Loved and Listed

Ask Us Anything. Loved and Listed After Dark

Tara Meyer Season 1 Episode 14

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Loved & Listed After Dark: Ask Us Anything
We’re switching things up this week with a special Loved & Listed After Dark episode. No rewatch, no recap — just Justin and Tara answering your questions, sharing behind-the-scenes stories, and talking through all things life, marriage, real estate, parenting, and whatever else comes up after dark. It’s fun, unfiltered, a little chaotic, and exactly the kind of conversation you’d expect when the microphones are still on after hours. Grab a drink, get cozy, and hang out with us for a laid-back episode full of laughs, honesty, and real-life moments.

Here’s a slightly sassier version too, if you want more personality:

Loved & Listed After Dark: Ask Us Anything
This week, we’re ditching the usual format and opening the floor for a late-night style Ask Us Anything. From real estate and relationships to parenting, podcasting, and all the random in-between, nothing is off limits. It’s candid, cozy, a little messy, and a lot of fun — basically just Justin and Tara after hours saying what everyone is already thinking. Pour a drink, settle in, and join us for a more personal side of Loved & Listed.

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And all right. I think see. Ugh uh uh Do you want to get out that other light?

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What if I put it down here?

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I don't know. It hurts my eyes. That's so weird. I hate that. Can you just try the other one? No, what are you doing? This is animalistic. I hate it. This is behind the scenes of podcasting.

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It just needs to be not so goddamn bright. Here we go.

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That's better. Is that better?

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That's better.

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Are you sure?

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Kinda.

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Kinda.

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It's like the troubles of being somebody who has glasses is that there's always a glare. So like, boom, ring light. No ring light.

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Alright. Are we ready?

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And I'm easily distracted. So I know.

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We're like, what?

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You'll be talking and I'll be like, oh, there's a ring light on my glasses. Well, what did she just say?

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At least you I look like Elsa. Elsa? Snow white.

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Oh, yeah, you do.

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It's alright. All right.

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Well Just because you have no red pigment in your skin.

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I know.

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That's why you always look at me and you're like, why are you so red?

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And I'm like, is your blood pressure okay?

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It's because red is just like in my skin tone.

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Yeah, mine is white. It's nothing. Anyway, welcome.

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Tip, top.

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It's a little different here.

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Definitely a little different.

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We were supposed to do our normal episode of Love It or List It. I watched some of the episode. You probably watched all of it.

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Um, no, I didn't because I always watch it like an hour before we start. So it's fresh on my mind.

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Yeah.

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And uh you said we weren't gonna do it, so I couldn't.

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This week was so hard. So this week we've been juggling, coming off a spring break with the kids, going on our vacation to Florida and working. And so we just couldn't do our episode. It just didn't work.

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We decided to just talk.

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We just decided we're gonna talk. So here we are. So it's like a lover list.

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Kids are asleep. Kids are asleep, do what we want.

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It's love and listen after dark. So cheers. Can you see my cheers?

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Cheers.

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It's kind of hard to like judge where cheers. All right. So it's kind of like a after dark, ask me anything, ask me questions. So let's kind of like jump right in.

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Okay.

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All right.

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Let's do this.

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Let's do this. All right. To start out, I'm gonna do like a little rapid fire. Okay. I'm gonna ask some personal, fun questions. Not too personal. I'm not too wild, but just some like who are we questions. And in this segment, let's do like who is more likely to say love it in real life.

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Okay.

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Between you and I.

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I mean, it would a hundred percent be you.

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You think so?

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Yeah, a hundred percent. Like this house we live in. You looked at the house for five seconds and you were like, This is the one.

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I did. It was five seconds, literally. I walked in, I said, I I'm going to raise my children in this house.

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And there's always a house, like every week that goes listed, and you're like, look at this house. This house is amazing. And I'm like, are we moving? Or are you just excited about this house? Like, I don't know. Should I be scared?

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I know. No. Like, okay.

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Should I start packing boxes?

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It's actually very funny because like when we found this house, we were not looking for a house.

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Coincidentally, we were uh about to go to Disney.

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We were about to go to Disney, which strangely is what we're about to do right now. But it was October 2022.

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We had the three kids, and Finn was four, and we're like, all right, he might remember it, but everyone else will, so it's fine.

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And I walked in here and I fell in love. I loved this house. I don't I don't even know why.

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Cause I don't even There is an extremely important detail you're leaving out. So a week before this moment that you're talking about, okay. We were we sat down and we're like, we're on hold. Because we had been searching for a house for probably like a year or two, and we were like, let's hold off until we get back. We're about to spend a ton of money in Disney. We don't need that wrapped up in this.

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That's true.

