If you felt lonely, isolated, disconnected, with an empty feeling inside and just yearning for more, knowing something is missing, then this podcast is for you. So here's your host, Joe Mittigga.
SPEAKER_01Hello and welcome to We. My name is Joe Mittigga, and I'm the host of the Wii podcast. Lately I've been feeling something I just can't shake, to be honest with you. Maybe you felt it too. It's as if the world, it just seems heavier to me. People seem to be more anxious, more divided, more exhausted, more uncertain of the future than ever before. And while a lot of people think that all that's happening out there, I've really come to understand over the years that everything that's outside of me that I see outside of me actually has a source inside. Because every condition that causes us discomfort, that causes us angst, that causes us confusion, that causes us pain that we're seeing with our eyes, somewhere, somehow, somewhere inside, it reflects us. The fear, the uncertainty, the loneliness, the overwhelm that we see everywhere now around the world. It's all a mirror. And the mirror is about self. Self to self. Although the world around you is going to tell you that it's needs to be fixed. And it needs to be fixed in your outside world. Now, I want to tell you something that you can spend the rest of your life, like I did for many years, trying to fix my outside world, have the right job, live in the right place, have the right woman, be big enough, have enough money in the bank account. And you can spend the rest of your life trying to fix that which is outside of you. And quite honestly, never feel whole. So in today's episode, I'm going to talk about why the world feels so heavy right now, and what that heaviness has taught me over the years, what that confusion I see has helped me understand in me. The disconnect, the anger, the hate, the left and right, the highs and lows, the poverty, the grandness, all of it that I see in my world, I realized over time it was truly a reflection about me. And as I came to understand that, as I really started to understand that my world really wasn't broken, my relationships externally really weren't broken. The amount of money I had in the bank, the place that I lived, was never really the source of my angst. It was the person I was looking at when I was brushing my teeth. That's where the answers were inside of me. And as I realized that, I gained a sense of peace. Not because it made me feel better, but quite honestly, it helped me understand that if it's to be, it's up to me. Most people's powerlessness, most people's hopelessness, most people's sense of I can never fix it. It's never gonna get better. I hate my life, is because they try and they try and they try and they try. And no matter what they do, they can't seem to change their world. They can't seem to create a world that is different, a world that causes uncomfort, a world that allows safety, a world that feels abundant. They no matter what they do, they just can't fix the it. Well, folks, the challenge is the it isn't outside of you, the it is inside of you. In today's conversation, we're gonna talk about that. We're gonna talk about why the world feels so heavy right now, and it does. Why? Because the world is changing. She's waking up, humanity's waking up, and literally around the globe, people are waking up on a Monday very different than they were on a Friday. People are looking at their partners, looking at their jobs, looking at their the where they live, and they're saying, this doesn't fit anymore. But they don't know what to do, and they don't know the answers, and they don't know how to proceed forward. And today, like every episode, I tell my stories, and I tell my stories from kind of a three-dimensional approach, the mental approach, the personal growth, the emotional growth, and the spiritual consequence, the spiritual growth. And why do I do that? Because everybody's at a different place. And I don't try to have the answers for you, quite honestly. I'll share with you what I did. And I hope you can extrapolate solutions for yourself. And before I get started, I just want to thank everybody. I am in a tremendous amount of gratitude today. The We podcast is doing things on Apple Podcasts that has quite honestly never been done. Today we're ranked in the top 200 in the globe again, because of all of you. And statistically, that's impossible. Why? Because it's I'm a message, I'm a man with a message and a microphone. And though, it's not me doing the talking. And if you're here today, I think you understand what I'm talking about, especially if you've listened to any of my episodes in the past. I don't claim to be special because I'm not. I'm just like you. And you're just like me. I tell people all the time, and I'm not a therapist, I'm not a doctor, I'm not a researcher, I don't have any of that stuff. I'm not. I'm a guy that's been on a spiritual path for a long time, like you have. I've I'm a guy that's basically awoken to a reality that there's a God and it's not me. That higher sense of me guides me most of the time. And I'm gonna tell you what I did to get here. And unlike so many and most, quite honestly, of the influencers online, I'm not gonna tell you to go get them, Tiger, without a how-to. And it's interesting because when I first started this podcasting world, I didn't know the categories on, I didn't know the categories on Apple. I'd never listened to a podcast. I mean, I I randomly happened upon a podcast four years ago with a woman that really awoke in my spirit, spiritual sense of self, but I didn't know it's called a podcast. At the time I didn't, I was completely unaware. Interestingly enough, there's a how-to section on Apple Podcast. Did I know that? No, my producer did when she listened to me, Wendy Stevens. But that's me, I'm a how-to guy. Why? Because you know what? This whole idea of go get him, Tiger, you can do it, and all you have to do is change your mind, and everything's gonna be fine, and you have control of it's not true. How do I know it's not true? Joe, millions of people say it can, and there have been influencers out there that have 20 million people that say you just have to control the outcome. You can't control what happens, but you can control how you think about it. That's a load. How do I know? Because if you could do that, you wouldn't be on this podcast today. It's just not true. Now, if it's working, keep doing. Am I saying anybody's right and wrong? No, I'm not. I'm not. And you know, people challenge me all the time. They say, Joe, what religion are you? I say all of them. They say, Joe, well, how can you say that different spiritual beliefs that have been around for 2,000 years aren't true? Well, I'm not saying that beliefs aren't true. I'm saying human interpretation has been skewed and then duplicated and repeated over and over and over from an unconsciously skewed perspective, yes, for 2,000 years. Now, am I telling you to believe me? No, folks, I'm not. I don't care if you believe Joe or not. I'm asking you to go inside yourself, go in you and figure out what's right or wrong for you. Not me, for you. And trust me, you're gonna find some things inside yourself that might not fit with the social environment you're in, might not fit with the culture you live in, might not fit in the low self-esteem, control, frecozoid nature that you grew up in. It might not. Why? Because we're waking up. Humanity is waking up to the feminine side of herself. It's happening. Whether you understand that or not, it doesn't matter. It is. Consciousness as a concept is waking up. I always use the example to give some context to what that means. Conscious awareness, transformation of consciousness, what it means. Go online sometime and look at some of the videos of what our governments, what the churches used to do to prisoners of war a thousand years ago. Go online, search it up yourself. It's documented, horrific torture of governments, the Roman Empire and the churches. It's horrific a thousand years ago. Look it up yourself. Why was that so okay? Well, back then, the consciousness of the day was what it was. Fast forward 800, 800 years, 200 years ago here in the States, owning a human, completely normal. Slavery, completely normal. Now, did everybody agree with it? No, but was it normal? Yes. Why? Because the consciousness of the day, 200 years ago, to own a human was perfectly normal. I don't know the details of cultures around the world, but I know there are a lot of cultures around the world that are probably listening in here today. That if you were a woman 20, 30, 40, 50 years ago, your rights or your civil rights as a woman were different than they are today. What changed? Transformation of consciousness. Why? Because people are waking up to what? That we're all created in God's image. It doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman, a boy or a girl, black or white, red or freaking green. We're all created in God's image. And the consciousness of the day is waking up. And if you kind of put that in context to where the world is coming and how things are shifting, for the past 40 years, the whole mindset of change your mind, heal your change your mind, heal yourself, all that, it worked for a long time. If it's working for you now, great. But for most of us, it doesn't. Why? Because the reason you're uncomfortable in the first place is not because your head is uncomfortable, because your heart is uncomfortable. Every glass empty voice in your head, the I'm not good enough, I'm a loser, I'm too fat, I'm a woman, I'm this, I'm that, whatever the voices are in your head that cause you