It's Not Over Yet: The Comeback Mindset That Changes Everything

This week on Unplugged with Pam: Breakfast Club Edition, we're unpacking one of the greatest comeback moments in recent memory and the powerful lesson it teaches us about life, leadership, faith, and resilience.

Too often we allow temporary setbacks to convince us that the game is over.

A difficult season.
 A business challenge.
 A financial setback.
 A loss.
 A disappointment.
 A dream that seems delayed.

But being down is a circumstance.

Being defeated is a decision.

In this episode, Pamela Pacheco explores why champions don't panic when they're behind, how pressure reveals who we truly are, and what it takes to develop the mindset needed to overcome adversity and keep moving forward when the odds are against you.

Drawing inspiration from the New York Knicks' historic comeback, biblical comeback stories, and powerful lessons from Tim Grover's Winning and Relentless, this conversation will challenge you to stop focusing on the scoreboard and start focusing on the next play.

Because a bad quarter doesn't mean a bad game.

And if God is still writing your story, your comeback may be closer than you think.

Being counted out doesn't mean you're finished.

You can be down 20 and still win.

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Great morning, great morning, beautiful people. Top of the morning, everyone. Welcome back to another episode of Unplugged with Pam Breakfast Club Edition, where we not only just talk about growth, we walk in it each and every single day. If you're joining us for the first time, welcome. If you're joining us once again, welcome home. I remember when I first embarked upon entrepreneurship, and I was looking forward to listening to motivational things in the morning, listening, starting off my day with some fire, with some positivity. So kudos to each and every single one of you guys that decided to start your morning off with the fire this morning, with some positivity. So you guys know I wouldn't be who I am if we don't talk about the obvious. So what am I talking about? If you, first of all, if you're brand new here and you're like, man, what are we what are we talking about every Thursday morning and every um unplugged with past with with unplugged with Pam podcast? You can always see not only where we are growing professionally, where we are growing spiritually, financially, where we can become leaders, entrepreneurs, the best versions of ourselves, amazing parents, spouses, the difference makers God created us to be. So whether you're joining us from home or office, or you're watching live or the replay, type an L if you're watching the um live, type an R if you're watching replay. Well, I'm excited because today's conversation was obviously inspired. Maybe you're not a basketball fan, maybe you have no idea what's going on, but today's conversation was inspired by something we witnessed this week and especially last night. One of the most, if not, I believe the most incredible comebacks that we've ever seen in NBA history. I mean, the Knicks were down over 20 points, almost 30 points. The pressure was crazy, the odds were not in their favor. And in fact, many people had already counted them out, and yet they found a way to win. As I watched the game yesterday with my family, I could not just but think like, man, there's still hope. There's still hope because they just had that fire. Like when you saw Jalen, like when he was just locked in. I just told my goddaughter that plays one of my godchildren that plays toys. I was like, when I tell you to lock in and get your focus on, like, that's the lock-in that I'm talking about. That's the great lock in. When we talk about lock in, and why was this so inspiring? Because they were down and out, and yet they found a way to win. And I couldn't help but think about life, right? I couldn't help but think about my own life. I couldn't help but think about business because every single one of us has experienced being down. That's just the reality. Whether that's down financially, whether it's down emotionally, whether it's down spiritually, whether it's down in our confidence, our confidence, how you know I love to say, whether it is down in business, whether it's down after a loss, whether it is just because you're down after a disappointment. But here is what I know that champions understand. Being down is a circumstance. Being defeated is a decision. So being down, my note takers, because my note takers are history makers. Being down is a circumstance, being defeated is a decision. Yano, we always say decision. What does decisions mean if you're brand new here? Well, you kill off all other options. We we take that word very, very lightly, but the reality is that when you kill off all other options, you get what happened last night. Down to 20, still one. The comeback mindset, and that's exactly what we're gonna talk about. Why it's not over yet. Your setback is not your story, your current situation is not your final destination. Don't confuse the transportation with the destination, right? And if God is still breathing in life into you, it's because he's still not finished with your story. If you have a pulse, you still have a purpose. So if you just grab your cafecito like me or grab your notebook and lean in, because this conversation, I think that is not only going to be something inspirational, but I believe that it can be transformational because I believe that a bad quarter does not be does not mean a bad game. Just like a bad day does not mean a bad life. So