Male & Female Sociobiology | Ep.6

The heart of the show explores sociobiology, brain wiring and senses, and how differences shape communication, work and relationships.

• men’s mental health stories and the cost of being unheard
• media takes on crying vs what men actually report
• sociobiology as a lens for behaviour differences
• brain development patterns and intelligence variance
• vision, hearing, touch, taste and smell contrasts
• spatial skills and how interests map to jobs
• direct vs indirect speech and processing vs fixing
• bonding chemistry, timing and mismatched expectations

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Chapters

• 0:00 Viral Clips And First Trolls
• 5:45 Dunning–Kruger, Comments And Communication Claims
• 9:50 Bikini History Clip And Saudi Viewers
• 12:55 Men’s Mental Health Comments Flood In
• 17:45 Crying, Masculinity And Media Takes
• 25:05 Setting Today’s Theme: Sociobiology
• 27:10 Brain Differences And Intelligence Spread
• 33:40 Vision, Peripheral Strength And Social Cues
• 39:20 Hearing, Tone Detection And Speech Styles
• 47:00 Touch, Taste, Smell And Evolutionary Roles
• 52:00 Spatial Skills, Maps, Parking And Professions
• 1:02:20 Interests: People vs Things From Infancy
• 1:07:30 Competition, Play Styles And Misread Equality

Transcript

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Welcome to episode six of Ministry of Man. And we're back again. And we're here. And guess what? We're flying. We are absolutely soaring at the moment. Six weeks. Non-stop. We're blowing up a bit. We're getting a couple of little semi-viral clips getting out there. Which is good. I I hit a milestone as well. I blocked my first person, and it probably might be. I probably won't do that much. But it but I did block one person. It was a legitimate troll. I came across my first proper troll. Uh where they were basically just commenting on a bunch of my videos, like arguing, but then purposely like misunderstanding my point. Actually, you want to know what the best way to troll someone is, because this is what they did, and I didn't realize it until like I was like, oh, okay, that this is a proper troll. Uh they would call so I would say something, they would misunderstand it, and then argue a point that I wasn't talking about, and and then just like throw insults about it, but then they'd also take my actual point and say it themselves. So one of the things was I was like in in the last episode, I was talking about stop associating crying with being a man, a real man or not. Either cry or don't cry, it's got nothing to do with being a man. And that's what they said. They were like, in this like back and forth kind of exchange, they said that. They were like, um, crying has got nothing to do with being a man, you idiot. Like it's a human thing. I'm like, that's my point. So they were, they got me, bro. They got me good. Um, so I've got to watch out for these trolls. Uh and like that would change their thing. So, like, one of the things was they commented on a double standard post, and I was saying, you know, there's double standards, uh, men go to war, the the women and children don't. And they'll go, they go, wrong, men send boys to war. And I go, well, they don't in Australia, but even if that's true, they don't send little girls to war. So I've replied rationally, but I'm talking with a fool. So I I didn't realize it. Uh, because they go, uh, they go, you've completely misunderstood my point here. I'm saying that real men don't go to war, only boys go to war. So the men would send the boys to war. So obviously, idiot take, like dumb, dumb thing, but more so I'm obviously I'm talking about a literal men and literal women and children. I'm not talking about an ideological man. Uh, and then when I when I mentioned that, they changed their thing and there's a back and forth thing. So anyway, they got the block because I'm like, they're they're uh trying to misunderstand. So yeah, and normally I wouldn't even reply to comments. I don't particularly want to, but you kind of have to. It's a good thing too in the early stages of when you make an account because it it tells the algorithm that people are interested almost. It's like, oh, there's there's there's like I don't know, it's getting attention. So it's good to comment and reply, and then they reply, and then you reply, and you just keep replying. The algorithm's like, oh, this has got 15 comments on it, so like we'll push it to more people, so it's kind of good. Uh yeah, but but it was kind of funny experiencing that. And like there's been a few really funny things that keep keep happening. So most of what I'm talking about, I'm usually like the studies, like there's studies that will say this. I have opinions on it, but it's based on like research and data. Like, I'm kind of I'm not really doing a lot of my own, I suppose, just like thoughts. Like, I'm kind of it's kind of, I guess it is my thoughts because I'm compiling these uh studies together to kind of formulate an opinion, I guess. But someone will will listen to like a full thing. Like I had one clip and all it was was just saying, you know, women are better at communicating for this reason, this reason, this reason, this reason, you know, and I listed like maybe 15, maybe like I don't know, six or seven reasons that uh women are better communicators statistically, like the studies show from when they're little girls right the way through to how they communicate and operate. And then you'll get someone just go, wrong, that's not it. It's because of this. Uh, or they'll just go, nope, men are men are better at that too. And you're like, there's so much audacity in people that like this is the whole Dunning Kruger thing, right? That I said in the first episode of like people are so confident in their opinions and beliefs that like everyone just know thinks they know. And that kind of thing, like women being better communicators, is definitely not an opinion. Like, that is just what the data shows. That's what the research shows. It's been studied for oh, geez, it's since the dawn of time. I feel like we we know it, but most of the like the clinical research has been done in the last 50, 60 years. Uh, and it's overwhelming. It's overwhelming. So we it's not even a it's the same as saying, like, to say, you know, men are as good a communicators as women, is to say women are as strong physically as men. It's just like on average, it's just not true. So that's been interesting. Um, another interesting thing is so this is a little bit of an update of what's happening, because it is kind of funny. But one of my videos blew up, and it was a bit the particular video was about the history of the bikini. I spoke about it in the third episode, and I was like, this is going off, like it's got like 150,000 views, and I'm like, what's going on here? Like, none of my my clips are gone that big, and then I'm like, you can on TikTok, you can see the people that like it and stuff, and you can just go through and have a look, and I and you can also see the countries of where the viewership is, and I like just had a little glance. I'm like, where's the viewership? Turns out it's all in like the like Saudi Arabia and like Arab countries, and I'm talking about how the bikini was invented and about how like it's progressed to a point now where like it used to be like no one would wear it because it was too immodest and now it's everywhere, and then and all the Saudis love it, obviously. They're all they're like, Yep, you Western countries, you don't know what you're doing over there, and like so the Saudis are loving that one. So I thought that was really funny because I'm like, I don't