Episode 12 | Bonnie Cox

Today we have on Tyler's wife, Bonnie Cox. We talk about Duke basketball, Bonnie's time as a nurse, and her excitement for house church

Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:00

Welcome back to the Tyler Reagan Exchange. Today I'm gonna have on a very, very, very, very, very, very, very special guest. Her name is Bonnie Cox. That's right. My wife. Um and it was very fun. It was interesting because I know everything about her. So asking questions and having a conversation with her was interesting. But we talked about youth basketball, the love of her life, um, a little bit about our coming together, about house church that we're doing together, and other couple cool things.

unknown 0:29

So hope you enjoy. Uh thanks for being here.

SPEAKER_02 0:38

Is that a red light or a green light? Isn't it supposed to be green?

SPEAKER_01 0:44

No, now it's it's like never in the history of recording has anything been a green light, meaning recording.

SPEAKER_02 0:53

Call Joey.

SPEAKER_01 0:55

Joey's probably passed out.

SPEAKER_03 0:57

Yeah, because I texted him.

unknown 0:59

Like, I got it.

SPEAKER_02 1:01

Nothing. Dude, I wish I was Joey right now.

SPEAKER_03 1:04

He was like giving me like, what time are you gonna be here?

unknown 1:06

Like around from wind to win. So I was like, he might be willing to have scheduling it.

SPEAKER_01 1:11

He probably is. Remember when he thought he was gonna be able to come over here the next day? He kept being like, just come get me and I'll I'll be fine. Like, we'll hang out and watch basketball. I was like, bro, you are not gonna want to leave your bed. Like, you are not gonna want to leave your bed. And he did not believe me. No. Now he's right in that.

SPEAKER_02 1:27

I literally texted him today, I was like, Do you wanna like how do you feel? And he's like, as much as I would like to come over, um, I feel like my face is about to explode. It's like, yeah. All of them.

SPEAKER_01 1:38

I think he had five.

SPEAKER_02 1:39

Oh, he did have five.

SPEAKER_01 1:41

Yeah. His family has like extra.

SPEAKER_02 1:43

They're super wise.

SPEAKER_01 1:45

They're super wise.

unknown 1:47

I only have one.

SPEAKER_02 1:48

Is that normal?

SPEAKER_01 1:50

I think it's different for everybody. I have four. I feel like that's pretty normal.

unknown 1:54

I feel like four.

SPEAKER_02 1:55

You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01 1:55

Somebody was just here the other day and said they had three. Yeah, you got yours taken out.

SPEAKER_02 1:59

I'm gonna say I got mine removed. And I was wide awake.

SPEAKER_01 2:02

Who was it that was just here that only had three?

SPEAKER_02 2:04

Uh, Andrew.

SPEAKER_01 2:06

Was it Andrew?

SPEAKER_00 2:11

Hopefully.

SPEAKER_02 2:12

Which means all of that that we just said, Joey has the potential to use. And based on last week, from what I realized, based on watching the YouTube video, you can't trust Joey with anything.

SPEAKER_01 2:21

Yeah, that was pretty good.

SPEAKER_02 2:22

Because he didn't show up last week. Also not here for this recording, and then goes to edit and tries to diss me. But whatever. So that's my call out to Joey. And he's probably gonna do something with this too. Anyways, how do you feel about Duke?

SPEAKER_01 2:40

Duke? Yeah. Best team in the country.

SPEAKER_02 2:42

Do you really feel like that? Absolutely. After your first two games, you feel like that?

SPEAKER_01 2:46

After the first two games, we were a little bit shaky. We didn't have a game. Do you feel like that about the first game? No. But we were not playing our best in the first game. We were rattled. Okay. Half our teams never played in the tournament before. They don't know.

SPEAKER_02 2:58

That's always how it is with it, though.

SPEAKER_01 3:00

That's not true. Not always. In the last couple of years. In the last couple of years, yeah. But and that's uh exactly. That's kind of how Duke rolls in the tournament. They're they're a little iffy off the jump, but they'll get it together.

SPEAKER_02 3:11

I don't disagree. I'm not a hater. I'm not a Duke.

SPEAKER_01 3:15

We won by like 15 last night. So true.

SPEAKER_02 3:17

Don't turn it on when you had to. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 3:20

It was only close for a few. Well, it was close for the first half, but we locked it in at the end.

SPEAKER_02 3:26

Caleb's over there, just like I don't think he has as much confidence as you do.

SPEAKER_01 3:31

He's not a real Duke fan.

SPEAKER_02 3:32

That's one thing. You can't say that to him when he doesn't have a microphone. That's not fair.

unknown 3:38

Okay, I'll yell at him.

SPEAKER_01 3:41

No! Dude can be the worst team in the country, and I'd still say that they're gonna win the tournament. Because I'm a real Duke fan.

SPEAKER_02 3:49

That when we started dating was polar opposite about us. Yeah, because you're I go into every Tennessee game expecting defeat.

SPEAKER_01 3:57

Expecting loss. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 3:58

And then pleasantly surprised if we win. And you expect victories. That's because it's a lot harder to be a Tennessee fan.