down 20, still one, the comeback mindset, why it's not over yet. And why is this something that I believe is important? Well, first and foremost, this is one of the things that I realized, and maybe we'll see in an interview coming up, but I don't think Jalen was checking the scoreboard. I I don't think I think he like glimpsed at it a little bit in the beginning, and it was just like, all right, cool, I know what I gotta do. And I think that that was a great, great takeaway for us because some of us, I believe that we start reading the scoreboard too early. And I think that that's one of the biggest mistakes people make is evaluating their life just a little too soon, just a little too soon. So, and and what do I mean by that? Well, we look at one bad season, just one, and then we're like, oh, I'm behind, I'm late, I'm failing, you know, because such and such is this, so oh, it's not working, and the Knicks could have easily just been like, you know what, I could accept the scoreboard, it is what it is, but champions are relentless, champions understand one thing and one thing only the scoreboard only matters when the game is over. That's the only time the scoreboard matters when the game is over, and many, many people, I believe that they're even listening today, that are just allowing a temporary circumstances to define permanent identity. So, what do I mean by temporary circumstances to define permanent identity? Maybe it can be a job loss, maybe it can be a mistake you made, maybe it can be, you know, the scoreboard doesn't look in your favor right now. Whatever it is that you find yourself looking at. Maybe you're navigating bank account balances, maybe you're even navigating health challenges, which are not to be taken lightly by any means, way, shape, or form. Maybe you're navigating relationship struggles and deciding who you are based on where you currently are. But I believe that God never defines us by our current circumstances, he defines us by our calling. That's why I always say your calling gotta be greater than the circumstances. Your calling has to be greater than the current situation, and you know, we could talk about so many entrepreneurial setbacks, we could talk about my caregiving journey, we could talk about so many things, so many times building something when nobody, absolutely nobody understands the vision, right? Seasons where it just looked absolutely impossible, and I tell you, one in particular, when I found myself in the space, and it was crazy, right? Because as my mom got diagnosed with stage four stomach cancer, simultaneously, my business was going bankrupt. I was transitioning, you know, moving as well. It was so many different things going on, it was so many different parts. One of my friends had had a stroke at the same time, like right before, and it was like so many little things that were just preparing my faith. It was so many little things that were just preparing me. And when I look back at it, I'm like, man, that was really what that was the entire time. But I thought in that in that circumstance, I was like, you know what? School, my mom's gonna be uh healed in no time. We're gonna do the chemo, we're praying every morning, we're praying every night. There's no way she's not gonna get healed. Well, God just decided to heal her in heaven versus earth. That nine months, I saw the power of me realizing that the calling was bigger than the circumstance. But when she got called home to heaven, and I thought that I was not even going to survive in that season, let alone thrive. I realized that there's so many things that you will think, you will think that will knock like your life is over. Like, because I felt like a part of me just completely vanished too, into thin air. But I also understand that the calling is greater than the circumstance, that the purpose is greater than the pain that I was feeling in the moment and the faint the pain that you still feel, and you just get better in when you are actually in it. And one of my favorite books, you guys know I always reference Tim Grover, relentless winning. And in the book winning, he talks about how winners we don't need external validation whatsoever. In fact, why? Because we don't need proof before we actually move. We move because we know who we are, because of who we are, and I believe just like Grover said, that winners we operate differently because we do not allow the circumstances to dictate our identity. Period. And yes, I think that's powerful because too many people need evidence before they're believing. Ask yourself, where right now in your life are you like, you know what, I need some evidentiary support before I decide to to mark this up as a win. Like, I I need I need to see it before I actually believe. But champions, we believe before seeing, we believe the same way faith works, right? Faith without works is dead, but we bel we see it just like we walk by faith and not by sight. But a bad quarter does not mean a bad game, just like a bad day does not mean a bad life, just like a bad moment does not mean a bad situation, and it's all about perspective. And one of the things that I love that they did was you just saw the shift, you saw the shift, and I believe that that shift happens, that comeback happens when the excuses just stop. When the excuses just stop, and because most people they want different results, but they're not willing to put in different kinds of work, they're not willing to develop different habits. Everybody wants a comeback, but what are you willing to do for comeback work? You know, as