Why Coworkers Stop Talking After You Quit (They Were Never Your Friends)

Ever notice how the group chat goes quiet the moment you leave a job? In this episode of Talk Ya Shit Daily, Big Slick breaks down a listener letter about coworkers who vanished after a resignation—and why it happens way more often than people admit.

We unpack the uncomfortable truth about workplace friendships, how proximity creates false bonds, and why many coworker relationships are built on convenience, favors, and shared routines—not real loyalty. When the job ends, so does the access, and the silence tells you everything you need to know. This episode helps you spot the difference between real friends and situational coworkers without taking it personally.

You’ll hear how shift coverage, favors, and workplace gossip create transactional relationships, plus why envy and comparison quietly play a role when someone moves on. We also talk about protecting your energy, setting clean boundaries after you leave a job, and building friendships based on values—not shared supervisors or schedules.

If you’ve ever questioned the idea of “work family,” this episode delivers clarity, humor, and hard truth. Tap play to understand why coworkers disappear, how to move forward without bitterness, and where to invest your time next.

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Transcript

The Letter And Core Question

Are They Friends Or Just Coworkers

Being Used For Convenience At Work

Reframe The Silence As A Blessing

Sign Off And How To Write In

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You, you, and you. Did I say you? Yeah, you too. Now, let's talk about it. What up, what up, what up, what up? It's your boy, Big Slick, and welcome to Talk Your Shit Daily. You already know what it is. I got another great episode for you today. But first, I want to give a shout out to all the listeners. Whether you're at home, at work, in your car, all the truck drivers on the road. I appreciate you tuning in. And if you didn't subscribe yet, hit that button, man. Yo, check this out. You already know what I'm gonna do. I got a letter in today. I'm gonna give you my honest, raw, uncut, unfiltered opinion about it because that's what I do. Check it out. Let's jump right into it. Why my friends from my old job don't keep in touch with me no more? Let's get into it, man. Maybe a lot of people got this question, maybe they don't, but I'm gonna answer this shit right now. Listen, so you're saying a lot of your friends don't even talk to you no more from your old job. Think about it for a minute. Was they really your fucking friend anyway? Was they really your friend, or was they just associates that you work with? A lot of people get this shit misconstrued a lot, you know. I'm saying they they mix the two up. This person you was, these people you was working with was just work associates, they're not necessarily your friend. A lot of people think just because you work with somebody, it makes them your friend. That is not it, man. And I think right now you find this shit out. So check this out these people you working with that you called your friends or whatever. You with them, you working with them at the job, they probably just using you. Basically, they was just using act like you as their friend. You probably covered for them when they have vacation time. You might cover for them when they when they go home early. You help them do their job, so you're making their job easier. That's probably the only reason why they was really with you, anyway. If you really want to do the knowledge on it, because if there was your friend, they'll keep in touch with you. See how you doing, what's going on? That's what friends do. I bet you at the job, they was all buddy buddy sitting down, eating lunch, all types of shit with you, working right next to you. You probably work next to this person for years. A lot of people will be on a job with somebody for years, and you really think y'all got some type of bond, like y'all really friends. The bond is the job, the common interest is the job that you're on. You know, I'm saying a lot of times that's where it begins at, and that's where it ends at. Now, can you have friends that you work with? Yeah, you can, but it is rare, you know. You might have one or two, something like that, but the whole team you was working with that you considered your friends, it's not your friends, man. They just work associates, and a lot of times, man, we just got to keep it like that. So, what I suggest you to do, it's a good thing they're not reaching out to you. Because if they do, they on some fake shit anyway, or they're just trying to be nosy to see what's going on so they can report it back to the rest of the people that's still on a job that you left. Who knows? They might be hating on you because you moved on and got a better job. You're in a different career, you're doing bigger things. And a lot of people hating on the low. You could have been working next to haters this whole time and didn't even know it. So you better look at this as a blessing that the people ain't they ain't reaching out to you no more. You know, I'm saying a lot of times people be, you know, get a little depressed, like dad, why this person ain't calling me no more. It's sometimes it's a good thing, not sometimes, a lot of times, it's a good thing why they're not calling you. It's better for you, it's a good thing for you that they're not calling you, so you don't got to deal with none of that bullshit. You know what I'm saying? So, right now, I would just tell you to keep it moving, fuck these fake friends that you was working with, because they probably was just using you on the job to make their job easier and be happy that they ain't reaching out to you, you ain't in touch with them, and that's what it is. And if you feel in a way about them, well, you know, you feeling away, you already know what I'm gonna tell you. You see one of them, slap the shit out of them, man. You already know what it is, man. This is big slick. This been another, this has been another easy ass question for me. Look, anybody, if you want to if you want to be on a show, you got a topic that you want me to discuss on the show, you can write in to talk your shit daily at gmail.com. That's talk your shit daily at gmail.com. Or you can just put it down in the comments, let me know what topic you want me to discuss, and it might make it to the next show. You already know what it is, it's big slick, and I'm out of pace.