Hosting a Dinner Party: The Real Adult Test

Turning 18 doesn’t make you an adult—hosting your first dinner party does.

In this chaotic episode, we attempt to play host… and quickly realise we have no idea what we’re doing. From forgetting to ask about dietary restrictions (oops) to uncovering all the little ways we’re wildly unprepared, it’s less of a how-to guide and more of a “learn from our mistakes” situation.

If you’ve ever hosted—or are brave enough to try—listen in for the laughs, the fails, and maybe a few accidental lessons along the way.

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SPEAKER_00 0:08

What's up, hey students?

SPEAKER_01 0:12

On the microphone, you've got Amy and Lydia. Woo woo! We're back with another Thursday episode as always. We're back with this will be on the test. Will this be on the test? Some of it might.

SPEAKER_03 0:27

I mean, like this increase. So make sure to grab a notebook and attend. Because this will be on the test. Okay students. A quick disclaimer before we get into this episode. Amy and I trade off editing podcasts, and this episode was my turn. And I noticed that in the middle of the episode, Amy starts to sound like she's standing in the middle of a church. There's some kind of echo. I don't know where it's from, and I don't know how to get rid of it. The audio is still good enough that you can understand everything, so maybe close your eyes, picture yourself in the church, and make it a spiritual experience.

SPEAKER_01 1:16

Now that we're recording. So I went to a pickleball uh tournament on Sunday, and there were no like levels split up, so we were playing with like really good players. So Mandy and I we played well. We just were playing against people who had much higher levels. So it was kind of um we we kind of figured we weren't gonna do super well. The one team we had a chance against, we also lost against, even though I think we on a different day probably could have won against them. Um and then after that I was playing singles against her. And the last training I went to, the coach was like, just make sure you like follow through with the swing. And like, you know, just follow through. Like, you know, just so you can assume what happened next is um I hit myself really hard in the head with a paddle. I have a bruise on my head now. But you can't see it. You can't see anything. Oh yeah, it's a little purple, it's a little red. It's really big. It it is quite big. Uh yesterday it was even worse when I hit myself. It was like a little a little horn, and I was so embarrassed that I I bought a visor to cover it up because that's all they had.

SPEAKER_00 2:35

And then I look like a soccer mom, so I either had like the visor on or I was holding ice to my head.

SPEAKER_01 2:42

And the the best part about this is um not the fact that I hit myself in the head with a pickleball paddle, which just goes to show how proficient I am in pickleball, I think. Um the best part about it is I started a new job in March, and tomorrow I'm taking my employee picture that they're gonna put on the left side.

SPEAKER_00 3:02

No, and I don't know what to do. I don't know if I can ask her to just wait away. That's horrible timing. Ask her to wait. I might text her and be like, hey, I have a really big bruise on my head. Can you take my picture next week? Like, you can't really see it, but you can see it.

SPEAKER_03 3:22

Did you have work today?

SPEAKER_01 3:24

Yeah, but only in the morning. Like I was only in the office in the morning. I had to work the whole day, but so I don't know if I should text her. I would. Okay.

SPEAKER_03 3:36

I think I would.

SPEAKER_02 3:39

It's so embarrassing. Like the bruise, whatever. But my ego, oh my god, is so hurt.

SPEAKER_03 3:45

No, and that picture's gonna be like I don't know how they use the company, like your company picture, but I'm guessing that's gonna be everywhere. Yep. Yeah, no, I would text her.

SPEAKER_01 3:55

Okay, I'll text her. Thank you. Oh my god, terrible time. It's so terrible, no? It was so dumb. It wasn't even in like a game. I was just playing for fun with Mandy. We were just playing singles because we had time and there was a free field. So it wasn't so fun after all, I guess. I mean, I still enjoyed it, but um, yeah, that's my embarrassing story.

SPEAKER_03 4:21

I don't know if I have to tell a funny story because Sarah, I think you can get away with this today. Okay, we're not talking about bruises today. We are talking about hosting a dinner party. Since we're both um full-grown adults, we know how to host good dinner parties, obviously. Totally have done so successfully twice. You've done so many times. I know.