discomfort, the source of the voice is not in your head, it's in your heart. And that's why I always go into an emotional solution to heal. You know, I've learned this thing called a real. And for those of you that don't know, I always have to kind of repeat a little bit because I've got tens of thousands of new listeners coming onto the We podcast every week now. And for those of the that don't know, three or four years ago, I didn't even I had no presence online at all. None. Did not really know what a con that what the concept of a podcast was, didn't know what a reel was. And I've learned, I've gotten pretty good at it now, but I didn't know. And as I've learned this concept of a real, now if you go on my Instagram page, 20,000, 30,000 people follow my Instagram page, which I'm very blessed for. Thank you for that support. And I follow about 30. And every once in a while, the Areal will pop up, and I hear these really beautiful tones, and they're so eloquent, and the softness and the oh my gosh, you just have to do it like this and like that. But I keep waiting for the how. How do you do it? There's never a how. Folks, you hang around here, I'm gonna do the best I can to give you the how. And why can I do that? Because 35 years ago, misery was my normal. I was addicted to everything: drugs, alcohol, sex, working out, working, you name it, I was addicted to it. I literally had every critical voice you could possibly have. I had a spiritual awakening on February the 20th, 1994, where God removed my compulsion for drugs and alcohol. I was a daily drinker and I was a daily drug user back then. The drug of choice was marijuana. And on that moment, it was removed. And it was removed because of sense of powerlessness, a sense of desperation. I was trying to go, I was trying to go 90 days. I made it six. I asked God for help and it happened. Did I feel like I was awoken with God? No, I freaking hated God back then, hated, literally. Why? Because I was hurting all the time. Now, did I have any relationship with that power? No. But I also wasn't going to be a hypocrite. I wasn't one of these people that was going to be crazy all week and then go to Sunday and ask for forgiveness, and that basically lying. That's all my friends did. And I say that they're all great men, great men today. But we do crazy stuff for six days. They go to church, ask for forgiveness, and meet me after church at the bar to drink underage. No way. I wasn't doing that for sure. And so I had no relationship, even though I always knew there was a power greater. That's just where I was. Well, in that moment, even though I literally felt energy run through my body, and I literally had a physical tear come down my left side of my cheek. Did I know what happened? No. I walked out, didn't think a thing about it. 54 days later, when I had full-blown memories of true trauma, sexual abuse as a kid, did I know what happened? No. No, I didn't. My sobriety date being April the 16th, 1994. It's because I smoked a quarter of a marijuana cigarette that day. Horrible experience. And I just, what did I know? The only thing I knew on April the 16th, 1994, is that everything I ever had done in the past was over. Everything had to change. It's the only knowing ahead. And I moved forward for the next seven years, seven years living in darkness, living in despair. I lived on less than $3,000 a year, $250 a month. And I've got a podcast, Modern Day Monk, and Seven Years to Oneness. Listen to that one. Tell us my story. It really does. And why do I share all that? Because when I was going through that, folks, did I have any idea that I was creating a relationship with God? No. Did I care? No. When I tell you I did not have a solid relationship at all, I'm not kidding. Why? Because the only exposure I had was believe in God in a particular way, because if you don't, you're burning in hell. And I never believed that, never, but I didn't have enough awareness or support to think that I was right or wrong. I just knew I was nuts. I can tell you, as I made it through that those seven years, that's what I teach now. I didn't learn a thing from anything outside of me. I wasn't a reader. I've read one book my entire life. I remembered a power greater than myself. I was never taught about a power greater than myself. And that's why the remembering process, I say to people all the time, I am not a teacher. I can teach you nothing. I can share my experience, strength, and hope with you. Now, there are professionals out there that if you're going through deep pain, find a professional. Find a therapist. They are out there for your support. I had three different therapists over a 25, 30 year period of time. They always helped me. This is not supposed to be done alone. And for the masses, you don't need deep therapy. You're not in deep pain. You're not waking up and can't move and in angst and hate. You're not. You're in a pretty good spot. And for you folks like you, for the majority of the people on this podcast, it isn't really about healing the depths. You're already in a good spot. It's about shifting the mindset of who you truly are and which parts of you are actually guiding you today. This whole delusional ridiculousness that enlightenment is an action step that you flip on with a switch, and then one day you're just enlightened and walking on water, it's a falsehood. It's just simply false. That isn't how it works. Enlightenment is a process. Spiritual awareness is a process, spiritual growth is a process. Quite honestly, folks, every time you have a new awareness, you're awakening a little bit more. If you have a new awareness of, like I did 30 years ago, my first conscious thought after my second DUI is the police officers are not trying to get me to stop driving. They're trying to get me to stop drinking and driving. Whoa. Huge awareness. Sounds silly now, but back then it was a big deal. A third DUI or a fourth DUI, I don't even remember. I think it was two DUIs and went to jail because I broke into a friend's house drunk, of course. Any more trouble with alcohol? I was going to prison two or three years. Well, because of that awareness, I never drank and drove again, never got another DUI. Wisdom of the day, I just started smoking marijuana more, but it worked. So, folks, if you think about it for yourself, think about how many awarenesses you have. Think about if you're in your 30s, 40s, 50s, how you look at life today as a 50-year-old versus the way you looked at life when you were a 20 or 30-year-old. The difference in the way you see life is an awakening. That's a spiritual path. Now, there's also people out there, I'm telling you, they are 50-year-olds, they are 50-year-olds in their body and 17-year-olds acting as a 50-year-old. You know those people. You do. They haven't had the first conscious awareness their entire life. They haven't had the first conscious thought their entire life. Make them wrong? No. Just makes them on a different spiritual path. One of my earlier podcasts is there's only one spiritual path that matters. There's only one spiritual path, only one, and it's yours. Listen to that podcast. No one else's, yours. Why? Because that's the only one that really can matter for you. You can't do anybody else's, and nobody else's, no one else can do yours. And in that whole process for Joe, when I realized that life isn't about what I see, life is about what I feel. Life isn't about what I'm visualizing. Life is about what I'm internally experiencing. The heaviness of the world today, with the separations and the politics and AI coming in and all of the changes, we are going through massive disruption. We are. No, I'm going to be the first one to tell you, folks, I do not have your solutions of what you're supposed to do in your external world. I don't know what you're supposed to do as a job. I don't know where you're supposed to live. I don't know. I don't. I'm not an expert in that. But what I'm going to tell you to do every time. You're on this podcast, is go inside because the guidance system in you, the power grander than all of us that brought you to this podcast, why is the We podcast what rated 198 out of four million active podcasts? Why? Because it's not Joe doing the talking, it's Joe's divinity doing the talking. And it's your divinity that brought you here. How do I know? Because literally, the other podcasts have billions of dollars supporting them in advertising, millions of predetermined followers. And here's the We podcast: a man with a voice, a man with a message and a microphone. I asked chat, statistically impossible. Well, statistically, it is impossible. Divinity, all things are possible. And folks, if I can, you can. Why? Because the only reason you're here, higher party, you brought you here. And we're connecting through that. And why I say we are the generation of change? Because it doesn't matter where you are on the globe. Doesn't matter if you're in India or United Kingdom or Hong Kong, Japan, Canada. It doesn't matter where you are, New Zealand, France, every one of those countries. And I've got there's a dozen more. You're listening to the We podcast. How? Because the divinity in me is in the divinity in you. And I've got whole podcasts that share that in detail. The hows and the why I know that. The whole concept of the we, human self, higher self, inner self. That whole concept is about introducing to the world conceptually that you are a multidimensional being. You are. You're listening, you're multidimensional. The human side of yourself, the part that gets you up every day, brushes your teeth, takes you to work, and raises your kid, that part. The inner self, the