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Now we leave in seven days, and what do you I'm I'm like at work, and you like and I said, Hey, what are you doing? Uh my answer was most likely working as hard as I can to finish everything I need to do before I go on vacation.

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And I said, Wanna go look at a house?

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And my answer was probably about like that silence. Like, okay.

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He knew immediately that we were gonna be buying that house based on that conversation.

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Yep.

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But it worked out.

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It did work out. We ended up moving in like what, three weeks before Christmas?

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Oh no, we moved in two weeks. December 12th.

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Yeah, two weeks. Almost two weeks.

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13 days, but no one's counting. Anyway.

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Maybe it's 11 days. No, it's 13. You're right. My math's bad. It's too late for that. It's too late.

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I know. It's late. It's like past my bedtime. It's not past your bedtime.

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It's almost past your bedtime.

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Uh yeah, it's almost 10 o'clock.

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Yes, it is.

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All right. Now let's get a little bit more personal. Who is more likely to take a long time to get ready to go anywhere?

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You. That's a stupid question. Obvious question. Always you.

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Always?

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Always. It takes me maybe five minutes to get ready with a shower.

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Okay. Okay. That's fair. But like you have no clothes. You have like three things that you own. You have like your Davidson t-shirt that you're currently wearing.

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Yep.

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You have a lot of hoodies.

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A lot of hoodies. And that's about it.

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Superman only had two outfits. Oh my god. Just saying.

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To be a man and not have to put like makeup on or get your hair done. Whatever.

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Superman had two outfits. And he's like a man, but like super. Just saying.

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Okay. Super.

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So it's well documented.

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What's our biggest pet peeve about each other? Biggest pet peeve.

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Are we going there?

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Yeah.

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Are we going to finish this episode?

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Uh yeah. Why?

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I would say my biggest pet peeve is the 75,000 projects we always have going on at one time that I did not start any of.

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I start so many things at one time. Literally, I start so many things today, for example. This is a all right, you know what? I'm gonna own up to it because today we are like four minutes away from going on vacation. Our front room is half done because we've been remodeling it. We have to finish packing, start packing. And I walk in the house and I see mud, and I started scrubbing the carpets.

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You ever see those videos of like wives videotaping their husbands, like I don't know, 30 minutes or an hour before they're about to have company at their house, and they're like, I just told them that we needed to like clean up and get ready for people to come over. And it's like a video of him, like, I don't know, washing his boat.

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Yeah.

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That's you. It's a good thing that you make all of the plans and like the ideas.

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Yeah.

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And then like I execute execute them.

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That's actually a really funny analogy I've never thought about because like it's kind of true. Like it we are like hours away from getting on an airplane. I have not one thing packed.

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You have a couple things, but it's only because I set them together.

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Okay, so like I have not packed or thought about one thing that I'm bringing on this trip, but yet I was hand scrubbing our carpet on the stairs.

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Meanwhile, Finn's completely packed, which is like 95% of the way packed. And I'm like 75% of the way packed.

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We all have our strengths. That's all I can say.

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It's true.

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It's true. You know what? One day somebody's gonna be like, wow.

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So I provided myself almost three and a half days to pack your yours and Scarlet stuff because it's gonna grow and shrink and grow and change. And it's like we all know what we're going to do. We're gonna be in Florida for a cheer competition, and we're gonna be at parks.

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You know, everybody has to have like that, like you have to have a role in life. Like you're either the planner or like you're the packer, I think. And like there's some people that are both, and I think those people are crazy, right?

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There's the planner and the doer.

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Yeah, I have to plan. I have to use my brain is so like full of things that I don't have time to like take stuff and put it in a suitcase.

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You're too busy thinking about how you need to scrub the baseboards.

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I'm so busy scrubbing baseboards that I can't pack my suitcase to go on a vacation.

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100%.

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It's okay.

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Anyway, and that was just because you couldn't come home tonight and talk about how there is so much laundry to do, and it would never be done unless we constantly did it until we left. How much laundry do we have left?

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None. None. None. None. There's no laundry.

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So baseboards, it is.

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Baseboards.

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If you're cleaning baseboards, I've done a good job.

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I know. But the thing is, is like the stairs and the baseboards, those were just like I saw them and they had to be. It's disgusting. It's disgusting. It's so gross. And I was like trying to like think. Okay. In my defense, okay, I was thinking about packing my suitcase. I was like, I have to go upstairs. I have to take my things out of my closet. I have to fold them, and I have to put them in my suitcase. Okay. But I had to walk upstairs. My stairs were so dirty that like I was gonna take clothing and walk downstairs on dirty carpet. It it could possibly get my things dirty. And then I'd have to rewash them. So therefore, I was doing all that. It's fine. It's fine. Hmm. Anyway, I don't want to talk about what bothers about my pet peeves with you because perfectly what's your pet peeve about me? Nothing, nothing, nothing. Because you do the laundry, and right now everything you do is wonderful. So let's just move on.

