Lets stir the pot , BUT in a good way

Heyyyy boo 💁🏾‍♀️, tonight I switched it up just a little I decided to do almost like  “brain teaser” questions , but let me know whay yall think of this segment I actually like it definitely had me thinking 🤔 

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Hey boo, and welcome back to Siddy episode nine. I know last week I did not record a video, but you know, I was in a move. I was in the funk. Didn't want to put any type of energy out, feeling a type of way. So I was just like, you know what? Let me get myself together. I'm back. I feel better. I feel good, you know, got my thoughts together, you know, did some clean, clean house a little bit. You know, I had a clean house physically, mentally, all of that. So I do feel much better. What I do want to talk about is something a little different. It's like a kind of like not being messy, but just, you know, let's stare at a pot a little bit, but in a good way. In a good way. Because I always I always like to look at shit kind of on a deeper level. I always tell my mama I really should have gone to school for like psychology or something. Because I want to know deeper, especially the way people think. Like the way people think, how their mind is. That's that shit is so interesting to me. So yeah, tonight is kind of like a some questions that I'm that I have like genuinely, and then some that are like, hmm. I don't know. It gets you to thinking. I feel like this is more of a stimulating type of episode. Let me know if y'all like this. Because I don't know, I feel like it's interesting. You know, I'm trying trying something new, I'm trying different avenues. Like, shit, I don't know until I try. I'm just I'm putting my feet in, getting my big toes wet, and all of that. So again, let's stare at the pot, but in a good way. Nothing too crazy, nothing too off-putting, but you never know with me either. But no, the three, the three topics, not even topics, but the three things I kind of want to speak on. They're not, they're nothing, you know. This is like a pilot. I just want to see. The first thing I have is like I feel like this this statement can go, like this type of question can go either way. Because some people may feel one way, other people may feel a different way. How I feel, the question is is being low maintenance just a code for self-neglect? Is being low maintenance just a code for self-neglect? Let me see. Let me say it one more time. Is being low maintenance just a code for self-neglect? I wouldn't say, I wouldn't say self-neglect. To be honest, I feel like self-care can look different for everybody. Like low maintenance to some people can be something very chill. You know, I feel like everybody has different definitions of low maintenance. Just because somebody doesn't deck themselves all out or go all out in a certain type of outfit or whatever, I don't necessarily feel like that's low maintenance. You know what I'm saying? I feel like people, when people take time and effort to put themselves together, whether it's quote unquote low maintenance, high maintenance, you know, I feel like when you put in time and effort, I don't necessarily feel like it's low maintenance or self-neglect. So like people at work, they will always tell me, like, oh girl, I don't know how you have time. It's okay. You don't have to know. You don't have to know. You know what I'm saying? If if you feel like not putting yourself together is too much, you know, it may be some self-neglect. Because I don't know about nobody else, but I care about how I when I put clothes on, when I smell good, when I feel good, when I look good, it makes a difference. Whether that's low maintenance, whether I got on some sweatpants or not, baby. If I got on sweatpants, I'm gonna still look cute. Like that could be considered low maintenance, but I'm still gonna look cute. I'm not, I don't not just gonna look like anything because I represent myself. Like, I'm not just gonna be representing myself looking like anything else. So to me, it's I feel like it depends on how you view low maintenance. So for me, it's like again, you can have on sweatpants and it's not self-neglect, it's not necessarily self-neglect. Hell, you can have on crocs, not even crocs, because shit, I like crocs. You can have on I don't know. I'm not sure. I feel like to be honest, true, I gotta get a little deeper in it. It really depends on your mental. Like it really, really depends on your mental. Like, if you are just putting on like big ass clothes, maybe got some holes in it, pants, and you when you're not putting in effort, okay, then some self-neglect may be going on. You may be having some issues mentally where you don't give a damn how you look, you're going through something. That okay, that would be low maintenance because you're not putting in no effort in it. But that's that's how I'm doing it. What y'all, what are y'all thoughts on that? Like, is being low maintenance just code for self-neglect? I really feel like depends depends on how you look at it and depends on the state of mind of the person. That's