SPEAKER_02 4:46

I've done so twice. This is actually I wanted to do this um episode right after your birthday because you just hosted a dinner party and you were like, I prepared this and this. Perfect. It was like watching Lydia become an adult.

SPEAKER_03 5:04

Oh yeah. Not at 18, 25.

SPEAKER_01 5:07

I mean, hosting a dinner party is a different level. I've hosted dinner parties when I was in my early 20s, and those look very different than they do now.

SPEAKER_03 5:17

True that. Would you rather host a dinner party with all the friends you've cut off or host a dinner party with all the people you've ever had a crush on?

SPEAKER_01 5:31

Oh my god. I wish we need video. Your face, like your facial reactions are are quite good. You wanna answer the question first? You seem opinionated today.

SPEAKER_03 5:46

Well, today. Um I was just thinking of all the people I've had a crush on, and some of them are embarrassing. Some of them are really embarrassing, and some of them are not interesting, like okay. So we grew up in the sticks a little bit, like the sticks of Switzerland, to be fair, but still like hillbilly country.

SPEAKER_01 6:15

Careful what you say, half our listeners are from there.

SPEAKER_03 6:21

We grew in a very beautiful place. The mountains are beautiful. The people okay, there's not a lot of people there, so it's slim pickings, is what I'm trying to get at. And so, slim pickings over a long time, you start to find the people attractive that are there. And then you're a hormone hormonal teenager, so you find more things attractive. Yep. Like, so there are some people that I had a crush on who are not great people, yeah. Have not, don't have the same political stance at all as I do.

SPEAKER_01 7:00

Would they know that you had a crush on them? Would like the invitation be like, hey, I once had a crush on you, come to my dinner party and meet all the other people I had a crush on.

SPEAKER_03 7:09

I don't think they you have to say that in the invitation, but the s intuitive ones will realize once they get there.

SPEAKER_01 7:16

Okay, so like 50-50.

unknown 7:19

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 7:21

Not sure how many intuitive people I've had a crush on.

SPEAKER_00 7:24

Some of them will be like, what are all these guys doing at this party?

SPEAKER_02 7:27

There's a lot of dudes at this dinner party.

SPEAKER_03 7:31

I don't know that I've cut so many people off in my life.

SPEAKER_01 7:35

Yeah, this is what I was thinking too. We might it might not have been the correct opposite.

SPEAKER_03 7:41

I don't know if I've cut people off or just like I don't know, friendships that just lost touch with that they fizzled, yeah, but because that would be nice, kind of. The friendships that fizzled out could be nice too. I mean, our first episode was literally about this.

SPEAKER_01 7:59

Yes, but some friendships fizzled out for a reason. And some friendships I'm not like I wouldn't be like, I don't wish that person ill will or anything, but I don't need to reach out or be in contact with them. Whereas crushes, like, I don't know if any crush ever ended badly. Like, maybe I had a crush on a weird person, but it might be interesting to host a dinner party with all your crushes and be like, oh my god, I forgot about this person I had a crush on.

SPEAKER_03 8:27

Exes count too.

SPEAKER_01 8:29

Yeah, but then like they walk in and I'm like, I forgot that we dated. No. You go with the crushes? It could be really interesting. I do feel like I had crushes that maybe I didn't even realize. You think? Or like have forgotten about by now.

SPEAKER_03 8:53

You know what is awkward though? Tarek's there. And he sees all the guys that you've ever had a crush on.

SPEAKER_02 9:03

Is it awkward or is he like, wow. You're really stepped up.

SPEAKER_01 9:11

Like you're welcome. Yeah, it might give him too much of an ego boost. You're right. I think either way it's an awkward party.

SPEAKER_03 9:18

I think I'm going with the friendships because the other I with some of them I just would not want to have a conversation.

