

In this catch-up episode of My Dating Refresh, I’m sharing where I’ve been, what’s changed, and what’s coming next. We talk about a new job, new love, upcoming fall projects (Haunted house 👀), planning a solo trip to Ireland, and what life has looked like while trying to balance work, creativity, and dating.

I’m also opening up about becoming newly-ish single, what I learned from a relationship ending, getting ghosted, accidentally ghosting someone myself, and why I’m actually having fun dating again.

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Insta: @bubblemaster @mydatingrefresh

Transcript

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Hello, hello. Welcome back to another episode of My Dating Refresh. How long has it been? Two months. Oops. Oopsie Daisy. Oopsies. Um, yeah, let's just get into it. What have I been up to? What have I been doing? Where have I been? Um, I've been sitting at home a lot. I'm not gonna lie. I've been vibing. I've been focusing on the scale. I've been focusing on life. I've been focusing on me. I've gotten my hair cut twice. It is so short. Oh, but I love it. It makes me feel so good. I feel so fierce. I feel so sexy. It's so funny how like a haircut or a hairstyle or anything like that can make your whole life feel so different. And what can I say? I'm in love with it. I was a little worried it was gonna be moldy, which there have been moments that I've styled it and I've been like, oh, ooh, why is it sitting like that? But you know, with it being this short, you can kind of just ignore that a little bit. Just a little, it's been a little bit. Let's see what else. Um, I have a new job. I was working somewhere for seven and a half years, and it was time for something new. And this new job, I'm in love. I'm in love. It's just, it's so simple. It's so easy. I just feel like it's just so fun to enjoy learning something new and getting to thrive in that kind of environment, you know? So it's it's exciting. It's good, it's new. And my was I sad to leave the seven and a half year place? Abso fucking lutely. Abso fucking lutely. It's a heartbreak. I've texted my um my old boss a couple times and I've been late. I was like, happy birthday, and how are you? Because it's you get to know somebody for so long and then you boogie woogie woogie. So there's that. So, but the way that going to a different location and having new opportunities and new things has impacted the way I look, feel, and feel and look about myself. It's insane. It's insane. And I knew for years that I was kind of on the realm of like being a little too depressed and a little too stuck in life and not really being able to pinpoint what exactly it was. And I think I just needed a change of pace. I'm I am a creature of change. I am. I really am. I love new tattoos, I love new piercings, I love new hair, I love change. I love moving moving furniture around. I love new bed sheets. Anything that's gonna shake up my life a little bit, I do like. Do I like when it's forced upon me? No. I mean, sometimes. It depends what it is. My gosh, my pants are writing. I have I've got the flood going on right now. If you could see my sweats right now, you'd you'd giggle. Okay, okay. Back on track, back on track. Okay. New job, new hairstyle, new sheets? No. But I probably need them, actually. But I do have more exciting stuff coming this fall. I don't want to get too into it because I kind of want it to just roll how it's going to, and I think that if I talk about it, it'll jinx it. But basically, my bestie and I are gonna be working at a haunted house and doing a little bit of marketing and video and content creating and all sorts of stuff. So I've kind of been in this little transformation mode of getting kind of into characters. So basically, the idea is that we are characters and we are reviewing things and making videos and posting about this particular haunted house, right? It should be a lot of fun. Great opportunity. I'm really excited. Um, I'll probably talk about it a little bit more when things are a little more solidified. But we did get told that it's a go. It's a go. I'm really excited about it. So follow my instas. I've got a million of them, but I will be posting for sure, especially on my main account, um, Bubble Master, B-U-B-B-L-E-M-A-I-S-T-E-R. And then on my dating refresh, the Instagram account. I don't want to spell that out. You know how to spell. Why do I have to spell everything out for you? God damn. Uh, but other than that, I think that I got a little behind on podcasting because life was a lot in a good way, though. In the best of ways. I was really dragging my feet with let's be honest, with my house. Right now, my house is a disaster. I just kind of took a minute to really re-clean and reorganize my room today. Oh my god, I'm disgusting. I'm a pig. If I'm like focused on other things in life, my room becomes a disaster. It's either my car or my room. There's one or the other is always a disaster if other things are going on. I just feel like I must really not exist in my space. But it's funny because it makes me miserable. So I took a little bit of time to clean. But I've been so busy with everything else that I've got like dishes in the sink. My bathroom, disaster. My bedroom, horrific. Literally horrific. If anybody had seen my room, I would have offed myself. It's it's it's that deep. It's that embarrassing. It's that disgusting. So yeah, I've been dragging my feet a little bit with podcasting and stuff like that because of just everything else going on with my new job, life, and then the whole um haunted house stuff. It's just, it's been a lot, but it's been so good and it's so exciting. And honest to God, I'm gonna, I'm gonna tear up. Honest to God, life has been so good. Like, I feel so good about myself. I feel so good about everything going on and everything that's coming to me. I feel like I've just been manifesting change. Back in December, I, my friend and I were like, we're gonna be unrecognizable. This this 2026 is me is to be unrecognizable. That's what I fucking want. I want to be a whole different person. Bitch, we're achieving, we're growing, we're going. Manifestation is so real. It's so real. Just taking a few minutes out of your day to kind of go, I'm gonna close my eyes. I'm gonna focus on what I what I fucking want, what I need, what I deserve. It'll come to you. Were things rough for a minute there? Absolutely. Absolutely. And you know what? We'll get into it. We'll get into it. I decided I'm gonna be pretty open tonight. So uh I think that's another part about not being able to podcast for a minute, is one, I got too comfortable with having guests. It's too easy to sit and yap with somebody else. Oh my god. So much easier. So much. But there is some sort of aspect to being able to talk to yourself on a podcast that's actually really enjoyable. Like I I've kind of missed that, and I kind of was I was kind of like trying to get myself to do it, couldn't do it, had other things going on. And not to mention when you're in a relationship, the podcast is not that ex exciting. I I felt like I was not finding things I could talk about that were exciting and interesting. I think I thought I felt like I was like just talking about my life, which for all I fucking know. Maybe maybe that's good, maybe that's fine. Um, I felt like it wasn't interesting, but what was the point I was getting at? No, no idea. But anyways, mental good, mental thoughts, good. Brain good, good, good in the most caveman of terms, good brain be good, brain no, now I'm Dracula. Alright. Oh my god, the Dracula movie? Okay, we're gonna get off topic for a minute. The Dracula movie. Can we just talk about the way that reinvented the way I want to be loved?