that's that. The second one is are we really independent or just used to being unsupported? Are we really independent or just used to being unsupported? I feel like everybody should have a community. Like one thing about me, especially living out here in Dallas and living in the bubble fucks of Dallas, um, community is important. Community is definitely important. When you have when you have a support system, it feels good. You know, people may have a different view about that, but I feel like having support goes a long way. You build community, you know, it feels good to be supporting one another because not only are they supporting you, you support them. Like that shit, it helps the momentum. It keeps it keeps good vibes up, good juju, good everything. Like when you are around like-minded people, people, you know, who you want to see win, you win, everybody winning at the table, everybody up, everybody celebrating. Like, it feels good. So I don't necessarily have this issue with being too independent and not having people support me because I'll I'll say I definitely have a support system that I am appreciative of. I appreciate the hell out of my support system. So it's like for those who really, you know, they do certain accomplishments, but you know, they might not really tell nobody because again, maybe they grew up not having support. So they tend to be very independent where they're just doing all these things, having all these accomplishments, and they're used to not, they're used to somebody not supporting them. You know, say that sucks. Cause listen, if you my friend, you got shit going on, like I'm gonna support. That's just how it is. Like, I'm support whether it's like, you know, resharing, buying something, even even if you can't financially spend something, just actually being there, you know, different there's different ways to support, to support your people and things like that. But I don't know. Being being very independent, or are you just used to being unsupported? I feel like it can go either way. It can go either way. Some people may, I don't, but I don't know. Do everybody care about a support system? Like, do some people, I feel like too, this could kind of be like, do you like being celebrated? Because I like being celebrated. I like celebrating and I like being celebrated. Some people may not want all that attention, some people may not want all the dramatics and things like that. And I feel like that's cool too. So I don't know. This question can kind of go both ways. Like, are you really independent or just used to being a supporter? But also, too, it's just kind of like not me questioning my own question, okay. But no, some people, some people may not like all the bells and whistles. They want to get they want to do their accomplishments quietly, and shit, ain't nothing wrong with that. Everybody ain't dramatic. Me, I'm dramatic. Shit, celebrate, bitch. Put this shit in lights. What about what a fucking bright lights at? What a blowhorns at? We shutting streets down. What a coin, what what a shit at? What the stuff at? Because I'm ready to celebrate. So I don't know. I would again, I feel like it's more of a mental, it could be a mental thing, it could be how you grew up, or it could just simply be you don't like all that attention. Shit, you may be neurodivergent. I understand. Sometimes it could be a little overstimulating, but it just really depends. It just really depends how it goes. That's all. So I was when I got home today, I was eating and I was watching for the love of Ray J. I can't believe for one, the when they started coming out with all these shows, okay, it was like boom, whatever. Y'all need ratings. But Ray J was never it to me. Like, Ray J was never it. He was never it. And it's like for them, and I knew it wasn't serious, but looking at it with an adult set of eyes now, like literally looking at the damn show. It's no way them girls could have even taken that man seriously. I'm like, bro, it's no fucking way. Like, Ray J won't. I don't know. He's just he gave he gave irritating. Like he just irritating as fuck. Like for Moesha, just irritating. I feel like his character on Moesha is him in real life too. Just all over the fucking place, causing havoc. Just a misunderstood team, but also very hard-headed. It's like you can't be both. Like, what the fuck is your problem? I don't know. But anyway, let me get let me get back on track. So the last question, the last type of not even a question, the last what is a question? The last topic I have. Now, this one I can definitely relate to, like a hundred percent. I can relate to. Does healing make you lonelier before it makes you better? For me personally, for me personally, it definitely made me lonely at first. But I feel like you have to because in the midst of you being lonely, that's where accountability comes in. You know what I'm saying? You really gotta like sit with yourself, be with yourself, deal with yourself, deal with your own attitude. You know, you you gotta deal with a lot of shit. So I feel like being lonely is part of the process when