know why this is blowing up so much, and then yeah, turns out it's the Muslims wearing the burkas that are in support of that. They're like, ah, the West is awful. Yeah, that made me laugh a lot when I found that. Um, that was really funny. So, so that's been funny. One of the things that wasn't funny and that I did not expect at all is that I posted one thing. So the last episode, I spoke about men's, I suppose men's mental health and what works for men and what doesn't. And one of the clips I put out, it I spoke about, you know, a lot of these men that are taking their own lives were seeking help to begin with, and it didn't work. And it didn't get like a heap of views, like it might have got you know 7,000 or something in this particular one, and but the comments it got way more the one that the video that got like 150,000 and the one that got 7,000 are roughly on the same amount of comments, like so many dudes are commenting, and it's it's primarily only men on that one, and all very similar, talking about geez, man. Um like yeah, like their wives leaving them and they they can't see their kids, and um they've tried to get help, and they were told that you know either they were just shut down or made to feel a particular way. Um yeah, man, it was actually hard to read a lot of them. I actually couldn't read them all because it was it was heavy. I was like, 'cause I was trying to reply, because that's the type of thing that I would normally like to do if you know people are struggling or whatever. I like to speak into that. It's some of my background, I suppose, in church. I've run like men's groups and stuff, and so I I like to do that. Um, but these were well beyond anything, like some of the situations these guys were in, I haven't really come across, and that was tough to read. I still I haven't replied to all of them. There's like over a hundred different guys, uh yeah. So that's something that I wasn't ready for. Um and one and I suppose a big part of why I wanted to make the last episode was because I feel like at one point men were happy to not talk about their feelings or you know, not talk through things to a degree. And this is like, you know, historically, they men weren't unaliving themselves as much as they are now, but also back then they weren't talking about their feelings as much, and that so I feel like they've been told to talk, and then uh but now they're not being heard and listened to, which is now making it worse because they're like, I was told to talk and then I talked, and now no one's hearing me. That's a big one, is like the a lot of the comments were saying, Oh, well, why talk when no one listens? Or, you know, I tried talking and then eventually I just stopped because no one cares anyway. And so I feel like they would have been in a better situation believing that talking was never gonna never should have been an option because they're like they never thought they had to, and now they think they have to, and then they do it and they're not getting good results from it. So so that's been uh that's been a yeah, an interesting one to navigate, but I'm glad that there's some guys that are getting around it and um and like to clear up, I guess, because uh I feel I might have gone a bit too hard in, like I don't think that crying is bad. Again, I don't think talking is bad. I don't like it to just be in the same realm of conversation as masculine. Like, I want to I want to have the two things separate being a man, being masculine, whatever, and then being a human and crying, two different things, and typically men cry less than than women, and that's okay. Because yeah, I mean, at the moment, guys, like the guy, men have been confused because they don't know anymore how to even be a man, like what is a healthy man? I'm like, they don't know how to act anymore. There was a video that I saw, this is perfect proof, okay? I saw this video on Instagram, and it was two guys sitting down, and they were in an outdoor shower, like sitting down the shower, and uh, and the caption was uh the caption said, sometimes you just need to have an outdoor shower and debrief with your mate, right? And there's just two guys sitting on the ground in like this like this pathetic little shower. It was not a good looking like stream of water coming out. It was like dribbling out, dribbling out this water, and there's two dudes sitting like cross-legged, like touching, they're like facing each other, almost intertwined. And obviously, all the comments are like just like calling it, calling it gay. And one of the girls, there's a girl that got the comment got pinned and got a few thousand likes. It said, Male loneliness epidemic is the result of women. Uh, in like quotations, that's what she's saying that people are saying. Yet a video of two beautiful male friends comfortable with confiding in each other has the comments filled with other men calling them gay. Make that make sense. All right, I'm happy to make that make sense. Guys, they want mates to talk to, not to have showers with. Oh, as soon as the guy starts having a shower with his buddy, all of a sudden it's gay. It's like, oh geez, as soon as like me and the boys all like decide to give each other like oil massages, all of a sudden it's gay. Like, what you said you wanted you you wanted mates, and all are you talking about? Obviously, that's that's gay as the day is long. Like, what do you mean? Oh, geez, as soon as the boys start giving each other a little smooch, all of a sudden it's gay. It's like, make that make sense. Like, what I can't just smooch my buddies? Well, okay. Like, what are we doing, man? What are we doing? It's like, look, if you want to have a shower with the boys, like I said in the last episode, you can do what you want, all right? But these are two uh two guys claiming that they're straight, by the way. Just doing just having showers. Look, hey, it's fine. Wrestling's a sport, jujitsu's a sport, guys will have a rumble together, guys will uh get in close proximity. Oh man, yeah, but that made me laugh because like guys are like, yeah, we're healthy, we're like confident in our own skin and we're confident in our own sexuality and whatever. Um, and so they'll go and have a shower together. It's like you don't need to be doing all that, and uh like and the funniest thing is they've obviously they've set up a camera to do it too. They're filming it. I don't want to see that on my Instagram feed. Get your gay porn out of my Instagram feed, please. It's not what I'm on there for, right? Um, but yeah, and it's it's it's funny because I feel like every time I make an episode, news.com.au has an article out in the week that I'm talking about it. I don't know what's going on here. Maybe it's there there's something in the air, but the most recent uh one that I saw that just come out like three days ago was talking about men crying. I'm not even joking. So it came out after the release of my episode on men crying, and they put this-I mean, it is like November or whatever, so it's probably not that uh that probably makes a lot of sense now that I think about it. Um but this made me laugh so much. So this girl opens the article saying, if you want to make a man uncomfortable, even in 2025, it's a pretty it's pretty simple. Ask him when was the last time he cried? So she goes, I learned I learned this just the other week when I asked a few male friends of mine that question at the pub, and they all got really weird really fast. Yeah, because like who it is kind of a weird question, just ask out of the blue. And she goes, one claimed not since primary school. The other mumbled something about when he was at least under 10. One mate