SPEAKER_01 9:25

Yeah, but okay, my thinking is I've had enough crushes that I probably won't talk to all of them. Like, there are a few of them that I kind of want to know how they're doing now, but it's weird to reach out. Like, especially, I mean, exes I don't feel weird reaching out to. Like, I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 9:42

Just look if you're gonna be for your 31st birthday.

SPEAKER_01 9:46

Definitely not.

SPEAKER_03 9:48

We can make it happen. We could, but how everybody who thinks that Amy had a crush on them and who listens to the podcast slide into our tens.

SPEAKER_00 9:59

It's just Tarek. It's just Tarek.

SPEAKER_01 10:02

He's like, I confirmed you know that Amy had a crush on me. See, the other thing is I think I'm quite good at hiding my crushes. Yeah. It's like Tarek didn't know I had a crush on him until I explicitly told him. Yeah. Would you rather have to do all the cooking or all the cleaning for a dinner party? Cooking.

SPEAKER_00 10:26

Really? Yes. We should host a dinner party together.

SPEAKER_03 10:33

The cooking is so much more rewarding. So much more fun.

SPEAKER_01 10:38

Yeah, the cleaning is less rewarding because you clean before and it looks great and then you have to clean again afterwards. Exactly. Yeah. Or is the cooking the cooking, depending on the theme, can be very fun. And you can choose the theme.

unknown 10:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 10:56

Yeah, no, I do think I do think I prefer the cooking, but I like it when things are clean.

SPEAKER_03 11:01

Me too. I like it when they are clean, and they're never as clean as when I have people coming over, let me tell you.

SPEAKER_01 11:06

Exactly. It's a great way to get your apartment clean for a few hours.

SPEAKER_03 11:10

Yeah, that is gonna be.

SPEAKER_01 11:11

And then messier than you've had it in a while.

SPEAKER_03 11:14

Yeah. Especially now that now that the family members have toddlers, as I'm saying this, here's a hat. One of Mia's baby's hats. And that's a cute hat, though. They forgot it at my place. So hi Mia, if you're listening to this, your baby's hat's at my apartment. It has boats on it. Boats, boats, boats. But what I was trying to say, that if the toddlers come, then that's a whole other level of mess. Yeah. I would rather do the cooking.

SPEAKER_01 11:48

Yeah, no, I do like the cooking part. I just also I feel like when you go to a dinner party, it's nice to clean up a little bit before you leave. Especially if they don't have a dishwasher.

SPEAKER_03 12:01

Gotcha. Yeah. No, I was confused. You look very shocked. I didn't think clean your apartment before you go. I mean, yeah, I also do like I don't know what that has to do with this, but I mean, yeah. Before you go somewhere, clean your apartment. No, but yes, before you leave some uh party that you've been invited to. I agree. So we would both cook. Yeah. Would you rather host a dinner party that is too fancy or too chill?

SPEAKER_01 12:33

I really like this question. Because I'm thinking of, you know, um, that's not gossip girl. Gilmore girls. When they go to the dinner at the grandparents with like the salad forks and the different forks, like it's that level of fancy where someone's like bringing it out, and I feel like most of my friends would be like a little overwhelmed. Whereas too chill is like, oh shit, I forgot to cook the hot dogs. Okay, guys, dinner will be ready in like half an hour. You guys just chill, but then you don't have anything set up.

SPEAKER_03 13:08

You're the host. Too fancy. I could not. I could not.

SPEAKER_01 13:15

I think I would it would stress me out so much if I but you don't think it would stress you out if you're like, and here's your place card, and you're gonna sit there and then like one course after the other, you have like a menu that's prepared.

SPEAKER_03 13:33

No, I think it could be funny.

SPEAKER_01 13:36

If you yes, but I also think the two chills could be funny. Yeah, I think the two fancy either way, you have you have to assume your guests are a little uncomfortable.

SPEAKER_03 13:46

Yeah, I think I I think I could live with the two fancy better because I know it'll be funny, and I know they still feel valued. Or like it's not even that, it's I don't feel shitty. It makes me sound like a better person if I say like that, but it's really just I don't feel like an asshole.