part that has reactionary patterns to the heaviness, to the pain, to the angst, to emotion, and the divine part of you. And that divine part of you is waking up. And there are so many people out there that literally live in the illusion that divinity is going to rescue you. No, it's not. God's not codependent. God's not rescuing you anytime soon. There's, I can't tell you how many times I've seen it. Well, if you just believe in God, that's a load of crap. You can believe in God all you want. God didn't put you in your challenging spot, and it's not God's job to rescue you out of your challenging spot. Well, then, Joe, why the hell do I need God? We need God because God's going to give you the strength and the courage. Now, folks, you might be on this podcast and not believe in God at all. That's fine. And you might call your God Jesus. That's fine. You might call your God Buddha. That's fine. You might call your God, like I did, Great Spirit, for 15 years. I don't care what you're calling it. But you have to take the actions because that part's not going to rescue you. And what I'm going to help you do is to separate how you got where you are and what you need to do to change so you can have a grander tomorrow. The how-to. So many motivational speakers out there, they say, focus on what you want and it'll manifest. And I just listened to one just the other day. I kept waiting. I kept waiting. This guy's got about 50 million followers. He said it over. Just focus on what you want and you'll manifest it. I kept waiting. I said, wow, that's fantastic. I love that. That's a great idea. How do I focus on what I want when I got 10,000 other voices telling me to focus on something else? Well, you know, no, no, wait. Joe, you're missing the boat. You just have to ignore those other 10,000 voices and only listen to the one. Well, that's freaking awesome. How's that working for anybody on this podcast today? You know what? If that nonsense worked, you wouldn't be on this podcast. Now, does it work for some? Yeah, it works for this guy. He's worth a billion dollars. Am I making anybody right and wrong? No. But I want you to understand if you hear those types of things. Here's another one. You don't have control of the outcome, but you do have control on how you react to the outcome. Whoa, that's enlightening. How? How? How do I have control of my reaction? Basically, what they're saying is if some outcome happens and you have an adverse emotional response to it, you're supposed to literally just ignore that and move on as if the adverse response wasn't real. How? Well, truth is you can't. How do I know? Because if you could, you already would. And if you could do it, you wouldn't be on this podcast. And I'm not saying that it has to be deep, dark angst. I'm not. I mean, there are many, there are millions of folks right now that have worked hard for two or three decades and have built a tremendous life that they're extremely grateful for. They're 53 years old, worth 20 million dollars, and they're lost. Why? Because they don't know what to do, they don't know where to go. They're looking for the glass full voice that, and they, you know, they would have never been able to create such an abundant world if they were all glass empty in wounds, but they still are lost. So what you're saying is focus on whatever and forget the rest. What if there's nothing to focus on? How about those people? What's the answer? Well, we're going to talk about those answers more and more. And I say that because you are where you are. Your world is where your world is. Right now, your world, where you live, who you're in relationship with, how much money you have in the bank, the job you choose, the friends you have, the number of kids you have, the relate, you're there because of you and your choices. Period. No one else's choices, no one else's world, you're there because you got yourself there. And I remember when I really understood that, that was really like a two by four across my head, right across my forehead. Why? Because I would blame everybody else for the world I created. Literally, I would blame everybody else, I would blame my parents, I would blame my dad. We worked together, I'd blame my girlfriend at the time, I'd blame the bank, I would blame anybody and everybody else except me. And so, what did I do on a daily basis? I worked harder to change them. Why? Because they're my problem. How do I know? Because they're my problem. How did I know? Well, because I said so. And you wonder why people feel so hopeless. You wonder why people feel so powerless. You wonder why people feel so exhausted. If you spend your entire world, your entire life trying to fix somebody else so that you feel better. How about if they never change? Then you feel like misery? You you're in misery because they never change? No. Because the answers to your okayness aren't in changing them. The answers to your okayness are in you changing you. How do I do that, Joe? The first thing we have to do is we have to literally identify the voices in your head that are guiding you. The entire motivational, inspirational world out there, they are constantly telling you to stop listening to your glass empty voices, just ignore those. The heck with those voices, they don't even exist. You don't need those voices, just change your change of your mind. Doesn't work, folks. How do I know? Because if it did, you wouldn't be here. So the reason the world feels so heavy right now is because the world is literally changing. Very, very few things in the world are the same today as they were a decade ago. Technology's different, stock markets different, travel is different, information about food, information about stocks, AI is changing everything. Everything in the external world is different. But you're the same. You are. It's how you're responding to the external world that causes it to be so heavy. It does, not the external world itself. And what does that mean? And how do we fix it? Not like what do we do next, Joe? What I'm going to tell you to do is get out a piece of paper because I the reason people are so exhausted, the reason people are so powerless, the reason people get into such despair is they listen to these quote-unquote motivational speakers, and you try to do something that's impossible to do, and then when you can't, it just piles up more of your glass empty voices. That's happened to me all the time. I'll never forget when I first learned about the concept of the positive affirmation, that whole thing. And I remember, oh my gosh, that is so exciting. It's 40 years ago. So exciting. I'm just gonna change my mind on a Monday. And it worked until Tuesday. But you know what? By Thursday, it was back the same. And by Friday, I was shaming myself even worse. Why? Because the reason you have the glass empty voices in your head is not in your head. The reason you have that is hurt in yourself, in your belly. And we're going to talk about the emotional way to heal you so that the voices in your head literally don't dominate you. And if you're wondering what those voices are, you might not even know what I'm talking about. And if you don't, that's okay. I didn't, I'll never forget it. I had two different therapists tell me, you know, Joe, every time you're critical of somebody else, there's one finger pointing out and three pointing back. It took me 15 years to understand that. And I remember the day I got it, I was like, oh my gosh, if every critical voice I have in my head about my dad, my girlfriend, the money, the job, the people, that if that's actually reflective of a wound in me, then I'm in trouble because I've got a lot of critical voices. So what I want you to do, the exercise we can do to start that process, is if you really want to change, if you really want to change the trajectory of your external world, like if you really want your external world to be different, you have to change the guidance system in you that you're that's making decisions. And I call it glass full versus glass empty guidance systems. And the glass empty guidance systems are basically the voices that you're following that are guiding you to make decisions that typically cause you more pain. Why? Because that's what a glass empty voice is. Now, where do those glass empty voices come from? Most of them come from the environment you were raised in, literally. Yeah, I'm not good enough, you're a loser, you're never gonna amount to anything. Now, everybody didn't have critical parents, mom and dad. Not everybody did, but the bottom line, every time you didn't get an emotional need met, because you're an emotional being, we are multidimensional. We have a male side of self and a female side of self, all of us do, regardless of gender, race, color, creed, none of that matters. Male side, female side, and from that male side, female side of self, literally, we were in that place to where the male side is the mind and the physical, the mind and body, the female side is the spiritual and the emotional. Well, in the emotional sense of you, there's four basic emotions mad, glad, sad, and scared. And 98% of us grow up in environments as children that we weren't emotionally supported. We weren't. That part wasn't emotionally validated. It wasn't. So literally, when you have a part of you that's not being emotionally validated, that part just starts taking on beliefs. I'll give you a perfect example. Let's say you're a little girl and you live wherever you live, and your dad has three jobs, two jobs, and you never see him. Now, is dad trying to neglect you? No. Dad's working his backside off, so you have a house to live under and food on the