said, like, I'll cry over death and stuff, but only if I know the dead person. And she goes, I'll let you unpack that in your own time because that's psychotic to do that. And she goes, their defensive and frankly strange responses really threw me because I thought that I'll be chill about crying. Yeah, we'll just chill about it. I just have little tearies all like every now and then. And she goes, She goes, I live in Sydney's inner city and hang out with men who have relatively progressive views and drink coffees made with oat milk. And they also make out with each other every other day. But I could tell that asking them when they last cried made them feel embarrassed, and I dare say emasculated. Like just being asked that question isn't an emasculating question, by the way. Like to just say, when was the last time you cried? And they go, uh yeah, like maybe in primary school or when I was when I was 10, or maybe someone died. And it's like it made them feel embarrassed and emasculated, just being asked that question. Just by asking me that, you've already pulled me down from manhood. Okay, so don't even ask me that question. In comparison, when I asked my female friends the same question, they were not weird about it at all. They all admitted to quite crying frequently and had no hesitation admitting it. It made me realize there's still so much stigma around men crying. Oh, really? The girls? What the girls said they were crying frequently? Really? Dude, why are we here? Why is this on the news? Oh, it goes on. I'm not gonna go through this whole article because I'll I'm losing brain cells every time I go through these articles. But they they tried to ask girls like if you think it's hot if a man cries, or they're like, Do you like it if men cry? And some are like, yeah, it's good if boys cry. And like one of them was like, they asked, um, do you think it's attractive when a man cries? And she goes, it depends on what it's about. And then she fired back death, and she's like, Oh, obviously that's fine. And she goes, Phew. Oh, thank God, that's fine. It's like it depends what it's about. Yeah, if he's crying because if he's crying because he got lost in the shops, like his phone went flat, yeah, it's probably not attractive if he's crying. Um, but yeah, it's okay if someone had passed away. Like, yeah, I can't go through the whole article, but it's all it's just more nonsense and just weird stuff that it's like I don't know, but yeah, um my favorite part, my favorite part was when she was like, Well, the guys I hang out with are relatively progressive, they they drink coffees made with oat milk, they're progressive. The inner city Sydney crew, they're all relatively progressive views, yeah. Like they they drink their oat milk coffees and they make out with each other and they have showers together, they have little sho sit down in the outdoor showers together and talk about their feelings. Like they're they're men. Oh, so anyway, that's just I guess a little recap on the the last the last episode. Um yeah. So, what I wanted to talk about today, the theme of this episode is going to be around the the the more biological differences between men and and women, besides the obvious, because it seems to be a real lack of education around this, and there's just there's too much. Like I have to just I have to go into it because it really bothers me that a lot of people don't know this stuff, and so I just gotta, yeah, it just needs to be spoken about more. And so I'm going to speak on there's a field of research called sociobiology, and it's basically the the idea that it is our biological makeup that drives our social behavior. So a lot of people think that it's the whole nature versus nurture thing. A lot of people think it's just cultural norms and uh, you know, we only behave this way because that's what we were taught and what we what we learned, but kind of fail to neglect the fact of like how they developed to begin with. Why didn't, if we're all the same, why didn't they develop to be the same to begin with? Why are particular genders more inclined in one field of work and another in the other? Like, I don't know. I'm gonna go into the whole thing. But like if you picture it this way, if you look at a duck, a duck is not taught to like a duck could never go into water, and then you can put him into water, and you know, okay, well, he's buoyant. Uh, they have webbed feet, they have neural pathways that teach them how to use them while they're in water. So it isn't being put into the water that makes them be able to swim in the water. They're already able to do that. It's a pre-wiring, it's a pre-design, it's for it. And so this is what I believe is the reason uh that men and women are different, operate different. It's because they're supposed to be different. They wear different clothing, they do different jobs, they socialize differently, all these things. So I'm gonna start with the brain and then I'm gonna go through the five senses and the differences in that. And then if I have time, uh I'll go through. Well, I mean, I'm primarily gonna focus on like the strengths and weaknesses of both. And then yeah, I'll see if I have time at the end to do maybe a little bit of something else. But so, okay, I'll talk about the brain to begin with. So here's one for the for the ladies. Women actually have, on average, three percent higher general intelligence than men. Uh, so they're IQ. So if we're looking at males and females, women score higher on average by about 3%. Uh, even though men have bigger brains and about 4 billion more brain cells, and that's not an exaggeration, it's about 4 billion more brain cells. I kind of think men need those in case they lose a few with some of the risk-taking stuff they do. Um, but that being said, I will put a caveat with that in that um the the men occupy the highest ends of or the most extreme ends of each spectrum of intelligence. So if you're looking at the graph, men will be the smartest uh people in the world and also the stupidest people in the world. So you're not going to have a lot of women on the on the far ends of the scale, but in an overall population, the average woman would be more intelligent than the average man by yeah, about 3%. So girls will develop their the left side of their brain a lot earlier than boys, and boys develop the right side of their brain a lot earlier. So girls will develop things like on the left side of the brain is more things that would take up stuff like their linguistic ability, so their ability to communicate, their handwriting is going to be better, their vocabulary is going to be larger, their reading ability is going to be better, so much better their literacy skills that uh I think it's somewhere in the high 90s of little boys get taken to see a speech pathologist. It's mostly boys. Uh, and I mentioned in the last episode 97% of speech pathologists are women. But high 90% of the actual like of young children that go to see a speech pathologist, uh young boys, they've even tossed up ideas of maybe having boys start school a year later because they can't keep up with the girls in early learning. They have, but I'll go into the advantages that boys have and because they develop the right side of the brain. So I'll go into that. But yeah, it's a really interesting thing. Like a lot of boys will often feel embarrassed and not want to read out loud because when it comes to linguistic ability, there's four things that are involved in in linguistics. So in the brain, you have there's seven different parts of the brain that you can measure intelligence with. Some people say nine. I feel like I think it's seven, but uh they're