SPEAKER_01 14:13

Yeah, I think the too fancy can also come across as like do she. Because you're like, I don't know, making other people feel uncomfortable because they're not fancy enough. Whereas the the too chill, like people are gonna talk about you behind your back for sure. Because they're like, dude, did she just forget? Like not tell us eventually, eventually I'd hope people start drinking. But I think I would go for the chill one. I don't think I could pull off the fancy one. Like as a person. But no, I mean like as me as a person. I think it would be very weird if I tried to host a very fancy dinner party.

SPEAKER_03 14:59

That's what would make it funny though. Because it's in the it's in the home that we live in now, like when we're changing homes. Yeah. And then you set the table like super fancy with all these different forks. I don't know. I think it would be a little hilarious. People come in their normal attire and you're like all doubled up.

SPEAKER_01 15:20

Oh my god, no. Then I would be all doubled up. Oh, I would hate that. I'd rather be in sweatpants.

SPEAKER_03 15:25

We're having drinks on the couch, and then we move to the table.

SPEAKER_01 15:29

I think like if I lived in that setting, I could no, I don't I don't know if I could actually. I think I could.

SPEAKER_03 15:34

See, I can see myself in that kind of setting. Might be a little horsey.

SPEAKER_01 15:40

But like you're wearing high heels, you like dress. That's my downfall. Yeah, exactly. Dress in like a sundress or whatever they're called. Yeah. You have to do your hair the the day and the makeup and the yeah. The video's so exciting. Excited.

SPEAKER_03 16:00

I think this is actually now that we're saying this, I think this could be a really funny birthday party idea.

SPEAKER_01 16:05

No, okay, yes, as like a theme, I agree. Yeah, as a theme, I think it would be very fun to have everybody show up and be like, we're being fancy. Yeah. Definitely did this in in the US as like a we went to a tea party and we all had to dress up, and it was really fun. I mean, we're younger, but could totally see this. But not letting anyone know, just being like, hey, I'm having a like casual dinner, and then they show up with like their regular work clothes. You are in high heels, full face of makeup, dress, and you're like, please join me in the dining room. That's what high heels sound like.

SPEAKER_02 16:46

Come on, that was pretty good.

SPEAKER_03 16:48

That's pretty good. Do you even enjoy hosting dinners or lunches or brunches?

SPEAKER_01 16:59

Yes, I do. Not always, but like every so often. A themed hosting of a dinner. Do you enjoy it more when it has a brunch? Yes, way more. But like, I mean, who doesn't? I like the theme of giant dinners. Or mini dinners. Or just brunch. Brunch is just a theme on its own. I think.

SPEAKER_03 17:23

Brunch is a theme on its own. That's true. Yeah, but you and Yumi did a lot of giant you've done. Giant taco?

SPEAKER_01 17:32

Never done a giant taco.

SPEAKER_03 17:34

We've done giant first one, I guess, was ramen.

SPEAKER_01 17:37

Entonadas, giant ramen, giant burgers, giant baobun, giant nachos.

SPEAKER_03 17:46

But you guys go like all out. So when when you did giant burgers, Tarek made the whole like brioche in a giant form. That was great.

SPEAKER_01 17:58

He made yeah. We've done that multiple times now. Also did it once in Mexico. And we made giant French fries. Um, do you enjoy hosting? I do.

SPEAKER_03 18:08

I get a little stressed out beforehand. Yoga would like. Yeah, I want everything to be not perfect. It's just very important to me that people feel comfortable. And like I don't want one meal, want like one dish to be really cold and then the other one, you know? I want things to like add up. So that trusts me out a bit at times. Yeah. And then I really like like I like pretty napkins and stuff like that. So do you prefer dinner or brunch? Or lunch? Brunch and dinner are probably quite similar. Like I like those a lot. Lunch? Not so much. Lunch doesn't feel like hosting. It just somehow that feels just like me. Yeah. You know? I don't go to a lunch party. It just feels like I'm having a few friends over for lunch, which feels a lot different than hosting dinner.

