#45 - Perek Gimel C - Mesilas Yesharim Explained

In two short sessions a week Rabbi Dovid Schoonmaker will elucidate and bring to life the eternal words of the Mesilas Yesharim. Rabbi Dovid Schoonmaker is the Rosh Yeshivah of Shapell's / Yeshivas Darche Noam in Yerushalaim.

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Okay, we've learned wonderful things in this parak already. That there are two things a person has to have in mind. A person has to always be thinking what is the goodness and what's bad in the world. And against that mark, against that clear mark, where do my actions they fit into that and they don't fit into that? And that further breaks it down. A person does that but shasmaisa. And he's thinking about it all the time. But Dabra Zah, we continue. They made known to us a khronal of Rach and Aervan. It's better for a person not to be born than to be born. Okay, that's not our topic. Bakshashanivra, this is our topic. What does okay? We are born, we're here. And some say, not Yafash Meshma Maisav, rather Yimashmeshmaisav. So Masil Sharam explains, gonna go explain to us the difference between these two things and work with both of them. And this is a sign often, right? When the two Lashonas and the Gemara, we don't reject either one, we work with both and we learn lessons from both. Both. Pishbush or Mishmush. Let's see. The two exhortations. Tovos, good, mo elusmod are very, very effective, very helpful. Helpful. Kinea Pishbush May Sim, what's the idea of Pishbush? And the general idea of his actions, Lidboninbo. And to again reflect that word again and again, Lidbonbo, and I reflect on my actions. I take them in on the general sense. Hanimt what? Hanimtsah Bahem Masimashul Yayasu are the things which I should not do. Ashur ainim hokem up sashem chukav. They're not going according to the commandments of Hashem and his chukav. Why use the double ush in mitzvah sashem chukav? I don't know. Kikolasha Yimatzimeli Yevareim and Olamish dark language, destroying language. What do you do with those? Yevareim buer. Destroy them. Get rid of them. You find something in your actions which are not consistent with the Rats and Hashem, Yvarim. Wow. Bior, like Birchhamits. Get them rid of them. So that is Pishbush. Acha Mishmush, so what's Mishmush if that's what Pishbush is? Who hachakira? That's the delving into Afield Masma Tov Matsum. Okay, so something passed the first bar, it passed the Pishbush, but now I have to do the Mishmush. Now I say, even on the good things I'm doing, Lachkurla wrote to delve into them and to see Hayeshbinam aze pnyyashelotova. Is there some part of it? There's some part of it which isn't going the right way. Oh, azechelikra. Maybe it has a pnyash elotova, meaning usually that means like I'm doing it for a little bit the wrong reason. Pnyya refers to that, and I'm not sure exactly how to translate it. Or maybe there's even a chelik ra, maybe there's something negative what I'm doing. You should start Lasira Levaro and then goes back to the Bior, right? So maybe there's a pnya lotova which has to get fixed up, or there's a part of it, a chelik, which is ra, which means again that stronglush and la sira, get rid of it. And bur, levaro. Are you zekemishamishmish bibed? Right? That's like checking into the beged. You're not, it's not a question of throwing out the begged. Somebody got them, you throw them out, right? It's ruined. That's the pishpush. But the mishmush of the bagid is Livchon, Hatova Khazaku, Khalashv Balui. Is it a strong bagot or is it a weak begot and it's used up already? Baluy. Kenyimashmish bimasov. So too a person has to be do mishmush masov, some to check out their nature. But tahusavchana in the great level of distinction. Ajish er, here's the words of Zahvanaki. A person wants his actions at the end of the day should be zachvanaki cleansed, clear, like zach is clean, shamanzai zach vanaki, clean, right? Pure and clean. What does a person want to do? My action should be pure and clean. Oh, we leave the claulodab for a second. I want to explain a little bit more what this. By the way, which one do we engage in more? Would you say? Those who do get involved, and we all get involved a little bit in Pishpush or Mishmush. So I think this is very important. I think the we're much more connected to Pishbush than Mishmush. Person understands Lash and Hari got to get rid of it. Betal Tara got rid of it. Excessive technology, technology, technological uses. I have to be careful, set up Gidaram for myself, set up boundaries, set up, don't want to get addicted, etc. That's that's Pishbush. But now there's something else which is called the Mishmush. And we have to do that also. The true evidence of Shem, the true mask of what is Hashem. Someone's intelligent of what is Hashem is looking for more. Things aren't binary. I think that's the point here. Pishbush is a binary question. Good, bad. Good stays. Bad beer. Mishmush is already, wait, wait, life is deeper than that. It's not binary. I want to give an example for my own life, if I may. Um, I mentioned this before, and it's all it's on my mind because it's as I've mentioned, you know, I've recently been working a lot on getting my safer out there, uh, Udia Satara, step by step. And, you know, I thought about it, and it's effort, and certainly I'm busy, and you know, I decided that it's definitely a correct thing to do. I think the safer has a message of trying to retain learning, it has an importance because many people struggle in this area, etc. etc. It's seen success of Syat Deshmaya. So altogether it's a check. So now that's the pishpush. Should I spend X amount of time you know going places, selling, talking about the topic, not just not just selling, talking about