there. Um so there's like logic and reasoning, which is math, like mathematics, linguistic ability, which is your um speaking, reading, that sort of thing. There's music, art, and like spatial 3D kind of things, being able to draw complex things. So your hand-eye coordination, so physical abilities, then you have interpersonal relationships, so understanding other people, and then there's intra-personal, which is understanding yourself. So when it comes to linguistic ability, it's the only one where there's kind of four different things happening at once or potentially in the same area of the brain. So it's one thing to read, it's one thing to hear, it's one thing to speak, and it's one thing to write. So you've got uh reading words, you've got writing, you've got hearing, and you've got speaking. So reading out loud is operating three things at once. It's because you're reading, you are speaking, and you're also kind of trying to listen as well. So that's where it's three at once. So if someone's trying to read out loud to understand something, it's a lot more difficult. It's quite it's a lot easier to read in your head because you're not having to focus on the listening part of it and the comprehension and the actual speaking part of it. If you can, it's a lot better to just read silently if you want to learn, anyway. Depending on the person. I mean, sure, other people are different, but so that's why anyway. So that's why women are so much better in the early stages because the left side of their brain is developed earlier. The right side of the brain is more like spatial imagery. So they might even do imagine um your area of imagination. Little boys are probably more inclined to play imaginary games. Uh, they're really into puzzles, they're really into things and building and that kind of stuff. So women in the brain have about 30% more connection between the left hemisphere and the right hemisphere. So guys are more separate. So things that are on the right kind of stay on the right, things are on the left hemisphere, kind of stay on the left. Uh, women's brains are more interconnected, and the hormone of estrogen actually promotes more nerve cells to grow, which uh to grow more connections. So they're kind of always trying to connect things together. It's kind of a reason as to why girls can speak. I'll go into this a little bit later as well. But they can kind of they can do multiple things at once. Like girls can kind of multitask a lot better than guys. They can they can kind of speak and listen at the same time sometimes as well, or like be speaking to someone and be like eavesdropping in someone else's conversation. It's kind of crazy. But men like compartmentalize everything. So men are like, it's this box. So it's it's there's an analogy of like when guys are talking about something, they're like, okay, their brain is wired in like in like little boxes, everything's in little compartments. So if we're talking about a topic, they go, okay, I'll open that box up. This is all the stuff I know about that topic. And then if it goes to something else, they'll go, okay, I'll close that box. Now let me open this box and take out everything I know about that topic. But girls is just like imagine a room and it's just full of all these interconnecting wires, and all the wires are going into all these other boxes, and they're all kind. Of everywhere, and they can kind of jump between idea to idea almost like instantly, simultaneously, it just kind of goes like that. Because of that, women, there's far more ambidextrous women that are both like left and right-handed, and far more women that don't know their left from their right. Because everything's just so interconnected between the hemispheres of the brain in comparison to the man's. So that's kind of some um some interesting fun facts about the brain. Um I'm keeping this somewhat brief because there is a significant amount of information here, and I'm not there's I'm not even going to be able to scratch the surface in a one-hour podcast. So um, but yeah, so I'm just gonna go through a couple of little things. So a lot of the strengths for women operate in the five senses. So starting with vision, girls can girls can actually see a lot more clearer than guys. So there's um they can see more colours, there's these rods in the eye. Girls have a few million more of these perception rods, so they can see more colours and they can see them more vividly. If guys go to explain colour, they just say like red or blue or green. A girl will be like, Oh yeah, that was aqua or that was teal or that was uh canary yellow, and you're like, okay. Like they it's also why girls have, I believe, more of an appreciation for pretty things or beautiful things, because it's it is actually more vivid and beautiful to them. They can see it a wider array of colours. I don't think a lot of guys know that. I don't think a lot of girls know that either. That um, yeah, women can actually see more colours than guys, or at least more distinct colours. And they've done testing on on colour matching and stuff. This is not, again, like just something like this is what the studies reveal. Uh, women also have a far better peripheral vision than men. So women's scope of vision is like 180 degrees, and it's way clearer. It's it varies from person to person, but in comparison to a man, like women would be shocked how bad men's peripheral vision is compared to theirs, and men would be stunned as to how much better women's are than men. This is why men get the accusations of oggling and checking out women more, because men apparently are designed to be long-sighted. So men can see further than women and clearer at further distances, but women can see um clearer in side view. It has some historic benefit of men being hunters and being able to pinpoint animals and be able to, you know, keep a lookout for things off in the distance. Women are more uh nest protectors, so getting a wide range of view. Is there like protecting the nest from immediate, more immediate threat? And also being gatherer, being able to see things. You'll you often hear, you know, the thing of the man goes to the fridge. I can't, where's the source? I can't find the source. She goes, it's right in front of you. He's like, I can't find it. She's right in front of it. She goes and just grabs it and pulls it out of magic air. But um the clarity of position of being able to see something for women is is a lot better. But men have better vision for long-sightedness and for even during driving, they recommend that women are probably better to drive in the day, but men are better to drive at night. Um, but yeah, I know that there's been some studies that they've looked at. Well, not even studies, this is just like the data they've collected from children getting into car accidents crossing the road or having any kind of incident. Uh young boys are twice as likely to have an incident crossing the road because their peripheral vision isn't as good. They're also more like men are more likely to take risks, so that could have something to do with it as well. But I thought that was that was very interesting. Women also have more whites in the eyes. So, in talking about the eye and vision, women have far more white in their eyes, which gives them the ability to communicate better because they're more expressive. So if you're like looking at something, like you know exactly where someone's looking. Animals don't really have this. Animals won't have white in their eyes because it doesn't serve a function for any animals. They don't really need to know directional. Like, I mean, we can make we can do gestures of facial expression just with