SPEAKER_01 19:08

Yeah. But I do think it can be quite chill. Like in Mexico, we did this because lunch was later. It was like two to three. So we would host a lunch party because if you hosted dinner, it would be like 8 or 9 p.m. And that's just like, oh my god, we're gonna be here until 1 a.m. And that's that's not anything that I would want to be involved in. When you host a dinner, do you think about who you invite and do you mix friend groups, or do you like host one dinner for one friend group and one dinner for the other friend group?

SPEAKER_03 19:40

I do not. I think our family is a little extreme in this because when I hosted my dinner party, like my birthday party, I'm one of my friends from work, she came over and then she's like, Oh, I kind of thought this was like a friend's dinner thing, and then that you already had a family dinner happen. It's like, nope, that doesn't exist in my world. It's everybody together. Yeah, we really just mesh. Yeah, and I think if they get along with me, there's certain qualities there, they're gonna get along with my family, and I don't have a huge circle, so I feel like the people that are in my circle, they just need to get along with each other, or they need to pretend the few nights a week uh a week. Few nights a week, holy shit.

SPEAKER_02 20:24

How often are you hosting?

SPEAKER_03 20:26

No, because it's maybe like one or two nights a year that they're gonna see each other. Okay. Alright.

SPEAKER_01 20:32

So you can just suck it up. Suck it up. You don't do anything to like grease the conversation?

SPEAKER_03 20:41

I will I'm not great at this. I I know people who are better at this, but like I might prompt people, like, hey, he or she is new to the group. Can you like okay? Or could you sit next to them and you know them in the conversation? But I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 21:02

I thought you meant like, so you both work in finance. Oh no.

SPEAKER_03 21:09

Because then they feel obliged to talk to each other. No, I have thankfully I have one um very lovely friend group, which is the three sisters.

SPEAKER_04 21:19

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_03 21:21

And love them. They're really good at like talking to all kinds of people. Yeah. And they're invited to every birthday party. And so if I invite them, I kind of know, okay. Nobody's gonna feel like they can't talk to anybody because they're gonna be able to talk to them because they can just talk to anybody. Yeah, I did realize that at your birthday party. I was like, huh.

SPEAKER_01 21:42

It's like a another sister group.

unknown 21:45

Yep.

SPEAKER_03 21:47

And they're so cute about it too. They won't know anybody, and then from across the room, they'll like lock eyes and be like, so what about you?

unknown 21:58

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 22:00

No, it's really good. It's a good quality.

SPEAKER_03 22:02

But you mix groups too. I think our whole family does this.

SPEAKER_01 22:05

Yeah, I think it's normal. And I mean it depends on the evening. Sometimes you some people need a bit of a nudge, but otherwise, I mean people hang out with the people they know, and if they realize that someone's being left out, most people are adults about it, and like, so how do you know, Amy?

SPEAKER_03 22:24

Yeah, that's what I think too. I'm glad you wrote this question down because I like I don't ask people what their dietary restrictions are when I invite them. I always forget.

SPEAKER_01 22:36

I think I know it about most people. See, I kind of think if I ask them, they're gonna tell me. Like there are certain people I know they're vegan, uh, or they like if it's a big allergy, I know. I feel like it comes up in normal conversation. There's a friend of Terek's that I know is allergic to honey. So like honey. Yeah, so I would say, hey, this has honey in it. But I don't know if I like make a second dessert. I don't know what dessert I'm making that has honey in it. But like just as an example.

SPEAKER_03 23:14

Yeah, this is interesting because um my roommate she hosted her a birthday brunch, and one of the girls invited. No. Um, but one of the girls invited, she's vegan, and um, she made vegan Danishes. It made me almost fall in love with her. Like they were-I think you've already talked about these vegan danishes. I just on the podcast. Oh my god, they're so good. I really hope she listens to this one day so that she can know how much I love these Danishes. You could just tell her. I did. Oh, I did. I told I texted her a few days later. I was like, I've been dreaming about these Danishes because we sent me personally. So but they're vegan, and I haven't made them yet. And she sent me a voice message on like how to make them, and she's like, you can also make them not vegan if you want. But I was thinking, might as well learn these vegan. So if I have somebody coming over, I have like a sample, like a standard dessert that I make for vegan people. Maybe that's the trick to have like one vegan dessert on lock. Vegetarian meals, I think you have.