table. That's fabulous. Congrats to dad. But were you emotionally neglected by your father? Yes, you were. Does that make dad wrong? No, makes dad human. Now, fast forward 20, 30, 40 years, 50 years, you know what happens? The part of you that 40 years ago that was emotionally neglected is still in you, trying to get emotionally validated by something outside of you. That's what codependence is. That's what love addiction is. That's what low self-esteem is. That's what low self-worth is. What is slow self-worth? How I feel about myself. Well, if you're neglected your entire childhood because nobody emotionally supported you, how do you think you feel? At four, five, six, seven? You can't, you don't understand. You just start making it up, literally. Well, those made-up voices when you were four, five, six, and seven. Well, I'm sad, but daddy's not here. So a six-year-old can't comprehend that daddy's not here because daddy's working four jobs. A six-year-old can't do that. So, what does a six-year-old do? A six-year-old says, because kids were by nature, a kid is narcissistic. A kid only can define its external world based on itself by nature at six. So, what's a six-year-old, seven-year-old, eight, nine, ten-year-old do? Just says, Well, daddy's not giving me what I want, so I must not be worth getting anything. We literally create that own belief. Now, does that just naturally change over time? No, doesn't most of the time. That just sticks with us. How about if you got a mom who's around all the time? So you're not neglected. Mom's sitting right there, and all the time. Mom feeds you, she cooks for you, she helps you with your homework, she keeps you in line, keeps your boundaries. But mom's not emotionally available. What happens then? Mom neglects you? No, mom abandons you. Why? Because every time you got a B on a test and mom said you should have got an A, she's not celebrating your glass full. She's making you feel glass empty. You should have done better. I had a should have mother. My mother should have known better. I was six, mom. You should have known better, anyways. And I learned that later. That's what I wanted to tell her. I never did. Was she trying to hurt me? No, she's just trying to help. So, where do the voices come from? Emotional neglect as a kid. Now, does that mean that every angst you have in your external world today is because of emotional wounds of the past? No, it doesn't mean that at all. It means that every angst you have in your external world today has a source. The source is how you got there. And how you got there are the voices that are guiding you there, literally, the voices. So most people, all you really have to do to really change your life is to identify the glass empty voices. For example, let's say you're in a career and AI is going to take your job. I'm sure you're scared to death. Of course you are. I would be. I would be. So what do you do about that? You write it down. I'm afraid AI is going to take my job. Okay, write that down on a piece of paper with your dominant hand. And then write every voice you hear underneath that external experience. I'll never find another job. I'm not smart enough to do anything else. I'm going to lose everything. I'm going to go broke. I'm going to die. I don't know what your voices are. How did Joe learn how to live a very peaceful world instead of feeling overwhelmed all the time? I use the external world as my mirror, not as my source. So if there was something in the external world that just caused my belly to crunch up, to tighten up, I would write it down. And then I would start listening to the voices. And folks, for most of us, those voices, the I'm not good enough, I'm too scared, I'm a loser, I'm going to lose everything. I'm not, not, not glass empty, glass empty, glass empty, glass empty. That's the voice that when you go to the newspaper to look for a new job, you're going to the newspaper to look for a new job or the internet to look for a new job or an AI to search for a new job or to do your resume. And the part of you that's creating the resume for the new job is the I can't do it voice in you. And then you wonder why you don't get the new job. Because the I can't do it voice is your guidance system, literally. Well, write the voices down. Write them down on a piece of paper, literally. And as you write them down on a piece of paper, that's the first step. The second step is you have to tell somebody else. And the person you tell needs to be safe. They need to be someone you can trust. And no, it's not your personal partner 99% of the time. No, unless you're doing this journey together, no. Husbands, it's not your wife. Wives, it's not your husband. It's not your mom. It's not your dad. It's not your sister, it's not your aunt, it's not your uncle. It's somebody on the same type of spiritual path that can hold a safe space for you while you identify the glass empty guidance system in you that constantly creates a glass empty world. Why do I say it like that? Because, folks, if you were being guided by a glass full you, your glass full you would say, Wow, look at the opportunity I have to change my life. I can hardly wait to go find a job that pays me double, travel the world because I've always wanted to, and work less. Now, most people don't have that voice. You just don't. You have the other voice. So when the world's feeling really heavy, use it as your mirror, use it as your reflection. The world, folks, is not causing your heavy. You are. Your heavy is in you, not the world's fault. It's in you. How do we get on the other side of it? Is you start with the voices. Now, most people, the positive affirmation people would say, Well, the heck with those voices, just change their mind. Folks, if that's working for you, keep doing it. And I mean that wholeheartedly. If it's working, do it. Well, if it was working, you've probably already already done it. And I can tell you, I'm pretty excited. My first book, I've got three books that'll be coming out over the next six months. And my first book called Filling the Void. I talk about all of this in detail. Go to my website. It's not up yet, but you can go to my name, joemittiga.com. Now it's pointed to a TEDx. But just keep visiting joemitiga.com because eventually every one of my books will be you'll be able to download. Download them for free. And I'm saying it on here. Now, my publishers and producers, they don't like it. We're giving it away for free. Now, if you want it in hardback and all that, you have to buy it. I wish I knew how and had the money to like just anybody that wanted a hardback copy, I could give it to you for free. I don't know how to do it, and I don't have the money to do that. But I can give it to you for free digitally. So if you're in another country, if you're in India or Hong Kong or Japan or wherever you are on the planet, you're going to be able to read my book and my first book called Filling the Void. It's my story. It's 106,800 and some odd words that was channeled through me 30 years ago. You'll read my story. You'll see how desperate I was and the despair I was in. And you can you'll be able to read it for free and tell other people about it and then tell people to come to the podcast for sure. But it's one of those things to where I go right through the details, the step-by-steps. Why? Because life isn't heavy for me anymore. It's not. The world is chaotic as heck out there. But I don't feel it. I don't. Why? Because I've healed the heaviness in me. Now, the great news about the process of writing down the voices, instead of spending so much time suppressing and making go away and acting like they're not there, and you go through that powerless cycle of you can't get them to stop screaming in your head. Stop. Stop trying. The answers to your serenity, folks, is not avoiding your glass empty voices. The answers to your serenity are on the other side of those voices. We need to get those voices out of you. And if you're guided to heal the reason they're there in the first place, that's what we're going to talk about next, the emotional growth. But for personal growth, truly just growing personally, I'm telling you, if you take the time, maybe on a daily basis, to write down every time you feel something real uncomfortable in your world, whatever it is. You know, if you're here in the States, it just depends on your politics, quite honestly. If you're here in the in the states, it just depends on which side of the aisle you sit on. But there's a politician, I promise you, you can listen to, and you're going to hear 10,000 ugly voices. Probably. Well, folks, the ugly voices are in you. The politician is not the source of your ugly voices. Now you can disagree with them, you can vote against them, you can campaign to get them out of office, but all the ugly, all the hate, all the hurt, all the nonsense you hear in your voice that's causing you angst. It's not because the politician. It's you. It's in you. So if you're somebody that follows politics and the current administration here in the states is not of your choosing, put whichever politician you don't like at the top of the page and start writing out. Describe them. Write it out. Bullet point, bullet point, bullet point, bullet point. I'll give you, I'll give you a great example of Joe's. Now, I am one of these people that when I feel powerless to something, I have this massively ugly, aggressive voice. So I will watch college sports a little bit. My son's an elite athlete, so an elite baseball player, so I watch it. And currently the umpires behind home plate in the professional leagues. Now they have technology, so there's a