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I'll take it. Let's move. Okay, perfect. All right. I don't even know what we were talking about either.

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Move on.

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So waiting on that.

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Move along. All right. Now let's see. Next. Biggest mistake homeowners make before selling. That's kind of boring. Honestly, I think the biggest mistake people make is trying to update the wrong thing. They think, okay, if I'm selling my house, I have to do all these projects that I've wanted to do that I've neglected that really are only important to me.

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I really think that this is like a perspective of like, if you're the kind of person who is going to do any renovation, I feel like the biggest mistake people make when they sell their home is not doing anything. Like just paint. Oh. Just painting. I mean, everyone's painted a room. Like the freshness of a new, newly painted room. Can make a terrible carpet kind of look okay. Make an okay carpet look good as long as it's like cleaned up. But like do something. A fully fresh painted house will sell it. As long as it's staged, right, with good paint.

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Yeah.

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No overlap other things.

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My favorite question to ask somebody who's about to sell their house is what is your selling budget? Which means how much money do you have to put into your home to be able to sell it? Because it does not just take taking a sign and popping it in your yard and saying, oh, let's go. No. You need to make sure that the house is clean. You might have to change light bulbs throughout the whole house because you want everything to like be the same.

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Yeah.

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You can't have cool light and warm lights. I bet that's a really good thing I've never actually thought about that, but that's probably a really common thing like nowadays for people to have four or five different like tones of lights in the house because we switched from like incandescent to LED, and you can't even buy incandescents anymore. And there's just there's been a big change in like the light sockets in general. A lot of like a lot of light fixtures come with LEDs that you can't even replace. You have to replace the whole fixture, which is wild to me.

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And it's a it can be a very big like for a buyer walking through a house. If when you're walking through a house, you're not just like spending a couple of like minutes here, and then like you know, going into another room, and it's not like it's not moving with you. You're spending a minute here, a minute here. As you walk through the house, you notice a change in lighting, and so it's just a mood killer. You need everything to flow. So, like, that's one of my big things. Make sure your lighting is all uniform. It can really like make a buyer like feel just not a good like vibe. And like it's vibe.

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Yeah. All it's probably almost it doesn't even matter what it is.

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It doesn't.

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As long as it's just not chaotic.

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It just should be the same. It's the same as like your decorating style, too. Your decorating style can be a little bit eclectic or different or unusual.

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As long as it looks fresh and nice.

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Yes. And don't have one eclectic room. Have the whole house. Like everything has to just flow. You have to give that buyer that feeling of like, oh, I just feel good here. There's a good energy. If you're like jumping around with lighting or decor or anything, it's gonna give a really icky vibe.

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This being said, I cannot wait for our house to eventually flow.

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One day.

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We are in such a state of flux in our house.

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Our house has no flow.

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Has no flow and it never really did. And we and to get the flow, we had to completely destroy the flow.

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We killed it.

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We killed the flow to make a new flow.

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But I really like my office. This is the best vibe in the whole world.

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This is the first. This was the first room I did in this house.

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I know. It it's it's a good one. I like it. It's my good one.

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Yeah. Here's a reason why we keep ignoring Finn whenever he says, I want my own room.

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I'm like, okay, cool.

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Okay, okay, kid who's never slept in a room by himself and still needs me to lay next to him to go to sleep.

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Yeah.

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We'll just avoid distraction.

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I know. All right. Next question. Who is more likely to impulse by something for our house?

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Definitely you, if it's something that's going to be seen.

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You think so?

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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Like we have Amazon show up here all the time.

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I mean, sure.

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Dropping off like, I don't know. One day it's like curtains. The next day it's like, I don't know, a light fixture.

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Okay, okay, okay.

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And it's like uh sconces.

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So once upon a time, I'm gonna tell a story. I bought new curtains for my front room, and I thought, wow, I really like these curtains. They're gonna look really good in this room. You know what happened? We decided to completely renovate the entire room before putting up said curtains.

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Well, if we did the curtains, we have to do everything else first.

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If you're gonna put up curtains, you better start scraping the texture off the ceiling.

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But you can't deny how good it looks now.

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It's so, so beautiful.

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It makes the room look so much bigger.

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It's so good. It's so good. So good. There's a lot of work.

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It was a lot of work, but it it looks good.

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It's very messy.

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Definitely worth worth the look.

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Okay, okay. All right, working together. What have you learned?

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We have to talk all the time about everything.

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We have to communicate. We have to like talk about what we're doing, why we're doing it.

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Like multiple times a day.

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A day. Multiple times. Because there's just too much going on.