SPEAKER_01 24:28

I also think like okay, as a vegetarian, I really appreciate when I go to a dinner party and it's not just like you have salad. Um I do think that's cool. I do like, and maybe this is my bias, but I do think you can always make a vegetarian dinner party that works for the majority of people.

SPEAKER_03 24:49

I think vegetarian option I would usually offer unless I'm sure everybody eats meat in the group.

SPEAKER_01 24:55

Yeah. But otherwise it's really. But I think even if you have a group that just eats meat, you can offer just the vegetarian option.

SPEAKER_03 25:05

Yeah. That's easier, but like I don't know, gluten intolerance or lactose intolerance.

unknown 25:12

Like I have no idea how I would cook that.

SPEAKER_01 25:16

Yeah. Yeah, gluten intolerance. I think I don't know anyone in my immediate circle that has a severe, like that I would invite to a dinner party that has a severe gluten intolerance. Yeah, because we just did, they probably wouldn't want to come to this apartment because Tarek Bates and there's definitely flour everywhere.

SPEAKER_03 25:40

Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_01 25:42

So I think there's that. Maybe there is someone that I don't know has like Celiax.

SPEAKER_03 25:50

I know other people who have it, but I'm just not hosting people that I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 25:55

Yeah, exactly. That's kind of my point. Is like I don't need to ask because the people who I would invite, I already know. Like, oh, this person's vegan, this person doesn't eat that, this like I already know it about them. Also, I feel like the people I'm friends with are quite chill. So even if they did come to a dinner party and all I had made was, I don't know, ribeye and hot dogs.

SPEAKER_00 26:20

Ribbeye and hot dogs. Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_02 26:25

Um, it'd be a weird thing for me to host. But I think my friends are chill enough that if they came to a dinner party and didn't have anything, they would be like, hmm, what do you have in your fridge?

SPEAKER_01 26:35

And then we'd figure it out.

SPEAKER_03 26:37

On that note, what it besides ribeye and hot dogs, what is your go-to meal when hosting people? Ribeye and hot dogs is pretty standard for me. It's pretty, yeah. I've had that a few times. You make a bomb.

SPEAKER_01 26:53

Ribeye and hot dogs. Yeah, it's not a combo that most people think of, but trust me, the two go together. Delicious.

SPEAKER_03 27:00

Um like um bacon drizzled over it.

SPEAKER_01 27:06

Ugh, it's delicious. We'll send you guys the recipe if you want. Yeah, yeah. Just comment. Um I don't know if I have a go-to. I really like chulaquiles because that's like a nice thing to prepare, and a lot of people in Switzerland don't know how it is properly, so I could just tell them that my version's the correct version.

SPEAKER_03 27:24

This is how it's supposed to taste. Don't worry.

SPEAKER_01 27:27

This is totally what it tastes like. I think pizza's a good go-to. We're a giant themed. That's always fun.

SPEAKER_03 27:35

I think something that you can prep most of it beforehand, and then maybe have to pop a few things in the oven. That's my favorite. So, like lasagna, fajitas, I'm guessing chilaquiles is similar. All those kinds of meals are like perfect. I think lasagna might be the best. Because yes, it's effort beforehand, but then you can just leave it in the oven. While it's in the oven, you can clean your apartment. Yeah, that's true. Maximize your time.

SPEAKER_01 28:06

Lasagna is a good one. It's a good prep, too. I was gonna say, almost every time I went and had lasagna at someone's place, I have been very happy. It's not like you meal prep lasagna and then you have lasagna for a week, and then eventually lasagna gets kind of tiring. But you go to someone's house and they've made you lasagna.