counterbalance. If the umpire happens to make a mistake, which these are elite humans, but the game has gotten so advanced, there's no way they can call balls and strikes perfectly. You can't do it. Technology can. Prior to technology, an umpire could make a mistake. The entire world knows that Johnny Smith umpire called a strike that was three inches outside, and he rings up the baseball player, and the baseball player in the past could do nothing. The powerlessness I felt in my belly would run through my body. The rage I would feel. Now, I'm talking now. Mr. Enlightened over here, BS, until we're walking on water, folks, we all have stuff to discover. It literally happens now. I'm watching the College World Series, and this young kid, he's up there doing the best he can. And this umpire is just not calling balls and strikes right. He's not. How do I know? On the screen, there's a square. Literally, that's a strike. Ball in square means strike. Umpire's calling it outside. Now, was the umpire trying to do a horrible job? No, umpire trying to do a good job. Did it matter? No. Why? Because I would get angry. Why? Because I'm powerless. So, what does Joe do? I scream, I do, I bitch and I bitch and yell and scream at the television like the umpire can hear me, right? But then I write it down, I use it as a discovery. I encourage you to do the same thing, and you know, there's all sorts of different things out there that are very controversial. Politics and sports and religions and all of that. You have the right to disagree, but when you feel it getting bigger and bigger, and the angry voices, you see all this anger that is projected out into the world, that's in those people. And that needs to come out of us. And we do that through personal discovery. We really do. Why does the world feel so heavy? Because if the world's feeling heavy to you folks, the heaviness that you're believing is in the world is actually in you. And the heaviness that you're truly experiencing, why it feels literally heavy, is grief. Underneath every glass empty voice, there's a reason. Glass empty voices are not your birthright. You were not born with glass empty voices. You weren't. You were born pure, you were born perfect, you were born a pure vessel. Every glass empty voice you have in your head was created by an emotional wound in your past. Those are absolute statements, all of them, and that's why, quite honestly, there are divine beings that have walked on this planet, one that all times around. I say it all the time. The only one I know about, maybe there are others, but the one man that I truly believe was purely divinity, pure divine, the man named Jesus. He didn't have any wounds, he didn't have any ego, pure divinity. That's why in the Bible, when Jesus says follow me, his pronoun of me was his divinity. Now, since you and I aren't Jesus, right? We're not pure divinity, we're divinity, humanity, and inner self. What he pronouns himself as a me, we have to pronoun ourselves as a we, period. How do I know the same divinity is in me that is in was in him? Because he said so. Look it up. Look at some of the last things Jesus said before he ascended. Have to go sit by the Father, so the Father can put the same spirit that has guided me in you. Some of the last quotes Jesus said. Of course not. No. But do I believe him? Yes. What am I believing? That divinity's divinity is in Joe, just like divinity is in each one of you. We're all created in God's image. The God's image is your divinity that's in you. How's the We podcast exploding around the globe? Because all of our divinities are connecting here. That's what's happening. That's why it's statistically human-wise, it's impossible what this podcast is doing. Well, it isn't of that. The divine sense of all of us is what's creating this. You are part of something that is a true movement to heal humanity one smile at a time. That's a real life thing. So every one of those glass empty voices that you hear in your head, if you're in the position and your life is pretty good and you're not hurting all the time, and you really just want to move forward and change some things, write down the glass empty voices. For example, and then I'm going to move on to the emotional side. Let's say you are 54 years old, you're worth $3 million. And for the past 20 years, every time you bought a new car, you bought a black one. But this time you want a red one. You know what? Write it down. I want a red Corvette. I'm gonna Red Corvette, and then write down every voice. Now that sounds trivial to the rest of us that don't have the money for a red Corvette. But for the woman who's trying to buy that red Corvette, she's being tormented by her own self. That's a perfect example. Well, red makes me look like this, and I shouldn't get a red, and I've always had a black, and blah, blah, blah. Write those voices down because the part of you, ma'am, that's guiding you to buy a red Corvette versus a black Corvette, that part that's guiding you to change is your higher sense of self. The part that won't let you change is your ego self. You want to live a grander you? Follow the grander voice. For the rest of us, it might not be a new color of a Corvette. It might be I can't stop going to the bar. I can't stop smoking marijuana. I can't stop yelling at my kids. Those are more behavioral stuff. Folks, you're going to need help for that. You are. And get it, because the relief you get on the other side is truly amazing. Now, for those of you that are more guided into the why I have the voices, that was Joe. I my whole path was never about changing my mind, changing the voices. My whole path was always about becoming aware of why I had the voices in the first place. Why are they there? What's the source of the voice? And I wanted to heal the reason why. That was always my question. Why is it there? Well, what I learned is that the why is the emotional sense of self, is the deeper sense of self. And unlike when all you're trying to do is identify the glass empty voices, where you write those glass empty voices down with your dominant hand, and then you tell somebody else. The reason you have to tell somebody else is because in the sharing of your glass empty voices with somebody else, two or more are gathered. There's a higher presence there. And the part doing the telling is a different part than the part that it's talking about. The glass empty part of you is the part that has all the glass empty voices. The part sharing with somebody else is a different part. So in that moment in time, when you're sharing that information with somebody else, you're experiencing yourself as a multidimensional person. The glass empty part of you that that's on the paper, and the glass full you sharing with somebody else. And it's not easy. You better pray, you better ask for strength, you better ask for courage, because it's uncomfortable to share that type of stuff with somebody else. Of course it is. First time I had to share my 12 pages of glass empty voices with my sponsor at the time, it wasn't easy. And my sponsor was a woman. She was my counselor and my sponsor. So a lot of the vulgarity and the garbage and the hatred and everything I wrote down, that was not easy to share with anybody, let alone for me to share with a woman. Hard was very humbling. It really was. And quite honestly, that's all part of the experience. It is. That's why we need to do it. Now, a larger challenge. If that works and you can move forward, great. But for the rest of us, for a lot of us, there's an emotional component that has to be dealt with. There is the heaviness you're feeling, the sadness you're feeling, the wet blanket, the I never really feel happy, the I feel powerless all the time, the I feel hopeless all the time. Every one of those dark experiences you're having has an emotional reason. This whole concept of mental illness, is that a real life thing? It is. Mental health, it's a real life thing. Is the solutions drugs? Only if your doctor puts you on the drugs? Yes, of course, take the medicine you're being asked or told to put to take. Of course. And write the voices down. And when you write the voices down, it's time to start asking what's underneath. Because for every glass empty voice, there's a part of you underneath that has an emotional component. We are multi-dimensional. And the part of us that's waking up more and more and more and more is the feminine side of ourselves. So we are waking up to an emotional sense of ourself in a way that we've never done before, literally, never have done before. And for you men out there, fellas, buckle up. You're gonna start feeling stuff you never even knew existed. I'll never forget when I started grieving and feeling feelings. I thought I was nuts. Literally, I started gaining a softness that for the longest time I just knew I was crazy. I tell this story, it's kind of funny. I thought I was, I thought I was gay, and there's no I have nothing against somebody's sexuality all at all. But I was this rough, tough, big, badass guy. And now I'm wanting to pet Bambi, and things are getting soft, and I'm getting emotional all the time. And my counselor, she just watched and nodded, and then one day, nine months later, she watched me squirm. She did, because it was uncomfortable. It was. Then I realized I'm not gay, I'm just the emotional side of me is coming up. So, folks, men, especially, the emotions are coming, and women. Hey, yeah, grief's probably a little easier for you than most for men, but welcome to the rage side. Welcome to the big girls, good girls don't get angry. That's a bunch of nonsense. Wait till you have to get rage out. That's