The Resilience Project
Illuminating the unseen impacts of adoption — for all who’ve been touched by it.
The Resilience Project Podcast brings voice, visibility, and validation to the parts of adoption society rarely names - but all of us feel. Through a trauma-informed somatic lens, host Julie Brumley explores the lived experiences of the entire adoption constellation, with a tender emphasis on the adoptee experience.
This podcast goes beyond storytelling into soul-telling. It offers embodied insight, compassionate education, and a path toward awareness, strength, and hope. Each episode invites listeners to understand adoption more deeply - not just with the mind, but with the nervous system - and to reconnect with the truth, identity, and belonging that were always yours to come home to.
The Resilience Project
When Rejection Becomes a Story We Live By (And How We Heal It)
Summary
In this conversation, Julie Brumley explores the core issues faced by adoptees, particularly focusing on rejection and its profound impact on identity and emotional health. She discusses the emotional imprints of rejection, the concept of rejection sensitivity, and provides practical exercises for processing and reframing limiting beliefs. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and emotional regulation in overcoming the challenges associated with adoption.
Takeaways
- Adoptees wrestle with core issues like identity, loss, rejection, shame, guilt, and grief.
- Rejection is a powerful experience that occurs pre-verbally for adoptees.
- Emotional imprints of rejection shape how adoptees anticipate and guard against it.
- Fear of rejection can lead to self-sabotage and misreading situations.
- Identifying and reframing limiting beliefs is crucial for healing.
- Sensitivity in adoptees may be linked to rejection sensitivity dysphoria and ADHD.
- Emotional regulation is essential for dealing with rejection.
- Practical exercises can help process negative messages from childhood.
- Transforming limiting beliefs into positive affirmations is a key step in healing.
- Support and resources are available for those navigating these challenges.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Core Issues in Adoption
02:43 Understanding Rejection in Adoption
06:02 Rejection Sensitivity and Emotional Dysregulation
09:55 Identifying and Reframing Limiting Beliefs
15:15 Practical Exercise for Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
22:17 Conclusion and Resources for Support
Keywords
adoption, rejection, emotional health, limiting beliefs, identity, adoptees, self-acceptance, emotional regulation, trauma, personal growth
Shame and Guilt episode link - https://www.buzzsprout.com/2549404/episodes/18222388
Processing Emotions Exercise -https://www.cominghometoself.co/offers/btaYBmJo/checkout
PDF of Slides from Video - https://drive.google.com/file/d/15eR4Pv-pElupM9chwgU8ezSrNXH-G1SS/view?usp=sharing
Perspective Shift Exercise -https://www.cominghometoself.co/offers/DA8Me58N/checkout
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