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Oh my god.

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Oh my god, through centuries, and it was okay. Now don't get me wrong. The first time I saw the movie, I was like, this man's kind of ugly. I'm like, you're gonna give us a love story about a man that's kind of like a little spooky. The second time I watched it, I was like, oh, he's hot. The energy is hot. The way he acts is hot. It's so good. I don't even know what else to say. I'm gonna watch that tonight. That got my that got my pinky toes like tingling. That got me like like just going at it in my brain. It was such a good movie. It's it's actually become one of my top five for sure. There's been a lot of good movies lately, actually. I just got the movie pass and I've been going to the movies by myself. Ew. So, oh, like the other day I actually went to go see, oh, what is it called? Disclosure day. Oh. Life changing. I've been hearing in just like around town, in the around town, I've been hearing that everybody feels like that movie is the government's way of telling us how um the whole thing's gonna go down in a couple years with aliens and stuff. Because I I'm not gonna lie, I'm a firm believer. There are aliens, they visit us. I'm sorry. I just believe that. That is that is one of my truths. But I've heard around town that everybody thinks that that's kind of like the way the government's gonna tell us, and it's gonna be this whole thing. So the movie's like getting us kind of into it. The movie is really beautiful, and it's it made me really emotional, actually, which I don't know if that's just because I'm hormonal or what. I cried the entire time. Just the idea that there are things that have been so hidden from us, which is so true. It's a truth. It's a truth. There have been so many things that have been hidden from us from history. I'm gonna cry now.

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Oh god.

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And that they're just coming to surface right now. That movie kind of opens that up. Is it a little more mystical magical than what I think it would all go down as? For sure. There's a little there's a little more sci-fi to it, which is fun. It makes it easy. But um, the rest of the movie and the basic concept and undertones of the world deserves to know the truth no matter like how what the reaction is, I vibe with that. I I'm like, I want to know everything. So lay it out. Oh, sorry. I got so off track. I I swear I do write down what I want to talk about. I'd make myself a little list. Actually, I did it at the gym today. Yeah, you heard me right. I was at the gym. Do I do much at the gym? No. I'd be walking, I'd be working on my ass, and then I sit in the sauna. Just kidding. I actually don't sit in the sauna. What was I? What am I talking about? My gym doesn't even have a sauna. If it had a sauna, I would. I sit in the tanny beds. Do I want to get cancer? No. Am I going to? Yeah, probably. It runs in my family. Oopsie daisy, not great, whatever. But I only really feel pretty when I'm tan. So we've been going to the gym. We've been doing our thing. And whenever I go to the gym, I always tell myself, okay, while you're on the treadmill, just write down the little like lineup for the podcast. Just do that. Get rolling. And I have not been good about it until today. Oh, I'm so proud of myself. See, we're just hyping me tonight. You thought this podcast was about growing? No. We're talking about me. I'm a god. Kiss my feet. Thank you. I but I was walking on the treadmill today and I just was typing on my phone and just like writing down, oh, this is another side story. I just was so excited to talk to you guys. I've actually been excited all day. I've been planning it out. But, anyways, I was on my phone just like typing down all the things I want to talk about, all the things coming up, all these things that I just haven't been able to talk about or I haven't really posted about either. There's like little side things, but a lot of people don't know about what's going on in my life. Not that people are like paining to know what's going on in my life. Just kidding, they are. Everyone's, I've got my fans, everyone's waiting. But I was typing out everything and I'm in my own world. I'm like feeling like a girl boss because I'm just like, I'm editing videos, I'm texting, I'm typing, I'm I'm ordering stuff. I'm just going through the motions while I'm on the treadmill. And I get a whiff of this perfume and it whips my head over to the right. And there's this beautiful woman getting on the treadmill. And my first thought is tell her she smells good. I'm not gonna tell her she smells good. She's here to work out. Sammy, tell her she smells good. No, I'm not gonna excuse me. She looks over. I'm like, hi, you smell so good. And she's like, really? And I'm like, yes. I literally, my head whipped around. You smell so good. And she laughs and she says, That's so nice of you. I literally saw this perfume on TikTok because another girl said that she wears it to the gym and people notice it. Wild. Did I order