Asking Questions & Leveraging Neurodivergence in Readings

This episode tackles two common misconceptions about creating a clear psychic channel: asking questions for structure & thinking your neurodivergence limits you.

Asking questions to create a clear connection is often looked at as a way to provide structure in your readings, but it's actually doing quite the opposite.

And in the reverse, you might think your neurodivergence is inhibiting your ability to connect and receive messages clearly, when it's actually the very thing that might make it EASIER for you to channel than you thought!

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How asking questions causes your connection to drop
• The real way structure is created in a reading
• What to do instead of asking questions to create a clear channel
• Why neurodivergence is actually a superpower when it comes to your connection
• How ADHD and autism help you tap into the message in ways others struggle with

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Welcome to the School for Psychics podcast. I'm your host and founder, psychic medium, Crystal Moreland. Psychic work has carried stigma for long enough to in large part to people operating out of integrity and utilizing unsafe practices. More than that, so many that are operating from integrity are walking around only half confident in their gifts, which ultimately does a disservice to your clients, yourself, and the collective. I'm here to change that. Throughout this podcast, you'll hear inspiring stories from other spiritual entrepreneurs And I'll share some of the wisdom I've gained throughout years of teaching psychic development in practical, simple ways that uphold the highest standards of integrity across the industry. If you're ready to become the confident, clear channel you came here to be and help change the psychic industry for the better, I invite you to visit my website at theschoolforspsychics.com where you'll find courses, programs, and mentorship opportunities that serve anyone, whether you're a beginner or advanced or anywhere in between. Welcome back to the podcast. Before we dive into today's episode, I wanna take a moment to shout out Bunny. Bunny is inside the Contra Psychic Certification Program and I am just blown away by Bunny, by all of the students. But today I wanna take a moment to give this shout out because I think it's something that we all end up experiencing and feeling frustrated by and Bunny has cracked the code. So when Bunny came into the Conscious Psychic Certification Program, she was really desiring to create a clearer connection for herself so that she could channel messages easily, clearly, confidently, accurately for herself and feel really guided and led in life by her connection. And what she found was that very quickly into the program, she was delivering full on psychic readings for other people so easily. like a pro and she has just been on fire with that. But when it came to her own ability to receive messages for herself, she was feeling a little bit frustrated that it wasn't happening as easily as receiving for others and I think this is something that so many of us can relate to. I know I certainly have been there before. So Bunny says, celebration time. I had been getting super frustrated with channeling messages for myself in comparison to how easy it is to channel for others and yesterday I had a breakthrough. I did my ROA, higher self activation and five minutes of stillness in the shower and then immediately felt called to open my voice memo app and do a reading for myself. Y'all, I gave myself a 25 minute reading that was so clear, effortless and helpful. New ritual unlocked, yes. Bunny. Oh, I love this so freaking much. The thing is, is that when we start realizing how easy it is to tap in and receive information clearly, easily, and accurately for other people, we put a lot of pressure and a lot of expectations and we create a lot of needing to get it right for ourselves. And so we create these invisible boundaries that get in the way of a clear message. And Bunny took what she has been taught inside the Conscious Psychic Certification Program, applied it to herself, and gave a 25 minute reading. Oh, this is amazing. Amazing, amazing, amazing. We love, love, love having celebrations like this inside the program. So proud of you, Bunny. So excited for this. And I love seeing how you're experiencing your connection in a new way. Today, I'm gonna talk about a topic that has been kind of like front of mind here recently. And that is, we're actually gonna talk, we're gonna cover two things. We're gonna cover ADHD and neurodivergency in relation to your connection. And we're also gonna cover structure in readings. asking questions, receiving information, et cetera, because these are two places where I see a lot of limiting beliefs and a lot of practices that actually hinder your connection versus helping it. So we're gonna talk about it. I wanna dive first into the structure part of it, the asking questions. Now, I am not here to knock any, way of teaching or school of thought. I understand the mechanics behind it and the reasoning behind it. And I know that most development programs out there will teach you whether it's mediumship, psychic work, energy work, uh animal communication, it doesn't matter what it is, they will teach you in development to ask questions to open the flow of communication, to open the energy, to keep the energy in flow. And I get that from a teaching side because that gives you something to hold on to, something to drive your energy towards, something to focus on, something to keep you from. Being too much in your head around worrying about getting it right and if you're connected and if the information is gonna come through, it gives you something to of divert your attention on. And it also is alluded to bring structure to your readings. And while I can acknowledge and respect that way of teaching and the reasons behind it, I'm also going to stand very strongly in the fact that it is hindering you more than it is helping you. And here's why. When you are asking questions in a reading, you yourself, for someone else, so