the eyes. Like you can be shocked, you can be like, you know, kind of sus, you can be, I don't know, like cheeky. There's there's a lot of different ones. Um, but yeah, so more like directional with the eyes uh for women, even like vision in terms of women being able to identify certain non-verbal cues. Like men are just really terrible at picking up kind of suggestive hints, but women understand body language and non-verbal cues a lot more than men. This is more, this is obviously vision, but it's more than that. This is like intuition as well. But like, yeah, women will see everything, they don't miss, they don't miss a thing. Apparently, women look at men just as much as men look at women, but because men are so directional in sight, uh, men just get caught more. And also, they don't realize just how good women's peripheral vision is, and so they don't expect that they would be able to see them, but they know, they always know, and the guys be thinking they're slick and they'd be getting caught out. So, my brothers, you gotta you should know this. You should definitely know this. So, women are also insanely better at identifying babies, what what a baby might need or their own baby when no sound is available. So just looking at the the look of the baby crying, but not being able to hear anything, they're able to identify a significant amount of accuracy exactly what it is that the baby needs. Does the baby need to be burped? Does the baby need food? Does the is the baby tired? Like all these things. The the mother can, with almost like pinpoint accuracy, say, okay, that's what they need. The dads got it less than 10% of the time. And they reckon that even in the testings, the 10% they did get was mostly just guessing. Like there was just, you know, there's a certain amount that they're gonna get right, just taking a potluck guess. The grandmas actually did better than the dads. The grandmas were around 50 to 70% accuracy. The grandpas they could barely even recognize which baby was their own grandchild. It's like it just goes to show. They're like, I think that's that's uh yeah, they need this. They're like, that's not your kid, that's not your grandchild. So yeah, and there's reasons as to why that is as well. Like, obviously, the the mothers like babies need the mother, like the mothers breastfeed, the the the men have very little to offer in the infant stage of a a baby's life or of a child's life, and that their function and purpose starts to come more into it in the in later years. So, yeah, so now we move on to hearing. So, hearing, this one was really cool. So, they've done studies to show what men and women um or parents would wake up from, not even just parents, but just men and women. So the women were far more likely to wake up from a baby crying than men, but men were far more likely to wake up from rustling outside the house. So obviously the the woman's maternal instincts kicking in for the the brood, the offspring, and the men being defenders and protectors of the family, of the house, of the property, they're hearing like sticks crack outside, which I think is a very interesting thing. It's just sound. You wouldn't think that that, like we're unconscious at the time, we're asleep. So something's obviously working in the brain that is telling the body you need to wake up now because of this reason. This this kind of thing is so much deeper than cultural like learning and cultural norms. This is not cultural norms, this is biological, this is inbuilt. We're different. Women can be in conversation and monitor, like I said before, monitor a completely different conversation. Women are able to talk and listen at the same time. Not maybe not perfectly. I don't actually know the degree to how good it is, but I know that men can not. If a man answers the phone, he has to leave the room or he has to tell everyone to stop talking because he can't listen. He can't listen. I noticed that when I go to events and the music's too loud, I can't talk to anyone. Like I literally was at a Christmas party the other day, and I was like, this is weird. Like, why uh I noticed that I wasn't being very social and I wanted to be. I was like looking forward to this event. And I'm like, yeah, I'm gonna chat to a bunch of people. And I noticed that I'm in conversation and I'm like, I cannot talk to anyone because I'm standing next to these speakers that are blasting off my eardrums. I can't talk. I couldn't. I could talk in quiet areas or walk around here and I could chat, like you know, in the car park area. When it's loud, I can't say anything. I can't even think. But yeah, women will hear even the slightest emotional changes in the voice as well. This is why you might hear women say something like, it's not what you said, it's how you said it. So they'll pick up the smallest, slightest little tone change. There'll a shift in energy. It's pretty cool, really. But yeah, they're designed. I guess that they women have more of an empathetic nature. They're they can tell signs that something's wrong. And yeah, guys aren't very good at hiding those things either. So women will know, like women will know if something's up, they'll they'll say, and guys need to be aware of that as well. Of just how good women are at picking up little tiny shifts in tone and shifts in emotion. You're not gonna get away with it. So on average, women can sing eight times for every one man that can sing in tune. Women, there's eight women that can sing in tune, they're able to understand pitches, harmonies. I don't know if that's more of a physical ability, but that's significant. Like you can't say anything about that being a social thing. I don't even know why that is that women can sing so many more women are good at singing than men. They can sing in tune, eight times more. So that's drastic. Uh, in regards to speaking, this is like a more of a behavioral thing that women will like the difference between men and women is that men use really direct speech. They'll say, uh, do you want to do this? And then if they say no, like okay, if they say yes, okay, we'll do this. Um, or they'll say, I want to do this. Women will use a different approach, they're a bit more indirect, and it's um it's more of a safeguard. They'll be that the women might say, if she wants ice cream, she'll go, Do you feel like any ice cream? And then what they really mean by that is I want ice cream. And uh, but they go, Do you feel like having ice cream? And so you would you would then, if you're smart and you know how women work, you would say, you would realize, okay, she's saying she wants ice cream. Yes, I want ice cream. And then you would go get ice cream together. But a lot of men will go, no, no, I don't want ice cream. And then the girl will get upset because what she really meant was, I want ice cream and I want you to have some with me. But yeah, like they'll use women will probably be more inclined to use words like a bit, like use little phrases, like, oh, it's kind of like this, or it's a bit like this, because it softens the approach rather than just saying it is this way. Like men might be more inclined to use words like absolutely not, no way. Like just be fully, like maybe use a bit more intense speech of like not even close, like that kind of speech. They don't soften the the blow. They yeah, they exaggerate. And women, the way that women talk, women use talking in a reward kind of system as well. So women will talk a lot more to people they really like, and it it's not, it doesn't really matter what the talking is, it's the fact that talking is happening, and they will take that away if they don't, uh if they're upset with you. So the silent treatment