I consult clients and corporations and entrepreneurs and mentees, and I absolutely love it because you know, I deal with so many different varieties, and as I build community, I mentor people from 18 years old all the way to 80 years old. It's your mindset, it's your mindset. Then you have some people that are like, Man, I've tried certain things and I've tried all these businesses and I've tried all of these things, and they just don't work. Well, did the business not work or did you not work on your stinking thinking? Some people are like, Oh, you know, those people need to break, those people brainwash you. Well, some of us, our brains need to be washed. Just saying, it's been a lot of stinking thinking, there's been a lot of trauma, it's been a lot of negativity, it's been a lot of things that you kind of do. We need to rewire. We need to rewire that thinking. And you know, one of the things when we talk about like that, being being able to do the relentless work, right? It's the coolers, like Tim says, it's the coolers, which is the average performers, right? We got the closers who are the people that finish, but then we got the cleaners, and the cleaners, we are the elites, honey. We are the rare for you, we are the people that show up no matter what. We are the people that don't need the motivation, we're the ones that don't need no applause, we're the ones that don't need no external validation, we're the ones that are gonna execute regardless of our feelings, right? Shout out to my boy Marco. No feelings. I always have this in my office because I'm a girl, I'm emotional sometimes. I'm just saying, I'm just a girl. All right, but the reality is that you can feel your feelings, just don't stay there. Feel your feelings because on the other side of that is freedom. But when you are in that state and you really sit there and you ask yourself, am I waiting until I feel like it, or am I committed regardless? Am I waiting until I feel like it, or am I committed regardless? Because the comeback begins in the moments that your commitment becomes stronger than your excuses, that your commitment becomes greater and stronger than your circumstances, that the calling over your life, that the calling that that vision, that dream is greater than the temporary state, than the temporary circumstance, and the temporary emotion. Ask yourself. I had to ask myself as I was actually preparing for this this morning. I'm like, man, what what where in your life have I been negotiating with myself? Where have you been negotiating with your health? Where have you been negotiating with your business? Where have you been negotiating with your prayer life? Where have you been negotiating with your personal brands? Where have you been negotiating with your relationships? Where have you been negotiating with your content creation? Where have you been negotiating with your leadership, with your business, with your calling? Where have you been negotiating with your gifts, with the tasks that already were given to you? The the future, your future, you, your future dreams, your future, our futures, period. They don't care about how we feel today, they just don't. So when you ask yourself and you're like, man, well uh, you know, all these things are great. Well, here's what I do know we hear all the time, like, oh, pressure's makes diamonds, ah. Well, I believe that pressure doesn't break champions, on the contrary, it reveals them. Many people spend so many time, and I remember because I'm people, right? I was there too. You're praying for bigger opportunities, you're praying that you know bigger opportunities bring bigger blessings. But here's what we fail to realize that bigger bigger opportunities also bring bigger pressure. Bigger opportunities also bring greater and bigger stewardship requirements, bigger opportunities also require bigger leadership, bigger responsibility. Pressure is not punishment, pressure is preparation. Pressure ain't punishment. It just depends again what your perspective is going on, go what you're looking like. And when you hear all like, oh, you know, diamonds, pressure creates from creates them, you know, elite athletes, pressure creates them, leaders, pressure creates them, entrepreneurs, pressure creates them. The most iconic, historic, pressure creates them. It doesn't matter who you're talking about, you know. One of my favorite, my favorite by voices is like um consider it pure joy, right? Whenever you're dealing with with trials, because you know that the your the testing of your faith develops perseverance. So when I when I look back, you know, and it's I was just talking to a friend about this the other day, and I was like, man, and I'm telling her, I'm like, you know, I know this, I know the situation looks crazy right now, but remember your history with God, right? So when I when I look at so many different situations that have brought immense pressure, whether it's curating an event, creating, curating a trip overseas, right? Like I remember that part like almost a year ago. Like little things could change, and and you feel so much pressure in the moment, and you think that you're going to explode. And you're like, Well, how am I gonna change this? What's this gonna look like? Because right out, but you know you can't stop, you know you gotta get it done. You know, you know that you're not it's not over until it's over, and that's the mentality that you have because you're like, Well, this pressure ain't gonna break me. I'm gonna see what's on the other side of it in any time. And it's not to