You Can't Have Your Cake and Eat it Too, or Can You ?

Heyyy Boo, how yall feel about being greedy ? me... idgaf lol ima have whatever I want and do what I wanna do and not feel bad about it ! What yall think ?    

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Hey boo, good morning, and welcome back. It is episode 13. Okay, it is Friday, May the 29th, and it's my mama's birthday. Happy birthday, my girl. I love you. So we're gonna celebrate today. I don't know where she wanna go. I just know she wanna be outside. So I'm like, okay, but that's what we're gonna be at, my girl. Had to take me a little vacate from work, celebrate with my mama. But I hope, hope y'all had a good week. You know, it was very short, so that's always that's always a plus. Like when we're not at work all week, we able to kind of debrief a little bit better. So love that, love that for us. I just I'm chilling, y'all. I'm flowing still, you know, ain't that much changing at all. But this morning, I kind of want to talk about the saying you can't have your cake and eat it too. And I know I'm jumping straight into it because it's it's like okay, let's let's get it, let's go. So I had to look it up. Of course, it's an idiom because I I'm I wanted to understand like what exactly does that mean? Because to me, before I get into it, to me, it never made sense. Like, you can't have your cake and eat it too, but I'm just like, well, I don't it didn't it didn't make sense because I'm like, when I have cake, when you have cake, you eat it, you know what I'm saying? So I had to kind of look a little deeper just to get a better understanding. So it means you cannot enjoy two incompatible things at the same time. It describes a situation where you want to keep a valuable possession and still get the enjoyment or benefits of consuming it, which is logically impossible. As once the cake is eaten, it's gone. Which, okay, I get that. Like, you can't basically, I mean, but some some people will savor, maybe savor the cake, but once it's gone, I mean it's gone. I guess I get it, but you gotta kind of go into it knowing that. Like, once you eat it, if if you don't if you don't get more than one, you know what I'm saying, it's it's gonna be gone. But the actual meaning, the saying highlights mutually exclusive choices of consequences. If you choose to spend all your money, you can no longer have the savings. If you decide to eat your cake right now, you no longer possess a cake to look at or save for later. Here's my take on it. Okay, if you choose to spend all your money, you can no longer have the savings. I get that. I really get it. That's what I'm saying. You have to go into it though, kind of you gotta have discernment. You gotta have, you gotta have a good character of judgment and you know I'm saying, knowing how to move. You can't just go in like, oh yeah, I'm gonna put all my eggs in one basket. Like, hold on. It's other stores out here we can try, it's other avenues we can try before you just put all your money in one place and now all your money gone. So for me, I'm gonna go in with a plan. I don't know, that's just me. Hey, it might it's it's the Virgo in me, okay? I gotta I gotta have a plan. Shit gotta be planned out, first of all. First things first. I can't just jump right in. I gotta, I gotta peep the scenery, okay? And then the second part, if you decide to eat your cake now, you no longer possess a cake to look at or say for later. Here's another solution. The cake that I really like, okay. One of the cakes I love is yellow cake with chocolate icing. Love that cake. Grew up on it, love it, it will always be a staple. If they got, if they got, you know, they got them out of slice at the Kroger's, H E B, you know, they got them out of slice at the store. If I know I really like that cake, I'm gonna either one buy two of the slices, okay? Buy two slices, buy a yellow cake and you know, chocolate from buy it from the store, or I'm gonna make it myself. So I got some solutions. You know what I'm saying? You just you gotta kinda have a plan if you're gonna really have like have your cake and eat it too. Because I feel like that's what I fall under. Like I can have my cake and I can eat it too. I just gotta kinda we gotta tweak some stuff. That's it. You gotta, you gotta, you gotta have a plan. Like, you really gotta have a plan. And that's it brings me into one of my first bullet points. I love variety too much to just feel like I gotta stick to one thing. So basically, with we can use cake as an example. I like again, I I love the chocolate and yellow, but I also like red velvet. I also like red velvet. Mind you, this ain't about cake, but take the message how you're gonna take it. So I love chocolate and I love red velvet. I can have both. I can. Do I need both? Absolutely not. That's that's a lot going on, that's a lot of sugar. But at the same time, overall, I can have both. I can have whatever I want. We just have to, you gotta have a plan on how you're gonna move with it. You get what I'm saying? Y'all feel where I'm going. Hold on, hold on. You gotta have a plan. If you want multiple things, you want watches, shoes. Like, I'm I'm throwing out materials because a lot of people want that. A lot of people want peace, happiness, X, Y, and Z. So either side of the coin, people want what they want. Cool, but you you really do gotta kind of have a plan. Now it