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Like you can have it in your calendar, you can have it here, you can have it there. It's a calendar may not even be right. I don't know. Maybe you just put it in there and it defaulted to an hour and now it's listed as an hour, but pickup time is actually in two hours. I don't know.

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I feel like that's a little bit close to home.

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I do the same thing. I mean, I still haven't entered a single game for not one.

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Anyway.

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I'm not the planner. I still don't even don't even know what we're doing when we go to Disney. I just know we're going we have a flight to Orlando. And we need backs back for seven days and seven nights.

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Yeah.

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We're gonna be there for eight days. There's gonna be one set of clothes that you wear to the airport. I got this planned. I love I love planning the actual packing.

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Good. It takes all kinds. Um do we have the same taste in uh homes and design? Is our taste the same?

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I feel like at the end of the day, in home design, our tastes are pretty similar.

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Yeah.

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Like I love every home design thing you send me. Could I find that a design and go, look how awesome this is? Because it's I'd say no.

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Oh my god.

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Because it fits with that same style, and you'll be like, no. That's I just leave all that to you.

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Yeah.

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I generally like what you're gonna do.

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It always looks good.

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I'm just not good at picking it out. I don't spend all the time looking at like different styles of chairs. That's a wild thing to do.

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Yeah, that's true.

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I'm too busy like scraping a ceiling and painting and packing over and over and over again. The amount of times we've painted this house, we've lived in it for four years.

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Oh my god, no one has painted their house more than we have.

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Three and a half years.

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Has it been that long? No.

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Three and a quarter. Three and a quarter.

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No.

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Yeah. Because we moved in twenty two. Oh shit.

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Wow.

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December was three years.

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That's crazy.

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Kobe's four.

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That's crazy.

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Yeah.

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We've painted this house a lot.

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Oh, fun fact, this is the first time we're boarding our dog.

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Oh my god, I'm so nervous.

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And uh I had to take him to the vet to get his like to get all the paperwork for his shots, obviously. And he's getting better.

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He's good.

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He ate a toy out of the a toy? He ate a toy. He ate a toy. He It's late. He ate late. He ate a treat out of the vet's hand.

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I know.

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Last time I took him to the vet, he wouldn't get within four feet of the vet without me like holding him down.

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Yeah. So again, I called Justin the other day. I say, hey, what are you doing? And he's like, why? I say, um, do you want to go tour a uh dog palace?

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Like and so he's like, I don't have nothing else I'd rather be doing at my lunch than touring a dog resort.

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That's the best way to spend your lunch break.

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You know?

SPEAKER_00

The place seems pretty nice, to be fair. The people are like the people love dogs.

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They love dogs. Way more than I do.

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And I I love my dog.

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I know. That's why I had to that's why. Because like I our children, when we put them in daycare, I took care of everything. I toured it, I found it, I signed them up, they were great.

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And then walked through one.

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He didn't walk through one. But the dog is his. That's like his like territory. So I was like, before I sign, he has to like come check it out.

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So it's probably a good idea. Because if you would have came home and been like, yeah, we're sending him to a he would have said no. I'm like, Absolutely not. Are they legit?

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He would have been like, I have to go see it. I'm like, okay, yeah.

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I mean, scary things happen in when dogs get boarded. Oh, I would have been nervous.

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I know. That's why I called you.

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I'm not nervous after meeting them, which is good.

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They were so kind.

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They were.

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And they like love the dogs. They talk about like playtime and they like were playing with the dogs. It was so cute.

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He awkwardly showed us like a million pictures and videos of dogs. I was like to the point where he was like, I'm being obnoxious. I should stop.

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Okay, let's move on.

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He said it out loud.

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But they were so nice. If you need a place to go and board your dog, A9 Pet Palace Hill, youard so far, so good. We like them.

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We'll revisit after. But we'll let you know. So far, so good.

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But the owner was there and he like introduced himself. I thought that was really great too. It showed like like the actual owner of the place, not just like the manager. So I was like, okay, this is cool. Like he seems nice. Anyway, I think that's it for tonight.

SPEAKER_00

What?

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I said, I think that's it for tonight. We're done.

SPEAKER_00

That's it.

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Yeah, I mean, it's 10 o'clock. I can't continue to talk. I've been talking all day. I did an open house in Upper Arlington today, like from four to six. And I had like a billion people in it. Did I have power? No. No power. But I had people. It was crazy.

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I did laundry.

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He did laundry. And I talked to everyone in Upper Arlington.

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But I think I agree. But also, this was fun. We should do this.

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This was fun. Let's do it again.

SPEAKER_00

We'll still do the show though. But yeah. Of course.

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But this is just like a little extra because like because it's wild in our house. Crazy. And I've been writing and I've been like working and like everything has been busy and we're traveling. And so here we are.

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For those who listen. Thank you.

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Bye.