that shit immediately? I want to be the girl that smells good at the gym. And the fact that it was literally the marketing that got her to smell it, that what got me to ask her about it. Pop off. Amazing. So good. So not only did I work at the gym today, I also worked it and made a friend. She did not ask to be friends on Snapchat or Instagram, but it's okay. I didn't cry about it. It's fine. Um, did she let me snatch a picture of that perfume? Absolutely. And then I ordered it. Um now I'm gonna be the girl that smells good at the gym. So watch out. Watch out. Oh, I can't believe it's almost July. July is so close. What has what's in store in July, you might ask? Britney's having her baby. I'm gonna be an aunt. I'm literally going to be an aunt. I'm literally basically the second mother of this child. I am so excited. She has been the best little pregnant lady, except for the fact that you never know she's pregnant. She does not act like she's pregnant. I've told her this. We literally will be talking, and she's like, oh, he's kicking. And I'm like, finally, you say something. I have not heard anything about this little man at all. So she's having her baby. And in honor of our little Bessie having her baby, we all need to go support her. She needs the money. She's about to not be working for literally months. She needs the money. So you've heard me talk about it before, but basically, the sponsor of this episode, the free sponsor, because she's not paying me anything. I actually just genuinely love the product and I loved her as well. So Brittany is actually doing a little discount code on her skincare line. It has a it's very simple. It's a three, I've talked about this before. Let me just hype on it again, please. Because if you're new, you won't know. You won't know. It is the easiest skincare line. Okay. And she wanted it to be really easy in and out. Because sometimes skincare can get a little crazy, a little obsessive, a little bit like six-step program. And you know, for busy girls like me, I don't love a good six, like six product program thingy. No, I just want to, I just want to slap it on my face. Slap it on my face like a dick. Did you say that? I did say that. Basically, it starts with a cleanser, and it's this a very like yummy smelling, kind of milky cleanser. Scrub it up, dub up on your face with a toner and then a moisturizer. In the toner, the moisturizer, they do have lactic acid, so it helps kind of exfoliate gently, and that's it. Beautiful, wonderful. If you don't want to buy anything else, at least go for the moisturizer. That shit is the best. And I'm not just saying that because Britney is one of the loves of my life. I'm not just saying it because of that, but genuinely because that moisturizer is so yummy. It smells so good. It lasts me forever. You don't need very much. A ton, well, a little bit goes a ton. I get it all over your face. I put it on my hands. I put it, it's supposed to be a facial moisturizer. Do I put it wherever I want? Absolutely. Absolutely. So good. When my mom comes and gets her lashes done, she's always like, Do you want to moisturize my face for me? And I'm like, of course, Jody. Of course I want to moisturize your face. My other clients have not asked for it, but I should start asking, Do you want me to moisturize your face? Because this stuff's the best. And it makes you feel so glowy, so yummy. It's it's the best. I I don't even know how else to hype it because it genuinely, I feel like since she's my friend, it's hard for me to be like, it's so good with everyone being like being like, okay, um, but you're her friend. Of course, you think it's it's good because you love her. I love her, and it's good. I wouldn't, I wouldn't put something on my face for somebody just because I love them. Sorry. Sorry. I don't do that. But, anyways, you should run on over. In fact, pause the podcast right after I tell you it. Go run over, order it. Support our woman who is pushing a baby out of her vagina. She's pushing it out in July. Crazy. So go over and support her. Her website is psychedaboutbeauty.com, and that is S Y K E D A B O U T. B E A U T Y dot com. Psyched About Beauty. And the discount code is Sammy 10. So easy. S-A-M-I 10. Sammy 10. And we don't know how long it's going. I asked her, I was like, well, do you want to just do it until the end of July? And she's like, you know, if someone's listening and they want to come order your stuff, just and she's like, it will just be your discount code. And I was like, ooh. So that's 10% off. And it is S-A-M-I 1-0. So go run over, go support her. At least get the moisturizer if you're going to get anything. Like, at least. Because I promise you, you'll get hooked on it and you'll go, I gotta try the toner. The toner's so good. Good refresh. Does it sound like I was spraying something? Oh. I should be a voice actor. That has been something that I've talked about for a long time. Is I think I'd really enjoy voice acting because I feel like I'm so expressive. That's something I love about myself. Because I'm the best. What can I say? Everyone's gonna be like, she is a narcissist. She only talks