SPEAKER_01 4:05

It's a lot harder to be a Tennessee fan than it is to be a Duke fan, though, because yeah, you guys are historically just not great.

unknown 4:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 4:11

When's the last time y'all won a national championship?

SPEAKER_01 4:14

2015. When's the last time you guys won one?

SPEAKER_02 4:18

How was that a diss? What the heck?

SPEAKER_01 4:20

I'm just I was just asking. Sorry.

SPEAKER_02 4:21

No, you're trying to diss me. I knew this was a bad idea. Get together and roast each other for the next 30 minutes.

SPEAKER_01 4:30

Um I do want to set the record straight. I am also a Tennessee fan. I did marry into that. Um I didn't say you were. That cult of fandom, which I love. I love it. It's a lot of fun.

SPEAKER_02 4:41

I don't feel like we get accused of being a cult, though. You say that just now, but never before have I heard being called a cult.

SPEAKER_01 4:50

Nah. Not like Penn State.

SPEAKER_02 4:52

A M.

SPEAKER_01 4:53

Not like AM.

SPEAKER_02 4:54

Penn State. Clemson. Clemson is a cult.

SPEAKER_01 4:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 4:57

Clemson's a big time cult. Yeah. I don't think they get enough recognition for being a cult.

SPEAKER_01 5:03

I don't think they get enough hate.

SPEAKER_02 5:05

Uh they definitely don't get enough hate. Because they take a lot of ills.

SPEAKER_01 5:09

The inferior orange.

SPEAKER_02 5:10

The inferior orange. There's so many inferior orange oranges. Miami's orange to the biggest.

SPEAKER_01 5:14

Also the inferior death valley.

SPEAKER_02 5:16

That is very true. You're just out here swinging. I am sorry.

SPEAKER_00 5:19

I'm just out here roasting people. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_02 5:22

Swung at me. Now you're swinging at the entire population of Clemson and Clemson grads. Um how's work?

SPEAKER_01 5:33

Work's great. I love what do you do? I'm an ER nurse.

SPEAKER_02 5:37

What do you do?

SPEAKER_01 5:38

I save lives. It's a beautiful day. It's a beautiful day to save lives. Oh, did you hear that? My neck actually popped.

SPEAKER_02 5:46

That's same.

SPEAKER_01 5:48

It doesn't normally do that. But yeah, I love it. I love the excitement, the adrenaline.

SPEAKER_02 5:55

Of saving lives?

SPEAKER_01 5:56

Of saving lives. Holding people's lives in my hand.

SPEAKER_02 6:00

Bro, everybody holds people's lives. Every time you get in a car, you hold people's lives in your hands.

SPEAKER_01 6:04

No, that's not true.

SPEAKER_02 6:06

That is 100% is true. I think you're the best nurse I know.

SPEAKER_01 6:11

Thank you. How many nurses do you know? Actually, that's a lot.

SPEAKER_02 6:16

You count if you want me to. I know a good amount. Through you, obviously. Right. But um, still a lot of nurses. I want to back up track though. Backup track. I think you do hold people's life in your hands every time you get in behind a steering wheel in a car.

SPEAKER_01 6:32

Yeah, the people in your car.

SPEAKER_02 6:33

And the people on the other side of the road.

SPEAKER_01 6:36

I feel like their lives are more in their hands than yours.

SPEAKER_02 6:39

Psych. I guarantee I can surprise somebody.

SPEAKER_01 6:41

Everybody is responsible for their own life in their own vehicle. And in doing that, if you're taking care of your own life, then you're looking out for the lives of those around you.

SPEAKER_02 6:51

So you just proved my point. Thank you. Um, moving on. She proved my point, did she not, Caleb?

unknown 6:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 6:57

No, Caleb looked just as confused as I did when I looked over there.

unknown 7:01

I wasn't really bringing with Tyler.

SPEAKER_00 7:02

Whatever, whatever.

SPEAKER_02 7:03

It's okay. Some people just can think better.

SPEAKER_01 7:07

Um I get paid to critically think. Hey, that's like 90% of what they teach you in nursing school. They don't really teach you anything else, actually.

SPEAKER_02 7:17

I get paid to actually they don't teach you anything.

SPEAKER_01 7:19

I learned that on the stuff.

SPEAKER_02 7:20

That's not true. Nursing school doesn't teach you anything?

SPEAKER_01 7:23

Nursing school doesn't teach you anything.

SPEAKER_02 7:24

Then why was it why'd you make it out to be so hard?

SPEAKER_01 7:27

Well, it was really hard, first of all.

SPEAKER_02 7:30

I don't disagree with that.

SPEAKER_01 7:32

It was absolute torture. But I didn't learn anything applicable to what I do. Oh, so that's just other than just like disease. No. Other than just like disease processes and stuff like that. I didn't learn anything like super applicable to my life in the emergency department.

SPEAKER_02 7:49

So okay, so you could have learned, like if you were in like a different nursing field, there could be stuff that's not.

SPEAKER_01 7:57

Not necessarily, honestly, because I was a med surge nurse too. It's just nothing ever happens like it does in a textbook.

SPEAKER_02 8:03

Valid.

SPEAKER_01 8:04

So you can't take a textbook and apply it to a person necessarily because like everybody presents differently with stuff, and the only way you can learn that is on the job.