is a key thing that a lot of women will use against their partners or friends or something. They will give them the the cold shoulder or something, they'll they won't talk. And that's like they're they're then like, I'm not gonna reward you with my talking. Like talking is a is a gift, it's a rule, that's a reward for the people that I like. If um, if you've done something wrong, then you don't get you don't get spoken to. I'll take that away from you. I think one of the biggest differences though, in regards to how men and women approach talking. So similar to what I was saying in the last episode about talking about a problem. Because women's the the design of the women's brains being so interconnected, a woman talking about a problem, they don't want a solution yet, or maybe at all, because they don't 100% know if it's a problem yet. So talking about it is almost like processing all the information. So they'll go, this thing happened, and they'll spell it, they'll say it all out loud, and then it's out. It's out there. They've got it, they've got it in the ether. And then once it's out, they can decide this is a problem and it needs to be fixed. Or they might go, this isn't actually a problem. Uh now that I've set it out, I actually feel a lot better, and that's why I don't need a solution because I don't think this is really a problem. But a guy won't talk about it unless he's already decided that it's a problem. So he'll say something like, Okay, a problem gets addressed or presented to him, he might say something like, All right, leave it with me. Like, okay, let me let me think about it. Let me think about it, get back to you. Um, and he'll he'll do exactly that. And he'll sit on it, he'll think about it, he'll mull it over, and then even if someone didn't come to him, even if it's his own problem, by the time it gets to the point of speaking about it, it's because he's decided this is a problem that needs to be fixed now, and I can't, I couldn't figure it out myself. There's a competency thing, um, like a metric that men have where their need or their inbuilt desire to know that they are a competent man, that they're able to do things themselves, means that they're not going to ask for help until it's at the point where they know that they need the help. Like if I can do it, if they can do it themselves, they'll do it themselves. So if they're talking about it, it means that they're that it's already a problem. That's why they'll give us so they'll try to give solutions all the time. Because they're like, if a guy is talking, if a guy talks to me or any guy talks to another guy, that guy's gonna realize, oh, he's obviously the only reason he must be at the talking point is because he's figured out that it's that there there needs to be solutions now. But women, yeah, they haven't d necessarily decided that yet. Sometimes they they do, but yeah. So facial expressions, women have far more communication with facial expression, the widening, widening of the eyes, the shock face, the drop, uh dropping the jaw, their the movements of their eyelids, their cheeks. They'll use their whole face to be very expressive. And men, sometimes you can't even tell if they're happy or or sad. Uh yeah, sometimes you get really expressive men. I think I'm probably I'm probably on the more expressive side of male faces, and I don't think I'm overly expressive. But yeah, there are some men that it's just like you would not know unless they told you. Um, but you couldn't see it on their face. I'll move on to touch. This one's a really interesting one. So touch is like, I didn't actually know this. This is something that I just learned when I was putting this together, but women's skin is 10 times more sensitive than male skin. So they're more sensitive to touch and pressure than men. The the studies that they did, the most sensitive men scored less than the least sensitive women. Like it's staggering the difference. I know that men have thicker skin. So men, like the skin on a man's back is four times thicker than that of their stomachs. Women are four to six times more likely to touch each other in conversation than men. And they also communicate with phrases about touch. So they'll be like, they're way more likely to use phrases like, oh, the magic touch, or it just needs like a bit of a personal touch. They'll use things like, oh, they're thick skinned or thin skinned. Um, they'll say to their friends, yeah, we'll stay in touch. They'll say, Oh, that person gets under my skin, or that that they rub me the wrong way. Like, oh, there's so many different phrases that women would be more likely to use. Men still use these. This is not, but like all of this stuff, like I hate that I have to keep saying this, but it's not only it's mostly or majority, or on average more. Yeah, so I thought that was such an interesting thing, though. Like, there's so many different things there. In regards to taste, women have superior taste receptors as well. So women are just dominating like some of the some of the senses as far as like sensitivity, like women can see better, they taste more like better, they um they hear better, I don't know, all of it. Uh, but this is one of the reasons that women love a sweet treat. They love a sweet treat. If you're a guy, you get a sweet treat and put it in front of a girl and just watch a guy because girls be loving that. Apparently, it's because in like hunter-gathering kind of civilizations, women were more likely to taste fruit and see whether it's ripe or not and if it's actually ready to give to offspring. So, uh, and then in regards to smell, so women can smell unconsciously like immune systems. So they can detect if their immune system is better than another guy's, and if it is, they won't they'll actually be off put by the guy and they won't even know why. They've done research on on this as well, where if a guy's immune system is really strong, uh, women that don't have as strong of an immune system will be more drawn to that person, and it's obviously in regards to having the best offspring. So a lot of these things, it's it's got to do with survival and it's got to do with producing the healthiest offspring. What is like how are my genes going to be passed on in the strongest ways possible? That's kind of the aspect. I mean, that's pretty much any creature on earth, every single thing on planet Earth that is uh nature, I suppose, that has some sort of life, I guess, in it. So, you know, I don't think, well, I don't know, but I don't think rocks have this kind of uh protocol, but things like trees, things like flowers, bees, I don't know, any kind of animal. It's all to survive and it's all to reproduce in some way. So yeah, but yeah, the the differences in terms of sensory abilities is so is so drastic that women would literally get accused of like being witches for stuff like this. A guy would be like, a girl, a girl is like, So where have you been all night? And the guy's like, Oh, I was just with the boys. She's like, No, you weren't, you're lying to me right now. She's she's a witch, she's a witch. Sorry, boys. I don't know how she knew. She knew I was lying. Must be a witch. And this is okay. You gotta, you gotta, like, the girls had a rough run for a little for a while there. Like I know feminism's kind of pushing the boundary too far, but the girls were having a rough run for a bit. There was a there was a time when like if a if a girl got accused of being a witch, they would tie like heavy stones around her ankles, throw them in the in the ocean, and they go, if she if she floats back up, we know that that she's a witch, and we'll gotta and we'll burn her at the stake. And if