Why Men Suffer In Silence?

The quiet rules we give to boys—don’t cry, be tough, shake it off—grow into heavy armor that men carry for years. Big Slick pulls that armor apart with straight talk on why silence isn’t strength and how speaking up can actually be the bravest move in the room. We unpack where the script starts, how it hardens into habit, and what it costs when rage, stress, and shame spill into work, love, and family. Big Slick walks through real ways to change course without feeling corny or exposed. From choosing one trusted person to call, to using simple breathing or journaling drills, to trying therapy if you’re ready, the focus stays practical and honest. If your circle is solid, your people will hold space; if they don’t, we talk about building a tighter network that protects your truth. For Black men carrying extra daily battles, we name the weight and offer tools to unload it without losing your edge. By the end, you’ll have a blueprint: recognize the old messages, replace them with emotional courage, and take small daily reps that build real strength. No lectures, no fluff—just the reminder that protecting and providing also means protecting your health and providing your voice. Hit play, share this with someone who needs it, and tell us: what belief about emotions are you letting go of today? If the show hits home, follow, leave a review, and send your story to talkyourshitdaily@gmail.com so we can read it on air.

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Chapters

• 0:15 Opening And Shout Outs
• 0:37 Men Suffering In Silence
• 0:46 Childhood Lessons Against Emotion
• 1:49 The Cost Of Emotional Suppression
• 3:10 Who To Talk To And How
• 5:21 Vulnerability As Real Strength
• 6:41 Extra Weight Of Daily Challenges
• 8:40 Communication, Therapy, And Options
• 8:50 Call For Emails And Closing