SPEAKER_02 8:15

That's fair.

SPEAKER_01 8:16

And that's 90% of what you're doing.

SPEAKER_02 8:17

So is there any career field that a degree is actually helpful?

SPEAKER_01 8:23

Medical school.

SPEAKER_02 8:24

So being a doctor.

unknown 8:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 8:26

So then the the textbook?

SPEAKER_01 8:28

Not even not even medical school. I feel like residency, because they're on the job learning. That's what residency is.

SPEAKER_02 8:34

So textbooks are just useless. Yeah. We should get rid of all of them.

SPEAKER_01 8:37

Yeah, school is useless.

SPEAKER_02 8:39

That's where I was getting to. Glad we got there that fast. Um, you know what me and Caleb were just talking about?

unknown 8:45

What?

SPEAKER_02 8:45

No, I can't talk about it. Because we and you were gonna talk about it. Yeah. Yeah, we're gonna save that. Are you looking forward to uh the new Spider-Man? Because Spider-Man's your favorite character.

SPEAKER_01 8:58

I'm so excited for the new Spider-Man.

SPEAKER_02 9:00

You think that Andrew Garfield is the best Spider-Man and you thought that before me and Adam.

SPEAKER_01 9:05

I would just like to set the record straight. I just thought there was some misinformation on the Adam McCabe podcast.

SPEAKER_02 9:11

Um I was like, I don't remember what we said.

SPEAKER_01 9:17

Yeah, you said that so Adam made my exact point that Andrew Garfield is the best Spider-Man, Toby McGuire was the best Peter Parker, and Tom Holland is the best, like all around Nerdy kid, nerdy kid Spider-Man.

SPEAKER_02 9:30

Yes, and I agreed with him.

SPEAKER_01 9:31

And you agreed with him, and both of you said that I disagreed with that, and that actually I came up with that point and gave it to Adam years ago. Years ago, and he adopted it as his own.

SPEAKER_02 9:43

And have y'all talked about that?

SPEAKER_01 9:46

About what?

SPEAKER_02 9:47

The fact that he adopted it.

SPEAKER_01 9:48

I mean, probably years ago when he adopted it. But we never talked about it since then.

SPEAKER_02 9:52

Okay, so you could be calling him out for something right now.

SPEAKER_01 9:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 9:56

I'm just gonna make sure he listens to this. He should listen to something. I already called him out for it. One of my favorite things in the world is watching you and Adam R you.

SPEAKER_01 10:03

Nobody wins.

SPEAKER_02 10:04

Nobody wins. It's just me sitting there just like, these are two of my favorite people in the world, just yelling stuff that doesn't make sense.

SPEAKER_01 10:11

Yeah, nobody nobody wins when Adam and I.

SPEAKER_02 10:13

Um, so you've seen the trailer?

SPEAKER_01 10:15

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 10:16

Have you done any research?

SPEAKER_01 10:17

No. I've done like I've had like the conspiracies come through my like TikTok and Instagram for you page, like him being in the cocoon and stuff like that. He's morphing into Man Spider instead of Spider-Man, which is like the dark, scary Spider-Man. His his um mutation is taking over him. And yeah, I've seen that because you know there's that clip where he's got like the black eyes, and there's that clip where he's in the cocoon. And uh, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 10:52

Do you think it's gonna happen?

SPEAKER_01 10:54

I don't know that they're gonna take it that far.

SPEAKER_02 10:56

He's depressed.

SPEAKER_01 10:57

He is, because nobody remembers him. I would be depressed if nobody remembered me.

unknown 11:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 11:02

True.

SPEAKER_01 11:03

So valid. He can be depressed about that.

SPEAKER_02 11:08

His uh his Zendaya being flirted with. Yeah. That'd be a wild feeling.

SPEAKER_01 11:13

Wasn't she dating his like high school bully?

SPEAKER_02 11:18

No. No, I don't think it was him. You're talking about uh uh what's his name? The guy. Yeah, Flash. Is it Flash? What is it?

SPEAKER_01 11:30

It's not Flash. Is it Dash? What's his name?

SPEAKER_02 11:32

It's something that was his bully.

SPEAKER_01 11:37

The bully.

SPEAKER_02 11:39

And that's what I said.

SPEAKER_01 11:42

Oh, who was she dating? I thought that wait. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_02 11:58

You can't hear it. Bleep. I just whispered it. That's the whole point of the whisper.

SPEAKER_01 12:04

Yeah. I should have held the mic up.

SPEAKER_02 12:06

You tried. And I heard it.

SPEAKER_01 12:08

I don't I can't remember who he was who she was flirting with then if it wasn't Dash, but Flash. Flash, Dash, what was his name? Flash is from the incredible system. I know. Well, Flash is a different superhero, so is it Flash?

SPEAKER_02 12:21

In a completely different thing. I think it's Dash.

unknown 12:24

The guy with the phone like always recorded.

SPEAKER_01 12:26

Yeah, yeah. It's Flash. It's Dash.

SPEAKER_02 12:28

It's look it up. Get on your phone. Look it up. I'm so right, and you're so wrong, and I'm so thankful that we get to be on camera when.