say, Oh, you know, when those situations happen, like, imagine this, right? Imagine you're and I'm gonna give y'all some tea while I'm drinking my cafecito. Now you're like, she's drinking it with a straw. Yes, I am. Imagine you are, and this was this was last year, me hosting a trip, right? I curated this experience to Fajardo, Puerto Rico. So when we get there, you know, the hotel is absolutely incredible. So, so great. I love that. One of our great partners, but you know, people be peopling and things that happen in the Murphy's Law, what can go wrong will go wrong on the wrong day. So, you know, last minute, literally last minute, 24 hours before the venue. Mind you, this is a theme trip that I'm hosting, a theme retreat where we're not only in Puerto Rico, but we are in a city that I've never like I've had fun in, I've spoken in, I've done business in, but I I don't, I don't, I don't really know anybody there. You know what I mean? It's not like the states that I could like really move around how I need to. Well, just so happens that one of my friends that is a comedic rock star, him and his beautiful wife, I'm hosting this. Um, shout out to Justin and Ashley. I'm hosting this trip, right? And with our community, it's over 80 of us here, and I'm hosting this comedy show in Puerto Rico. Well, the venue decides at the hotel that it was a no-go 24 hours before the show. 24 hours now. Again, I'm showing y'all just one out of a million things that cause pressure in my life, right? And in what I do, and it and but you go on the gram and you see the video, and it looks like it was a time. Well, champions adjust. Well, I had to go check out some venues. I went to the city hall, I went and I asked them if I could rent out their venue. I went ahead and I rented, I put the deposit. I was like, oh, we need to get a bar. Had some of the girls, that's why you need to have great people around you, community around you, had some of the girls become the bartenders, had other people come help me. People that got there early didn't know that they became the volunteers, they helped set up. Like, we completely we we completely made that room look like a show, and it was a sold-out show, standing room only. I mean, absolutely incredible. His first international debut in Puerto Rico. I'm not telling you that's a bolster Tabrac, but I'm telling you that a lot of times things look pretty from the outside and they look pretty on the gram, but you don't know what kind of pressure went on behind closed doors. So there, these things are never easy, but pressure exposes who it is that you truly are because you don't become something. You don't become something new under pressure. No, no, no, no. You reveal what's already going on inside of you. So when people be like, Oh, you know, no, it's because of the situation. Like, I give grace and I give empathy, but I also know champions adjust. I also know pressure is just gonna show me who it is that you are. And when we think of, you know, the fourth quarter belongs to those who stay. Championships belong to those who stay. Most people quit too early, not because they're incapable, because they're tired, because they're discouraged, because they're frustrated, because they're impatient. I could think about Joseph in the Bible, in prison, forgotten, betrayed, rejected, all of these things. I could think about David, an anointed king, years spent running. Imagine being chosen and still having to wait, trying to be persecuted. I could think about Jesus. Oh my goodness, even then the disciples thought that it was over. Friday looked like the feat, honey, but Sunday change everything. Never make a permanent decision in a temporary season. Never make a permanent decision based on a temporary emotion. At any moment, things can change if you believe that they can, if you're willing to put in the work, because I'm gonna tell you momentum can change in a moment. One call, one interaction, one meeting, one conversation, one introduction, one prayer, one opportunity, one conversation, one act of obedience. One simple thing that it was too hard for you to do yesterday, that you just made a decision to say, I'm gonna do it today. One simple thing that can completely change the trajectory of your life, of your future. There's there's so many, there's so many times that I said, you know what? Man, I don't know what this, I don't know what this looks like right now, but I'm just I'm just gonna wait it. I'm just gonna take it a step at a time. And I and I still know, but I just knew that I had one yes from God. One yes from God was going to outweigh a million no's from man. One yes. That's that's all I needed was one yes. And you know, I think of in business and I and I deal with clients and I deal with mentees where sometimes it doesn't matter what product or service they're offering. I get this all the time. It's like, oh, you know, my friends, they're they're not supporting me, so does it mean that this is not what I'm supposed to do? I'm sorry, and I'm not trying to call your friend a monkey, but one monkey does not stop no show. I'm just sorry. Like what God has blessed, no man can curse. We have to take ourselves out of this space that people owe us something because they don't. They don't. And I remember when I first embarked upon entrepreneurship that I somehow thought that because I was the supportive and loyal sister friend, that all of my friends and all of my family members were going to support me. Do you know how much that hurt my feelings? And you're not talking to the same personally developed and