The Resilience Project

Un-M-Othered: A Revolution in Adoptee Healing

Julie Brumley

Summary 

In this episode of the Resilience Project podcast, host Julie Brumley welcomes Dr. Liz DeBetta, an adoptee and creator of the award-winning performance 'Un-M-Othered.' The conversation centers around the upcoming retreat, 'Un-M-Othered: A Revolution in Adoptee Healing,' designed specifically for adoptees. Julie and Liz discuss the importance of community in healing, emphasizing that true healing goes beyond traditional talk therapy and requires a deeper, embodied approach. They highlight how the retreat will provide a safe space for adoptees to explore their stories, reclaim their voices, and connect with others who share similar experiences of adoption trauma. 

Dr. Liz shares her personal journey of using writing and performance as tools for healing, explaining how 'Un-M-Othered' emerged from her own experiences and research into adoption trauma. The retreat aims to create a transformative experience that integrates somatic practices with narrative healing, allowing participants to feel seen, heard, and understood. Both Julie and Liz express their excitement about the retreat and the potential for profound healing and connection among adoptees, encouraging listeners to join them in this unique opportunity. 

Keywords 

adoptee healing, Unmothered, Dr. Liz DeBetta, narrative therapy, somatic healing, community support, adoption trauma, resilience project, embodied healing, retreat 

Takeaways 

  • Healing doesn't just live in the places that didn't have language yet. 
  • Adoptee healing requires community and immersive experiences. 
  • The retreat is about returning to what's already within you. 

Sound bites 

"This isn't just surface level healing." 

"It's the first time that I feel seen, heard and understood." 

"Feel the fear and do it anyway." 

Chapters 

00:00 Introduction to the Resilience Project Podcast 

03:13 Meet Dr. Liz DeBetta: The Creator of Unmothered 

05:01 Introducing Unmothered: A Revolution in Adoptive Healing 

06:36 The Importance of Community in Healing 

07:29 The Birth of Unmothered: A Personal Journey 

10:36 The Power of Shared Experiences 

14:33 The Need for Embodied Healing 

18:27 Listening to Our Bodies: A Path to Healing 

22:22 Creating a Healing Arc for Adoptees 

26:22 Integrating Story and Body for Wholeness 

29:45 Why This Healing Approach is Needed Now 

33:18 Purpose and Timing in Healing 

34:22 Collaboration and Community 

36:09 The Social Change Ecosystem 

37:59 Navigating Personal Trauma 

39:52 Creating Safe Spaces for Healing 

43:47 The Importance of Community in Healing 

45:52 Who the Retreat is For 

49:16 Addressing Fears and Resistance 

53:32 Final Thoughts on Healing and Community

Learn more and register for the retreat here - 

https://www.lizdebetta.com/un-m-othered-adoptee-healing-retreat

Connect with Dr. Liz here - https://www.lizdebetta.com

Purchase Dr. Liz's book here - https://www.amazon.com/-/he/Liz-DeBetta/dp/9004681698

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