New Years Resolution, Screw that! - Get Tough! - S2E1

Stop chasing perfect and start building tough. Coach Mikki invites us into a huddle built on self-trust, where we swap fragile resolutions for a durable mindset that survives busy schedules, public stumbles, and the occasional half-cheesecake moment. We explore why motivation fades when life gets messy, and how toughness, grounded in small daily proof, becomes the quiet force that keeps you moving.

If you’re done waiting for permission, press play and join the team that chooses progress over perfection, resilience over excuses, and action over almost. Subscribe, share this episode with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a review to tell us what you’re getting tough about this year.

Chapters

• 0:32 Welcome To Hail Mary And Heels
• 1:07 Rethinking New Year’s Resolutions
• 2:58 Choose Toughness Over Motivation
• 4:43 Boundaries, Setbacks, And Comebacks
• 6:37 Stop People-Pleasing And Prioritize You
• 8:29 Discipline Beats Drama And Burnout
• 10:20 Almost Isn’t Enough: Try Again
• 12:19 Curate Your Circle And Set Limits

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:17

Hey, bring it in, bring it in, listen up. I'm Coach Mickey. You're here on Hail Mary and Heels. And if this is your first time on my field, come on in, get yourself comfortable. You're going to find this is a team of women that are here to lift each other up, support each other, and give us a little bit of insight in regards to how we can make our lives better. And uh if you'd like to have some more interaction and connect with like-minded women and people to help you with your business or even just in life, please visit my community. The link is embedded into the podcast. I am so glad that you're here. And the reason I wanted to do this podcast was here we are on January 9th. And I'm wondering how many of you have stayed on your New Year's resolution. And I really don't like New Year's resolutions because everybody waits till January 1st to think that they can make a difference. And then usually what happens is you take all these things that you want to do, and it becomes overwhelming or life gets in the way, and you don't have an opportunity to say, oh my gosh, I'm gonna stick with this, I'm gonna stay with this, and regardless of what happens. And I would say we make it maybe to February, and maybe the uh maybe we make it a little bit longer for those of you that do make it a little bit longer, or even just stick to your New Year's resolution. I applaud you and celebrate you. Uh, I know for me it's been a time frame where I'll start to do something and I make that commitment that promised myself. And if one day goes by and I didn't do it, I'm finding myself going, well, why even continue? Because I've already screwed it up instead of just picking myself back up and getting on it. Or I do, which is later on down the road. So I got thinking about this. The more I was looking at New Year's resolution and talking to friends, is maybe instead of this being a year or a New Year's resolution where you go, I'm going to lose weight, or I'm going to make six figures, or I want to have uh the ability to travel, or what more freedom, what it, whatever the New Year's resolution is that you decided to do. What about instead of doing something that was just laser focused on that thing where you might be setting yourself up for failure or disappointment? What if you just made a statement that you could stick with the whole year? And what I came up with was what if this is the year you just get tough? And I'm not talking about like get angry and hard and closed off and emotionally numb. I'm talking about this is the year that you become tough for yourself, and and not now, let's not confuse it with being motivated because motivated comes and goes. And usually motivation means you need something to keep you going. I'm talking about internal toughness, the ability to say, okay, this didn't work. Oh well, I'm just gonna get back up and do it again. Or I fell off the wagon because I was gonna eat clean and now I've screwed up because I just ate half a cheesecake. And you have to look at yourself and go, well, wait a minute, okay, so I screwed up, big deal. I'm tough, so I'm gonna get back into the groove. I'm gonna get back into eating clean. I'm gonna get back into working stronger on my business, myself, um, whatever, whatever you wanted to work on. And what does tough mean? You know, tough is hard because you have to be tough when you're by yourself. I mean, there's no there's no huge audience clapping for you all the time saying, yay, you know, you did really great today because you were tough. No, tough means that you're gonna have to step up for yourself. It means that you're gonna have to stop quitting on yourself, and tough means you're gonna have to stop waiting for permission. I know a lot of times we are waiting for the right time, for the right moment, for the right things to be in a line to be able to start or do something. And being tough means you're not waiting. You are not waiting for that permission, you're not waiting for that time frame, you're not waiting for perfection. Progress is a lot stronger than perfection, believe me on this one, because if we wait for things to be perfect, you're gonna be waiting a very long time, if not ever. Because let me tell you something, there's no such thing as perfection. You know, we have we have times in our lives where we look at things that have been happening and transpiring over and over and over again. And this is the time where you have to get tough. You have to start holding on to your boundaries, even when it's uncomfortable. You have to keep showing up for yourself over and over again, even when you've been disappointed. And you have to keep getting back up even after a bad season. And it could be a season in relationships, it could have been a season in your business, it could have been a past season in your life, your family, whatever it is. But getting back up and using that setback as a comeback is what's going to make you tough, strong, and have the capability of moving forward. A lot of times we quit, not because we're not capable, we quit because we're tired of fighting for ourselves. And I've seen it over and over and over again where we just get tired of doing the same thing over and over again, or trying to help, or trying to make things happen, or trying to fix things. Well, let me tell you something. You're not responsible for