SPEAKER_01 12:37

I might be wrong because I couldn't remember his name for the longest, but I really want to say that it's Dash.

SPEAKER_02 12:42

I really hope I'm not wrong.

SPEAKER_01 12:45

I really think I really think you're wrong. Yeah, what's it? Yes. No, I think you're lying. What's his name? He just looked it up. Show me. Ah. Is his real name Flash Thompson? Like that's the actor's name?

unknown 13:03

No, that's the guy.

SPEAKER_02 13:05

I'm listening.

SPEAKER_01 13:06

Oh, oh, oh, okay. Shut up.

SPEAKER_02 13:11

I'm waiting.

SPEAKER_01 13:12

You were right.

SPEAKER_02 13:13

Yeah, I was.

SPEAKER_01 13:15

I can say it. I've been wrong once, I can be wrong again.

SPEAKER_02 13:18

That's crazy. Um who do you think is gonna win March Madness?

SPEAKER_01 13:22

Duke.

SPEAKER_02 13:23

Do you really feel like that?

SPEAKER_01 13:24

I really feel like that.

SPEAKER_02 13:25

Who do you think will be your biggest struggle?

SPEAKER_01 13:29

Like on the team? I think our biggest struggle is not having Caleb Foster. I don't think that it's anybody that's oh, like do you think who what team do you think is gonna be our biggest struggle?

SPEAKER_02 13:39

I was like, where is this going? I have no idea.

SPEAKER_01 13:48

Where's my where's my bracket?

SPEAKER_02 13:50

Impress me. You don't know your road?

SPEAKER_01 13:53

No, I don't remember I don't remember who else I picked in that bracket.

SPEAKER_02 13:59

Um okay, let's move on.

SPEAKER_01 14:04

Um Did you even prepare questions for me?

SPEAKER_02 14:07

Yeah, I didn't. Um this this is how every single podcast goes.

SPEAKER_01 14:10

Okay. I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_02 14:11

I'm just I've never prepared any questions at all. I just want to be friends. Do you want to be friends?

SPEAKER_01 14:17

Yeah, you should probably prepare questions.

SPEAKER_02 14:19

Oh, you're gonna tell me how to do the podcast now? Please tell me how to do the podcast.

SPEAKER_01 14:23

If you're gonna have a podcast, you should probably prepare questions. Okay, like so that like if there's dead space, you can just pop out another question. Sometimes you can't think well on your feet.

SPEAKER_02 14:32

How first off, take that back right now. Well, like take it back. Take it back.

SPEAKER_01 14:39

Am I wrong?

SPEAKER_02 14:39

It was one time. One time I fell apart. Every other time I've been locked.

SPEAKER_01 14:46

I mean, yeah, all the other podcasts have been good, but I thought you were preparing questions.

SPEAKER_02 14:51

I'm not. Which should impress you if you think that all the other ones are good. I suppose. What questions would you suggest that I prepare for this podcast?

SPEAKER_01 15:02

I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 15:02

I'm not the Are you so glad to have married me?

SPEAKER_01 15:05

This isn't the Bonnie Clare Exchange.

SPEAKER_02 15:07

Are you so glad to have married me?

SPEAKER_01 15:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 15:11

See? That's a question that I could have prepared, and you answered with yes.

SPEAKER_01 15:15

Indeed. I love being married to you.

SPEAKER_02 15:19

That sounded so fake.

SPEAKER_01 15:22

The question felt fake, so whatever.

SPEAKER_02 15:27

Um did you think that when we started dating that we would be where we're at today? Actually, where where do you think we would be? Like when we first started dating, where did you think we would be? What is what be married six years and six days?

SPEAKER_01 15:46

When we started dating, I don't know that I I mean I knew that we were gonna get married as soon as we started dating. Before we started dating, I knew we were gonna get married. Just is what it is. Um you were that guy in high school that like I told my other boyfriends not to worry, worry about. Y'all know that guy. They should have worried. They should worry. You should worry. If your girl has a guy and she tells you not to worry, you should worry.

SPEAKER_02 16:24

For those of you that can't see, Caleb's currently over in the corner dying. Because he struggles to drink water.

SPEAKER_01 16:32

Yeah, it's hard sometimes.

SPEAKER_02 16:39

Alright, so you always knew you'd marry me. Yeah, I didn't. I was I was the guy that she told you not to worry about. Why?

SPEAKER_01 16:48

What do you mean, why? Like, why what? Why not worry about you? Or why did I know we were gonna get married?

unknown 16:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 16:56

Why are we gonna be married?

SPEAKER_01 16:59

I don't know. Like, that was just the first thing that I thought when I saw you for the very first time. That sounds super corny and cheesy, but it's true. That was the very first thing that I thought was like, huh, I might marry that man. And I'd never spoken to you before. And then you stared at me at a pizza hut and then I freaked stared at you really hard across the table at a pizza hut.

SPEAKER_02 17:19

It's creepy. Not really, I stared back.

SPEAKER_01 17:22

I thought we didn't for 40 and a half years after that.

SPEAKER_02 17:26

Forty and a half?

SPEAKER_01 17:27

Four and a half.

SPEAKER_02 17:28

Four and a half, yeah. And you dated so many people.