don't, you don't gotta box yourself in with one, always have the options. But when you going into a situation, you always gotta look at it like, okay, let me do this, let me do that. For instance, with the cake, the chocolate and the red velvet. Boom, I'm gonna get both. Okay, I get both. I get home. I'm like, damn, do I want to eat both of these tonight, or how should I work it out? So I'm gonna eat one for one in the beginning of the week and the other one at the end of the week. So I ain't eating them back to back like that. That's my that's that's a plan. Like, it's just you just gotta have a plan. And again, variety. You gotta have a variety of plans. You just do because I'm like choosing one thing, doing one thing. It's nah, nah, you you gotta experience you. I mean, I gotta experience shit. This I gotta experience. I can't, I don't want just one. I don't. I don't want just one. I want multiple things, okay? Which brings me to my next bullet. I've experienced just like with relationship-wise, I experienced being in one, and um I am a lover girl, you know. I I love seeing love, I love seeing people in love and things like that. But and I feel like I shared this before. That's just like that ain't for me. Like, again, I like more than one cake. You get what I'm saying? Like, I I like more than than just chocolate. I like more than just red velvet. You know, I might want to try rum raisin cake, you know, I might want to try a goddamn vanilla cake, I might want to try pumper nickel cake, you know, anything, but I like I like variety. I I love variety, so it's like, you know what? I can have my cake and eat it too because that's what I'm gonna do. Again, I'm gonna just go in with a plan. Like, I don't know. It's it's just something about being able to have options, being able to choose and not feeling bad about it. It's it's so much freedom in that shit, and I never realized it until I I until I was in the situation, like until I actually just set with myself. I never realized like damn, it is a lot of shit that I genuinely just do not want. It is it's it's a lot of stuff that I don't want. But I don't I don't hate it though. I don't hate it for other people. Like I said, I love love. I love, you know, people are happy, people are married, whatever, whatever it is that's making you happy, it's cool. But what I do also love is um a nice, genuine, intentional flow. A nice flow. I love that. But I just yeah, I'm uh I'm a buffet type of girl. Let me just say that. I like I like to choose different things. I might when I go to listen, we we at a buffet. Let's let's have a scenario. We at a buffet, baby. I want some from each each little buffet line. That's the that's that's what my mind is. Like, I'm just you know what, let me try this. Let me try that. Let me do this, let me do that. That's where I'm at. That's where I'm at. So again, can you have your cake and eat it too? Absolutely, yes. Absolutely, yes. Argue with your mama, like for real. Cause I said what I said. Like, I said what I said. You can absolutely I can have whatever I want. You can have whatever you want. You can have all the cakes if you want. Now, mind you, if you do that, you do have to understand consequences come with anything. Hold on, my dog didn't. You know what? My dog didn't shit it on my damn floor. I ain't tripping about it. I got hardwood floor, but y'all, that's what I get for doing stuff. Get listen, I didn't do no research before getting my dog. I'm not gonna lie. I I was oh yeah, I'm gonna get a dog. You know, I grew up with a dog, just doing stuff straight off the dome, ain't good. It ain't his fault, though. Lord, it ain't his fault. But I learned my lesson. Let me tell you something. I don't plan on getting another dog. I just don't plan on it. But when I say if it ever was a time where that would come again, soon it's wherever he comes from, we're going straight to training. As soon as he comes out the womb at this point, trainer come here. Season Malan, whoever come here. But anyway, back to the can I have my cake and eat it too? Yes. And damn, I'm losing my training thought. Okay, I'm back. Even with all that saying all that, I feel like at the end of the day, with me, when it comes to just a situation of choosing multiple things, I I used to feel bad for changing my mind. I'm not sure if I talked about this before on a previous episode. But I used to feel bad for changing my mind or just, you know, constantly wanting to do different things. But now I don't feel bad. I don't care because I'm just I can't be boxed in just doing one thing. I can't, like, I don't see myself just doing one thing for the rest of my life. Like, I don't see myself being with somebody, being with one person for the rest of my life. I like this is things for myself that I just don't see. And it's not even about like, oh, trying to see into the future. I don't even feel it. Like, some people have feelings to want to do things, and you know, I don't, I don't personally don't have those types of feelings. You know, I experience came along, but in the long run, I just feel like that's not something I would want to do. But again, I love that for people who do because it is it is other people who are who who are not like that. So I enjoy again the variety of different people just doing what they want to do and you know loving their life at the same time. And I feel like once I