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How Do I Ask For My Stuff Back Without Feeling Awkward?
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Ever had someone borrow your hoodie, your tools, or your favorite book—and somehow it never makes its way back home? In this episode, Big Slick gets real about the uncomfortable moment when you want your stuff returned, but you don’t want to look petty, desperate, or start unnecessary drama.
We break down the real issue behind “forgetful” borrowers: weak boundaries, not bad memory. People don’t forget what they borrowed—they assume you won’t ask. You’ll learn exactly how to request your belongings confidently, using clear wording, specific timelines, and simple follow-up messages that make the exchange easy instead of awkward.
Then we get practical with preventative strategies to protect your time, money, and sanity:
• creating a personal “no-lend list,”
• using quick photo receipts,
• offering alternatives instead of handing over your valuables,
• and staying present while something is used so nothing disappears.
We also tackle the repeat offenders—the friends, family members, or coworkers who turn you into their free supply store. You’ll learn how to set firm boundaries, stop over-lending, and protect your peace without guilt or apology.
If asking for your own belongings back feels uncomfortable, this episode gives you the exact words, the confidence, and the mindset you need. Hit follow, share this with someone who’s still missing half their stuff, and drop a review telling us the one thing you’re STILL waiting on.
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SPEAKER_01:What up, what up, what up, what up? It's your host, Big Slick. And welcome to another episode of Talk Your Shit. But first, I want to give a shout out to all the listeners. Whether you at home, at work, in your car, all the truck drivers on the road, I appreciate you tuning in. Look, we got another great episode, like we always do. And I'm about to jump into this letter that was sent in, and I'm gonna give my honest opinion on it, like I always do, and I'm gonna talk my shit while I'm doing it. Let's jump right in. When someone borrows things and never returns them, people often borrow my things and forget to return them. How do I ask for them back without feeling awkward? All right, let's jump right into this one. So, people is always borrowing. So, listen, first of all, why are you letting everybody borrow your shit? First of all, why why are you lending out all your stuff? That's the let's look at that first. Stop letting people borrow all your stuff, right? And you're saying people, so this is this is not you're not just lending something to one person, you lending your stuff out to different people, right? And you're not getting nothing back. So when you lend something out to one person, and then another person comes, and then you lend out something else, but you ain't get the first thing that you lent out from the the first person, then you the one over here tripping. You you you you know you the one bugging over here, right? So the word is out to come to you to get free shit. That that's what it is because you just giving away, you know. I'm saying so you might as well just call yourself a charity. You might as well don't even say that they come in to borrow it, you might as well just say you giving it to them because that right now that's exactly what you're doing. Well, look, I'm I'm gonna help you out with this one. I'm gonna help you out with this one. First of all, when people come in, when you letting people borrow, say no, right? You can't lend out your stuff to everybody because a lot of time, depending on who you're lending it to, you might not even want that back once they get a hold of it, depending on what it is. I you know, some people don't handle your stuff the way you handle your stuff. That's why it's never really a good thing to just lend out stuff to people because you'll be surprised once your stuff gets to their house, yeah, it's a different story, you know. I'm saying that ain't getting washed, it ain't getting clean, it ain't getting taken care of, is is is it's crazy. So that's one thing, but the way you handle this, you're talking about it feels awkward. I know you just didn't say it feels awkward. Do I ask for them back without how the hell you feeling awkward axing for your own shit back? What are we talking about? What what do you mean? How why would you feel it's your shit unless you let them hold it so long they think it's theirs now, and now you gotta borrow it back from them, which is crazy. But you shouldn't feel awkward, you should just go, yo, where is the stuff I let you hold? You let you just ask for it back. You shouldn't you should not feel awkward for asking for your stuff back. Now, the way I'm reading this, you might not like confrontation or the it gotta be because you shouldn't feel awkward for asking back for your stuff that you loaned out. That's crazy. So there's no reason for you to feel like that. Go get your shit back, right? Moving forward, don't lend out your stuff. Learn to say no. And what's happening is that is people is taking advantage of you. That's what's happening. Like I said, the word is out, they know you're giving out free shit, so they're gonna just come ask you for the shit, right? And I'm gonna tell you this when somebody borrows something from you, they don't forget. So don't don't think, don't think that's the truth. When somebody borrows something from you, they never they do not forget. Everybody know what's in their house that they didn't pay for the same way. They know that shit is in their house that they paid for, they know when stuff is in there that they borrowed from somebody, all right. So nobody knows nobody forgets about borrowed money either. Yeah, a motherfucker act like they forgot, but they don't forget if you loan somebody money. Believe me, that person didn't forget. They hope you forgot about the shit, but they didn't forget about it. I'm telling you, this is a fact. People do not forget about shit they got from somebody, they don't forget about money that they got from you, and they don't forget about stuff they borrow from you. They hoping you forget, right? So if you don't ask, you're not gonna you're not gonna get your shit back, and that's when you're dealing with bullshit people. Now, if you're dealing with straight up people and they you know they need to borrow something, they're gonna give it right back to you. You know what I'm saying? The people that you literally have to go back and ask for your own shit. Once you get your shit back, leave them people alone, cut them off because they're using you. Just just leave them alone. But that's my advice to you. Go get your shit back, leave them alone after you get your stuff back, and stop lending out. Stop doing it, you're not good at it, obviously. So just stop doing it, stop lending shit out and just start telling people no, it's okay to say no, man. I've been saying this a thousand times. Say no, you live longer when you say no, man. It's a stress-free life. I'm telling you, no feels good, man. Say no, say, just say it, practice the shit in the mirror if you got to say no, keep it moving. You already know what it is. This been another yo, these letters is getting easy for me. I'm having fun with this shit. This has been another great episode. You already know a talk your shit. And if you want to be a part of this show, email your letter into talk your shit daily at gmail.com. That's talk your shit daily at gmail.com. I'll pull your letter, put it on the show, and give you my honest, unfiltered, raw, uncut opinion, whether you like it or not, because that's what I do. This is Big Slick, and I'm out. Peace.