about how great she is, and I hate that. Speaking of myself, um, I'm single. If you don't follow my uh social media accounts, uh, you probably wouldn't know. But I didn't really post about it though, but I kind of just stopped posting and kind of deleted some stuff. I got lots of messages. So I think people noticed it, noticed it pretty quickly after the fact. But yeah, no, newly sing newly single. Don't worry. For the best, okay? Did it kind of shock me when I got the call? Absolutely. Who wouldn't it fucking shock? But now that I've had some time to think about it, I want to talk about it. Actually, I want to talk about it. First off, he and I will always be friends. We were friends for like 16 years before we dated, right? So we'll always be friends. So that's number one, Uno. Number two, I kind of can tell that like it was time, right? Of course, am I mad that he beat me to it for sure? But for about a month or so before that fact, I had kind of started to feel like I wanted to break up as well. You know, I love him dearly. I think he is a wonderful person. I think that he would make the best husband in the entire world, right? But I just need someone, personally, I want someone who's a little more it's us. We're a team, we're doing stuff, you know? And I think that he operates a little more on the end of you got your things, I got my things. We'll interact in the middle sometimes, you know? And I didn't really love feeling like I just was so pushy to interact all the time, you know? And there's nothing really wrong with that at all, honestly. Like on both ends, I just I think it wasn't until we broke up that I was that I was like, oh my god, I was kind of miserable. Like, did I like him because I I liked him, or did I like him because I wanted to like him because I just I appreciate him as a friend so much, you know? And I hope someone can relate with that and not think I'm crazy, but it's just kind of how it was. And so when we broke up, everybody was on my dick about it. But I genuinely, I was like, I'm good, I'm fine, I'm good. It's it's not a big deal. And it really wasn't. It's it's been kind of a weird road. Um, I'll always reach out and always check in. And this week I started to realize that I need to back off uh more than I have for sure. Because I was checking in like maybe like once every other week, right? Because it's been a minute. It has been a little over the month, which is wild that it's been. It's just flown, right? The time is just gone. But I've, you know, we're kind of sitting into like that normalcy of like what friends are. In fact, I was literally at a Smith's um a couple days ago picking up stuff from my parents' house. And I walk by and I go, Hey, my friend. And he looks over and he's like, Oh, he looks great. He got a new haircut, I got a new haircut. We talked about that. He was like, Oh my god, your hair. And I was like, oh my god, my hair. Oh my god, your hair. And he goes, Oh my god, my hair. And we yapped for a little bit. And then we went out, went out and got some drinks that night. And it was good. It was a good little pickup. Haven't seen you in a while. Things are good. And my heart just like swelled to see him doing well. Like, I just I want him to be so happy, and I want me to be so happy. So I'm glad that we can kind of go back to not like as close of a friendship we had before. We'll that will never be back to the point at all. And that's is it sad? Yeah. But it is a Okay, because honestly, where I'm going in life, I need to focus on me. Past that. Now that I'm single, I don't know if you remember that I talked about it a million times, but back in November, I was like, bitch, I'm going to Ireland in August. And then I was like, ooh, I'm in a relationship. So bitch, I'm being a girlfriend. Well, now that I'm not a girlfriend, I'm going to Ireland. And I'm not just saying it because I'm like, I'm going to do it. I'm saying it because I'm doing it. I bought everything already. A few weeks ago, I was, it was a Thursday night. Okay. I was laying in bed and I was kind of just like thinking about life and turmoil, everything. And I got a message on Instagram from somebody. I'm not telling the story today. I'm telling the story next time. I'm so sorry. If you want to know who messaged me on Instagram, so sorry. If you want to know, okay, that tasted like hot dogs. That's wild. I had a corn dog yesterday. That's crazy. Anyways, I'm so sorry. It it made me want a Costco hot dog immediately, though. Like the urge to have a hot dog immediately. That's wild. What was I saying? Oh, I got a message from somebody on Instagram. And I was like, well, fuck. It's just time to just do shit. It's just time to do shit right now. So I got on my computer. I ordered, well, I ordered them. I bought tickets to fly there. And I just bit the bullet, did it. Bought the tickets. Then I was like, okay, well, I'm gonna buy my stay. Picked out where I was staying, bought those. I'm going for a week and a half by myself. By myself. And after I bought everything, I was like, what did I just fucking do? And I had the anxiety about it. And I was like, fuck, I'm not gonna be able