actually admitted that to myself, you know, I could I could breathe a little better because I'm like, damn, I really don't want with the the typical society. Like I don't want that. That's that's not what I want. I don't even I don't feel that. Like I'm just I'm here to experience people and have a good time. I really am. Like it's with with everything, learning detachment was so it was so hard for me, but now I understand like now I understand being detached, and I'm not saying like, oh I'll never let nobody get close or anything like that because I really am open to whatever, but at the same time, I know I just know where I want to how I want to take shit. And I just don't I don't see it, I don't see me being serious. I just feel like being serious, like I said before, that shit just it caused stress. Like if we ain't flowing, please get the fuck on. But yeah, I'm just I'm a variety type of girl. That's just what it is. I I want it all, I can have it all. Again, I'm gonna have a plan. Please understand, please believe I'm gonna have a plan. But I feel like wanting it all, having it all, you it it can happen, like people do it every day. Regardless, yes, it is a lot of shit that we see that's just like damn, it looks impossible, but also it is very possible to have what you want. It is very possible to have your cake and eat it too. It is very possible to do what you need to do to set your like you can literally have what you want. You it's about putting in the work, it's really about having a plan, putting it, you know, that's that's what it is. That's really what it is. Like if you even if you love just if you love literally just a chocolate cake, that's all you like, you don't want to try nothing else, cool. Um you know I'm saying that's that's your life, that's what you want to do. But me, I I can look at it as like if I want to try multiple cakes, people like, damn, that's greedy. Is it really greedy? Like, is it greedy that I want to try different types of things? Because hell, is it a crime to like multiple things at once? Is it? I don't think it's a crime, but hey, that's just me. That's really just me. That's how I feel. Like, again, these are my bullet points. It's not really a story, story just I don't I don't know. Honestly, at the end of the day, I changed my mind. When it's time, when it's time to roll from a situation, I just want to leave with ease. Like, I really just kind of want to leave out of a situation with ease without getting too detached to somebody because again, you know what? People fuck up. Sometimes cakes can be a little mushy. Sometimes, sometimes the texture can be off. You know, it I don't hate it, but maybe it just ain't for me. My one of my favorite cakes is Tress Leches. That's one of my fa listen, I can eat a whole sheet pan of that, but I still got love. I still got love for, you know, my my chocolate cake, my chocolate icing and yellow cake. I still got love for my red velvet cake. I still got love for the goddamn honey bun cake. I I got love for them all. Like, I love them all. Like hey Michelle said, y'all was singing that the other day. I was like, damn, is it this? I really felt that goddamn song. And it's just, it's just where I'm at, y'all. It's where I'm at. I ain't gonna ramble on too much because again, when I put out like little stuff like this, this is literally what I'm going through, like actively, actively going through the whole, can I have my cake and eat it too? You know what I'm saying? Like, basically, can I get what I want? Can I do what I want? Can I have what I want? Yes, you we can, you can, I can. Like anybody can have what they want. You really, you gotta put the work in. Like, I'm actually understanding that. I'm actually understanding you gotta put the work in to get what you want, you know, and that's it can come in any type of form, whether somebody comes into your life to help you, you get a job, you know, you come across something, come across a flyer, like anything, but work has to be done at the end of the day, so you can sit around and have your cake and eat it too. Because again, if you want to sit up here and eat 12 slices of cake and not work out and not be consistent and really like listen, it might start, it might start showing up in places, might start hitting that gut if you ain't doing nothing about it. So you gotta have a plan. If you wanna I if you wanna have anything you want in life, it does start with a plan. It's understandable, and I'm just I'm learning it, I'm actively learning it. So, with that being said, this is a very short pod today. I I could have gone a little longer, but it's all good though, because we're coming back next week with some more things to talk about anyway. So, as I always say, always, always put yourself first, love yourself, and just know you can have your cake and eat it too. You can, you just gotta have a plan, okay? Now, if you sit up there and eat all your cake and you went in, you just went in greedy as hell, ain't having no type of plan on how you gonna slice this, slice that, that's on you. But just know you can have it all, but you you gonna have to you have to tweak the plans, okay? You're gonna have to tweak the plans. But I love y'all and I appreciate y'all. Y'all have a safe weekend, wherever y'all do. Turn up, love yourself, love your neighbor, but love yourself even more. And I will talk to y'all later. Bye.