uncomfortable. Not easy, but it's time. Low self-esteem, you know what it is? How you see yourself, low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is basically the way you talk about yourself. And when you have self-hateful voices, that's anger pointed inward. Anger pointed inward. As somebody who survived being sexually abused as a kid, I know that one. To instead of having the ability to put the anger towards the perp, the person who caused you the harm, the person that caused the angst, a lot of times we blame ourselves. Why? Protection. And those days are over. We need to get with that deeper part of self and give that part a safe place so it can start sharing what it's truly feeling. And eventually we're going to get that anger pointed in the right direction, which is out of you, not in at you. Tremendous quantities of food addiction is because they're trying to suppress the self-rage. It's a real life thing. Tremendous amount. Tremendous amounts of acting out sexually, doing things sexually you don't want to do, but you do it anyways, because good girls don't say no, is anger pointed inward. And those types of behaviors, you're gonna need help. Get support, truly. You need help with for people to support you through that process. And when you truly understand, there's also the grieving process of a life of failure. Now, not everybody has failed at everything they do. No, you don't, but some of us have. And there's a grieving process when you start waking up and you start being guided by a different you, more a glass full you than the glass empty you, you're gonna see your behaviors of the past and how they caused you problems. It's very prevalent in the codependent world, where I've got different people I've supported over the years that were just truly bleeding heart codependents. And I say bleeding heart codependents because they literally believe with all of their heart and mind and soul that if they fix somebody else, they were loving that person. No, you're abandoning, you're abusing that person and abandoning yourself. Well, Joe, how can that be? I helped him with his drugs and his medicine and his this and his that. It's because the facts of the matter is the only reason you helped him is because you looked at his world, you saw his despair, and the feeling you had in your heart and your belly, you blamed on him. Hear me, folks. Codependence is when you see somebody in despair, when you see somebody that's going through a challenging time, and you literally believe if you fix them, you'll be okay. That's codependence. The heaviness of the world. Talk about living in a very, very, very heavy world. Codependence, people that live in this belief that if I can fix somebody else, then I'll be okay. Folks, you can't fix them, but you can be okay. I always say create a sense of sacred silence. Sit your backside on your couch, let them heal them, and you heal you. And how would you know the difference? Because when I see somebody today in pain, in angst, in trauma, whatever, I don't feel pain. I feel empathy. I don't feel pain when somebody's going through a tough time. I feel compassion. That's the difference. I am free of their pain. Why? Because I took the time to heal my own. So a lot of people live in a very heavy world all the time, a hopeless world all the time, a powerless world all the time, because they're trying to fix somebody else. You're trying to literally do the impossible and call it love. You can't fix them, but you can heal yourself. A huge way to relieve the heaviness of the world around you is you focus on you and let them focus on them. There are entire organizations around the globe that help with that. And quite honestly, as you start waking up and you start changing your behaviors and you start realizing that your behaviors are the reason that a particular business failed, or you lost a particular job, or the relationship that you really cared about, it was you never saw your side of it. When you start realizing that in every relationship, there's two sides. Every relationship, there's two sides. When a relationship doesn't work, there's two sides. Most people in their unconscious codependence only think there's one side and it's them who's wrong. Well, part of the waking up process, folks, part of this grieving process, part of the removing of the heaviness you're feeling in your heart, in your soul, in your in the powerlessness of your life, is you have to see your side of the street. You have to look at your side of the street. You have to see how what you did and what you didn't do in any circumstance of your yesterday, which caused that circumstance. To not go in a favorable way. And as you do that, there's a true grieving process associated with that. Now, that is not the depths of the child. That's not the depths of when you were a little kid. That grief is called remorse. In all 12-step programs, there's an eighth and ninth step. The eighth step is where you write a list of people that you've harmed. The ninth step is where you make amends. The promises in the program happen after the ninth step. And what are the promises in the program? The problem, one of the promises is we intuitively know how to handle situations that used to baffle us. What does that mean? It means that your gut instinct starts guiding you, your God in you starts guiding you. And the difference between your intuition guiding you and your ego guiding you, your intuition is coming from a higher sense of you, your ego is coming from a fear-based sense of you. Well, there's a lot of us out there on this podcast today that when you look back at your behaviors, when you look back at where your world is, when you look back and you say, Oh my gosh, you know, that job, the reason I lost that job, well, I guess I was late 40 times, and then they eventually fired me. When you look back and you say, you know, all my wife ever asked me to do was not go out every Friday night. And then eventually she left me. Oh my gosh, you know, my kids can't stand me today. Well, I guess they can't stand me because I was never around on their birthdays. I worked all the time. I had to work, but you know what? Your kids suffered the consequence of you having to work. And there is a process, the eighth and ninth step. And when you really write that down, that's a hard one. It is. The heaviness, so very often in our heart, in our head, is the behaviors we did over the past 10, 20, 30 years that caused the difficulty in our world. And that grief, the remorse of our behaviors, that's a heavy one. That's a thick one. It's really, it's not easy. It's not. And it's not about shame, it's not about blame. It's about owning the responsibility that our choices caused others harm and caused us harm. And when we grieve that, truly grieve it, sometimes you just have to become aware of it. Sometimes there's an emotional release associated with it, the true loss called remorse. And I will never forget when I got to the eighth, it was hard. It was hard. I had to write down a list of everybody that I caused harm. I remember thinking, well, it can't be that long. How many people that really cause harm? And then it just started coming to me. And literally, folks, literally, every human being that was within three feet of me my entire life, I either used, abused, neglected, or made fun of my entire life, all except one person, and that's a cousin of mine. Now, how he spared, he got spared, no idea, no idea. But I looked, I searched, I wonder, I tried to remember, he's the only one. Every human being that came within 30 feet of me, somehow, some way I used, abused, or neglected them. Some way, somehow. I had to write all that down. That is not easy. Now, for most of you, and why did that happen? Because I was an active drug addict, I was an active alcoholic. For most of you on this podcast right now, you look at the people that you caused harm to, it's not everybody. Why? Because you're not actively acting out every day of your life. You're not, you're just not in that place. You're not. So, but when you heal some of the heaviness in your belly, some of the heaviness you keep thinking is outside of you, some of the heaviness that's in your world, one of the ways you heal that is you have to look at where your choices caused yourself and other people harm and write those down. And then by the grace of God, I had to make amends to each one of those people. Sometimes that was easy, sometimes it wasn't. Sometimes I couldn't find the people, sometimes I wrote a letter, but it was humbling, it was scary, it was painful. When I looked at that list and I said, Oh my freaking God, I caused all these people some type of harm, and I kept waiting. A lot of these people caused me equal harm. I kept waiting for them to say, Well, Joe, it's okay. I want to apologize to you too. Never happened. I got one amends my entire life. And lo and behold, that man today is 33 years sober, and I'm 32 years sober. My brother-in-law, Clark. Congratulations, Clark. He made amends to me. Other than that, not one human being on the planet has ever made amends to me, ever, in that state. Does that matter? No. But my heart was free. Hear me, folks. My heart was free because I went through that process. Sometimes we have to, as adults on a spiritual path, we have to take responsibility for our choices, the good ones and the bad ones, the painful ones and the glory ones. And you want to get rid of a huge sense of lack of worth? Make amends. One of these speakers said, All you have to do is go do something worthwhile for society, and you're going to feel better. That's a load of crap. That's a load. Now, I want you to