to sleep. Oh my god, what am I doing? Thank God I paid the extra for all like the refund stuff. And I was like, Sammy, take a breath, go to bed. Woke up the next morning. Total calm. It's meant to happen. It's supposed to happen. It's gonna happen. Money's just money. Am I in debt a little bit because of it? Absolutely. Who cares? When else am I gonna go? What else? Plus, what if I go and I meet the love of my life? What if I literally fall in love? What if I meet a handsome, strong, dashing Irish man with lots of money who wants to just live in a castle with me? It happens on the rom-coms. And I think that if I manifest it, it could come true. Will I need a drink or two to think that he's really dashing? Maybe that might happen. That's how it goes sometimes, unfortunately. But either way, I'm thrilled. I'm so excited. Everyone else, well, my my parents are like, you're coming in love. We're so nervous. Everything I've read, that it's just like Ireland's such a safe place to travel. It will be okay. I will be okay, I promise. But it did kind of hit me. I went, oh my God. Because I bought him back like the middle of May. It was the middle of May. Yeah. And so it's been a while, actually. But I bought him back in the middle of May. And I remember looking at the calendar and going, well, fuck. I'm like, that's like two months away. That is not far away at all. I'm literally leaving, I think it's I'd have to look at my calendar. I bought them so quick, I don't even fucking know. I bought them for August 15th through the 25th. So I'm gonna be gone. Am I gonna podcast that week? No. So since I'm back on the ward of being consistent with podcasting, we'll see how will I do. Sorry. Um, I will not podcast that week, but you'll hear all about it after. I'm so excited. Oh, I've already started looking into wardrobes. I'm figuring out what I want to do when I'm there. I'm kind of just leaving it more chill. I want to just be able to walk around and go do stuff. I I'm gonna still I'm gonna spend a couple days in one place and a couple days in the other, and I'm just doing it by myself. I was gonna stay in hostels and share rooms with people, but I thought about it and I was like, fuck that shit. Fuck that shit. Absolutely not. That is horrifying. But it's fine. And it's all because I'm single now. I'm going to Ireland. And then I was thinking about it. I was like, where am I going next year? I'm gonna have this trip paid off in the next couple months. Where am I going next? Where am I going next? Because if I can do that by myself, I can go anywhere else. I'm kind of thinking Greece. So if you guys have some ideas of some good places to go by yourself, send them away. Just send them my way. Send them my way. I'm feeling good. I want to go. I want to just boogie boogie boogie boogie around town and just get out there. I'm able to be by myself and I can prove that I'm gonna be by myself. Do I wish I was going with the love of my life? Absolutely. Do I wish that friends are going with me? Sure. But the whole reason is to prove that I can go by myself across the world, right? Which I did that back when I was 19. But it was with a group of people that I was meeting while I was there, right? This is alone alone. This is this is my own thing. I'm gonna spend have to spend full days completely by myself in a foreign country, which I'm nervous, I'm excited, oh, it's gonna be the best. Plus, you know, if I keep doing this stuff by myself, someone's someone's gonna waddle along. I'm gonna meet somebody who wants to travel with me, you know? And planning trips with other people is just the fucking worst. It's the worst. And I do not have the capacity, like the capacity, capacity. I don't have the capacity to try to get somebody to go with me to do that stuff. Sorry, I don't. So yeah, I'm going. We're doing it. So sorry about that pause. Um, my feet were freezing. Oh, it is so cold down here. This basement is freezing. I have my vent closed, but my legs get so cold. I'm literally in a full sweatshirt, full um sweatpants. Sorry, I'm still burping. Hot dogs apparently. Full sweatpants and socks. And I'm still I'm so cold. I'm freezing. So I have to get underneath the covers really quick because I was crashing out. I hate being cold. I do. I do, I do. I do want to learn how to snowboard this year, though. So if anybody knows a good person to go to or go with or whatever, send it my way. Somebody take me snowboarding. I want to learn this year is the year of me. So let's just let's just do it. I'm gonna be unrecognizable. Unrecognizable. I want people to walk past me and I'll be like, damn, they didn't even see me. They knew me for 13 years and they don't even fucking know see that it's me. I want to be unrecognizable. Single, thriving, dating-ish. Yeah, ish, for sure. Um I'm back on the apps. I'm waiting, I'm waiting for the the tone. Everybody, everyone went mad at me, it's fine. I'm back on the apps. Do I like it? No. But it is what it is. And I actually have a few little boundaries that I set up that we can talk about if you'd like.

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I knew you'd like it.