let's say you are connecting to receive messages for someone else, when you come in with these questions in mind so that you can feel confident that you're connected, so that you can feel confident that you are... bringing information through and it's not your brain coming up with the information, et cetera. What you are doing is you are creating a very controlled environment for the information that comes through. You are saying as a human, this is what is allowable, essentially, this is what I will trust, versus just being willing to be an open line of communication for the information that is meant to come through. And this can create a lot of harm in the spiritual space because it can prevent someone from actually receiving the information that they are meant to receive in that moment. It can prevent you from even knowing or being aware that that information is coming through because you're so focused on the questions on quote getting it right that you're missing the message that's showing up. Or you can. It's not that you're missing it every time, but it can create the perfect environment for you to miss that message that's trying to come through. The other thing that this does is it constantly pulls you in and out of your connection. And one of the biggest frustrations that people have when it comes to utilizing their connection to connect for messages and information, whether for themselves or other people, is that they constantly feel like their connection drops and like they're having to to go find it again, and they're having to really work to bring more information through. But when you're going off of a list of questions, whether it's a physical list or it's a list in your mind, these checkpoints are constantly bringing you out of your connection into your brain. So you're going connection, brain, connection, brain, connection, brain. When really all that should ever occur is you being in your connection, the entire time from start to finish. So while questions allude to the fact that they provide structure, they don't actually provide structure because what it's doing is it's chopping up the information that's actually ready and meant to come through. Let me give you an example. We see this a lot in mediumship, okay, but this can apply anywhere where we have a series of questions that we can ask the person that's coming through from the other side to identify who they are and to know that this is the person that we're connected to. This is the person, this is the evidence that I can bring through to let the person that's actually here for the messages to know that this is who I'm connected to. You spend so much time going through the list of questions so that you can feel confident in who you're connected to. that you're missing out on perhaps the one and only piece of information that that person on the other side was trying to bring through for your sitter to go, they're totally connected to that person. You're trying to get names or age when they passed or how they passed or memories from when they were alive for your sitter. You're trying to get all of this information these checklist things. meanwhile, that soul on the other side had one thing that they could tell you that would immediately let the person know that, you're totally connected to that loved one of mine. It's not your job to go, what's the one thing that will help me connect or help me show that I'm connected? It's your job to just show up and go, let me be a clear channel for the messages that will come through that will serve the best and highest good. And when you're in that energy and you're not constantly trying to check off a list so that you can provide your, all that is, is providing you confidence and it's false confidence. I can't tell you how many times I've seen the more information that you try to bring through because of your checklist of questions, the more your sitter is like, oh wait, maybe you're not actually, I don't know. Was it like that? Was it like, so it creates a perfect storm for your lack of confidence to build even further for the messages that are meant to come through to not arrive or be in your awareness. And let's be honest, there's no real structure that's felt when you're constantly trying to hop back and forth between your connection and your brain. You're gonna feel it. It's gonna feel choppy to you. Your sitter's gonna feel it. It's gonna feel choppy to them. Questions do not help. They hinder. Same for animal communication, medical mediumship, psychic work. And if you're asking questions and being dependent upon your sitter, your client, to ask questions so that you can kind of keep the energy going, it's the same difference. You are just here to be the clear channel. You do not need questions because the messages that are meant to come through will always come through 100 % of the time. But your lack of confidence in that is what's actually keeping you from being able to receive that information. and to understand it clearly as to whether or not this is coming from your brain or this is coming through your connection. And that is one of the big things that we work on inside the Conscious Psychic Certification Program. Because you've got to be able to know the difference. And you've got to be able to be in that energy of not having the quote unquote structure or the things that you're going to provide the structure because then the structure naturally forms. Naturally. When we are trying to control a subject, a project, a specific outcome, it ends up being clunky and messy and kind of all over the place. Versus when we allow it to unfold as it's meant to, it feels very natural. It feels very effortless in a lot of ways. It organically occurs and It all turns out so much better than when we try to manhandle things. Questions, are you manhandling? Being that clear open channel, allowing the information to just come through, and you knowing the difference between your brain and your connection, tapping into those things and just bringing those things through without that need to have that checklist, without the need to jump between your brain and your connection, that is when structure automatically