SPEAKER_01 17:32

I dated so many people. I dated so many people. Let's open that can of worms. No, let's not open that. Please, let's open that can of worms. You did. I can count on one hand the amount of people I dated.

SPEAKER_02 17:45

Me too.

SPEAKER_01 17:48

Whose hand? Not one with five fingers.

SPEAKER_02 17:55

I thought we were using both hands, my bad.

SPEAKER_01 17:59

Even if we did.

SPEAKER_02 18:00

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 18:01

You're not you don't have enough room.

SPEAKER_02 18:04

Um so no, when I say when we started dating, where would you have imagined us be at right now? Like, obviously married, but like I'm 29, you're 25. So at the age of 29 and 25, where would you have thought we would have been? As opposed to where we're at now.

SPEAKER_01 18:28

Um, I I mean, I don't really know. I knew I would be a nurse. Yes. I knew you'd be in ministry. Yes. Maybe a couple of kids, maybe no kids. I really didn't think a lot, other than I can't wait to get married to him. So the marriage So like it's really exactly as I pictured it. I am a nurse, you are in ministry, we are in ministry. We do have a kid.

SPEAKER_02 18:56

So did make one of those.

SPEAKER_01 18:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 19:07

Katie did not like that first one at all.

SPEAKER_03 19:09

No, it was bad.

SPEAKER_02 19:11

Um, so when it comes to ministry, obviously we're both stepping into a new season of life with that. Um what are you looking forward to most about stepping into the home church calling that we have?

SPEAKER_01 19:31

Honestly, like just hosting people in our house all the time.

SPEAKER_02 19:34

Like, I which I think we should talk about how much of a miracle that is.

SPEAKER_01 19:38

A miracle, what is?

SPEAKER_02 19:39

That you you're looking forward to hosting people.

SPEAKER_01 19:42

Yeah. I used to hate people.

SPEAKER_02 19:45

It just blunt. Like, and honestly, sometimes I can attest quite literally, just like did not want people around me.

SPEAKER_01 19:51

Yeah, I just didn't want to be around people. I was very much a homebody, very much a hermit. Um, just wanted to stay at the house and play video games and watch TV and be mad at the world.

SPEAKER_02 20:03

Valid. When did that when do you feel like that fully shifted to being like I love having everyone over all the time?

SPEAKER_01 20:10

I don't think it was a full shift. It was a very slow change, I think. Like it was a very slow progression into where I am now where like I love having people around. Like I love hosting people, I love having people in sleep in the guest room and like make up the bed and make it look cute and like lay out a towel for them so they can shower and make sure that there's shampoo and stuff in the in the guest bathroom, and I love cooking for people and I just really love it. Like, but like it was definitely a slow burn to get there because it didn't just happen, like I didn't just wake up one day and be like, I want to have everybody in my house. Yeah, it was just like a slow transition. I think it honestly came from having really good friends. Um, I think that most of my life I didn't have great friends, and so it was never really like a desire to have them around very often. Um, I had one group when I was in high school, it was my youth group that I was really close with, and I loved having them around. And then when we left that church, it was just hard to keep up with everybody, and I keep up with some of them still, but we're not super close. But those were really the only people that I wanted to have around, and so once they were not close by anymore, it was easy to just be like, ah, I don't really like anybody else. Um, but then as you get older and you get like learn what really good friends are, it's like you just want them around all the time. And then me and Charlotte, my best friend Charlotte, we were talking the other day about how why why do people not just like move into the same neighborhood with their friends? Like as adults, as adult, I'm gonna talk to the camera. As adults, we literally have free will. So, like, why why do you not get all your friends? And move into the same neighborhood. Why not? Like, you literally have free will. You can make your own decisions. And you can move to a neighborhood, and you can be like, hey, you guys should buy this house that's in this neighborhood. And then we can be neighbors. And they have the free will to be like, you know what? That would be sick. And they can do it. So now I'm trying to recruit all my friends to move into the neighborhood we're moving into. And um, they all have free will, so they should definitely do it.

SPEAKER_02 22:32

It's a great idea.

SPEAKER_01 22:34

But yeah, I just I think it definitely just comes from having the right people around you. And because if you have the right people around you, then you do want them around, and then you want to host them and be right.

SPEAKER_02 22:45

So what's the difference between so like with us we were wanting to start a house church ministry? That doesn't always mean having your friends over. So what do you think the biblical difference is between like fellowship and hanging out with your friends and being hospitable and um having strangers in your home?

SPEAKER_01 23:03

Well, that's the calling from the very beginning of scripture is to be hospitable. I mean, you see uh Abraham with the three visitors, and they immediately are just like, let me cook for you, let me do this for you, let me do this for you, and they what?

SPEAKER_02 23:19

Not yes, but he was fresh off of circumcision and sprinted after them when they showed up. That was his initial response. I just want to clarify that. Okay. Well that in his discomfort, he still made sure to chase after the visitors.