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First off, a story. So about a month ago, I was on the apps and I'm swiping, and I see this cute boy, and I'm like, oh, hey, swipe right, match. Part of me is like, he kind of looks familiar. A little familiar. Okay. So I chat up a little bit. I go do things with friends. One night I'm like, you know what? I'm feeling bold. I'm feeling brave. I want to go do something exciting. I text him at like 11 o'clock at night, and I'm like, where do you live? Let me come hang out. And I precursed it. I said, I don't hook up. I don't do that. Um, but I want to come hang out. And he's like, actually, low-key down. So I drive all the way to this man's house, a good 30 minutes, okay? Get there. He's just a goofy dude. So funny, so friendly, so flirty. I'm all about it. Okay. Back up. The reason I decided to hit him up, I'm not gonna lie, is because earlier that day, I had seen the same name pop up on my Snapchat story. And I was like, is that the same person? Why wouldn't he say that he saw me, like he saw my Snapchat? Like he did not have my um my information. So I was like, that's weird. So I did a little bit of mental digging and a little phone digging. I had his number. We had matched before. I'm sure like a year before that, right? So, or like some couple years, whatever. So I was like, that's funny. So I go over, we hang out, we're talking, and I turned up and I go, So you didn't tell me that you saw my Snapchat story. And he was like, Oh, yeah, I didn't think it was a big deal. And I was like, Well, it's not a big deal, but it's weird you didn't bring it up. And he's kind of acting weird about it. I'm like, whatever. And then I was like, so I think we have each other's numbers. And he's like, No way. And I'm like, no, seriously, I think we've matched. So I call the number, sure enough, it's his. And we are laughing. We're like, what are the odds? We go, look, literally, almost to the date, we were hanging out when we had matched and like talked a year ago. And to be fair, he had ghosted me. So I was like, damn, you ghosted me. And he's like, Well, the conversation wasn't interesting, and I'm like, true. I'm like, don't read through those texts, but we're like, that's crazy. So we hang out. I stayed there until I think like five. Stayed so late. Okay. I was kind of obsessed. I thought he was cool. I was like, okay, I'm down. I'm down to get to know this man. He's pretty cute. He's super funny. Humor is my it is my weakness. I love a good funny man, you know? And then he's tall. Bonus, bonus, bonus, right? So I hit him up again. I was kind of being like cheeky, but I also was like, I'm like, what are we doing again? And he's like, well, we'll have to plan something for the weekend. My water, then my water heater goes out, and he's like, hey, you told me your water heater went out. And I was like, yes. And he's like, you can come shower here if you want. I was like, oh, thanks. I go use his hot water. Did I need to? No. But it was fun. We smooch a little bit and I'm leaving there feeling so good. Right. I'm kind of like, oh, I'm down to kind of like see where things go. I'm down to hang out. We make plans. He keeps pushing them off. He then tells me, I'm just not looking for anything serious. Okay, fine. Michael, we can be buddies. No response. Full blown ghosts me. I was like, what the fuck? I'm like, we can be friends. I was so cool about you not wanting anything with me and you ghost me and then unfriend me on everything. Fucked. Okay. I kind of forgot about it. I let my feelings get a little hurt, but I got over it. It was fine. I just like to be buddy buddy with everybody. So I was kind of like, ew. About a week or so ago, all of a sudden he pops up on my Tinder again. And I'm like, okay. And it sends in the corner, so-and-so super liked you. And I was like, the fuck? You super liked me? I'm like, what kind of game are you playing? What do you mean? Which part of me is like, okay, he's just being cheeky. Because honestly, same. I'm I do the same thing. I will swipe right on anyone I know on dating apps because guess what? I'm gonna collect you like a Pokemon card. If I know you, I'm gonna point out that I saw you on Tinder by swiping right. And if you swipe right, either you're funny and you're also being cheeky and collecting Pokemon cards, or you have a little crush on me. And that's lame. If you know me and you have a little crush on me, you should have said something. You should have messaged me. Boo. So I swipe right, we start talking a little bit. I tease him like of super like and he's like, What? You didn't want it? And I'm like, no, of course I fucking want it. Who doesn't want to get super liked? Ugh. In the middle of us chatting, I go and look on Instagram. He had followed me two hours before that. And I was like, oh. Okay. So he went and found me. So I haven't asked him. But part of me was like, okay, did you find my Instagram first? Or did you find me on Tinder first and then find me on Instagram? Then he sent me, he sent me like a friend request on Snapchat. We've just been buddies for the past couple days. Sounds good to me. I like making friends. It's fine. But that first little pop-up, I was like, oh my God, what's happening? It's the energy I'm putting out. I'm just bringing men to me. I'm just gonna have like a harem of men around me. That's the goal, honestly. Just kidding, just kidding. Actually, I'm not really kidding. I um I have a little bit of a a little bit of a new kind of thing I'm doing right now with dating apps, okay? So hear me out. Stick with me, okay? I am going to collect and enjoy. Okay, pause. Don't get icked out. I'm not slutting around. Legs closed. I mean, unless I'm feeling cheeky. Legs closed. Collect and enjoy. I am not putting my eggs into one basket. I'm I am not putting energy into somebody unless I really want to. I'm trying my very best to just have a few people on the roster. It's so much harder for me for some reason than I ever thought it would be. I remember in high school being really good at just like dating, but now it's like it's so much easier for me to like focus in on one person and just kind of like focus on like making sure I respond to them and I go do things with them. We're not doing that. We are not doing that. We are gonna be a little bit of a maximizer right now, and that's okay because it is hot girl summer. And until somebody gives me the time of day and and kind of has the same ideas and goals that I do, I'm not putting