spiritually developed Pam, you understand? So I burned a lot of bridges. I got so bitter, but then I realized they were not saying no to whatever I was offering. They were not saying no to me, they were saying no to themselves, and if for whatever reason it wasn't gonna happen, it was okay because nobody owes you anything, and you gotta get to this place of you have to be unapologetic, unapologetic about your assignment, unapologetic about your conviction of winning, unapologetic of saying, you know what it is, fourth quarter. It don't matter what the scoreboard looked like, it don't matter what the bank account looked like, it don't matter what the business looked like, it don't matter the the transgressions, it don't matter the mistakes, it don't matter it what matters is where I'm going moving forward. What matters is what I'm doing today, one foot in front of the other. That's it, one foot in front of the other. You don't gotta you don't gotta have everything like, oh my god, I gotta be perfect. No, because nobody nobody is perfect. But when you talk about one decision, it's just one, it's just one decision for you to start. When when you when we when I remember the first time I ever read the book Winning by Tim Grover, and he was talking about how winners just stay ready because opportunities rarely announce themselves, they appear suddenly, so you stay ready so you don't gotta get ready. The question is, will you be prepared when yours arrives? That's it. Will you be prepared when yours arrives? And when you think of, you know, again, it was such a beautiful historic comeback, but when you think of Matt, you were built for more than survival, like that reminded me of that last night. Why? Because so many people are just surviving right now. So many people are just living quiet lives of desperation, paying bills, managing stress, getting through the week, getting through the month. But God did not create you to merely survive, He created you to thrive, He created you to live a life of overflow, a life of abundance, He created you to lead, He created you to serve, He created you to impact, He created you to multiply, He created you to build legacy. So if you if somebody tells me like, Oh, I as a believer in a house that listen, I know I'm made in the image and likeness of the Most High King, not fear, not limitation, not mediocrity. I know who I know in the image that I'm made of. So when you when you ask yourself these things, maybe you need to write some of my daily affirmations down. Maybe you need to say some of these things to yourself every morning. I am not a quitter, I am not finished, I am not disqualified. My setback is the setup for the greatest comeback. I am chosen for greatness, I have been set apart. God is still working, my gifts still make room for me. My vision can still come to fruition. God has already authorized my victory. I am equipped for my assignment. I am right on time for what God has for me. I am called, I am capable, I am chosen, I am becoming the best version of me. Today's gonna be a phenomenal day. But say it with conviction. I'll tell you, our comebacks, and I say ours because it's not just yours, our comebacks require faith, they require believing before we actually see, they require discipline, doing what needs to be done even when we don't feel like it, they require consistency, showing up repeatedly, they require patience in trusting God's divine and perfect timing. They require courage, they require for us to move even with the fear. Fear means nothing more than false evidence appearing real. It could tell you forget everything and run, or it could tell you face everything and rise. Lamanda Jalen did whoop. It means being obedient, it means following instructions even when you don't understand them, even when we don't feel like it. I believe that your story isn't over. I believe that maybe that season is ending, but that doesn't mean that you're done. I believe that you're one prayer away, you're one conversation away, your one breakthrough away, you're one relationship away, your one meeting away, your one phone call away, your one act of obedience away. The scoreboard may say you're down, your circumstances may say it's impossible. People may have counted you out, but trust and believe God is still betting on you. We are still counting on you, and God has history, and there's historical evidence of taking what seems impossible and making it possible, taking those situations that seem like you have been defeated, like everything is lost, and making you victorious as the champion you're called to be. So maybe you're like, you know what? I'm tired. I'm done sitting on the benches, I'm done sitting on the sideline. Well, we're building a championship team. Maybe you're the person that's like, man, I just need some strategy, whether it's business or coaching. Maybe you're maybe you're the person that's like, I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired. I need I need to change some things, whether it be with my systems. Maybe, maybe I just I need something different. I need to pivot. I need to build wealth, I need to have fun, freedom, fulfillment. DM me the word coach, and let's get together. As always, it is my pleasure, honor, and privilege to serve you guys. Thank you for tuning in to another episode of Unplugged with Pam Breakfast Club Edition brought to you by Chosen Global. Make sure you guys are subscribed on all streaming platforms Spotify, YouTube, Apple, Amazon, Buzz Sprout, you name it. As always, great day and God bless. Much love, y'all. It's not over yet.