S1E9: New Year, New….?

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Welcome to the Mom Boss Like a Boss Podcast, a podcast where we talk about mom life, entrepreneurship, and everything in between. I'm your host at Taylor B, a mom of four precious boys and an entrepreneur at heart. If you've been looking for a village of like-minded people, then I think you've found the right place. I look forward to talking with you, and I can't wait to see you inside. And happy new year! 2026 is upon us. This is crazy. I feel like 2025 just flew. It just it just kind of flew. Like I feel like it just started, and then we snapped our fingers and we were halfway through it, and it was like, oh my gosh, we're halfway through the year. And then boom, now it's December. And it's like, whoa, okay. Slow down. So I'm not gonna lie to you, I did not have this episode prepped a week ahead like I wanted to. I considered skipping this week because things have just been kind of crazy at home. And I'll be honest, I've been uh really overwhelmed with just life and work and things of that nature. Recently, was it Monday? It was Monday this week, I did my usual working, Uber and Lyft and all that, and I had a very difficult time with an order uh that I was trying to deliver since I wasn't really getting rides, so I was like, okay, I guess I'll do some deliveries, even though it was cold and windy, and I did not want to do that. But I had a really difficult time with that order, and I ended up spending over 40 minutes trying to get this order to go deliver it. Mind you, it was a 75-inch TV. Oh, thank goodness I have a big car. But it was a TV and the code wasn't working when I was trying to pick it up. It was a lot. It was windy, it was cold, it was a lot. I was dealing with a lot that day. And when I finally got somebody on support, they were like, oh, go ahead and cancel it. I don't remember if they gave me a reason why they just said to go ahead and cancel it, and they were like, Oh, you'll be compensated for your time and your effort. I'm like, okay, cool. And then I got four dollars. And I was told that they weren't able to adjust it because I'm like, I have been dealing with this for over for almost an hour, and you're only gonna compensate me four dollars. Okay, got it, cool. Not gonna lie, I was extremely ticked off that day. I went home. I was like, I'm going home, and I just had a crash out for the rest of the day, just kind of spiraling, like, okay, I don't, you know, I'm like, I don't know what I'm gonna do from here, as far as you know, my primary source of income while trying to build my business. I'm like, this is not this is not sustainable at this point in time, where I'm not able to make what I used to make, and I'm spending more in like gas than I am making in earnings, and then on top of that, bills and food and kids' stuff and field trips and all the things. So I apologize for rambling. I'm still a little ticked off about it, but at the moment, until I can figure something else out, that is what I'm stuck doing. But I figured I would title this episode, you know, like new year, new, and then maybe like question mark, because for years we always had this notion of new year, new me. And what are you gonna change this year? What's your big goal for this year? What is it? You know, what's the big thing that you're gonna do? And honestly, I'm kind of tired, and I'm realizing now, especially in my adult years, I get overwhelmed very easily by putting a lot of pressure on myself with like a huge goal of oh, I'm going to I don't know, I'm going to start going to the gym consistently. That's probably not gonna hate the gym. Anyway, um that know that's a common one where people are like, I'm gonna start my health journey, I'm gonna eat better, I'm gonna go to the gym, and bada bing, bada boom. For me, I'm realizing that setting a huge goal for myself just puts a lot of pressure on me and it makes it kind of gives me paralysis where it's like, okay, I know I've got this big goal, but then I'm like, okay, what do I do next? And then I start overthinking and I get stressed out, and I just kind of abandon it altogether. Not intentionally, but it's just like and then I have like a crash. Kind of like how how you have like a sugar crash or a caffeine crash, where it's like, oh, I'm so tired and drained after the high of the sugar and the caffeine and the energy that you had. So you so for me, if I set a really big goal with no, and I put all that pressure on myself, it's like okay, I start off on the high of yes, I'm gonna do this thing, it's gonna be great, it's gonna be big, I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna accomplish it. Yeah, I start off high on that energy, and then as I get to overthinking and trying to figure out, okay, well, what do I do next? Or oh, I'm not seeing the results I wanted, or I want this to happen, or it's not working, and then I get to be being like, oh my gosh, I you know, I failed, I can't believe I I don't know what I was thinking. Of course I can't do that. I was dreaming too big, you know, all those like negative feelings like that crash. That's what happens to me, and that's what I've begun to learn about myself. So this year, I don't know about you. This year, I'm I just want stability. I just want to be on the way to stability. That's all I want. Like, whether I'm do for me personally, just with everything I've been going through lately, I want a stable income. I want something I can budget with, I want something I can somewhat rely on, even if it kind of fluctuates a little bit. I want to be able to say I make about this much consistently because that's how it used to be with Uber for me. I used to be able to say I can confidently make at least like 400 minimum a week, and when I really um when I really work those hours, and if I work, you know, a certain amount of days, I can make up to at least 700 a week. I used to be able to say that. Now I'm lucky if I can make 300 a week, and that's over like five or six days. So for me, I want to be able, I want my my honestly my big quote unquote goal this year is just to get to a point where I can say I have somewhat of a steady income so that way I can not be stressing about life and everything else, and I can actually dedicate some energy to building my business on the side because don't get me wrong, I want my business to be my full-time income, of course, but typically that takes time, and while I am still working towards that, I also recognize that I have a currently a seven-month-old son. And one of and my one of my other sons was actually just recently officially diagnosed with autism. So I have a seven-month-old son, I have two autistic sons, and I still have you know, in total, I've got four kids, four boys, four very hyperactive boys. So I'm still adjusting and getting to a point where I actually have time to work on things because I'm not gonna lie to you. Typically, I would prefer to work after kids go to sleep, but usually by the end of the day, I'm so exhausted I can't even think clearly. So I'm still working on finding time pockets where I can work on my business while also not jeopardizing my health any further because when I don't get sleep and I have to, you know, take care of kids full time like I do, I definitely notice, I can definitely tell the difference, and it's not a good difference. So I think I'm gonna wrap it up here. I guess I just wanted to ramble. I don't know what my goal was with this, but if you leave here with anything, if I can leave you with anything, is don't pressure yourself with a huge, overwhelming goal this year. You can do a lot of small goals that you can achieve to give yourself that dopamine hit if that works for you, or if you do want to do the big goal, then make sure you have the steps that are gonna lead to that goal. Make sure you know what those steps are gonna be so that way as you're accomplishing each step, and you know you're making progress and you're working towards your big goal, you know you're you're moving forward, you're not standing still, even if you're not actively seeing the results of what you want. And then also give yourself grace, take care of yourself, don't listen to those people who literally make money off of content saying, Oh, I made a million dollars this year. You know, grab my course and I'll teach you how to do it too. I'm just saying, don't buy into the hype, don't rush yourself. I know it's hard not to feel rushed with everything that's going on in the world and in our country. Get to a point where you are comfortable, where you are safe, and then do what works best for you as far as moving forward with your goals and your dreams. Because working from a place of stress and anxiety is not healthy. If that's the situation you find yourself in and you don't have a choice, then I understand. At the end of the day, you know what your life looks like and you know what's best for you. Thanks so much for tuning in, and I'll see you guys next year. Bye. Thanks for listening to the Mom Boss Like a Boss podcast. If you have any thoughts on the episode, please feel free to reach out to me on Threads or Instagram. You can find me at the Creative Altruist, all one word, no spaces, underscores, or periods. It'll also be right there in the description. Until next time.