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Are You Really My Friend or Just Using Me?
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Ever feel like your friendship has turned into a transaction? In this episode of Talk Ya Sh!t Daily, Big Slick unpacks the emotional and financial stress that comes when a friend constantly asks for money, advice, or favors—and how to set healthy boundaries before resentment builds.
You’ll learn how to say no without guilt, when lending money crosses the line, and how to protect your peace without losing a good friend. We also talk about the difference between emotional support and financial strain, and how clear communication can save your friendship.
Whether you’ve been the “go-to” friend or the one in need, this episode offers practical advice, boundary-setting scripts, and mindset shifts that help you support others without draining yourself.
👉 Listen now to learn:
- How to tell when generosity turns into pressure
- Why lending to friends often backfires
- How to say no with empathy and confidence
- Healthier ways to help without handing over cash
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Now let's talk about it. What up, what up, what up? This is Big Slick and welcome to Talk Your Shit. As always, we got another great episode for you today. But first, I want to give a shout out to all my listeners, whether you at home, at work, in your car, or all the truck drivers on the road tuning in. I appreciate you listening. Look, we got another letter to read off that somebody emailed in to the Let's Talk About it letter. We're going to jump right into it. This is what I'm going to do. I'm going to read the letter off, and then I'm going to give you my honest, uncut, raw opinion on it because that's what I do. Let's check it out. Let's see what we got. My friend only calls when he needs something. All right. I've known him for years, but lately he only reaches out when he wants advice or favor, mostly money. I feel used. Should I pull back or tell him how I feel? That's a good question. So if you knew this person for years and all of a sudden out the blue, they're asking you for a lot of favors. Who knows? They might be having a rough patch right now, they're going through in their life where you're the closest one to them that they can reach out to and ask favors for, right? So they said you said they asked for advice. Now that's a good thing. So if you got a close friend that's asking you for advice, that's good. You should give it to him or her. Give them that advice because they think highly of you anyway. If they asking you for advice, so that means they see something in you and they feel like you're you're knowledgeable enough to give them some good advice. So I wouldn't be too concerned that he's asking you for a lot of advice now. That's that's actually a good thing, and you should be honored that somebody is coming to you for that type of advice. So I wouldn't be concerned about that. The thing I would be concerned about is the favors, and you saying the favors is mostly money. Now that's a little bit concerning because you know, once you start either, and I don't know if you loaning the money or you giving them money, your friend. So I don't know which one it is. Either way, once you're dealing with a friend and you start involving money situations where you're loaning it to him or giving it to him, the situation, you know, it's it can become a little crazy. So, first of all, if it's dealing with money, me personally, I wouldn't loan a friend money. I just wouldn't. If I got it, I'd give it to you before I loan it to you, right? Because one thing I'm not gonna do is chase you behind some money that you owe me. So if I got it, I'd rather give it to you. If I don't got it to you, if I don't got it to give to you, then you just ain't getting it. That's just the way it is. You it's it is what it is, you're not getting it. You know what I'm saying? But so if they're asking for money, another thing is so if you're loaning it to them and they ain't paying you that money back, now that's another story. You know, that's a different situation. You might want to cut this off, you know what I'm saying? Because the quickest way to find out if somebody really using you for something is if they loaning, if they're getting money from you and not paying you back, then you already know that's bullshit. So whatever they look you loaned them, that little fifty dollars or twenty-five dollars, you loaned them. It was worth it to find out that your friend was full of anyway, you know. I'm saying, so it's all good. You ain't really lose nothing. You paid$25 to figure out or$50 this to see how what type of person this person is. But again, you said you knew you know this person for years, so it might be a rough patch, man. Times are hard out here right now. You know, everybody needs a little bit of help, so maybe that's what it is, you know, asking for favors, and and you know, I don't I don't really know all the favors is. I know you put in here money is one of them, so all that might be based around you know, times is is is is a little rough. So, you know, people are leaning on loved ones and friends for help. So I would what I would do is see how long, and you're saying it's reoccurring, like so. Ask the question first, right? I don't know how long it's been going on, but you just like recently it's been happening more frequently. So just ask this your friend, ask him, like, yo, what's going on, man? I you know, I noticed that you know you've been needing money, you know. What's you know, what's your situation? Who knows? You might have got laid up from a job or or or something like that, and didn't say nothing about it. Maybe his hours got cut short. You never know what somebody's going through unless you ask them. So I would just ask the friend, see what the situation is, and then go from there. Now, if the friend don't got no situation going on, guess what? You're getting pimped, player. He pimping you because he's been pimping since pimping, since pimping. That's what's going on. You're getting pimped. If it's no real financial situation, then he's just pimping you and leaning on you and asking you for favors because you're a bobblehead and you're gonna say yes to everything. You know, this is what happens, man. Sometimes you can't be nice to everybody, even friends at a certain point. If you don't set boundaries and limitations, you know, they they'll run over you, and it just happened. It's just human nature, man. Everybody tests the waters to see how far they can go with certain situations. But if you draw that line, that line in the sand and let them know, hey, yo, bro, you can't be asking me for for dough all day and not paying me back or nah. Better yet, just say no. I don't got it, I don't have it, right? You say no enough times, people will stop asking you, right? They'll find another resource to go get that money. They'll stop asking you for favors all day if you start saying no, because now you're starting to feel like you're being used. So start saying no. First step, ask, see what's going on. If it's not a legitimate answer or some bullshit, and you know with somebody trying to throw bullshit at you, then what you do? You fall back, you draw limitations, let them know, nah, you can't get no more bread. I ain't doing no more favors. You know, I'm not out, I'm not out here getting pimp. You're trying to use me, you know, and you fall back. And if and if your so-called friend is doing that, that's not really a friend, so you might as well cut them off anyway. So that's what I would do. Ask the question, see what the answer is. If it's bullshit, cut the motherfucker off, fall back, keep it moving, no big deal. Because if you don't, you're gonna keep on getting used, you're gonna keep on getting pent, and that's basically what it is. So cut it short, keep it moving, confront them, and that's the end of that. You already know what it is. It's big slick. Listen, if you want to be a part of the show, just email in to talk your shit daily at gmail.com. That's talk your shit daily at gmail.com. Right? I'll pull your email, put it on the show, give you my honest, uncut, unfiltered, raw opinion about it, because that's what I do. Again, this is Big Slick. It's been another episode of Talk Your Shit, and I'm out at the pace.