out. And I'm not, I'm not sticking around. I'm not putting my energy into that. Period, the end. So I made a little list of things that I'm gonna do personally this summer on dating apps. Number one, don't become pen pals. Okay. If you are texting somebody for a week that you are romantically interested in and they don't make plans or they're not trying to make plans with you, move on. We're not texting strangers all day. That is what makes me dread dating apps. Am I wrong? When you're starting over a conversation with like multiple people and you're like, hi, how are you? What do you like to do? What do you do for work? Absolutely not. We talk for a little bit. We either plan to go out or I'm unmatching you. I am unmatching you. We're not, we're not doing that. We're not talking to somebody all day. To be fair, I did speak to him. So a little while ago, I actually went on a date with a very handsome man. Okay, blondie, got a mustache, tall, hit me up, so funny. And he was like, hey, I want to go out, but it has to be like next week because I've got this and this. And I was like, yeah, sounds good to me. He continued up the conversation, made it interesting. We weren't talking all day, every day, but we we checked in like once a day. One, did not feel like a lot of pressure. Two, we had made plans on a specific day. He said what he wanted to do, where, and what time. So we had plans made. It was the plan. We checked in every day, at least once, and it wasn't, it just wasn't like made super stressful. It wasn't like we were like talking all the time. It wasn't like forced upon me to be responding because guess what? I'm a fucking busy bitch. And he's a fucking busy dude. And that is fantastic. I love it. We don't know each other. We're strangers. I do not have to respond to you. Sorry. But, anyways, so I did let that one slide. That was a little pen pally. But then we ended up going out. I had a great time. Big flirt. Love it. Um, he didn't kiss me goodbye, which was messed up. I actually I was teasing him. I texted him and I was like, I'm like, yeah, I thought you were gonna kiss me goodbye. And he goes, I couldn't tell you stepped away. And I was like, I didn't step away. I'm like, you stepped away. I'm like, you hugged me and you stepped away. And he goes, Oh, it's probably because I had a little chub. That's his humor. He told me he had a little chub, and I went, Oh my god, you're so funny. So we're kind of we have tempted plans. Um, if he forgets about the plans, am I gonna lay off on texting? Absolutely, because I've set this boundary. Okay, he and I are not gonna be pen pals. We've met once. Um, I want to go out again. I've made that clear. He's made it clear when he can and when I can. Either we go out or we don't. And right now, he's on the roster. We got his name on there. Should we start making lists for rosters? Do I need to like do I need to have an how how are you guys doing that? How are you guys keeping track of them? Should we have notes in our notes app of everybody on a roster? Oh, just kidding. I don't have that many to be forgetting their names. But could you imagine? That's so funny. I mean, get it, girl. Get it. Number two, don't continue conversations you're dreading. Don't. If you are not having a good time, I'm actually I'm team this is a hot take. I'm team ghosting's okay. I know, I know. Earlier I said my feelings are gonna hurt because I got ghosted. I did, but I didn't because guess what? He wasn't interested. He bailed. That's fine. Did he show back up later? Yeah, because I'm fucking hot as hell. But I'm actually kind of team ghosting is ghosting's okay. Sorry. If we're not vibing and I don't really know you and I'm not that interested, and I don't want to put the energy in trying to explain to you why, I don't think I have to. Is it more mature too? For sure. Somebody that I barely know, though, we can let things die out. It is okay. It will be okay. We're moving on to the next thing. So if you're dreading a conversation, especially if it hasn't even left the dating app yet, just unmatch them. If you are not looking forward to responding to somebody, stop pushing it. Because guess what? On the other end, so boring. I've been messaging back and forth with this guy on Tinder literally just today, and he's giving one-word answers, and I'm like, done. We're not doing this. I literally just unmatched him like maybe like 20 minutes ago or however. Oh, it's been 41 minutes. So, right before I started the podcast, I was like, okay, we're not talking anymore. Because he was giving me one-word answers. He wasn't asking me questions. Why did you match with me? Why did you message me? What the actual fuck? But also, I've been on that end where it's like, I'm just like, I'm just responding to be nice, but guess what? That's almost worse. Let them move on, let them meet somebody else. If it comes back around, it comes back around. Just saying. If there's no connection, there's no connection. So if you're not feeling it, leave it. I actually go sit somebody. As of recent, I went on one date with him. And I'm not gonna lie, the entire date he kept bringing up. He's like, you got the next one. You got the next one. And hear me out. If you want to take turns planning dates and paying for dates, whatever, sure, great. I will offer to whip out my card, but I am on the end where I kind of want a man who takes care of tear stuff. I do. Not because I'm a gold digger. I have money, I can take care of things, I can take care of myself. No problem. In fact, I like, I like treating my partners. But when it comes down to it, I'm looking for a husband. I'm looking for somebody who is gonna be the man of the house. I want to have babies. I want to be a stay-at-home mom at some point. Starting off our dating little exp escapade? Escapade. There we go. Our little dating escapade with you being like, you got the next one. You gotta plan the next one. What you gotta pay for it. Yuck. Vile. And I'm sorry, but if I'm in person with you, I'm gonna go, yeah, of course. Like I don't know you. I can't be that honest with you yet. So honestly, things started to die out. I kind of stopped responding less. Well, started started responding, started responding more and more, like less and less and less. This man called me out. I said, I'm so sorry about that. You're right. I think we're good as just friends. And he was like, he like got back to me and he was like, actually, if you want, I'm still available. And I was like, oh my god. So we decided