#46 - Perek Gimel D - Mesilas Yesharim Explained

In two short sessions a week Rabbi Dovid Schoonmaker will elucidate and bring to life the eternal words of the Mesilas Yesharim. Rabbi Dovid Schoonmaker is the Rosh Yeshivah of Shapell's / Yeshivas Darche Noam in Yerushalaim.

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Sil Sharm continues. The hine roat sarakhladam. Shimidaktik, be very specific, Vishokal and Weya Drachov, how often? Var Yom Biyomo. Every day. Whoa. Now, I just want to point out what's he doing here. This is important. I would say, like, until now, he's like laid out the Mida in I don't know if you call it an intellectual way or like what it is, the essence of it, the basics of it, without getting into like practical advice. Here is what a person has to do. The two ashkafas, there's myself, ishlobashmaisa, there's pishbush, there's mishmush. That's like a uh torah on the topic, which is so essential and so necessary, and of course, the basis of everything and what he starts with. And now the Rabbi gets specific. Okay, now let's let's take a Lamaisa. So you see the godless of the safer, the Mesil Sharm one, he's engaging us and sharing with us the Torah away Yalpishas and how things fit together, what one has to do. And now he needs Road Sorak. And now what I see, he that's he need me, right? So to speak, when a person is like, I would say Chazal Lamashal, just Lamashal, just as an example, they worked as as um when chazal were bringing making Zarashabas and Kaba Khomers, things like that, they were explaining the Torah. But then there's Takanas, which Khazal came into that. We have to do something. That's a different way the chazal worked. Hazal did many, many things, but those two of the things that Khazal did. So two of the Mesil Sharmas. One is like bringing down the Torah concepts. Here's Hiris, here's Resus, here's Chovas Adom Belomo, here's Torah, here's what you gotta do. Okay, good. Now, got that? Good. Now, okay, let's get practical and let me share you my insight about how this, you know, how when the when the rubber hits the road, pedal hits the metal. Like, what what do we do? Vini Roa. So it says, because it's that's not, I don't think that's before in shots, I believe, uh, from what he's saying. Vini Roas. Now I see this is my advice to you, the Ms. Sharm. Sorry, the Ms. Vishog Drachov Dvarbiyom, but you gotta be involved in this day to day. So again, rebockey. Someone's gonna do it day-to-day, Mato Manaim, right? If we would do it once a week, also great, once a month, also great, uh Rosh Kodish, etc. Um, right? But but but definitely, you know, there were people, I think my Rebbe's father, Rabbi Tsa Kaplachman, Sakharno of Rachel, used to engage in the Keshman Nefish every day. For some of us, it might not always be practical, but Hall of I we would. It'd take five minutes, it'd be incredible. We'll see. So, but a person is docticing Vishoka, like, what did I do today? How do I speak to my co-workers? How do I speak to my employees? How do I speak to my employer? Did I sell a Shinhara? Did I spend my time well? Was I engaged in meaningful pursuits the whole time? Or did I I took a break? Okay, but I take a lot more of a break. Did my break turn into a much bigger break than it was supposed to be? Etc. etc. Right? How much how was I in? There's so many areas for us to think about. How's my Davani? How's my chassid? How's my how's my my technology? Right? There's a zillion things for me to think about. How's my Ben al Khavir? How's my tone with others? How is I friendly? Was I kind? Was I compassionate? Did I go Badar Hashem? Uh Khassir, what to think about? They wrote Surah, Ms. Mishokh al Drachov. Was I lazy? Was I confident? Was I putting myself forward? Did I did I move forward in areas? Did I avoid confrontation? They wrote Surah Lodam, Shemindaktiv, Mishogha Drachov, every day. Because the big uh businessmen, I share you false time and call a scale of Allah. They're always judging, right? You see there's someone who has um investments, right? Leave it, you leave an investment too long. I'll just wait till tomorrow. You worm is rezus the next day. Oh Bitcoin went down, you're in big trouble, right? Tesla's Tesla's here, right? The video is there. No, you gotta, you gotta, you gotta be on top of it. I saw someone uh said recently, this is terrible. He said, like, I'm I'm checking my stock, you know, 25 times a day. I don't think that's a good thing to do. That's certainly not the Rats and Hashem, but but that's what this guy did, right? So I'm just giving an example. We're not talking about what's right or what's wrong on the business level. We're just learning from them. But that's a but here the Sokram Akdolum, the big Sokram, how's my real estate doing? Should I sell over here? Should I uh hold or go? Right? I should you false tummy call this kaleam on lease kalka. There shouldn't be miskalka. If I leave it, I'm gonna kill him, big kilkulum. No, I didn't I didn't flip that house fast enough, and now and now the laws changed, and who knows what. And they said for themselves, eat him like show us hours and times. I think the idea here we can't be madaik to two words. There's so much of a daik in the Sil Sharm. By the way, I often don't engage in these because I don't necessarily know clearly what the Dik is. It's not that I don't notice the Diyik, I just want to say that. You might be wondering, how come he doesn't do that more? Like we mentioned, Dracha, Masab. I I don't know as not what they mean, so it's