go do great things for society, of course. Is that going to make you feel better? No. I want to help you heal the reason you don't feel good in the first place. Why don't you feel good in the first place? You're following the glass empty voices. Why don't you emotionally feel heavy? Because those glass empty voices have caused, have you followed, have caused your actions to hurt yourself and others. There's a grieving process you have to go through to get that energy that's stuffed in you out of you through the emotional sense of self. The heaviness you're feeling, the heaviness you're literally experiencing in yourself is the heaviness of suppressed grief. Layer after layer after layer after layer. I'll give you some examples. Part of the process I had to go through was women in my life. And I've had three or four people in my younger years that the natural dating, that type of stuff, but there were three or four that really meant something to me. And every one of them, at some point, my actions was just completely inappropriate, including my past wife, literally. And I had to make amends to her. Now, the great news about by the time I got married, I was in therapy the whole time. So I could literally cross a boundary, take it to a therapist, and get back with my past wife. Her name is Elizabeth, beautiful soul, great mom. I make amends kind of on the spot, you know, because I was pretty practiced at that point. I'm 20 plus years sober. But years before, I had to really look at all the different stuff I did. I mean, I would be with one girl and have all this great interaction. And then before we'd break up, I'd be with somebody else, and I'd go back to the first one and all the different craziness that was justified. And had to make amends for all of that. I wish right now I can't really think of exact stories, but it was crazy. It truly was. And most of it was drug-induced, most of it was alcohol-induced. Does that matter? No. No, it doesn't. I am a proponent of, I don't really care why you did something. There's a consequence to your action. I don't care if you were drug-induced, alcohol-induced, or whatever. You're responsible for your actions. And I'm not kidding. I supported a man, literally, who was sexually abused himself as a kid. He got caught by the FBI trying to do crazy stuff with kids. He never really did, but he went to prison for a hundred and ten months. Could I love him anyways? Yes. Did I drive him to prison? Yes, I did. I drove him and dropped his ass off. I also picked him up 110 months later. Could I identify with his pain? Yes. Could I embrace his pain? Yes. Did he have spiritual experiences? Yes. Did he break the law? Yes. Now in this particular case, the law was pretty skewed. Was there ever an actual human victim? No. But the intent was. His intent was pure and hateful, hurtful. Literally, he was acting out his rage. Was there ever a person that got acted out? No. Why? Because they put his backside in prison for 110 months. Could I support him emotionally? Yes. Did I drive him to jail? Yes. Why do I say that? Because you can look back in your past and say, well, I did it to Susie because I was a drunk. Well, sir, if you did something to Susie that was not okay, you owe Susie an amends. And I don't care you were drunk. You still owe her an amends. She didn't care, you're drunk. You crossed your boundary, you owe her an amends. And part of the freedom of the heaviness comes when we literally go through the emotional growth of making amends. You know why we have to make amends, folks? Because none of us are walking on water. None of us are pure divinity. We're not. We probably never will be. Can we be pretty close? Yes. Can you live connected? Yes. Can you live a great and wonderful life? Yes. But you're still human. And it's in our humanity we're going to do things we wished we hadn't. And in that moment, you simply make amends. You say, I'm sorry. When I added I'm sorry into my life, the freedom it gave me, was it easy? No, because in the beginning, every time I said I was sorry, I had to face the angst and the pain I caused people. And it was brutal. In the beginning, it really, really was. It was not easy. Today, I have to make amends. I do. I can tell you, when I was first married, my youngest son, Joseph, he's a quad A. I mean, it's why he's so elite. You don't want to face him as a pitcher, I can tell you, he has a hitter, or he's a hitter, catcher, pitcher. He's just, he's hard. He's a huge personality. But he had a huge personality when he was three, four or five. I'm a single, not single dad, but I was his caregiver, young. I couldn't get him to do what I wanted. The rage that I had towards my youngest son, my oldest son, it's massive. I take it to therapy, have to make amends. Imagine this. He's three. I had to say I'm sorry for the behavior the day before. He didn't know what I was talking about. Didn't matter. It doesn't matter if the person understands, it matters that I was in the space of making amends. Why? Because my behavior, I got frustrated. I never, thank God, ever heard him, but I yelled, I screamed, I cussed. He didn't have a clue what was going on. All he was being was him. A lot of people today. I just heard a story the other day, literally. Well, sorry, we forgot to give our seven-year-old his pills for compulsion. Almost came through the phone. Give a seven-year-old a drug because they're impulsive. Can you say drug addict in making? I'm opposed to that, folks. I just am kids are going to be kids, and adults have to deal with it. They really do. The making amends process, it's a freeing event. It really is. And when you go through and you see how the world, you see the world and all the changes and the confusion, and the world feels so heavy, what you're feeling is yourself. And the reason you're feeling it more and more now is because the world's waking up. Humanity's waking up. You're literally identifying and connecting with emotional parts of yourself that in the past you really didn't even know were there. That's just the truth. And it's coming out more and more. And why is that all important? Is because the spiritual side of this entire process, the remembering of your divinity, the living as your oneness, the expression of your grandness happens on the other side of the emotions. Well, the emotions happen on the other side of the voices. And that's why I'm not a proponent of the positive affirmations, because the positive affirmations are saying that the voice in your head is the end-all be-all solution. No, the voice in your head is in the mental side of yourself. The mental side of yourself is not where you're going to find your spirit. The spirit is in the feminine side of yourself, not the male side of yourself. For all these motivational speakers out here that constantly, over and over and over and over and over and over tell you to stop thinking that way. Folks, I'm telling you to start writing down everything you're thinking. The answer to the how to, how do you get on the other side of all your voices? Write them down on a piece of paper. The answers to your serenity are not in the avoidance of the voices. The answer to the first place of serenity is writing the voices down. Once you write the voices down, then you have to tell somebody else. That's a spiritual experience in the program. That's the fourth step, fifth step, literally. And if you're good and you can move on and you feel good right there, do it. The challenge is for most of us, you're going to go deeper. Why do you have the voices? You have the voices because there's suppressed emotion inside of you. For all of the I literally just heard a man today. Love this guy. He's got this really cool voice and he sounds so loving. And he says, you know what? If you feel bad about yourself and you're afraid of talking, just keep talking more and more and more until you don't. That's a load of crap. Why? Because basically, all you're doing is practicing, talking. That doesn't heal the reason why you feel bad about yourself. Why do you feel bad about yourself? The how to fix that, dual hand journaling. Instead of avoiding the why you feel bad, folks, it's time to identify I feel bad, I feel sad, I feel mad, I feel scared, and get help. If you're afraid, you need to write down I'm afraid. Instead of constantly listening to these influencers out there that are trying to get you to avoid what you're truly underneath. Why? Because the answers to your serenity, how you truly live life from a sense of peace is on the other side of your pain, not avoiding your pain. Well, how do you get to the pain? You have to get to the voices. How do you get to the voices? You write them down. So hear me. You hear your glass empty voices. Instead of trying to change them every freaking day of your life, write them down. Instead of avoiding them and neglecting them and abandoning your own voices, include them in the conversation. Write the voices down, then tell somebody else. Include that part instead of abandon that part. Bring that part into your conscious awareness, all those glass empty voices, instead of constantly trying to push it away. And then when emotion comes up, because there's emotion, the only reason you have the voices, there's emotion. Give a voice to the darkest part of yourself instead of trying to convince yourself that dark part doesn't exist. Why? Because, folks, if the dark part didn't exist, you wouldn't be doing it. You wouldn't have all the voices, and you'd be living a great life. You wouldn't be on this podcast, that's for sure. So the answers to the dark voices is give it a voice. To the dark, deep pain, give it a voice. How do you