to be buddies. Okay. And he started kind of like trying to teach me a lesson. And I'm it's making me mad. I just I left him on red again, just barely, because he was like, this for the second time, he was like, now I won't be able to respond for the rest of the day because I'm busy with this or that. And I'm like, okay, fucking don't respond then. What do you what do you mean? We barely know each other. We went on one date. We have texted on and off here or there. Too much pressure for somebody that I'm not dating. I'm sorry, but it is. You expect a spray a stranger to respond to you? That's crazy. That is crazy. If we made plans and I wasn't responding to your plans, absolutely. You can pressure me. Absolutely. That's fucked. But to be hitting me up and like trying to make me like learn a lesson, it's just it's the undertones. So I just left Monred again, but so I'm sure I'll hear about it later and then I'll just leave Monred again because yucky, cucka. But that's the thing, is if you're not filming the conversation and you're dreading responding and you're it's making you drate but I'm getting over my words. I'm so sorry. And it's getting you to dread talking to people, that's not the point. Dating is supposed to be fun. Say it with me. Ready, ready? Okay. One, two, three. Dating is supposed to be fun. It's supposed to be enjoyable. You're supposed to be able to be enjoying and meeting people and learning things about yourself until you're with you meet somebody that things really vibe with, right? So if it's not enjoyable, back off. That conversating with that man was not enjoyable because I was dreading it. Because it was expected that I respond. And if I didn't respond, I was getting double texted. And I'm sorry, but it icked me out. It really icked me out that it was off the bat immediately. You got the next one. Tell me that you want me to wear the pants without telling me you want me to wear the pants. You're putting me in my masculinity. Actually, I want to be my my feminine era. I'm a feminine galley. I'm sorry. Okay. The third one. The app is a tool and not a lifestyle. It's a tool. It's meant to be used to meet people. So we're using all these things. Remembering it's a tool. It is not supposed to control your life at all. Let them ask you out. Move to the next if it's done a fit. It's they kind of all tie in together. We are not wasting our energy on people who are not interested in us. We're not interested in them. Just be honest with yourself. Okay. Does it have the maximalist kind of mindset a little bit? Because if not this one, then the next. But until you know somebody or you've met somebody or anything like that, why are we putting so much energy into them? Sammy, why are you putting so much energy into somebody? Fucking stop. If they're not interested, they're not interested. And that's totally fine. If you're not interested, you're not interested. Okay. And I get it. Some matches are exciting, some are not. I get it. And I'm on that. I'm on that. I get it. I've matched people that I think are so hot, and then we yap a little bit. I'm like, you're not as exciting. And then I'll meet someone. I'm like, oh, that is the holy land. Finally, we met somebody. But if they're not giving you that energy back, get off of it. Get off of it. Okay. We are not getting stuck in that anymore. I'm talking in, I'm talking in circles. What else did I want to say? Also, I've decided non-committal makeouts, they're okay. They're okay. Um, Chase from Secret Lives and Mormon Wives actually has a podcast, and I was listening to it the other day, and he talked about how making out is fun. Bring making out back. And I agree with that tenfold. He even said in his podcast, he's like, if you ever need like a makeout and you're out and about and you meet me, he's like, let me know. And I was like, all right, so I'll be looking for you. I would love to make out with Chase from Secret Lives and Marvel Mives. It's gotta be good because he's he's rounding up all those girls. So I would love a good makeout with Chase. I'm not gonna lie, not gonna lie. I was at Lake Effect the other night and I saw him there once, like months ago. And so now every time I go there, I'm like peeking around. Where is he? I've got a little crush on him. I'm not gonna deny. I'm not gonna deny. But I agree full, like full-fledgedly. Smooching does not equal dating. It doesn't. In fact, I think it builds up the chemistry and it makes you more comfortable because I'm not gonna lie, after I've had someone's tongue down my throat, I'm gonna be more myself. Absolutely. And I'm gonna be flushed. Oh, to be flushed and nervous. That is that is my jam. That is absolutely my jam. I think that's a wrap for today. Thank you for listening in to me ramble. This is so fun. I'm I'm all warmed up in my covers now. My toes were freezing, and now I'm laid back, relaxed. I just talked my soul out, and yeah, I feel good. Do you feel good? I need a makeout now. It's like a it's like a cigarette. I've never had a cigarette, but I need a good little makeout. Do I call my ex? Just kidding. I got a few of them. I could I call call. I could call somebody. Be like, hey, give me a smooch. Just kidding. Just kidding. We don't do hookups at all. If it happens, it happens. It's fine. Anyways, everyone go check out Britney's skincare brand, like we talked about earlier. Psyched About Beauty. 10% off code SAMI10. S-A-M-I-10. Please, please, please, please. Follow me on Instagram. Follow both my pages. I've got my my main account, Bubble Master, B-U-B-B-L-E-M-A-S-T-E-R, and my other account, which is my dating refresh. Just like the podcast. You literally typed it in to look up this podcast. Unless you're following me on Apple Music or whatever it's called. What is it called? Apple Podcasts? What is it fucking called? Just podcast? I think it's just called podcast. And it alerted you. It told you that I posted. If you already follow me at that, you might as well follow my Instagram because then I post stories and stuff. That I that should be enticing for some reason. I will also put that in the description. I really appreciate you listening. I hope that you have a wonderful, wonderful week. This will be out this week, and then I'm recording the next one, and I will be posting next week. And you can hear about who DM'd me on Instagram. Anyways, have a great rest of your night. Have a great rest of your week. Have a great rest of your weekend. Smooch somebody this weekend for me. And then tell me about it. Bye.