she doesn't, we know she wasn't a witch. But if she doesn't, it means she dies. So like so it's it's lose lose. It's psychos. Yeah. 2025's not that bad if we're looking at stuff like that. Anyway, moving on. The next bit was about spatial ability. So this is the the the the right hemisphere that males develop earlier. So the reason obviously all those things is most of those things are left's left hemisphere things. Right hemisphere is more the spatial ability. So this is where men have more of an extreme advantage. It helps with like allowing men to be able to hunt animals. So looking at from children, by as early as the age of around four, boys outstrip girls on spatial ability, which is like you know, three three-dimensional testings and stuff, like um rather than two-dimensional understanding, but three-dimensional boys outstrip girls about four to one in a four to one ratio. And that's something that even the worst boys were better than the best girls. So that's kind of a flip. And this is why, as well, by the way, you'll still see men dominating fields that don't require physical strength. So men are still dominating in golf, for example, men still dominate in darts, in pull, in car racing. Like, yeah, I don't even even the best female car races, and I'm not even talking about Formula One. Like, never has there ever been a female Formula One winner. I don't think there's ever been a uh a female like NASCAR winner. There's some uh females that have won races, but they don't win the whole event because there's multiple races in an event. I think there's ever been, there's almost no girls that have been successful in car racing, which is like like you wouldn't think that any that males have a an uh an advantage, but they actually do have an advantage, they've got a physical advantage because of the spatial ability. Uh we don't, it's just not well understood. But I mean, there was a tournament, there was a pool tournament, and the the two people in the final would were two trans chicks, so they were dudes, and they're like, and you don't think that they had any kind of well, they wouldn't have had any advantage. Yes, they did, they had an extreme advantage, that's why they won. Um, but this part of the brain is um helps to develop understanding where things are and what what things are like. Men will track where to go, like they'll know their way around a city, they'll know their the directions better, they will be able to read maps better. That part of the brain is also responsible for like logic and stuff. So this is why you'll see like 75% of mathematicians are men, only about 30% of math PhDs are female. So just graduating with a PhD in math is um only 30% female. Somewhere between 86 to 88 percent of engineers are male. This is like dealing with things, and that's like gotten less. It used to be around the high 90s, was male. So it's the women are starting to be more involved in that, but it's still a significant difference in that area. Boys are more capable of seeing if something is going to fit in something else. So, like furniture, for example, moving furniture through a door, uh, parking. Like parking is a big one. Like, girls hate to parallel park. And there was a study done on like the accuracy of male and female parking at a driving school. So 82% of men were able to effectively parallel park a car, and out of that 82%, 71% of those, so roughly say out of 100 people, you know, 82 of them could successfully parallel park. And then out of that 82, 71%, which would be like 52 or 50 something guys were able to um uh do it on the first try. When it came to the women in the driving school, first try, uh sorry, the amount that were able to successfully do it at all was only 22%. So out of 100 people, let's say 22 are able to do it. And out of that 22%, only 23% were able to do it on the first try. So that's literally like four or five people were able to do it for four, four or five girls were able to do it on the first try. Boys are much more interested in things, girls are much more interested in people. So because of this, because of boys' spatial awareness, because of girls' communication abilities, the reason why most guys are into things like being an engineer, um, being architects, these sorts of things, is because of their ability to do it. They're that they develop in that area quicker, so they're better at it, so they enjoy it more. Women are more likely to be, let's say, nurses, um, because nurses are more people-facing. They're more, that's why they're occupational therapists, OTs. And the difference is actually, yeah, pretty staggering. Well, yeah, I mean, if we look at it, I think in when we looked at when I looked at the full scale of some of these things, not yeah, 97% of speech pathologists are female, nine, about 90% of occupational therapists are female, about 90% of hairdressers are female, 90% of psychologists are female. So the notice that these are all communication uh people facing industries. Whereas men, you look at like 94% of pilots are men. Um, 82% of uh men, oh sorry, 82% of people in the in any field of physics is men. Uh men, maybe it's like 70% architects, with the pilots, by the way, about 75% of air hostesses uh or like you know the hosts are female. Um so like there's obviously going to be like different, you're gonna be drawn to different things for all kinds of different reasons. But it's mainly that like people like to do what they're good at doing. And by the way, they've studied this from babies being a few weeks old. Like weeks old. Girl, little baby girls can hold will hold eye contact far longer, like three to four times longer than little baby boys. But little baby boys will have their their attention held by those like mobile, like spinning mobiles, mobiles, whatever they're called, that have the little planes or little shapes and stuff on them. They'll look at those more, they'll look at the things more. Girls will be able to recognize family in photos far earlier than little boys. But little boys will be able to find lost toys far more effectively than little girls. So they'll know directions to where to find the thing, but girls will know the faces and the people. Girls want relationships and cooperation. Boys strive for power and status. The the way that you observe boys and girls playing is completely different. You'll see uh guys when like boys when they go and they play sport, there is a clear winner and a clear loser. They'll pick teams, they'll have a team captain and they'll they'll pick, they'll allocate, okay, you're gonna be the captain and you're gonna be the other captain. They'll allocate, they'll do that themselves. They'll pick the teams and they'll play and they'll compete against one another. Girls don't want that at all. The games that they play is like hopscotch or hula hoop. You can't win at hopscotch or hula hoop. Like when they when they sit down together, they sit in a circle. Like they there's no hierarchy, there is no leader. They'll play games like family or they'll play house. There's no, they'll play with like Barbies and stuff like that. You don't win and lose in these games. The way that we play is completely different. Um, boys love yeah, to have an enemy. There's got to be an enemy out there somewhere. Yeah. I think one of the biggest issues is that women have been misled by this information, and they they've they've looked at some of the male dominated fields, and they've been like, okay, so that's male dominated. Well then. That they must be excluding us, not realizing why they're male dominated to begin with. And then they'll try and go into those fields, being told that, you know, oh yeah, women can do it