The Resilience Project
Illuminating the unseen impacts of adoption — for all who’ve been touched by it.
The Resilience Project Podcast brings voice, visibility, and validation to the parts of adoption society rarely names - but all of us feel. Through a trauma-informed somatic lens, host Julie Brumley explores the lived experiences of the entire adoption constellation, with a tender emphasis on the adoptee experience.
This podcast goes beyond storytelling into soul-telling. It offers embodied insight, compassionate education, and a path toward awareness, strength, and hope. Each episode invites listeners to understand adoption more deeply - not just with the mind, but with the nervous system - and to reconnect with the truth, identity, and belonging that were always yours to come home to.
The Resilience Project
You Are Not a Burden: The Hidden Identity Belief Many Adoptees Carry
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In this heartfelt episode, Julie Brumley shares her personal journey from feeling like a burden to embracing her healing. She discusses the transformative power of community, understanding body sensations, and shifting perspectives to foster belonging and self-compassion.
Key Topics:
- The origin of the phrase "I am a burden" and its emotional impact
- How sensations in the body reveal subconscious beliefs
- Announcing a free online event for adoptees exploring identity on March 3rd
- The difference between knowing concepts and integrating them into healing
- The importance of community in the healing process
- Challenging the victim mindset and reframing trauma as happening for us
- The role of shame, attachment, nervous system work, and spiritual practices in healing
- Belonging versus independence as the opposite of burden
- Invitation to join a live event in Moscow, Idaho, in May with Dr. Liz DeBetta
- Encouragement for adoptees to find hope, healing, and community
Timestamps:
00:00 - Introduction: The journey from feeling like a burden to healing
00:30 - The moment of vulnerability sharing the phrase "I am a burden"
01:08 - How bodily sensations like stomach tightening and shoulder dropping signify shame
02:12 - Announcing a free online gathering for adoptees on March 3rd
03:00 - The value of community in healing and shared experience
03:46 - Misconceptions about needing to be fixed and dismantling the burden belief
04:21 - The emotional impact of systemic wounds and self-worth issues
05:03 - Reframing trauma as happening for us rather than against us
06:01 - The costs of staying stuck in the burden belief within relationships and self-investment
07:04 - Personal story of investing in somatic coaching and overcoming fear
08:04 - The importance of body language and somatic awareness over solely intellectual understanding
09:12 - Differentiating knowledge from integration in healing processes
10:02 - The comprehensive blueprint of healing including mindset, emotion, attachment, and spiritual work
11:00 - The role of community in dismantling limiting beliefs and fostering belonging
11:39 - Opposite of burden is belonging, not independence
12:18 - Recognizing the edge of expansion when resistance arises
12:42 - Invitation details for the March 3rd event and encouragement to reach out
13:14 - Announcing the in-person event in Moscow, Idaho, in May
14:18 - Closing thoughts on hope, healing, and community support
Resources & Links:
- You Are Not a Burden - Live Online Event
- Dr. Liz DiBetta Episode
- Moscow, Idaho Retreat - Event Details
Feel free to DM Julie with questions or feedback. Remember, healing is a journey, and community makes all the difference.
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