forms. And it becomes the most exquisite, mosaic, far beyond anything you could ever imagine. I'm getting this analogy of like, you ask questions, it's like taking a raw crystal and turning it into a very simple, like a smooth stone. There's control there. There's purpose, uh like intentional manmade purpose. um There's attachment to what it looks like, know, like how smooth, how shiny, et cetera. Versus when crystals form naturally in the earth. They are so incredible and how they grow and the shapes that they take form in. This is when you really, really get the magic and the impact and oh just like the grandeur and purpose that comes from that. And that's the difference. There's a complete allowance of whatever's meant to be to unfold versus I need this to look a certain way so that I feel comfortable and it's not about you. It's not about you and that's not actually gonna make you confident. You think it's gonna bring you confidence. It's actually only going to make you even more stressed out, in doubt, insecure, unsure, et cetera. So that's my piece on questions. and structure. Now let's talk about ADHD and neurodivergency when it comes to your connection. I am so incredibly blessed. I was like, should I use that word? Yeah, we're using it, because that's how I feel. That's exact summation of how I feel. To have wonderful neurodivergent people inside the program. And I say this because every single one of them has come to me and said, I am neurodivergent and I'm worried that I won't be able to do this program or be successful in it or et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. And I have lovingly informed them that their neurodivergency is actually not in fact a disability when it comes to your connection. It is a superpower and I am loving that they are seeing it. So I actually had this question on, it was so fun. I had this question come in on TikTok at the same time that I was responding in an Instagram message to a student around their ADHD and bringing messages through. And basically what it was, was this idea that they felt like Okay, bringing information through, sure, I won't ask questions, I won't feel like I need to create that structure, but how do I make my connection work with my ADHD? How do I support my ADHD if I'm not trying to create this structure by this very specific list of this is what I do, and this is what I do, and this is what I do? And here's what I said. your ADHD is actually allowing you to tap into the messages more easily than someone who doesn't have it. And this is true for all forms of neurodivergency, by the way, not just ADHD. I have had the distinct pleasure of working with many neurodivergent clients over the years, and what I have found rings true across the board. Autism, ADHD, It's like all the different ways that you are looking at your quote unquote disability. And I say that because I want to empower you to know that it is a superpower. And I know that that might sound flippant and I don't mean it that way. So please know that that is not my intention. But it really truly is an incredible gift. Even if it hasn't felt like it in your life thus far, I promise you it will feel like a gift when it comes to your connection. You just haven't been shown how much of a gift it actually is. But it amplifies your ability to pick up on the information coming through. The biggest issue that gets in your way is that right now you don't necessarily recognize when something is coming from your brain versus your connection. So you're thinking that, I'm distracted or things are all over the place or my mind's doing this and my mind's doing this and my connection's doing this. But what's actually happening is there are things that are coming in and you're not recognizing them as part of the message. Someone without neurodivergency, they look at things in a very linear fashion when it comes to their connection. Like this is coming in, here's the information around that, I can hone in on this message. Someone with neurodivergency has this is coming in. This is the message, oh, and there's this and there's this and there's this and there's this. And it's all part of the message and you're getting it and they're not. It's so much easier for you to bring that through because the other people without neurodivergency, they are automatically filtering things out because they're not used to things coming in in different ways all at once. feeling sort of random or all over the place, really it all is purposeful. So if you are someone with neurodivergency and you feel like that is actually impeding your ability to connect and receive messages, whether for yourself or for others, I want to tell you here and now, you can let that go. Because that is so untrue. and your ability to bring information through will come faster and easier once you learn how to identify the difference between your brain and the things that your brain is sending out in signals and thoughts and all of the things versus your connection. You start learning that difference and you will be able to bring through the most incredible messages and information for yourself and other people without having the same restriction around your mind that non-neurodivergence have. It is a gift. It's one to be embraced, one to be loved, one to be celebrated. And if that is the environment that you want to be in, I welcome you with open arms inside the Conscious Psychic Certification Program because we are changing the way that the world views any form of this work. And it is one of my big, big, bold claims and desires to prove to anyone and everyone that no matter what things look like on paper for you, you can connect and receive easily, confidently, and accurately anytime, anywhere, for anyone, no matter what. If you're interested in joining the program, can do so by clicking the link in the show notes below. Have a wonderful rest of your week and I will see you back here next week. That's a wrap on this week's episode. We'll see you back here next week. In the meantime, for all things psychic development, head to our website at theschoolforpsychics.com and check out our opportunities. You can find the link in the show notes below.