other people's actions, you're only responsible for yourself. So stop fighting for everybody else and start fighting for yourself. And maybe this should be the year that you decide to take a little bit more time and get tough for you. And when you are tough for you, I can guarantee, I promise you, that when you are tough for yourself, everything around you is going to be so much easier. And the people that don't like it or can't understand it or don't acknowledge it, maybe that's the time and that's the people you need to cut from your team. Because when we set boundaries, you're going to find there's going to people be people that don't like it. And those are the ones that you should have cut a long time ago. Those are the ones that you should have said, why am I wasting so much time and energy on this? And you have to look at it and see who are the ones in your lives that are lifting you up, helping you, giving you the energy, giving you the inspiration when when you need it. Or even sometimes when you're down, you have the that's the person that's you know extending their hand to lift you up. And you don't have to validate everything and you don't have to wait to be confident, just move, just do something, one thing each and every day. And a lot of times we just get so burned out because we're doing the same thing and we're wondering why things aren't working. And I can tell you why, it's because you haven't been tough to make yourself a priority, and you've got to stop negotiating this excuses, and you've got to stop letting comfort make your decisions, and you've got to stop romanticizing, being burned out, because when you're burned out, that's really on you. You know, you've allowed to go, go, go, go, go to the point where you just can't do it anymore. And I had read a play someplace, and I can't remember where it was at, and many of you might have even heard this. You cannot fill other people's cups when yours is empty. So if you're not taking care of your own spirit, your own well-being, your own uh conscious of what you're doing and who you are, and how strong and efforts that you can offer, it's never gonna happen. You're gonna just drain yourself. And you've got to start to choose the discipline over drama and choose the progress over perfection every single time. Let's look at this. It's not the fact that we're afraid of hard work. Maybe it's because we've tried so hard and it didn't work, or maybe we fell apart or things failed publicly, you know, around our friends, our family, maybe within our jobs. Uh, maybe we've even outgrown some of the people that we love and that we're surrounded by. And maybe we even think, well, I'm almost ready, or I'm almost confident, or I'm almost committed. Well, almost isn't going to get you anywhere. And I can tell you right now, no one's gonna come and rescue you. You have to actually decide where do I want to fit in with this? What do I want to do with this information? So what if you tried? Try over and over and over again. I I've told you in past podcasts, one of my favorite things I have posted here on my monitor screen is failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm. And I have to do that on a regular basis. It's not always perfect in my life. I can't tell you how many times I've stepped out or I've tried something or I've stepped out of my comfort zone and just got my ass totally kicked. But I didn't let it stop me from moving forward. I didn't let it take away who I am and what I want to do and the things that I want to transpire and how I want to make changes in other people's lives. So don't get caught up on failure. I mean, you probably have heard it, you know, forget everything and run, or face everything and rise. And that's how I kind of see it. And if you've outgrown some of these people that are around you, it doesn't mean you have to just cut them out and say, okay, I'm out and they're no part of my life. But take them in small doses and set your boundaries and decide what is going to work for you this year. What is going to be the ultimate thing, the ultimate people, the ultimate surroundings, the most encouraging moments, the most extraordinary choices that I can make and be tough and decide without a doubt that this is what I'm going to do, this is who I need, this is where I'm going to be able to get you through these goals that you've tried to make and maybe have not worked out. And when you keep these promises to yourself, it is going to be the most solid foundation that you will set over any New Year's resolution that you will ever try to create. So I encourage you, I hope you choose to get uncomfortable. Surround yourself with those that expect a little bit more from you. Because if you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room. You don't need people always being yes, yes, yes. You need people that'll say, okay, that's great, but let's look at it from another perspective. How can I help you with this? Where are the situations or the time frames or the knowledge or the information that you either need more of, you haven't been able to capture, or you've got to be able to surround yourself to make yourself a little bit stronger and build you up. Have people question you because that's a good thing. Now I'm not saying question you through opinions by saying, why are you going to do this or that's not going to work? You don't need the negative reinforcements. That's not what I'm saying. That's a whole nother broadcast. What I'm referring to is when you've decided to do something and lift yourself up and be tough, you need that person to go, that's really good, but let's look at it and take all the other pieces that maybe have been your obstacles in the past, and how are you going to get over them? How are you going to focus? How are you going to be committed? How are you going to become unstoppable? And that is where you need to focus your energy here in this new year, in this new time frame, in this new you. So let's get out there, lift yourself up, write somewhere. I am unstoppable this year. And I want you to sit in the quiet, receive it, take it in your mindset, and feel it with every fiber of your being that you are going to be this strong, unstoppable human being that is going to create extraordinary things here in 2026. Okay, bring it in. Bring it in and let's break this huddle. I'm excited for you. We're today, we're gonna break on three. We're gonna break on the word tough. Ready? One, two, three, tough. I'm Coach Mickey. Let's go.