too. They'll go into these fields and realize that they don't even like it at all. Like men never do that. Like you don't see any men being like, okay, well, we need to be, you know, OTs now. When there needs to be more, well, there does need to be more male psychologists, but men don't really care about going into the female spaces. Even though there's plenty of female-dominated industries, but men don't care. Women seem to want to go into the men, the male's field, but like they're just not going to ever be as successful because you're not built to be. Like women haven't failed being in these industries. They've just failed to be like men in these industries. It's a weird kind of competitiveness. I feel like yeah, I don't know. Girls have always tried to. Even when I was in school, man, I remember like being in school, the girls were so obsessed with competing against the boys in PE class. And I just never understood why. It was like, just leave it alone. Like it's not gonna go well. I remember there was a bunch of girls in our grade that played for state. They were like really good netball players. In one PE class, they're like, it's our turn. It's gonna be boys versus girls. We're gonna we're gonna verse the boys in our sport this time. We're not gonna play soccer and we're not gonna play handball and whatever, I don't know, whatever other games we played. They're like, we're gonna play netball, we're gonna verse the boys. So we're like, all right, sure. And then we it wasn't even close. We absolutely destroyed. Like it wasn't even a close game by any stretch of the imagination. It was a one-sided affair, and uh, and they were very upset about it. But it was like, you're not gonna, it's not like what did you think was gonna happen that we're just gonna forget how to run and jump and be accurate with shooting a ball? Like, yeah, I don't know. It's silly to compete because we're so different, bro. And like you try to compete, it you're gonna lose. Like, if guys try to compete with women in the women-dominated fields, they're gonna lose. And if the women try to compete with the men in the men-dominated fields, they're gonna lose. Yeah. I mean, the the whole sexual revolution thing that failed miserably. A lot of girls just ended up being depressed and sad. It was like, because you don't like on a chemical level. Oh, okay. I'll I'll finish on this because I've gone, yeah, I'm about out of time. But this is the dumbest thing uh was the sexual revolution. The dumbest thing that girls have ever done. I understand there shouldn't be double standards, whatever. So there's a thing in philosophy called Chesterton's fence, created by GK Chesterton. And it's it's it goes something along the lines of don't if you run into a fence, it's in the way. Don't tear it down before knowing why the fence is there. Because you don't know why the fence is there. So if you just tear it down, you don't know, oh, okay, that could have been like for you, you think it's in the way, and I want to get past. So let's tear this down and then we can create this flow and we can go through this path. Uh, but you didn't know that it was holding in wild beasts that are going to go and attack everyone. You didn't know that that was a border for a distinct line that children weren't meant to cross, and now they're they've gone wandering off beyond the yard. You know, so if you don't know why it's there, you don't tear it down. And this is what the sexual revolution did with women, because the reason that there was a double standard was on a on a chemical reason, uh chemical basis, when men and women have uh coitus, uh oxytocin is released, which is what they call the love hormone. It's the bonding hormone. It gets released in intimate times, it gets released if uh if a parent is looking into the the eyes of their child, it develops oxytocin and a bond between the two. It even develops if you look into the eyes of your pet, you will increase in oxytocin, uh uh creating a stronger bond between you and your pet. So it increases and it get you get flooded with it when um a man and a woman love each other very much or when they come together. So the issue though is that men have extremely high testosterone, and it testosterone blocks oxytocin in that process of intercourse. Uh, and so women don't have that, however. And so when they do, like they when they have intercourse, because they know that um the possibility of getting pregnant and carrying a child for nine months, it's a much greater risk for women. But for men, they can produce millions and millions and millions of seed. And so their ability to uh they don't need to be as cautious, I suppose. But for women, if they've gone that far, they're like they need to bond with the person that's now gonna be able to protect them and their offspring. Um, that's why the chemicals gets gets released. Now, men they have a different chemical called vasopressin. Vasopressin is like a protective hormone, and it only develops over time spent with that person. If they have intercourse with someone, they had no chance for vasopressin to be developed. And because the testosterone brocked the oxytocin, then they no longer have any reason to feel like they want to stay around. Uh, so this is just a little tidbit, but if a woman wants a man to stay around, she shouldn't do anything in that realm for months. I believe you should actually be married first. That is my Christian stance is that the highest form of intimacy should be met with the highest form of commitment. Uh, but that's why. So there is a there is an effect called the the Coolid effect. This was this thing, a test that was done on rats where the rat, the male rat's interest in a sexual partner decreased over time. So every time that they mated, their interests got lower and lower and lower to the point where they just weren't, oh, they they they just weren't interested at all until they put a different female into the the cage and then they would be right back up again. It would shoot right back up. And so men, uh, the male brain will do the same thing. They will they will be excited of variety in different um different women, for example. So they will lose interest if granted access too early because there isn't enough vasopressin, dopamine, or oxytocin in their body, in their brain to stick around and to be interested. And so there's this whole thing, like that's why a man is able to, let's say, sleep with a woman and then not have feelings, because they've got to the, I suppose, the climax point without um any of these chemicals, the protective hormone being released in the brain. But women releases the oxytocin straight away. So they form connections straight away, they form bonding straight away. And it's it's uh yeah, so we're we're different on a chemical level. It's not gonna be the same. You're not, it's not gonna, it's not gonna serve women well emotionally, mentally, physically, to just try to act like promiscuous men. You're not built the same way, it's not gonna work. Yeah, so anyway, that's just a little bit of a chemistry lesson. I mean, obviously, yeah, there's a lot more to say about that, but I will wrap it up and end it there. So thanks again for listening, and yeah, like, subscribe, smash that share button, obliterate that um comment section, and let me know what you think. But yeah, so we'll um see you next time, I guess. Oh yeah, and by the way, I'll just say this because everything I just said, everything in this whole podcast is trash, it's garbage. It means nothing, okay, compared to this, compared to these three things. All right. Christ is king, Jesus loves you, and he's coming back soon. Do with that what you will. Goodbye.