Transcript

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What up, what up, what up, what up? It's your boy Big Slick, and welcome to another episode of Talk Your Shit. First, I want to give a shout out to all the listeners. Whether you're home, at work, in your car, or you're a truck driver on the road, I appreciate you tuning in. Let's jump right into it. Today's show is about men that suffer in silence. It's about mental health. And let's check this out, man. Me personally, I think this started from when a man is a child. Right? Because when you're young, the first thing you hear is, Oh, don't cry, be a big boy. Don't cry. So you're getting taught not to be shown emotions early at an early age to show no emotions. Yo, don't cry, dust it off. You ain't hurt. You know what I'm saying? So now what happens is that you become a young man doing the same thing, not showing any emotions whatsoever, right? We know that's not a good thing because you're going through a lot as a young man anyway. What ends up happening is that you crash out, right? Or if you make it past that stage, you become a grown man that's holding all these emotions in, and you end up crashing out, right? So this is the thing, man. A lot of times men don't communicate what's going on because it shows vulnerability, right? And vulnerability is supposed to be a sign of weakness, right? Which is really not, but that's the misconception. You know, I'm saying that we have as men, we were taught not to show our true feelings. And if it ain't some, you know, hard, rough, you know, something that's dealing with you know, physical or something like that, then it's considered soft. So if you you're talking about some type of emotion you showing, you considered weak. So a lot of men don't show those emotions, which affects them through life, right? But again, you're taught to do that at a young age. So as a man, this is something you gotta correct yourself as you get older because nobody is not going to correct it for you, even society, you know, teaches you that way, your parents are teaching you that way, the you know I'm saying, depending on now, I'm not saying all parents do that, but the majority teach young men, young boys really to not show emotions. They might not mean to do it, but if a if a little boy fall down and hurt itself, and you telling him, like, yo, that don't hurt, wipe it off, stop crying, then you're teaching them not to show emotions. You know what I'm saying? They become grown men that don't show emotions. So, what do we do now with a lot of men that's holding us in, that's actually suffering in silence. You know, to me personally, I think the best thing you should do is to talk to somebody, talk to a loved one, talk to your, you know, your wife, your friends, your homeboys. Now, sometimes a lot of men don't talk to their homeboys about sensitive topics, you know, that might be considered vulnerable because now they don't want their homeboys thinking they soft. But I'll tell you like this if this is truly your friend, he wouldn't think you're soft because he probably going through the same thing you going through about communicating certain emotions that might have transpired when you were a young man. A lot of times, these things we hold since we were kids, it never really discussed it with nobody. So you become a man holding on to these emotions that happened when you were a child. So, you know, a lot of times, like I said, men don't want to talk to a homeboy or something like that. Because they might be like, Oh, what's this dude talking about? Man, he's soft, man. What are you talking about when he was a kid? Nobody paid attention to him, so now he seeks attention, or you know, guy looking at you like you're crazy. But again, if you got a tight circle and it's somebody truly your friend, they'll listen to you. Now, you got a wife or a girlfriend, she should be close enough to you that she'll listen to you as well, right? If that's who you with and that's who you love, you should be able to open up to her like that. And then again, we we'll show that showing emotions is a sign of weakness or showing certain things, you're being vulnerable, but that's actually a sign of being strong, that's a sign of strength when when when you can show emotions, you know, and still hold it down, you know, not thinking you're weak because you're doing this, because you're not weak, you're actually stronger. It's actually easier to not communicate, it's easier to hold stuff in than to unpack it and get it out, you know. And that and as men, that's what we need to start doing. Stop holding on to all this stuff. Because as a man, and personally as a black man, it's already hard enough for you, man. Time you leave out the house, it's challenges that's right in your face every day. Now you carrying extra baggage from when you were a child or you know, teenager, or whatever it is, would or you could be carrying baggage from you from manhood. You need to you need to get that off your chest, man. You you need to talk to somebody about it. Whether you seek professional help, you know, a lot of people, you know, don't want to go to a to a therapist and talk to them, you know, which I understand. It's not for everybody. I'm not even trying to say that it's for everybody to you know that's what you should do, but it works for a lot of people. There might be something that you can go and do, you know. I'm saying to get it off your chest, but I'm just saying, you don't want to crash out, so you need to communicate these things because it's a lot of men that's suffering in silence, man. And we already go through a lot already. We just do that's just point blank. So why carry on with stuff we don't need to carry? Release it, let it go, keep it moving. I know it's easier said than done. I know I'm saying it like, oh yo, like it's so simple. It's not simple, but it's baby steps, you know. Work your way towards it because I guarantee you you'll feel much better when you release some of this stuff, man. We already know we got to protect and provide. That's already built in our DNA. If you're a real man, that's built in your DNA. You you you know, that's that's there, you're gonna do that. You're you're you're trained to do that. That's what's supposed to happen. A lot of people don't have that, but that's what's supposed to happen, right? Now, communicating stuff is something that's not building our DNA, but that's something we have to learn and know that it's okay to do. So basically, man, I'm I'm gonna tell you like this, man. If you're holding on to a lot of stuff, get it off your chest because what's gonna happen that now this causes health issues, this causes stress. You know, stress causes everything, high blood pressure, all types of things going on, you know, when you hold in all this stuff, it leads to a lot, it leads to drinking. A lot of people turn to drinking, a lot of people turn to drugs, you know, when they holding on to stuff, and the root cause can be because you're not communicating this stuff, so you seek something else to drown it out, and that's what happens a lot of times, and it runs into issues, right? And if it ain't, you know, drinking or or or drugs or something, it might be you got anger issues, you get angry quick, right? Around the house, around the kids, around family, you just snap and you know, stuff like that. It's a lot of ways that this thing plays out when you carry around this extra baggage that you need to get off your chest. So I'm saying it like this, man. Get it off your chest, talk to somebody close, man. Don't suffer in silence, bro. You know what I'm saying? Handle your business, and that's what it is. It's been another great episode of Talk Your Shit. You know what I'm saying? Big slick keeping it on a positive note, man. You know, mental health is serious. Go get that help, man. You know what I'm saying? Again, if you want to be a part of the show, send me an email at talk your shit daily at gmail.com. That's talkyour shit daily at gmail.com. I'll get your letter, I'll read it on the show. I give you my honest, uncut, raw opinion, whether you like it or not. I'm gonna give you the truth because that's all I know how to do. It's been another great episode, man. Holler at your boy, it's big, slick, and I'm out. Pace.