SPEAKER_03 28:29

You feel so loved.

SPEAKER_01 28:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 28:34

Funny stories. Do you want to tell one or do you feel like you're done for today? You've embarrassed yourself enough.

SPEAKER_01 28:39

I mean, I've told a very embarrassed story.

SPEAKER_03 28:45

I just mean because of the first story.

SPEAKER_02 28:47

I feel like this is something someone out of fancy probably would tell me. You've embarrassed yourself enough. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 28:53

You're done now. So when Naomi and I moved in together in Zurich, we had a really small apartment with one bedroom and then like a hallway slash living room slash kitchen. And for some reason, yeah, it was fun. We hosted so many events, like so many dinner parties, so many university friends that I didn't really know. And Yummy's bed was like in the kitchen. Yeah, her bed was our couch, and we had a table that had four chairs, and we just like people sat on the floor, people sat on the couch, and it was out honestly quite nice. People would, we were on the second floor, would sit on the windowsill.

SPEAKER_03 29:35

I remember that.

SPEAKER_01 29:36

Overlooking the like the street and smoke. Yeah, true. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 29:44

You guys both smoked in that time, no?

SPEAKER_01 29:47

We did. Yeah. That was like our little smoker's balcony. Um, so I don't know. It's not a funny story, but I don't think that you need to have a really big apartment to host a fun party. True. That was kind of my takeaway from it.

SPEAKER_03 30:01

Like I also I always had like the stress when I first move in, everybody was like, invite us to your place. Let's see what it looks like. And I was so adamant about not inviting them until I felt moved in. But you can't have to get a room.

SPEAKER_01 30:17

Order pizza, sit on the floor, we're having a party. That's I think that's fun.

SPEAKER_03 30:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 30:22

That shows good friendship, I think. It does. That's when you're like, I don't even have chairs yet, and you're here.

SPEAKER_03 30:27

And but I was kind of like, oh, it's so embarrassing that I'm not more moved in yet, but nobody expects you to move in even within like a few months. Like it takes a long time to have things as you want them, especially when you're young and you don't have all the furniture acquired yet, and probably not the most amount of money.

SPEAKER_01 30:46

Or you're in your 30s and you have too much furniture, and you're like, I don't know where all this stuff goes, but we'll figure it out, probably.

SPEAKER_03 30:54

Yeah. My funny story is that I mentioned my dinner party a few times in this episode. You were there. Seeing that. But to the listeners, um, I was hosting a birthday dinner, and I had cleaned my apartment beforehand. Um, dinner was ready, and it was about a half an hour before people got there, and I started stressing out. Like you, Naomi, and Mia were sitting in the in the living room having a very chill time because everything was ready. You guys helped so much before then.

SPEAKER_01 31:30

Lydia is already a clean person. She doesn't have to clean the like it's already yeah, yeah. I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 31:35

And I suddenly got stressed out. I was like, it's not clean enough. Like this, this, this. And I started cleaning random stuff like on my desk in my room, which who gives a shit what my desk looks like? And I was just stress cleaning to the point where Mia was like, Do you want me to vacuum? And I was like, sure, if you want to.

SPEAKER_02 31:58

I didn't even get that change.

SPEAKER_03 32:00

Wait, what? I didn't ask. Like, like, can I help if you want? I can vacuum. I was like, if you would have minded, that would be great.

SPEAKER_02 32:10

I did not even I didn't even register that. I was in the living room having a glass of wine.

SPEAKER_03 32:14

That was so unnecessary. And yeah, I I don't know if I have any advice, but next time, if I get into that mode, I'm gonna try to breathe and go into the living room and have a glass of wine with you guys. Yeah, and be ready for that mode.

SPEAKER_01 32:29

Like you're having people over, especially one of like the first few dinner parties, you're like, it's not gonna be perfect, and people are expecting perfection, and like, yeah, now you're fine. Enjoy hosting your first or next dinner party. And as always, um, don't be an asshole. Yep.