SPEAKER_01 23:35

The um the whole point is hospitality, and like God calls us to be hospitable from the very beginning, and he calls us to welcome people in, uh foreigner and everyone that the marginalized, the the needy, the poor, the widow, the orphan, um, those on the outskirts of society, like we're called to be the hands and feet of Jesus to those people. And like that's another thing that like I love, and I don't know when this shifted or what caused this shift, but to be hospitable to those people and to be able to be that person for them when no one else is willing to be. Um I mean, that's what God calls us to. And so it's a really good feeling to know that like that was part of the original story. That was part of the original, you know, what what God desired from us from the very beginning was to be hospitable. That's what Jesus desired of his disciples was to be hospitable. And to make people know that they're loved and that they're welcome and that they're home where you are. And so that's just the goal is to make like I want my home to be everyone's home. I want it to be a place where everyone comes in and they know immediately that they're welcome, they're safe, they're loved, there's food in the cabinet, there's drinks in the fridge, and they can just be here and be loved.

SPEAKER_02 25:06

That's good, that was beautiful. I was getting hype just sitting there listening. Um I was just picturing it all. That's crazy. I just when as you were talking, I just like zoned out and started getting excited about it.

SPEAKER_00 25:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 25:21

And an another thing that and you may or may not think this is biblical, but it's what you're placing on our life is every single couch in our house now also has to be a pull-out bed.

SPEAKER_01 25:31

It's like yes, I am placing that in our life. Every single piece of furniture that we own has to be able to be slept on.

SPEAKER_02 25:37

I literally I wanted to. There's a specific type of couch that I want to get for our new living room to go with this one. And I'm like, I want it to be like this. And she was like, Does it pull out? Can it be a bed? I was like, bro. No, it wasn't. Sorry.

SPEAKER_01 25:52

It wasn't. And if it's not, get it out.

SPEAKER_02 25:55

Whatever.

SPEAKER_01 25:56

It's because I get it. I know literally when it's when Snowmageddon happened a couple weeks ago or a month ago.

SPEAKER_02 26:03

Go listen to the Mason Road podcast if you want to know about Snow Mageddon, because we recorded that during Snow Megan.

SPEAKER_01 26:08

Yeah, that was during Snowmageddon. But we had people on air mattresses, and there were like 12 people sleeping in this house, and three people slept on this couch that we're sitting on right now. Three people slept on this couch. There was a lot of footsie being three people slept on air mattresses, and it was insane. So if I can prevent that from happening again. Yeah, you were in the bed.

SPEAKER_03 26:27

In my bed.

SPEAKER_02 26:29

It's great.

SPEAKER_01 26:30

It's great. I didn't even notice that there were people on the floor.

SPEAKER_02 26:33

No, this is wild. I was chilling, dude. Comfortable. Yeah. Saying on.

SPEAKER_01 26:39

But I want, I mean, our new house has four bedrooms. So I want obviously our bed will be in our room, but we'll have a guest bed. The uh Bryson will have his room. The office.

SPEAKER_02 26:53

I think I'll have I don't I think I'm just gonna go ahead and start in the garage.

SPEAKER_01 26:57

Okay. Well, the second, the fourth bedroom will have a day bed that turns into a king-sized bed. So it'll look like a couch, but then it'll turn into a king-sized bed. And then we'll have this couch in the living room, and then I want a pull-out couch in the living room as well. So that we can sleep. Two, four, six, eight, up to like eleven or twelve people without an air mattress.

SPEAKER_02 27:24

And then we start adding the air mattresses.

SPEAKER_01 27:26

And then we can start adding the air mattresses.

SPEAKER_02 27:27

Yeah, I think that I'm just gonna go straight to building the man cave in the garage.

SPEAKER_01 27:31

That's fine.

SPEAKER_02 27:31

Because it's climate controlled, so is it? I think so, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 27:36

I don't think it is.

SPEAKER_02 27:37

I can make it climate controlled. Why are you such a hater?

SPEAKER_01 27:42

I'm not a hater.

SPEAKER_02 27:44

I think you're a hater.

SPEAKER_01 27:45

You know how to do that.

SPEAKER_02 27:46

I know how to pay people to do it.

SPEAKER_01 27:48

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_02 27:50

How's life as a mom?

SPEAKER_01 27:52

As a mom? It's great. I love being a mom. Bryson is like the coolest kid in the whole world, so that helps tremendously. True. I feel like some people are stuck with some not cool kids.

SPEAKER_02 28:04

Well, you married a cool guy, so that helps with the production of a cool kid. I mean, think of his personality. Who would it resemble more than anyone in the world?

SPEAKER_01 28:15

Yeah, he's a punk, that's for sure.

SPEAKER_02 28:17

Alright. He did not agree with that statement.

SPEAKER_01 28:21

Bryson is a punk.

SPEAKER_02 28:22

Bryson is not a punk. He's the sweetest of hearts. He's just misunderstood.

SPEAKER_01 28:27

You call him a punk more than anyone I know. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:31

He does make faces sometimes where I'm like, that's the exact face I would have made.

SPEAKER_01 28:35

Yep. But his side eye.

SPEAKER_02 28:38

That's you.

SPEAKER_01 28:39

He gets that from me. Straight up.

SPEAKER_02 28:41

It's so evil.

SPEAKER_01 28:43

It's so funny.

SPEAKER_02 28:45

Rank your top three Disney movies of all time.

SPEAKER_01 28:50

Wow, what a turn. All time?