do that? Dual hand journaling. Write down with the first hand, your dominant hand, give a voice to the second hand. My book, Filling the Void. Go to my website, joemitiga.com. Download it for free. You'll download it for free. I go through all of these exercises, dominant, non-dominant handwriting. The non-dominant hand is giving a voice to the darker parts of self, the deeper suppressed parts of self. Why? Because the answers to your serenity are not in the avoiding of your deep dark parts. It's in the embracing of your deep dark parts. We need to give a voice to those deeper parts so they can express, so they can emote, and they can heal. The only reason you have a glass empty voice is because you have a glass empty part. The glass empty part is the emotional component of the glass empty part is suppressed emotion. How do you make that part feel better? Create a safe environment and let that part share by dual non by dual handwriting. I'll never forget you was on this path forever before I really got this. And I'd fight and I'd fight and I'd fight. And I kept thinking, I don't want to go to those deeper parts, and you know, those parts are scary, and I don't want to do it. And you know, I can't do it. My ego would fight and spin and spin. And then one day I had this, I would, I felt like I was out in the middle of the ocean swimming. And no matter how far I swim, I never could get safe. I could never feel like I was okay. And then one time I'm in this experience where literally I had this vision, a spirit, kind of a spiritual experience, saying, Joe, the answers aren't on the surface. You're swimming across the surface of your life. The answers to your serenity is in the depths of yourself. The metaphor was Joe, stop swimming, stop fighting, stop fighting the voices, stop fighting the depths of yourself. You're okay. And yes, it's painful, but the answers to your serenity, the answers to the overwhelm, why you feel so overwhelmed is not the emotion. Emotions do not cause overwhelm. The fighting against the emotion is what causes overwhelm. It does. Well, I stopped fighting, and the metaphor was I saw myself just go down deeper and deeper and deeper in the ocean. And I'm in this kind of meditative state, me with me, and I start fighting. I start fighting, you know. I tried to get to the surface. I try, and I hear this calm voice that just says, Joe, breathe. Just breathe. And lo and behold, the metaphor was I was living the impossible, I was breathing in the depths of the ocean. And what did that mean? It meant that I could do it. And folks, if I can embrace the depths of my pain, you can. There's no amount of pain inside of you. There's no part of you too deep. There's no part of you too painful that in the right environment you can't feel. How do we create the environment? Create a sacred silence. I did it for years. What is sacred silence? You create a safe place for you with you. When I grieve, when I grieved the death of my father, came up into my room, locked the door. I've got two grown kids, but I locked the door, so I just felt safe. When I grieved the loss of my mother, same thing. When my past wife left, and I had to grieve my past wife, my sacred partner, in the arms of another, four months, three times a day for four months. I grieved. That I go on and on, let alone what I did years ago. So you create a safe place, you let both sides of yourself journal, speak, give a voice, let the part that is the in most pain share. And it's gonna sound something like I just wanted my mommy, I miss my daddy, I'm mad that I got hurt, whatever it is. And there's therapists out there that can help with this. If you're going deep, buckle up, but get support, truly. And then the last part is give yourself time to grieve. Emote. Your heaviness is not the world, your heaviness is all of the layer upon layer upon layer of grief. And I'll never forget, I thought, oh my gosh, if I have to grieve everything like that, I will never stop grieving. Well, the truth is in the emotional process itself, you can have an hour-long grief session that 40 different parts of yourself are grieving at the same time. You can grieve for two or three days or a week or two and literally heal a decade of stuff. The grieving process is not proportional to the harm position that you caused yourself. They're not proportional, they're not. And the whole idea how to eat an elephant one bite at a time, the key is understanding heaviness, why you're so overwhelmed and heavy. The overwhelm is not the emotion in you. The overwhelm is because you're trying to avoid the emotion. You're trying to get on the other side of the emotion, you're trying to stay away from the emotion. For those of you that are going through divorce, for those of you that are trying to reinvent yourself, for those of you that are trying to change, there's all sorts of websites out there now that offer support. I literally did a search the other day. There's a website out there called Divorce Post. Look it up. It's not even live yet. I thought, what the heck? Right online, you can get support. Which brings me to the last thing as I'm getting ready to wrap up. You know, I'm creating an environment where over these next couple months, I've got four or five people that are going to be contributors to the Wii Podcast. And in the beginning, they're not going to actually be on the podcast. This is about you and me creating relationships with each other. But what I know for the truth is there's so much that I don't know. And there's different people out there that have a wisdom that I just don't have. I can share my experience, strength, and hope, but I'm going to create conversations with these people. One person on reinventing yourself and divorce, another person on love and relationships, another person on some types of recovery, another person on drug addiction and opioids and all that. I've got a woman from India who she's going to be one of my contributors. Because I said to myself, what do I know about living in India as a female and the challenges she went through to come here? I met her at a TEDx. I know nothing, but I'm going to learn and I'm going to share my experience of those conversations. And then over time, I'm going to have these people on. So why am I doing that? Because together, I want to share an experience, strength, and hope of mine in the beginning, but I want others to be able to share their positions too. So you, as the listeners, can continue to expand in the possibilities of how you can heal, how you can change, how you can make a difference. Why? Because if I can, you can. That's for sure. If these people can, you can. That's for sure. And the We podcast is all about creating an environment where we heal humanity, truly. The whole idea of the world being so heavy right now, it's true. The world's in chaos, the world is changing, the humanity's waking up. Everything about the world is different. But why it's affecting you so much greater today than before is because humanity's waking up, which means you're waking up, which means the emotional side of yourself is waking up more and more every day. And the process, the how-to, how do you get through the heaviness? Write down the voices with your dominant hand. If you have to go into deeper emotion underneath the voices, every glass empty voice has an emotional source. The emotional source is an inner part of you that was created years ago as a child, or with your behaviors that you have remorse for throughout your adult life. Let those parts grieve and get support. People will help you. On the other side of all that, then we start remembering the depths of our emotion. The deeper we go into the emotional sense of self, the grander our availability is to truly remember the grander sense of self, the true sense of divinity. And it's in that true sense of divinity that the We podcast is being created. Do I'm considering myself special? Are you freaking kidding? No. I listen and I have the ability. I've doing this a long time. I have the ability to put it out there. My book, Filling the Void, find me. Find my website, joemitica.com. Get it for free. It's going to have a lot more of this understanding to it, a lot more of my techniques. And continue to help me build this show. 100 million downloads a month. That's the goal. Why? Because I truly believe the more people that are on this path and the more people that are waking up, the more together we're making a difference. Together we're waking up. Together we're remembering there's something grander. And that something grander is in all of us, not any one particular person, all of us. And how do I know? Because the one guy who was divine and who does walk on water said the divinity is in all of us, literally. And from that position, we can all remember that part. Now, is it a light switch? No, it's an awakening process. Every new awareness you have is part of your awakening process. And when you truly understand consciously you're on a spiritual path, it changes everything. When you truly understand that everything you see outside yourself that you feel inside, the answer is in you, not outside of you. Then you stop trying to fix your broken external world and you look to heal your internal world. And from that position, overwhelm and powerlessness and hopelessness goes away. Why? Because if it's to be, it's up to me, becomes the mantra of your day. And when that happened for me, everything changed. Thanks for being here. Together, folks, we are making a difference. Together, we are all waking up. And together we're healing humanity. One smile at a time. 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