the topic, Yveshmuzum, Bar Hashem, recently I was okay to speak in many, many Shivas uh about the topic and sell some books, etc. Yeah, fem mod. But now the mishmush is wait, wait, wait. So now that I'm done, right? So I'm good. No, you're not necessarily good. Wait, are you doing shim shemayim or are you doing it to get covered? That would be the panialotova, right? The general thing, it's not a question whether I should go or not, but there's a panialotovah. Maybe something in my presentation is bringing too much attention onto myself. Maybe I'm schwitzing, uh bragging, right? That would be pnialotova. That'll be a chili, which is not good to brag, right? You you sell a safer, you have to say. If you get up there and say, Well, I don't know why anybody should buy my safer, and they're you know, 50 swarm come out a week, and everybody should have a tsloka, and thank you for bringing me, and then that that's that's foolishness, right? You have to push. I was recently so reboard with this guy pushing his safer, right? But it was good to see because there's a little bit of a turnoff, even sometimes you're pushing so much. So, so so that's it. But okay, so so you have to push your saver, but now you're bragging, are you overdoing it? Is it is it not is it not appropriate the way you speak about it, or the right? And the person delves into it in a non-binary way. It's not a question, you know, we have to have like the confidence kind of and like we have to have the confidence and the know-how and the care to realize that our actions are not just a question of good or bad, it's a question of of better and improving and and getting things to be Zakmanaki. I'd come asha Yadenama Sagas, right? It doesn't necessarily mean I wouldn't necessarily say that if, okay, so you know, it's it's past me perhaps right now to think I'm only gonna do a lashem sham and not think about the success, etc. That's not necessarily realistic, but whatever level it will be for each person can judge and be mamashma should say, oh, there's something not good in it, right? That this is an inappropriate part, this is not the shame sham part, maybe part of my presentation, maybe they my jokes you can make a joke which isn't the type of joke you should make, something certainly nothing unclean or anything like that, but you know, you know, you never know, right? So uh uh uh kirov, someone's involved in kirov, excellent example. The pishpush, it's a good thing, you know. Now the mishmush is okay, but now is this appropriate? Is this inappropriate? Should I be doing this? Should I not be doing the do this? Is this does it does the ends justify the mean these means the ends justify those means? That's the mishmush, being bowed naked. Sometimes we're scared to engage in that. We just want to leave it binary. Look, I got a head there for this. Yeah, you got a head there for that, but mishmush means to go into it uh more. I'm an avrech, the pishhmush, very good to be an avrek, the mishmush. Am I working hard? Am I avoiding life? Does it do we have enough parnasa? Does my wife can my wife still carry the uh the the old if it will be that would be that that maybe that means already getting back to pishhmush because that's dealing with the basic question. But am I helping enough at ha at home? Um and am I coming on time to say it? Am I learning with a gesmack? Am I learning with a with with fire? Or I'm just kind of like hanging on. Uh Mishmush. Um, and so many things like that. So many things I just say this to explain it's such an important thing that the Masilish Sharm Kiddarka is laying us for like laying out for us so clearly. And you see how he learned from Khazal, you know, we just oh pishmush mishmush. Good, pish bush, mishmush, cute, right? No, no, no, no, no. Pishbush is one thing, and mishmuh is another thing. Better we shouldn't have been born on some level. Now that we're born, no, what? Efashwish Maycev. And they're both Moilis, Vitovas Mo'od. Two things that a person must do Mishmush and Pishbush. Kulam Mufakeh, I'll call Drachav, right? Again, I don't know what's the exact difference between Masav and Drachhav is, but yet Mayane Umafakeh. Mayane Amasav Umafakeh a Drachav. Shlon look at this. Shlon Laniak Lato. Don't leave yourself any hergal ram either ra. I want at the end that no bad hergle, no bad habit, right? People develop bad habits. I remember I was talking to my boss in the old age days, Eric Cooper Smith and Lato Ellis. We were discussing a certain staff member, and he said he has bad habits. You know, he developed bad habits, whatever the bad habits were, but you know, you get a bad habit, hair go rah. You have to get her. Oh, why do I do that? Oh, that's what I do. I speak bluntly to people. I'm a little insulting. I come late, and everybody waits for me. That's a hair go rah. I take on my phone during meetings. Wait, wait, wait. That's a hair go rah. I show distraction and I'm not polite. Hair go rah. Get rid of it. Come late to Davani. Leave early from Davani, right? Don't pay attention to the sport of Davani. Here go rah. Or midara, Khalila Midara, bad characteristics, right? That's a person that's judging himself, evaluating himself, looking at himself, and he sees these things. Cosha can't have a pesha. This is important. Sometimes, um, sometimes we're more bothered by hergo ra or for sure for midarah than an averva pesha. But look at the Nasila Sharm. I'm not going to leave Lola Nihlat's mo, Hergor Ra, Umidara, all the more so of Aerupesha. Avaris is for sure we're going to get rid of. Right? Shem should help us to do the proper Heshba and Nefish and get good get rid of all our Hergorra, all of our Midas Ros, and Koshikin, any Avair Pesha, which Khalila we have. That's Lacha.