SPEAKER_02 28:55

I'll do top five. Top five.

SPEAKER_01 28:57

Top five. The Lion King.

SPEAKER_02 28:58

One? You got it.

SPEAKER_01 29:00

It has to be in order? Yes. Wait, okay, can I just name five and then I'll put them in order?

SPEAKER_02 29:03

Yeah, that's one.

SPEAKER_01 29:04

Okay, The Lion King, Aladdin.

SPEAKER_02 29:06

That's one. That's one one.

SPEAKER_01 29:08

Um right?

SPEAKER_02 29:11

I'm required. It has to be animated too, by the way. Hercules.

SPEAKER_01 29:14

Hercules, Hercules. Caleb's disappointment. No, Hercules is good.

SPEAKER_02 29:18

Don't argue with Caleb. Sorry. He's not in this podcast.

SPEAKER_01 29:20

Sorry, his face. Hercules is good.

SPEAKER_02 29:22

It's like you're checking for approval too much.

SPEAKER_01 29:25

Lying, Aladdin, Hercules. It has to be animated.

SPEAKER_02 29:29

Yes. Did you have a choice that wasn't animated?

SPEAKER_01 29:34

No. Cars. Is that Disney?

SPEAKER_02 29:38

Pixar. Pixar. You have to get off.

SPEAKER_01 29:42

Okay. I really like The Princess and the Frog.

SPEAKER_02 29:56

You just really upset Caleb.

SPEAKER_01 29:58

What? I'm like your. I really like The Princess and the Frog. It's really hard without like a list of Disney movies in front of me.

SPEAKER_02 30:05

Okay, so you would have rather do done three?

SPEAKER_01 30:08

No.

unknown 30:09

You can't even.

SPEAKER_01 30:10

Cars is definitely a Disney movie. No, it's not.

SPEAKER_02 30:12

It's Pixar.

SPEAKER_01 30:13

Disney owns Pixar.

SPEAKER_02 30:14

It was made as a Pixar movie, not as a Disney movie. Disney put no funding into that.

SPEAKER_01 30:18

I think you're wrong about that.

SPEAKER_02 30:20

Look it up.

SPEAKER_01 30:21

What year did Disney buy Pixar?

SPEAKER_02 30:26

Dude, if I go two for two in this podcast, dude, I'm gonna lose my mind.

SPEAKER_01 30:40

I can't even think of any other movies. Oh, Cars came out in 2011. So, anyways.

SPEAKER_02 30:55

Look up how much of Cars was funded by Disney.

SPEAKER_01 30:59

That's irrelevant.

SPEAKER_02 31:01

No, my point was that that was a strictly Pixar movie.

SPEAKER_01 31:05

You're not talking into the microphone.

SPEAKER_02 31:06

I know, Vowski. Uh I don't even know.

SPEAKER_01 31:12

He just wants to be right and he's not, he's not right. I guess.

SPEAKER_02 31:33

Funded by who Disney.

SPEAKER_01 31:36

Chump change.

SPEAKER_02 31:36

Alright, I lose.$120 million. I'm wrong.

SPEAKER_01 31:39

Funded by Disney to produce cars.

SPEAKER_02 31:41

I'm wrong, you're right.

SPEAKER_01 31:42

Okay, thank you. So we're tied. Lion King, Aladdin, Hercules, cars.

SPEAKER_02 31:49

Still need a fifth. I feel like I'm forgetting something like really upsetting Caleb. You can't give her any hints. I can't believe Moana's not on the list. I'm a big Moana guy.

SPEAKER_01 32:07

Um, Toy Story was Pixar, because Toy Story came out in the 90s. So I won't say that one. Did you say Moana? No, Moana is not in the top five. I think he's in my top five. Um, maybe tangled.

SPEAKER_02 32:29

Okay, so now you rank your top five.

SPEAKER_01 32:31

Oh, put him in order. Aladdin, Lion King. Cars, Hercules. What was uh what was the last one I said?

SPEAKER_02 32:45

Tangled.

SPEAKER_01 32:46

Tangled.

SPEAKER_02 32:48

That's such a mid list, I'm not gonna lie.

SPEAKER_01 32:50

Give me yours.

SPEAKER_02 32:51

Me. So my first list from the all-time Disney movies of all time.

SPEAKER_01 33:00

You can't even think of five.

SPEAKER_02 33:01

No, I can't think of five. I'm trying to figure out where I want to start for my top five.

SPEAKER_01 33:06

Just name five and then put them in order.

SPEAKER_02 33:08

Okay. It's Disney movies.

SPEAKER_01 33:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 33:11

Okay. Um I'm gonna go Peter Pan. Great pig. Great pig.

SPEAKER_01 33:21

No, that is that is not a good pick.

SPEAKER_02 33:24

Peter Pan is great. Peter Pan pan. Have you seen the movie Pan?

SPEAKER_01 33:28

Don't argue with Caleb. Peter Pan.

SPEAKER_02 33:30

Have you seen the movie Pan?

SPEAKER_01 33:31

Yeah, that's not the same as Peter Pan Pan.

SPEAKER_02 33:33

It's the same concept.

SPEAKER_01 33:34

No, it's not. Pan is really good.