like guesswork. So I don't I don't like engaging in guesswork. I think there's plenty to talk about which not a guess, but here I do have a good sense what item is show us. Show us means time, right? Spend half an hour, spend an hour, review, spend those 15 minutes a day, spend those 15 minutes, erev shabbas, moti shavas, erosh chorish, right? Spend that set time. Item, I think, means like a period, like a have a period of review. That's how what it means. So a person, they said, now we're doing review. It's the business, it's the company's review, right? And also you're spending hours. That's brass tacks hours and brass tacks, you know, times of review. Shloya Mishklo a Rai, that the Mishkal, that the weighing out won't be a Rai won't be happenstance. El a Bikfia's gadl. Now, these last four words are so important. So says the Mistil Sharon first us. We have to take a lesson from business people who are looking at their business, evaluating their investments, evaluating their different businesses with an with a with a with an with a with a sharp eye. I would give another mushle to me is meaningful, more meaningful than a businessman, which is like sports people, right? I like to think of tennis players also specifically. Those understand tennis, it's not really team sports. There is doubles tennis, but but um besides that, but usually, right, there's the Davis Cup, whatever, but generally tennis is a very, very individual sport. And then tennis play means it's uh if you're bad, you're bad. You know, it's not like you can be good in another sport, and your teammates can take you through. The offense is very weak in a game, but the defense plays strongly, so then tell it here, if you're down, you're down, right? Um and there are many, many aspects to a game. There's a defensive game, there's an offensive game, there's all types of shots, there's a forehand, there's a backhand, boom, boom. There's playing at the net, there's drop shots, there's slices, there's first serves, second serves. You know, there's an incredible amount. So the these people, I always say this, it could be I'm giving this mushroom, Silasharm explained, but they spend a lot of time considering their game, a lot of time, and they pay enormous, I'm talking about the big big boys, enormous amounts of money to coaches and teams. To they have these people that have a whole team of people who are evaluating their game, and they're not giving them, they're not, they're not making them feel good. They're not saying, you know, you're the greatest ever. That's not what they're saying to them. They're saying if you don't improve that backhand, you're not, it's not, you're not gonna win. That's what they're saying to them. And and you know, your mental gain, you're mentally off, and at this point in the game, you start during the second set, you start to falter a little bit. We have to fix that up. And why is your forehand not as strong? Why are you not putting enough top spin on it? And you're you know, that's what that's what's going on. Big feascuttle, it's kfias guttal, right? Now, here are the four words, friends. So whether we're learning from business, whether we're learning from sports, the evaluation is a is an intensive valuation, right? Why? Because it's a from thing to do, right? I'm an Orthodox Jew, I gotta be an Orthodox, right? Shomer Shabbis, Kovei Tumutara, Megalobanum Tara, and I do a cashman hush. No, you know, it's not because it's a from thing to do. Ki rav ha tolado. Very important because it pays off. That's a rabba toladah that what comes out of Tolada, like Toldon generations. Toldah means the the products of it. The products of it are very great. Obviously, you have to care about Rukhniya, so you don't get Ruchnias, so who cares, right? But but in the religious context, in that it's rabatoladah, it has a tremendous, tremendous effect. It's gonna get you somewhere. Doing Keshman and Efish is gonna get you somewhere. And I want to add one final point about this. I think that's just clear, right? Because when I'm start speaking in a way I want to speak and stop speaking in the way I don't want to speak, and realize the reason I'm not having as many friends as I would like to have is because of the the vibe I'm giving off, or the I'm walking around in a pompous way, and people don't don't don't like me because of that, or I'm socially uh inept and not being careful in a hundred other things. So and so it's Ravatalada. And I think just to add one practical point from my side is you have to take joy in that. When a person will do a Keshman Navish and improve something and watch himself and herself and say that, you know, I don't want to do this anymore. It's like, why am I doing that? Like, no, done. I'm not doing that anymore. You should take tremendous joy in that because a big ye so Yeshlamanda Rodza, when you have, you want more. So when you take the joy and you see, right, Keshmanavish is a lot of reason, there's a reason we're talking about it, and the reason we're we don't engage with it the way we do. I certainly don't do it as much as I'd like to. So we have to work against that. How are we gonna get ourselves to do it uh more? The more joy we take in it, the more we'll want to do it. And the way for us to get joy in it is by seeing Rabatullahu, seeing the effects. I'm not doing it because Ms. Rom told me to do it. The Ms. Rom told me to do it because it makes a big difference. And when I feel my life, the difference it makes, I'm gonna engage in a much more Basratashim.