you're going through your whole shift of just kind of renewing of yourself. Like you have to be lonely. And some point in time, everybody has to be lonely. And I being lonely was not something that was normal for me. Like being lonely was not normal at all for me. That shit was weird. I wasn't used to it, but now I have definitely adapted to it. I've got used to it, and I actually love it. Like, I don't mind, I really don't mind my alone time. Before I felt like I always had to be up under somebody, be around somebody, but no, it's just gotta go through, like kind of go through the cocoon stage, go through all of that. But I feel like personally, you do become lonelier before you become happier. And it's very true. I feel like once you really kind of see shit and you know, realize things from a different perspective and understand yourself a little bit more, it does make you happier because in a sense, you're shedding a lot of shit that you no longer need, like shedding an old life that you don't need, you know, letting stuff go, no longer holding on to things. You know, you you literally are becoming a different type of person, moving, moving different. And the thing is, it's it's not gonna all like happen at once or overnight. It's definitely you definitely learn every day. But for the most part, you gotta go through that stage of solitude before you can really start to like before you can really start to see the fruits of your labor. Because you gotta you gotta elevate, you gotta outgrow a lot of things, you gotta outgrow them clothes, you gotta outgrow that mindset, and that can become very lonely at times because it causes you to really not want to be around people, being that you can become so sensitive, especially if people ain't really understanding you. You know what I'm saying? Everybody's not gonna go through their quote unquote healing or evolvement at the same time. So it's definitely gonna be times where you will feel like you by yourself and don't nobody understand you at all. At fucking all. But it's like it definitely gets better. It gets better for sure. Like it definitely gets better, especially if if you have community. Again, I've I personally feel like community is extremely, extremely important, especially as you evolve as a person. Not saying everybody gotta agree with the same thing, but when you just have people who hold themselves accountable and you're around people who are, you know, constantly going and evolving, it definitely makes a difference. It makes a difference. I really advocate for just community, seriously. Well, people can just be themselves, but also, you know, everybody learning and teaching, everybody learning something, somebody can always be teaching something, you know, that makes sense that we can actually, you know, put to our lives and keep elevating. So I definitely agree with that. Does healing make you lonelier before it makes you happier? Yes. Absolutely, I absolutely agree. I absolutely agree. Out of all three of these, though, the first one being is being low maintenance, just cold for self-neglect. Are we really independent or just used to being unsupported? Or does healing make you lonelier before it makes you better? The one I can absolutely agree with, like present day, is definitely does healing make you lonelier before it makes you better? Because that's something I I'm like actively going through. And I feel like my second one is definitely the low maintenance one. Like it's being low maintenance just cold for self-neglect. Again, it really just depends on how you look. It's all about perspective. I feel like a lot of these um topics that a lot of these questions that I had tonight is definitely a perspective thing because it allows you to think. And I like to be stimulated and think. And I feel like all of these questions, you can look at them from different angles, except for the last one. That was kind of like, yeah, you really do gotta be in a solitude moment. But the first two, independent or supported and low maintenance code for self-neglect, you can actually look at those very differently. But y'all let me know how y'all like this segment. I don't know. This, I kind of I kind of like this my damn self because it allowed me to think. I'm sitting here thinking about the questions, which also, you know, again, this was uh less stir to pot, but in a good way. And I can have different questions, you know. But I I definitely like this. It's shorter, it's much shorter, but again, you know, I'm to the point. Very simple. Wanted to make sense, wanted to stick, want to keep interest without it being too lengthy and long and just kind of all over the place. So as always, as always, make sure you love yourself, trust yourself, honor yourself. Damn, what? Honor yourself, it's stand on business, really staying on business. You know, I'm those three things that I'm I'm truly doing. Gotta walk it, gotta talk it, gotta live it, you know, gotta do all the things with it, okay? But I love y'all again. Thank y'all for supporting me. Definitely appreciate y'all, and I will talk to y'all next week. Bye.