SPEAKER_02 33:36

Pan is one of the greatest movies of all time.

SPEAKER_01 33:39

You're just trying to get Caleb on your side. I know that's Caleb's favorite movie. Peter Pan.

SPEAKER_02 33:46

I'm joking.

SPEAKER_01 33:47

Sucks. Pan is good.

SPEAKER_02 33:52

It's not that bad of a movie.

SPEAKER_01 33:54

Caleb's on my team.

SPEAKER_02 33:56

Caleb's not on your team. He hated your list.

unknown 33:58

I'm not here.

SPEAKER_01 34:01

Caleb's a Duke fan.

SPEAKER_02 34:03

What does that have? I'm a Duke fan.

SPEAKER_01 34:04

Or tied by blood, by the brotherhood.

SPEAKER_02 34:06

I'm a Duke fan. You can marry into Tennessee fandom. I can't marry into Duke.

SPEAKER_01 34:13

Yes. Yes. Alright. I'll let you.

SPEAKER_02 34:20

What do you mean, let me? I pull. I fight Carolina fans more than I fight anybody else. It's the same thing.

SPEAKER_01 34:30

Yeah, it's kind of the same thing.

SPEAKER_02 34:31

And I also fight for Duke. I have no requirement to fight for Duke, and I do. Because I'm married into this.

unknown 34:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 34:38

And to all you Carolina fans out there, you're faking frauds. Amen.

unknown 34:45

Amen.

SPEAKER_02 34:46

Um, that's all I got.

SPEAKER_01 34:48

You didn't name your five movies.

SPEAKER_02 34:50

I couldn't think of any. I knew it. I knew you couldn't think of any of it. I can name five. I can name five. I don't think Moana. I like Moana a lot.

SPEAKER_01 35:00

Yeah, Milano is really good. It would probably be top ten for me.

SPEAKER_02 35:04

Um Big Hero 6.

SPEAKER_01 35:07

That's a good pull.

SPEAKER_02 35:08

That is a really good poll.

SPEAKER_01 35:11

No, it came out like it came in like 2015. It's like a newer movie.

SPEAKER_02 35:17

I have to pick five that aren't in your top five just to see how much I can.

SPEAKER_01 35:21

I already drafted my top five. So we should have done a draft.

SPEAKER_02 35:24

Yeah. Um Pigure out six is a really good pull. There's one I'm trying to think. Oh, Mulan.

SPEAKER_01 35:41

Mulan.

SPEAKER_02 35:42

Great pig.

SPEAKER_01 35:43

That is a really good pick. I love Mulan.

SPEAKER_02 35:45

Great pig.

SPEAKER_01 35:46

Um, Lee Shang, the male in that cartoon, was one of my childhood crutches. I was obsessed with that man.

SPEAKER_02 35:54

I'm glad you found a man that looks a lot like him.

SPEAKER_01 36:00

It was the man button. Why do you think I prefer your long hair?

SPEAKER_02 36:03

That's crazy. No, no, we're not doing that. Um, so that's three, right?

SPEAKER_01 36:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 36:09

Why do you count three like that?

SPEAKER_01 36:11

That's how you do it in sign language.

SPEAKER_02 36:14

Do you know sign language? One, two, three. Oh, so you do know sign language. You're over there, weirdo. Um I'm trying to pull like a really good one. Frozen?

SPEAKER_01 36:36

Mid pull.

SPEAKER_02 36:37

Great movie.

SPEAKER_01 36:38

Mid pull though.

SPEAKER_02 36:41

I have one more. I have had two really good pulls. All yours were basic, just like you. Um there's so much dead space here.

SPEAKER_01 36:59

There's a lot of dead space here, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 37:00

But I really don't know. I could remember one. Rio is the Disney movie.

SPEAKER_01 37:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 37:05

But the only reason I know that because Bryson's watched that 1700 times. But that's the only reason you know cars.

SPEAKER_01 37:11

No, it's not. What? Oh Tarzan.

SPEAKER_02 37:16

Home on the range. Great movie.

SPEAKER_01 37:18

That is a great movie.

SPEAKER_02 37:19

I just unlocked something. What is uh nah. Is Over the Hedge Disney? Over the Hedge is one of the greatest movies of all time. Actually, that's not true. Um Open Season is one of my top ten animated movies of all time.

SPEAKER_01 37:37

Yeah, same. That's up there for me.

SPEAKER_02 37:38

Open season's so good. Boog.

SPEAKER_01 37:42

Yeah, that's a that was that would if you're I don't know if any of those are Disney though. I don't think either of them are Disney. Gee, Dreamworks. Shrek. That's fine. Shrek would be up there for me in animated Disney. Dreamworks. But it's Dreamworks.

SPEAKER_02 37:53

I've never seen Shrek all the way through. I know. I've never seen any of these things.

SPEAKER_01 37:56

And I've tried to get you watching it all the way through when you kept falling asleep.

SPEAKER_02 37:59

Yeah. I'm not opposed to it though. I just can't make it through.

SPEAKER_01 38:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 38:06

Well, I love you. I love you. Thanks for coming on the podcast.

SPEAKER_00 38:09

Thanks for having me on the podcast.